Why Are People So Shitty? Swinger Drama, Bullies & Trolls

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All right, y'all.

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Before we dive in, a quick heads up This
show is raw, real, and definitely not

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rated PG We're talking about adult themes,
sexual content, and the kind of stuff

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you probably don't want blasting through
your speakers at work or around your

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kids So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice, and get comfy Oh, and

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just so we're clear, we are not licensed
therapists, counselors, or sex couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches.

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Not sex couches We're just a couple of
people sharing our lives, experiences, and

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sexy adventures in ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show

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Hello and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And, you know, I got a
question for you, sweetheart.

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Dime.

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Why are people so shitty?

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Oh, yeah.

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That's what we're talking about today.

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Let me tell you, there's been so
many different things that have

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happened over the span of our time
in this community, and I know that

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we often speak about the positivity,
uh, formed around this community.

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I was just thinking about that
because I was like, "Damn, I'm a

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little Negative Nancy sometimes."

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Sometimes.

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We have a friend who's- Sometimes
… so, we have a couple, but this,

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like, they're both very sweet,
and, like, they're very sweet.

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The husband, I always hear him, like,
he's so positive and he's so nice.

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And then he says something and then
here I come, and I just like, I'm like

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Eeyore, little brown… little gray
cloud following me around, and I'm

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like, "That's too positive for me."

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Well, that's funny.

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He's so freaking cute, though.

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Well, you know, it's,
it's- But what do you mean?

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Well, so what I mean is, you know,
we talk to a lot of people who are

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either interested in joining this
community- Uh-huh … or people who

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maybe are new to this community.

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Mm-hmm.

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And oftentimes they look to content
creators and podcasters to fill

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them in on what to expect- Mm-hmm

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if anything, on coming into
this kind of community.

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Uh, you know, the goods, the
bads, the uglies, et cetera.

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Well, I wanna be very, very open and
honest without using any names about

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situations that have come up throughout
our time, uh, in this, um, community-

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Uh-huh … that have just been shitty.

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Now, anybody who's worked in any kind
of job knows that you work around

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a lot of different personalities.

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Yes.

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There's people that you get along
with very quickly- I- in your life,

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in your life … and just period.

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In your life.

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Just period.

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Yeah.

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Wherever you go- Yeah … you're
dealing with different personalities-

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Yes … all over the place.

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Yeah.

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Um, some people you get along with great.

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Other people you do not.

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I have to sit back because I
have to see where he's going

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with this because- I am going

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I'm brand- I, I haven't heard this
topic, so- He has no idea … um, so I

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have to sit back because I don't know
if he wants like, I don't know if you

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want like get real bitchy Pris or if you
want be subtle Pris, but still be mean.

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Like w- I'm, I'm… So keep going, baby.

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So here's the deal, is I'm gonna, I'm
gonna kinda lead you to water- Okay.

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Okay … and you can choose
whether or not to drink.

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Uh, but- So it feels like
that's how we live life, period.

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Pretty much.

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Um, y- you know, there have been
situations that have come up that-

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Mm-hmm … uh, have indirectly and
directly involved us, um, you know,

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drama i- in, in the lifestyle-
Yes … people in this community.

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Yes.

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Um, and, and in one way or another,
you know, we, we are very much- By

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the policy of we don't do drama.

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Yeah.

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And the moment the drama peeks
its head, we tend to dip out.

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Um- Leave the drama for your mama.

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That's right.

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Yo mama.

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For yo mama.

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Uh, you know, there have been situations
and certain people that we have

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run into in these groups, in these
communities, and for the most part- Mm-hmm

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for the most part, 80 to 90%- Oh, gosh.

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Are wonderful … are wonderful.

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They're great personalities.

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There's, like, a very few tiny
little percentage- Mm … that

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are just the absolute shittiest
people- Human beings ever … ever.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And w- Um- I say that because
this is the lifestyle.

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Like- Mm … there's- It revolves
around having sex and good feels.

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And also, a lot of… There's a lot of
people that are still in, in secret.

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They still have… Maybe they have,
you know, whatever the reason might

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be, they haven't come out yet.

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Yeah.

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And I think that's fine.

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That's fine.

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Well, you know, a lot of people, uh, to
your point, yeah, they're, they're very

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discreet about what th- That's the word

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this life is for them.

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Mm-hmm.

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And they don't want it getting
back to their employers.

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They don't want it getting back to their
friends or family, maybe their church

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community, whatever the case may be.

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And so going into this lifestyle, a lot
of new people already have reservations.

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Mm-hmm.

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They're already afraid of, "What,
what happens if I get found out?

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What happens if I walk into a
place and I see somebody I know?

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What happens if somebody at my job
finds out?" And, you know, when you're

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in the lifestyle, you really, you have,
that, that's, that's a possibility.

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Like- It is a possibility … I've walked
in- It's a chance you take … I've

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walked in on… I mean, I've seen
on groups family members, um- Yeah

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very, very close friends, family
members to my family members.

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Um- Yeah So many coworkers,
people that just work with me.

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I mean, I, yeah Yeah.

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You know, you can- So you have
to think about that … I'm sure

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the, the list goes on, and that's
because we are not very discreet.

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We're pretty open about our lifestyle.

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And that's from a city I
wasn't even born and raised in.

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Yeah.

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There you go.

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Uh, but I bring this up because, yes,
there are a lot of people out there in

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the lifestyle who either are just starting
out or have been in the lifestyle for a

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while now, and they are very discreet.

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They're very scared of
their details coming out.

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Mm-hmm.

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And you have people in this community,
now there's not a whole lot of

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people, but there are people in this
community who have an ax to grind.

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They are angry for whatever reason.

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Maybe they've- Hmm, I couldn't get
in that group … you know, a- and

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I give, I give a lot of bumper to
people who are suffering through

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mental, uh, mental health issues.

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I get- And, and that's what I wanted
to say, that, um, I ha- I've noticed

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it before, but I gotta say that it's
never hit us, and when it hit us, it

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was definitely mental A mental health
situation Like, it was a mental health

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situation The, the people that we've
run into that we've had issues with, uh,

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you can tell that there is an unchecked
mental health situation at the door.

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Uh, especially, uh, one, one particular
situation that seems to never go away.

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Um- Yeah … there is, there was a group
owner at one point, uh, who we belonged

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to their group as well as several other
groups, and this person in particular,

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uh, seemed like, uh, an all right person.

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But then it turned out she was
using her platform, her group,

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um- In very malicious ways.

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If you did not agree with her, if
you did not, um, sing her praises, if

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you didn't invite her to every single
thing in the world, she was using her

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platform to call you out, to talk crap
about you, and to push you out and,

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and oust you from the groups and make
you feel excluded And she had minions.

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So all the m- She had people who
were afraid to step out of line

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so all the little minions that were
following her, or them, it was…

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It, it just caused more drama.

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It got very high school.

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Like it st- And, and, and, and
this was two- This was over two

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years ago … over two years ago.

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Over two years ago.

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And this person just seems to
still be like, "Hmm." Obsessing-

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Hmm … is the proper word.

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Obsessing.

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And, and, you know, here's the thing
about it, is it really didn't involve us.

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Uh, this person, uh, really had some
major, uh, mental health issues.

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You could tell.

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I, I mean, I'm not a doctor,
but it screamed bipolar issues.

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Mm-hmm.

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It screamed maybe menopausal issues.

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Mm-hmm.

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I don't know.

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But whatever the- And in the lifestyle,
your spouse doesn't help you with that

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well, I mean, whatever the situation
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Mm-hmm.

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You know, either one enabled the
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a good couple for this community.

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Mm-hmm.

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And the reason why I say
that is not because she used

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her platform for bullying.

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Um, because, hey, that was her platform.

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Hey, that's- She can do whatever she wants

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that's your thing.

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Uh, it's the fact that she was removed
from several other groups because of

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how erratic her behavior was becoming.

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Mm-hmm.

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And on top of all that, has managed
to obsess about this local community-

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Yeah … for the past two years.

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Yeah.

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And has managed to create so many fake
profiles and so many of these different,

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um, Facebook and Instagram profiles trying
to snoop, trying to take information on

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people, trying to exploit other people.

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Mm-hmm.

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And trying to do so in a very sneaky,
uh, and, and covered profile that

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they think doesn't come back to them.

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Uh, now I don't really care
about this person personally.

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I know you don't either.

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Uh, but like I said, she has an ax
to grind with the swinger community.

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Mm-hmm.

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And has used whatever means that
she uses to contact employers,

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um, and, and so forth to, to
try and, and out certain people.

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Why?

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Why?

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And this is, this is where I go
back to why are people so shitty?

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I mean, you know, it's- I,
you're asking the golden question

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that nobody can know about.

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I will say it's, um, when people…
I know it's mental, right?

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Mm. Like, it has to be.

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It, it just- Uh-huh … has to be some
kind of- Totally … mental disconnect.

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Right.

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Right?

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Right.

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And if you don't even put it in
that way, people are just shitty.

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Yeah.

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I mean, damn.

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They're just- Yeah … and, you
know, when you call them out on it,

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it's even worse.

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Well, see, here's the thing about it,
and this is the thing about social

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media and online presence as opposed
to in-person physical presence.

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Social media has granted people
the ideal that they can say

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whatever the hell they want.

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I mean- And they can do whatever
the hell they want under anonymity.

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Mm-hmm.

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Uh, you know, even if they're not
anonymous, even if they put their

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own profiles there, they think that
they can say whatever they want.

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I'll give you an example.

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Today, I had, uh, a, a comment come
in on, on one of my TikTok videos.

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Uh, one of my Bald Truths, I
think it was, from last week.

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Um, had nothing to do with anybody in
particular, and it wasn't negative at all.

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It was more of a, an educational video.

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Some guy randomly goes onto there
under an anonymous account and

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says, "Shut the fuck up, bitch."

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First off, that comment is very
aggressive- Yeah … considering

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I'm talking about happy stuff.

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Yeah.

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Um, second off, say that shit to my
face, motherfucker- … and I guarantee

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you, you won't finish that sentence.

234
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But that's the problem here.

235
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Yeah.

236
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Now, I don't- But you don't- I'm
not the same person I was before.

237
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I don't take it- No

238
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I don't take it to heart.

239
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Yeah.

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Uh, I understand what,
uh, social media is.

241
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Yeah.

242
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I understand what online presence is,
and frankly, these people are obviously

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pussies because if they were in your face-
Yeah … they would not act that way.

244
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No.

245
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Another good example- A- a-
and, I mean- … is that other

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person that we're referring to

247
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is that person.

248
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Like, that person would never act
the way they did on social media-

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In person … in front of my face.

250
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And we know that- And- … because she
acted that way with you- Yeah … online.

251
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Yeah.

252
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And like, well, I mean- Then we
ran into her in person … it

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was the most idiotic, dumb thing.

254
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Like, the situation was just stupid,
and I mean, but you can't really,

255
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you can't really fight with stupid.

256
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You can't really fight with stupid.

257
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Like, you can't.

258
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It, and it is what it is, but-
Um, what, what was the situation?

259
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So- Initially … this person, on
her platform, was… I don't even

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know if it was on her platform.

261
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But anyway, she was being a bully.

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She was being a bully to other people,
and she would not let people into her

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group and then be on her group and
be like, "Eh, heh, I didn't let blah

264
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blah into my group because they're
in that other group," or whatever.

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And then she would con- she would call out
another group and be like, "Ew, they're

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so mafia. They don't let everybody in
their group," or shit like that, right?

267
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Picking up shit.

268
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She was just being really, really rude.

269
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And she had thrown some party but
didn't even wanna invite everybody,

270
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but was still kinda being two-faced
and talking to a certain, certain group

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of people just because she wanted,
like, their help and, and situation.

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And I got on, and I, on, on a platform,
on, on just my personal page, and I

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was saying how bullies are just shitty.

274
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Yeah.

275
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Like, I wasn't- You weren't calling her
out or anybody … I wasn't calling her

276
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because I knew how she was, but I was
already having my own issues with, with

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personally with, with my family- Hmm

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being bullies.

279
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And I was like, "Man, I fucking j-
I hate bullies." My son was bullied.

280
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Same.

281
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I fucking hate bullies.

282
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Oh, it's a trigger.

283
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And so I posted something.

284
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This bitch came on, messaged me, and
was like, "Do we have a problem?" What?

285
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Yeah, the balls.

286
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First of all, I was in the group,
and I've only met her twice.

287
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Twice.

288
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Twice.

289
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Yeah.

290
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I don't give a shit who she was, right?

291
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So I responded with, "I have no idea what
you're fucking talking about," and second,

292
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"I don't know you." Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.

293
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Like, "I've met you twice.
I don't know you." Yeah.

294
00:15:18,017 --> 00:15:20,897
And I don't know, but,
uh, I'm not a pussy.

295
00:15:21,985 --> 00:15:24,205
If I don't like you, you're
gonna know I don't like you.

296
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I will never talk to you.

297
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I can look past you.

298
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I don't like- And you're not gonna
back down from a confrontation.

299
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Fuck no.

300
00:15:31,815 --> 00:15:36,245
And so I told her that and she
said, "Good." Now, that good

301
00:15:36,245 --> 00:15:37,705
would've gotten a bitch beaten up.

302
00:15:39,425 --> 00:15:44,175
That good would've gotten a bitch-
Yeah … like, smacked down.

303
00:15:44,385 --> 00:15:44,875
Yeah.

304
00:15:45,355 --> 00:15:47,325
But I'm nice.

305
00:15:47,335 --> 00:15:47,995
You were nice.

306
00:15:48,065 --> 00:15:49,975
Um, anyway- You were very nice about it

307
00:15:49,975 --> 00:15:57,459
I, I do, I do feel like
She's a, an hormiga.

308
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She's an ant.

309
00:15:58,269 --> 00:15:58,989
She's an ant.

310
00:15:59,049 --> 00:16:01,599
She's just one of those little
pesty fucking mosquitoes.

311
00:16:02,129 --> 00:16:06,259
She's just a bitter, sour patch person.

312
00:16:06,549 --> 00:16:09,409
You know, my, my, my thing about it is-
And I mean, Barry, she's got, she's got-

313
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She's got issues- She's got issues … and
she feels that she's got an actual- And

314
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ax to grind.

315
00:16:14,039 --> 00:16:15,429
But my, my thing is this.

316
00:16:16,329 --> 00:16:20,009
It, it really doesn't matter-
No … what the situation was.

317
00:16:20,019 --> 00:16:20,599
No.

318
00:16:20,769 --> 00:16:26,099
My issue is you don't out
people in the community.

319
00:16:26,319 --> 00:16:27,129
That's the part.

320
00:16:27,189 --> 00:16:28,899
That's the issue that I have.

321
00:16:28,899 --> 00:16:31,579
She, you know, they, I think
they work for themselves.

322
00:16:31,629 --> 00:16:34,359
I don't know what her dude
does, but whatever it is,

323
00:16:34,779 --> 00:16:36,639
it's definitely not a model.

324
00:16:37,129 --> 00:16:39,509
Um, whatever that is.

325
00:16:40,059 --> 00:16:45,459
They, they need to get over it.

326
00:16:45,869 --> 00:16:48,609
You know, after two years you would
think the obsession would die out.

327
00:16:48,609 --> 00:16:52,809
I mean- Now, the, the, i- we were brought
into this because this person decided

328
00:16:52,809 --> 00:16:55,269
to start up a fake Instagram account.

329
00:16:55,269 --> 00:16:55,929
I think like five.

330
00:16:55,949 --> 00:17:03,069
And started crap talking- Yes … the
swinger community, and group leaders, and

331
00:17:03,069 --> 00:17:06,819
club owners, and this and that, trying
to make it seem like they were trying

332
00:17:06,829 --> 00:17:08,629
to save other people- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm

333
00:17:08,629 --> 00:17:09,669
in this lifestyle.

334
00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:10,129
Mm-hmm.

335
00:17:10,129 --> 00:17:14,829
And screenshotted one of our
shows and began trash talking it

336
00:17:14,829 --> 00:17:19,929
as if what we were saying was the
exact detriment to this lifestyle.

337
00:17:20,019 --> 00:17:20,069
Mm-hmm.

338
00:17:20,069 --> 00:17:23,839
Which obviously I called out because
I said, "You know what? You obviously

339
00:17:23,839 --> 00:17:25,399
didn't listen to that show." Mm-hmm.

340
00:17:25,409 --> 00:17:29,259
"And you obviously don't listen to our
show, because what you're claiming,

341
00:17:30,049 --> 00:17:35,369
just off of pulling from a screenshot of
podcast art, is completely incorrect."

342
00:17:35,769 --> 00:17:35,839
Hmm.

343
00:17:36,149 --> 00:17:38,909
And they had nothing to say after that.

344
00:17:38,909 --> 00:17:41,199
But they sure did keep that, that post.

345
00:17:41,269 --> 00:17:41,819
Oh, yeah.

346
00:17:41,819 --> 00:17:47,499
And they, they just… They try to
infiltrate into every single group, but-

347
00:17:48,229 --> 00:17:49,879
Yeah … I mean, what are you gonna do?

348
00:17:49,879 --> 00:17:50,659
What are you gonna do?

349
00:17:50,709 --> 00:17:51,859
Haters are gonna hate.

350
00:17:52,109 --> 00:17:52,609
They are.

351
00:17:53,169 --> 00:17:59,159
There's gonna be lots of unstable
people in the world, and- Everywhere

352
00:17:59,199 --> 00:18:00,409
they're in the lifestyle, guys.

353
00:18:00,419 --> 00:18:01,239
They're in the lifestyle.

354
00:18:01,289 --> 00:18:01,619
They are.

355
00:18:01,619 --> 00:18:03,619
And that's, that's really
the point of all this.

356
00:18:03,619 --> 00:18:06,969
I understand we're airing dirty laundry,
and yeah, we're not talking names.

357
00:18:07,339 --> 00:18:10,969
And those, uh, in our community
may probably know who we're

358
00:18:10,969 --> 00:18:12,889
talking about, don't really care.

359
00:18:13,349 --> 00:18:13,369
No.

360
00:18:13,759 --> 00:18:15,049
My point is this.

361
00:18:16,419 --> 00:18:19,969
You will run into people
that you don't agree with.

362
00:18:20,159 --> 00:18:20,589
Mm-hmm.

363
00:18:20,599 --> 00:18:26,347
You will run into people who
maybe are, you know- a little off.

364
00:18:26,547 --> 00:18:26,877
Yeah.

365
00:18:26,877 --> 00:18:27,647
You know what I'm saying?

366
00:18:27,647 --> 00:18:31,957
Y- y- this community is not
unlike other communities.

367
00:18:32,327 --> 00:18:35,797
And whether your other community's
religious, whether it's, you know,

368
00:18:35,857 --> 00:18:40,687
your neighborhood community, whatever
it is, you're still dealing with a

369
00:18:40,687 --> 00:18:42,477
lot of different personalities- Yeah

370
00:18:43,147 --> 00:18:44,927
and- And I will s- it,
it- … mental health problems.

371
00:18:45,077 --> 00:18:45,527
Yeah.

372
00:18:45,667 --> 00:18:48,047
And it will… You know,
personalities don't mesh.

373
00:18:48,577 --> 00:18:50,007
People just don't always get along.

374
00:18:50,457 --> 00:18:57,573
But I do have to say that our
community is doing such a g- Good

375
00:18:57,573 --> 00:19:02,573
job at trying to keep everybody safe.

376
00:19:03,043 --> 00:19:03,403
Yeah.

377
00:19:03,403 --> 00:19:05,673
You know, that's, that's the
big thing about it because you

378
00:19:05,673 --> 00:19:08,133
can be as discreet as possible.

379
00:19:08,533 --> 00:19:14,713
Um, but no matter what, if you have
to be discreet- Mm-hmm … you're

380
00:19:14,713 --> 00:19:15,703
still taking a chance.

381
00:19:15,843 --> 00:19:15,993
Mm-hmm.

382
00:19:15,993 --> 00:19:17,103
Everything is online.

383
00:19:17,153 --> 00:19:17,443
Yeah.

384
00:19:17,473 --> 00:19:22,843
So unless you're randomly showing up
to meet and greets where somehow you

385
00:19:22,853 --> 00:19:26,163
have an in, where some- somebody in
person tells you, "Hey, something's

386
00:19:26,163 --> 00:19:27,053
going on next week." Mm-hmm.

387
00:19:27,063 --> 00:19:27,963
"You should really go to that."

388
00:19:27,963 --> 00:19:28,563
Mm-hmm.

389
00:19:28,563 --> 00:19:32,263
You still take the chance
on walking into an event and

390
00:19:32,263 --> 00:19:33,463
running into somebody you know.

391
00:19:33,613 --> 00:19:33,963
Yeah.

392
00:19:33,963 --> 00:19:36,660
It's just- And there's phones
everywhere, guys … it is what it is.

393
00:19:36,660 --> 00:19:37,113
There's phones everywhere.

394
00:19:37,113 --> 00:19:39,573
Like, we're not trying to- People take
pictures … not, not trying to scare

395
00:19:39,573 --> 00:19:41,653
you, deter you f- away from the lifestyle.

396
00:19:41,663 --> 00:19:43,173
It's a wonderful lifestyle.

397
00:19:43,183 --> 00:19:44,783
Just setting realistic expectations.

398
00:19:44,793 --> 00:19:45,413
Yes.

399
00:19:45,463 --> 00:19:50,533
Um, vet, vet everybody you talk to.

400
00:19:50,773 --> 00:19:56,403
100%. I will not accept a friend
request, and I swear that I get so

401
00:19:56,403 --> 00:19:58,683
many friend requests on Facebook.

402
00:19:58,683 --> 00:19:59,033
Mm-hmm.

403
00:19:59,033 --> 00:20:02,033
Um, yeah, I'm, I'm on social media.

404
00:20:02,043 --> 00:20:04,063
Yeah, we… We're, we're everywhere.

405
00:20:04,553 --> 00:20:09,033
But if I don't know you and I haven't
met you, I'm not gonna friend…

406
00:20:09,043 --> 00:20:10,453
I'm not gonna accept your friend request.

407
00:20:10,483 --> 00:20:15,083
And if I do because I'm just happening
to be nice that day, I'm asking you to

408
00:20:15,083 --> 00:20:20,733
do a freaking video holding a piece of
paper, saying my name with the date.

409
00:20:20,733 --> 00:20:22,523
Pretty basic verification.

410
00:20:22,553 --> 00:20:22,573
Yeah.

411
00:20:22,693 --> 00:20:22,903
It's not a big deal.

412
00:20:22,903 --> 00:20:23,423
And you've seen them.

413
00:20:23,423 --> 00:20:23,783
Oh, yeah.

414
00:20:23,823 --> 00:20:24,383
They've come through.

415
00:20:24,623 --> 00:20:27,013
They've come through, and then
other people just disappear.

416
00:20:27,243 --> 00:20:27,473
Mm-hmm.

417
00:20:27,513 --> 00:20:31,023
Um, y- you know- But vet … that,
that's the realistic expectation is

418
00:20:31,023 --> 00:20:34,473
you… if you're gonna even possibly
friend- Mm-hmm … or talk to

419
00:20:34,473 --> 00:20:36,853
somebody, vet, vet, vet, vet, vet 100%.

420
00:20:37,293 --> 00:20:42,183
Um, because there are people out there,
like this person- Mm-hmm … who's

421
00:20:42,193 --> 00:20:49,453
obsessive, who will find one or two people
and proceed to friend and follow- Mm-hmm

422
00:20:49,453 --> 00:20:52,453
everybody on their list that
looks like their lifestyle.

423
00:20:53,193 --> 00:20:54,663
And it's like a cancer.

424
00:20:54,953 --> 00:20:57,633
Like- It, it spreads … they
will s- it'll spread.

425
00:20:57,643 --> 00:20:59,193
It spreads fast.

426
00:20:59,533 --> 00:21:03,753
But what our community has done is
amazing because- Mm-hmm … just

427
00:21:03,773 --> 00:21:08,293
as fast our community has reached
out to everybody that they can and

428
00:21:08,293 --> 00:21:10,703
said, "Watch out for this- Mm-hmm

429
00:21:10,703 --> 00:21:13,273
profile." Mm-hmm. "Watch
out for this person.

430
00:21:13,613 --> 00:21:16,343
Don't friend anybody."
We've got minions too.

431
00:21:16,773 --> 00:21:19,843
W- there's, there's people- There's so
many people … who are watching out for

432
00:21:19,843 --> 00:21:21,063
everybody- Yeah … in this community.

433
00:21:21,333 --> 00:21:22,693
We are not unlike that.

434
00:21:22,693 --> 00:21:26,513
We, we definitely wanna keep eyes out
and warn the community, and that's

435
00:21:26,513 --> 00:21:29,563
why I'm doing this quickie right now,
because I wanted to get it out there.

436
00:21:29,603 --> 00:21:30,293
Okay, wait.

437
00:21:30,313 --> 00:21:33,273
Before we go any further, FirmTech.

438
00:21:33,923 --> 00:21:35,553
We have to talk about FirmTech.

439
00:21:35,723 --> 00:21:36,043
Yes.

440
00:21:36,053 --> 00:21:38,743
Okay, so FirmTech makes the Tech Ring.

441
00:21:38,843 --> 00:21:40,493
Yeah, and here's the thing.

442
00:21:40,673 --> 00:21:42,383
It's not what you might think.

443
00:21:42,913 --> 00:21:45,703
Well, it kind of is, but
it's so much more than that.

444
00:21:46,063 --> 00:21:46,333
Yeah.

445
00:21:46,333 --> 00:21:50,643
It's a wearable ring that helps with
firmness and blood flow, and it actually

446
00:21:50,643 --> 00:21:52,773
connects to an app that tracks data.

447
00:21:52,853 --> 00:21:54,523
Real data.

448
00:21:54,753 --> 00:21:57,493
Like, it tells you
exactly what's going on.

449
00:21:57,733 --> 00:21:59,853
And there's actual clinical
research behind it.

450
00:21:59,923 --> 00:22:01,263
This isn't some random gimmick.

451
00:22:02,093 --> 00:22:03,473
And then there's the Ring Mate.

452
00:22:03,513 --> 00:22:04,303
I saw this thing.

453
00:22:04,313 --> 00:22:07,503
It's an attachment that goes
on the Tech Ring specifically

454
00:22:07,513 --> 00:22:08,903
for your partner's pleasure.

455
00:22:08,933 --> 00:22:10,013
Looks just like a tongue.

456
00:22:10,153 --> 00:22:11,753
Hey, so everybody wins.

457
00:22:11,763 --> 00:22:12,753
Everybody wins.

458
00:22:12,963 --> 00:22:14,973
It really is a whole situation.

459
00:22:14,983 --> 00:22:15,853
A good situation.

460
00:22:15,863 --> 00:22:17,543
A very good situation.

461
00:22:17,793 --> 00:22:21,033
Use code Beyomono at firmtech.co.

462
00:22:21,043 --> 00:22:26,913
That's B-E-Y-O-M-O-N-O, and get 15% off.

463
00:22:27,103 --> 00:22:28,233
Okay, now where were we?

464
00:22:28,488 --> 00:22:33,358
Yes, we talk about how you can start out
as a, you know, in the swinging community,

465
00:22:33,358 --> 00:22:37,438
how to have that conversation with your
partner, all the important things to keep

466
00:22:37,438 --> 00:22:40,968
your relationship important and priority.

467
00:22:41,008 --> 00:22:41,308
Mm-hmm.

468
00:22:41,348 --> 00:22:44,458
And all the things that you have
to deal with going out there and

469
00:22:44,468 --> 00:22:46,398
trying something new as this- Mm-hmm

470
00:22:46,398 --> 00:22:49,118
can be full of anxiety, and
we get into all of that.

471
00:22:49,864 --> 00:22:52,894
But it's important to set realistic
expectations- To realistic expectations

472
00:22:53,314 --> 00:22:55,284
… about what's actually out there sometimes.

473
00:22:55,294 --> 00:22:55,314
Yeah.

474
00:22:55,374 --> 00:22:58,604
I mean, again, different personalities.

475
00:22:58,614 --> 00:22:58,634
Yeah.

476
00:22:58,684 --> 00:23:00,504
It's just like a regular life.

477
00:23:01,574 --> 00:23:05,794
You're not gonna get along with
everybody, um, and that's okay.

478
00:23:06,154 --> 00:23:07,134
You don't have to.

479
00:23:07,554 --> 00:23:09,324
You'll find your own little community.

480
00:23:09,564 --> 00:23:09,834
Yeah.

481
00:23:10,054 --> 00:23:12,397
Um, just be s- be safe, you know?

482
00:23:12,397 --> 00:23:13,384
Y- your little circle of
friends that you can trust.

483
00:23:13,444 --> 00:23:16,254
I know there's a lot of people
that, that don't like to, like, show

484
00:23:16,254 --> 00:23:18,284
their faces in pictures and do that.

485
00:23:18,604 --> 00:23:19,574
I mean, keep it up.

486
00:23:19,604 --> 00:23:20,914
Do whatever you wanna do.

487
00:23:21,844 --> 00:23:24,494
That's your way of keeping safe.

488
00:23:24,504 --> 00:23:29,084
Yeah Just, you know, be, be
careful with who you talk to,

489
00:23:29,084 --> 00:23:31,034
who you associate with Yeah.

490
00:23:31,034 --> 00:23:36,394
W- and you know, that's, that's
almost a contradiction in feelings-

491
00:23:36,394 --> 00:23:39,764
Yeah … because if you wanna be
successful at this- Yeah … obviously

492
00:23:39,954 --> 00:23:42,144
you can't be 100% discreet.

493
00:23:42,154 --> 00:23:42,584
You can't.

494
00:23:42,784 --> 00:23:46,794
You can't just sit back and hope
somebody sends you a message off

495
00:23:46,794 --> 00:23:48,714
of you just showing your neck- No

496
00:23:48,724 --> 00:23:50,084
in profile pictures.

497
00:23:50,444 --> 00:23:54,237
You know, i- i- in order to meet
other people, you have to- You

498
00:23:54,237 --> 00:23:55,394
have to … meet other people.

499
00:23:55,394 --> 00:23:56,644
You have to get out there and meet.

500
00:23:56,664 --> 00:23:57,084
Yeah.

501
00:23:57,084 --> 00:23:57,484
You know?

502
00:23:57,484 --> 00:23:58,584
And everything's online.

503
00:23:58,634 --> 00:23:58,984
Yeah.

504
00:23:59,354 --> 00:24:00,414
So that means what?

505
00:24:00,454 --> 00:24:02,064
That means you can have fake emails.

506
00:24:02,064 --> 00:24:03,714
That means you can have fake profiles.

507
00:24:03,714 --> 00:24:05,414
That means that some profiles are bots.

508
00:24:05,454 --> 00:24:09,464
That means that some profiles are
misrepresented in one way or another.

509
00:24:09,464 --> 00:24:11,314
Believe me, we have seen them all.

510
00:24:11,364 --> 00:24:12,304
And we still get them.

511
00:24:12,474 --> 00:24:13,164
We do.

512
00:24:13,494 --> 00:24:15,954
We got, we got one not too
long ago on- Yeah … Snapchat.

513
00:24:16,114 --> 00:24:16,504
Yeah.

514
00:24:16,734 --> 00:24:17,174
You know?

515
00:24:17,184 --> 00:24:21,254
So I mean, it's, it's
hard, but there's ways.

516
00:24:21,254 --> 00:24:23,144
I mean, we've been in it for 15 years.

517
00:24:23,204 --> 00:24:27,224
Um- Yeah … yeah, y- we've
had some crazy people.

518
00:24:27,444 --> 00:24:33,674
Um, and it's, it's, it's happened,
and we navigate through it.

519
00:24:33,674 --> 00:24:37,604
But- You know, depending on how serious-
There are shitty people everywhere.

520
00:24:37,874 --> 00:24:43,614
Depending on how serious, uh, you
are about this lifestyle, uh, really

521
00:24:43,614 --> 00:24:48,694
depends on how you… W- what,
what journey- Yeah … you go down.

522
00:24:48,694 --> 00:24:48,844
Yeah.

523
00:24:48,884 --> 00:24:51,864
Because for us- Yeah … um, we're open.

524
00:24:52,444 --> 00:24:53,284
You know what I'm saying?

525
00:24:53,484 --> 00:24:57,134
So if somebody's gonna try and, and
blackmail us, saying, "Oh, well, we

526
00:24:57,134 --> 00:24:59,404
know you're swingers. We're gonna
tell your employers," or, "We know

527
00:24:59,404 --> 00:25:02,424
you're swingers. We're gonna tell
your family." Guess what, guys?

528
00:25:02,784 --> 00:25:03,944
We have a podcast.

529
00:25:04,254 --> 00:25:05,534
Everybody knows.

530
00:25:05,894 --> 00:25:08,444
Like, we're obviously not
trying to hide a thing.

531
00:25:08,744 --> 00:25:12,104
So if you wanna try and come
after us, you're gonna have to do

532
00:25:12,104 --> 00:25:15,504
something better than that because
we wear this lifestyle like a badge.

533
00:25:15,764 --> 00:25:15,794
Mm-hmm.

534
00:25:15,804 --> 00:25:19,434
You're not gonna hurt us- Mm-hmm … by
talking about our sexual activities.

535
00:25:19,454 --> 00:25:21,184
We literally do that every week.

536
00:25:21,604 --> 00:25:26,474
Now, you are gonna go after people
who feel that, uh, they are very

537
00:25:26,474 --> 00:25:29,264
afraid of somebody- That's what I
don't like … coming after them.

538
00:25:29,264 --> 00:25:31,424
I don't like, I don't like that.

539
00:25:31,764 --> 00:25:33,381
That's just being s-
that's just scaring people.

540
00:25:33,381 --> 00:25:38,694
It's, it's harboring, uh, power-
Mm-hmm … because they're scaring people.

541
00:25:38,774 --> 00:25:39,004
Mm-hmm.

542
00:25:39,014 --> 00:25:41,324
And, uh, it's, it's unnecessary.

543
00:25:42,004 --> 00:25:42,594
That's what pussies do.

544
00:25:42,594 --> 00:25:44,324
That's what insecure people do.

545
00:25:44,324 --> 00:25:45,064
That's what insecure people do.

546
00:25:45,114 --> 00:25:45,524
Yeah.

547
00:25:45,644 --> 00:25:46,294
Mm. Yeah.

548
00:25:46,304 --> 00:25:48,924
I mean, you know, I get it.

549
00:25:49,254 --> 00:25:49,684
Do you?

550
00:25:49,944 --> 00:25:54,904
I get the whole part of she's…
They, the people that are mean,

551
00:25:55,274 --> 00:25:59,424
are probably just sitting there
wishing they could live lives like

552
00:25:59,704 --> 00:26:01,654
all the fun lifestylers are doing.

553
00:26:02,164 --> 00:26:02,404
Yeah.

554
00:26:02,404 --> 00:26:06,074
I mean, that's a lot to be envy
about, envious about, you know?

555
00:26:06,104 --> 00:26:12,004
Um, but again- I don't know I don't know.

556
00:26:12,004 --> 00:26:17,314
You know, uh, it, there is… I always
said there's a lot of men that I know

557
00:26:17,314 --> 00:26:22,914
that are very homophobic because they
themselves have thoughts about other

558
00:26:22,914 --> 00:26:27,304
men in sexual ways, and they don't
know how to navigate that internally.

559
00:26:27,444 --> 00:26:27,684
Yeah, yeah.

560
00:26:27,684 --> 00:26:29,574
Maybe they were raised a certain way.

561
00:26:32,794 --> 00:26:33,274
That's pretty much that, yeah … and
there's a lot of confusion, um, and

562
00:26:33,274 --> 00:26:35,474
th- that manifests in an angry way.

563
00:26:35,624 --> 00:26:35,924
Right.

564
00:26:35,954 --> 00:26:40,894
Now, that's not everybody's
situation- Yeah … but those

565
00:26:40,894 --> 00:26:43,024
are thoughts to keep in mind.

566
00:26:43,454 --> 00:26:47,334
People are assholes for all
sorts of different reasons.

567
00:26:47,584 --> 00:26:50,604
Nowadays, the big reason to be
an asshole is just because you,

568
00:26:50,784 --> 00:26:52,174
you get to piss people off.

569
00:26:52,584 --> 00:26:54,424
Trolls love to piss people off.

570
00:26:54,424 --> 00:26:55,124
Oh, they love it.

571
00:26:55,334 --> 00:26:59,024
They love to come after you and
try and see a rise out of you.

572
00:26:59,024 --> 00:26:59,274
Mm-hmm.

573
00:26:59,274 --> 00:27:00,914
And I used to be that guy.

574
00:27:00,974 --> 00:27:07,214
I used to feel very, very upset when
somebody would leave comments on my

575
00:27:07,214 --> 00:27:11,194
social medias or when they would try
and pick a fight or when they were just

576
00:27:11,204 --> 00:27:14,304
mean or rude, you know, unnecessarily.

577
00:27:14,574 --> 00:27:15,894
I would take it to heart.

578
00:27:16,784 --> 00:27:18,574
We've been doing this a while now.

579
00:27:18,644 --> 00:27:26,732
We're going on two years almost, and
I gotta tell you I don't give a fuck.

580
00:27:26,922 --> 00:27:30,902
I don't give a fuck, and this goes
out to every single troll out there

581
00:27:30,902 --> 00:27:34,702
who's going to scope this out as a
clip- Yes … 'cause I'm gonna put

582
00:27:34,702 --> 00:27:36,382
it out there on my social medias.

583
00:27:36,712 --> 00:27:39,702
And when you tell me something
on my comments, guess what?

584
00:27:40,102 --> 00:27:44,252
I'm not gonna respond back to
you because you, you don't really

585
00:27:44,252 --> 00:27:46,302
re- you don't deserve a response.

586
00:27:46,572 --> 00:27:52,412
And the other thing is, is that
you hold no power over this guy.

587
00:27:52,852 --> 00:27:53,652
You don't.

588
00:27:54,192 --> 00:27:56,162
Uh, and that goes- Don't
mess with my honey boo boos.

589
00:27:56,372 --> 00:27:56,932
That's right.

590
00:27:56,942 --> 00:27:57,492
Yeah, don't.

591
00:27:57,492 --> 00:27:59,102
Don't be leaving comments on my
honey boo boos that are not nice.

592
00:27:59,102 --> 00:28:02,302
Don't make me send her your
way because, uh, it's like-

593
00:28:02,302 --> 00:28:03,512
He doesn't fight his battles.

594
00:28:03,602 --> 00:28:04,202
I do.

595
00:28:04,262 --> 00:28:05,582
I don't need to fight my battles.

596
00:28:06,072 --> 00:28:09,242
But I don't, I don't care anymore-
No … is my, my point really,

597
00:28:09,452 --> 00:28:13,102
and that goes for, uh, you know,
the same, uh, bullies, uh- Yeah

598
00:28:13,102 --> 00:28:14,352
that we were talking about earlier.

599
00:28:14,742 --> 00:28:15,502
I don't care.

600
00:28:15,952 --> 00:28:18,912
Like- You wanna come after me, you
can come after me all day long.

601
00:28:18,912 --> 00:28:25,382
But I will say the more that we keep
talking about it, they're gonna eventually

602
00:28:25,382 --> 00:28:28,212
get tired, and if they don't, that's fine.

603
00:28:28,212 --> 00:28:31,942
There's so many of us- I don't know
… that fight the battle for each other

604
00:28:32,432 --> 00:28:35,032
that it, it could keep going for years.

605
00:28:35,232 --> 00:28:41,302
And at some point, some point, homies
are gonna have to get over it but, you

606
00:28:41,302 --> 00:28:48,022
know, there… My point is, is we've known
people- Mm-hmm … to be very obsessive.

607
00:28:48,052 --> 00:28:48,562
Mm-hmm.

608
00:28:48,882 --> 00:28:54,512
And we've known one particular person in
general who has been obsessive for over

609
00:28:54,512 --> 00:28:56,082
a decade- For- … about certain things.

610
00:28:56,132 --> 00:28:58,132
Oh, gosh Uh, we've seen it.

611
00:28:58,142 --> 00:28:58,332
Mm-hmm.

612
00:28:58,402 --> 00:29:01,652
And we know what that
kind of, of person is.

613
00:29:01,682 --> 00:29:02,212
Yeah, yeah.

614
00:29:02,262 --> 00:29:05,912
And I suspect this other person
is similar to that as well.

615
00:29:05,912 --> 00:29:06,292
Yeah, yeah.

616
00:29:06,382 --> 00:29:07,712
Uh, can't let it go.

617
00:29:07,722 --> 00:29:07,742
Yeah.

618
00:29:08,022 --> 00:29:11,632
Uh, can't f- uh, can't get past the
fact- Yeah … that they're just not

619
00:29:11,652 --> 00:29:14,922
in, in- If you're gonna be obsessive
about something, be obsessive about

620
00:29:14,922 --> 00:29:16,862
something that's going to bring you joy.

621
00:29:17,322 --> 00:29:17,902
And you know what?

622
00:29:17,922 --> 00:29:22,132
I- we were talking about that this
weekend, was the amazing thing about our

623
00:29:22,132 --> 00:29:26,302
community is with everything that done
in this community- Mm-hmm … and every-

624
00:29:26,372 --> 00:29:28,612
everybody that treated like shit- Yeah.

625
00:29:28,882 --> 00:29:34,050
If they were to come back and
say- I'm sorry … No, they

626
00:29:34,050 --> 00:29:35,240
don't even have to say I'm sorry.

627
00:29:35,250 --> 00:29:38,370
No, but like- They could just come
back and say, "You know what? I just

628
00:29:38,370 --> 00:29:41,870
wanna hang out with the community,"
and, uh, you know, people would

629
00:29:41,870 --> 00:29:43,720
accept them in this community.

630
00:29:43,730 --> 00:29:44,070
Mm-hmm.

631
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,860
Knowing full well who they
are, how they are, and, and

632
00:29:47,860 --> 00:29:49,270
how they have been in the past.

633
00:29:49,300 --> 00:29:49,790
Mm-hmm.

634
00:29:50,070 --> 00:29:54,520
Mostly everybody in the community would
sit back and go, "Yeah, come on in."

635
00:29:54,770 --> 00:29:55,770
I- we've seen it.

636
00:29:55,790 --> 00:29:58,980
Because that's the hospitality- Yeah,
yeah … that we have- Mm-hmm … and

637
00:29:58,980 --> 00:30:02,820
the kind of personalities that we have
in the majority of this community.

638
00:30:03,090 --> 00:30:03,630
Very true.

639
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:08,650
So yes, there are some bad apples
out there, let's be real, and if

640
00:30:08,650 --> 00:30:12,000
you're gonna get into this, you
could be talking to a bad apple.

641
00:30:12,290 --> 00:30:16,030
Mm. You may have had bad apple
experiences, but always understand that

642
00:30:16,030 --> 00:30:18,760
one bad apple does not spoil this bunch.

643
00:30:18,990 --> 00:30:20,320
This is a great bunch.

644
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:21,010
It is.

645
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:22,750
A motherfucking fruit salad.

646
00:30:23,060 --> 00:30:23,790
It's wonderful.

647
00:30:23,860 --> 00:30:25,030
And it's a great bunch.

648
00:30:25,330 --> 00:30:31,690
And, uh, you know, I felt the need to,
uh, to put this out here for the people

649
00:30:31,690 --> 00:30:39,080
that listen, for the people that follow
because if you don't have a story in

650
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:42,580
your arsenal that you have been through
where you have dealt with drama,

651
00:30:42,590 --> 00:30:45,780
where you have dealt with a difficult
personality, where you've dealt with

652
00:30:45,810 --> 00:30:48,950
a bully in this lifestyle, or a troll

653
00:30:50,988 --> 00:30:52,118
Don't worry, you will.

654
00:30:53,368 --> 00:30:54,828
It's coming, I assure you.

655
00:30:54,828 --> 00:30:55,478
It'll happen.

656
00:30:55,578 --> 00:30:56,318
It will happen.

657
00:30:56,528 --> 00:31:01,518
And when it happens, I want you to be able
to handle it- Yes … by saying, "Fuck

658
00:31:01,558 --> 00:31:04,528
that, I'm moving on," and just move on.

659
00:31:04,958 --> 00:31:05,448
Yes.

660
00:31:05,788 --> 00:31:06,458
Just move on.

661
00:31:06,518 --> 00:31:07,218
Just move on.

662
00:31:07,258 --> 00:31:10,658
And I think that is a great
place for us to move on.

663
00:31:10,718 --> 00:31:10,958
Yes.

664
00:31:11,148 --> 00:31:13,128
Uh, I think this was a great conversation.

665
00:31:13,128 --> 00:31:14,198
I feel better already.

666
00:31:14,198 --> 00:31:16,668
I feel- That's good … the
negativity is getting out in the air.

667
00:31:16,718 --> 00:31:16,858
Mm-hmm.

668
00:31:16,858 --> 00:31:17,488
It's gone.

669
00:31:17,648 --> 00:31:18,138
Poof.

670
00:31:18,428 --> 00:31:18,968
There you go.

671
00:31:19,118 --> 00:31:20,768
And out with it it is.

672
00:31:20,998 --> 00:31:25,638
Speaking of happy, happy times, uh,
what do we got going on this weekend?

673
00:31:25,648 --> 00:31:26,818
We got anything going on this weekend?

674
00:31:26,968 --> 00:31:27,608
We don't.

675
00:31:27,618 --> 00:31:27,628
Ooh.

676
00:31:27,638 --> 00:31:28,828
We're gonna stay home.

677
00:31:28,908 --> 00:31:29,328
What?

678
00:31:29,348 --> 00:31:33,468
Um, next weekend… Next week,
the following week we have a few

679
00:31:33,508 --> 00:31:34,698
things that we're gonna be going to.

680
00:31:35,118 --> 00:31:35,258
Okay.

681
00:31:35,268 --> 00:31:35,958
Maybe a club.

682
00:31:36,198 --> 00:31:36,578
Okay.

683
00:31:36,608 --> 00:31:37,988
But nothing this weekend, guys.

684
00:31:37,998 --> 00:31:38,888
Well, that's exciting.

685
00:31:38,898 --> 00:31:41,228
That in and of itself is exciting.

686
00:31:41,238 --> 00:31:41,318
Yes.

687
00:31:41,478 --> 00:31:43,258
I'm sure we can get into
some trouble, though.

688
00:31:43,538 --> 00:31:48,818
Uh, you know, everybody that's
out there, we always like to say

689
00:31:48,818 --> 00:31:53,178
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690
00:31:54,068 --> 00:31:59,258
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691
00:31:59,288 --> 00:32:03,668
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692
00:32:03,668 --> 00:32:05,438
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693
00:32:05,598 --> 00:32:05,668
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694
00:32:05,828 --> 00:32:09,188
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695
00:32:09,208 --> 00:32:13,968
We get discovered, and if you leave
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696
00:32:14,468 --> 00:32:17,628
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697
00:32:17,628 --> 00:32:19,638
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698
00:32:19,658 --> 00:32:23,238
It doesn't cost a thing to hit that like
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699
00:32:23,298 --> 00:32:25,628
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700
00:32:26,368 --> 00:32:26,968
Give it a shot.

701
00:32:27,268 --> 00:32:27,598
That's right.

702
00:32:27,808 --> 00:32:28,148
Yeah.

703
00:32:28,568 --> 00:32:33,088
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704
00:32:33,088 --> 00:32:38,518
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705
00:32:38,918 --> 00:32:43,778
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706
00:32:43,778 --> 00:32:46,648
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707
00:32:46,738 --> 00:32:52,208
And don't forget to visit our
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708
00:32:52,438 --> 00:32:56,018
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709
00:32:56,088 --> 00:32:56,588
We do.

710
00:32:56,768 --> 00:32:58,598
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711
00:32:58,618 --> 00:33:02,158
On our website, on our platform
you can chat with us, talk

712
00:33:02,728 --> 00:33:04,078
whatever smack you want.

713
00:33:04,278 --> 00:33:05,898
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714
00:33:06,748 --> 00:33:09,198
But you can interact with
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715
00:33:09,338 --> 00:33:09,368
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716
00:33:09,368 --> 00:33:11,988
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717
00:33:11,988 --> 00:33:13,218
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718
00:33:13,398 --> 00:33:13,418
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719
00:33:13,428 --> 00:33:18,098
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Beyond Monogamy, 100% anonymous

720
00:33:18,138 --> 00:33:19,968
Beyond Monogamy confessional.

721
00:33:19,998 --> 00:33:20,128
Yes.

722
00:33:20,558 --> 00:33:21,818
Which is one of my favorites.

723
00:33:21,818 --> 00:33:23,788
You can type in whatever you want.

724
00:33:24,178 --> 00:33:25,328
You can tell us a story.

725
00:33:25,328 --> 00:33:27,368
You can tell us whatever's on your mind.

726
00:33:27,788 --> 00:33:31,078
Talk to us and let us know, and
if it's juicy we'll definitely

727
00:33:31,078 --> 00:33:32,268
talk about it on the show.

728
00:33:32,288 --> 00:33:33,788
Give us your questions,
all that good stuff.

729
00:33:34,118 --> 00:33:38,950
Uh, also- You've said also like four
times Also because there's lots of also's.

730
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:38,990
Okay.

731
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:49,760
Also, and, and don't forget that in
February of 2027, we will be at Krazy

732
00:33:49,780 --> 00:33:54,350
Winter Nights at Kansas City, Missouri.

733
00:33:54,470 --> 00:33:55,060
Yes.

734
00:33:57,030 --> 00:34:00,660
Uh, the exact dates are on the
events tab found on our website.

735
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,790
But if you wanna go out there
and hang out with us, all you

736
00:34:03,790 --> 00:34:06,100
gotta do is go to krazykasbh.com

737
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:14,280
and type in the discount code
Beyomono, B-E-Y-O-M-O-N-O, and you

738
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:17,330
can get a good little discount on
there to come hang out with us.

739
00:34:17,670 --> 00:34:20,610
All that information-
Mm-hmm … along with that website

740
00:34:20,610 --> 00:34:23,180
will be found in our show notes.

741
00:34:23,370 --> 00:34:23,600
Yes.

742
00:34:24,540 --> 00:34:24,880
Yeah.

743
00:34:25,190 --> 00:34:27,390
And so, uh, am I missing anything?

744
00:34:27,470 --> 00:34:27,800
No.

745
00:34:28,380 --> 00:34:28,870
Is that all of it?

746
00:34:28,870 --> 00:34:29,530
I think so.

747
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:31,060
Are you sure?

748
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:32,010
Okay.

749
00:34:32,190 --> 00:34:36,240
Well, everybody, we will
see y'all next week.

750
00:34:36,250 --> 00:34:37,100
What?

751
00:34:37,430 --> 00:34:37,720
Bye.

752
00:34:37,730 --> 00:34:37,750
Nah