How To Episodes

It's a mailbag episode! Adam & Pris skip the guest and dig straight into the inbox for two listener questions that could not be more different — one heavy, one fun, and both real talk about ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and the swinger lifestyle. A 20+ year married couple, 3-5 years into the lifestyle, hits a wall: he's thriving in non-monogamy, she's over it. Adam & Pris break down jealousy, trust, communication, and how to figure out what's actually fair for both partners. A newbie couple at th...

Do swingers still get nervous? After 15 years in the swinger lifestyle, Adam & Pris get real about nervousness, anxiety, and confidence in ethical non-monogamy. Spoiler: one of them still gets butterflies before every playdate, and the other struts through the club in lingerie like she owns the place. Guess who's who. In this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite ENM podcast couple digs into why nerves hit so differently for men and women in open relationships — and how to actually ...

That gorgeous couple sliding into your DMs? Yeah... about that. In this revisited episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris dive into catfishing in the swinger lifestyle — the fake profiles, filtered photos, and flat-out fictional people lurking in ethical non-monogamy spaces. With 15 years in the lifestyle, they've seen (and nearly fallen for) it all. In this episode: Adam's AOL chat room days — and the too-perfect mystery woman who vanished Filters, angles, and 20-year-old photos: where does ...

What’s your dynamic? It’s the one question every couple new to the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) needs to know how to answer — and Adam & Pris break it down in this Wednesday Quickie. They dig into full swap vs. soft swap, same room vs. same roof vs. separate play, and why knowing (and stating) your dynamic up front saves everyone’s time. Plus: mismatched libidos, menopause and the lifestyle, learning to say no, and why non-monogamy really is a team sport. In this episode: W...

In-the-Moment Jealousy in ENM: A Listener's Voicemail Confession Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — This week's Quickie tackles one of the most relatable topics in ethical non-monogamy: that flash of jealousy that hits in the moment, even when everything else feels solid. An anonymous listener sent in a voicemail describing a familiar scene: a good time at a pool party or meet-and-greet, a partner doing something he thought he was okay with... and then that sudden hand squeeze or whispered "pl...

Episode Summary: Things got real this week on Beyond Monogamy. Adam and Pris pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like when financial stress collides with the swinging lifestyle — missed events, killed libidos, emotional eating, and the very adult decision to stay home and pay the bills instead of living that highlight reel. They open up about skipping Naughty N'awlins 2026 and the Port Aransas beach takeover, navigating life on one income, the struggle to grow an OnlyFans when you a...

QUICKIE: When They Want My Spouse and Not Me It stings. It's awkward. And if you've been in the lifestyle long enough, it's happened to you. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris tackle one of the most relatable — and ego-bruising — moments in ethical non-monogamy: when a couple (or someone in the lifestyle) makes it crystal clear they're interested in your partner... but not really in you. From getting iced out at meetups, to a couple literally texting only one of them with interest, ...

Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately. Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-...

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle? Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks abo...

Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof. This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming. In this episode: Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it The communicatio...

Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones. On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running. In this episode: Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you) Full-body shots, filters, a...

We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic? In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel tak...

This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a ...

Someone slid into our inbox with a real one — they met a couple and their play partner, vibed with all three, and then realized they were really feeling the third. So what do you do? Is that person automatically off limits? Do you risk the friendship? Do you say nothing and just wonder forever? Adam and Pris break it all down in this week's QUICKIE — starting with the one thing that fixes almost every awkward lifestyle situation: just saying the thing out loud. In This Episode: Nobody owns any...

What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life. Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they’ve built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitmen...

Let’s talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud. How do you actually last longer in bed? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: “Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?” And honestly? It’s a great question. Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the sw...

This week on Beyond Monogamy, we’re diving into two powerful throwback QUICKIE episodes that still hit just as hard today. First up: How do you even bring up swinging or ethical non-monogamy with your partner? That first conversation can either build connection or completely derail a relationship. We break down what worked for us, what didn’t, and how to approach the topic of open relationships, swinging, or lifestyle exploration without triggering insecurity, defensiveness, or emotional chaos. We cover: Why timing matters when bringing up non-monogamy How to use a “preamble” instead of dropping a bomb Why alcohol and emotional fights are NOT the place The importance of reassurance and boundaries How to prepare yourself for a no Why consent between partners matters just as much as consent with others Then we pivot into raw listener confessions about rejection in the lifestyle, BDSM exploration, fear of vulnerability, and mixing vanilla life with lifestyle life. …

What happens when modern dating culture, social media, jealousy, and ethical non-monogamy collide under one roof? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we unpack a real-life situation that sparked a powerful conversation about cheating, secrecy, emotional maturity, and the difference between ethical openness and dishonest behavior. Our kids know we are ethically non-monogamous. They understand open relationships. But this week proved something important: Underst...

Thinking about going to your first swinger club but feeling nervous, anxious, or unsure what to expect? This Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is your ultimate beginner’s guide to lifestyle clubs. We break down exactly what happens at a swinger club, what to wear, what to bring, how memberships work, what club etiquette looks like, and the biggest mistakes newbies make their first time. Whether you're attending a themed lifestyle event, curious about ethical non-mono...

This episode is a deep, grounded, and powerful conversation. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with relationship and sexuality professional Martha Kauppi, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, educator, and founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy. Martha works at the intersection of intimacy, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relationship patterns — helping people understand not just what’s happening in their relationships, but why it’s happ...

This Wednesday Quickie goes places. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a real, unfiltered conversation about how to set up a gang bang — not the porn version, but the actual real-life logistics, planning, communication, and consent that go into making a fantasy like this happen. Pris opens up about a long-standing bucket-list fantasy and makes one thing crystal clear: this experience is about her pleasure, her comfort, and her rules. From hand-selecting ...

If you’ve ever seen photos of adults-only lifestyle cruises or hotel takeovers and thought, “That looks incredible… but also a little intimidating,” this episode is for you. Adam & Pris sit down with Claudia and Pepe Aguirre of LLV Club (Luxury Lifestyle Vacations) to pull back the curtain on what luxury lifestyle travel actually looks like — from cruises and hotel takeovers to immersive, adults-only experiences around the world. LLV Club is known for blending upscale travel, ethical non-monog...

Welcome to Swinger 101 — the episode we wish every curious couple listened to before jumping into the lifestyle. In this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris break down the real basics of swinging in a way only Beyond Monogamy can: honest, funny, raw, and actually helpful. If you’re brand new, lifestyle-curious, or still Googling questions at 2am, this episode is for you. We cover what swinging really is (and what it absolutely is not), how it differs from open relationships and polyamory, and why s...

Is lasting longer in bed really the goal—or have we been getting it wrong this whole time? In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a topic that gets whispered about but rarely discussed honestly: instant gratification in sex. After a real-life conversation at the club sparked a bigger realization, Adam and Pris unpack why so many people—especially women—actually prefer when sex doesn’t drag on forever. From cultural myths about “five-minute ...