QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It)

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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.

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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you

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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.

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So grab some headphones, pour your
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Couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches,

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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

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An ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.

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And.

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Hello and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And on today's quickie, we're
talking about something that

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actually happened to us recently.

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At a lifestyle club.

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Yeah, you totally went Full chaos
agent for like four minutes.

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I did.

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I fully did, and I'm
owning it today, guys.

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Yes,

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it's It's all.

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It's all coming out.

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Now, Pris, tell the people
what happened this weekend.

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What happened?

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What happened?

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We were doing so great.

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I was the person that I tell
y'all to stay away from.

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Yeah.

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Set the scene.

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Okay.

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We're sitting on the couch.

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At the club and we're in the back at the
area where the BDSM stuff takes over,

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takes on, and our friend was getting
some little slappy slappy thing done.

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So we were sitting there and
Adam and I were chatting.

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We were like, Hey, so and so, is hot man.

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And I was like, yeah, they're both hot.

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And I was like, does she like girls?

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And he's like, I think so.

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And I said, okay.

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I said, I think so, but I don't know.

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I don't know.

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But I did say, I said a couple
times throughout the night I said, I

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would really like to play with her.

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Yeah.

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And

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you were like, Hmm, okay.

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Something to think

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about.

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Yeah.

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And so, Aw, um, we're talking and then we
decided we're gonna go back to our couch.

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And so we get up and the couple
that we were talking about is

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right there in the hallway.

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So I say, hi.

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Hey.

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Um, do you like women?

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She's like, yeah, I'm bisexual.

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And I said, okay, we
should make this happen.

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And I was kind of holding
her hand like this.

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And so it, I kind of, I guess she
moved and I was still holding her hand.

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Mm.

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And so we were talking, and
then I was like, all right,

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I guess we're doing this now.

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And so I went into a cubby.

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Now everything is making so much sense.

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I think she was walking that
way to go to the bathroom.

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So I look at her husband and I
was like, do you have condoms?

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And like, do you have 'em on you?

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And he's like, yeah.

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And then so we go to the
cubby, or I call it a cubby.

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It's just a room.

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It's a little,

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it's a play

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area.

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Play area, yeah.

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And it has a little curtain thing.

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Curtain.

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And so I sit down on the bed and it's
her and him, and then Adam's over

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here, and Adam's like, what's going on?

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And I was like,

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I was like, wait, what's what?

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What's happening?

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We're doing this right now.

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And then, and she's like,
yeah, we're getting into this.

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I like, oh, okay.

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Never really talked to these people

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before I on the bed.

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And I look at her and I was like,
what are y'all's boundaries?

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What y'all's rules?

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And she goes, and lemme go to the bath.

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I'm gonna go to the bathroom real quick.

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When she said that I had this gut
feeling of pump your brakes, Pris and I

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look got up and I said, I am so sorry.

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You go do your thing.

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This is happening way too fast.

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Go do your thing.

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We'll discuss this later.

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Well, so I don't know if you remember
exactly how you said it, but it was

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really, the imagery was hilarious because
I was next to you, between you and

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the wall, and you were closer to her.

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You were sitting on the bed.

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Yeah, she was standing up and then

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I stood up.

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Up and immediately it's almost like there
was a switch that went off in your head.

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Yeah.

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When she said she had to go to the
bathroom and she asked her husband

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if yes, if he would go with her.

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You stood up, you grabbed her arm
and you said, this was a mistake.

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This was a mistake.

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And her face was like.

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What, what's going on?

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No, I

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didn't say

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this

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was a mistake, but it was.

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But Well, those were, that was your
words initially because you couldn't

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figure out how to say what you were

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trying to say.

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I said, I'm so sorry that this was just

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Yeah.

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And then you started getting into
it, and that's when she was like,

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oh, no, no, it's, it's okay.

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Yeah.

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And then so they left,

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they left to go use the restroom.

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Yeah.

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And then we stayed.

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We stayed because we
were like, we're here.

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There's a bed

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we're gonna play.

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Right.

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Let's have sex.

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And then I looked at Adam
and I was like, I'm so sorry.

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I didn't even like talk to you about this.

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Like, this spontaneous shit is not mine.

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It's not my thing.

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Like I was really trying to
be like, Ooh, spontaneous.

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Let's, we know them.

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Let's just do this.

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No, because nobody else can think in
your, nobody else is in your brain to say,

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oh, okay Pris, we're all gonna do this.

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And so we do our thing,
we walk out, we're done.

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Right?

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We walk out.

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And we, we come, we see her.

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And I said, I am so sorry about that,
that, and she's like, it's okay.

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We just like to talk to
people ahead of time.

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And I said, so do we.

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So do we.

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Yeah.

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I said, that was just me being
like, sexy, spontaneous press,

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which is not, not something.

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And she goes, I, I'm sorry.

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I just didn't, I didn't
know how to say no.

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And I said, girl, you just say no.

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But I saw it in her face
like, this is not a good idea.

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I need to get out.

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she, she looked a little scared.

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Yeah.

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And so I, I read the room quickly
and I fixed it really fast.

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You

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did?

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Yeah, I did.

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And I apologized to her because that's not

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Well, so we've,

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it's,

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we've talked about the
spontaneous thing that's,

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and we have

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had

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spontaneous

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That's primarily for you.

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Yeah.

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To have your own spontaneous fun.

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Like it's, yeah.

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But we had spontaneous fun, but yeah, we
have like, we've had orgies in the back.

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Yeah.

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But they're with people that we've.

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Talk to and played with and that sort of

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thing.

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I mean, or that we just know by like
social media, do you know what I mean?

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Like we don't really know them.

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My birthday party, we, there was
a few people there that we had.

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Yeah,

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yeah.

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But I mean,

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and that was still spontaneous.

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We had talked to them throughout the
night because they were at your birthday

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party dinner and all that stuff.

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There wasn't randos, you know what I'm

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saying?

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Like, I mean, anyway,
you know what we mean.

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So it's, it was really eye-opening,
not eye-opening, but like I

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really wanted to be spontaneous
and have that little sexy thrill.

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Yeah.

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No.

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Mm-hmm.

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So let me tell you,

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no,

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you did everything right to a certain
point and then it went downhill.

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And, and what I mean is you
had an amazing approach.

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I wish more people approached others the
way that you approached her initially,

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because when we, we were walking and you
stopped her and you looked right at her.

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Yeah.

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We both said hi to them.

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Yeah.

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And you looked at her, you kind
of grabbed her by the hand and

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you said, are you bisexual?

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Like, are are you into girls?

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Yeah.

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Are you into women?

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And she said, yeah, I'm bisexual.

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And so that right there, boom.

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That cut.

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Yeah.

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Cut easily.

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And so then you expressed
interest for both of us, and it's

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like, yeah, we should do this.

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Yeah, we should.

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That was perfect to just stop
right there and, and had you said,

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okay, well hey, let's do like a
let's Facebook friend each other.

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And I was really trying to
do the group message thing.

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Yeah.

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And that would've been the perfect way.

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Perfect.

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Right there.

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Perfecto.

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And then, you know, we could have talked
to them throughout the night and if

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something ended up happening throughout
the night, that would've worked.

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Uh, but.

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It went off the deep end from there.

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Oh yeah.

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He kind of made this right hand turn.

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Yeah, for

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sure.

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It just

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went crashing down

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and I know where I made my mistakes and
I'm very glad that nothing happened.

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Yeah.

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I'm really,

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I think that could have well, I mean,
that could have messed up a friendship.

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I mean, sure.

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These people are,

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are

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potential

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friends.

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I read that energy in that room so
quickly and I was like, yeah, no.

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Yeah.

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But she had said, I guess when
you were apologizing, she had said

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that she didn't know how to say no,
or she was struggling to say no.

261
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Yeah.

262
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She was like,

263
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I didn't, she was like.

264
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I didn't know how to say no.

265
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And I was like, you just say no.

266
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You just say crazy woman.

267
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Get outta my face.

268
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But this is a good point though.

269
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It's a very

270
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good point.

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It's

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hard in the fact that how many
people struggle to say no, and how

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many times do they feel pressured
to do things that they don't wanna

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do.

275
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So if she needed to go to the
bathroom or not, that was perfect.

276
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That was a good exit.

277
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Great exit.

278
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Yeah.

279
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Kudos to you.

280
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Yeah.

281
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Got out of the room from the crazy woman.

282
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Yeah.

283
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Good job.

284
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I mean, it sucks that, that
she was the crazy woman, but I

285
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was.

286
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Uh, but yeah, I mean, that
was a really good tactic.

287
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There are ways to get out of things
if you cannot say no in the moment

288
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and you feel pressured, don't ever do
anything that you feel pressured with.

289
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Yeah.

290
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Because then you're gonna be
stuck with an experience that,

291
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because

292
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may not be good.

293
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Yeah.

294
00:09:08,500 --> 00:09:12,175
It, you know, it could have
been a different scenario.

295
00:09:12,505 --> 00:09:13,555
It, we could have.

296
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Gotten to a certain point and she
still didn't know how to say no.

297
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And I would've been like,
what the fuck just happened?

298
00:09:19,015 --> 00:09:19,615
I mean, it's,

299
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it's, I mean, when you think about
it, no consent was ever given.

300
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None.

301
00:09:25,695 --> 00:09:25,965
Yeah.

302
00:09:26,025 --> 00:09:26,505
None.

303
00:09:26,505 --> 00:09:29,955
I'm telling you people, I was
really trying to be spontaneous

304
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like it is no, like none.

305
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No.

306
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The conversation did not happen.

307
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And it's, I'm glad that it stopped and I
felt really bad for it because I was like,

308
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that's not the kind of people we are.

309
00:09:46,015 --> 00:09:50,035
Me, myself, I am
spontaneous, but by myself.

310
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Yeah.

311
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And that meaning that if I see
somebody I like and I go and

312
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I talk to them, that's fine.

313
00:09:55,835 --> 00:09:56,705
That's a me thing.

314
00:09:57,455 --> 00:09:58,895
It's not an everybody thing.

315
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And.

316
00:10:00,055 --> 00:10:02,785
I know like different scenarios
like this have happened to other

317
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people and they've accepted it.

318
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Like they went along with it
and they liked it and they

319
00:10:07,225 --> 00:10:08,005
were, they were all good.

320
00:10:08,005 --> 00:10:10,825
But not everybody is a spontaneous person.

321
00:10:11,165 --> 00:10:11,555
No.

322
00:10:11,555 --> 00:10:16,725
And you know, I mean, being that
we hadn't really ever talked to

323
00:10:16,725 --> 00:10:22,415
them, I mean, for all they know they
wouldn't have liked me as a person or

324
00:10:22,415 --> 00:10:22,895
Yeah.

325
00:10:22,895 --> 00:10:24,470
It's, you know, or
whatever, like, whatever.

326
00:10:24,475 --> 00:10:28,325
There could have been reasons why
this thing wouldn't have happened.

327
00:10:28,325 --> 00:10:28,865
Exactly.

328
00:10:29,145 --> 00:10:33,105
And yet there we were all in the
cubby, just kind of like, it's,

329
00:10:33,195 --> 00:10:34,425
and it happened in seconds, so

330
00:10:34,605 --> 00:10:35,415
it was very fast.

331
00:10:35,445 --> 00:10:36,135
It was very fast.

332
00:10:36,135 --> 00:10:37,305
So thank goodness for that.

333
00:10:37,385 --> 00:10:41,910
I, I messaged him the next
day or, or the next, no.

334
00:10:42,735 --> 00:10:48,045
I think Monday I messaged him and I
was like, Hey again, I am super sorry.

335
00:10:48,575 --> 00:10:50,975
We should get together, have a dinner.

336
00:10:50,975 --> 00:10:52,655
This doesn't have to be anything else.

337
00:10:53,175 --> 00:10:56,535
And I apologize for being so, predatory.

338
00:10:56,565 --> 00:10:58,815
Like, I was just like, no,

339
00:10:59,805 --> 00:11:04,435
you know, it's a, it's a good example
in the fact that mistakes happen, man.

340
00:11:04,495 --> 00:11:04,915
Yeah.

341
00:11:05,215 --> 00:11:06,145
I mean, we're all human.

342
00:11:06,475 --> 00:11:06,835
Yeah.

343
00:11:06,925 --> 00:11:07,765
Mistakes happen.

344
00:11:08,275 --> 00:11:08,965
But I felt bad.

345
00:11:09,445 --> 00:11:10,195
I felt bad.

346
00:11:10,405 --> 00:11:12,325
Things like that will never happen again.

347
00:11:12,575 --> 00:11:14,040
And that's 'cause I'm a sober bird.

348
00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:19,260
Well, you know, it, it, it brings up
the point of enthusiastic consent.

349
00:11:19,290 --> 00:11:19,380
Yes.

350
00:11:19,380 --> 00:11:19,890
I just did.

351
00:11:19,950 --> 00:11:23,190
I just did, uh, some content on
that on TikTok not too long ago.

352
00:11:23,940 --> 00:11:26,070
There's a big difference
between enthusiasm

353
00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:26,880
Yes.

354
00:11:26,910 --> 00:11:28,770
And enthusiastic consent.

355
00:11:28,830 --> 00:11:29,070
Yes.

356
00:11:29,550 --> 00:11:32,880
Uh, what we got was enthusiasm,
but there was no consent.

357
00:11:32,895 --> 00:11:33,185
None.

358
00:11:33,685 --> 00:11:37,555
And so that's, that's really
something that you have to

359
00:11:37,585 --> 00:11:38,965
recognize right off the bat.

360
00:11:39,025 --> 00:11:39,115
Mm-hmm.

361
00:11:39,595 --> 00:11:42,510
Let me tell you, you know, if
things hadn't gotten figured

362
00:11:42,510 --> 00:11:45,930
out, there could have been some
bad accusations thrown around.

363
00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:46,405
Yeah, for sure.

364
00:11:46,470 --> 00:11:47,100
You know what I, what I mean?

365
00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:52,320
So what's really awesome is that
you realized it without anybody

366
00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:53,400
else having to bring it up.

367
00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:53,885
Like you Yeah.

368
00:11:53,885 --> 00:11:56,190
You realized and you were like,
oh shit, this is not right.

369
00:11:56,820 --> 00:11:57,060
Yeah.

370
00:11:57,060 --> 00:12:00,270
Um, you know, but that
doesn't make you a bad person.

371
00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:00,900
No.

372
00:12:00,990 --> 00:12:03,210
This happens to a lot of people.

373
00:12:03,210 --> 00:12:04,140
Like I said, you're human.

374
00:12:04,170 --> 00:12:04,830
We're all human.

375
00:12:05,130 --> 00:12:05,610
You know,

376
00:12:05,610 --> 00:12:06,040
I got, we

377
00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:06,125
get

378
00:12:06,130 --> 00:12:07,020
swept up in the moment.

379
00:12:07,050 --> 00:12:07,800
I sure did.

380
00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:08,850
I got swept up in the moment.

381
00:12:08,850 --> 00:12:09,990
I was like, Ooh, okay.

382
00:12:09,990 --> 00:12:10,530
Yay.

383
00:12:11,130 --> 00:12:14,760
One, I don't ever go up to women and
ask 'em if they're bisexual, like

384
00:12:15,510 --> 00:12:16,260
she got excited.

385
00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,980
That's my thing I don't ever
do because I don't know why.

386
00:12:20,250 --> 00:12:22,530
I always, I'm curious if they're bisexual.

387
00:12:22,910 --> 00:12:23,960
And I'm getting.

388
00:12:24,460 --> 00:12:27,070
I'm getting a little loosey goosey,
you know, I'm trying to, trying to

389
00:12:27,070 --> 00:12:27,850
go with the flow.

390
00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:29,470
Trying to go with the
flow, not be so, yeah.

391
00:12:29,500 --> 00:12:30,370
Trying to loosen up.

392
00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:30,790
Yeah.

393
00:12:30,970 --> 00:12:33,190
So, you know, in my head all the time.

394
00:12:33,970 --> 00:12:34,360
Yeah.

395
00:12:34,660 --> 00:12:38,710
But that really just started, you've
really tried to kind of let the reins

396
00:12:38,710 --> 00:12:40,450
go and just kind of float around.

397
00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:40,660
Yes.

398
00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:45,200
Uh, so, and then also, you know, you
run into a lot of women who either

399
00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:49,290
say that you're interested in that
say that they're bi situational.

400
00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:49,380
Yeah.

401
00:12:49,500 --> 00:12:53,500
So I think you got really excited
when she said she was bisexual and

402
00:12:53,650 --> 00:12:55,240
what she gave you a flirty smile.

403
00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:57,290
It's like, oh yeah let's do this now.

404
00:12:57,560 --> 00:13:01,010
Which, I mean, for most guys
would be like, okay, let's go.

405
00:13:01,460 --> 00:13:04,250
Uh, but it's just, uh, it's, it's
a bit different when you're dealing

406
00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:06,860
with women, you know, there's,
there's a safety concern there.

407
00:13:06,860 --> 00:13:07,970
There's a safety aspect.

408
00:13:07,985 --> 00:13:08,275
Yeah.

409
00:13:08,775 --> 00:13:10,965
So it, I'm glad that you didn't
make a big deal about it.

410
00:13:11,445 --> 00:13:13,815
No, I mean, I wasn't upset about it.

411
00:13:13,815 --> 00:13:15,615
I'm, I'm glad that you figured it out.

412
00:13:15,615 --> 00:13:19,565
I. I had mentioned in the moment,
I was like, oh, you didn't

413
00:13:19,715 --> 00:13:21,065
talk to me about that at all.

414
00:13:21,215 --> 00:13:21,515
Yeah.

415
00:13:21,875 --> 00:13:22,295
Yeah.

416
00:13:22,745 --> 00:13:23,015
Like, didn't

417
00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:23,320
talk,

418
00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:23,330
talk

419
00:13:23,330 --> 00:13:23,735
about that.

420
00:13:23,765 --> 00:13:23,825
Okay.

421
00:13:23,825 --> 00:13:26,225
We, I apologize to everybody
and I apologize to Adam.

422
00:13:26,225 --> 00:13:26,855
And I was like, alright.

423
00:13:27,245 --> 00:13:29,855
But you know, like I said,
we all make mistakes, man.

424
00:13:29,855 --> 00:13:35,815
And, you know, uh, we absolutely
are not perfect people by any means.

425
00:13:36,155 --> 00:13:38,465
Just like the people
that you're talking to.

426
00:13:38,465 --> 00:13:38,525
Yeah.

427
00:13:38,645 --> 00:13:41,285
And the people that you're
hoping to be in this community.

428
00:13:41,675 --> 00:13:43,175
We're all not perfect.

429
00:13:43,175 --> 00:13:46,535
We're all trying to do
things as best as we can.

430
00:13:46,535 --> 00:13:46,625
Mm-hmm.

431
00:13:46,865 --> 00:13:48,455
Have a good time doing it.

432
00:13:48,695 --> 00:13:48,785
Mm-hmm.

433
00:13:49,055 --> 00:13:53,135
And ensure that everybody around
us stays safe in this community.

434
00:13:53,545 --> 00:13:56,035
And sometimes things happen.

435
00:13:56,565 --> 00:13:56,745
Yeah.

436
00:13:56,805 --> 00:13:58,875
But it's important to take accountability.

437
00:13:59,415 --> 00:13:59,685
Yes.

438
00:14:00,105 --> 00:14:01,455
Accountability is everything.

439
00:14:01,815 --> 00:14:02,055
Yes.

440
00:14:02,105 --> 00:14:02,465
Own it.

441
00:14:02,465 --> 00:14:08,085
You know, my newbies build a
pre-approach, ritual, something

442
00:14:08,085 --> 00:14:09,405
that you can at least say.

443
00:14:10,140 --> 00:14:13,140
Hey, um, if I'm gonna go up to this,
these couple right here, and you're

444
00:14:13,140 --> 00:14:16,950
gonna be next to me and I'm gonna ask a
question, you make sure that I just kind

445
00:14:16,950 --> 00:14:20,430
of walk away from that situation that
we don't end up in another little area.

446
00:14:20,460 --> 00:14:20,760
Okay.

447
00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:24,120
Had he known, had he been in
the conversation, I think it

448
00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:28,410
would've been fine, but we,
that would just happen so fast.

449
00:14:28,690 --> 00:14:33,270
I'm, I'm really curious about
I was very impressed with the

450
00:14:33,540 --> 00:14:35,490
excuse of going to the bathroom.

451
00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:35,790
Yeah.

452
00:14:35,790 --> 00:14:36,750
I thought that was smooth.

453
00:14:36,810 --> 00:14:37,515
I think she did have to read

454
00:14:37,515 --> 00:14:39,810
the bathroom if she probably
did have to go to the bathroom.

455
00:14:39,810 --> 00:14:45,910
But either way it's worth noting, you
know, a lot of people knew or experienced

456
00:14:45,970 --> 00:14:48,760
don't have that ease of saying no.

457
00:14:49,060 --> 00:14:49,300
Yeah.

458
00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,130
It is a difficulty for a lot of people and

459
00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:53,090
because it's,

460
00:14:53,095 --> 00:14:53,335
it's

461
00:14:53,340 --> 00:14:53,750
embarrassing.

462
00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:54,830
It, it can be.

463
00:14:54,830 --> 00:14:56,540
'cause you don't want
to be the vibe killer.

464
00:14:56,630 --> 00:14:57,170
Yeah.

465
00:14:57,350 --> 00:14:58,970
You don't wanna be the person
mean I was already embarrassed.

466
00:14:59,210 --> 00:14:59,600
Yeah.

467
00:14:59,810 --> 00:15:02,360
Uh, and I honestly, I think.

468
00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:05,060
That accountability and
you saying you're sorry.

469
00:15:05,060 --> 00:15:06,980
I thought that was actually
pretty hot, honestly.

470
00:15:07,370 --> 00:15:09,500
And I think a lot of people
would say the same thing.

471
00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:11,570
'cause it's not something you see often.

472
00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:12,260
Yeah.

473
00:15:12,290 --> 00:15:18,500
Uh, there's a lot of people that we've
seen commit certain acts and offenses.

474
00:15:18,530 --> 00:15:18,860
Yes.

475
00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:21,290
And then they wanna pretend
like it didn't happen

476
00:15:21,290 --> 00:15:22,940
and don't wanna apologize for it.

477
00:15:22,940 --> 00:15:27,200
And they'll blame alcohol or
they'll blame other substances.

478
00:15:27,500 --> 00:15:27,590
Yeah.

479
00:15:27,620 --> 00:15:30,680
Uh, they'll blame a spouse or a friend.

480
00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:32,660
They'll blame all sorts.

481
00:15:33,470 --> 00:15:35,240
But never take actual accountability.

482
00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:35,905
Never take accountability.

483
00:15:35,905 --> 00:15:35,925
I think

484
00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:39,050
taking accountability is so sexy,
man, because it's like, you know what?

485
00:15:39,050 --> 00:15:41,030
You just admitted, Hey,
I'm, I'm fucking human.

486
00:15:41,300 --> 00:15:44,960
I fucked up and I'm not gonna
make that mistake again.

487
00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:45,380
No.

488
00:15:45,380 --> 00:15:45,830
You know what I mean?

489
00:15:45,890 --> 00:15:46,280
No.

490
00:15:46,340 --> 00:15:51,800
Um, and I just ever, but what are
some other creative ways in your

491
00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:54,160
opinion, sweetheart that you could
get outta something like that?

492
00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:54,255
That

493
00:15:54,255 --> 00:15:56,000
I was just thinking about
that today or the other day.

494
00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:57,110
'cause I was like, you know.

495
00:15:57,965 --> 00:15:58,895
The bathroom thing.

496
00:15:58,895 --> 00:16:00,815
Like if we're in the middle of something,
I'd be like, Ooh, I need to go to the

497
00:16:00,815 --> 00:16:01,865
bathroom, honey, can you come with me?

498
00:16:02,225 --> 00:16:02,525
Yeah.

499
00:16:02,805 --> 00:16:03,465
That was pretty tough.

500
00:16:03,495 --> 00:16:03,705
Yeah.

501
00:16:03,705 --> 00:16:07,485
I always have my Apple watch on,
so my next one would be, Ooh,

502
00:16:07,575 --> 00:16:09,105
honey, one of the kids is calling.

503
00:16:09,615 --> 00:16:10,215
Oh, yeah,

504
00:16:10,220 --> 00:16:10,605
yeah, yeah.

505
00:16:10,605 --> 00:16:11,925
So that is one.

506
00:16:12,315 --> 00:16:15,795
Or man, I'm not feeling too good.

507
00:16:16,295 --> 00:16:17,615
I mean, that's kind of a,

508
00:16:18,135 --> 00:16:18,525
I don't know.

509
00:16:18,525 --> 00:16:18,915
That would work.

510
00:16:19,275 --> 00:16:21,165
Those are some, those are some good ones.

511
00:16:21,285 --> 00:16:22,695
Because I need to learn.

512
00:16:23,500 --> 00:16:28,935
I, I know I say that I'm good at that,
but we've had episodes or scenarios where

513
00:16:28,995 --> 00:16:32,435
I was like, ding, I nearly need to know.

514
00:16:32,435 --> 00:16:38,345
I really need to learn how to be a
little louder to, to let you know, to

515
00:16:38,345 --> 00:16:41,765
inform you that I'm not feeling the vibe.

516
00:16:41,990 --> 00:16:42,410
Mm-hmm.

517
00:16:42,410 --> 00:16:42,770
Mm-hmm.

518
00:16:42,776 --> 00:16:46,045
You know, I mean, I usually tell
you, but there's parts, back in

519
00:16:46,045 --> 00:16:48,625
the beginning, there's times where
I'm like, I'm not feeling the vibe.

520
00:16:49,465 --> 00:16:49,765
Yeah.

521
00:16:50,185 --> 00:16:51,655
And you're making out with the girl.

522
00:16:51,925 --> 00:16:52,375
Yeah.

523
00:16:52,675 --> 00:16:53,665
And it's like, damn.

524
00:16:53,995 --> 00:16:54,810
And that would suck.

525
00:16:55,195 --> 00:16:55,735
Damn.

526
00:16:55,735 --> 00:16:56,965
I really should say something.

527
00:16:57,395 --> 00:16:58,660
So I didn't know how to, to do it.

528
00:16:58,775 --> 00:17:03,995
Well, luckily now you're at that point
where you, with our dynamic, you would

529
00:17:03,995 --> 00:17:06,125
basically say, you guys Go ahead.

530
00:17:06,125 --> 00:17:06,965
I can dip out.

531
00:17:06,995 --> 00:17:07,265
Yeah.

532
00:17:07,265 --> 00:17:07,520
Peace.

533
00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:08,225
I'm not feeling it.

534
00:17:08,285 --> 00:17:08,495
Yeah.

535
00:17:08,495 --> 00:17:09,935
But sometimes it's, that's hard too.

536
00:17:10,085 --> 00:17:10,385
Yeah.

537
00:17:10,475 --> 00:17:12,515
Because there's a man there.

538
00:17:13,505 --> 00:17:13,865
Yeah.

539
00:17:14,225 --> 00:17:15,965
And he's expecting something.

540
00:17:16,865 --> 00:17:16,925
Oh,

541
00:17:16,925 --> 00:17:17,370
which is men.

542
00:17:17,510 --> 00:17:17,730
God,

543
00:17:18,150 --> 00:17:18,570
that's

544
00:17:18,575 --> 00:17:18,995
horrible.

545
00:17:19,445 --> 00:17:21,875
Do not expect anything.

546
00:17:21,875 --> 00:17:24,935
But there are men who, if the
woman is making out with you,

547
00:17:24,995 --> 00:17:27,305
they expect something from me.

548
00:17:27,875 --> 00:17:28,355
Wow.

549
00:17:28,415 --> 00:17:28,865
Yeah.

550
00:17:29,315 --> 00:17:29,885
Which

551
00:17:30,335 --> 00:17:31,265
that's a sad truth.

552
00:17:31,325 --> 00:17:31,835
That is.

553
00:17:31,835 --> 00:17:32,315
It is.

554
00:17:32,415 --> 00:17:36,225
Luckily, the people that we surround
ourselves with are not like that.

555
00:17:37,125 --> 00:17:39,915
But there's people still
like that in the clubs.

556
00:17:40,275 --> 00:17:40,575
Yeah,

557
00:17:40,575 --> 00:17:42,855
we still like that in, in the circles.

558
00:17:43,545 --> 00:17:43,935
Yeah.

559
00:17:43,935 --> 00:17:48,285
You know, it, it's to varying degrees,
you know, it's, a lot of people would

560
00:17:48,285 --> 00:17:50,535
like to say that it's, it's newer people.

561
00:17:50,985 --> 00:17:53,055
Uh, no, but it's really, it's not,

562
00:17:53,235 --> 00:17:53,655
no,

563
00:17:53,990 --> 00:17:54,280
it's,

564
00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:57,915
I have not, and I know people
say this, that they don't really

565
00:17:57,915 --> 00:17:58,995
like to deal with newbies.

566
00:17:59,495 --> 00:18:05,065
I have not had any issue
with a newbie person, have

567
00:18:05,230 --> 00:18:05,450
we?

568
00:18:05,510 --> 00:18:05,730
No.

569
00:18:05,735 --> 00:18:06,085
No.

570
00:18:06,085 --> 00:18:11,695
You know, the new people that have
ever been in our circle normally have

571
00:18:11,695 --> 00:18:14,065
a strong relationship, a strong base.

572
00:18:14,660 --> 00:18:17,450
And honestly, they, they
usually listen to our podcast.

573
00:18:18,020 --> 00:18:18,495
But, but

574
00:18:18,495 --> 00:18:19,815
even before our podcast,

575
00:18:20,085 --> 00:18:23,975
yeah, no, we, we never really had
too much trouble with newer people.

576
00:18:24,305 --> 00:18:27,815
There were issues with newer
people adhering to boundaries.

577
00:18:28,595 --> 00:18:29,225
Yes.

578
00:18:29,375 --> 00:18:30,125
That's a thing.

579
00:18:30,215 --> 00:18:30,965
That is a thing.

580
00:18:31,015 --> 00:18:33,345
There, you know, there that's.

581
00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:35,730
Something that hasn't been solidified.

582
00:18:35,730 --> 00:18:38,820
I'm sure that there's a lot of
new people that we've been around

583
00:18:38,820 --> 00:18:40,980
that maybe hadn't found their, no.

584
00:18:41,340 --> 00:18:41,760
Gosh.

585
00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:41,820
Yeah.

586
00:18:41,820 --> 00:18:42,840
That makes me kind of think.

587
00:18:43,110 --> 00:18:43,440
Yeah.

588
00:18:43,590 --> 00:18:45,300
There's a lot of people that
we've been around that I

589
00:18:45,300 --> 00:18:47,850
always felt like we got
enthusiastic consent.

590
00:18:48,350 --> 00:18:48,680
Yeah.

591
00:18:49,610 --> 00:18:51,440
I mean, I've always asked everybody.

592
00:18:52,190 --> 00:18:53,120
I'm a, I'm an asker.

593
00:18:53,120 --> 00:18:53,360
Sure.

594
00:18:53,660 --> 00:18:58,220
This time was the only time I really
didn't, this was me being spontaneous.

595
00:18:58,670 --> 00:18:59,030
Yeah.

596
00:18:59,185 --> 00:19:03,260
So, so does that mean that, uh, the
spontaneity it's gone bug is dead?

597
00:19:03,380 --> 00:19:03,680
I,

598
00:19:04,070 --> 00:19:04,280
yeah.

599
00:19:04,310 --> 00:19:07,370
It's gonna be a very rare
thing if I ever do that again.

600
00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:11,600
Like, I would be like, honey, I'm
gonna go up to this couple right here.

601
00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:12,770
Are you down?

602
00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:13,520
Okay.

603
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,500
And if you say yes, I'll
be like, okay, cool.

604
00:19:15,500 --> 00:19:15,950
Because I'm gonna,

605
00:19:16,250 --> 00:19:23,270
now with that being said, does, is this
gonna prevent you from approaching women?

606
00:19:23,770 --> 00:19:24,190
No,

607
00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:25,295
You'll still be able to approach

608
00:19:25,295 --> 00:19:25,575
women.

609
00:19:25,575 --> 00:19:25,655
Yeah.

610
00:19:25,655 --> 00:19:26,010
I like, that was fun

611
00:19:26,100 --> 00:19:27,030
because that was good.

612
00:19:27,210 --> 00:19:27,810
That was fun.

613
00:19:27,810 --> 00:19:27,990
Yeah.

614
00:19:27,990 --> 00:19:28,110
That

615
00:19:28,110 --> 00:19:28,890
was really sharp.

616
00:19:28,950 --> 00:19:32,130
You know, even if she would've been like,
yeah, and I don't play, I play alone,

617
00:19:32,630 --> 00:19:34,395
then she really would've
said, I'd, let's go over here.

618
00:19:34,395 --> 00:19:34,675
Let's,

619
00:19:34,675 --> 00:19:34,955
let's go.

620
00:19:35,660 --> 00:19:38,630
That would've been real
spontaneous, real fast.

621
00:19:39,140 --> 00:19:40,070
It's Gimme an hour.

622
00:19:40,700 --> 00:19:41,480
Gimme an hour.

623
00:19:41,980 --> 00:19:43,045
Let's take a signup sheet.

624
00:19:43,810 --> 00:19:44,290
That's right.

625
00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:44,490
There.

626
00:19:44,490 --> 00:19:47,840
I told them that we needed to have
you know, like Bridger or like back

627
00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:52,010
in the, I'm just saying bridger the
little cards so they can dance with you.

628
00:19:52,250 --> 00:19:54,830
They used to wear like little
cards on their little wrist.

629
00:19:54,830 --> 00:19:55,460
A little rubber band.

630
00:19:55,730 --> 00:19:58,720
I'm gonna have it like that for
whenever we wanna be like, who's next?

631
00:19:58,780 --> 00:19:59,410
I'm just kidding.

632
00:19:59,470 --> 00:20:01,210
I don't have a lot of solicitors people.

633
00:20:01,210 --> 00:20:01,480
I'm just

634
00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:01,630
kidding.

635
00:20:02,130 --> 00:20:02,925
I'm kidding.

636
00:20:03,465 --> 00:20:06,585
You know, the funniest thing
is, we were having sex in the

637
00:20:06,585 --> 00:20:08,115
middle beds this past weekend.

638
00:20:08,355 --> 00:20:08,775
Yes.

639
00:20:08,835 --> 00:20:12,135
And some guy came up to me
and I don't know who it was.

640
00:20:12,140 --> 00:20:12,930
Gave you a high five.

641
00:20:13,095 --> 00:20:14,535
Gave me a high five.

642
00:20:14,565 --> 00:20:14,775
Yeah.

643
00:20:14,895 --> 00:20:16,425
Which I don't mind, it doesn't bother me.

644
00:20:16,425 --> 00:20:17,715
People always freak out about that.

645
00:20:17,715 --> 00:20:18,085
He was like, Hey,

646
00:20:18,085 --> 00:20:18,330
what's up?

647
00:20:18,330 --> 00:20:18,610
Yeah.

648
00:20:18,615 --> 00:20:20,865
Hey, I, I, I, I always
wanna say hi to you.

649
00:20:20,865 --> 00:20:21,795
And I was like, oh, okay.

650
00:20:21,795 --> 00:20:22,125
Cool.

651
00:20:22,485 --> 00:20:24,645
Well, this is the, the opportune time.

652
00:20:24,645 --> 00:20:26,085
I'm not going anywhere apparently.

653
00:20:26,085 --> 00:20:26,145
Yeah.

654
00:20:26,655 --> 00:20:32,365
But, uh, I find it so funny
that when people interact

655
00:20:32,365 --> 00:20:34,135
with us when we're having sex

656
00:20:34,165 --> 00:20:34,375
Yeah.

657
00:20:34,495 --> 00:20:35,545
Publicly like that.

658
00:20:35,545 --> 00:20:35,605
Yeah.

659
00:20:36,065 --> 00:20:38,855
And not even in a sexual kind of way.

660
00:20:38,860 --> 00:20:38,930
Yeah.

661
00:20:38,930 --> 00:20:40,715
We have our friend, it's literally

662
00:20:41,465 --> 00:20:42,125
we have our friend

663
00:20:42,125 --> 00:20:42,965
fun interactions

664
00:20:42,965 --> 00:20:45,545
who just came and just lay
down next to Adam and we're,

665
00:20:45,545 --> 00:20:46,475
she was just talking to us.

666
00:20:46,745 --> 00:20:48,605
She was just telling us random facts.

667
00:20:48,605 --> 00:20:50,885
You know, I gotta tell you, I
was disappointed there because

668
00:20:50,885 --> 00:20:52,265
you were going down on me.

669
00:20:53,105 --> 00:20:54,395
I'm laying there on the bed.

670
00:20:54,425 --> 00:20:55,535
You're going down on me.

671
00:20:55,745 --> 00:20:56,825
I am very hard.

672
00:20:56,825 --> 00:20:58,355
And your mouth is right there.

673
00:20:58,655 --> 00:20:59,345
She's.

674
00:20:59,705 --> 00:21:01,205
Looking fucking sexy as hell.

675
00:21:01,205 --> 00:21:05,705
She jumps into the bed right next
to me and is basically in my arm.

676
00:21:05,975 --> 00:21:07,385
My hand is on her ass.

677
00:21:07,385 --> 00:21:07,445
Yeah.

678
00:21:07,945 --> 00:21:10,315
I thought something was
gonna ha I was like, yes.

679
00:21:10,315 --> 00:21:11,605
Is this finally happening?

680
00:21:12,115 --> 00:21:12,895
Fuck no.

681
00:21:12,955 --> 00:21:13,885
None of it happened.

682
00:21:13,885 --> 00:21:14,350
She's freaking talking.

683
00:21:14,450 --> 00:21:14,990
Oh my God.

684
00:21:15,265 --> 00:21:16,945
She's the most randomist.

685
00:21:17,035 --> 00:21:22,500
Something about, I don't even remember
why Adam and Eve, whatever, why we

686
00:21:22,500 --> 00:21:23,820
have to bear children and something.

687
00:21:23,820 --> 00:21:26,880
I was like, wow, that's a really good,
that's some really good information.

688
00:21:26,940 --> 00:21:27,625
I can't remember what it was.

689
00:21:27,765 --> 00:21:28,585
It was such a really good,

690
00:21:28,645 --> 00:21:28,865
it

691
00:21:28,865 --> 00:21:29,370
was such a donor thing,

692
00:21:29,370 --> 00:21:30,900
just randomy things.

693
00:21:31,110 --> 00:21:34,110
But yeah, I don't even know why
we, why did we talk about that?

694
00:21:34,260 --> 00:21:37,650
Well, because I was talking about the
interactions when we're in the center bed.

695
00:21:37,650 --> 00:21:37,830
Oh, they're

696
00:21:37,830 --> 00:21:38,340
so weird.

697
00:21:38,390 --> 00:21:41,420
And you know, the, a lot of
them aren't really sexual.

698
00:21:41,420 --> 00:21:41,480
Yeah.

699
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:43,220
I was really hoping that
one was gonna be sexual.

700
00:21:43,340 --> 00:21:46,070
It did not get sexual.

701
00:21:46,070 --> 00:21:46,130
No.

702
00:21:46,670 --> 00:21:47,240
At all.

703
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:47,480
No.

704
00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:48,230
And, uh,

705
00:21:48,470 --> 00:21:50,210
she likes to rough your feathers though,

706
00:21:50,210 --> 00:21:50,630
dude.

707
00:21:50,630 --> 00:21:50,930
Man.

708
00:21:50,930 --> 00:21:51,320
She's.

709
00:21:51,965 --> 00:21:52,825
She knows what she's doing.

710
00:21:53,285 --> 00:21:53,705
She does.

711
00:21:53,725 --> 00:21:54,105
Of course.

712
00:21:54,205 --> 00:21:54,985
She knows what she's doing.

713
00:21:55,485 --> 00:21:56,325
I'm never gonna get it.

714
00:21:56,330 --> 00:21:56,900
She's a sweetheart though.

715
00:21:56,955 --> 00:21:57,825
I'm never getting it.

716
00:21:58,060 --> 00:21:58,300
I know it.

717
00:21:58,700 --> 00:21:59,060
I know it.

718
00:21:59,325 --> 00:22:00,735
And she's always gonna fuck with me.

719
00:22:00,945 --> 00:22:01,815
I'm never getting it.

720
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:03,195
Oh, I love it.

721
00:22:03,375 --> 00:22:03,705
Yeah.

722
00:22:03,710 --> 00:22:03,820
Yeah.

723
00:22:03,820 --> 00:22:04,060
Well

724
00:22:04,060 --> 00:22:08,685
that's, you know, that's what,
but that's something to, we

725
00:22:08,685 --> 00:22:10,125
like to play in the middle beds.

726
00:22:10,125 --> 00:22:14,085
What I've noticed sometimes is when we
talk to somebody and we're like, oh yeah,

727
00:22:14,085 --> 00:22:15,615
we, let's all go to the back and play.

728
00:22:15,675 --> 00:22:16,005
Cool.

729
00:22:16,505 --> 00:22:19,940
A lot of them will say, but I don't, I
don't like playing in the middle beds.

730
00:22:19,940 --> 00:22:19,970
Oh.

731
00:22:19,970 --> 00:22:20,750
I get guys that tell

732
00:22:20,925 --> 00:22:21,085
me that.

733
00:22:21,145 --> 00:22:21,365
I'm

734
00:22:21,365 --> 00:22:23,525
like, we we're not asking you
to play in the middle beds.

735
00:22:23,525 --> 00:22:23,645
Yeah.

736
00:22:23,750 --> 00:22:26,750
I actually tell somebody, I was
like, oh, we don't play with

737
00:22:26,810 --> 00:22:28,430
anybody in the middle beds.

738
00:22:28,460 --> 00:22:31,280
Unless they decide to come
up there and they decide.

739
00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:34,700
Yeah, we, but if we agree to play
with somebody, it's automatically

740
00:22:34,700 --> 00:22:35,870
assumed we're behind closed

741
00:22:35,870 --> 00:22:36,170
doors.

742
00:22:36,170 --> 00:22:36,260
Yeah.

743
00:22:36,260 --> 00:22:38,060
We don't do that with everybody.

744
00:22:38,060 --> 00:22:38,300
Like,

745
00:22:38,300 --> 00:22:38,510
yeah,

746
00:22:39,110 --> 00:22:42,170
I don't think I would like walking
in to the back and seeing you

747
00:22:42,170 --> 00:22:43,280
with somebody in the middle beds.

748
00:22:43,820 --> 00:22:44,260
Well, I mean.

749
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:45,620
If that happened,

750
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:46,300
I'd be like,

751
00:22:46,475 --> 00:22:48,575
it would be because you already knew.

752
00:22:48,695 --> 00:22:49,055
Yeah,

753
00:22:49,085 --> 00:22:49,835
it was coming.

754
00:22:49,985 --> 00:22:53,045
I'd tap you on the
shoulder, honey, right here.

755
00:22:53,545 --> 00:22:56,125
That's kind of, that's kind
of a weird boundary to have.

756
00:22:56,125 --> 00:22:56,185
Yeah.

757
00:22:56,185 --> 00:22:56,365
Because

758
00:22:57,145 --> 00:23:00,635
yeah, don't have public sex
with people in the, the club.

759
00:23:01,505 --> 00:23:02,405
Go hide yourself.

760
00:23:02,405 --> 00:23:04,055
You can have to hide yourself
just on the middle bed.

761
00:23:04,595 --> 00:23:05,195
That's weird.

762
00:23:05,885 --> 00:23:07,385
Oh, so not not our bed.

763
00:23:07,955 --> 00:23:08,675
No, not the middles

764
00:23:08,675 --> 00:23:08,795
at all.

765
00:23:08,795 --> 00:23:10,445
You're saying, oh, none
of the middle beds.

766
00:23:10,945 --> 00:23:11,665
God, you're weird.

767
00:23:12,165 --> 00:23:16,725
I can't take your shit sometimes,
man, that's fucking weird, bro.

768
00:23:17,175 --> 00:23:17,985
I don't even know that.

769
00:23:18,650 --> 00:23:19,005
But ask me.

770
00:23:19,515 --> 00:23:20,475
I don't, they or tell me.

771
00:23:20,535 --> 00:23:21,975
I don't do the group thing.

772
00:23:22,065 --> 00:23:25,110
I was like, you don't have to, you
don't have to do the group thing.

773
00:23:25,110 --> 00:23:25,975
Nobody's asking you to do

774
00:23:25,975 --> 00:23:26,495
a group thing.

775
00:23:26,495 --> 00:23:28,230
I was like, you have to do the
group thing you don't have to do.

776
00:23:28,230 --> 00:23:30,720
I said, and I always tell 'em I don't
play in the middle with anybody,

777
00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:33,975
but I don't, I said, unless we're
doing like a, a big old, you know,

778
00:23:34,035 --> 00:23:34,605
a group thing.

779
00:23:34,815 --> 00:23:35,055
Yeah.

780
00:23:35,060 --> 00:23:35,450
But no.

781
00:23:35,950 --> 00:23:36,070
Yeah.

782
00:23:36,360 --> 00:23:38,970
See what you're missing out on
when you don't go to the club,

783
00:23:38,970 --> 00:23:40,470
especially the club that we go to.

784
00:23:40,470 --> 00:23:40,830
My crazy

785
00:23:40,830 --> 00:23:42,960
is, but you're gonna have an
opportunity, I'll tell you that.

786
00:23:42,990 --> 00:23:43,950
Yes, you are.

787
00:23:43,950 --> 00:23:44,850
You'll have an opportunity.

788
00:23:44,850 --> 00:23:46,710
We'll get into that in just a little bit.

789
00:23:46,770 --> 00:23:46,860
Mm-hmm.

790
00:23:47,850 --> 00:23:52,560
But with that, we do wanna say thank
you to that couple, wherever you are,

791
00:23:52,590 --> 00:23:54,600
for being gracious and understanding.

792
00:23:54,660 --> 00:23:55,050
Yes.

793
00:23:55,050 --> 00:23:57,750
And for everyone listening,
mistakes happen, man.

794
00:23:57,900 --> 00:23:58,830
They must they happen.

795
00:23:59,160 --> 00:23:59,580
Yes.

796
00:23:59,670 --> 00:24:03,780
What defines you in this lifestyle is how
you handle them in the moment and after.

797
00:24:03,930 --> 00:24:04,110
Yeah.

798
00:24:04,590 --> 00:24:05,340
And I handled it.

799
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:05,760
Yeah.

800
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:06,420
Eventually.

801
00:24:06,510 --> 00:24:07,020
Yeah.

802
00:24:07,025 --> 00:24:07,085
Yeah.

803
00:24:07,285 --> 00:24:09,630
I mean, I was trying to be as
fast as I could with it, so

804
00:24:09,630 --> 00:24:09,840
Yeah.

805
00:24:09,870 --> 00:24:11,220
I really wanted to apologize.

806
00:24:11,220 --> 00:24:11,970
You did a good job.

807
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:12,180
Yeah,

808
00:24:12,180 --> 00:24:12,280
you did.

809
00:24:12,615 --> 00:24:13,045
Thank you.

810
00:24:13,170 --> 00:24:17,110
Uh, she handled it eventually,
but it she did handle it for sure.

811
00:24:17,790 --> 00:24:19,200
Couple things before we go.

812
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:24,690
First, if you are not already listening
to us on full swap radio.com, we

813
00:24:24,690 --> 00:24:30,360
do have two shows every Thursday at
2:00 PM Central and 7:00 PM Central.

814
00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:34,860
So come hang out with us there
and cavalcade of adult podcasts.

815
00:24:34,860 --> 00:24:38,580
Yeah, and we have a Live Beyond
Monogamy event coming up.

816
00:24:38,850 --> 00:24:40,920
We want you there guys.

817
00:24:40,950 --> 00:24:41,010
We

818
00:24:41,010 --> 00:24:41,815
want to see you there.

819
00:24:42,060 --> 00:24:43,170
Yeah, it's June 20th.

820
00:24:43,170 --> 00:24:46,830
The Club Eden in San Antonio starts at
9:00 PM You do have to have a membership.

821
00:24:47,190 --> 00:24:49,470
Log on, you'll have more
information about it later.

822
00:24:49,790 --> 00:24:55,190
Come meet us in person, hang out with
the community, and yes, we promise I will

823
00:24:55,190 --> 00:24:58,760
be there hurting anyone Pris will ask.

824
00:24:58,790 --> 00:25:05,270
Oh and yes, I promise that I will
ask before hurting anyone anywhere.

825
00:25:05,770 --> 00:25:06,100
Promise.

826
00:25:06,225 --> 00:25:07,145
Oh, that's hilarious, man.

827
00:25:07,725 --> 00:25:08,655
I freaking love that.

828
00:25:08,745 --> 00:25:09,525
Oh man.

829
00:25:10,035 --> 00:25:10,575
Gut check.

830
00:25:10,575 --> 00:25:11,205
That was a good one.

831
00:25:11,295 --> 00:25:11,625
Yes.

832
00:25:12,195 --> 00:25:14,055
Yeah, we're, so, we're
working on that one.

833
00:25:14,055 --> 00:25:19,135
All the details for that event and any
other events that we have, can be found

834
00:25:19,135 --> 00:25:22,825
at our events tab@wwwon-monogamy.com.

835
00:25:23,035 --> 00:25:25,705
And while you are there, subscribe.

836
00:25:26,340 --> 00:25:29,370
Subscribe, share this episode
with someone who needs to hear it.

837
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:35,130
And if you are on Spotify, an Apple
podcast and geezer and all those other

838
00:25:35,130 --> 00:25:37,110
ones, dude, leave us a review, guys.

839
00:25:37,110 --> 00:25:37,320
Leave

840
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:37,920
us a review.

841
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:38,715
Leave us a review.

842
00:25:39,270 --> 00:25:40,440
It takes 30 seconds.

843
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,360
It don't cost you a thing, I promise.

844
00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:45,595
We're not asking you for a cup of
coffee, although, hey, there's an

845
00:25:45,595 --> 00:25:47,970
ability to put, uh, Tobias Coffee.

846
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:48,450
Yes, there is

847
00:25:48,450 --> 00:25:51,240
at www beyond monogamy com.

848
00:25:51,990 --> 00:25:55,680
With that, thank you so much
for joining us and as always,

849
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,000
we will see you guys next week.

850
00:25:57,150 --> 00:25:57,480
Bye.