Episodes

That gorgeous couple sliding into your DMs? Yeah... about that. In this revisited episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris dive into catfishing in the swinger lifestyle — the fake profiles, filtered photos, and flat-out fictional people lurking in ethical non-monogamy spaces. With 15 years in the lifestyle, they've seen (and nearly fallen for) it all. In this episode: Adam's AOL chat room days — and the too-perfect mystery woman who vanished Filters, angles, and 20-year-old photos: where does ...

What’s your dynamic? It’s the one question every couple new to the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) needs to know how to answer — and Adam & Pris break it down in this Wednesday Quickie. They dig into full swap vs. soft swap, same room vs. same roof vs. separate play, and why knowing (and stating) your dynamic up front saves everyone’s time. Plus: mismatched libidos, menopause and the lifestyle, learning to say no, and why non-monogamy really is a team sport. In this episode: W...

What were your first swinger experiences really like? A listener couple just entering the swinger lifestyle dropped that question in our anonymous confessional, and Adam & Pris answer it with zero filter. From a drunk Halloween party that went completely sideways to a first full swap that turned into a lifelong friendship, this is the ethical non-monogamy origin story we've never told on the show — mistakes, jealousy, death glares, and all. In this episode: The Halloween party "non-experience" ...

Birthdays hit different in the swinger lifestyle. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris recap Adam's entire birthday weekend — from free sopapillas and a taco-house serenade to a full-blown celebration at their home club that proves ethical non-monogamy knows how to throw a party. In this episode of your favorite swinger podcast: Birthday breakfast at Eddie's Taco House, where Adam campaigned like a politician for free sopapillas An intimate dinner with three other couples —...

Swinger? Poly? Friends with benefits? If you've ever mixed them up, you're in good company — Adam's own barber had no clue. This week on Beyond Monogamy, real-life couple Adam & Pris break down the real differences between swinging, polyamory, and friends with benefits in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) world — from a couple who has lived all three and collected a few red flags along the way. In this episode: Why so many swingers think they want polyamory… when what they really want is friends w...

What actually makes a swinger club great? On this Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris throw open the doors of their home club — Club Eden San Antonio — for a candid, laugh-out-loud review of everything a lifestyle club should be. Whether you're a seasoned swinger or just ethical non-monogamy curious, consider this your field guide to on-premise club life. In this episode: The #1 thing to look for in any swinger club (hint: it's not the dance floor) Why vigilant staff make or break a lifestyle club ...

This one's serious, y'all — but it's a conversation the swinger lifestyle needs. Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on one of the darkest corners of ethical non-monogamy: sexual predators in the lifestyle. It's not the highlight reel, but after seeing too much of it lately, they're saying the quiet part out loud. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for lifestyle-curious couples and ENM veterans alike: What actually makes a predator — the difference between an awkward newbie'...

Slut. It used to be the worst thing you could call someone. On this Wednesday Quickie, swinger lifestyle veterans Adam & Pris grab the S-word by the collar and ask: what actually makes someone slutty — and why are we still letting a word from the 1400s do our thinking for us? In this candid ethical non-monogamy (ENM) conversation, the real-life couple behind Beyond Monogamy digs into slut-shaming, double standards, and why the swinger community doesn't just tolerate sluttiness — it celebrates i...

Kink 101: Fetish vs. Kink, Power Exchange & Hot Wifing with The Kink Consultant We're stepping outside our usual non-monogamy lane and into the wide, wild world of kink with special guest Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant. Amanda is a certified somatic sex & relationship coach and sexologist (and former NYC dominatrix!) who breaks down the real difference between a "kink" and a "fetish," why labels actually help you find yourself, and how power exchange, hot wifing, pre-claiming, and reclaim...

In-the-Moment Jealousy in ENM: A Listener's Voicemail Confession Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — This week's Quickie tackles one of the most relatable topics in ethical non-monogamy: that flash of jealousy that hits in the moment, even when everything else feels solid. An anonymous listener sent in a voicemail describing a familiar scene: a good time at a pool party or meet-and-greet, a partner doing something he thought he was okay with... and then that sudden hand squeeze or whispered "pl...

She's been with over a dozen people in the lifestyle — and has never once had an orgasm with any of them. Meanwhile, her husband comes every time. More than once. At the club. This week, Adam & Pris dive headfirst into one of the most common — and least talked-about — issues in the lifestyle: the orgasm gap. Is it a vetting problem? A communication problem? A men-are-oblivious problem? (Spoiler: yes, yes, and yes.) In This Episode: Why the orgasm gap is real — and gets worse in the lifestyle ...

Episode Summary: Things got real this week on Beyond Monogamy. Adam and Pris pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like when financial stress collides with the swinging lifestyle — missed events, killed libidos, emotional eating, and the very adult decision to stay home and pay the bills instead of living that highlight reel. They open up about skipping Naughty N'awlins 2026 and the Port Aransas beach takeover, navigating life on one income, the struggle to grow an OnlyFans when you a...

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sits down with Stirling Cooper — former adult film star, ex-male escort, and now one of the world's most sought-after intimacy and sexual performance coaches for men. This one gets real, fast. Stirling breaks down how he cracked the swinger scene as a single male in Australia, built a high-class escorting career, won awards in adult film, and then walked away from it all to help everyday men take control of their sex lives. We also find out what celery has to do...

QUICKIE: When They Want My Spouse and Not Me It stings. It's awkward. And if you've been in the lifestyle long enough, it's happened to you. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris tackle one of the most relatable — and ego-bruising — moments in ethical non-monogamy: when a couple (or someone in the lifestyle) makes it crystal clear they're interested in your partner... but not really in you. From getting iced out at meetups, to a couple literally texting only one of them with interest, ...

Episode Summary Adam and Pris sit down with Natasha Helfer, AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, and founder of Symmetry Counseling, for one of the most powerful conversations in Beyond Monogamy history. Natasha spent three decades helping people untangle religious trauma, sexual shame, and purity culture — and then made national headlines when she was excommunicated from the LDS Church for speaking openly about sex, faith, and mental health. In this episode, we dig into why so many people l...

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we. On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure. Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit. Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutall...

What does it take to build the world's largest lifestyle event from a house party to a 3,000+ person New Orleans takeover? Adam and Pris sit down with Bob Hannaford, founder and CEO of Naughty Events and the mastermind behind Naughty N'Awlins — the most iconic swinger and kink convention on the planet. Bob pulls back the curtain on 28 years of growth, the Cathedral of Kink dungeon, the Sexual Freedom Parade, consent culture at scale, and what makes Naughty N'Awlins unlike any event in the lifest...

The guest didn't show up. The mics were already hot. What happened next became one of our most real, unfiltered episodes yet. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris got caught mid-conversation while waiting on a no-show guest — and what started as backstage small talk turned into a deep, raw, hilarious dive into ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, jealousy, compersion, and what it actually looks like to evolve as a couple in the lifestyle. They cover: Why they didn't do polyamory...

She had rules. She had walls. She had a clipboard full of hard limits. Eighteen months later? Adam pulled the receipts — and Pris had some explaining to do. In this episode, Adam flips the script and puts Pris in the hot seat for a long-overdue evolution check-in. Armed with direct quotes from Episode 1, he revisits every bold declaration Pris made when Beyond Monogamy launched — and finds out just how much has changed after 18 months in the ENM and swinger lifestyle. What we cover: From "I don...

Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately. Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-...

This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory. Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more f...

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle? Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks abo...

This week on Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris sit down with Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers — and yes, the name is exactly as real as it sounds. Nobody planned this. Not the lifestyle, not the podcast, not the Uber makeout session that started it all. And yet here we are. These two are OG voices in the ENM space, and in this episode they pull zero punches. We get the full origin story, an honest conversation about jealousy and emotional connection, the real talk on menopause and a...

What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie. It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit,...