0:07 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

0:47 An ethical non-monogamy. So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And today's episode is a little different. We got a voicemail through our website, which I was really excited about. Yeah, that was kind of cool. Yeah. You know, we finally. Finally. And it really finally, it really, it really caught our attention. It's one of those messages that really makes you stop and think and say, Hmm, maybe we should talk about this. Yeah. Yeah. It's short, it's honest, and it's a question that I think a lot of people in the lifestyle can relate to and one way or another. Yeah. Yeah. So I figured why not bring it straight to the show?

1:28 You guys, you gotta know how to do it. These are real questions, real conversations, and zero filters. Ooh. All right, well, let's roll the voicemail. Hi, my name is Jan, and my question is how do lesbian couples fit into the lifestyle? We both were previously married to men and enjoyed the lifestyle a bit then, but are interested in trying to pursue more friendships and experiences, but not sure how that works, in our current relationship. Now that is such a great question. And first off, thank you so much for sending that in. We appreciate it. He got so excited. I did. We love when our listeners reach out because it opens up the conversation. It it, it just doesn't get talked about enough.

2:09 It does. No, no it doesn't. No, it doesn't. Exactly what she said right there was really, it really, really hits on a part of the lifestyle that isn't always. Easy to navigate, especially for couples who don't fit the so-called standard LS malt. You know, that's, that's a really good point and I think it's interesting because the lifestyle really kind of is tailor made for the straight man and the bisexual woman. When you really think about it, I, oh, I will 100% agree. Yes. When you really think about it like that is tailor made. Yes. The straight guy and the bisexual woman of a couple.

2:50 Yeah. Yeah. I am noticing now there's a lot of bisexual men and bisexual women and together. They're kind of going out there. Yeah. And I'm noticing that now more so. Well, so I, I, I think it's always been hard for anybody outside of the norm. Mm-hmm. Or what people consider the norm to be of that straight man, bisexual woman dynamic. Mm-hmm. And I've actually had this question come up to me before, on, uh, one of my TikTok lives that I did. Mm-hmm. Uh, there was a, a, a gentleman who was, who was listening in on, on my live, and he said, you know, I actually am married to another man and we want to explore the lifestyle.

3:33 And we've attended a couple of events, but we've gotten nothing but foul looks from people like, we don't fit in and is there a place for us to fit in? And this is very similar to the voicemail that we got. Yeah. It's unfortunate that it even has to be asked. Yeah. I mean unfortunately you, it is a difficult little, I, I would, I can see where the difficulty is. It comes down to the judgment and the lifestyle. You know, we Exactly. None of us want to be judged for our lifestyle. Yeah. But then we're gonna go into a lifestyle and judge others. Yeah. For their lifestyle, because it's different than ours. I think our community where we're at is very, very open.

4:14 It can be, I, it's not as accepting. I mean, if you recall, there are other couples out there who really have issue. You know, especially men have issue with bisexual and gay men oftentimes. Mm-hmm. Because they have this deep seated fear, oh man, a gay man's gonna touch my balls, or something like that. Yeah. You know, it's like, come on, dude. Yeah. If you express your boundaries openly and clearly to the people that you're interested in playing with, it shouldn't even be an issue. Exactly. Exactly. It shouldn't, it shouldn't be an issue. We're pretty clear. But I mean, I get the que I understand the question. And so they're just trying to, to navigate into like just joining the lifestyle. Would And finding their place.

4:56 And finding their place. Yeah. I think depending on where they're at it's, they need to find a person who, or a couple or just friends that are gonna actually help them navigate that way. I mean, I can see where the, where being a lesbian couple is a little difficult. I can also see where that might be something that people actually navigate toward more. I, I don't know why you do make a good point. Like, I feel like that's gonna be a, like if they were to come in it, they could be fetishized. Yes. I mean, every, everybody who's different than the norm can be fetishized. Yes. Um, and, and I think that you'll notice that, you know, different races are fetishized. You as a Latina are fetishized.

5:36 Yes. It just. It, it's just is what it is. Yeah. It's kind of wanting what you can't have sort of thing. Um, what what I feel is, is sad is that people who are different feel like maybe they don't belong. And I think it's a two part thing. Mm-hmm. When you automatically are coming from this space where you have been judged in the past mm-hmm. For how you want to live. When you enter a new space, you automatically have those insecurities in your head. Yes. And so for example, I have always felt like I was, uh, unattractive. And so I'm always gonna have those insecurities in my head, right?

6:18 And even if somebody is accepting me and telling me the opposite, I'm still gonna have 'em in my head. Yes. So if I put myself. In that, in the shoes of somebody like that. And I say, well, I'm, I am married to the same sex uhhuh and we want to explore the lifestyle. Obviously I'm gonna have it in my head that people are probably not going to accept it. But at the same time, when I go to meet and greets and I go to events and I try to link up with others. Just to meet and yeah. And join a community. That's gonna be in the back of my head. And if, if people aren't as receptive to bringing me into the folds, I'm gonna blame that. Yeah. And a lot of times people don't do that.

7:01 They just don't know how to socialize. Yeah. So, I mean, a little, a few tips. I would definitely try to find a community that you are more comfortable with. There's apps. You know, that they can kind of look into. Yeah. And if you go to a lifestyle meet and greet or a lifestyle event, introduce yourselves. I am, I know that it's easier said than done. Yeah. Yeah. It, um, it's hard. You kind of have to just remove yourself and just go in there and say hi. Like you have to Yeah. We're adults. Yeah. It's not like it was when we were younger and it was harder for us to make friends.

7:43 Yeah. Or whatnot. You really, a lot of lifestyle people are easygoing, so I understand the fear of it, but actually like just go in. Go in and just find a friendly face. Yeah. You know, there's always gonna be somebody who's gonna be welcoming. Yeah. It's, it's very rare that there's not at least one person who's willing to talk to you. Uh, yeah, exactly. Um, I definitely think that if you're new to the lifestyle, you want to find somebody who will mentor and maybe introduce you to others. Yeah. That always helps. We try to play that role. Yeah. When we're at events. Um, but even still this particular case, mm-hmm.

8:25 Both of these ladies were married to men previously, and were in the lifestyle with those. Previous connections. Oh, wow. So they were, they, they know what the lifestyle's about. Yeah. They know how it goes. They just, so they probably already have a community. They just don't know. Probably, you know, they probably know some people from the past Yeah. That they can, uh, rekindle with, I would assume. But that is big assumption. I could be wrong. And if you don't just make yourself just be like, Hey, I remember you. Yeah. You know, and then be like, oh no, they don't. But yeah, just pretend. Yeah. Yeah. You know, fake it till you make it. I will say that I, I. I am a big believer in if you don't have a community or if you don't feel like you have a place in the community then you make one.

9:10 You know what I'm saying? That's a really good point. Like if, if nobody is willing to pull out a chair and say, here, sit at our table. Yeah. Then build your own table. There you go. And tell people, Hey, you know what, you can come sit with us. There you go. And you know, honestly, that's kind of been our thing from the start. Because when we moved out here, we weren't really, we still didn't know anybody. We didn't know anybody. We would go into the meet and greets and we would just. Sit there. Yeah. And if we saw people kind of just standing around, they would just come to our table and we would just all be standing holding up the wall. Yeah. Yeah. I finally, finally, it was kind of awkward. Finally, I finally said, you know what? This is not gonna work. If we're ever gonna do this, we have to like say hi. You started wearing your little Adam shirts.

9:52 Get yourself an Adam shirt. Don't get an Adam shirt. Get yourself. Uh, my name is Adam Shirt. They're gonna come to you, or you want to have some real fun, and, I don't know maybe my sense of humor is very different than yours, but if it were me and I was, uh, one half of a lesbian couple, now going into a an Ls event, what would you do, honey? I would ask, I would walk into an LS event wearing matching shirts, one that says lesbian, and then your partner can have an arrow pointing towards you that says, I'm with lesbian. And that would be hilarious because that what that is, is an icebreaker. It's okay. Now it sounds really, really silly. It sounds very elementary, but realistically it's an icebreaker.

10:34 Yeah, and it's one of the reasons why I used to wear my shirts to meet and greets at the beginning that had my name splayed all over because it was an icebreaker. It was a way for people to come up to me when they've been drinking and go, Hey I see your name is Adam, isn't it? It's like, well, no, my name is Gary. You know? And you carry yourself into a whole different conversation. Yes. And before you know it, you are the ones being referred to after that, that meeting where people are like, did you see them wearing the lesbian? And I'm with lesbian shirts, like, that's hilarious. So there you go. I'm gonna get you a shirt like that says I'm with lesbian. Yeah, there you go. Why not? I says, I'm with hot wife. Uh, I've seen actually a sweater that says, oh my goodness, I like that. Uh, I, I've seen a sweater that says my wife tends to stab people.

11:17 And I said, I need to get that sweater. You need that shirt? I do. So, so you can either go with it two ways, right? Yeah. You can go with it the funny way, which I wanna say I would, I would go that way. I would rock that way. Or you can just go and be like, hi. Blah, blah, blah, yeah. And just break it. It's really that simple break that click. It's, it is very simple. It's that simple. And it's not that simple. It's very, like, I go in, there are cliques and believe me, we've gone to meet, they exist, meet and greet. There are, we've gone to meet and greets where people actually, a lot of people know is, but then there's maybe new people and I'll be like, hi, I'm Pris, and this is Adam and blah, blah, blah. And they'll look at us like.

11:58 Hi. Oh, we've been straight up snubbed before and I don't care. Yeah. I said hi to you. I've made my introduction and I'm done. I did my part. Yeah. And then we walk away, you know, and then we find some, and you know, sometimes you can tell who's receptive to having conversation you can and who's not. Yeah. If they turn their their shoulder to you or they turn their back to you, they're obviously not interested. And you can move along from there. And I don't know if this is okay to say, but everybody loves a lesbian. I don't see why it wouldn't, everybody loves lesbians. Everybody loves gay people. I don't, especially in the lifestyle. I know you're in Texas, right? I, I know, but it doesn't matter. So I will, I will say, obviously for this to even be a question, yeah.

12:40 You guys have probably faced judgment before, or people who have, obviously I think everybody do we know where they're from, Austin. People, you're from Austin, come over here, we'll take you. We'll introduce you to people. Reach out to us. I mean, realistically. Yes. Yes. You're in our area. Yes. Um, and, you know, we can, we can always make some introductions and get you started in the community. Yes. Even if you weren't in our area and judging by this, I guarantee you there are a lot of people in the same situation who are not. Yeah. My suggestion would really be just to put those insecurities away. Put them away as much as possible, stick them in your pocket.

13:22 Um, and I know that's easier said than done. I struggle with insecurities all the time. But you kind of have to remove yourself. You have to disconnect from that, and you have to portray a character. You have to walk in there the first couple times and portray this. This, almost this parody of yourself where you're just gonna come out of yourself and you're gonna introduce yourself. And as time goes on, you know, as you introduce yourself and you introduce your partner. They're gonna put two and two together. And obviously if you are in the Austin area and certain other areas, you are going to be accepted a lot faster Yes. Than, than you will in some other areas. Yes. But this community is very large and it's very vast. Mm-hmm. And you can find your tribe.

14:03 Mm-hmm. And I can't express that enough. Not just to, uh, my lesbian friends, not just to my, uh, my gay male friends. Yeah. Uh, but to everybody. I've had single men reach out to me. I've had dragons reach out to me, unicorns reach out to me. All everybody's trying to find their connections. They're trying to find their people. You said Dragon and I thought. Like a real dragon. R I'm tired. Yes. No. Uh, a dragon just to, uh, remind everybody is a, basically a male version of a unicorn, and that is a bisexual male. I like that. Who plays with couples. I like that better than a, well, a bull is, is not usually a bisexual male.

14:46 A bull. Oh, a dragon is a bisexual. A bull is a, a a he could be bisexual, but a bull is, is primarily for the hot wife dynamic. He's the one who, the single guy who sleeps with a woman sleeps with all the women. You know what I mean? Understood. Uh, and so they're, they are referred to as bulls. Uh, you know, just one of the many labels that we have around there. We have so many. It's, um, it's funny. It is what it is. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I mean. It's a matter of feeling included. It's a matter of feeling. Mm-hmm. Like you belong. Mm-hmm. And I think all of us want to have that feeling. And I think it's difficult because it's such a vast and diverse community.

15:30 Yes. That you're not gonna be accepted in some spaces. I mean, just plain and simple. Yeah. That is very true. That's very true. But the majority, you will find somebody. Yes, absolutely. You will find somebody. Absolutely. And so I just, I just wanna set realistic expectations. Yeah. Because it, you know, obviously the insecurities is there for a reason. You know, with that kind of dynamic it's, you're not always accepted in certain places. Yeah. And, and people will ask you dumb questions and they will make dumb comments as I'm sure you may have seen already. Um, and sometimes it's hard to. To get past that sometimes it's upsetting. Yeah. My wife and I handle dumb comments very differently. Me personally, I use those as opportunities to educate.

16:13 My wife, on the other hand, I do not, does different. I, I, I do not, I don't stand, I, I'm not very, I only with certain people. I'm not very, what's the word? Friendly. Guess that's the word. And I'm very friendly. You are friendly, but you are very direct. I'm very direct and in the middle of my directness I will still be friendly, but I just wanna paint a very clear picture of what my boundaries, rules, my thoughts. Yeah. My preferences, my beliefs, and so. It is what it is. Yeah. And I will say, not everybody likes me.

16:57 Not everybody likes Adam. Like, yeah you have to find your people. And I think I, you know, I really feel you're gonna have a really good time. One, you left us a voicemail. Yeah. You want to be in the community. You want to. Enjoy the lifestyle and frankly being able to interact with somebody like us regarding that, you have no fear Yeah. Of, of being able to go out there and get out there. So you already have half the battle park, you're, you're doing it you know, it's real important to set your boundaries and, and express what it is that you're looking for when you meet others. Mm-hmm. Now, normally good People who converse Uhhuh will straight up ask you what your dynamic is right up front.

17:42 Yes. What are you looking for? This and that. Yeah. Be open with it, you know, be, be very, very direct with it, because curiosity can be respectful when it's handled with intention. Ooh, yep. Yeah. That's very true. Yeah. Yeah. And you gotta find the right fit. So you gotta look for LS Events, clubs, there's groups and there's. A lot of diversity and there's different orientations in there, so don't even worry about that. There's apps, there's Facebook groups. Yes. And I know specifically there's the integrated Facebook groups and within those Facebook groups you have people who start other Facebook groups Yes. That are for. Singles in the lifestyle?

18:23 Yes. For bisexual men in the lifestyle, for women only. For bisexual women, yes. For women only. Yes. So I guarantee you there is a, a group out there for you. There is, um, if you haven't tried, you can also look on SDC. You put yourself a profile out there, which I'll have a link. For, uh, in our show notes, but if you go to SDC, you can actually set up your profile and they have different groups there mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That you can seek out. Yeah. Uh, and it just makes it a little bit easier for you to find your tribe. Yeah. You know? I like that. Yeah. Comfort and communication matter more than labels. Way more than labels. And I think really when it comes down to it, we are not. W we really are big into the community.

19:06 You hear us talk about the community all the time. Obviously, we would not feel this way about the community if it didn't exist. This community is wonderful. It is. It's really, it's a very, you'll be treated well. It's a very open community. And especially now that I know that you're in Austin there's so many groups, so much community in the surrounding areas that. I think you both are going to have a great time. Yeah, I really do. Absolutely. And you know, one thing about it is too, if you feel the need to find more of a community of what you feel you need, you can always.

19:48 Put out a a, a meet and greet or Yes. Or set up an event for that specifically. Yes. Yes. And you will have people show That's a good idea. Yes. That's a good idea. A brand new mixer and you are putting it on, so you control that. You put it out there, you go into these groups and you say, Hey, I'm putting on this. This meet and greet for this specific type of person. Yeah. This is what we're looking for. If you match that, please come out and have a drink with us or whatever. You know, there's a lot of That's a really good idea. Yeah. There's a lot of different ways, ways, ways to do that. I that I think it's pretty cool. Yeah. Uh, you know, the more we talk about this stuff, the more normalized it becomes and I think that it's very true. Yeah. So that was a great conversation. And a reminder that the lifestyle is at its best.

20:30 Yes. When everyone feels seen, respected, and included. Yes, exactly, these are the kinds of conversations that keep the community growing in the right direction. Honest, open and real. Yeah. So when we come back, we're sitting down with Lloyd and Brooke Dittfurth, the couple behind Texas Desires. Now they're the ones who are putting on our, uh, the hotel takeover in San Antonio, December 5th through the 7th. And you'll hear a lot more about that here in a little bit. But they're gonna be here to talk about that and the incredible things that they've been building in the lifestyle community. Ooh, you're definitely gonna wanna hear this one guys. Absolutely. So hold on just a second 'cause we're coming right back.

21:11 Alright So we are seriously excited about today's guests because they are the powerhouse duo bringing one of the hottest lifestyle weekends of the year to San Antonio. Joining us today are Loyd and Brooke Dittfurth, the creators behind Texas Desires and their hosting an unforgettable hotel takeover happening December 5th through the seventh. Uh, and. I'm excited. Me too. I'm excited. I know you're excited. Me too. I'm, this is a clothing optional weekend packed with energy theme parties, games and community and beyond. Monogamy is going to be there doing a live podcast right in the middle of the action.

21:55 Yes, we are. So let's welcome Loyd and Brooke to the show to find out everything we need to know about the Texas Desires naughty and nice hotel takeover. Thanks Brooke and Loyd for coming to the show. We appreciate it, guys. Yeah, thanks for making time. Thanks for having, yes. Yeah, for sure. We're, we're glad that you guys could join us. Now, before we even get started into the actual event itself, I'm actually curious about you guys just a little bit. How long have y'all been in the lifestyle and what is your dynamic? So official story? Yes. Feed me Seymour. I love this. This is what I got into this for. I gotta know. version. You can do the long version, whatever you want.

22:35 Gimme the, gimme the juice. If you've met my husband, he will give you the long version so I, and you'll speed it up. And so basically my wife had breast cancer. She got good, she got big boobs, flat tummy, all that was great. And we had a friend convince us to go to desire. To go to a clothing optional resort and you'll love it. Just go. And so our first diving into the lifestyle world. Wow. We went to get naked for four days. Yeah. Like we don't do anything half-assed.

23:17 We go, you go full fledged away. Balls to the wall. The wall, and then we back out of the pool and say. How do we feel about that? Is that good? Do we wanna do that? It's all trial and error. Yeah. And I'm not gonna say like we're all in on all things lifestyle but we love the community so much that we've immersed ourselves in it quite a bit. Nice. And I think like the friend aspect of it too, like, these people are very genuine that you meet the majority of the people and nobody's out to like people. It's a stigma on the swing your lifestyle, right?

23:59 Like absolutely. Uh, all y'all do is go around and have sex with everybody, right? But they, they ever knew anything about it. They would know that, you know, exactly. That's not the case. We have more friends than we have playmates. Mm-hmm. Exactly. It's an actual community. I don't people say that. It was my friend that last night, she's, she's not into the lifestyle and she was like, wow, really? I would think that you've been in it for so long. You have like thousands of people you've slept with. And I'm like, no. Thousands of people. Or was that Well, 'cause we've been in it for so long, so Wow. Wow. Basically in a nutshell is we just kinda like dove in. And that was a few years ago, three years ago. Three years ago. We ended up going back to that same resort three months later and stay in for another week.

24:42 Oh my gosh. 'Cause I do YouTube. Mm-hmm. Um, we started doing lifestyle resorts and going to those, and then we started doing hotel takeovers and going here and going there and trying this out. And then we go to this campground thing and then we did this, and then we, and it just kind of got to be, yeah, no, I'm, I'm listening, but this one here loves to be naked. If he could walk around. All the time. He would. So we're always going to places where he doesn't have to wear clothes. Yeah. And either it's great, it's freeing, it's wonderful. Um, but yeah, it was, yeah. He, he likes to be naked.

25:22 You know, I do like that. I've heard about, I've heard that about the resorts, and I'm okay with being naked. Like, I don't, I used to be really insecure, but it's like, it's very freeing. I heard it's very like liberating and being like, because there's nobody judging you. No, exactly. It's so fun. Station with a woman's vagina sitting in your face and you're not even thinking about that. You're just having a normal conversation like we are right now. So I love that. That sounds like fun. Yeah, it sounds like fun. Horrible story. Uh, we're oblivious to things. Okay. And if you want something, you have to say it. Mm-hmm. Spell it out. Yes, very much so. Because we had a couple that was flirting with us.

26:06 And they were telling us what their stuff was and what their cues were. And then, uh, they ended up staying another night at Desire. And I was doing my YouTube video on the rooms and the amenities, uh, room by the hour if you wanna check it out. And yeah, I, uh, so I go ahead and, uh. They're like, yeah, it was like $600 for tonight. It was crazy. Mm-hmm. Something like $600 a piece. I think it was 1200 bucks for the night. Mm-hmm. And it was in the new part of the resort. And I'm like, dude, can I do your room? He's like, yeah, come on up.

26:48 I'll come get you. We go up there. This woman who I literally had a 30 minute long con, extremely intelligent conversation with. Is laying on the bed, sprawled out with the soundtrack of 50 Shades of Gray Playing. My dumb ass goes in there and I literally filmed the room and didn't take any cues of what they thought was gonna go on. Oh my goodness. We get on the plane and I'm editing the video and I could have punched through the back of my skull and my wife and I was like. Yeah, we missed that. We totally, she's like, what are you talking about?

27:28 I was like, here, and I, I showed her, I was like, that's the 50 Shades of Gray Gray soundtrack. And she's like, oh shit. Sucker missed opportunities. Well, going, going from that actually makes a great transition. You know what it does for anyone new to Texas desires. If you can tell us what your brand and community are all about. Yeah. Like what inspired you two to start this whole journey of Texas desires? We, ooh, I can't drop the giant thing yet. The giant thing yet. Right. And I know what the giant thing is, but Okay.

28:08 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Unveiled at the at the takeover event. Yes. It's pretty big. But we, but I think we want to have that sense of community, but also where, you know, we're not mixing. I mean, we've been to a lot of things and places and we like the fact that we could, do something and take, a whole community and put us all in one little, one little area and just have a weekend fun, and have that place to go and do those kind of things. I think that's one of the things I, I think a lot of it is we've just experienced so much. And, our, we've had the ability to experience things and nobody really has done takeovers the way I think they should be done.

28:57 And I, yeah, so I'm, I'm actually Loyd and I, I don't mean to cut you off, but that leads me to my next question. Yeah. Because, you guys have been to several takeovers? We've only been to one, honestly. Yeah. And it wasn't the greatest experience that we had, but uh, we were actually looking forward to going to another one. When we talked to you guys about this one, you built something that's not just a party, but it's like a, an entire weekend escape. Mm-hmm. What sets your events apart from the ones that you've attended? Like what, what's gonna set this one different? So the difference is we bought the hotel. On. Like for the weekend, for the weekend. So I ended up, I dumped a lot of money.

29:38 Yeah, there you go. And that's what's different because the hotel takeovers that we go to with a, with one group, and they're usually all about the same. They take over one of the top floors. They have, theme rooms, people that wanna do theme rooms, things like that. And you can go up there, you can have whatever clothes on or not have clothes on up there, but you have to be dressed if you're down. Stairs and go to like another floor. Like your room is on the 11th floor and the party's on the 12th floor. You actually have to have clothes on to go up there. And so ours is different because we have the whole hotel. If you wanna ride the elevator down, butt ass naked, go. 'cause we have the whole hotel. We have no, no kids, no grandmas.

30:18 No grandpas, no. I mean, yes we do have 'em, but they're probably gonna be naked too. But yes. But not the kids, but yeah. His grandma's and grandma. Uh, but yeah, so that's what's different is that it's all lifestyle though. Every person that is in that hotel for those th uh, two days and, and is going to be lifestyle. Yes, 100%. I'm excited. Yeah, there's a lot of. There is a lot of newbies and they were interested because they were looking for a safe place. That they can ex, they can experience a resort like atmosphere. Yeah. Without, spending three, $4,000 to go to Cancun or go to hedo, or.

31:02 Even going over to Secrets to Florida or, you know, they may have gone to one of the smaller deals, but they didn't really feel like it was worth it or whatever, whatnot, and they wanted to try something new. Yeah. So yeah, it, it's, it's gonna be interesting. There's a lot of, I'm gonna call 'em, veterans gonna be here, that are extremely experienced, but there's also a lot of. We've never done anything like this, and we're kind of new to this world. That's one reason we're gonna have a panel for newbies. Um, oh, I love that. Yeah, it is. Oh, by the way, I don't know if, did I tell you that you've, you've really like put a lot of thought in it. I love that.

31:42 I love that. It's not gonna be just, you know. Yeah, no. And he has to tell, ask me these questions. 'cause his ADH D brain over here will think of something and he'll be, he won't tell me until after he is already doing everything for it. And I'm like, wait, where did this come from? Yeah. Yeah. That's why, that's, that's awesome. I mean, I look, I'm looking forward to it because I, like you said, I, we don't have. Three, $4,000 to drop at a a resort as much as we would love to go. Yeah. Like it has to be really planned out for us. We have a big family. Right. So this is and I've actually been told by a lot of people who are new that they're looking forward to this. Yes. I am excited. Yeah.

32:23 So I, I've gotta go ahead and tell you I'm the type of person that when I hear negative things or rumors. That come up. Yeah. I learned the juice to 1 million to make it a billion times better than I could have ever thought about before. 'cause it actually helps me. Mm-hmm. I guess you so there's so many things that like people were talking about how, well that's not a very good value. And then I'm like, wow. There we go. I got you. A 90% discount on a world class boudoire photographer who's gonna come in and do play sessions.

33:05 Wow. Wow. You ain't gonna find that nowhere else. No. Hundred to show up. And actually, you know what I, I went through the, the flyers and the information that you guys had put out, and I actually compiled, uh, what, what looks like, and if I could get into the amazing weekend here. Friday night is naughty neon Noel. If I'm right about that. Yep. That's a full on Christmas neon rave. Yeah. Where guests wear neon greens, reds, whites, or hot pink. That glows under UV light and you can actually accent with your favorite rave or holiday accessories. That sounds like a blast. Yeah, that sounds like a lot. I can't wait to go shopping.

33:46 I know. I, so I already have some neon stuff and I'm not, I mean, I'm just gonna throw something on and do it. I would like to see everybody else's, what they come up with. I love, I love the themes where you can dress up and see what everybody comes up with. Yeah. And then Saturday is frostbite fantasy. It's a cool icy glow theme where guests wear glowing white, light blue, or silver lingerie. Are outfits at Sparkle, under colored and UV lights with LED jewelry or light of Christmas wear. How did you even come up with these themes? You just, I'll be honest, we didn't. Yeah, our dj. Shout out to our dj. Yeah. Yeah. Ner, no nun. Oh, Allen. Allen.

34:26 Yeah. DJ Allen Noon. Oh my goodness. Lemme, that's guy. Tell through that he is my favorite dj. He really is our favorite dj. Yeah. Yeah. Guess what? He's gonna be there both nights and he is, my goodness. He actually is. Uh, um, so I met him at the hotel a week ago or so. Okay. With the owners to find out what the best place was for the crowd. That's probably coming. Yeah, of course. 'cause I'm not a DJ and I don't do loud music kind of deal. I like deal kind of guy. Yeah. And uh, so he's the one who figured out all of that. Wow. Yeah, that sounds like him.

35:07 He's really good about, um, he knows his business. He does know his business and his music. And so you picked a really good dj. Yeah, he's, he really is our favorite. Now you've also packed the weekend with fun the Friday theme room judging and a dj, obviously. Dj. Yeah. Nooner and Saturday's live podcast with you. Love. Truly with us. Yeah. Uh, we'll, we'll be doing a live podcast and a q and a from, uh, from there, which is gonna be a lot of fun. And that show will actually be airing most likely the following weekend. Yeah, that's gonna be awesome. Yeah. I think you guys, y'all have a spicy bingo going on as well. Yeah. So spicy bingo is, uh, Saturday.

35:47 That's gonna be Saturday. Okay. Right before yours, we're gonna have spicy games. Okay? Okay. We're actually still looking for volunteers, uh, to go ahead and, uh, we're looking for volunteers to play the game that are staying at the, at the hotel. That way we can, uh, get them on board and we're not trying to pull 'em out of a hat. Okay. And we needed help. We need volunteers. So I like that. What do, I know you posted something. What is, what does the game entail that you need volunteers for? Can we get into that a little? So there's a few games that we'll be, they'll be chosen for.

36:29 Okay. There is one I'm going to Cock-a-doodle who? Okay. It involves blindfolds. Oh. And touching. And touching blindfolds and touching. Okay. Right. I, I love games. Yeah. Yeah. Great. This will be right out oh, don't forget Friday night we're having a scavenger hunt. Yeah. Yeah. Uh, Friday is going to be a scavenger hunt that will involve the theme rooms. There will be some actions that will need to be done to check off those, uh, scavenger boxes. Oh, okay. And we are going to be choosing teams, so. We won't tell 'em how we're choosing teams. Yeah, no, we're not doing to Mystery, mystery, mystery.

37:11 So there's a lot, we're still thinking of different things to do as well, just to just jam pack, events and just have it just be just like. Oh my God. We did this and then we turned around and did this, and oh my gosh. They didn't, there was no like dull moment, like where we didn't know what we were supposed to be doing. Like other than just sitting around in our room and not doing anything. Right. Yeah. Yeah. You're gonna come and you're gonna sit in your room. That's your prerogative. And you do that if you want, and people may want to, and you, and that's, that's fine. But just know you're gonna miss out on all the fun. Yes. But you can come observe. I love that. Right. That's right. Well, you know, all of that is happening. And then of course, uh, there's the, the Christmas party.

37:54 Yep. Uh, which for those who are in our community here in Texas that a lot of them know, uh, the Facebook group, friends of Friends mm-hmm. And they're having a, uh, Christmas party and they'll be having it at, uh, at this event. That's gonna be fun. Pretty cool. Yeah. We actually were, uh. We were going to be doing this event anyways, and we had talked to them, be like, Hey, we, we want to do this event, we'd like to promote it on your page. And so George was like. I like. Yeah, that's no problem. And then, uh, when we found the original property, uh, that we were gonna be renting, it was a smaller boutique hotel.

38:36 And then about an hour later, he calls, he is like, got a problem. I was like, huh. And then, uh, Jules is like, it's not a problem, but that's the weekend of our Christmas party. And I'm like, oh, well I guess we won't have this thing. And she said, no, no, no, no. We there, we've never done a takeover. I'm like, sure. Oh yeah. Not there. But yeah. And I literally had to double the size of the hotel. Right. Yeah. Well, you know, you did pretty good. You did pretty good. Now, I, I, it's my understanding you also are gonna have a few food trucks out there. Is that right?

39:17 So we are still working on that and working through that. Okay. It is a potential we, well, that, that is the plan. As of now we are, are planning on doing food trucks, uh, Friday, then Saturday for lunch and then Saturday evening. But we also have had some people reach out and we may end up. Just going ahead and like doing, having somebody kind of come in with a catering thing. We're still working through all those details, so I can't really say hold me down to it. Yeah, sure. Sure. Things change so, so fast. And you know, it's a lot that goes into it for sure.

39:57 A lot. Oh yeah. Yeah. I, I think the last one that we attended was like a potluck where everybody just had to bring a meal and Yeah. We all brought something. Yeah. Oh, and that's great. When they're just the one nighters, right? Yeah. Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I do. I like that. Out of curiosity, just because, you know, we're, I'm a woman and I, I'm, I wanna know, so I know it's a clothing optional event and it's open to couples and single ladies. How are you making sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable in that environment? Okay, so we, uh, have the same security guys that they use for the beach takeover. Okay. There's interior, there's exterior, there's in the parking lot, there's at the door.

40:41 Uh, we also have a medic who's going to be running around with them just in case somebody may take too many blue pills and get a little Yes. We have, so that, that we have additional staff who are. Going to be identifiable, who are also gonna be walking the halls, picking up trash. That's good. Different stuff like that, keeping everything kind of cleaned up. I like that. Uh, so know that they will report anything. Yeah. And so, but at the same time, you know, when people check in, like they're gonna know who all these people are. And that all they've gotta do is make a phone call.

41:21 If you feel any uncomfortable whatsoever just let us know. I am totally cool with sending somebody through a four story window. Same. We're on the, we're on the same page. Okay. But also, I mean, I think there was a big thing about, I, you know, the, the elephant in the room of, you know, single men and we have them on a list. So, I mean, there, there are, so there are a few single ladies who have came and we've said couples, right? If we have single women who are coming, we have allowed a. Single man to get a a room by themselves.

42:04 And of course they've been vetted by people, so, and we, all of them. Yeah, no, I was gonna say we have a lot of single guys in the community that have been in the community and have not been what everyone seems to think, that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So that's what that is. That's nice. That's good to hear. Yeah. But we're, we're trying to be inclusive to everyone. Yeah. Here. And somebody got upset right in the beginning 'cause they thought that we were just gonna be like, oh, we're gonna charge y'all a million dollars to come here. No, we're not, we haven't changed whatsoever. Same price into that. We're not looking to make it, we're not gonna make any money off of this thing.

42:45 Mm-hmm. It's for fun. It's for the community. That's awesome. We wanna have fun and we want everybody else to have fun and we want people to experience this for the first time. Right. And a lot of people are going to experience it for the first time. 'cause they don't really have any of those takeovers in San Antonio. Yeah. So. I think a lot of the apprehension too is it's the fear of the unknown, right? For sure. And you don't know what's gonna happen and yeah. Half the people probably don't even know who Loyd and I are, and that that's, that's okay. You know? But you're gonna get to know us. That's right. Absolutely. Well, you know, while we're on, uh, pricing, let's talk logistics and pricing. Let's talk details. What's the cost of this awesome adventure, which covers both Friday and Saturday rooms.

43:28 Oh, so it's 500 bucks for a room. You can have up to four people in a double queen room. You can have two people in a king room. It's, that's it. And it's just the flat rate. There's no added fees or anything like that. Oh, that's it. Nope, that's it. I'm, I'm actually eating the credit card fees. Mm-hmm. I'm paying the taxes on the hotel. Wow. I'm paying the security, I'm paying the dj, I'm paying. I'm not. The only thing if you would have to do Yeah. If food, yeah. If the food trucks are out there, y'all gonna ask buy your own food. You're have, pay your own food. Right? Yeah. Right. Yeah. That's the least we can do. Bring your own alcohol, providing that.

44:10 Yeah. Um. Oh and breakfast is included. Breakfast is included. We are going to upscale the breakfast amenities because we wanna make sure that, you know, we have options that are, I do not realize that there are certain food options that are not. Tasteful afterwards. Okay. After consumption. Um, and yeah and certain foods make things taste better apparently. Okay, gotcha. Yeah. So we're adding some of those, but also also for people that have food allergies and things, people that can eat bread, waffles and that stuff.

44:59 So, okay. Yeah. Yeah. You covered all your bases. And as of right now, I know the location has not been released to protect the safety of everyone who's attending. When are y'all gonna be releasing that information? A week of week. Of the week of, mm-hmm. Okay. Okay. Excellent. Yeah. Roughly. I, I gotta tell you, we are thrilled to be doing a live podcast from, uh, the Christmas party. What made you decide to bring Beyond Monogamy into the mix this year? Y'all actually had a conversation with me at that very first meeting and yeah, I was literally willingly, willingly. Just kidding. So even though I'm married to her, I was basically living in San Antonio in a hotel at the time. Oh.

45:39 Running out of San Antonio. We live in Dallas. We're actually moving back on the first. Oh wow. That was our welcome home party too, by the way. Yeah. I am so happy for you guys. Well, and. You guys didn't treat me like, Ew, single guy. I was like, oh. And then, so I kinda, I'm not a big I don't listen to things when I drive down the road. So I don't consume much content there. But it was, and I've seen some of your stuff and I thought, you know what? I would like to help these guys have. I if we can do something cool for him and, and.

46:20 Give 'em this kind of an opportunity. Heck yeah. So, hey, you know, we're, we're, we're so excited about it because, uh, and really appreciates it. We have a, a lot of it, this is kind of gonna kick off our 2026 events. Yeah. So we're ending our 2025 events with you guys and then we're gonna have a, uh, an event at, uh, club Eden in San Antonio on December 13th. And that's pretty much gonna finish our year. That's it. Uh, and then we are gonna be doing some national events. Next year in 2026. So 2026 is gonna be very big for us. But as far as Texas desires what's 2026 looking like for you guys? Yeah. Have y'all thought about that yet? Is there gonna be more coming out?

47:00 I be waiting to see how this one is. Yeah. So there is more. Um, so I know the big announcements, you know? Yeah. Sidestepping the big announcement. Is there anything else that's coming? Plan out? This isn't the only hotel. No, I listen. I would love to do a couple more next year. Okay. A bit bigger. I've actually got somebody from a Marriott property who's going to be at the takeover. Nice. A, a, a bigger property down the road that has interior pool area kind of Oh man. Yeah. Outdoor and stuff. Yeah. And they're going to observe us, not really observe.

47:42 That's the wrong way to say. They're cool with it. They go to resorts and stuff. They just wanna see how the community reacts. Yes. It gets wild, crazy. And they probably won't want us in their hotel, but. So if everybody can not get super wild and crazy and rappel from the second floor balconies down into the lobby or any of that kinda stuff, I'd appreciate it. So, but uh, but so we're looking at doing a few more. Right. Any people listening who wants to experience the naia Nice hotel takeover? How can they reserve their spots? Are there still spots? Yes. Oh, uh, there are our, so the thing is we have about, I'm gonna say 15 left.

48:31 Okay. Also have another probably 20 who they've said, yes, I want a room. And I said, okay. I sent 'em an invoice and they haven't paid it. So Ah, okay. It's gonna be, I have a feeling that there's either going to be some rooms still available, I'm gonna be sending emails out to those people to be like, Hey, or are you covering this or not? And. If they say no, we're just not gonna be able to do it. Okay. Then that room's gonna open up. Okay. You'll probably see a last minute rush too. You will. That's the, I mean, that's the unfortunate thing. Yeah. I mean, I, I'm hoping not, and I, I am hoping that, that it, it goes by this week and next week, especially with the government coming back up, go.

49:19 I think that was a lot of thing, a lot of people's reservations, so. Yeah. Uh, for sure. But they can email Loyd@RBHACC.com. So to clarify, technically our company is called RBH Accommodations. Okay. So when you get that credit card receipt, whenever you pay off the bill, it's for RBH accommodations. Not, I went shopped in a porn shop, credit card statement. Okay. That's good to know. 'cause that those don't normally work out that great. So people, if you got an invoice. Pay it, reach out to them, let them know what your plans are. We don't lose your spot.

49:59 Don't lose your spot. You don't wanna lose your spot. And for people, the couples that are out there, there are still rooms available, so jump on them 'cause you don't wanna miss this party. Absolutely. Of course all the details including, uh, the email that was just said out loud, that's all gonna be in our show notes. And, uh, it's actually gonna be found on our website under the events tab at www.beyond-monogamy.com. That's right. well, I am excited to be part of this. Like to even just go, I'm not really, you said rave and I've been wanting to go to a rave. She love the rave idea. Love. She's always, she was doing this thing with her hands, like she's got glow sticks in 'em, but she, I never. So, you know, we're gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna have fun for sure.

50:42 Yes. Yeah. Lots of dance. Lots of dancing, and lots of walking around. Oh. Oh. I would like to add for ladies if you are wanting to wear heels of any kind, anything like that, that's great. For the Christmas party, but I would actually have some shoes to actually be comfortable walking around in. Nobody's really gonna care what your feet look like or what's on your feet. They're looking at your lingerie or whatever. But definitely bring some shoes to wear for sure. Yeah. And I, I, I guess I should also clarify. That people will have to wear clothes. Oh yeah. In areas where food is being served and we are following all laws and regulations.

51:23 Love it. Yes. I'm, I'm glad that you had mentioned that because when we were talking about the breakfast and I was going, well, I wonder if there's anybody getting that's gonna try and eat naked downstairs, and we know that's gonna happen, but let's, we've very much been like, dude, and that'll be in the rules packet and everything too. Excellent. It'll all be announced. We will put out, I think we, um, are going to get our itinerary gathered up and, you know, timeframes and all that stuff of when the events are gonna happen and we'll get that posted probably another week or so as well. Okay. Okay, great. Well, I, I know that whatever, uh, whatever you guys have as far as information we're gonna have as well.

52:05 And we're gonna be, uh, keeping our events tab and all of our social media's privy to that as we go along. Loyd and Brooke. Thank you guys for joining us today and for everything that you're doing to keep the Texas lifestyle scene vibrant and yes inclusive. Yeah, the Texas Desire Hotel Takeover is going down December 5th and 6th in San Antonio, and we're excited to have everyone there to be a part of our live show. We're also very happy that y'all are doing this for the community. It's super awesome to reserve, email Loyd at Loyd@rbhacc.com or head over to our events tabs. Go ahead. One L. One LL Oh one L. Yeah.

52:47 Oh, good. Okay. So we'll, we'll make sure that that's yes. Showing correct in all our information. Yes. But yeah, definitely check out our events tab at mm-hmm. www.beyondmonogamy.com. While you're there, check out our latest episodes, drop a Confession, which we love, and join our Patreon community for the behind the scenes extras. And make sure you're following us on socials, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and X, as well as join our Reddit and Discord communities. Absolutely huge. Thanks again to Texas Desires for joining us, Brooke and Loyd. We can't wait to see you guys and everybody at the naughty and nice Hotel takeover. And with that, everybody, thank you for listening and we will see you guys next week.

53:28 Bye.