Episodes

What if somebody finally made the documentary that explains ethical non-monogamy the way it always should have been explained? No sensationalism. No clipboard outsiders. Just real people, real experts, and real community — with humor baked in. This week, Adam & Pris sit down with the three-person creative team behind More Than Monogamy: director Dylan Birdsall of All the Birds LLC, and Urvashi & Kama from Spark Erotic — award-winning erotic filmmakers with 25 films and 11 years in the game. In...

Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof. This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming. In this episode: Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it The communicatio...

Adam and Pris just got back from a week-long Florida trip — Disney World with the kids by day, and a night at the Florida Tree House lifestyle club that completely blew their minds. This episode covers all of it: the rides, the food, the play, a very forward woman who gave Adam the blueprint he never knew he needed, and a real conversation about feeling unsexy when life is piling up. Show Notes Disney World Recap Yes, World — not Disneyland (Adam got corrected fast). Six miles a day in brutal ...

Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones. On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running. In this episode: Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you) Full-body shots, filters, a...

An MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist sits down with Adam and Pris to talk about the one thing the lifestyle can't afford to ignore — comprehensive, convenient, stigma-free STI and hormone testing you can do from home... Episode Summary Adam and Pris open with a confession: testing is something their community talks about in theory but often dreads in practice. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and the anxiety of going in at all — the system has built m...

An MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist sits down with Adam and Pris to talk about the one thing the lifestyle can't afford to ignore — comprehensive, convenient, stigma-free STI and hormone testing you can do from home. Episode Summary Adam and Pris open with a confession: testing is something their community talks about in theory but often dreads in practice. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and the anxiety of going in at all — the system has built mor...

What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real. About This Episode A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was...

Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything. Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and...

QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It) Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it. In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on th...

Today we are going there. Full send. Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of pe...

We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic? In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel tak...

This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a ...

This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working, recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday, and trust us, you're going to want to hear it. But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hote...

What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint. Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing...

Everyone loves talking about the fun parts of the lifestyle — the dates, the connections, the experiences. But what about everything that has to happen BEFORE any of that? The messaging. The vetting. The scheduling. The follow-up. All of it takes time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. And in most couples? It doesn't fall equally. On today's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about how they divide the emotional labor of connecting with other couples — who does the messaging, who handles vetting (a...

About This Episode Y'all, this one is different. Adam and Pris sit down with the one and only Susan Bratton — intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, founder of Personal Life Media, sexual biohacker, and Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDX Health. She's been in the lifestyle for over two decades, she's married to her husband Tim of 34 years, she has a boyfriend of five years, and she can tell you from personal experience exactly what expanded orgasm feels like. She's not talking about case...

Someone slid into our inbox with a real one — they met a couple and their play partner, vibed with all three, and then realized they were really feeling the third. So what do you do? Is that person automatically off limits? Do you risk the friendship? Do you say nothing and just wonder forever? Adam and Pris break it all down in this week's QUICKIE — starting with the one thing that fixes almost every awkward lifestyle situation: just saying the thing out loud. In This Episode: Nobody owns any...

Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word. We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM. But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent t...

You already know Adam and Pris don't do small talk — so when the topic of red flags and green flags in the swinging lifestyle came up on their SDC live webinar, they knew they weren't done talking about it. So they brought it straight to Wednesday's QUICKIE. And oh boy, did it get real. This week, Adam and Pris break down the biggest red flags they personally watch for when meeting potential play partners — and the green flags that make them say, okay, we might actually like you. What You'll He...

It was Priscilla's 48th birthday weekend, and this woman did NOT come to play… well, actually, she absolutely came to play. And kiss strangers. And organize an impromptu gang bang over sushi. You know, normal birthday stuff. In this episode, Adam and Pris give you the full, unfiltered recap of what went down over one wild weekend in San Antonio — from cozy pizza nights at Via 313 to morning coffee at Arthur's in King William, birthday brunch at Alamo Biscuit Company, and a night at Club Eden th...

Pregnancy in the lifestyle. Yeah, we went there. And honestly? It's one of those conversations that most people tip-toe around — until a condom breaks or somebody shows up to the party eight months along and suddenly everyone's got questions. On this week's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris pull zero punches on a topic that's way more common than people like to admit. This one was sparked by a real message from a friend who was gearing up to meet a couple — and found out the woman was pregnant. It opened ...

What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life. Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they’ve built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitmen...

Let’s talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud. How do you actually last longer in bed? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: “Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?” And honestly? It’s a great question. Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the sw...

Is There an Age Limit in the Swinger Lifestyle? One of the most common questions people quietly ask about ethical non-monogamy and swinging is this: Am I too old for the lifestyle? Or on the flip side… is there such a thing as being too young? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into one of the most misunderstood topics in the swinging world — age in the lifestyle. The question actually came from a friend of ours who recently went through a divorce and starte...