Double Confessional: Lifestyle Roleplay Tips + Is Your Swinger Actually Poly?

0:07 All right, y'all. Before we dive in, a quick heads-up This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated PG We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kinda stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kids So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice, and get comfy Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches Not sex couches We're just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences, and sexy adventures in ethical non-monogamy. So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy.

0:54 I'm Adam. And I'm Pris, and on today's quickie, we're going back to the confessional because you all have been busy. Yeah. And we've got two submissions that were too good not to put together in one episode. Yeah, both of these come straight from the anonymous confessional on our website. You know you've heard of it. I've said it every time, and I wanna say this upfront. The fact that people are using that feature the way it was intended, being this honest and this vulnerable, it means everything to us. Yes. This is exactly why we built it. Mm-hmm. These are two different situations today, but both are incredibly relatable. So let's get into it, baby. Yeah, and real quick, if you have something on your chest that you need to get off or a question that you can't ask anyone in your real life, head to beyond-monogamy.com and drop it in the 100% anonymous confessional.

1:45 No name, no login, no one will ever know it was you. We do read every single one, and you can opt out of having it on the show. If i-i… there's a question there that you just gotta hit yes or no. If you don't want it on the show, we won't talk about it. We're gonna talk about it. That's right. All right, so here's the first confessional. I'm gonna read this one in full Hi Adam and Pris. I'm the wife of the latest newbie confessioner's poster. Thank you for answering my husband's questions. I really appreciate all the advice. My husband has been really supportive in taking his whole process slow, and I truly appreciate him.

2:26 I also wanna thank Pris for saying a lot of thoughts she has had that echo my own. It reassures me that she and I have similar outlooks and thoughts. We've been talking about the upcoming Halloween takeover and the lifestyle a lot over the last few months. One of the things we decided to do to prepare is to do some role play in an upcoming trip to Houston. In that trip, we plan to meet at the bar acting like strangers and to hook up. One of my fantasies is sitting at the bar and a stranger, AKA my husband, buying me a drink and us hitting it off after a lot of spicy touching. Then we make our way to the room and the rest of the fun ensues.

3:07 Are there any recommendations from you guys to spice things up like this to prepare us for the takeover? Also, one of our worries is other people coming onto us. You both have said we would just need to set boundaries. Are there any ways we can easily let others know what we are about and our boundaries? I don't imagine that we would come across people who state their kinks upfront. We just wanted to avoid the long conversation to get to know each other that ends up with us declining their offer. Thank you for any advice you both have for us. Okay. Well, I love this couple so much.

3:48 Yeah. First, shout out to the husband for being patient and supportive. That really matters. That's right. Yes. And this is such a fun submission because it's two questions in one. Mm-hmm. How do we make the role play experience great? Mm-hmm. And how do we handle unwanted attention at an event without it being awkward? Let's talk about it. All right, let's do that. So you tell me. All right, so we're gonna start with the first one, which was- How do we make the role play experience great? Oh, you know, that's more you Well, you know- You're kind of my guide in that that, that's, that's the, the thing about it is, is that you and I When we role play, it's more or less when we're having sex.

4:30 We've never actually done the role play in public- No … which I think is freaking hot. It's very hot. I think that that is a, a great idea. I've always wanted to do, I've always wanted to do what she's doing. Yeah. I've always wanted to do that. Yeah. The, the thing about it though is if you're gonna do it, like commit. I'm talking commit. Yes. Like, don't break. And then get on our voicemail and let us know how it goes. Yeah. Don't, don't break- Like, don't break … on that one. Yeah. So, like you see him. He really is, in your mind, a complete stranger. You don't know this person. You know what I mean? Like, if you guys are- Yeah … really gonna role play, don't do that wink, wink, nudge, nudge, nudge, nudge, uh, you know, can I buy you a drink- Yeah … kinda thing. Like, this is severely a, a- Like actors. Yeah. Like, do it. Like, do it.

5:10 Commit to it 100%, because y'all- That's kinda hot. It is kinda hot. We gotta do that. And you can also use it as practice on how you would talk to somebody who maybe is coming up to you, who is in a l- in a lifestyle situation. Mm-hmm. Say, like at the takeover. Mm-hmm. And, you know, how are, how are you gonna handle this? So you can do the role play where it's hot and sexual, and you guys go do your thing, or you can do the legit role play where you guys are practicing how to handle attention from others- Ooh at the hotel takeover. Yeah. Um, because that's, that's kind of leading into the second question.

5:51 Yeah. You know? Yeah. Um, a- and, and how to handle, uh, the unwanted attention. How do you handle the unwanted attention? Girl, I don't like attention, but I like attention. Yeah, that's the question. Uh . Um, so when, when Adam says unwanted attention, like for me, unwanted attention may b- be from like- Is every kind of attention somebody It would be somebody that he knows I just will not, like care for, or care for because, say, this person is like overly intoxicated and then comes and tries to like hit on me, that's the kind of unwanted attention he's talking about. Um, I'm not down for that.

6:34 But I handle it, um, two ways. I either handle it very bitchy and cold or- That's true very sweet and nice. Um, I really try to- It depends on how she's feeling that day … I really try to aim for the latter, but, you know. Um Yeah. I mean, it, it really is what it is. So here's one thing that, that she struggles with. She doesn't like to be called beautiful. She doesn't like it when people are like- Well, I'm- "Hey, beautiful," and this and that … I'm, I'm getting better at that, baby. Uh, well, so I was gonna ask you. Yeah. So when they do it in person, how do you react to it? Um, I, I… You know, I have a lot of friends that just say that. Yeah. You know, we, all our friends pretty much- That's the way we greet each other, right? And, and the guys too. So I've kinda gotten over that because it's so stupid and so minute and so little.

7:16 It's, like, so s- it's so dumb for me. And so um, but there's other people that do it. They're like, "Ooh, hey sexy." And it's like, "Ugh, cringe." Yeah. We don't really do the like- Um, I ignore. I ignore. Yeah? I'm a… I'm great at an ignorer. Like, you pretend like it wasn't said, ignore? Yeah. Or I'll be like, "Hi, thanks." And then move on. I'll, I'll do, yeah. I'll do a really fake, um… But you're new to the lifestyle, and I'm gonna tell you that There's not a lot of un- I mean, attention you're gonna get if you're, you're, you're a woman, like, you're gonna get attention. It is what it is. Um, men love women, women love women.

7:56 It's, it's just- Yeah … you're gonna get the attention. Um, now unwanted attention, m- are you m- maybe she's meaning unwanted, like, approaches. Like, I think she thinks, I think you think that you're gonna go to the Takeover and someone's gonna be like, "Hey, um, I'm, I'm, you know, I'm Jackie, and I think you're hot, and do you wanna go upstairs?" It's not like that Um, I've been in the lifestyle for longer than 15 years, and it's not like that Well, not to say it doesn't happen, but, uh- It does happen, but you know It happens mainly when a lot of people are very, very much intoxicated. Yeah, so it, it doesn't naturally come out that way. No. Um, people don't normally just, uh, come out swinging like that, so to speak.

8:41 Yeah. Uh, everybody is just as nervous as you probably are. Um- Well put, baby … oh, I mean, that's really the case. Like- Yeah … I remember going into every single event feeling like a chihuahua dog, just constantly shaking. Yeah. Like I was afraid of this and that and the other. And then we'd get there, and we would see a lot of our friends, and we would talk, and they would be just as, um, not scared, but nervous, anxious. They didn't know what to expect, this and that. Yeah. And so then they start drinking because that makes things chill. Well, I'm stoned, so that makes things chill for me. Yeah. You know? And s- but that's the… Everybody is pretty much, unless they're seasoned in this and they do this almost every weekend, pretty much everybody has the willies.

9:23 Yeah. You know? And, and if you do get a brave couple that decides to approach you, um, just be kind because they, they made themselves vulnerable as well. And if you're just, you know y'all are not gonna play, you just say, "Oh, you know, we just came to watch. We're not playing. We're not playing at this time," um, they're gonna be super understanding. Yeah. It's the, it's the way they approach you, and it's the way you give them back, you know, your answer. So- But also, if they react poorly, that makes it real easy for you to say, "Okay, peace, dude." Yeah. Take it easy. Yeah. Uh, we don't need you. You're off of my list, sir. Yeah. Uh, you know, make sure that you know that, um, you are worth way more than, than, than what you- think people view you as.

10:12 Yeah. Does that make sense? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Um, you know, you don't have to say yes to anybody if you're not 100%. You don't have to, uh, do anything or play along with anybody- Mm-hmm … at all. Like- No … this is, you know, your feelings are very, very much, uh, in play on this, and you wanna make sure that you're, uh, what you're feeling is comfort and safety- Yes, for sure uh, in the moment you don't feel it. Because that makes it fun. Yeah. That makes it more fun. Exactly. And, and it's okay to say no. It is okay to say no. It's okay to say no. I mean, I have trouble saying no sometimes. I'm gonna be super, super honest with you. Um, it's hard sometimes, but- And we don't wanna kill the vibe, right? Yeah. That's the fear.

10:52 I don't wanna kill the vibe. Everybody's having a good time. I don't wanna say, "Hey, sorry, but no, I don't…" Nobody wants to be- Yeah … labeled the bitch or the asshole who just made things awkward. But we've talked about it so much now that- Yeah … I understand it's not gonna come out like that, that I ha- I have to be in the relationship, I have to be the one who stops it, um, if we've already talked about it beforehand. Because- Yeah … he doesn't know how to… He doesn't like to say no. He doesn't like to say no. I don't. And sometimes it's hard for me to say no as well. But I think you guys are doing good, especially with the role play before him. Yeah. I think that's gonna give them a little bit of a, um- It's so smart … like a little bit of relaxation.

11:35 Yeah. Like, not so… You're not gonna be thinking about it so heavy and just kind of like go with the flow. Well, you know, uh, really good improv comedians, they go to improv class. They role play. Yes. You know what I'm saying? Uh, and if you want to get used to being able to communicate with new people at an event like a hotel takeover, you guys should role play different things, different- Yeah uh, different types of environments. Okay. Uh, you know, this person, you're gonna go to the bathroom, and I'm gonna sit here waiting for you to get back, and somebody's gonna come and, and say hello to me. You're that person. Mm-hmm. Or, you know, how am I gonna, how am I gonna get out of this, or- Yeah … is this something that I really want?

12:17 You know, different hypothetical situations- Yeah … you can work through. And also, um, maybe get to know some of the people that are going to the Houston Takeover. Like, maybe there's a Discord- Oh, yeah … or maybe there's a Facebook group, or maybe when you, um- RSVP, there's some kind of link that you can get to know people. Um, usually they do have some kind of communication, some groups. And you can get to know people and maybe, like, set up some, some chats. Um- Yeah, ahead of time … ahead of time. Get your feet in the water. You know, right then and there, you can straight up tell them your boundaries. Yeah. Straight up tell them your rules. Yeah. Your, your, um… I was gonna say demographic.

12:59 Your demographics. Your dynamics. Your dynamics. And that's, and that was part of one of the things that you were asking was, you know, you don't wanna waste any time. Uh, you don't wanna waste anybody else's time. You don't wanna waste your own time. Um- I'm very good about that so that's what dynamic is for. Yeah. When you meet somebody, one of the first things that you should be asking them is, "Well, what's y'all's dynamic?" Mm-hmm. Because if they say, "Well, we're, we play separately," and you guys do not play separately, then these people are not for you. Mm-hmm. And why waste your time? Mm-hmm. And it's like, "Okay, well, it's nice to meet you. Moving on." You know what I mean? Exactly. Don't waste your time, don't waste their time, and you'll be fine. Mm-hmm. You know what I mean? But yeah, express your dynamic. What it i- What is it that you guys are, uh, advertising yourselves as, so to speak.

13:44 Mm-hmm. Uh, are you guys a full swap? Are you, uh, you know, separate play? Are you same room swap? Or is- Are you soft swap? Are y'all bisexual? Are y'all not swap at all? Um, yeah, like- Still watching? Yeah. Parallel play. Like, there's- Yeah … so many, so many questions. Um, I've actually made a little PDF about that, babe. Did you? I did. Yeah? Yeah. And I think we're gonna offer it to everybody for free. Oh, wow. Yeah, some questions. Look at you. They can, like, just learn about it. Wow. Yeah. Look at you with your lifestyle propaganda. Push that lifestyle propaganda. Yeah. Yeah. So I mean, they can at least learn. There are some questions in there that'll help them at least break the ice on certain things.

14:28 That's right. I wish there was something like that around when we started. You know, I really wish there was… Uh, I wish our show was around when we started, because- Yeah … uh, I could have used that information that we had. If I knew then what I know now- If I knew then- Oh, my goodness … what I didn't know now, I wish I could start this whole thing over again. Okay. See, and I, I… If I knew then what I know now- … I wouldn't have even started with that. I would've kept that one to myself. Uh, but you know, it, it really… I think the, I think the role playing thing is awesome. I do too. And honestly, that's really spiced up something in my head. I think I'm gonna try something cool. I know. We are. Yeah, I think I'm… And I'm talking, like, really commit.

15:08 I'm talking- Like, from- … we take Ubers to the place. Yes. We don't even drive together. That's kinda hot. We take Ubers together. We, we, maybe one of us is there early. Uh-huh. And one of us is there later. Um, and you know, I buy you a drink. When do you break it? You break it after I come. Yeah. Then after that- Boom, three minutes. … actually, actually, no, if we could, if we could keep that, then you can just take your own Uber back home. Get out of here, girl. Go clean yourself up. My wife, my wife's coming to pick me up. My wife's waiting in the car. Oh my gosh. Oh. Wait, are we getting a hotel? Who's paying for that? God, I hope not. I don't wanna get a hotel. Well, how, where are we gonna go? We'll go to the, we'll go to- Wait, are we hooking up the first night?

15:50 Well, yeah. I fully expect to get some on the first night, or I'll be really disappointed. I ain't calling you back after that. Uh-uh. Do you hear that, ladies? You hear me? She ta- Hey, my wife told me I don't have to work as hard, so why would I work so hard at the role play? I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna work at the role play? Come on, you're a sure thing. I'm not gonna have to work that hard. I mean, I don't know. If I have options, I don't know if I'm a sure thing anymore. You're a total sure thing. I don't… I know exactly what meal to buy you. We're good. It's done, I'm not even worried about it. I'll put on your favorite show. Forget it. Sex. We're going back home? Well, yeah, I'm not gonna get a hotel room. Well, you said commit to the end, broke-ass. Forget that.

16:31 I'm pretty much busy. I, I already came. It's okay. I got mine. Oh my gosh. You see what happens? No, I mean- You see what happens … I think it's hot. I think you guys- I do … are going to have a really good, good time. Okay, wait. Before we go any further, FirmTech. We have to talk about FirmTech. Yes. Okay, so FirmTech makes the Tech Ring. Yeah, and here's the thing. It's not what you might think. Well, it kind of is, but it's so much more than that. Yeah. It's a wearable ring that helps with firmness and blood flow, and it actually connects to an app that tracks data. Real data. Like, it tells you exactly what's going on.

17:13 And there's actual clinical research behind it. This isn't some random gimmick. And then there's the Ring Mate. I saw this thing. It's an attachment that goes on the Tech Ring specifically for your partner's pleasure. Looks just like a tongue. Hey, so everybody wins. Everybody wins. It really is a whole situation. A good situation. A very good situation. Use code BEYOMONO at firmtech.co. That's B-E-Y-O-M-O-N-O, and get 15% off. Okay, now where were we? All right. Anyhow, let's move into our second confessional. This one is a little bit heavier- Ooh … but really, really important. Okay. Yeah, this one, it hit close to home for me in some ways.

17:54 I think a lot of people are going to hear themselves in this one. Yeah. Here we go. " I haven't been a swinger for long, about 18 months. My fiance and I have been together for two years in July. He's been a swinger for the better part of 20 plus years. I will start by saying I have a lot of relationship trauma from previous relationships. That being said, I'm in therapy and working through a lot of it, but it's still a battle a lot of the time. Before I got into the lifestyle with my fiance, I was in the BDSM lifestyle, so I have some experience with alternative lifestyles and was, and still am, genuinely interested in pursuing this with my fiance.

18:37 Here's where I am having a difficult time. When we got together, we talked at length about things we wanted and didn't want. A big thing for both of us is we didn't want poly in any aspect. Our focus was on our primary relationship, and the swinging was to be the spice, on occasion, to our relationship. I still very much want things that way, and he does too, or so he says, but I have made the realization that he is, in fact, poly. Perhaps not in the romantic sense of the word, but he very much wants and needs a closer connection with people he plays with. I prefer a very superficial connection with my partners, limited contact and conversation.

19:22 I brought up that this makes me very uncomfortable, and it's a trigger. It feels like he's juggling multiple relationships, and it feels very poly to me. He doesn't see the correlation in his actions. He views poly as only romantic and not in any way poly because it's not romantic. I'm struggling to handle this disconnect in our relationship, and I'm not sure how to move past my insecurities. I'd love some advice if you have any. Thanks for listening, and I love your podcast. You guys have been great wealth of knowledge for me on my journey." First, I see you, and I wanna say the fact that you're in therapy, that you know your triggers, that you can articulate this so clearly is amazing.

20:06 That's not someone with insecurities. That's someone doing their work. Yeah. Uh, this is definitely not a simple who's right kinda situation. Both of them are operating from completely genuine spaces, but they are describing fundamentally different styles of engagement in the lifestyle. Mm-hmm. And that gap is real. Yeah. And it matters. Yep. Yeah. So what you're describing, it actually has a name. It, it, it's a, it's a connection style difference. Uh, some people are kitchen table. Mm. Some are parallel. Mm-hmm. He sounds like he's kitchen table, and I think maybe you're possibly parallel, if we had to put labels on it.

20:48 I mean, she's not poly at all. No, no, not at all, but we're talking about connection style. Okay. Now- Okay, yeah, because I'm… So I'm pretty much her. Yeah. Yeah. I'm pretty- This is a very, um- This is- … a very real- This is us … conversation because this is us, essentially. Um- Yeah … I am not, I, I am not poly. Um- You use a really good word that I like. I'm superficial. It's very, I don't need to have the everyday conversation. I don't need to have the, you know, every time we see each other type of connection. Like, we're just friends. Um, and if we have time to play, we can play. I, I, I'm there. I'm, uh, well, that's where I'm at.

21:30 Adam is more- I'm different. Yeah. So I like the connection. Yeah. And while we, we did the poly thing. We were poly for five years, and it was primarily because of me. Yeah. Because I wanted to experience a lot of connections with others. Um, and I wanted to see how that would work out. And so it wasn't for both of us. She didn't enjoy it, and I did for the most part. But when we realized, okay, this is, this is a gap here. She didn't- Mm … wanna hold me back from, from being able to connect with others, but she also didn't wanna be poly, and she didn't want me to be poly. Yeah. Now, poly is romantic, so if it's a many friendship thing, um, I wouldn't really classify that as romantic.

22:14 Um, and, and I wouldn't classify that as, as poly if it's, if it's not romantic. But I do understand what you're saying. Um, all of these separate friendships are, are separate connections, and each connection is, is fulfilling for him in a way of, you know, that bond- Mm-hmm that you get with someone. Now, that is something that I need and, and for the longest time, Pris didn't understand why. Mm-hmm. And we had to really go back to the root of why. Why do I feel this incessant need to be liked by so many, but also to have strong connections with every single person?

22:55 Mm-hmm. Um, and it, it did feel like I was- And- juggling a lot of friendships for a long time … it was, and also it's a lot, um- And I don't know how to bring it all together, but like He knew… I knew what he wanted, but then he also… I knew that he didn't need to… Like, he didn't… He wanted to do the whole poly thing, but you also put in a lot of effort into that. Like, it sometimes it consumed you. Yeah. Yeah. No, and that was, that was one thing that I didn't really understand poly. Um, I did all my own research. I didn't have anybody to talk to me about it. Mm-hmm. So I was really learning as I went, and I felt like if I wasn't actively dating, if I didn't actively have a girlfriend on the side doing my thing, I wasn't a successful poly, which is just- Yeah … stupid saying it that, saying that out loud.

23:41 And so- But a lot of us have that feeling, you know? Yeah, and- You force yourself into situations. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Want some water? No. It just went down. Um, so yeah, that was… And for me, I was very… I'm very different. I don't need to have that, even in as a swinger. Um, now I'm starting to make more friends and want more of a connection, but that took years for me to get here. Well, you started realizing that the sex can be more fulfilling if you actually are friends with the person, which… And, and, you know, that was one thing was she's like, "Yeah, you know, I had a few conversations with him. I think I'm good." And it's like, well, that's not really friends. Like, you gotta be actual friends and, you know, that… To be a true friend to somebody, it's, it takes work.

24:26 It takes work, it takes time, it takes being there for 'em, it takes conversations. Um, and, you know, he's probably getting, uh, a fulfillment of friendship out of, out of that. You know, I, and like I said, I, I understand it because I have that. Mm-hmm. But mine comes from a place of trauma as a, a youth, uh, because I, I was in a, an abusive household. I didn't feel loved, and I didn't… You know, I struggled, uh, throughout school feeling liked even. Uh, so to want to feel liked by everybody's very big for me, and I like to have very meaningful friendships with people, and I like to, up until recently, I, I love to have as many connections with people as possible.

25:15 I've kind of gone into a bit of hermit mode as of lately, uh, just because I'm exhausted. I'm exhausted and- Mm-hmm … you know, when you're in the mix nonstop, nonstop, nonstop, you just kinda have to, uh, take every moment as it comes, and if you have quiet moments, you just gotta take 'em. Mm-hmm. Uh, and so that's why I'm not really juggling much right now, but I get it. Um, I don't know what his reason for it is, but I guarantee you, if you guys sit down and talk about it, you can probably trace all the way back why he- Mm-hmm … feels that way. Mm-hmm. W- it could be something that a parent did. Yeah. Or a, you know, a traumatic moment, something.

25:56 There's some reason Why this is a need. Mm-hmm. And it doesn't, it isn't anything that, that- That you're lacking or, or not giving to him … you're lacking from. Or yeah, uh, you don't, you don't really… There's nothing that you can really do to make that situation better except to talk and to better understand why that's happening. And then once you've got a, a hold of it, then you two can talk even more openly about, "Okay, look, these are our boundaries. Th- there, there's no crossing that. You know, let's make sure we have an agreement on every situation that could come up, and let's make sure that we have a clear yes or no. There's no gray area here."

26:37 Mm-hmm. Uh, because anything can come up. Um, and then you just go on from there. Yeah. Yeah. Like, it's, it's, it's something where it's, it… It's gonna take a lot of communication. Yeah. You guys have to really discuss it and, and he's gotta be willing to hear your side as well. And you, you're have, you're gonna have to willing to be hearing his side as well. Like, you gotta communicate. It's, it's something, like for us, one of us has to give, right? It is what it is. And you just figure out where your insecurity of maybe the poly issue is coming from. I know where mine came from. Um, and I'm not saying it's a bad thing.

27:18 It's just something that I just, I don't like to share that type of romantic-ness from my spouse. I don't want… He doesn't need to give that to anybody else but me, so. And you know, it doesn't bother me seeing her do it with anybody. Yeah. And so that… Yeah, it doesn't bother him, either. We're just very different people. Yeah. And that's gonna happen. Mm-hmm. I've had people ask me before, "Well, you know, what, what do we do? You know, he's, he is more poly and I'm more lifestyle, and I don't wanna be poly. Um, what do we do? Is this the end of our relationship?" And it's like, "Well, no." Yeah. Um, you have to have that conversation of, "What's more important to us? Is your non-monogamy, is your pursuit for poly more important-" Yeah … "than the relationship? Because if so, I don't want our relationship to hold you back."

28:05 Mm-hmm. Uh, "But these are my boundaries. These are my hard boundaries, and I don't wanna be poly and I don't want us to be poly." Yeah. And so you just communicate. " We can be non-monogamous in this way." Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah, you just communicate it. You communicate, guys. Yeah. Doesn't… It, it, it sounds easy. I know we make it sound easy. It's an uncomfortable conversation. They're never easy. No. Um, but just be prepared to keep an open mind. Yes. And an open heart. Be kind. Be kind. You be kind. Yeah, all the way. Yes. Got to be kind. And I just wanna say, loving someone and being incompatible in your lifestyle can both be true at the same time, and you don't have to choose between acknowledging the love and acknowledging the person.

28:46 Well said. Thanks. Good job. And to our confessor, you are not crazy. You're not insecure. You just had an agreement, and you deserve a partner who honors it or renegotiates it honestly. So keep going to therapy and keep advocating for yourself. All right, that's our quickie for today, two incredible submissions and two very real conversations that we know hit home for more than just the people who wrote it in. If that was you in either of these situations, we hope that you got something useful out of today. And if you have something on your chest, drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

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