Episodes

What happens when fantasy crashes into reality in the lifestyle? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris dive into two anonymous confessional submissions that hit on some of the biggest challenges in ethical non-monogamy: unrealistic expectations, red flags, obligation, and jealousy. The first story? A couple casually posts they’ll be at a lifestyle hotel in Palm Springs. A husband — who they’ve NEVER spoken to — drives three hours expecting play. No chemistry. Pushy energy. Awk...

This week on Beyond Monogamy, we’re diving into two powerful throwback QUICKIE episodes that still hit just as hard today. First up: How do you even bring up swinging or ethical non-monogamy with your partner? That first conversation can either build connection or completely derail a relationship. We break down what worked for us, what didn’t, and how to approach the topic of open relationships, swinging, or lifestyle exploration without triggering insecurity, defensiveness, or emotional chaos. We cover: Why timing matters when bringing up non-monogamy How to use a “preamble” instead of dropping a bomb Why alcohol and emotional fights are NOT the place The importance of reassurance and boundaries How to prepare yourself for a no Why consent between partners matters just as much as consent with others Then we pivot into raw listener confessions about rejection in the lifestyle, BDSM exploration, fear of vulnerability, and mixing vanilla life with lifestyle life. …

Ever been told your relationship “isn’t real love”? Ever had someone look at ethical non-monogamy and decide they’re suddenly the moral authority over your life? Yeah. Same. In this QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re diving into something nobody talks about enough — the judgment that comes from outside the lifestyle… and sometimes even inside it. From preachy YouTube comments to family backlash, from internet trolls to real-life bullies, we’re unpacking: Why people feel superior about monogamy Why ENM triggers others so deeply How to respond without losing your mind Why judgment is usually projection What to say when someone brings up your sex life at work And why living your truth will ALWAYS make someone uncomfortable We share personal stories about coming out as poly, losing friends and family, dealing with pushy red flags in the lifestyle, and how jealousy, shame, and conditioning shape the way people react to consensual non-monogamy.…

What happens when modern dating culture, social media, jealousy, and ethical non-monogamy collide under one roof? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we unpack a real-life situation that sparked a powerful conversation about cheating, secrecy, emotional maturity, and the difference between ethical openness and dishonest behavior. Our kids know we are ethically non-monogamous. They understand open relationships. But this week proved something important: Underst...

Thinking about going to your first swinger club but feeling nervous, anxious, or unsure what to expect? This Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is your ultimate beginner’s guide to lifestyle clubs. We break down exactly what happens at a swinger club, what to wear, what to bring, how memberships work, what club etiquette looks like, and the biggest mistakes newbies make their first time. Whether you're attending a themed lifestyle event, curious about ethical non-mono...

Most people think swinging is all vibes, chemistry, and “we’ll figure it out when we get there.” In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we explain why that mindset is exactly why so many couples struggle early on. We’re recording live on location at Forbidden Fruit, one of the most respected adult education spaces in Texas, and sitting down with Jonny — the man behind some of the most popular lifestyle workshops in the community. From Fellatio 101 and BDSM 101 to rope classes, co...

Everybody talks about how hot the swinging lifestyle is. Nobody talks about the emotional whiplash. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we get brutally honest about the parts of swinging that don’t show up in fantasies, porn, or Instagram highlight reels — the stuff that quietly hits you after your first party, your first rejection, or your first “why do I feel like this?” moment. We break down the biggest reality checks people experience when they start swinging, including: ...

Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will “protect the relationship” but often do the exact opposite. From “no feelings allowed” to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can’t, we bre...

Unfiltered but Not Unkind is one of those episodes that needed to happen. In this raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation, Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on the lifestyle behaviors we all quietly side-eye… but rarely say out loud. This isn’t a call-out episode. There’s no rage, no dunking, and definitely no drama farming. Instead, it’s thoughtful honesty, humor, and real talk about swinger etiquette, communication breakdowns, confidence versus self-awareness, and why “just communicate mor...

What happens when the swinger lifestyle starts to feel less like freedom and more like permission? In this raw and honest Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris unpack a listener confession that hits closer to home than most people want to admit: one-sided rules in the lifestyle. The listener describes a dynamic where her husband controls who she can play with, forbids single men, and ultimately restricts her from being with men at all—while she places no rules on him and genuinely wants him t...

This episode is a deep, grounded, and powerful conversation. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with relationship and sexuality professional Martha Kauppi, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, educator, and founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy. Martha works at the intersection of intimacy, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relationship patterns — helping people understand not just what’s happening in their relationships, but why it’s happ...

This Wednesday Quickie goes places. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a real, unfiltered conversation about how to set up a gang bang — not the porn version, but the actual real-life logistics, planning, communication, and consent that go into making a fantasy like this happen. Pris opens up about a long-standing bucket-list fantasy and makes one thing crystal clear: this experience is about her pleasure, her comfort, and her rules. From hand-selecting ...

If you’ve ever seen photos of adults-only lifestyle cruises or hotel takeovers and thought, “That looks incredible… but also a little intimidating,” this episode is for you. Adam & Pris sit down with Claudia and Pepe Aguirre of LLV Club (Luxury Lifestyle Vacations) to pull back the curtain on what luxury lifestyle travel actually looks like — from cruises and hotel takeovers to immersive, adults-only experiences around the world. LLV Club is known for blending upscale travel, ethical non-monog...

Welcome to Swinger 101 — the episode we wish every curious couple listened to before jumping into the lifestyle. In this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris break down the real basics of swinging in a way only Beyond Monogamy can: honest, funny, raw, and actually helpful. If you’re brand new, lifestyle-curious, or still Googling questions at 2am, this episode is for you. We cover what swinging really is (and what it absolutely is not), how it differs from open relationships and polyamory, and why s...

What happens when non-monogamy stops being about labels and starts being about lived experience? In this powerful and deeply honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re joined by speaker, author, and relationship coach Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers for a conversation that goes far beyond surface-level polyamory talk. This episode is all about learning how to live non-monogamy on your own terms — not the internet’s, not your partner’s, and definitely not some outdated rulebook you nev...

Is lasting longer in bed really the goal—or have we been getting it wrong this whole time? In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a topic that gets whispered about but rarely discussed honestly: instant gratification in sex. After a real-life conversation at the club sparked a bigger realization, Adam and Pris unpack why so many people—especially women—actually prefer when sex doesn’t drag on forever. From cultural myths about “five-minute ...

Polyamory doesn’t have to be confusing, chaotic, or emotionally overwhelming. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with award-winning sex and relationships educator Leanne Yau—the brilliant mind behind Poly Philia Blog—to unpack jealousy, boundaries, emotional security, and why non-monogamy isn’t a “phase” or a lack of commitment. Leanne shares how she discovered non-monogamy at a young age, how being cheated on shaped her views of honesty and trust, and why jealousy...

Compersion Isn’t Automatic — And That’s Completely Normal Compersion gets talked about a lot in ethical non-monogamy — sometimes like it’s a requirement, sometimes like it’s a badge of honor. But what happens when it just… doesn’t come naturally? In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we get real about jealousy, emotional processing, missed conversations, and the pressure people feel to “do non-monogamy right.” This is a raw, honest conversation pulled straight ...

Episode Summary: In this powerful and overdue conversation, Adam & Pris are joined by Ashley and Rob from the United Bi Swinging Podcast to talk openly about bisexual men in the swinging lifestyle, the stigma that still exists even in sex-positive spaces, and why honest communication matters more than labels. Ashley shares how Rob came out early in their relationship and why that honesty laid the foundation for trust instead of fear. Rob opens up about navigating bisexuality as a man in the lif...

In this Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re calling out one of the biggest turn-offs in the lifestyle: entitlement disguised as “being ghosted.” Just because someone doesn’t reply immediately doesn’t mean they disappeared — it usually means they’re busy living a real life. This episode was sparked by a real interaction on Reddit where a lack of instant replies turned into accusations, guilt-tripping, and a crash course in what not to do when talking to people in...

Episode Summary In this spicy, hilarious, and brutally honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with lifestyle newcomer and content creator Rae Crush for a conversation that covers everything from cosplaying as anime cats to navigating entitlement, sex work stigma, hypersexuality, and what it’s really like being a single bisexual woman (aka a unicorn) in the lifestyle. Rae shares how she stumbled into the lifestyle, why she immediately felt at home, and how her journey a...

In this Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re recapping one of our wildest, sexiest, and most unforgettable nights yet — our official Beyond Monogamy Meet & Greet at Club Eden San Antonio. From arriving early to record a live podcast with content creator Rae, to dancing, pizza breaks, lingerie changes, and multiple unexpected play sessions, this night turned into the ultimate reminder of why we love this lifestyle. We talk about: Hosting our first Beyond Monogam...

SUMMARY Ever wonder what the original sexual revolution really looked like? Before there were swinger apps, lifestyle websites, or even the term “ethical non-monogamy,” there were people just living it — raw, real, and unapologetic. In this week’s episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Sam L. Feldman — author of Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances — to talk about what life and love looked like in the 60s and 70s when freedom was brand new, communication was everything, a...

This Week’s QUICKIE: Confessionals This week’s QUICKIE goes deep into the Beyond Monogamy Confessional — the anonymous submission box where listeners spill their wildest lifestyle stories. Adam & Pris read through real confessions about losing interest in the lifestyle, navigating rejection, and the never-ending battle with “horny brain.” From saying no gracefully to balancing trust in BDSM play, it’s equal parts sexy, funny, and real-life relatable. They also shout out The Happy Swinger for ...