0:07 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

0:47 An ethical non-monogamy. So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And on today's Wednesday quickie, we are going to be talking about holiday triggers in the lifestyle. Oh, you know what? You love it. You feel it? Oh, we've done it. Why does December bring out just everyone's stuff? Oh, it's the first week of December. And you know what that means? It means that we're all broke. You should have worn like a little Christmas hat. What? I don't have a Christmas hat. Ooh, I have elf ears. Next one. You are my Christmas hat.

1:29 I will be. Oh my goodness. Yeah. So, you know, I was thinking mm-hmm. I've been thinking, I've been thinking you know, we just got back from an awesome. Thanksgiving. Seattle trip? Yes. Visiting our daughter as, yes. If you can see this, if you can see on the tv. It is a coffee cup. It is coffee cup with the, it's spilled. And it's spilled. Yeah. The spillage is brown and it's Seattle's background, but their water isn't brown. No, no. It's very clean. Very clean guys. A beautiful shirt and a wonderful memorabilia for a wonderful trip in Seattle. We had a great time. We did. Um, but you know, that's the problem with the holidays.

2:10 And I, I say this because Thanksgiving and Christmas, there's not a whole lot of time in between. No. And we tend to drop money at Thanksgiving time. Yes. And of course we're dropping money at Christmas time. Anybody whose parents, anybody who's, who's got anybody in significant in their lives Yes. Uh, knows that you're gonna drop money at Christmas time. Yes. And so that means the weeks in between Thanksgiving and Christmas are literally broke weeks. They're the most stressful weeks ever. Yeah. You've been pretty stressed. I had a friend of mine reach out to me and they were like, is Pris okay? No, she's been, she's been, uh, posting some kind of negative stuff is okay.

2:54 Oh, you don't to tell me which spread that was. Yeah, of course. Yeah. But, you know, it's like, uh, you know, they're, they're worried that, uh, you know, you're, you're stressed and, and we all know you're stressed. Everyone should know that I am stressed. Everybody's stressing, but yeah, you're stressed and, and you know, yes. A lot of the primary portion of your stress, or always for the most part is finances. Yes. Finances. You know, it, it's expensive to live Yes. As a person. It's expensive to live as a couple. It's expensive to live as a family. And we have a very expensive family.

3:35 You know, I, I get Yeah. We don't, you know, our kids are really good, so they don't really ask for much. Yeah. But yeah, we have a lot of, a lot of stress. Yes. It's a lot of, it's a lot of, a lot of stress. It happens. It happens and it happens. And you know, those of you listening, I guarantee you, nine outta 10 of y'all are feeling the same crunch, the same stress that we have, and you're trying to enjoy yourself at lifestyle events and you're going, God, another event that's gonna cost us money. Yeah. You know for sure. It's difficult. It's difficult when you don't have a whole lot of money. You know, there's a lot of people that were just coming off of catching up from a government shutdown.

4:18 Mm-hmm. The longest one that we've ever had. There's a lot of people who already are struggling with finances. And notice that the economy is everything is expensive, dude. Everything is expensive. I work in a world of finance. Yeah. So I work for. A finance advisor, and let me tell you that it is, it's hard to be around people who don't have to stress about money. Now, I'm not saying that, there's not that stress. I'm sure there is, but it's a hard. It's a hard situation. It's a hard knock life, I'll tell you that. I Yeah, yeah. No, it, you know, and it, and that's because we are in a better situation than many, than most.

5:01 Yeah. And, than a lot Yeah, for sure. Than a lot of people out, out there. But, you know, it's a struggle just like anybody else. And, and the reason why I bring this up is because, uh, you know, you and I, we have an amazing sex life. Yes. And I'm not convincing myself. That's fact. That is actual fact. We have a great sex life. Yes. On average. Yes. Usually yes. We are banging it out at least a minimum of one time a day. Yes. Sometimes up to four times a day. And on a day that neither one of us has work. Way more than that. Yes. But what I notice is. Yes. When we are stressed or when you are stressed or when it's hard times, my libido is gone.

5:43 Your libido is gone. Gone. It has packed up the bags. It's gone and it has left for the winter. Yes, and and it's temporary. I know it's temporary. There was a time when early on in our relationship, actually for several years in our relationship, we would quote unquote fuck the stress away. Yes. Do you remember that? I do. To do that. And that works. Sometimes that works. Sometimes every now and then, whenever we're like, it's gonna spill over, it's like, okay, just bang it out. No. Um, and it's really, I wouldn't say now, even now, it's even more than that. I don't wanna see, I don't wanna know, like the group text, I don't, if they're spicy, I ignore 'em.

6:25 Yeah, people have. Message me have text me and they wanna be all nice and spicy, and I straight out tell them I'm so sorry, I am not in the mood. Yeah. I'm sure. Period. Yeah. And then they change it, right? Because they're friends and they change their tactics and they change what they're talking to me about. Yeah. No, it is gone. Yeah. Well, you know, get packed up for winter, baby Stress. Stress really removes any kind of thought of sex. Yes. You know? And that's because our lives revolve around sex. It does. Not only in our personal lives, no. But obviously in our professional lives with the podcast and everything. I have an OnlyFans. This is what we, you have an OnlyFans.

7:07 Yeah. And, you know, we we're, we're constantly, you know, we're, we're making content and stuff like that. Mm-hmm. And you are very submissive to me as Yes. As you have said in, in several different podcasts previous. How's that going? You know, I'm sure that I could get it if I really wanted it. Yeah. But I'll tell you this, sometimes when you are going through heavy stress, yeah. I'm normally the balance. I'm normally the calm. Yes. But I do not feel sexy. At all. Yeah. During this, this, uh, stressful times. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I just don't feel it. I don't feel it. And that's because you know, I masturbate a lot throughout the day. My numbers are low.

7:47 That's good to know. My numbers are low. See? And like that I don't really care. Yeah. Like, not, like, not necessary. No, no, no, no. Jesus. No. Like, uh, like, good for you. Not like I don't really care, but like, it's a podcast. We're talking about it. I don't really care. Go fuck yourself. That's what you did. Pretty much. Um, no. You have to care because we're talking about our sex lives. On this show, so thanks so much for, oh my God, for just throwing it out there. Oh, that was so funny. I know that you're my husband and all, but whatever. Whatever. You asshole. I don't really care. I'm worried about finances. Hey, lemme tell you something. Okay. I worry about them finances too.

8:27 That was so funny. Oh, I'm glad. I'm glad. I'm glad. I mean, I will say yes, but there's other ways. I did a quick TikTok today. And it's like, it's okay. It's okay if you're not feeling it, remind each other. So I liked that little TikTok that you did because it was good, because what you said in that TikTok. And can you, would you mind paraphrasing it real quick? Yeah. So what I said was, I can be very cold and I'm so sorry, I'm already gonna cry. Oh, here we go. I'm very cold when it comes to like stress. Like I can be very cold, very. Push. You push standoffish, push everyone away. Yeah. Yeah. Like I go inside myself, and I'm not mean like, I'm not mean to my kids.

9:09 I'm not mean to my husband, but I can feel that it's, I'm not happy because I'm stressing and that's how I cope with it. But you've always been like. You'll notice that and you'll give me a day to kind of just be in myself and then I cope with humor if I have to make you laugh. 'cause otherwise, and you do. And you're very thoughtful and you're very you're very loving to me. And I appreciate that. And I was thinking that today, I was thinking like, man. I get inside myself, I get very cold. I get very standoffish. You're not mean, but you can tell that it's like you're, you could be on another planet.

9:50 Yes. Exactly. Like you're there, but you're not present. I'm not present. Yeah. I am figuring shit out. Dealing with shit. Staring off into space. Staring off into space. Yeah. Um, and you have to pull me back and sometimes you give me a day, sometimes you gimme a couple of days, but then you, you bring me back and. I think I've had two days already of that. Yeah. Time to wrap that shit up and time to wrap it up and, and you do. Yes. And I was just feeling like I'm probably not the only one doing that. Like I'm pretty sure Oh no, I, I guarantee you there are others and I'm sure there's, and then of course, you know, it's a lot of things, but I was noticing that and I was like, damn, I could really use a hug right now.

10:33 Oh no. I love you, my sweetheart. And so I was like, hum. I'm, I I'm not the only one No. That, that, that gets like that. And I'm, and, and you know, if we were to really sit back and count all the eggs in our basket, we are very, very well off. It is only certain moments. Yeah. That tie other moments together. Yeah. That we're kind of in the trenches, you know what I mean? We are, I mean, and this is a good, this is a good point, is that we are in between travels. We are in between travels, we're in between. Holidays we're in between lots of your man's in between jobs like money is at its reach, but it's not there.

11:16 Yeah. It's all timing and it's, it's all timing. It's all timing. And it's like, I know that it's just timing and I know that it's just right now, and I know, I know that, and I keep telling myself that, but I get tired of hearing my own voice. Well, I guarantee you everybody else gets tired of hearing it in here. And they in the house too. No, they don't. Because I have a podcast. I'm just it. Sit in the house. Oh yeah. Everybody on the podcast loves you. Yeah. But everybody in my house loves me too. No, the kids are like, ah, mom, go take a vacation. Yes, but don't. Don't pay for it, get somebody else to pay for it. You know what I bring this up because you are not the only person who is suffering from stress during the holiday season. This is a thing. Yeah. And I bring up finances first and foremost, because that's the number one thing.

11:57 It is. That's the number one thing that people are stressing about. That's the number one P thing that people are sitting at home and just dreading because either they're putting themselves. You know, in debt so that they can get people gifts. Yeah. They're putting themselves in debt because they want to spend on the people that, that mean a lot to them or they're just trying to power their home. Yeah. And buy groceries. Yeah. Either way it's hard times for everybody. It is. Finances are the number one reason for divorce. Yeah. And I guess what I'm really trying to get at here, you wanted divorce for our listeners, Hells no. You realize first off. I get half of everything, but, uh, you can have the kids.

12:39 We're in Texas, baby. You don't get half of nothing. Oh, you can, you just have it, have it all, whatever. No. You know, I really think that us, what we're going through the stress Yeah. And the holiday season of it all. Yeah. There are so many listeners out there that are having the same kind of issues. Yeah. And I feel like it's important to bring it up to let people know that hey, look, huh. It's okay to be stressed. Uh, and you gotta kind of breathe it out though. You do, because this kind of stress, whatever, actually any kind of stress can lead to other stresses, or other things in your brain. Like we, we started off, we're talking about our libido, right?

13:22 Yeah. And so that's gonna lead to stress, and that gets you in a bad mood. So anything can trigger you. Jealousy can trigger you. Insecurity is gonna trigger you. Yeah. Especially during the holidays when you're stressed you know, going back to the beach thing that we had over the summertime, we went to that beach takeover. And you were not feeling well? No, no. And because you were not feeling well, that caused insecurities. And not really jealousies, but just more of a, i I don't want you to go out and be with people. Yeah. I want you here. I need comfort right now. And I, I, I relate it to this kind of stress. Yeah. This stress really is one of those things where.

14:05 If I were to go out and be like, well, hey, peace out. I'm gonna go meet up with somebody and go have some fun, what would your reaction be? Don't come back. Geez, you don't mean that. But I get it. You know what I mean? 'cause that's kind of a difficult, I mean, I, I would, I wouldn't, that's not my, that's kind of, that's my, yeah. I would be like, actually I would, I would be, I would say, no, we should really, like, you should not do that right now. Like, I need you here. I'd have communication with you. I, I'd Oh, yeah. It wouldn't be that nice, but yeah. Yeah, I agree. Now and, and, and whatever you shoot at me, if I were to do that Yeah. Would be completely justified. Yeah. And, and I, I've seen couples in this lifestyle.

14:45 That don't prioritize each other. No, I have seen that. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Yeah. They don't prioritize each other. No. And in situations like this mm-hmm. Where there is high stress mm-hmm. For whatever reason mm-hmm. That is the time for the couple to really come together and prove to each other that they're strong. Yes. Prove to each other that they've got each other's back. Yeah. And fix whatever needs fixing. Before you traipses off and go have a good time. And again, you may not need to fix anything, but your partner may need you to just hold their hand, give them a hug. Yeah. And just let them know, Hey, I know that you're dealing with stress holiday blues.

15:29 You're just not yourself right now. Know it's okay. I got you. Yeah. Yeah. I got you. For you, the holidays trigger you for finances and they always have. Always, since we've been together, yes. Probably before we got together, yes. It's always been a situation. Yes. For me, the holidays trigger me, but in a completely different way, so I don't think of that. Now for those of you who don't know me personally or haven't met me personally, I'm gonna take you down a little sad trip. Oh, not that sad one. I'm gonna take you down a sad trip. I'm sorry, but this is my trigger during the holidays and it has nothing to do with finance. Is that right? It's, it is. I come from a very abused household and abusive household. Mm-hmm.

16:09 Uh, both physically and mentally. And my parents were not good people. No. At one point when my parents felt like they couldn't control me because I was big enough to fight my dad back they decided to kick me outta the house. I was 17 years old. Mm-hmm. Still a senior in high school and I was living on the streets. Uh, now for those of you who, uh, don't know the area that I come from, I come from a small beach town, uh, in South Texas, and it very much is always humid and it's always hot. Yes. But. Year in 2000. This and four, was it thousand three this year you got kicked out? Yeah. Well, no, I had been out for a little while.

16:49 I'd been out and I was living in a car. Okay. An abandoned car, and I was working at a barbecue joint down the street and this is how my life was going. I was trying to get myself together. I was getting every paycheck I could and I was trying to save to get my ass out of that. Car and into an apartment. So this is something that I was working on. It was the big snow of 2003, I think it was. Or 2004, right? 2003, 2004. Yeah. It was one of those years. But it was the big one that landed at Christmas time. Yes. Now, uh, obviously holidays suck when you feel like you're all alone. You have no family and you are on the streets. Yeah. Uh, but then you add on the fact that here it was Christmas Eve.

17:32 I left my job because they were shutting down early because of the reports of Major uh, I see on the ground. Ice, ice on the ground. Yeah, there was, yeah. So I walked to my car, which was very, very cold to the car that I was sleeping in, and I bundled up as much as I could and I was just preparing for a long night. Yeah. Well, the police in times like that, when it comes to a city that never gets those kind of temperatures, they start going and finding all the homeless that are out. And they tell 'em they can't stay there. And so I was no exception. They knocked on my window and they said, look, you can't stay here, you gotta go. And I said, well, where do I go? They said, that's not our problem.

18:13 You just gotta go. Really? Yeah. And that just blew my mind. No shelter. They didn't wanna drive you? Nothing. Nothing. They did their part by telling me I couldn't stay in that car. And that's why I don't like police. Okay. Period. So, uh, you know, I, I was, I didn't know what I. Could do about the situation. So I packed up everything in my, in my bag. Yeah. My duffle bag. And I said, well, I'm gonna, I'm gonna have to find a hotel. Yeah. And so I'm already in this very, very bad neighborhood. I live in this abandoned vehicle and I'm walking these streets at night. Which is already a dangerous thing in and of itself, you knows, especially in that area. Very, lots of drugs. Lots of gangs.

18:53 Lots of prostitutes. It's a thing out there. Yeah. And I basically, but the roads were icy, so that area alone is, is dangerous. And the people in that city were already bad drivers. You add on ice, forget it. They were, I, I, I remember there were times where I was walking to get to a hotel and having to. Move off to the side because people were sliding off the street. Yeah. It was dangerous. Yeah. Uh, you know, and I walked to a couple of hotels, all of which had no vacancies. Mm-hmm. And so I walked a total of about, I don't know, almost four miles to get to a Motel six. Now, this Motel six was not the greatest. Mm-hmm. It was in a very bad neighborhood.

19:34 Mm-hmm. And it was not the indoor motel sixes. Mm-hmm. It was an outdoor one. Mm-hmm. If you know what I mean. Mm-hmm. So you've got the outdoor stairs and the, the, the room face out. And I walked in. And I have been walking in the snow for quite some time now. I've been dodging cars. I am soaked from head to toe. Mm-hmm. I've got ice in my shoes. I mean, it's bad. And I walk into this motel six, and there's this one kid had to have been a kid Yeah. Behind the counter. And I said, listen, I need to rent a room. And this guy says, well, I'm afraid we're at max capacity. For all the downstairs rooms. That's what he threw in. Yeah. For all the downstairs rooms.

20:14 Yeah. And I said what about your upstairs rooms? I'll take whatever. And the guy says, we're not allowed to rent those out because of all the snow. If you were to fall, it could be a liability. Yeah, it's a problem. Yeah. I have an issue with that. I'm willing to pay double. I will sign a waiver. I don't care what it takes. You have rooms. I have money and I don't mind. Yeah, just it's Christmas Eve, man. Come on. Just let me have a room. Yeah. I walked four miles to get here and so he said, well, let me get my manager on the phone. Lemme see if he'll agree to anything. Manager gets on the phone, this person talks to the manager for a while. I get on the phone with the manager and I said, look, I, I understand the situation.

20:56 I completely get it. I will sign a waiver. I will pay double. I will do whatever I have to do. But I need a place to stay. I've got nothing tonight. It's Christmas Eve, man. And the guy said, look, just sign a little note saying that you won't sue us if you fall and you don't have to pay double. We'll rent out a room and just stay in the room. Don't come out. Don't be coming out. Yeah, just do what you gotta do. Okay, fine. Cool. So I make my payments and they give me a room key and I go upstairs and I slosh upstairs, and I get in the room and I'm soaked from head to toe. Mm-hmm. 'cause anybody who's walked in snow Yeah. Knows. It's wet ice. Yeah. It's wet, you know, it's like, uh, you're pretty much walking in rain except really cold.

21:41 And so I turned up the heater. I put my clothes to dry by the heater stripped down and took the hottest shower I could take. Yeah. And, uh, basically just kind of defrosted for a while and. Went to the nearest vending machine and bought up every snack I could and every soda I could. And I sat there and I watched a Christmas story Yes. On TBS be looped over. It was loop over from day till night and I was so, you know, I still have, it took you years to watch that movie. I can watch it now, but even then, every now and then I get the ick. I'm like, Ugh. God. Yeah. So yeah.

22:22 That was my Christmas. Yeah. Now I, I know after speaking to my parents after several years later that at this same time as the snow started to fall. Yes. And I was apparently on my journey to Yes. Find a place to stay. Yeah. My parents were entertaining a couple of friends at their home. Sitting by the fire drinking their wine. And looking outside the window going, oh look, look at all that beautiful snow. And that is why they have horrible diseases and are going to die a very painful death. My gosh. You know that, like, that's why, that's one of the many reasons why I, I am, I do not have, have you get the, uh, a, a a relationship with my parents.

23:07 Yeah. With my family. I. You know, I'm one of those no contact people. Sorry guys. I know that there's people that don't agree with that. Yeah. But hey, I have my reasons. And what you're hearing is only a part of that. This is just the December, the Christmas story. This is why we don't like December and, and so Yeah, you have to understand one thing is I've. Struggled with my mental health and a lot of my struggles for mental health have derived from the time that I was on the streets. Yeah. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Yeah. And the PTSD came from my time on the streets. Mm-hmm. You see a lot of bad shit. I get those holiday blues. Yeah. And even though I'm living the life and trust me, I remind myself every single day how great my life is.

23:52 Mm-hmm. And how lucky I am. Mm-hmm. To have you, to have our children, to have this beautiful roof over our heads, to have the friends that we have, the listeners that we have. 'cause we have this awesome podcast. I am very lucky. Yeah. And I am very, very thankful for it. But anytime the holidays hit. Yeah. My mind goes there. Yeah. And I'm getting better at handling it every year. I'm getting better at handling it. Uh, you know, it used to really, really put me in a major spiraled funk. Mm-hmm. And I still get days where I have reflections of that time out there. Hard times, man. Hard times.

24:32 'cause not only are you dealing with the fact that you have nobody at Christmas time mm-hmm. But you're dealing with the fact that you have nothing. Yeah. And nowhere to go. No, that's, I mean, that's, that's so that's my, my trigger's what? Yeah. And the family. The fact that we don't have family outside of us. In our kids. We don't have cousins. We don't have aunts or uncles. No. Because of our estrangement to our family. Yeah. We are reminded every holiday. Kind of what triggers us. Let me tell you what I was thinking about this week, this holiday, or Yes. Or earlier today. I was like, feed, I was like, dang man. My parent, my, my sister, my, I'm gonna call her whatever she is.

25:13 They would hook up my kids and his parents would hook up our kids during Christmas time. Yeah. And I was like. Damn. It helped. It helped. I miss that. It helped. Yeah. Um, I don't miss them, but yeah. No, it's, um, it's a very weird time of year for us and we have a lot of things going on and it's just, it's a bit overwhelming. Yeah. And, you know, part of the, the. The reason why, you know, we started reaching out to the lifestyle community and we started bringing friends into our circle is because of our lack of family. Yeah. And so because of that, when we say this community means a lot to us, this community is our family.

25:56 That's exactly what it is. Yeah. Uh, because we don't have family outside of us and our kids. Like this is what we have. Yeah. And we make these connections. These connections are very solid and they're very important to us. Mm-hmm. And so yes, we have our own sets of stress and if you are out there and you are feeling alone during. The holidays? Yes. Or you are feeling the press of finances. Just know, just from us alone, you are not alone. You are not alone at all. There are many of us who are going through the same troubles as you. Maybe not the exact same troubles. Uh, you know, maybe you were laid off from a, from a, an adult.

26:38 Toy company or something. I, I mean, whatever the situation, whatever it is. But we all have that relatable issue because it's the holidays and the holidays are never easy on anybody. And when the holidays are not easy, how can you think about your libido? Are you kidding me? How can you think about the lifestyle? How can you think about, literally came in today and I was like, oh man. Oh man. Geez man. It's just sometimes you're just not in the mood and. You just got, we're not having sex. We're talking about it. You gotta do, you gotta do it no matter what. So see, that's the way she talks about her sex. You gotta do it no matter what. I mean, I'm like, whatever. No man give, gimme that fake excitement.

27:21 Baby. I love having sex with you. Aw. And you gotta take it when you want it. I know. But see, that's the thing about it. And we've talked about that before. Before. No, I actually don't. Like right now, like, well, last night I really wanted it, but then I was like, I really don't feel like I don't, we talked about it for a sec. Yeah. No we didn't. Maybe it was in your head. Maybe it was in my head because I wanted it, but at the same time, I. I also wanted sleep. Yeah. Uh, because sometimes when you're stressed, boy, that sleep just the best place to be. We've been so good. We've been sleeping a lot. Yeah. But anyway, yes. Yeah. So that's, that's the point of this is that you're not the only ones who are stressed. There's a lot of us who are stressed out there. It can be difficult navigating the lifestyle when you are stressed or if you are not feeling the stress, but your partner is.

28:03 Be mindful. Be mindful. Be mindful of that. We don't all deal with stress differently and yeah, we actually all deals with stress very differently. Yeah. Yeah. Like I'm, Adam looks for humor. I do. I'm, and I do not. And, and you are dreadful. I'm dreadful. And, and between the two of us you know, we could, uh, come together from time to time and have sex. I have a high sex drive and I can probably look past the stress to have more sex, but I don't want to push you for that because yeah, I know what you're feeling and I know what you're going through. Yeah, and so that's really kind of the, the pull that I give to the community out there is, Hey man, if you've got your spouse, your other half, your play partners.

28:46 Or even just your friends mm-hmm. Or your friends with benefits, whatever label you give to 'em, understand and be understanding that everybody is going through a very, very exhausting and stressful time. Yes. And I'm sure it can be like that throughout the rest of the year too, but the holidays really bring it on extra. Mm-hmm. And I really feel that with all of that. It's important to just kind of hit that reset button. Spend time with the people that mean a lot to you. Give them hugs, give them kisses, give 'em whatever they need and just let 'em know it's gonna be okay and we're gonna get through it. And then when things are better, you bang it out.

29:28 There you go. And you have your fun. There you go. There you go. I like that. I like that too. Uh, so. Yeah, I feel like this was a really great topic. I did wanted to ke I wanted to keep it light. I wanted to keep it fun and airy. You told that story, that's what just absolute Well, because you were already crying so I figured I'd go with it, you know, was but then you made me laugh. Yeah, but I always make you laugh. That's true. There's not, that's not anything new. That's what we do. I mean, guys, thank you very much for, for listening to us vent our. Our feelings. You're not alone. No, definitely not alone.

30:08 Even though we are going through our own stress. If you need someone to talk to, we are here. Yes. And you know, we have said that plenty of times the people that are in our community know this. We are available to our listeners. Yes. We wanna you wanna chat? As long as you don't make it spicy with me, I'm good. Not in the mood. Yeah. You, you've got us at on different messengers. Yes. You can email us, you can leave us a voicemail. Yeah. You can even leave a 100% anonymous confessional. Yes. On our Beyond Monogamy confessional. So yeah, there's plenty of ways to get get word to us to get to talk to us. And we. Or at the behest of our listeners, because you guys are a part of our circle. Yes. You're part of our, our friendships and our connections.

30:50 Mm-hmm. So I appreciate it, everybody coming in and hanging with us for this week's quickie. If you loved it, make sure to like, subscribe, share, and leave us a review because it seriously helps us grow and it keeps the conversation going and that's important. Yes. And remember, you can find everything beyond monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com, including our Beyond Monogamy Confessional, like Boo Bear just said. Yes, blog posts, merch, and all the juicy extras. Ooh, and I put some Christmas merch in there, so know Christmas merch. Oh, also guys, I have like little shop links there, so if you wanna buy a gift. And you're not feeling financially strapped.

31:32 There's lots of little fun little gifts that you can give. Oh yeah. Little links to, to some fun toys. Oh man, I don think I know what you're talking about. That should be interesting. Uh, and, and you know, with that. Like I was talking about earlier, don't forget to check out our events tab on our website for details on upcoming Beyond Monogamy events like This Weekend's upcoming Texas Legends Hotel Takeover from December 5th to the seventh. That's Friday checking out on Sunday and our Beyond Monogamy meet and greet. At Club Eden San Antonio. Yes. On December 13th, guys, there's still time to get tickets to the takeover. Yes, there is. There's still plenty of room.

32:12 You can do day passes, you can get a room, you can chill with us and that's the big part is, you know, for our listeners who aren't in our community, yes, that's your chance. You want to hang out with us? We're gonna be there all weekend. All weekend. Hey, you wanna put the pickup lines on this beautiful woman here, by all means, but lemme tell you something, if you didn't hear the entire show, she's a little stressed. So I'm just saying it might be a little difficult. Good luck. That's right. But if you get, if you got a few ones in your thong maybe she'll come following. You know, I might, the dogs do that whenever I put bacon in my pockets. And of course, you know, club Eden, that's our favorite hangout club. Eden is the spot for us. That is our, our favorite local club. And, uh, we will be having that meet and greet out there on December 13th.

32:53 We have friends who are going to be literally. Driving into town to be here for this event. Yes. Uh, we have content creators. You name it, we are gonna be there. We're gonna have a couch out there and we are welcoming everybody if you want to come hang out with us. Yes, that is the time to do it along with this coming weekends. Hotel takeover. The event tab, he created a good event tab. Guys, it's there. All the inf information is there. If you click on it, you know, as soon as you go to the, the website and you go to the events tab, you're gonna see the different ones there. And then when you want to find the information, you press on it and it brings up all the information. Isn't that nice? That's great. That's nice. You like to hear yourself talk.

33:34 Oh, there she goes again. Whatever. And with that, we're also streaming every Thursday on full swap radio.com at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central time. So tune in and show us some love over there as well. Yes. And if you wanna keep helping us grow this community, well, I tell you what our community is growing on SDC, and I want to give SDC a shout out because, SDC has been very awesome with with being very supportive of our podcast. Mm-hmm. And we're gonna be doing some great things in the future with sdc. Mm-hmm. So we're pretty excited about that. Yes. So, if you are not on SDC.

34:14 Let me tell you something. You gotta go to our show notes. Go to our website, click on that button that says the letters S, D, and C. Yes. We also have it on our tiktoks and our social media, the little links for Link Tree. We'll take you to SDC. That's right. Straight to highly recommend it because, you know, we are actually going to be doing some quote unquote masterclasses or some live mm-hmm. Opportunities and having. Opportunities for the community to reach out to us even if they're not in person. Yes. Which I think is really cool. So lots of opportunities there. You should scope it out. You can find it all on our website. You can find it all in our show notes with this show. Uh, with that, I would like to say happy holidays.

34:54 Thanks for listening, and we will see you guys next week. Bye.