How to Set Up a Gang Bang (Planning, Consent & Fantasy Reality)

0:06 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures. An ethical non-monogamy.

0:47 So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And today on our Wednesday quickie, we're gonna be talking about how to set up a gang bang. Yeah. This is purely an introspective as we have not done it yet, and this is the frustration. Well, let's explain to people why we're talking about this. Yes. Please set up the backstory. I. Want to have this happen. I want to have a gang bang. Is this a fantasy of yours? It's a fantasy of mine. Okay. Okay. But I am going to pick who it is.

1:27 They will not be randos, and it will be for my pleasure. Now, I said this to somebody and somebody said, well, isn't it always. No. No. Now, would it be fair to say that in most cases when you have fun with another man in the swinging space, is it do, would you say that it's usually about your pleasure or no? Sometimes. Sometimes it is. Sometimes they just wanna keep on going like, we're running a marathon. Not happening. My, it's not gonna happen because I'm, I, I'll stop somebody. If they're taking too long. I'll be like, I'm done.

2:08 We're done. Yeah, you've done it before. I've done it many times. It's just, who has time? Who has time for that bullshit, you know? Um, and so, yeah, so this is going to be, I'm trying to figure out like how to set it up because I don't want windows. Yeah. Yeah. And then someone told me, you should try them before you set 'em up. And I was like, that was me. Who told you that? Yeah. I was like, that's true. Yeah. So I have to do that. And again, I have to make sure they understand that this is one for content creation. Mm-hmm. So they have to be okay with being filmed. They have to be okay with being filmed, which pretty much anybody that I play with outside of the club is already told that. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. But that I'm gonna record.

2:49 Mm-hmm. Um, and so they have to be okay with that. And they have to understand that this isn't for them. This is for me. If you have, if you get a, if you are lucky enough to have an orgasm in the matter of time that we're doing it. Kudos to you, homie. But so this is, this is the fun part for me because I get to be the fly on the wall because I know you. Yeah. I know. You probably as good as you know yourself. Yes. Well, I hope so. I know how excited you get and sometimes things sound easy. Oh, no, this is hard. Oh, yeah. No this is hard. This is hard and this is hard for a number of reasons. First and foremost. Just for anybody to set up a gang bang.

3:30 The, the difficulties that are involved, you're talking about you have to find at least four to five guys, if not more, depending on what your volume is that you're wanting. You have to find four to five guys who aren't flaky, who are open for that calendar date and time. Can make it, will not flake out on you. Will for sure be there. That in and of itself is a difficulty. Then you have to find guys. Know how to please a woman. Again, not always the easiest thing to find. Correct. Then you have to make sure that they can have sex with other men in the room or partaking in that. Not all men can do that. No. You know, we know some that, that are purely unable to and have to go to a different room, you know, stuff like that.

4:15 Yeah. So that right there is a difficulty. Then they have to be okay with being recorded and, yeah, just all of that is a, is a, is a difficulty. Yeah. Right. You have to make sure that they, that their penis works. You have to make sure that that, all of these things will come together, that they can actually do what they need to. Oh, I have a long checklist. But then on top of all that, here's the real difficulty. Tell me, well, this is why I told you you, well, you're gonna have to try them out individually before you put them together. Yes. Yeah. And you're not a big fan of having sex with men one-on-one. No. Yeah. So that means that you're gonna have to start going out and finding different, oh, no, no, no, no, no interested.

4:59 No, no, no, no. Try them out and go, okay, well maybe I'll consider this one, or maybe I'll consider that one. No. Like, how is this gonna go? Most of them are probably friends, people I already know when we, you don't really sleep with a whole lot of your middle friends don't gonna come and be like, look friend. I wanna have this and I trust you. So I've never tried that. How about we go to the back? I try it and I see if you get to be on the list. So they have to volunteer themselves to be on the list first and then you try them out? Well, I'm gonna talk to them. No, not everybody. I'm gonna ask them so they don't have to volunteer. I'm just gonna be like, Hey, I'm gonna have this and I'd really like for you to join.

5:41 Yeah. But I have to try that first to make sure that you can join. Yeah. Yeah. If someone, I mean, you've been asked, I have been asked and it, wait. So, but she wanted to have sex with me individually, one-on-one before the actual, before everybody came in, which that didn't, and she didn't want me there. No, this is not gonna be like that. I do not care if your wives, your girlfriends, your significant others wanna come and watch. I do not care. Yeah, they can hold the camera, have them hold the camera. I need many angles. That is not what this is about. This is me checking off a bucket list of a fantasy that I want to do. That's why I said this is not about anybody else but myself.

6:23 Okay. Okay. And so, so if you had to basically break it down, how would you see this going? This wonderful night of gang bang. Break it down for me. Aw. What do you see this, how do you see this happening? How do you see this playing out? I say this is gonna be about four or five guys. Okay. And I'm gonna be super comfortable with them because again, they're probably all gonna be friends. Sure. You will be there. I will wives or not wives or girlfriends will be there. Or not Out of the screen area. Out of the screen area. I'll be on the bed. Laying down with my beautiful, sexy lingerie and start raking out one at a time.

7:05 I want hands on me. I want to be rubbed. I want to just feel like I am the queen of Sheba. And adore me. And adore me. That's what I, and we're we're one's. Hold on because talking about this, and I was like, well, yeah, one's gonna be, I'm gonna be on top of somebody and then I can have one on one hand. I can have somebody in my and the other hand. So I'm going one arm, one. Yeah, that's for those of you who are not, uh, watching at home, but you're listening, gosh, you're missing out on some really interesting arm and mouth action.

7:50 Oh, wait. It's be like this, you know, if you look like that when it's happening, I think our, our content's gonna sell for different reasons. Yeah. Oh, but it's still gonna settle, so I care less. So the point of this is for me to experience all of these. Men together. And I would love to finish. Yeah. I would, each one of them, I would love for each one of them to finish because that would be hot. Yeah. I know I can do it, but their head has to be in the game and I'm gonna have people back there cheering them on. So, I don't know. See, that might, that might make things a little bit more difficult. So this is the reason why I think it's so hard, no pun intended, is you and I we're exhibitionists.

8:34 Yeah. Yeah. So we go to the club and. We post up in the middle beds. Yes. Because we like to be watched. Yes. Most of the people that we talk to that we've expressed interest in playing with that sort of thing, several of them will tell us I don't wanna play out in the open. I don't wanna be out there. And so, but have you noticed it's a lot of women. That's true. Let's say that men, I love you guys because y'all are like, fuck it. Yeah. Where do you want me, Pris? And that's what I mean. That's what I'm saying. It's a lot easier. Women, we have a lot of insecurities. We don't like the way we look, we don't like the way we sound. We have a lot of things that are in our heads and I find that a lot of men don't really think about that.

9:17 Gosh. You know, I don't know if that's true. I mean, it probably isn't. I think about that. I mean, I mean, I overthink about that. Yeah. Yeah, but I'm, I dunno. I, I, I just, I feel like that's a generalization about men. That that's, no, not necessarily proven. I mean, I, so I'm saying not every man but the most are like, sure, where do you want me that, yeah. I think there are a lot more guys who are like this is a, this is an opportunity that if I have to I'll make it work. There you go. You know what I mean? This is exactly what that is, sir. Yeah, and I, I think I might've said that once before myself. It's like, okay, well this is an opportunity that I might not get again. Yeah. Uh, so I better just make this work. So we'll be testing some, so yeah.

9:58 So you, on top of all that, you want them all to finish. I would love for them to finish. Yeah. Any particular place? Everywhere. Everywhere. I'd like some in my mouth. I'd like some in my tits. I would love. Some on my stomach, on my ass. Yes. Wow. Guys, bring your A game. That's right. And start finding your real estate. Yes. It's like monopoly. Start buying your real estate as keep going. I got the back shoulder. Geez. Yeah, so I think it's gonna be a lot. Honestly, I, um. I'm looking forward to it. Well, so this is kind of the interesting aspect of it because I've talked to a lot of women who have discussed with me the, just the MFM threesome.

10:43 Yes. And I've had, I've had several women tell me, man, that sounds like a lot of work. 'cause just being with one guy is, do you know, is a lot of work. But being with two guys is a lot of work. Do you know why? And overwhelming why? 'cause I used to think the same thing. ' Cause we do it for them. Yeah. Stop doing it for them. So what exactly for them would you be doing for them? So this is what I'm saying, like, like, okay. So like, when I would, when, when I had to guys, it was a lot of, oh, okay. How do you want me, oh, do you want me from behind? No, no, no, no, no. This is not gonna be what that's about A, we're gonna all have, they're all gonna have colors. So I'm gonna say red. You're the back blue in the front green at the right.

11:27 You know, like they're, oh my gosh. Hey, I'm gonna have this ex, I'm telling you, this is sounds like a football playbook. This is about me. Okay so that, that is about you, but let's face facts. Sex is still work. You're, it's not like, I mean, are you planning on just laying there like a dead fish and letting these guys just do stuff to you? Well, obviously not because No, you are a sexual being, so you'd have to do some work too. Okay. So let me explain to you, so as a woman, I'm gonna go play with you, right? Sure. Okay. And then I'm gonna bring, I don't know, Jack. Hey Jack, do you wanna come and, and join Me and my husband. Okay. So I'm gonna be there. Really, really, really performing for both of y'all.

12:09 Okay. Trying to make it super sexy, super hot. Like, yeah. Where do you want me, baby? And how do you want me for y'all too? Okay. This one is not gonna be about that. I'm gonna tell you, this is where you're gonna be. This is what I need you to do. And then we're just gonna keep flowing and we're gonna just keep flowing. And if I'm getting tired, I'm gonna be like, okay, pause. And I'm gonna step away. Yeah. And yeah, like, I'm literally seriously doing this for me now. Say they're really successful at, uh, getting you to your finish point. Are you able to keep going past that? Yes. Or would you have to put a stop and go, okay, I need some time I can give co keep going past.

12:54 Wow. Yeah. Now it's gonna be a, a room full of you and guys. Would you have any toys there? I know that, that, yes. That seems like a silly question, but Yes. Yes. Really, just because it's helpful. Is it? Yeah. So even with, yeah. Dicks all over the place. Mm-hmm. You're gonna have, because it's for me. Ah, so that they can use on you or that can use, they can use on me, or I can use it like they're gonna be there. I feel like that's gonna be a must because. Even though I'm gonna try them, situations may happen where a little bit of them get tired or maybe I'm not, they're not getting me where I need to be. And it's like, all right, red, sit at this one out.

13:35 Now and, and I know that it's hard to say this ahead of time because you haven't had the experience yet. Mm-hmm. And you'll probably have an answer after it happens, but just from the outside looking in, do you think that you would wanna do it with any regularity or is this just a, I'm gonna check this off my bucket list kind of situation? Is it something that appeals to you so much that you would consider doing it more? Yes. Yes. Really? Yes. Only because if it's, if I'm successful in this, it's it's fun. Yeah. It's fun. It'll be fun for you to watch. It would be fun for me to watch. Yeah, it would be fun for me to watch because guys, he's not partaking on this one.

14:16 I will not be a part of this. No. Unless one of you guys can't handle the, uh, he will be watching a real estate that you've got. Then maybe I'll jump in if I have to, but frankly, I had. I think I talked to somebody about this a long time ago and she was working on setting up something for herself and she said, you know, I need five guys, but really I need like seven. I need two for backup. Yeah. Just in case. Yeah. Two, two end up flaking. Yeah. You know, like, so it's almost like you got your roster and then you got two alternatives and it's so like, and I always wonder about things like that, like were they. Friends, because the ones I'm gonna get are gonna be friends. Like we're gonna know these people.

14:57 Yeah. And so that's what makes it easier because hey, afterwards we can go have pizza, dude, we could go hang out. I'm gonna have pizza there. Yeah. Like it's really, it's really gonna be a fun, a fun thing that I'm putting together and I'm really trying to put this together. By my birthday guys. Ooh. March. March 14th. Speaking of your birthday for those listening, we are having a big shindig on March 14th at Club Eat and Santa at our club San Antonio. That's right. And it is open to anybody and everybody who wants to go. Mm-hmm. If you wanna be there, we're gonna be getting the VIP area there. You are more than welcome to party with us. We will have lots of people there. We're gonna enjoy ourselves.

15:37 From about 9:00 PM on March 14th till about two or three in the morning the next day, oh, if you want to hang out with us, you wanna wish, uh, Pris a happy birthday. If you even wanna try and make your way on that list. You, uh, you may want to go. Is it my 48th birthday? It will be your 48th. Yes. It's gonna be my 40 birthday guys. 48 turns around that sun, uh, which is pretty big. I thought it was interesting. Well, we're gonna have little butt cakes. We're gonna have bunt. Lets, yeah, we're gonna have butts. Okay. Sorry. What I found interesting though was when we were talking about your gang bang. I thought it was a silly question for me to ask you if you were gonna have toys, because to me it seemed like, why would you have toys? You have all this dick here. No. But then you were like, no, I need the toys.

16:18 Speaking of toys, yes. This past weekend we were at one of our, favorite Pineapple House Texas parties, which if you don't know what I'm talking about, we did an episode there, you should scope it out, Uhhuh. Uh, but we went to one of their parties this past weekend and, uh, we met this couple very attractive, very cool couple. Oh, yes. And uh, Friday night, they were the only ones outside of us that we're playing as early. 'cause we, we don't waste any time. We get to a bedroom, we start getting down. They seemed to be pretty big into parallel play, and so they were right there next to us in the bed getting it on. Yes. Uh, just the same as us. Yeah. And this guy had an interesting thing.

17:01 Okay. Please tell us. So we were on the bed and they were on the couch, and then they moved to the bed and he had her from behind. And so I. We're opposite. So she's her ass is where my face is like, and we're not together. We're just parallel, right? Yeah. We're next to each other. Okay. And I look and I'm looking at him and he has these rings around his balls and I was Steal rings, steal rings. And I was like, are those rings? He is like, yeah. And I was like, Mike, can I touch them? So I scooped his balls in my hand hot. So hot. The way it looked, the way it was, the, the feeling.

17:42 And so they're heavy weights. They're about, I mean, I would say about four centimeters thick. Yeah. And they go around his co his, um, ball sack. They magnetize closed, so there's like little magnet and it closes, but he says there's even some that you can screw to tighten. So from what I gathered, you know you got the shaft. Yeah. And then you've got the nuts down at the bottom. Yeah. And it's the sack itself. It's like above the balls and below the shaft, above the balls and below the shaft like this. That's where they, that's where they hang now, she saw it in action, that whole thing. And we found it interesting, but I didn't want to have the discussion there while we were trying to get, I did get our nut off.

18:24 So later on we were on the couch in the main area, the common area, uh, all dressed and hobnobbing with others, and they were next to us. And so I said, look, I've got a note. What is the sensation like? What is it like? Do you like it? And then because. You know, she made, so I knew why she liked it. She made it real clear why she liked it. Yeah. She said so in the bed because she said as he is getting her behind Yeah. As he, as he is getting her from behind in pretty much a lot of different positions. This thing hits her usually around where the clit is and it, it, it gives her a good sensation. Yeah. To add to what somebody else. It wakes up the little man on the boat essentially. And so I told him, I was like, I get why she likes it.

19:05 It makes sense. Yeah. I said, what's the sensation for you? And he said, well, what it does is because they're, they're ball stretching weights mm-hmm. Is what the official title of them are. And essentially what, what it's supposed to do is, is it makes it feel like somebody is tugging at your balls. Mm-hmm. While you are you know. Shafting in, yeah. Uh, and so every slide in that you do, it's like there's, the way he made it sound like there's a, a hand basically tugging on your balls in a soft, gentle way. Yeah. Yeah. That really gives you more of an excitement. It, it makes it hotter for you. And so I thought that was really, really, I thought they were so freaking interesting, sexy looking.

19:46 Um, I was not on, like, I, I did not want to try it. But I have been volunteered to try it by my lovely wife. She's like, she was already on Amazon while we were sitting on the couch looking up these things, trying to find us a pair. And so for the sake of. Experimenting. And for the sake of this podcast, uh, I said I agreed I would use it. So she's going to buy it? Yeah. And because I'm not, we're gonna give it a shot. I'm not a fan of ings. I don't like when guys wear ings. I don't like the way that feels. So it, so this one is a little different. This one's it's gonna look pretty on you. I, you know, all I know is, is that you've always said that you've loved my balls, which is a weird compliment to me, but I'll take it.

20:32 You know, in a, in a, in a world where compliments are not the easiest thing to get any, anytime somebody's complimented my balls, I'm just like, okay, I'll take it. And so, you know, she's, she's made it real clear that this would be a wonderful accessory for the, uh, for the lower sac. And so, uh. For, like I said, for the sake of your information, I'm doing this for you guys. Uh, you know, I, I'm, I'm doing this for y'all so that y'all know. What exactly is going to take place here. So we are telling you about it, but obviously we're gonna do another quickie about this at some point or another. When they arrive, we're gonna check it out. We're gonna experiment with 'em. We're gonna find out all about ball stretching weights.

21:13 So if you don't know anything about 'em. Consider yourself enlightened. If you do know about 'em, do me a favor and hit us up on our website at the confessional or email us. Yeah. And shoot us a, a message. Let us know because I've never seen them. I didn't know this was a thing. Yeah. Literally until Friday. Yeah. Uh, I had no idea. And so I, I I, I, I will say I'm, I'm excited to give something different a try. We saw a lot of different things this weekend. We saw a few different things. Yeah. Yeah. It was an interesting weekend. It was interesting. Yeah, we saw this woman, she's getting like her boobs, like slapped. Oh yeah. He was like, fuck whack. You know? And it's like, and it's so hard for me to be in a room when that's happening.

21:56 And I have no trauma. It's nothing with a traumatic scene for me. It's more of a protective of women scene. And Adam knows this, so, 'cause I'm always like. He's behind me and he's enjoying the, he can see just the sex and I, all I can see is this woman is getting choked and she's getting her tits slapped. And it does nothing for me. Yeah. Like I can't just see that. So every time something like that happens, I'm always like, alright, are you ready to go? Let's go. I, he's, he's very cool with it. Right. You know, it's because he's not into the BDSM. Like he, he's just into the part. Well, so you know. In that portion, you know, I could take it or leave it. Yeah. Uh, it doesn't trigger me. Yeah. But at the same time, you know, I am fascinated by it. Like as far as watching and that sort of thing. It doesn't do anything horrible to me.

22:38 But I get why you get triggered. Yeah. Because you are very, uh, woman protective. You're a woman protective. Yeah. You are empowered. You're strong female. Yeah. And, and you don't like to see other women getting hurt. Yeah. And I had to remind you, I'm like, Hey, this, she likes that. Could very well be her kink guy. Wore mask. Like he had a scream mask. He also had a helmet that he was gonna use. Yeah. Yeah. And I, and that was part of his kink from my understanding, that was part of his kink is that he liked to wear stuff over his head while he was getting it on. I was like, that's kind of cool. It was interesting. It was interesting. Bunch of interesting people. Oh my gosh. You know, every time we go to one of these parties, we get a, just a list of things that we end up talking about.

23:20 It's. The drive home. Home is just incredible. Yeah. Because there's, because you meet so many people. Yeah. And there's so many different personalities and everybody's got their own kink and everybody's got their own thing. And we are not sex couches. We don't know everything. We know very little. Yeah. Uh, what, what we know is in our own world, and frankly I've always said it we're vanilla in the we're, but in this world we did try a few things. We did. Yeah, the swing. Oh yeah. We tried The rotisserie thing. The rotisserie thing. I feel like it's a rotisserie chicken. I'm a chicken on the little swing. Yeah, we recorded, uh, a little bit of content, made content.

24:02 That content on that swing made That was so fun. And oh my gosh. Lemme tell you something. That floor needed to be cleaned afterwards. Yeah, that was, that was a hot, it was just me and you, hot time. Just me and you. The house was empty or the owners were asleep. So we were there and we were like, we went to go get breakfast. We came back and we're like. You wanna make some content. It's like being, nobody's here, you know, being in that house, I was imagine being at the club during the day. Yeah, yeah. It's like being at Six Flags. You can ride all the ride, you can get on the rights. Nobody's there. There's no line. Yeah. So that's, that's a lot of fun, you know? And I thought it was pretty exciting. We did, we did have some, some new experiences. Yeah. And I'm looking forward to the next one because I'm curious, what else are we gonna run into?

24:44 You know, like what's gonna come up? So interested in finding out. Are you interested in finding out? I am interested in finding out. I think it's important to know that, a lot of times you can go to a party or you can go to a club and you just see the same thing over and over again. Yeah. And it just seems like it never changes. Yeah. But the moment you see something new like a ball stretching weight, or a guy slapping somebody's tits while wearing a helmet, you can't make this stuff up, guys. You can't. And if you could, that's amazing. That's cool. You should be a writer. You should definitely be a writer. Uh, because you know, it's important to, to tell these stories. To tell these stories. That's right. So yeah, we had a, we had a great time this weekend.

25:27 I think that we should. Definitely keep our minds open to new experiences. That's my big thing whenever we attend these parties. Yeah. And then we, we'll definitely tell you how his ball weights because they're gonna be coming up. Oh yeah. No, you'll be you'll know when I know evidently, but, uh, you know, fam. That's our lives here. The non PornHub real life adulting version of how to set up a gang bang. I mean, we just put all that out there on top of, uh, a little bit of, of our weekend there for you. Yeah. So communication, planning, consent, and maybe a clipboard. That would be a really good idea. That would be a, I'm gonna do like a little list walkie talkies and explain to you how I'm gonna go about this.

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