Episodes

QUICKIE: When They Want My Spouse and Not Me It stings. It's awkward. And if you've been in the lifestyle long enough, it's happened to you. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris tackle one of the most relatable — and ego-bruising — moments in ethical non-monogamy: when a couple (or someone in the lifestyle) makes it crystal clear they're interested in your partner... but not really in you. From getting iced out at meetups, to a couple literally texting only one of them with interest, t...

Episode Summary Adam and Pris sit down with Natasha Helfer , AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, and founder of Symmetry Counseling, for one of the most powerful conversations in Beyond Monogamy history. Natasha spent three decades helping people untangle religious trauma, sexual shame, and purity culture — and then made national headlines when she was excommunicated from the LDS Church for speaking openly about sex, faith, and mental health. In this episode, we dig into why so many people l...

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we. On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure . Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit. Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutall...

What does it take to build the world's largest lifestyle event from a house party to a 3,000+ person New Orleans takeover? Adam and Pris sit down with Bob Hannaford , founder and CEO of Naughty Events and the mastermind behind Naughty N'Awlins — the most iconic swinger and kink convention on the planet. Bob pulls back the curtain on 28 years of growth, the Cathedral of Kink dungeon, the Sexual Freedom Parade, consent culture at scale, and what makes Naughty N'Awlins unlike any event in the lifes...

The guest didn't show up. The mics were already hot. What happened next became one of our most real, unfiltered episodes yet. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie , Adam and Pris got caught mid-conversation while waiting on a no-show guest — and what started as backstage small talk turned into a deep, raw, hilarious dive into ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, jealousy, compersion, and what it actually looks like to evolve as a couple in the lifestyle. They cover: Why they didn't do polyamory...

She had rules. She had walls. She had a clipboard full of hard limits. Eighteen months later? Adam pulled the receipts — and Pris had some explaining to do. In this episode, Adam flips the script and puts Pris in the hot seat for a long-overdue evolution check-in . Armed with direct quotes from Episode 1 , he revisits every bold declaration Pris made when Beyond Monogamy launched — and finds out just how much has changed after 18 months in the ENM and swinger lifestyle . What we cover: From "I d...

Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately. Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-...

This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory . Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more ...

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle? Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks abou...

This week on Beyond Monogamy , Adam and Pris sit down with Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers — and yes, the name is exactly as real as it sounds. Nobody planned this. Not the lifestyle, not the podcast, not the Uber makeout session that started it all. And yet here we are. These two are OG voices in the ENM space, and in this episode they pull zero punches. We get the full origin story, an honest conversation about jealousy and emotional connection, the real talk on menopause and a...

What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie. It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit, ...

What if somebody finally made the documentary that explains ethical non-monogamy the way it always should have been explained? No sensationalism. No clipboard outsiders. Just real people, real experts, and real community — with humor baked in. This week, Adam & Pris sit down with the three-person creative team behind More Than Monogamy : director Dylan Birdsall of All the Birds LLC , and Urvashi & Kama from Spark Erotic — award-winning erotic filmmakers with 25 films and 11 years in the game. In...

Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof. This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming. In this episode: Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it The communication ...

Adam and Pris just got back from a week-long Florida trip — Disney World with the kids by day, and a night at the Florida Tree House lifestyle club that completely blew their minds. This episode covers all of it: the rides, the food, the play, a very forward woman who gave Adam the blueprint he never knew he needed, and a real conversation about feeling unsexy when life is piling up. Show Notes Disney World Recap Yes, World — not Disneyland (Adam got corrected fast). Six miles a day in brutal hu...

Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones . On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running. In this episode: Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you) Full-body shots, filters, and ...

An MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist sits down with Adam and Pris to talk about the one thing the lifestyle can't afford to ignore — comprehensive, convenient, stigma-free STI and hormone testing you can do from home... Episode Summary Adam and Pris open with a confession: testing is something their community talks about in theory but often dreads in practice. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and the anxiety of going in at all — the system has built mo...

An MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist sits down with Adam and Pris to talk about the one thing the lifestyle can't afford to ignore — comprehensive, convenient, stigma-free STI and hormone testing you can do from home. Episode Summary Adam and Pris open with a confession: testing is something their community talks about in theory but often dreads in practice. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and the anxiety of going in at all — the system has built more...

What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real. About This Episode A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was ...

Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything . Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and...

QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It) Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it. In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on the ...

Today we are going there. Full send. Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP) , host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma . Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of ...

We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic? In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel tak...

This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a we...

This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working , recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday , and trust us, you're going to want to hear it. But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hot...