Drama & Ethics Episodes

No script. No plan. Just Adam & Pris, a list of questions on a smartphone, and zero filter. This week on Beyond Monogamy, the swinger lifestyle podcast that says what everyone else is thinking, we free-flow through the questions couples in ethical non-monogamy actually ask each other — and the answers get real, fast. In this episode of your favorite ENM and open relationship podcast: Bedroom dealbreakers — what we absolutely do NOT want partners doing during play (porn-style pounding, neck suc...

Why are people so shitty? It's the question nobody can answer, but this week Adam & Pris sure try. In this candid episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite swinger podcast couple airs a little dirty laundry (no names, promise) about drama, bullies, and trolls in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy community — and how to protect yourself without losing your fun. In this episode: The 80–90% of the lifestyle community that's wonderful — and the tiny percentage that isn't A group owner ...

That gorgeous couple sliding into your DMs? Yeah... about that. In this revisited episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris dive into catfishing in the swinger lifestyle — the fake profiles, filtered photos, and flat-out fictional people lurking in ethical non-monogamy spaces. With 15 years in the lifestyle, they've seen (and nearly fallen for) it all. In this episode: Adam's AOL chat room days — and the too-perfect mystery woman who vanished Filters, angles, and 20-year-old photos: where does ...

This one's serious, y'all — but it's a conversation the swinger lifestyle needs. Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on one of the darkest corners of ethical non-monogamy: sexual predators in the lifestyle. It's not the highlight reel, but after seeing too much of it lately, they're saying the quiet part out loud. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for lifestyle-curious couples and ENM veterans alike: What actually makes a predator — the difference between an awkward newbie'...

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we. On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure. Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit. Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutall...

This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory. Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more f...

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle? Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks abo...

What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie. It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit,...

QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It) Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it. In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on th...

Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word. We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM. But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent t...

You already know Adam and Pris don't do small talk — so when the topic of red flags and green flags in the swinging lifestyle came up on their SDC live webinar, they knew they weren't done talking about it. So they brought it straight to Wednesday's QUICKIE. And oh boy, did it get real. This week, Adam and Pris break down the biggest red flags they personally watch for when meeting potential play partners — and the green flags that make them say, okay, we might actually like you. What You'll He...

It was Priscilla's 48th birthday weekend, and this woman did NOT come to play… well, actually, she absolutely came to play. And kiss strangers. And organize an impromptu gang bang over sushi. You know, normal birthday stuff. In this episode, Adam and Pris give you the full, unfiltered recap of what went down over one wild weekend in San Antonio — from cozy pizza nights at Via 313 to morning coffee at Arthur's in King William, birthday brunch at Alamo Biscuit Company, and a night at Club Eden th...

Pregnancy in the lifestyle. Yeah, we went there. And honestly? It's one of those conversations that most people tip-toe around — until a condom breaks or somebody shows up to the party eight months along and suddenly everyone's got questions. On this week's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris pull zero punches on a topic that's way more common than people like to admit. This one was sparked by a real message from a friend who was gearing up to meet a couple — and found out the woman was pregnant. It opened ...

What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life. Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they’ve built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitmen...

Let’s talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud. How do you actually last longer in bed? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: “Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?” And honestly? It’s a great question. Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the sw...

Is There an Age Limit in the Swinger Lifestyle? One of the most common questions people quietly ask about ethical non-monogamy and swinging is this: Am I too old for the lifestyle? Or on the flip side… is there such a thing as being too young? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into one of the most misunderstood topics in the swinging world — age in the lifestyle. The question actually came from a friend of ours who recently went through a divorce and starte...

What happens when fantasy crashes into reality in the lifestyle? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris dive into two anonymous confessional submissions that hit on some of the biggest challenges in ethical non-monogamy: unrealistic expectations, red flags, obligation, and jealousy. The first story? A couple casually posts they’ll be at a lifestyle hotel in Palm Springs. A husband — who they’ve NEVER spoken to — drives three hours expecting play. No chemistry. Pushy energy. Awk...

This week on Beyond Monogamy, we’re diving into two powerful throwback QUICKIE episodes that still hit just as hard today. First up: How do you even bring up swinging or ethical non-monogamy with your partner? That first conversation can either build connection or completely derail a relationship. We break down what worked for us, what didn’t, and how to approach the topic of open relationships, swinging, or lifestyle exploration without triggering insecurity, defensiveness, or emotional chaos. We cover: Why timing matters when bringing up non-monogamy How to use a “preamble” instead of dropping a bomb Why alcohol and emotional fights are NOT the place The importance of reassurance and boundaries How to prepare yourself for a no Why consent between partners matters just as much as consent with others Then we pivot into raw listener confessions about rejection in the lifestyle, BDSM exploration, fear of vulnerability, and mixing vanilla life with lifestyle life. …

Ever been told your relationship “isn’t real love”? Ever had someone look at ethical non-monogamy and decide they’re suddenly the moral authority over your life? Yeah. Same. In this QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re diving into something nobody talks about enough — the judgment that comes from outside the lifestyle… and sometimes even inside it. From preachy YouTube comments to family backlash, from internet trolls to real-life bullies, we’re unpacking: Why people feel superior about monogamy Why ENM triggers others so deeply How to respond without losing your mind Why judgment is usually projection What to say when someone brings up your sex life at work And why living your truth will ALWAYS make someone uncomfortable We share personal stories about coming out as poly, losing friends and family, dealing with pushy red flags in the lifestyle, and how jealousy, shame, and conditioning shape the way people react to consensual non-monogamy.…

What happens when modern dating culture, social media, jealousy, and ethical non-monogamy collide under one roof? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we unpack a real-life situation that sparked a powerful conversation about cheating, secrecy, emotional maturity, and the difference between ethical openness and dishonest behavior. Our kids know we are ethically non-monogamous. They understand open relationships. But this week proved something important: Underst...

Thinking about going to your first swinger club but feeling nervous, anxious, or unsure what to expect? This Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is your ultimate beginner’s guide to lifestyle clubs. We break down exactly what happens at a swinger club, what to wear, what to bring, how memberships work, what club etiquette looks like, and the biggest mistakes newbies make their first time. Whether you're attending a themed lifestyle event, curious about ethical non-mono...

Most people think swinging is all vibes, chemistry, and “we’ll figure it out when we get there.” In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we explain why that mindset is exactly why so many couples struggle early on. We’re recording live on location at Forbidden Fruit, one of the most respected adult education spaces in Texas, and sitting down with Jonny — the man behind some of the most popular lifestyle workshops in the community. From Fellatio 101 and BDSM 101 to rope classes, co...

Everybody talks about how hot the swinging lifestyle is. Nobody talks about the emotional whiplash. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we get brutally honest about the parts of swinging that don’t show up in fantasies, porn, or Instagram highlight reels — the stuff that quietly hits you after your first party, your first rejection, or your first “why do I feel like this?” moment. We break down the biggest reality checks people experience when they start swinging, including: ...

Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will “protect the relationship” but often do the exact opposite. From “no feelings allowed” to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can’t, we bre...