Inside Austin’s Oldest Adult Store: Exploring Sex Toys, Local Pleasure Brands & Flirting in the Lifestyle

0:07 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

0:47 An ethical non-monogamy. So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And today we have the great pleasure of being here at this wonderful event that's being held as a block party here in Austin. We are inside our sponsor's spot. Yes, it is Forbidden Fruit here in Austin, Texas. What? Uh, if you don't know anything about it. Rewind back a few episodes, you'll find the episode where we interviewed the owner. The owner. Mm-hmm. And, uh, I think that was a great show and it talks a lot about this.

1:30 Today mm-hmm. And what we're doing here today. Mm-hmm. Uh, so we are having our first Beyond Monogamy meet and greet q and a and all that good stuff out here. And we are just tickled pink to be here. We are. Tickled pink. Tickled pink. Tickled pink. He said Tickled pink. Yeah. So, um, I could say that. Yeah. Um, forbidden Fruit is it's, it is the oldest adult store here in Austin, Texas. And right now where we're at, let's just paint the picture. Paint away. It is a quaint little store. I'm actually, it looks little from the outside. It is not little in the inside. It's very, it has a lot of different toys, a lot of adult products. It's surrounded by vintage stores and across the street they have popups and it.

2:12 It's an Austin party, let me tell you baby, it is an Austin party and I think that's really cool. It's really neat to come out here and just see everybody just kind of getting along and enjoying this kind of beautiful day out here. There's original artwork they're gonna be having, they actually are posting it right now inside the store. Yeah. Ironic Art. That is sold by local artists. Fun fact. Lynn, the owner has been the owner for many, many years. She lets a lot of local she carries a lot of local artists. Artists, a lot of local companies. Yeah. The toys that we actually do unboxing and, and tryout, they're locally from Austin.

2:53 There are leather makers that have a lot of, people that are into like the, the chokers and the chains and the whips, the floggers and stuff like that. Yeah, yeah. They, um, they're here so she carry, there's clothing from local people that make it, like this store is Austin rooted and it is amazing. It's been here for years. Years, absolutely. Absolutely. You know, I, I, I think a lot of people, uh. To go cheap when it comes to their toys. Oh my gosh. And they order through Amazon or te that's me or whatever. That's te te that's me. So, but realistically, if you've listened to our last show, when, when we interviewed mm-hmm. Uh, Lynn, she talks about the products that they carry.

3:36 Mm-hmm. The products that they carry, like you were saying, are local mm-hmm. To Texas. Mm-hmm. They're either made in Austin, they're, they're made in Houston, Dallas. She really tries to stay true to the companies that are here. Yeah. And she sends out really good product. She does. She does. Which is really, really cool. And because when you buy a product that's not from the original, like manufacturer, right, like the rose, there are plenty of roses around. But if you don't get it from the original person or from a. Renewable, I don't know how to say that word. Reputable, reputable, reputable, reputable company. Then that's when you know, uh. They're good.

4:17 Right. And she backs up all her work. So yeah. That's, and that's the, the cool thing about it mm-hmm. Is that she is the go-between to ensure that you have a great product. Yes. Which is cool. Yeah. I think that's really neat. It is. There's not a whole lot of companies now that really give that particular backing and that kind of. Satisfaction. I mean, the, the people that work here actually are passionate about the toys and which is cool. Yes, yes they are. Especially, um, Johnny has been with her for many years and they are amazing. They know the product. They know, like they, when I came in and I got an item. They plugged it in, they made sure it worked. And if I knew how to work it, because I am that person that'll buy it, and I'll be like click, click, click.

5:00 Yeah. How do you turn this on? Like in the middle of the session. Hey, that's true. Um, so yeah, a lot of knowledge. There are a lot of toys, honey, boo. That I have never. Ever seen. There's a lot of toys that I've always wanted. So as you can, if you're watching us, you can probably see that we're not really paying attention to the camera. I need toy lamp right now. Our eyes are all over the place because we are currently surrounded by tons of different. Pin penises, penai. I mean, could you, lots of pin penis. I don't even think it's an, I don't even think you're, you don't need to call 'em that because are they, I would start, it's a, I would say that it's, they are, it's a bunch of dildos. A bunch of dildos.

5:40 Which is some, it's funny because I've said that at a meet and greet before. I'm like, oh look, it's a bunch of dildos. Mm-hmm. That was a joke. I've never said that. Guys don't get upset with me. I call out of my human dildo. Oh, this is true. Mm-hmm. Yeah. There's a lot of, I mean, honey, we do, we have a lot of toys here. Now I'm looking at it because they have a whole area just for guy toys and I'm looking at a bunch of flashlights now, Austin area, um, is the original maker of the, is the original maker of the, of the Fleshlight. Yeah, the actual fleshlight. Now there are other products out here, but that one is the one deep Fleshlight that started it all from Austin, Texas. That's right. And you know, I gotta say. And I, I had you not, have you ever tried one? I've never tried one.

6:21 And I was talking to Johnny about this, uh, the last time we were here, Uhhuh. It's that I don't know, I just felt really weird about it. I, I was never a, a toy guy for myself. I, I could understand it with women. It made sense. I was like, mm-hmm. Okay, whatever. But for guys, I'm like. My hand is the cheapest toy I got, and I, you know, oh, for, for sure, for sure. But, and so, I mean, I can get it done better than any toy. Well, you purchased the toy for me. I did. And I gotta say it's good. Yeah, it's good. It's, it's like a, it's like a cocking, but like a vibrating cut, but it's a firm one, so it doesn't go, and it's a c shaped, and so it goes. Around your penis, but it doesn't my shaft, but it's not a whole circle.

7:02 So there's no constriction there. Yeah. No. And the little balls at the end vibrate. And so it gives you stimulation along with your partner. Yes. Stimulation. And, and you know, it looked initially, now it looked very intimidating. Yeah. Um, but after the first couple of uses, I was like, I got this. Have you used it? I know you used it with me. Have you ever used it alone? I have used it alone. Yeah. I've used it alone. And I've recorded You have Uhhuh. Oh. Oh yeah. Let me tell you, Uhhuh, you know how I say I'm not a good finisher? Yeah. Oh, I finished baby, and it was good. And I saved it in case anybody ever wanted to see it. I mean, hello.

7:43 That's right. Oh, you know what? I, I've never shown anybody, but I don't know. Do I have that video? I think I may be sent it to you. Okay. You were at work. Oh, yes. And I was in the bed. Yes. I do remember with little boys to men on the background. A little bunch of candles. Got some baby oil. No, no. I didn't do any of that. No. But uh, but you did use it a lot. I did. And you know what, I, you know what to tell me. I will say that when I use that toy, it is important to use lube. Yes. Because, so it's important. That is not fun to. It's you, you, so to dry it, like do dry, like no. Like guys. No, I have to tell you something funny now that, now that he said that, um, that we're talking about loo last night we were having sex and as we tend to do, because I've been really, really horny, like I've been really, I, I get these up, up and downs.

8:37 Up and downs. And when I know that my life is gonna be a little bit better when I have a hectic, stressful. Couple of weeks or whatever. I just go into a funk. Right? I've, shit has been aligning and so anyway, we're having sex and we're starting, right? I'm like, God, I need that. Right? So I'm there, I'm playing with myself and I have my toy and it's a, it's one that goes inserted. And then the, it's kind of like a, like a long LJ, like a J It's like a J. Yeah. And it goes in and then the top is like a, a air sucker, right? Yeah. Yeah. And so, great toy and I'm starting, and then Adam is there and he's like, if I can just get past your toy. And I was like, oh, sorry. It, that thing was taken up some room.

9:19 And I was like, hold on. And she's like, go ahead and shove it in there. And I'm like, okay, I'll try. I was like, hold on, do we need lube? And he is like, no. Yeah. And so I reach over and I grab the lube, right? And I, and she's getting mad at me because I'm making jokes at this time. And so I, 'cause it's a hilarious situation. And so I squirt the lube on my toy and he goes, and then I put it away and he goes, wait. And I'm like, why are you putting the lube away? Why? The whole reason why you took it out was for me, you just lewd up your toy. What the hell? What's that gonna do? I, I was like, it needs loop too. Like it did. It was already in there. But The toy was good. I know, but I still wanted it. I had to get past that damn thing.

10:00 You know? I mean, it was essentially a double vagina penetration is what that was, that double vaginal penetration. It is so good. Yeah. Yeah. That is. Do you like that when, whenever you have your toy inserted and I go in, uh, yeah, afterwards. I do actually you have to go in first and then the toy. Um, but, um, I do like it because that was tough. But that toy in particular is a little rough. It hurts my pelvic bone when really, when you're in there, is it two jade? It's, it's like too much of a J Yeah, like a. Like a hook. Or maybe if you were to go a little finger hook. You know what, we're gonna try it tonight. I think if you bend back a little bit, we're gonna try it tonight. Huh. But anyway, yeah. Anyway, so yeah, it's, um, yes, there's, you do need lube with toys, but there's a lot of different things that we're looking at.

10:47 There's one right here called Black Opal that looks like a butt plug. Oh no, it's a glass. Oh yeah. Look, it's a glass. Oh yeah. No, no, no. That's a. That looks, oh my gosh. Yeah, that's a butt plug. Look at that one. That's an orchid pulse. I need to see the person afterwards. And I believe it's glass as well. Now what? So there's some cock rings over here, and that's a, that's the Huxley. Fiercely powerful. Oh my gosh. Which one? Fiercely powerful right here, this blue one. Oh yeah. And it looks fiercely powerful. Actually, you know what it looks. It looks like you remember that one year we got our kids those rings that had the lights on 'em? Yeah. And you could do like that and they'd shine. Yeah, it kind of looks like that, but a really big one. Yeah. Like is that a flashlight? It's definitely not a flashlight.

11:28 No. Oh, look at that one. That one you can like draw string it. Oh wow. Look at that. That's. My goodness. That's smart. I feel like a kid in a candy store and I'm assuming maybe that is like that little bin right there where there's like some loose It's for you to try 'em Raiders until those, you can try 'em. Oh, I mean, I'll try 'em. But you can grab, you should go grab one. It's very interactive. Yeah. Yeah. Grab one, memento. Poor Vo. Hold on. We can at least tell him what it looks like. It's that one and it's that box. This one. Yeah. Yeah. So these are not, we're not unboxing. Okay. This right here is a pretty love, and lemme tell you this is, it has clitoris stimulation and in insert insertion.

12:15 So what is it like G-Spot? It's G-spot and clitoris is what it's supposed to be. And. Oh wow. Yep. They, oh, let's see. That's nice. Oh my gosh. And it is, it has 30 functions of vibration, guys. And I like how it has a little picture here if y'all can see it. It has a little picture up and downs of like what it's gonna do. And silicone has 30 functions of vibration, silicone, and it's waterproof. And it takes batteries. I mean, who doesn't like, I like the ones that take batteries 'cause I lose a lot of these wires, but that's pretty nice.

12:58 Yeah, I like that. Look. It says tester. It's got some, it's a tester. It's like it's a tester. Do not, do not use these without test. Do not insert vaginally when you're testing. Don't go to the back and be like, hi. We'll be right back. Where's your resume? Let me try these real quick. We'll be back in just a second. They also have a lot of books. They have Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men. Oh, see, look, this is the little, this is the guy that, it's a cocking. Oh, it's a cocking and flashlight. Oh, it's, you put it, it's, you put it on and it has these little like fangs for the clip.

13:40 See, now this is, this would be comfortable. Okay, well for you. I mean, I don't have a penis, so I dunno how comfortable, but Yeah, no, they carry a lot of. Good quality items. They also have, like I said, they have books. They have the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Lemme tell you, you need that. I do. Yeah. Because you have been, well, they have an ultimate guide to Anal Sex for Men. Yeah. I don't need that. Yeah, no, I'm good. But I mean, for, yeah, for women that would. I've never had get your mojo back. I've never had simulation through my anus. Well, so you used to do that with your first husband?

14:23 Yeah. Did you not enjoy it? You just did it for him? I would. I just did it for him and I would, I would masturbate. So you got no pleasure out of it. Outside of the masturbation Uhuh. I mean, I like the little bit of the pain to it. Yeah. But, But was he like, when he did it, was it, uh, gentle or was it like, yeah, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam. No, No. You know, the bam bam, bam bam didn't start until I got into the lifestyle. I didn't know people did that. Really? Yeah. No. All of my past sexual experiences were never bam, bam, bam. How funny. Yeah. Because now it seems like they all are. Yeah. No. Mm-hmm. None of them. None of them. So I gotta say, and I'm, I'm, I'm just gonna go back to the flashlight because I'm, I'm really, I mean, that looks like things are really, really interesting.

15:11 Now, I've seen some videos that those look like vagina lips, and that one right there actually looks like a butt hole. But, I've seen these things in videos like porn's used and. I can't imagine how it would feel. I, I, I wouldn't expect that it feels anything like an actual blow job, 'cause like you guys have toys. You women have toys. Yes. That will replicate somebody going down on you. Yes. You know, you have, there's even one that you cup over and it's got like a little tongue that goes over like that. Oh yeah. I mean, come on. That's a little tough. Yeah. And it's got like little fake lips and it's got a little tongue goes like that.

15:53 Oh, you know what, I had some, A friend told me they had that and they didn't like it, that it was too aggressive. Too aggressive? Yeah. Wow. What a critique. I was like, are you sure It wasn't toy, it wasn't Jake. He's a bit aggressive. I'm just kidding. It was too aggressive. Yeah, and he called me a whore in the morning. Just kidding. That's funny. You know? But he tried to choke me. But you guys, you know, you've got the clit sucker, you've got all sorts of stuff. Mm-hmm. Will replicate what a person does. Yes. When they go down on you. I don't know how well this would replicate a blow jobb. Now I know you could lu it up and do all that. I would, I don't know. I think you would enjoy it. You think I would enjoy it?

16:33 Huh? I I do. I think you would enjoy it. Now there's this thing here, and I was gonna ask Johnny about this, 'cause I don't, I don't know what exactly it is, but there's eggs. Do you see those eggs right there? I think those might be kegel balls. No, really egg shaped? I mean, I don't know. We'll ask. Those are legit eggs because in the, in the cup over there, there's an eggshell that's been broken open. Oh, maybe they're just like little toy prizes. Oh, you mean like those chocolate eggs at the, at the grocery store? Yes. I don't think so. Yes. I don't think that's a thing. I mean, now look at this. So there's this one here. This one here has a bunch of bumps all around it. Right. So that feels good. And then it's got a handle.

17:14 Yes. That feels good. I, I can jab people with it. I, I feel like those are, and I don't know if that's for anal play, but those are really good for teasing right there. Yeah. You know, I will say that, that. Some of these are really rather large and thick and They're pretty, you know, I think they're pretty standard. My mind goes is that these could probably be pretty, uh, hefty if you swing 'em at somebody, you know, like you hit somebody. Oh yeah. That's embarrassing. They're heavy. Somebody hits you with a dildo. Yeah, they're, they're, yeah. They're, they're weighty. They're girthy. They are. They are. G they're, and it's they are. They're, and they come in all different shapes and sizes and quirky screws and swivels.

17:59 Oh my gosh. I don't know if they carry it here, but if they don't, they need to. There are some dildos that look like they are dragony scales, but not pokey ones, but like these kinds, like that silicone material. Okay. I've seen 'em and I think like you wear it or like you put it on, you can even strap like a, a certain piece of it to your leg. And I grind on them. Have you seen them? No. Yeah, I'm gonna show 'em to you, please. Yeah. And I'm gonna tell them here by all me, because I think, I think they're like hand made, not like specifically made, not handmade, but specifically made for like whatever.

18:40 I'm gonna Yeah, I'll share 'em with you. 'cause I don't think, yeah. Yeah. That's interesting. I always found this portion very, very fascinating. As you can see, there's this whole area of strap ons. Yes. And, uh, these right up here, those are lit, literally just the belts for the strap ons mm-hmm. That you would have to insert your dildo through. You have to attach a dildo to it. Now, I didn't realize, it took me years to realize. That they sell the belt by themselves. I always thought that the dildo automatically had a belt attached to it. Did you? I did. I did. I thought it was a thing, so I didn't even know those existed really, for years and I realized what they wore and I was like, what do you mean strap on?

19:24 I didn't understand when people would say that. And then as I got older and I came in lifestyle, then I realized what it was. But I have always wanted one. Now I have heard from my. Lesbian friends that well, one couple. She was married to a, she was married to a woman and she said that her partner enjoyed the boxers. There's boxers and you insert the dildo and then 'cause they're, it's more comfortable. Oh, I'm sure. I've also heard that you should be careful with the ones that have like certain bases to 'em because it's hitting your pelvic bone. The one that I want and.

20:04 I think we're gonna end up getting is one that inserts inside of you and then or inside of me, and then it has like a vibration and everything and it has the dildo attached. Yeah. So there's no belt. Um, I think those are so sexy. Even the thought of it right now just kind of turns me on. Because I feel like that's good. Yeah. Go with it, girl. That is because this show's gonna end at some point and we are surrounded. That is, um, by things that can pleasure you. I don't know, I, and I'm not gonna lie to you, not jumping ahead or like talking too much about it. I find that the strap on is very sexy, so I know that you've always wanted to have that experience. Yes. Both giving and receiving. Do you see that one that straps onto your leg?

20:45 It's on the shelf. I do. I see that. Okay. Yeah, so that's what I'm talking about. Wow. That's interesting. I've never seen that before. It's kind of sexy so that she can ride your leg. Yes. That's kind of hot, right? That's kind of hot. Actually, I could use that. Oh, let me tell you ladies, we're gonna have some fun. That's right. Because if I entertain you and another woman, I can put that on my leg and uh, one of you could ride one and one of you could ride the other. You know what I'm saying? I got some pretty long legs. Yes, you do. That's right. Oh my goodness, baby, you make that work, you guys could line up behind each other. Mm-hmm. Anyways. And in this right here, size does matter. So that's what I was gonna get to for you. Mm-hmm. For you specifically, obviously you can't speak for every woman, but for you specifically.

21:29 Yeah. What size? 'cause there's so many sizes here. Like what would be your comfortable size? Would you go for something really big? Um, I have one of those Johnsons at home. Yeah. Um. We're gonna have to try that tonight. I don't know. But if I have to come over here and find my own, I would like, as I would probably do a six to seven inch would be my preference. A six to seven inch? Yeah. Yeah, because you're about, you're about six, six and a half. Almost a 7:00 AM I, and I would say you're a seven sometimes too. Am I? Yeah. Oh my gosh. Oh, and, and you're girthy too. Am I? Yeah.

22:09 Look at that. You're just talking me up, girl. Oh, I mean, I'm being honest. Yeah, I've always know, but I'm, I've always said that you've had a a I'm not a, I'm not a, I'm not for size queens. You know, size queens. Don't. I'm not your guy. No. Sorry. And then, I mean, like I'm saying like, you're normally a six, but I can get you to a seven. Yes. I can get you to seven. Oh, you've gotten me. Yeah. Yeah. You've gotten me like super there and I've gotten you and girthy you are girthy. Like I couldn't, no, that's not going into butt. Oh my gosh. That's not going into butt. Sorry. Not gonna happen. Hey, you know, Lynn is just passing by and she's like, oh, what are we talking about? That's right. When you can make the owner of the sex shop blush, then maybe it's an interesting conversation.

22:50 Camera for this. It's because I was like, man, the, I want all those strap ons over there. I wanna have some fun. I'm about to have a party. She's sitting here talking about 'em. She's getting turned on. And I'm like, okay, you're gonna have settle down. We got a long day. Got a bit of a yeah. No, it is, um, it's definitely like, I'm like in la land here, so, okay. You got this, are you back to my number? You, you've got this whole wall of different toys. Mm-hmm. If you had to choose one Okay. To take home, yeah. Which one would you choose? If it's for you and I, I would do that Buzz Bunny or that sweet over there.

23:31 Oh yeah. Yeah. So you enjoy that, that kind of I enjoy those. Yeah, that kind of, because you had something like the buzz bunny at one point. Oh yeah. Didn't it break though? Yeah. Yeah, I think it died. You could use that buddy until it was go. Yeah. And if I had to do it just for maybe future play with somebody, I would do the one I want. So that strappy on one. This is an interesting conversation because I have always wondered when it comes to swinging if somebody say, wants to play with you and you guys set something up and all of a sudden they bust out with toys. Are you good with that? I am. I think we've had an experience like that before.

24:13 Oh God. We, we were with a couple and they, they busted out with some of their toys and I found, and that's how I found. Yeah. Different toys that I like. Yeah. Um, yeah, I enjoy toys. I enjoy because I have a lot of clitoris stimulation. Mm-hmm. For me, that's, I mean, look at us. Yesterday we had like two sessions and then I was like, I'm so sorry honey boo. But I still want to come some more. And I had my toy out. Yeah. And I was. Filled and coming to that. Yeah. And then after your session, I was turned on again and I had to go for another one. Yeah. And so it was a good night. So I like that. Like I love toys. I think I think if you're gonna play with me, your best bet is to bring a toy.

24:54 Yeah. Yeah. Because If you actually want, if they want you to get off Yeah. Like bring a toy and don't. Let me tell you, man, for me, don't tell me this. Like, oh, I can, I can make you come. You can. And I'm not saying you can't, but I'm gonna have a more fulfilling time. If you make me come with a toy, with a, with or stimulation for my clip, like I don't care. Well, there you go. Okay. Hey, if your tongue can work that fast, good for you. Stay there. Um, that's just me. I don't know.

25:34 I love, I like, I will tell you that my first husband was very intimidated by toys. Really? He thought it took away from him. And it did. Did it really? Yeah. The toy made me come faster than he did. He didn't, and I was young. Yeah. And he, we weren't very experienced. And I didn't know even what an orgasm was. I was having 'em. Yeah, you had mentioned that before. I was having 'em, but I was having 'em by myself. You had never had one. Another person or I would have one. He would go down on me. I would never, I never had one with penetrative sex penetration. Yeah. So when was the first time that you had one with penetrative sex? Probably You homie? No.

26:14 Really? Yeah. Like a really good one. Wow. And geez. Yeah. I just feel bad for you. Yeah. Now you see over here they have that perfect position. Wed sex pillow. I see these things on TikTok all the time. I want one of those. And because, you gotta put the pillow underneath you, it wedges you those wedgie pillows. They're fun. Oh yeah. I want every, I want everything. I talk about those, uh, and pretty much every workshop I teach, I think they're, everyone needs them. I could use it to prop me up when I'm watching TV at night. I mean, we use pillows and especially for me, when you're getting me doggy style, I need to have a pillow underneath me.

26:55 Now I want to go back to the idea of, of interjecting toys into a, uh, into a swinging session. Yeah. Say it's the first time Okay. That you're with somebody. The very first time. I can understand after the first time, but the very first time you'd be okay with people bringing toys. Yeah. And I think honestly, if you're gonna meet up with somebody, I think that's a really good, valid conversation to have. Yeah. Yeah. Like I think you should have that conversation. Do you, do you like toys? Um, are you okay with, with that kind of play? I think those are really, now that I'm thinking about it, I think those are really good questions to ask before setting up play, guys or women, everybody.

27:36 You should ask some major questions. You should ask the person that you're gonna play with what, how do they get pleasure? Do they get pleasure? With clitoris stimulation, with anal play, or is it just penetration? Like those are some really valid questions that you should ask. Those are valid questions. Have you ever asked anybody those questions? No. So I have had the conversation about toys, uh, before play before, but it's normally women that ask me if I would be intimidated if. If I have a problem with toys being interjected in play and stuff like that, and I'm like, for me, I'm a pleaser.

28:17 So obviously if it's gonna be toys that get you off, by all means bring it on. You know, uh, we can do that. I don't necessarily need it on me but if that's just one of those things, by all means. Yeah. Yeah. I, um, those are some, those are like really good. Conversation starters also, if you're just meeting somebody and you really wanna play with them and you've already had like a little bit of conversation and y'all are ready for that, like gather some information. I don't think enough people express how they orgasm or get pleasure from sex. I don't think they express it enough.

28:57 To their partner. Well, you know, and that's the hard part because even when we were first together for the first couple years, I felt like it was difficult to have that conversation. It was, I didn't know how to express that to you. And I guess previous relationships maybe. Yeah, you kind of had this negative. Outlook on it because of past partners? I guess so. Um, and I mean, I, I'm good with it. You're like, yeah, I don't have a problem. It, it's just that, yeah. Geez, I even have friends that are my age right now, and if I, if I use a toy and they're like, oh, no, no, no, no, it's okay. And I'm like, really? And they're my age because they feel like it's intimidating. Like, oh, it's a toy. It's a bad thing. It shouldn't make me orgasm.

29:38 It should be somebody. It should be actual flesh person. So weird. You know. Weird. That's my thing is if you're using a toy on somebody, then that person just made you come. Yeah. Yeah. They were using a toy, but they were operating the toy. There you go. You know? So, I mean, if you use a dildo on yourself and, and go, well, I just made myself come. Was it you or was it the dildo? It was a combination of the both. Right. There you go. There you go. Which came first? The chicken or the egg? There you go. The dildo. That's right. So I, you know, I really think that people shouldn't be intimidated by putting toys No. Into their sex sessions. Especially even if it's the first one. As long as you had the conversation about it. Mm-hmm. It's okay. Mm-hmm. Like it's all right to say, you know what?

30:18 I can really orgasm if I involve this humongous 24 inch dildo. Cool. Well, if that makes you happy, well let's, let's do it. Yeah. I don't know if I can lift it 'cause that sounds heavy. Yeah. But we'll figure it out. That's right. You're my best audience. You know that apparently. That's right. You love to hear yourself talk to Oh my gosh, I do. I'm so narcissistic. What can I say? This is, this is your husband. So do we do I love what you guys were just talking about. Yeah. We literally have. People come in and have that conversation like, how do I get a toy, into play without intimidating my partner.

30:59 Yeah. Yeah. Uhhuh and, uh, we actually we did a sidewalk sex clinic with Annie Sprinkle way back in the day, and that was one of the questions I heard somebody ask her, like, not only that, but also feeling guilty about using a tool. Yes, I did. I used to feel guilty And. Then and what happens if I can't have an orgasm without using a toy? And her response was brilliant. She's like, well, what are you hoping to achieve an orgasm? Then what does it matter? Yeah, exactly how you do. It's well put, people's a big deal. Put. And there's nothing wrong. Yeah. With using it to, if that's what it takes, get you there.

31:40 I mean, you're, you're older. Exactly. That is what it takes. Exactly. No, it, it's true. It's like I, um, I mean, I enjoy sex. Yeah. But yeah, as do, why that, that toy. Yeah, please. Yeah. Makes it way better sometimes. Yeah. And know, frankly, I'm exhausted. Well, I was gonna say, so when we first started carrying, everybody's heard of the rabbit, right? Yeah. Everybody talks about the rabbit. Mm-hmm. Well, before there was the rabbit, there was the beaver. The beaver. A little. We've got a little sex toy museum up there in the front. Okay, there it is. There's the beaver. Okay. We're definitely gonna show you all the beaver. It's what the rabbit was based off of. Uh, because these are Japanese, these are Japanese toys, and they.

32:22 Had the same laws as Texas. Okay. Back then, they could not make anything for sexual stimulation that looked like genitalia. So it literally looks like these ornate little men or women on these totems with this little animal, you know? Because the totems obviously Oh my. The animals externally. Yeah. So we would, like, when we were demoing this toy way back in the day when we were down on sixth Street Wow. Our whole building from 1981 to 20 20, uh, 20, yeah. 2011. Um, at the very end of it, that's what we would say. It's like people would be like, don't worry about, you know, your partner will thank you, because let's face it, if they get a little tired and they've had enough mm-hmm.

33:03 But you have it. You can always leave it to Beaver. I'll leave it to Beaver. Oh my gosh. While in the bee myself, because a lot of people don't even know that, that I know. Oh my God. I love that show. Wow. Leave it the beaver. Leave it to Beaver. The Beaver Be the Be the be. That is So now someone needs to make the beaver. Yeah. Bring it back. Bring it back. Bring the beaver. Bring back the beaver. Yeah. We're all about it. One of my favorite jokes, the dirtiest thing ever said on tv. Ward, you were a little hard on the beaver last night. Forbidden fruit has comedians, people That's right. And they've got an overload of beaver jokes. So if you're looking for beaver jokes, this is the place to be.

33:47 Yeah, my goodness. That's why I, but, you know, know that's really why I love this place. Yeah, because you can go to the big box stores Of course. And like I, like I've said in past episodes, you go to the big box stores. These people, they're, they're just. They're just there working for a paycheck. They're not passionate about this. They're not passionate. And it's understandable. It's a job. Yeah. Uh, this place is different. Yes. In the fact that the people that work here, they know their business. Yes. They know what everything is. Yes. That they have in stock. They know how to use it. They know everything about it. Uh, and I think that's great. And. W just so you know, when you go into an adult toy store, have your questions there, anything you wanna know, anything you are curious about, they'll help you.

34:29 That's right. Um, if you're here, if you. Come to Forbidden Fruit, they will definitely educate you on what you need. You know, they also have little workshops here. They do, they have workshops, I think once a month, something like that. Mm-hmm. I think Johnny does one on cio. Cio, yeah. Lynn. Uh, what, what are the, uh, remind me what are the different, uh, workshops, workshops that y'all have? We've got so. Different ones. I know Johnny does a fellatio, right? We do, uh, an oris, which is a combination Kaus fellatio or just a Fellatio 1 0 1. Uh, the BDSM classes are really popular. The 1.0, the 2.0, you know, 1.0 basics.

35:15 Okay. Uh, then we've also done some rope. We've had all kinds of workshops where we're actually bringing in Melissa D with Body Joy tomorrow. To do body reverence for him. Oh wow. It's about, so you have a partner who is male presenting Uhhuh. This is a workshop to show you how to through, you know, just touch, learn how to, you know, revere Yeah. Body, and help them get into a really relaxed, you know, zen-like state so that they can really enjoy. Yeah. A deeper Yeah. Neurotic and emotional experience. I love that. Well, you know, Lynn, I just use weed, that's all.

35:57 That's right. I love that. That's, that's my body reverence right there. I know. That's gonna be tomorrow it's six, six o'clock. Yeah. So they have lots of different workshops here. Totally. Very cool. I love that. Very cool. Um, she just mentioned one BDSM 1 0 1. Yeah. Yeah. Or 0.1. I wanna come to that one. Yeah, I'm very curious. Um, we go to all these clubs and they do the flogging and stuff like that, and I would like to, to try that or see if I like that. It sounds fun, you know, I'm just open to different experiences. Yeah. So I find that there was a lot of different.

36:38 Aspects of kink that I had just the incorrect notions on. And I think that's a lot of us, you know, you see things on television or you hear murmurs about this or that mm-hmm. And it's so wrong. And then you find out about things and it's like, oh yeah, okay. Okay. Well we, we had come into we had come in here and we were, I don't even know what I was talking about. I got distracted. I saw a pretty girl. Yeah. That is a pretty girl. I went, that does happen. That does happen in shops like these is her, there are pretty girls looking at adult toys and my wife, who has been bisexual pretty much all of her life is just learning how to talk to women.

37:22 That's right. It's she's, I have to teach her the subtle act of checking women out without being so obvious. I'm so creepy. I'm like this. You are totally creepy. Yeah. Look, I look creepy like. I'll never forget when, when we first moved out here to Central Texas and where we came from was very conservative as opposed to where we are at now. Yes. And I remember very specifically, stop staring. Sorry. I remember very specifically that. That there was a girl behind the counter who was ringing us up, Uhhuh, and she did not have a bra on and her nipples were popping out of her shirt. Oh, we were at the sandwich place and you like, ordered your sandwich and immediately came up to me and was like, she's not wearing a bra.

38:08 Did you see that she's not wearing a bra? And I'm like, are you ate? What is this? What are you doing? Like you have them yourself. Come on, it's. She got all excited. I don't know what to tell you people. I, um, she's a girl. Crazy. I like women. We're work. They're so beautiful and soft and they smell good and they're so pretty. Yeah. Yeah. I can agree with that. I like women myself. She's just staring. You see, Hey, I'm looking at you. And she just so happens to be in my line of sight. What am I supposed to do anyways? I, you know, I, I find you and, and we're gonna go off on a little bit of a tangent because there's a lot I want to talk to actually. Okay. But really that kind of brings up something interesting.

38:50 Okay. Recently you've learned something new about yourself when it comes to dealing with women. And that that thing is listen to your husband. Yeah, listen to your husband. You gonna keep saying that? Listen to your husband. I'm gonna ride that wave. Listen to your husband. So my beautiful wife here has struggled. Being able to talk to women, and she gets very discouraged very quickly if she's not being chased. Even if somebody has expressed interest, she kind of like gets discouraged because maybe it didn't happen quite the way she wanted it to. And so, yeah she recently took my advice on something and I did, and it panned out very well for her.

39:35 And now. Guess what? Guess who's gonna Thank you. Good. A good looking woman who's interested in her. That's right. Thank you. So, yes, you're very welcome. Um, I was actually, let me tell you people, I have great communication with my husband. I, I have come to this, I don't know, I've come to this area in my life where it's like be very transparent. I admit when I'm wrong. I try to take. What is that called that you're always saying? Accountability. Accountability and stuff like that? With things with my husband, right? I'm not, I don't know how I can be transparent with men. I'm so scared to be like, not transparent with women, but open, but more open.

40:21 Open communication. Open communication. See if they're interested and if they are. What kind of interesting, interested are you and you know, I don't know. And, but see that, that brings up a good point because you are not alone on this, and this is something that I've heard from a lot mm-hmm. Of women that are interested in women. Oh, I have a woman. Women have trouble. I have a woman's group, only women's group that I belong to, and they are absolutely fantastic. They, I can ask any question on there, and I get so many different answers and I'm not gonna lie to you. A lot of them pretty much say what you say. You know. Well, yeah, and, and I think some women it down and some women don't.

41:04 We don't know how to talk to women. Women don't know how to talk to women. I think that's incredible. Like we're, I think I was scared of rejection and I've told that to you before that I've been scared of rejection. Yeah. I'm also, I don't, for this certain particular scenarios, I don't wanna cross BI don't wanna cross boundaries with someone who is married. Um, or someone who has a partner, I wanna make sure that we're all very open and understanding because I might be interested in you, but I'm not interested in your husband. And so I think those kind of conversations sometimes are a little bit difficult. Difficult, Because it's one of those things where if you say it the wrong way Yeah. It could be taken the wrong way.

41:46 Yeah. And you could be removing yourself from, and so what I do is I do voice notes people so they can hear my tone. Don't do it through text. If you're interested in a woman, I'm gonna give you some advice and my husband gives me, if you're interested, let them know you're interested. Let them know you're interested. They cannot read your mind. No. I know women. Okay. I'm not gonna say all women, but I have it really easy with men. I don't mind talking to them. I don't mind expressing what I like and what I don't like. I can't do that with women. I'm just scared. Yeah, so we, um, we're here, we're having a good time here. And of course, you know, it's, um, a lot of. Women stuffed toys.

42:26 A lot of toys. Yeah. Yeah. So with that, uh, you know, we've, we've had a really great time doing the show out here. By the time you're listening to it, it will be the day after. Yes. Sorry guys. Yes. We're not gonna be here at the time, uh, but but we will be here till, uh, 4:00 PM So, uh, for those of you who follow our socials, maybe we'll be seeing you possibly. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Definitely check out Forbidden Fruit. For all of our listeners who come into the Austin area, decide to buy from Forbidden Fruit, they are online, but also if you come here, all you gotta do is tell 'em. We are friends of BM and you beyond monogamy and you will get 10% off. That's right. Yeah, that's right. So, uh, you definitely want to, uh, hit them up.

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