Swinger Seat Swap: Adam & Pris Answer ENM Questions

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All right, y'all.

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Before we dive in, a quick heads-up This
show is raw, real, and definitely not

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rated PG We're talking about adult themes,
sexual content, and the kinda stuff you

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probably don't want blasting through
your speakers at work or around your

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kids So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice, and get comfy Oh, and

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just so we're clear, we are not licensed
therapists, counselors, or sex couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches Not sex couches We're
just a couple of people sharing

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our lives, experiences, and sexy
adventures in ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a chair and
enjoy the show Hello, and welcome to

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another episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And on today's quickie, we're talking
about what happens when we swap seats.

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Adam is answering as me, I'm answering as
Adam, and we're answering your lifestyle

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polyamory, kink, and ENM questions in
each other's voice style and opinions.

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Oh, guys, he doesn't tell me what's
happening until it's happening, and let

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me tell you- … this is gonna be good.

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Yeah, yeah.

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No coaching, no interrupting, and
no getting mad at the impression.

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No hurt feelings, homie.

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Why you look at me?

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Well, because- We- … between
the two of us- Okay, we make

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no promises- You're, you-

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on that last one, guys … you're
the scarier person-

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Okay … so I'm just saying.

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Um- And I apologize, I am struggling
with a little sinus infection

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here, or sinus issue, so yeah.

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It's just allergies.

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Anyway, so here's how it works.

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Okay.

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We take turns.

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Okay.

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One of us asks a question, the other one
answers as their partner would with the

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voice, the attitude, and the opinion.

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Okay.

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Then the real person can jump in with,
"Yep, that's me," or, "Close, but

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here's what I'd actually say." Okay.

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Okay?

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Wow.

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15 years in, so this should be fun.

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And Adam, you're up first, baby.

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You're me.

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Yeah.

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All right.

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Okay.

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Question one.

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A couple is about to go to their
very first lifestyle party.

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What is the one thing they need
to know before they walk in?

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You're answering as me.

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Gotcha.

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Okay.

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Gotcha.

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I need to, I need to really- … kind of
- Focus on- I need to center … center.

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Center, yeah.

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Center yourself.

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Lion face.

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Sour face.

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Hmm.

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Okay.

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Okay, I think I'm in
the, in the zone here.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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All right.

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So I'm the- A couple is about to go
to their very first lifestyle party.

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What is the one thing they need
to know before they walk in?

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Watch out for predators, okay?

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Especially those damn dirty men.

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Those men don't know how
to keep boundaries, okay?

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And let me tell you something,
what you should do is do what I do.

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I carry knives on me just
in case I gotta cut a bitch.

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Yeah.

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I mean, I wouldn't have to cut a bitch.

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No, but- Cut a motherfucker.

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You would… Yeah.

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Okay.

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That's pretty good.

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Yeah?

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Kudos.

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I felt pretty proud of myself.

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One point for Adam.

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All right.

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Are we scoring here?

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W- no, I actually, uh, I didn't
wanna score because you get very

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competitive, and I am not trying to
go there- Okay … through that today.

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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So it's my turn now.

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Okay.

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Sweetheart, you are me.

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You are me.

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Okay.

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Channel me, okay?

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Okay.

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'Cause we're going into question two.

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Okay.

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My question for Adam, for female
Adam is, is jealousy something

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to avoid in ethical non-monogamy,
or something to work through?

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Whoa I think it's something to
work through because, you know,

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guys, it's normal to be jealous.

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My wife has been jealous about
everything for 15 years, and let

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me tell you how this is gonna work.

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Jealousy is not something you avoid
in ethical non-monogamy, guys.

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That is something you work through.

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You don't, you don't ignore that.

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I've had to deal with this woman's
jealousy for 15 years, and look at us now.

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So it is something you work through.

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If you want to succeed in ethical, in
the, you know, ethical non-monogamy

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life, then you have to be able
to work things out like that.

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And I'm curious, what do you think?

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Is that, is that it?

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That's it.

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That scene?

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Yeah.

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That was good.

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Scene.

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That was good.

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That was p- I mean, I
agree with the message.

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The delivery, well, I mean,
I, I can't deny that that

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sounded a little bit like me.

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The… I mean, you made me sound
a little bit like a, like a

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dumb deputy dog kind of person.

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But that's okay.

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The court will accept it.

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Okay.

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Thank you.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Question three: what is the
biggest misconception people

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have about swinging, male Pris?

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What is the biggest misconception
people have about swinging?

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I know how I would answer that.

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No, uh-uh.

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But I… So I'm trying to
channel you on this one.

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Okay.

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Channel me.

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Okay.

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Get it.

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Go.

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What is that?

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Biggest misconception people have
about swinging is that we all

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fuck everybody, and we don't.

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We don't.

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As a matter of fact, I don't fuck anybody.

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I only fuck my husband, and even
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may not because that's how I do it.

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What do you think?

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Why do you make me sound so sassy?

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You're sassy and aggressive.

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I mean- You're saggressive.

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I, I y- yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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That's, that's one of the biggest
misconceptions people have about swinging.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I think I've heard you say that before.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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My turn.

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Question four: what is the biggest
misconception people have about polyamory?

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I say the word, and your eyes roll.

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Oh.

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You're not in character, honey.

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Wait.

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Okay.

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I'm in character now.

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Yeah.

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Polyamory, that's my favorite.

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What's the biggest misconception
people have about polyamory?

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Well, I would say that
it can actually be done.

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Like, people m- people don't think that
it's an actual thing that can happen.

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But in my head, I'm polyamorous.

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Wait, I said that out loud.

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The biggest misconception
people have… Stop.

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The biggest misconception
people have about polyamory is

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that it's an actual lifestyle.

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People think that it can't be done,
but it can be done, and God, I wish

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it could be done in my household.

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Scene.

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Yeah.

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You get points on that one.

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That was- Yeah … pretty good.

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Right?

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Pretty good.

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I'm kinda jealous of this Adam.

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This Adam feels very free
to say what he wants.

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Jealous.

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Unlike the, unlike the male Pris.

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Okay, real quick before we get back
into it, we gotta talk about sdc.com.

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Oh, yes.

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Okay, so if you don't know SDC,
it's basically the largest online

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community for open-minded adults.

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Which if you're listening to this show
right now, I feel like you probably

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already know if that's your scene.

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Yeah.

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It's your people all in one place.

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Just make a profile and go explore.

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No weirdness, no judgment, just
a ton of like-minded humans

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living their lives, just like us.

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Honestly, it's kinda
fun just to poke around.

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Yeah, it really is.

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Go sign up at sdc.com.

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Use code 38236.

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Link's in the show notes.

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Okay, now back to what we were saying.

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Yes

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All right.

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All right.

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Question five.

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Someone wants to bring up a kink with
their partner for the first time.

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How should they do it?

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Well, it depends on the kink because
if the kink is somehow polyamorous, you

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just stuff that shit deep down inside.

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Isn't that right, baby?

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Yeah?

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You just stuff it down inside.

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Just kidding.

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No.

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I was like, "Yeah, that's
pretty much it," right.

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Uh, no, let's see.

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Uh- Someone wants to bring up a kink
with their partner for the first time.

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How should they do it, male Pris?

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Well, it just, you have to communicate.

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You have to communicate.

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It doesn't matter how sensitive your
partner is, you have to not give a fuck.

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Like, you can love your partner,
but you also can not give a fuck

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about how you're gonna communicate.

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Like, you should just say it.

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If you wanna just say it, just say it.

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Just say it.

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Just say it.

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Communicate.

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Scene?

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Scene.

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And I would add, and if they
don't like it, fuck 'em.

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Damn, I was missing out on that one.

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I, I should have thrown that one in there.

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Do you think, why do you sound louder
when it, when you're answering for me?

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You get so aggressive.

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Do I get so aggressive?

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Um- Am I getting aggressive?

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Totally.

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Totally aggressive.

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Okay.

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Yeah, sassy and aggressive.

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And louder.

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You get louder.

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Whatever.

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Go ahead.

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Okay.

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Question number six.

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What is the difference between a rule and
a boundary, and which one matters more?

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Well, a rule is something
that cannot be broken.

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Oh, wait.

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Am I answering- You're answering
as me … I'm answering as you.

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I think that's great.

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If I was interviewing you.

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What is the difference between a rule
and a boundary, and which matters more?

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Man, you gave me a hard one.

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They're all hard.

267
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Well, I think a rule is something that can
be bent, and a boundary is just something

268
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my wife made up, and all the rules
and boundaries that we have are hers.

269
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So you might wanna, you
know- … ask her that question.

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Scene.

271
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No.

272
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I can't give you points on that one
'cause that message is not even… I mean,

273
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it's maybe a quarter of the way correct,
but 75% of the message- … is wrong.

274
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Okay.

275
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Just for the record, the differences
between a rule and a boundary, a rule is

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something that you put on someone else.

277
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Which I do.

278
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A boundary is what you put on yourself.

279
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So if I- Oh my God.

280
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If I have a rule that says, "You are
not allowed to…" Oh, you know what?

281
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A good example would be- This creator
that we follow, and we've had him on the

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show, he had done a TikTok not too long
ago- Mm-hmm … getting into the rules

283
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and boundaries portion of the whole thing.

284
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Mm-hmm.

285
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And he said, and I thought it was a
great example, "A rule would be if I

286
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told you, 'You need to quit smoking.
I, I want you to quit smoking.'" Okay.

287
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"So no more smoking for you." Mm-hmm.

288
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That's me putting a rule on you.

289
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Whereas a boundary would be, "I would
really… I, I really try to stay away

290
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from any place where smoking is happening,
and I'm just not gonna be around anybody

291
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who's smoking or smells like smoke."

292
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Okay.

293
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Mm-hmm.

294
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So in other words, a rule is
something that you place on someone

295
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else, and it's more for control.

296
00:10:12,451 --> 00:10:12,781
Okay.

297
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And a boundary is more for yourself
and how you can control yourself

298
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and, and, and that sort of thing
and how you can keep yourself.

299
00:10:19,541 --> 00:10:20,501
Oh, okay, okay, okay.

300
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Yeah.

301
00:10:21,091 --> 00:10:23,641
So that's always been the diff-
And, you know, and I think

302
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that boundaries matter more.

303
00:10:25,921 --> 00:10:30,061
And I would never refer people to my wife
even though she does make all the rules.

304
00:10:30,571 --> 00:10:32,111
There you go, so you didn't get that one.

305
00:10:32,201 --> 00:10:32,651
Whatever.

306
00:10:32,781 --> 00:10:33,651
You're up, slugger.

307
00:10:33,651 --> 00:10:33,971
It's me?

308
00:10:34,171 --> 00:10:34,491
Yeah.

309
00:10:34,551 --> 00:10:34,921
Okay.

310
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Question seven: A married couple
is thinking about opening up.

311
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What is your best advice?

312
00:10:40,791 --> 00:10:41,261
Ooh.

313
00:10:41,381 --> 00:10:41,951
Best advice.

314
00:10:42,751 --> 00:10:45,671
What is your best advice, Male Pris?

315
00:10:46,501 --> 00:10:46,511
Hmm.

316
00:10:46,521 --> 00:10:51,111
Best advice I would tell a
married couple who's thinking

317
00:10:51,241 --> 00:10:53,971
about opening up is don't react.

318
00:10:54,141 --> 00:10:58,401
I'm very reactive, and sometimes,
not all the time, but sometimes my

319
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husband will say something stupid,
and I'm like, "Ugh," and I'll react.

320
00:11:02,231 --> 00:11:03,631
And we'll end up in a fight.

321
00:11:03,701 --> 00:11:08,311
And it's not always his fault, but most of
the time it's his fault, and it's because

322
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of the way he tells me, but then I react.

323
00:11:10,061 --> 00:11:11,051
And maybe I shouldn't react.

324
00:11:11,071 --> 00:11:11,791
And you know what?

325
00:11:11,911 --> 00:11:12,681
Don't react.

326
00:11:12,941 --> 00:11:16,981
Don't react, and just process
because I will process.

327
00:11:17,031 --> 00:11:18,171
You should process.

328
00:11:18,201 --> 00:11:23,171
You sit, and you think about it, and
then you tell them what you're thinking.

329
00:11:23,461 --> 00:11:29,531
But really The person who's
telling the reactor should really

330
00:11:29,551 --> 00:11:32,461
be soft with how you tell them.

331
00:11:32,581 --> 00:11:33,401
End scene.

332
00:11:33,671 --> 00:11:34,331
I'll give it to you.

333
00:11:34,351 --> 00:11:34,841
Yeah?

334
00:11:35,341 --> 00:11:36,491
That's a good- Why you get so loud?

335
00:11:36,491 --> 00:11:37,391
Baby, 'cause that's, 'cause you're loud.

336
00:11:37,391 --> 00:11:41,161
I'm just channeling you, that's all.

337
00:11:41,391 --> 00:11:41,941
Fine.

338
00:11:41,971 --> 00:11:43,821
This is just, this is an us thing, baby.

339
00:11:43,831 --> 00:11:44,531
This is an us thing.

340
00:11:44,541 --> 00:11:44,931
Okay.

341
00:11:44,981 --> 00:11:46,171
All right, question eight.

342
00:11:46,681 --> 00:11:47,701
Boy, there's a lot of questions.

343
00:11:48,031 --> 00:11:53,231
So question number eight, what
is the most overrated piece

344
00:11:53,271 --> 00:11:55,021
of advice in the lifestyle?

345
00:11:55,241 --> 00:11:59,061
Well, I think the overrate- the most
overrated piece of advice in the

346
00:11:59,061 --> 00:12:02,421
lifestyle is people think expectations.

347
00:12:02,621 --> 00:12:07,411
You go into a party and they expect stuff,
and that's one of the most overrated.

348
00:12:07,671 --> 00:12:12,091
You know, you tell a friend, "Hey,
you know, come to the lifestyle and

349
00:12:12,381 --> 00:12:15,501
you're gonna get laid all the time."
That's not the way it works, guys.

350
00:12:15,571 --> 00:12:16,351
It's not the way it works.

351
00:12:16,361 --> 00:12:19,381
So that's one of the overrated
pieces of advice, I think, in

352
00:12:19,381 --> 00:12:21,021
the lifestyle that's given.

353
00:12:21,241 --> 00:12:21,791
Scene.

354
00:12:22,491 --> 00:12:23,741
You gotta do the beard thing.

355
00:12:23,741 --> 00:12:24,121
I do.

356
00:12:24,131 --> 00:12:25,461
It's like I'm rubbing
your- The beard massage.

357
00:12:25,491 --> 00:12:26,541
You don't even touch your beard.

358
00:12:26,541 --> 00:12:26,971
I don't.

359
00:12:26,971 --> 00:12:28,591
I don't know where you got that from.

360
00:12:28,591 --> 00:12:30,301
I just feel like I need a beard.

361
00:12:30,331 --> 00:12:31,321
Well, you know what?

362
00:12:31,381 --> 00:12:32,551
I gotta give you points on that.

363
00:12:32,561 --> 00:12:33,061
That was good.

364
00:12:33,061 --> 00:12:33,321
Thank you.

365
00:12:33,321 --> 00:12:34,041
That was good, actually.

366
00:12:34,081 --> 00:12:38,819
I would actually answer that To an
extent, but yeah, for the most part Okay.

367
00:12:38,819 --> 00:12:39,229
All right.

368
00:12:39,329 --> 00:12:39,599
Okay.

369
00:12:39,959 --> 00:12:40,869
Okay, baby, you ready?

370
00:12:40,939 --> 00:12:41,439
Yes.

371
00:12:41,869 --> 00:12:46,519
How should someone handle rejection at a
party or event without making it awkward?

372
00:12:46,749 --> 00:12:47,829
Why do you give me…

373
00:12:48,539 --> 00:12:49,309
Uh, this was not- Okay.

374
00:12:49,889 --> 00:12:53,899
How should someone handle rejection at a
party or event without making it awkward?

375
00:12:54,079 --> 00:12:54,929
Male Pris.

376
00:12:55,199 --> 00:12:57,489
I don't really give a
fuck if I make it awkward.

377
00:12:57,719 --> 00:13:00,709
Honestly, I have run out of fucks to give.

378
00:13:00,899 --> 00:13:05,679
I am 48, and I am sassy, and I
know I'm fucking beautiful, okay?

379
00:13:05,949 --> 00:13:07,909
So I don't really give a fuck.

380
00:13:08,019 --> 00:13:13,259
If they wanna reject me, you're
lucky I even came up to you, okay?

381
00:13:13,459 --> 00:13:18,749
Because frankly, my couch that
I love to sit at every week at

382
00:13:18,749 --> 00:13:20,859
the club is very comfortable.

383
00:13:20,869 --> 00:13:24,329
So if I even walked up to you
and said hello and even tried

384
00:13:24,339 --> 00:13:27,999
to talk to you, then that means
maybe I was slightly interested.

385
00:13:28,269 --> 00:13:32,919
But if you wanna reject me, I
don't take that in any hurtful way.

386
00:13:33,109 --> 00:13:35,789
I don't give a fuck, and
it's not gonna ruin my day.

387
00:13:36,059 --> 00:13:37,699
But also, fuck off.

388
00:13:38,029 --> 00:13:38,349
Yeah?

389
00:13:38,599 --> 00:13:39,089
Was that good?

390
00:13:39,359 --> 00:13:39,869
Did I do good?

391
00:13:39,869 --> 00:13:41,199
You're very mean.

392
00:13:41,709 --> 00:13:42,729
No way.

393
00:13:43,269 --> 00:13:44,039
Am I that mean?

394
00:13:44,059 --> 00:13:44,929
No, you're direct, babe.

395
00:13:45,379 --> 00:13:45,899
Okay.

396
00:13:46,179 --> 00:13:46,809
Very direct.

397
00:13:46,899 --> 00:13:47,289
All right.

398
00:13:47,419 --> 00:13:47,659
Yeah.

399
00:13:47,769 --> 00:13:53,029
I mean- Slightly aggressive, but… I
would say that's, that's pretty… No.

400
00:13:53,349 --> 00:13:54,759
I, I mean, I would be nicer.

401
00:13:54,829 --> 00:13:55,819
It's, it's to be nice.

402
00:13:55,829 --> 00:13:57,489
Like, like, I would add to that.

403
00:13:57,489 --> 00:13:59,799
Like, I think, I think
you did a very good point.

404
00:14:00,409 --> 00:14:01,383
But that's something that
I would just tell you.

405
00:14:01,383 --> 00:14:04,009
So how, how, how would,
how would you, uh, do it?

406
00:14:04,019 --> 00:14:08,459
Uh, take rejection as, don't take
it personally, but take it more

407
00:14:08,459 --> 00:14:12,349
as, okay, maybe it just wasn't
the perfect time, wasn't with the

408
00:14:12,349 --> 00:14:13,839
perfect person, I guess, you know?

409
00:14:13,839 --> 00:14:15,109
A little bit more subtle.

410
00:14:15,359 --> 00:14:16,269
Also, I don't give a fuck.

411
00:14:16,609 --> 00:14:18,009
So kudos to you, baby.

412
00:14:18,749 --> 00:14:19,199
Okay.

413
00:14:19,209 --> 00:14:21,039
Oh, I know it.

414
00:14:21,039 --> 00:14:21,179
All right.

415
00:14:21,609 --> 00:14:22,469
We're almost done.

416
00:14:22,659 --> 00:14:22,959
Okay.

417
00:14:22,959 --> 00:14:23,085
We're almost done here.

418
00:14:23,085 --> 00:14:23,117
Okay.

419
00:14:23,117 --> 00:14:24,569
Question 10.

420
00:14:24,779 --> 00:14:28,559
How important are check-ins
and aftercare, and what do they

421
00:14:28,559 --> 00:14:30,369
look like in real life, Adam?

422
00:14:30,529 --> 00:14:35,309
Well, I think check-ins are
really depending on the couple.

423
00:14:35,439 --> 00:14:39,079
It's not a necessity, but it is important.

424
00:14:39,099 --> 00:14:40,949
If it's important to
your partner, then do it.

425
00:14:41,219 --> 00:14:44,319
But if, you know, they don't
really care, then why do it?

426
00:14:45,027 --> 00:14:49,247
And aftercare, I mean, if I
fuck my wife after she's done,

427
00:14:49,387 --> 00:14:50,817
I think that's pretty much it.

428
00:14:51,087 --> 00:14:51,687
I'm kidding.

429
00:14:51,687 --> 00:14:51,977
Okay.

430
00:14:51,977 --> 00:14:53,247
You get no points for that.

431
00:14:53,287 --> 00:14:53,507
I'm kidding.

432
00:14:53,777 --> 00:14:53,947
I'm kidding.

433
00:14:53,947 --> 00:14:54,617
I'm kidding.

434
00:14:54,617 --> 00:14:55,457
This is Adam.

435
00:14:55,577 --> 00:14:59,937
I think check-ins are important
because my wife says they are.

436
00:15:01,637 --> 00:15:06,467
And aftercare is important, of course,
you know, especially more of, like,

437
00:15:06,647 --> 00:15:10,837
if we play separately and, you know,
we wanna come back together and, and I

438
00:15:10,837 --> 00:15:15,797
wanna reassure my wife that, you know,
I, I love her and she's the one for me.

439
00:15:15,887 --> 00:15:20,087
And so what it looks like in real
life for us is after we play with

440
00:15:20,087 --> 00:15:23,677
other people, we just kinda sit
and we, you know, we reconnect.

441
00:15:23,737 --> 00:15:27,497
And I think those two things
are very helpful in the

442
00:15:27,497 --> 00:15:30,057
lifestyle, and also in real life.

443
00:15:30,187 --> 00:15:32,797
It's a very good… You know,
it makes, it makes a swinging

444
00:15:32,797 --> 00:15:35,727
situation very secure and strong.

445
00:15:35,927 --> 00:15:38,557
But also, you know, it's
because my wife makes me do 'em.

446
00:15:40,147 --> 00:15:40,757
Scene.

447
00:15:41,357 --> 00:15:41,897
That's pretty good.

448
00:15:41,897 --> 00:15:42,477
There you go.

449
00:15:42,477 --> 00:15:42,687
Yeah.

450
00:15:42,767 --> 00:15:43,257
That's pretty good.

451
00:15:43,347 --> 00:15:44,367
I do not make you do 'em.

452
00:15:44,737 --> 00:15:46,807
I would stand behind
everything that you said.

453
00:15:47,067 --> 00:15:50,037
You know, I, uh, I do think that,
that check-ins are important.

454
00:15:50,227 --> 00:15:50,597
Yeah.

455
00:15:51,077 --> 00:15:53,467
No matter w- what the couple says.

456
00:15:53,507 --> 00:15:58,127
I, I, I do, I do agree in the fact that
if, if you're a couple that doesn't

457
00:15:58,147 --> 00:15:59,957
require 'em, then you don't need them.

458
00:15:59,957 --> 00:15:59,967
Yeah.

459
00:15:59,967 --> 00:15:59,987
You're good.

460
00:15:59,987 --> 00:16:00,307
Yeah.

461
00:16:00,307 --> 00:16:04,077
Uh, but it does help for
newbie couples, you know?

462
00:16:04,077 --> 00:16:07,097
And then aftercare is just
very important in every aspect.

463
00:16:07,427 --> 00:16:11,637
I feel like it also helps for people
who… Like, for instance, for us,

464
00:16:11,647 --> 00:16:14,917
like, I'm the one who… I mean,
I think we both need check-ins.

465
00:16:14,957 --> 00:16:16,487
I think we both like to have check-ins.

466
00:16:16,557 --> 00:16:16,827
Yeah.

467
00:16:16,827 --> 00:16:18,997
If it's gone for a couple of hours,
you're like, "Where, where are you?

468
00:16:18,997 --> 00:16:21,207
Are you okay?" It gets your mind kind
of- Gets your mind going … going.

469
00:16:21,207 --> 00:16:24,887
Not always, not also, not always in a
negative way, but it does help you, so.

470
00:16:25,047 --> 00:16:25,307
Yeah.

471
00:16:25,367 --> 00:16:25,657
Yeah.

472
00:16:25,917 --> 00:16:26,157
Yeah.

473
00:16:26,447 --> 00:16:27,107
Good job, Adam.

474
00:16:27,167 --> 00:16:27,577
Thank you.

475
00:16:28,237 --> 00:16:28,627
Okay.

476
00:16:28,827 --> 00:16:30,457
One more, and this one's the fun one.

477
00:16:31,327 --> 00:16:31,617
All right.

478
00:16:31,967 --> 00:16:37,257
What is a common lifestyle myth that
you would love to retire forever?

479
00:16:37,427 --> 00:16:37,837
Pris.

480
00:16:38,147 --> 00:16:41,837
Just because I'm bisexual
doesn't mean I wanna fuck you.

481
00:16:42,017 --> 00:16:46,777
Doesn't matter if you're a man or
a woman, if I walk in and you find

482
00:16:46,777 --> 00:16:51,237
out that I'm bisexual, that does
not make me a piece of meat, and

483
00:16:51,237 --> 00:16:52,947
that doesn't mean I wanna fuck you.

484
00:16:53,107 --> 00:16:57,687
And if you're gonna drink, just
know that doesn't make you bisexual.

485
00:16:57,837 --> 00:17:01,417
Either you're bisexual
or you're a drunk sexual.

486
00:17:01,587 --> 00:17:02,037
Okay?

487
00:17:02,237 --> 00:17:02,707
And scene.

488
00:17:03,017 --> 00:17:03,167
Yeah.

489
00:17:03,497 --> 00:17:04,367
That's, uh, that's one.

490
00:17:04,567 --> 00:17:05,467
That's one, for sure.

491
00:17:05,487 --> 00:17:05,787
Nice.

492
00:17:05,817 --> 00:17:06,177
Yeah.

493
00:17:06,287 --> 00:17:08,507
That's a really big- A
common lifestyle myth?

494
00:17:08,727 --> 00:17:09,107
Yeah.

495
00:17:09,227 --> 00:17:09,637
That's a good one.

496
00:17:09,637 --> 00:17:09,727
Yeah.

497
00:17:09,727 --> 00:17:12,847
You know, I hear that one a lot, not
just from you, but from a lot of people.

498
00:17:12,857 --> 00:17:13,287
Yeah.

499
00:17:13,437 --> 00:17:17,227
That, you know… And it's not just
bisexual women, it's bisexual men.

500
00:17:17,407 --> 00:17:17,747
Yeah.

501
00:17:17,987 --> 00:17:19,037
Bisexual men.

502
00:17:19,057 --> 00:17:22,477
People find out that there's a bisexual
man, and every guy is, like, covering

503
00:17:22,477 --> 00:17:26,497
up their, their dick afterwards going,
"Ooh." Yeah, like, what the fuck, guys?

504
00:17:26,927 --> 00:17:28,822
Just because he's bisexual
doesn't mean he wants to fuck you.

505
00:17:28,822 --> 00:17:29,627
Grow the fuck up.

506
00:17:30,077 --> 00:17:30,567
Anyway.

507
00:17:30,691 --> 00:17:31,761
Hold on, hold on.

508
00:17:31,761 --> 00:17:33,441
We need to tell you guys about 3Fun first.

509
00:17:33,631 --> 00:17:34,181
Oh, yeah.

510
00:17:34,791 --> 00:17:37,851
Okay, so 3Fun is the app.

511
00:17:37,981 --> 00:17:39,091
You guys know the app.

512
00:17:39,511 --> 00:17:41,921
And if you don't know, it's for
couples and singles who wanna

513
00:17:41,921 --> 00:17:43,611
connect with like-minded people.

514
00:17:43,811 --> 00:17:45,131
And it actually works.

515
00:17:45,241 --> 00:17:46,511
Like, we're not just saying that.

516
00:17:46,901 --> 00:17:50,191
It's easy, it's low pressure, and
it's way less awkward than trying

517
00:17:50,191 --> 00:17:51,211
to figure it out on your own.

518
00:17:51,381 --> 00:17:52,411
Way less.

519
00:17:52,911 --> 00:17:53,861
We're gonna leave it at that.

520
00:17:54,351 --> 00:17:54,641
Yep.

521
00:17:55,091 --> 00:17:56,231
Download 3Fun.

522
00:17:56,381 --> 00:17:58,371
The link is in the show notes.

523
00:17:58,561 --> 00:17:59,021
Okay.

524
00:17:59,421 --> 00:18:00,071
Where were we?

525
00:18:00,521 --> 00:18:00,811
Huh.

526
00:18:01,267 --> 00:18:02,767
Okay, last round.

527
00:18:02,887 --> 00:18:04,077
Drop the impression.

528
00:18:04,247 --> 00:18:04,487
Okay.

529
00:18:04,487 --> 00:18:10,067
Each of us gets to say one thing
that we genuinely admire about how

530
00:18:10,067 --> 00:18:11,927
the other approaches the lifestyle.

531
00:18:12,187 --> 00:18:12,667
Okay.

532
00:18:12,667 --> 00:18:12,947
Okay?

533
00:18:12,947 --> 00:18:13,867
So I'm gonna go first.

534
00:18:13,907 --> 00:18:14,077
Okay.

535
00:18:14,507 --> 00:18:19,507
So one thing that I genuinely
admire about how you approach the

536
00:18:19,507 --> 00:18:23,797
lifestyle, and, and you've actually
helped me out a lot on this end,

537
00:18:23,817 --> 00:18:26,807
because you are very strong-minded.

538
00:18:26,807 --> 00:18:30,377
I think earlier in, in, in one
of the questions really revolved

539
00:18:30,407 --> 00:18:32,277
around you kinda not giving a fuck.

540
00:18:32,307 --> 00:18:32,557
Yes.

541
00:18:32,647 --> 00:18:34,577
And I really respect that.

542
00:18:34,957 --> 00:18:39,477
And when we went into this, I couldn't
have been further away from that.

543
00:18:39,767 --> 00:18:44,337
There was a lot of, you know, a, a
person's comment or the way they think

544
00:18:44,337 --> 00:18:48,697
or just- Yeah … anything really
caused me to kinda cave in internally

545
00:18:48,697 --> 00:18:49,517
and feel- It would affect you.

546
00:18:49,517 --> 00:18:49,647
Yeah.

547
00:18:49,647 --> 00:18:50,037
Yeah.

548
00:18:50,047 --> 00:18:51,247
Feel like it was me.

549
00:18:51,557 --> 00:18:51,697
Yeah.

550
00:18:51,727 --> 00:18:55,977
And you've really kind of installed,
especially when we were poly too,

551
00:18:55,977 --> 00:18:57,917
oh my gosh, when we were poly.

552
00:18:58,077 --> 00:18:58,217
Mm-hmm.

553
00:18:58,247 --> 00:19:02,767
And I would pursue other women and,
and in that journey just would get

554
00:19:02,777 --> 00:19:05,717
completely shell-shocked with things
that were told to me, and just

555
00:19:06,267 --> 00:19:08,117
everything would tear down my world.

556
00:19:08,317 --> 00:19:10,917
And you were just like,
"You're an attractive guy."

557
00:19:11,077 --> 00:19:11,377
Yeah.

558
00:19:11,387 --> 00:19:13,387
"And you're overthinking this." Yes.

559
00:19:13,387 --> 00:19:13,547
Yeah.

560
00:19:13,547 --> 00:19:16,477
"And you really need to
give less than a fuck." Yes.

561
00:19:16,677 --> 00:19:21,777
"And just be you, be happy." And
that's how you pretty much tour the

562
00:19:21,777 --> 00:19:24,087
lifestyle, and I so fucking respect that.

563
00:19:24,117 --> 00:19:26,347
And I think I'm getting better at that.

564
00:19:26,397 --> 00:19:27,377
I'm not there yet.

565
00:19:27,397 --> 00:19:27,467
Mm-hmm.

566
00:19:27,477 --> 00:19:28,747
But I am getting better at that.

567
00:19:28,887 --> 00:19:29,087
Yeah.

568
00:19:29,137 --> 00:19:29,897
And I think it's cool.

569
00:19:30,427 --> 00:19:30,547
Yeah.

570
00:19:30,647 --> 00:19:30,867
Yeah.

571
00:19:31,137 --> 00:19:34,827
And for me, the one thing that I
admire about you and the lifestyle

572
00:19:34,857 --> 00:19:37,807
is that you genuinely like everybody.

573
00:19:38,107 --> 00:19:38,387
Yeah.

574
00:19:38,647 --> 00:19:42,147
That's a good quality to have,
because I do not like everybody.

575
00:19:42,517 --> 00:19:42,597
Yeah.

576
00:19:42,637 --> 00:19:44,657
Like, you have… It's-
Yeah … it's hard for me.

577
00:19:44,657 --> 00:19:48,527
Like, my husband may love
you, and I do not like you.

578
00:19:48,907 --> 00:19:49,387
Yeah.

579
00:19:49,587 --> 00:19:52,867
And so, you know, that's a…
I think that's a really good

580
00:19:52,907 --> 00:19:54,867
quality, that you like everybody.

581
00:19:54,997 --> 00:19:58,597
And I feel like sometimes
you like people way too much.

582
00:19:59,657 --> 00:19:59,837
Wait a second.

583
00:20:00,969 --> 00:20:05,119
We were talking about what we admire
and you just double-edged sworded this?

584
00:20:05,559 --> 00:20:05,809
No.

585
00:20:05,839 --> 00:20:07,969
Um, you're, you know,
you're very sweet to people.

586
00:20:08,219 --> 00:20:08,489
Yeah.

587
00:20:08,579 --> 00:20:12,319
And you genuinely see people, you, you
genuinely see the good in everybody,

588
00:20:12,329 --> 00:20:18,813
and I think that's That's one thing
that I absolutely love about you, that

589
00:20:18,813 --> 00:20:23,373
you love everyone and you open, you
open yourself up to a lot of people.

590
00:20:23,393 --> 00:20:27,423
And that, I mean, honestly, that's
why the show grows the way it is

591
00:20:27,423 --> 00:20:30,823
because you're so… You love this
and you love the lifestyle that you

592
00:20:30,823 --> 00:20:32,073
just, you know- I love the community.

593
00:20:32,073 --> 00:20:33,803
Yeah … you kind of
bring it all together, so.

594
00:20:34,473 --> 00:20:34,833
I love the people in it.

595
00:20:34,833 --> 00:20:36,353
I love talking to our listeners.

596
00:20:36,353 --> 00:20:38,523
I love talking to people-
Yeah … who aren't our listeners.

597
00:20:38,583 --> 00:20:38,763
Yeah.

598
00:20:38,763 --> 00:20:40,073
Just the whole thing about it.

599
00:20:40,233 --> 00:20:44,123
I do genuinely love people-
Yes … uh, until they show

600
00:20:44,123 --> 00:20:45,543
me otherwise that I shouldn't.

601
00:20:45,563 --> 00:20:46,563
And then I have to remind him.

602
00:20:46,593 --> 00:20:46,973
Yeah.

603
00:20:47,623 --> 00:20:48,343
I get those reminders.

604
00:20:48,343 --> 00:20:51,343
So we get the, we, we, we definitely
balance each other, but that is,

605
00:20:51,363 --> 00:20:54,343
that's one thing that you do do
that you, that I love about it,

606
00:20:54,363 --> 00:20:55,893
is that you just love people.

607
00:20:55,893 --> 00:20:57,643
I used to think that that was a negative.

608
00:20:57,733 --> 00:21:01,199
It, it, it can be, but I'm- It felt like
a negative for a while there … but

609
00:21:01,199 --> 00:21:03,783
I'm, I'm very protective of you.

610
00:21:03,963 --> 00:21:08,223
Mm. So I know, I watch your back for that.

611
00:21:08,253 --> 00:21:08,283
Right.

612
00:21:08,353 --> 00:21:12,743
So I let you f- not let you, but y- I
mean, I'm just gonna say it like that.

613
00:21:13,043 --> 00:21:16,783
I let you flourish and do whatever you
want and talk to whomever you want,

614
00:21:17,073 --> 00:21:23,403
but if I see any red flags, I tell
you and I'm vocal with you, and you

615
00:21:23,403 --> 00:21:24,833
either take it or you don't, right?

616
00:21:25,043 --> 00:21:28,803
So that's, I think that's not, it's,
so it's not so much a negative thing

617
00:21:28,823 --> 00:21:31,743
anymore because I'm, I'm watching.

618
00:21:31,983 --> 00:21:32,243
Yeah.

619
00:21:32,243 --> 00:21:34,973
And I'm letting, you know, like-
Yeah … go fly little bird.

620
00:21:34,983 --> 00:21:38,143
What's funny is you're watching
but you're not controlling.

621
00:21:38,153 --> 00:21:38,553
No.

622
00:21:38,683 --> 00:21:39,063
I'm not controlling.

623
00:21:39,063 --> 00:21:41,883
Which is very different now-
Than, yes … than we used to be.

624
00:21:41,893 --> 00:21:42,243
Yes.

625
00:21:42,263 --> 00:21:46,833
So you were always watching-
Yes … but you were very in, in the

626
00:21:46,833 --> 00:21:49,683
fact that you would be like, "No,
you're, you can't do this." Yeah.

627
00:21:49,803 --> 00:21:53,233
And now you're watching, you're, you're
like, "Go, go do your thing." Yeah.

628
00:21:53,423 --> 00:21:54,323
"I'm right here." Yeah.

629
00:21:54,403 --> 00:21:54,773
You know?

630
00:21:54,773 --> 00:21:55,593
And it's kinda cool.

631
00:21:55,593 --> 00:21:57,943
It's kinda like, uh, you know-
No one's gonna fuck with my man.

632
00:21:58,313 --> 00:21:58,943
No.

633
00:21:58,963 --> 00:22:00,143
No one's gonna fuck with you.

634
00:22:00,143 --> 00:22:02,203
Like, that's the one thing that I'm-
Not anymore … that I've realized.

635
00:22:02,203 --> 00:22:04,223
And no one's gonna fuck with
you, no one's gonna break your

636
00:22:04,223 --> 00:22:07,053
heart, no one's gonna hurt your
feelings because I'm right there.

637
00:22:07,053 --> 00:22:08,613
So yeah, I love that.

638
00:22:08,613 --> 00:22:10,433
I love that you're very,
you love everybody.

639
00:22:10,623 --> 00:22:12,483
You know, I, I, I do.

640
00:22:12,553 --> 00:22:12,933
I do.

641
00:22:12,943 --> 00:22:12,963
Yeah.

642
00:22:12,973 --> 00:22:15,173
And I think, I used to
think it was to a fault.

643
00:22:15,383 --> 00:22:15,623
Yeah.

644
00:22:16,363 --> 00:22:19,763
But I genuinely love everybody out
there- Yeah … especially if you

645
00:22:19,763 --> 00:22:20,973
guys are listening to the show.

646
00:22:21,073 --> 00:22:22,163
I really love you.

647
00:22:22,163 --> 00:22:22,393
Yes.

648
00:22:22,393 --> 00:22:22,853
He does.

649
00:22:22,853 --> 00:22:26,483
You are really, you hold a
special spot in my, my heart.

650
00:22:26,483 --> 00:22:28,853
I- I am the cynical one
of the relationship.

651
00:22:28,863 --> 00:22:29,133
Yeah.

652
00:22:29,133 --> 00:22:30,373
I do not trust anybody.

653
00:22:30,413 --> 00:22:32,473
I do not like a lot of people.

654
00:22:32,693 --> 00:22:32,833
That's you.

655
00:22:32,913 --> 00:22:37,633
Um, and it's, you know, it's just, it's
the way I am and, and it's, it can be

656
00:22:37,633 --> 00:22:39,933
a negative thing, but it's, it's okay.

657
00:22:40,023 --> 00:22:40,843
We navigate it.

658
00:22:40,883 --> 00:22:41,143
We navigate it.

659
00:22:41,143 --> 00:22:41,753
We navigate it.

660
00:22:41,753 --> 00:22:42,433
We navigate it just fine.

661
00:22:42,593 --> 00:22:44,963
You know, this was a, a very fun episode.

662
00:22:44,973 --> 00:22:45,013
It was fun.

663
00:22:45,013 --> 00:22:47,863
We obviously had some fun
answering the questions.

664
00:22:48,323 --> 00:22:52,053
Uh, you know, some of these questions
you maybe didn't get the serious answer

665
00:22:52,053 --> 00:22:56,203
to, but a lot of these questions we have
talked about in the show, on past shows.

666
00:22:56,563 --> 00:23:00,423
Uh, and if you have any true
questions, you know how to find

667
00:23:00,423 --> 00:23:01,513
us, you know how to submit them.

668
00:23:01,553 --> 00:23:04,613
But we really just wanted to
have a little bit of a fun time.

669
00:23:04,613 --> 00:23:07,153
You know, we talk about some
real heavy stuff sometimes.

670
00:23:07,193 --> 00:23:10,383
And so w- I just wanted to have this
chance to, to have a little fun,

671
00:23:10,393 --> 00:23:13,343
and I hope you guys enjoyed it too,
'cause that was- That was a good time.

672
00:23:13,383 --> 00:23:14,533
I didn't lose my life.

673
00:23:15,073 --> 00:23:17,263
Uh, s- and I didn't lose my marriage.

674
00:23:17,263 --> 00:23:18,383
But- So it's always a good thing.

675
00:23:18,643 --> 00:23:20,003
So yeah, that was fun.

676
00:23:20,273 --> 00:23:20,453
Yeah.

677
00:23:20,453 --> 00:23:22,193
All right, guys, that wraps it up.

678
00:23:22,303 --> 00:23:25,503
You know where to find all of
our episodes, our blog, our

679
00:23:25,503 --> 00:23:30,023
merch, and the 100% anonymous
confessional that my Boo Bear loves.

680
00:23:30,073 --> 00:23:30,623
My favorite.

681
00:23:30,933 --> 00:23:35,193
Send us all your questions on lifestyle,
ENM, kink, the show, or anything else.

682
00:23:35,213 --> 00:23:40,483
You can find all of that information
at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

683
00:23:40,663 --> 00:23:43,473
And if you miss any of our
other shows, they're there.

684
00:23:43,803 --> 00:23:44,353
They're all there.

685
00:23:44,383 --> 00:23:45,073
They're all there.

686
00:23:45,153 --> 00:23:45,423
All of them.

687
00:23:45,523 --> 00:23:47,303
Yeah, you literally can go back in time.

688
00:23:47,533 --> 00:23:50,543
Even before we had the video,
when we just had an audio podcast,

689
00:23:50,553 --> 00:23:51,923
yeah, you could- Remember that.

690
00:23:51,923 --> 00:23:52,503
You… Yeah, yeah.

691
00:23:52,763 --> 00:23:53,903
It goes back almost two years.

692
00:23:53,903 --> 00:23:54,063
Yeah.

693
00:23:54,143 --> 00:23:55,493
You can, you can really check it out.

694
00:23:55,493 --> 00:23:59,293
You can also catch us on
fullswapradio.com every Thursday

695
00:23:59,293 --> 00:24:01,113
at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central.

696
00:24:01,323 --> 00:24:06,193
And if you're planning a getaway, Krazy
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697
00:24:06,193 --> 00:24:09,543
on February 19th through the 21st, 2027.

698
00:24:09,553 --> 00:24:10,783
We will be out there.

699
00:24:11,053 --> 00:24:12,943
We will be doing a live show.

700
00:24:13,383 --> 00:24:17,013
And as always, you can use
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701
00:24:17,023 --> 00:24:22,973
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702
00:24:22,983 --> 00:24:24,733
And don't try and spell that yourself.

703
00:24:24,953 --> 00:24:27,493
Just look at the screen or
find it in our show notes.

704
00:24:27,543 --> 00:24:28,043
Yes.

705
00:24:28,123 --> 00:24:31,343
Also, I wanted to add, we're gonna
be at Naughty Nawlins next year.

706
00:24:31,353 --> 00:24:31,383
Uh-oh.

707
00:24:31,503 --> 00:24:36,723
We do have a link in our show
notes, and also on our website?

708
00:24:37,603 --> 00:24:38,483
On our website, yeah.

709
00:24:38,483 --> 00:24:38,813
All right.

710
00:24:38,833 --> 00:24:40,663
On our website, we also have a link there.

711
00:24:40,663 --> 00:24:42,413
So that's in July?

712
00:24:42,723 --> 00:24:44,513
That is in July.

713
00:24:44,573 --> 00:24:47,073
Yeah, so, you know, we're almost getting
towards the end of the year, guys, so

714
00:24:47,073 --> 00:24:49,343
we need to prepare for next year, so.

715
00:24:49,343 --> 00:24:51,793
And you know, sometimes we gotta get on
payment plans to pay for these things.

716
00:24:52,073 --> 00:24:53,633
Yes, and- But we will go.

717
00:24:53,693 --> 00:24:54,033
Yes.

718
00:24:54,073 --> 00:24:58,353
And if you're in the local area, we are
in Austin, Texas, so all local listeners.

719
00:24:58,383 --> 00:25:01,753
Adam and I will be hosting a
swinger 101 workshop on November

720
00:25:01,753 --> 00:25:04,173
15th at Forbidden Fruit in Austin.

721
00:25:04,173 --> 00:25:05,873
So come by and say hi.

722
00:25:05,903 --> 00:25:06,193
Yeah.

723
00:25:06,193 --> 00:25:11,413
As always, that's on our events tab
at our website on beyond-monogamy.com.

724
00:25:11,623 --> 00:25:15,073
And a quick thank you to
our friends at Spunk Lube.

725
00:25:15,073 --> 00:25:17,683
They're listed on the
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726
00:25:17,983 --> 00:25:21,283
Grab 10% off with that
link in the show notes.

727
00:25:21,493 --> 00:25:25,453
And with that, thank you all for joining
us as always for another episode,

728
00:25:25,703 --> 00:25:27,253
and we will see you guys next week.

729
00:25:27,343 --> 00:25:28,373
Bye.