0:07 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

0:47 An ethical non-monogamy. So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And today we were talking about something else, but I decided we're gonna scrap that because, man, it was not a good show. It, I had to let it go. I had to just cut that bad boy loose. Uh, and I wanted to talk about something a little bit more real. I wanted to talk about expectations in the lifestyle. Yeah. Okay. Now we've used this word rather loosely often, you know, everybody always says. Um, oh, I don't have any expectations.

1:29 Yeah. I don't have any expectations to play. Oh, we're gonna meet with somebody, but there's no real expectations. Uh, and you know, I just wanted to discuss that because really realistically, we're all in this lifestyle together and we can all say over and over again. I don't have any expectations, but come on, man. You, I mean, a lot of us are really, really hoping. It may not be a. Full expectations, but it's definitely expectation leaning. Oh, yeah. Um, most of the time when you're showing interest in somebody, I mean, honestly, whenever we go to the club, I have expectations. I mean, automatically you have expectations on me. Like it's a guarantee. If we're gonna be at the club, you and I are gonna be there.

2:11 Oh, for sure. It's, but like, even for other people, like, I'm like, you have expectations. Really. I do. Like whenever I'm there, I guess this is an expectation. Whenever we go, I'm always like, all right, I'm gonna. Find somebody and that always, and you never do. That's, that, that's an, that's an expectation, right? For me to like, to think that I can. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I never do because I'm super selective, but I try not to be selective. How's it going for you? And so it kind of, you know, it's going a little bit better, is it? Yeah. Yeah. You're starting to, uh, let, let go. I'm starting to, I am definitely starting to let go, let go of some of that, uh, iveness, I mean, I'm still selective, like I still have to be physically attractive, attracted to somebody, but yeah, you know, there's a lot of.

3:04 Hot women and hot men that come through the club. And I'm always like, Ooh. You know, I, I, I will say it's, it's difficult when it comes to the club because like you said, there's a lot of hot women. Uh, we can be sitting there and somebody will walk in and it'll catch both of our eyes. Oh yeah. And we'll like watch and be like, oh my gosh, she's incredible. Yes. And then like 20 minutes later, we will watch her walk right back out. Yes. And we're like, what the hell, man? Yeah. You know, we, and you don't know what it's what it is. No. Did they, did they see the candy and the candy store and was like, no idea what might have happened, but it was, you know, whatever. It was a bu it was bu they're gone, you know? Yeah. Um, and, and I guess you got a good point there. When we go to the club, mentally, I always have it in my head.

3:47 This is what I'd like to see happen. Oh, for sure. We talk about it all the way over there all the time when you go over there. Um, and it rarely does happen. Yes, it rarely does. And you're talking about rarely, rarely, rarely. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It rarely does. Yeah. Um, and that's kind of the funny thing about this is that, you know, we are, I don't know if I would call us experienced, but people call us experienced, and that's the reason why we're on this podcast. Right. I mean, for, for the most part, I would say. So we, we have had some experiences. Yeah. We kind of know a few things. Yeah. Uh. And I think that we have managed to wiggle out of our expectations for the most part.

4:31 Mm-hmm. Um, what I really had to do, and I've said this in past episodes, was just to stop pursuing. I had to stop pursuing because if I pursued, if I looked for somebody and said, oh, I wanna find that, like, I wanna talk to that person, and then I reach out. And then before you know it, I'm really, really trying to keep this conversation going. It will fall flat, guaranteed. It is not organic. Yeah. That is not organic. That is me pursuing somebody off of their looks. Yes. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. So I just saw somebody, I'm feeling like, I think they're hot or whatever, and so I'm like, I'm gonna pursue that person.

5:17 I let me message them. I get a lot of that. Yeah. And I, it's not organic, it's, mm-hmm. It's trying to fit, uh, you know, push a, a square peg into a round hole. Like you're really just forcing it because. You're just basing it off of looks. Yeah. And then you get to know this person and then it just doesn't happen. Very rarely does it work. Yeah. It has to be organic. It has to be organic. Unless a person is very transactional, but it has to be organic. But like you just said something and I was like, man, I get that all the time. I get messages all the time of how people can, they're like, how can we meet up? How can we see if this vibe is good?

5:58 I could tell you right off the bat. No, I could tell you if you're messaging, if you're messaging me, it's, and you're asking me what, how, when it's never gonna happen. Yeah. Like never. And you know, it's not, it's not an easy, it's not an easy lifestyle to live. No. Um, I mean, it, it can because other people's, other people's expectations. Yeah. Is where it kills it, I think. Well, I mean other people's expectations, but also ours. Yes. I mean, I'll give you an example. You know, there are times where we've gone to house parties and we know certain couples will be there.

6:44 Yes. And those are couples that we're interested in. Yes. And as soon as we get there, we forget that most people, uh, are, have to drink. Mm-hmm. And, and. Chances are they end up getting drunk. So you go in with these expectations of That's true. Wanting to play with these people's and we walk away, uh, unfulfilled in that aspect. Yeah, because. Uh, you know, because that's, that's what, and ended up happening. And sometimes they, sometimes they don't understand, like they are, they see us there and they're like, Ooh, I really wanna play with you, and whatever. And then it never happens. And we kind of walk away and we're like, well, we know why it didn't happen.

7:28 Yeah. But they don't know why it didn't happen. Yeah, yeah. You know, and so yeah. People's expectations are, aren't very wide. Yeah. You know, and they also, whenever you go like to whenever you're having an event or something, that expectation for you to show up, for you to be there. Especially if your friend is throwing something like, yeah. You know, that's, and that's the hard part too. Yeah. Because. We are a community of flaky people. We are. And not in a negative, not in a, because we have wives, we all have lives, you know? And busy. Yeah. And so it's hard whenever you throw, say, a birthday party or you throw a, you know, a certain event and you expect your friends to be there, because that's something that's done in the vanilla world is you send your invites to your, your tight friends, your friend's show.

8:22 Yeah. It's a little different. Here's hard. Everybody's hard. Everybody's got some things happening and, and you have to have a lot of mental capacity to be in this lifestyle. Like it takes a lot of you, you, your mind. And so it's emotional intelligence. It's emotional intelligence. Yeah. Like you really have to have an, and even if you're going to someone's like party or just a get together, you have to be mentally prepared for that. Yeah. More so than you do in the vanilla world. Yeah. Like you really have to be, you know, um, women we're very self-conscious. I mean, so are men, right? But women are very self-conscious and we're wanna make sure that we look good.

9:04 That takes a lot out of us. We wanna make sure that we, you know, are acting correctly. 'cause sometimes we have RBF and it's, so It does, it takes a lot of emotional maturity. Yeah, it does. I, you know. I think it's all, it really goes back to those expectations though. Uh, because when people come into the lifestyle mm-hmm. As new people mm-hmm. Uh, they have expectations. Yeah. They have thoughts in their head as to what this is gonna be. Mm-hmm. And I expect for this to happen. I don't know how many times, countless times I thought something was gonna happen and I was so disappointed when it didn't Yes.

9:47 When we, like the first couple of years. Yeah. Like just disappointed Yeah. And upset because what I expected to happen that night did not take place. Yeah. And everything should have happened the way it should have happened and. It's kind of nice now that you don't have those expectations. Yeah. Like you actually make, it's very nice to just go in, do our thing, or not do our thing and just kind of leave from there. It's, um, it's very refreshing. Yeah. But that's that sexual freedom that I've really been aiming for. Uhhuh. I didn't know that I really wanted that back then. Back then I just wanted experiences. Mm-hmm. And as we went along, I realized it's not the experiences that I wanted, it's more so just the sexual freedom of it.

10:33 The be like just the, the, just to be able to do so. Yeah. The ability to just say, you know what, honey? There's this girl that I've been talking to and I think she's pretty attractive and I think I could. Probably have sex with her. Is it okay? Yeah. Um, and to be able to do that is monumental. Yeah. Ask anybody who's monogamous, because anybody who's been in a monogamous relationship, which is pretty much everybody. Yeah. You know that you've dealt with jealousies, you've dealt with insecurities, and we still do here. Oh, most definitely. That's not different. No, no. But as soon as you. Even look at another person or you insinuate something about another person mm-hmm.

11:16 Your world will come crashing down. Oh yeah. It will be a, a fight. Yes. It'll be an argument. Mm-hmm. Whereas here it's very obvious. It's very obvious. Um, sometimes you'll come across an insecurity, but. Nothing that communication can't like clear up and stuff. Now, how would you say you get past your insecurities? Because you've come a long way. You've gotten better at this. I mean, you're not fully there, but you're getting better. I'm not fully there and it's, I wouldn't say I have very many insecurities. It's more so I get annoyed very easily.

12:00 How's that? By certain just people, just people saying things or doing something. It, it, it, it's annoying to me, but I wouldn't, I don't insecurities it took a lot. Like I had to really talk to you. Um, I had to read a lot or listen to a lot of books. A lot of people that we've had on the show have helped me. Yeah. Um, and so insecurity, I don't, and just, oh, I mean, talking to you really helped. Like you don't. You're not going anywhere. No. Like that's the main thing is like, ooh, you're gonna leave me for somebody or someone's gonna do something better for you than for me. No, that's never gonna happen.

12:41 Like, you're amazing. I'm amazing together. We're amazing. Yeah. So like, just talking to you and a lot of, what did you say earlier? Not growing up maturity, but a lot of, um, mental earth. Emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence. There you go. I have a lot of that now. Emotional intelligence. But, um, you and I say that before, you've made it very easy and I get irked, like with like the silliest things, but it's still, they're my things and. At some point, I'm pretty sure in my life I'm not gonna get irked by them anymore. But now do you think that part of the reason why you're becoming more accepting and more open to this sort of stuff is because you're getting older and just caring less?

13:28 Um, because I've heard you say that before. You're, you're like, I'm almost 50, I'm running out of fucks to give. Yes. Yeah, because, because I know you're not going anywhere. Yeah. Like this is, this is solid. Right. So. The fucks to give are really for other things. Um, but this right here, I don't know. I'm not, um, no one's gonna come and take you away. You're not going anywhere. I'm not going anywhere. We still have an amazing life together. Mm-hmm. Um, like it doesn't matter. So that's where a lot of my ins me finally realizing that, um, kind of helped me.

14:11 Get over my insecurities. Yeah. Um, now what would you say your biggest insecurity right now is? Um, I don't have an insecurity at all. I don't, I don't think I can. I, I, I feel great in my body. I feel great the way I look. Um, no, if anything, I have way more confidence. S doing the show, doing social media. How about insecurities with our relationship? Um, no. I mean, no, I don't have any insecurities with our relationship, no.

14:57 Do you have insecurities with our relationship? No. Yeah, no, but I mean, yeah, no, you know, I, I am, I'm very open as far as. Like, I don't have any issues with you doing certain things Yeah. And stuff like that. Whereas you do. Yeah. So, and and they always say that that roots back to certain insecurities. Oh yeah, for sure. I mean, I can't think of any right now. Can you think of any of my insecurities? Well, I mean, let's talk about that. I mean, really what are some of the things that you don't want for me to do in our relationship? Date? Anybody.

15:38 Okay. Why? Um, because that goes into the romantic ness, which bothers you. Why? Because I just don't like that part. I haven't gotten to that yet. Like, I haven't mentally gotten there. Um, I feel like romance is for me, be romantic with me. Uhhuh. You don't need to be romantic with anybody else. Sure. You know, I feel like that part right there is mine. Okay. Um. I can share a lot. So then that's not really a, an insecurity base. It's not really insecurity base. It's more a, it's more just your preference. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Um, but yeah, I can't think, I mean, I used to have a lot of insecurities.

16:18 I used to not like the way I looked in certain things. Um, the way I spoke to people. Yeah. I was really insecure about all of that. And people that you spoke to, were they more intelligent and now I don't give a crap. Like Yeah. Don't I know it? You know, like I'm pretty intelligent. Yes. I'm very intelligent. Oh, absolutely. And I feel like we're, we're fine. I don't know. I don't, I just don't have any more insecurities that I can like, pop out on the top of my head, you know? Um. Especially your home, like you're home now. Yeah. Like you can be on the computer all day, you can be chatting it up with somebody all freaking day.

17:02 Um, and I really don't care. Yeah. You know, like we've already gone through so many. I mean, why would you, we've gone through deal. We've gone through so many scenarios, people, so many freaking scenarios, crazy ass women. Um. And I feel like you're, you're like one of those mice that gets zapped and you're not gonna touch that cheese again. So like you already know. Yeah, no, I learned from my mistakes. Yeah. And you know, they're, they're just things that just happen and you're never gonna know how to maneuver through them unless they happen, so, yeah. Yeah. No, I don't, I don't have any, I used to be like really resentful because you were home and I was like, dang man, he's always home and you could do this and that.

17:45 That was back in the day. So when I was home Yeah. Back, like, back like when you, when we were first starting off this thing. Oh yeah. Oh, I gotcha. Oh no, now no. I was like, you have a couple of months and then you doesn't gonna have to go back to work, but yeah. No, it's um Oh wow. Yeah. You know, I was thinking right now expectations that was what we're talking about. We have expectations as a couple to each other. How's that? Like I expect you to be at your utmost respectfulness when we go out with other women and respect me. Mm-hmm. Do you know? And I feel like that's an expectation. You expect that because I've always been that way.

18:27 Yeah. I mean, you never know. You can get a little loosey goosey sometimes and other people can get a little loosey goosey and I'm just not having it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And it, I mean, that's an expectation that you are going to make sure that, I mean, I'm always on your thoughts. Like no matter what, you can have a woman right next to you who's half naked and I am the first thing that you think about how I'm feeling, how I'm gonna react, how, what am I gonna say? How do you do this? So I know it's never gone away, . Is there anything that you expect for me to be like certain. Way to behave. Yes.

19:07 Well, yeah, I do actually. I, you know, I, I know who you are. I know how you are. And so most of the time when I am mulling over trying to discuss something with you, I normally know how you're going to react. A lot of times, I know when we go out, if something happens, I usually know how you're gonna react. Um, we've had situations where something was said in a certain way, and I immediately knew without even looking at you what your reaction was.

19:47 Um, yeah, you, you rise to the occasion when it comes to expectations. I, I, I pretty much have you down. Yeah. Yeah. I kind of have you down. Oh, yeah. I'm sure. I'm pretty simple, like, yeah. Yeah. And I kind of know what I, what I'm gonna walk into when we go somewhere together. Like I already know what's gonna be the scenario or like I run through them all. I do what you do. And like if this happens, if that happens, if this happens and that happens and then we leave with nothing happen and we, because your expectations are just too high, sir. Yeah. My expectations are really high. I'm sure. I mean, and you expect your people to be around you.

20:28 Like, so expectations again, we expect the adults that we are with, surrounding ourselves with, we expect them to be on their utmost behavior. And that is never the case. No, no, no. Like that's the one thing that's a really big expectation. You are chilling out with friends and you're chilling out with your community, and you expect them all to be on their best behavior, especially the men actually, and the women, both genders. And it never, it never happens. You know? It.

21:09 You gotta stop expecting. Yeah. You know, that's the thing is, is you ex you expect everybody to be respectful mm-hmm. And know and respond to boundaries and Yeah. That, that, that ends up going away as people drink. Yes. Um, like there's been so many, so many things that have popped up and it's like, man, I really expected this one to be better. You know, this event. It's kind of disappointing, eh? It is. Yeah. It is. And I mean, it's not for you to, don't, don't think that you can't enjoy the lifestyle because you can. There's, um, there's more to enjoy than there is to not enjoy, I guess.

21:53 How's that? Well, you enjoy the, the comradery, right? The people around you, community. So thats always fun. The community always fun, the community. Don't, don't, just don't have any expectations. I just walk in and be like, damn, this is not gonna go well. And then if it goes well, you're great. Oh yeah, that's pretty much sums up the show. Put those expectations elsewhere. That's, Ooh. Now sexual expectations. You expect the guy to rise to the occasion, and sometimes that's not the case and that is okay. Yeah, yeah.

22:33 You know, sometimes it's not the case. You know, I, I struggle with that a lot. I know. And you really don't like physically struggle with it mentally. I really do. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I struggle a lot. But have you noticed a lot of women are just very understanding about that? Yeah. Well, I mean, we've talked to a lot of people about it and most of the women will say, oh yeah, no, I, I. You know, if they would just communicate it with me Exactly. Instead of really trying to shove it in me. Exactly. Or just try and do whatever they're gonna do. You know, they get upset and they get all stressed out. But if they just were honest and said, Hey, you know, I'm having this trouble, if you could give me a little bit, or whatever. Yeah. Uh, I would definitely be more understanding.

23:14 I, I don't know how many times I've heard that. Yeah, I know. But from a guy standpoint. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. Uh, we do a lot. As far as, you know, you, you have this pornographic image in your head of how things are gonna go, the expectations uhhuh, uh, and. Everybody does this. And I, if, if anybody says they don't, they're lying. Everybody does this. You know, you, you're going to the club or you're going to a house party, or you're gonna go meet up with some friends. You've played it out in your head how you would like it to go. Yes. And that includes the actual sex.

23:54 Yes. And when that happens, you've got this whole idea in your head, you picture it. The way you would picture, you know, some of the Skin Max movies you saw or whatever, you know, like you have this whole thing in your head and it's gonna go like this and it's gonna be so awesome. Yeah. And then those expectations. Yeah. And then as soon as you get there and it's like that first kiss, boom. They're not good kissers. Okay. I'm not gonna let that set the tone. Because this can still work. You know, there's not a whole lot of kissing that needs to take place as far as these expectations that I had. Okay. Okay. So we're gonna move past that. We're gonna keep going. And then all of a sudden, uh, you know, they, they have a hangup about their body and they don't wanna take off any of their clothes.

24:42 Uh, so they just want you to remove their pants. Uh, but. Maybe kind of do it through their underwear and they're gonna, but they're gonna, and they're wearing a long sleeve shirt. Like they don't wanna take off anything. Yeah. Oh, okay. So that's, that's something. Okay. Let's, let's, uh, let's go ahead and I can, I, I don't need, you can wear clothes. That's fine. That's fine. I mean, it's deviating from the original plan, but that's fine. Okay. We can de We can, we can, that's okay. That expectation, Dawn, that's okay. Okay. Because this is still gonna happen. Right. Okay. Yeah. So then it's like, okay, well let me, uh, you know, let me go down there Yeah. And do my thing, you know, and, uh, you know, I'm, I'm enjoying life for a while there.

25:25 But yeah, I'm down there for a while. Yeah. A good while, which is fine. Yeah. It's okay. I like to spend time down there, but now it's becoming more of a, okay. Is, is this. Is she gonna tap me at any point and say, Hey, you can stop. Yeah. Is she gonna have me do this for the next three hours? Yeah. Like, am I gonna live down here? Do I make the decision? Yeah. To stop. I think you have to, you, you have to just wrap yourself up. Be like, okay, we're done. I mean, yeah. Uh, so right off the bat you start asking yourself that that's not going quite as well, because now you're starting to overthink the situation. Yes. This is becoming a thing. So then I'm like, okay, I could really use some.

26:09 Oral support. Yeah. Let me jump up here and go, Hey, so do you think maybe, I don't know, you could return the favor, and then she goes, yeah. I, I, I don't, I'm kind of grossed out by that. Like, I don't really like to do that. Well, I mean, hopefully you're talking to her ahead of time about that. Well, yeah. But this is a, this is a scenario. Yeah. Scenario. Yeah. This is a scenario, right? That would not be cool. So then she's like, yeah, no, you know, it's. Not really one of my favorite things. I mean, I, I, I, I'm, I'll try and so then I'm like, oh, I don't wanna force you, you know? But, uh, yeah. You know, if you're gonna give it an old try the old college try. Sure. Mm-hmm.

26:49 And then it doesn't go well. Right. So then as you're recapping, you're realizing, as you're finishing up the whole sexual experience, you're realizing everything that I had planned in my head from start to finish, none of it happened. And I've had many a scenario like that. Well, the real question is if you don't have expectations and you don't run through this in your head. Exactly, yeah. Is it gonna be as disappointing? I think so, unfortunately. Yeah, it is. But it's okay. I mean, hey, put your expectations out there. It doesn't, it doesn't hurt, you know?

27:32 It's, it's more like a motivation for people. It's a motivation, you know, expectations. Expectations. Hmm. It's motivation. They expect me to look hot, so I'm gonna go get hot. I'm just kidding. Oh God. I hope that's not an expectation. You taking me the way I am. Lumpies and all. You know, one, one of the hard parts about, uh, being a podcaster in our community is I think people expect us to be on all the time. And Yeah. You know, for anybody who's maybe listened to our podcast from the early episodes, I'm talking like the beginning episodes. Yeah. Uh, would know, uh, that I have anxiety and you know, I'm not always the most sociable person.

28:18 Sometimes I'm just not feeling it. Sometimes I just wanna be in a corner. Yeah. Um, people watching and that's what I like to do. I do not. Some. Most of the time I don't feel like talking to people and I just wanna sit there and watch. Yeah. And yeah, everyone expects us to be Adam and Chris. Adam and Chris. And we do. And we do. And we do. We rise to the occasion. We rise. We don't wanna disappoint you. No, we don't. We don't. We do nothing. So the last thing we want do is disappoint. Exactly. But yeah, there's times where I'll disappoint my kids before I wanna disappoint you. I mean, we have to walk away, right? And we sit down and we just kind of. Compose ourselves again, and then go out there and do it again.

28:58 Um, it happens at the club all the time. We're sitting there, we're, you know, people come up and say hi, which we absolutely love. Do not stop. Yeah. But then we just sit down and we're just, you know, back, back at our thing. People watching so well, so that's the thing that I worry about is when people come and talk to us, uh, you know, they, they know us from the show and they expect that. I am always worried that they're gonna be disappointed when they leave there like dude. That was the most boring conversation I have ever had with anybody in my entire life. What kind podcast is that? We like this weekend we went and we went to the club and it was empty on Friday and we said hi to so many new people.

29:43 Oh yeah, you dragged me from table or was a Saturday from table to table. That was Saturday. Was Saturday and I dragged you to every single table that was there. We met new people. Everybody was tapping you, getting our information. That was rough. Um, but we did it and we. Made new friends and that was rough, you know? Yeah, no, that was hard. Uh, you know, I expect going into those places that we make new friends. Really that's what we do. Um, when I go in, I just go in expecting to people watch. Yeah. And then you told me, you were like, so we're gonna go around the club and we're gonna introduce ourselves to everybody that's here. And I was like, no, whatever.

30:23 She's gonna change her mind at some point. 'cause the manager told me, he's like, everyone and me too. I was like, okay, let's go say hi to everybody. He told me too, he was like, yeah, we don't have a host couple tonight and there's some new people. Y'all should really say hi. We're already a stomp on the tour. We are a stop on the tour whether we're sitting in the front or in the back. Yeah. You know? And so I really didn't wanna, yeah. I'm not gonna lie, but it's, it's kind of fun. It's nice we're getting new people. It's fun and it's exciting and it's, you know, totally. Yeah, totally. So fun. I love making new friends. I expect to make new friends. I need new friends.

31:03 Do you? Yeah. So here's, here's the thing. I, I have friends, I just, you used to say this all the time. Back in the day, you used to say, oh, I. I wish I had a group of of girlfriends Yes. That I could just on a whim go, oh, we're gonna have a girls' night, or we're gonna go do this and we're gonna go do that. Yeah. And then you'd have friends that would reach out and they'd be like, Hey, let's go to the movies, or let's go do this. And you'd be like, well, can I bring Adam? And they're like, no, it's, oh wait, the, the friends in Corpus? Yeah. Oh yeah. I didn't care for them. No. Yeah. No, but like my friends here, I'm just not like, I'm so overwhelmed with work and home life that. I get literally this past weekend, I was like, oh my God, my brain's gonna explode.

31:46 Like I just have too much going on. Yeah. You gotta, you gotta, you know, leave work at work, you know what I mean? Well, yeah, but I still have to be at work for eight hours. I mean, look at me, I'm wearing a Hawaiian shirt. And, I mean, I left work at work when they laid me off. I didn't have a choice. You left it two months ago. That's right. I left work there. Yes, you did. Good job. And uh, now I leave podcast. At podcast. Yes, that's right. I love that. You know, it's, my thing is this, I expect mm-hmm. That you walk in and be in pri mode, as in. I am here for the family.

32:27 I'm here for myself. I'm here to enjoy my life. And instead you walk in still in work mode sometimes, like you're still sending texts and you're angry at your boss. Oh no, that's a very, it's a very rare thing that I'm doing that 'cause he doesn't really bother me. Mine is when you, when I walk home, when I get in and the house is dirty, it's like really? There's six people in this house, bruh. Kids, nobody else is it. So I expect my family to pitch in and they don't. I feel like this is the peewee Herman's Playhouse. I mean, it could be word of the day. Expect expectations.

33:08 Expectations. I expect that shit to get done. Yes, I expect my dinner on the table. I wish, I wish, let me tell you. No way, man. No way. I wish I didn't have to do my expectations for my family. Go surpass. What my family does, and I'm not counting you. I'm just saying like, my children, those kids are something else. Yes, they are. But you know, they, there's one that's starting to cook more. I know. So that, that might take something off your hand. She's an angry cook. She's like her mom. No, I, she's an angry cook. She's like her mom. I'm just saying. Yeah. So I. I think rounding about, we can say this show on expectations, uh, went exactly as expected, baby.

34:00 Oh yeah, that's, that was good. That's right. So I think it's safe to say. Uh, expectations. Try your best not to have them. Yeah, for sure. Um, but it's a thing, man. I don't care who says what. Everybody's gonna have some sort of internal expectations. Mm-hmm. You may not say it out loud. Mm-hmm. But it's a thing. Mm-hmm. And it's hard not to. It's the reason why we feel disappointed when things fall through. Yes. It's a thing. Uh. But with that, I just wanna say thank you very much to everybody who listens to our show. Every time we do this, uh, we love you guys.

34:41 And that's true. That's, yes, that's a fact. And, uh, just a few reminders, uh, before we let you go. Uh, everything. Episodes, blogs, video, everything can be found on our website, uh, which should be appearing right about here. Uh, that's www.beyond-monogamy.com and when you go there. You've got so many cool things, but we recently started the Beyond Monogamy. Confessional. Yes, guys. Yeah. It's a really, really cool thing. It's completely anonymous.

35:23 Mm-hmm. Uh, but you can basically go in there and you can write up your thoughts, uh, anything about the lifestyle, uh, anything about the podcast, whatever you want, you can talk about, and whatever you submit. Can and may be the subject to one of our shows. Yeah. It may even get read out loud. We got a few. We have gotten a few. Yeah. We have gotten a few, uh, of which we will most likely be addressing at some point here. Yes. Uh, so. I think it's a really fun thing to do. It's a great way for you to express how you feel or how you are feeling without actually letting anybody know it's you.

36:08 Um, and I know that there's a lot of people out there who've got some feels. Let me tell you. Mm-hmm. Give it a shot, see what you think. Take it for a test rock. But that's the place to do it at. On top of all that, don't forget at uh. We are on full swap radio.com, uh, every Thursday. Mm-hmm. It's it, we normally say it's Tuesday and Thursdays. I thought No, it's just Thursdays. Oh, on Thursdays? Yeah, it's just Thursdays. I think it's just Thursdays. Okay. And we usually say it's one to six. It's two to seven now. Oh, two to seven. Two to seven. And then of course you can find us on all your social platforms. We're on Facebook, we're on TikTok.

36:48 We do TikTok lives. Yeah. Um, YouTube guys, we're on YouTube. You see us here? YouTube. Yeah. Share, like, put that little bell so that you can know that when we're on, um, oh, we have some things coming up. November the eighth we do November 8th, we will be at Forbidden Fruit. Yes. In Austin. Uh, forbidden Fruit, of course, is our wonderful beloved sponsor. They are the. Oldest. Uh, adult store. Adult store in town, Austin, Texas. Yeah. Um, and did you put our calendar up already on our website? Yeah. So if you go to our website, you can actually find our events. Everything is listed there. We put everything down. I'm talking like even if we go to the club Yes. On the weekend.

37:28 Yes. Where we're gonna be. Yes. Because sometimes people like to keep tabs, sometimes people like to hang out. Yeah. Now you know where we're gonna be at. So there you go. Uh, everything, like I said, is at that site. Give us a shot. You'll love it. Also, uh, for all of you wonderful people out there, I just wanna drop the fact that we now have a Patreon that is live and going good. Um, we are offering some interesting stuff. I'm not gonna list it to you. You're gonna have to get in there and find out. Mm-hmm. Because, uh, you know. The link. Good. The to Patreon is in our website. It's, you'll find it in our show notes. Yeah. And so, uh, with that, I just want to thank you guys once again.

38:09 Thank you for everything. Thank you for joining us. Uh, and we will see you guys next week. Bye.