CONFESSIONS: Lifestyle Red Flags, Unrealistic Expectations & Jealousy in ENM

0:07 Alright y'all, before we dive in, a quick heads up. This show is raw, real, and definitely not rated pg. We're talking about adult themes, sexual content, and the kind of stuff you probably don't want blasting through your speakers at work or around your kits. So grab some headphones, pour your drink of choice and get comfy. Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not licensed therapists, counselors, or sex. Couches. Sex coaches. Sex coaches, not sex couches or just a couple of people sharing our lives, experiences and sexy adventures. An ethical non-monogamy.

0:47 So with that, pull up a chair and enjoy the show. And. Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm Pris. And today on our quickie, we are gonna be diving into a couple of anonymous lifestyle confessionals. One is about obligation and awkward energy, and the other one is about jealousy. When the attention gets heavy. Yeah, both of these came straight from our 100% anonymous confessional on our website, www dot beyond monogamy do com. So if you've got a story, a struggle, or whatever you want to tell us, if it's one of those what just happened, kind of moments, hey, send it in. We like those. I like those. Yeah.

1:28 And make sure you're following us wherever you're listening, especially on Spotify, so you don't miss any of these quickies. That's right. So with that. Let's go ahead and get into this first one. I'm gonna go ahead and read this. Okay. Word for word, read it as it came into our confessional. Most of the LS sites have a place where you can enter where you'll be That weekend I noted on our profile that we were going to a lifestyle hotel in Palm Springs. That was it. Just a broad, we'll be here, maybe we'll see you kind of thing. A husband sends me a message at 7:00 PM that had a bit of frantic energy confirming that we would, if we would really be there when I said we would.

2:10 He said, okay, we're heading there now. They were three hours away. Mind you, we have never conversed with this couple at all prior to this message. Our entire conversation consisted of me confirming that we'd really be there. They got to the hotel and tracked us down at the hot tubs he had messaged. When they got there asking where we were, there was no attraction for my husband and me. The dude was too pushy and hyped up. I suspected drugs and his wife just sat there quietly in the corner of the hot tub, not making any eye contact. Plus, by this point in the evening, I was tired. The guy was pissed when my husband indicated that we weren't a match.

2:52 He didn't push it. We skedaddled back to our room and was like, what the fuck was that? The lesson is never feel obligated to play with someone no matter how far they've driven to meet you. The other lesson is have the man be the one to tell the other husband that there isn't a match. There are way less, they are way less likely to argue. My husband would take the other husband aside and say, sorry, guy. The wife just isn't feeling it. It makes for a smooth exit. That's interesting. That's interesting. Yeah. Yeah. I totally get it though. I think I've had people travel just to, uh, say hi to me.

3:33 Yeah. Yeah. Well, you know, I mean, and this was before even like. Moving here. Like I think we've had people, even when we were in our other town, just 'cause they knew I was at a bar. Like working Oh yeah. Or something they did. Did they just go, oh yeah well, you know, and that's the thing about it. So we've, that's kind of starts me off because we have had the conversation about how far you would travel for sex. Yes. Now. You would not travel very far. I said I would travel at least three hours, but that's for guaranteed sex. Yeah. I wouldn't travel for possible sex. Yeah. And especially not three hours. That's a lot. That's a lot. So that right there tells you that this person is already.

4:15 They, they've got high expectations. Yeah. They've got expectations that they're gonna show up, they're gonna play. Oh, yeah. And I think that's one of the biggest mistakes that couples can make when they're new in the lifestyle is that we just set up a date with somebody. We're, we're gonna get lucky tonight. It's like, oh yeah, bro. That is not even the case ever. No, I really feel like, and I'm gonna say this loosely, okay. True. Lifestyle people for the most part know you're not gonna get lucky on the first. Hello. Yeah, and I mean, I'm gonna say that like true because we've been in the lifestyle for 15 years.

4:57 Um, I've been in it a little longer than that. And never ever did I ever think, Ooh, I'm gonna get lucky. My partner be pre before Adam. Always thought that, really always thought, I'm gonna get lucky. And I was like, yeah, nah. Yeah, not, and I know that that was a source of contention when you guys were together. Yeah. Uh, and you guys would meet other couples because the couples always just wanted you and wouldn't really pay attention to him. Yeah. And I mean, the thought is, the thought is hot. Yeah. The thought of of going and meeting up, I mean, when we first started, we would go to a party that was what, about an hour away from us. Yeah. And.

5:38 Yeah, it would've been really cool to kind of hook up that night. Did we leave? With like disappointment. Maybe sometimes, I've never, I mean, I don't know. I've never gone in with the expectation of playing with others. No. Yeah. Unless it's been like a, a, a date with another couple and it's, we've had already talked about, oh, well we're gonna get a hotel or whatever, like, yeah, that's already been talked about. Then I may have that slight expectation of, okay, this is gonna happen. Yeah. Going to a party, going to a club, going to a place where there's several couples and things like that. Don't go in with expectations. I've never had an expectation of man, you know, this couple we've been talking to, we're totally gonna bang him tonight.

6:23 No. Like never can't think like that. Now, anytime we go any place, I always do have the expectation of you and I playing. Oh yeah, of course. And so that's a given, and that's what I've told some friends of ours who are new to lifestyle is that. You don't have to play with others to have fun. To have fun. Yeah. Like we go to the club, oftentimes you and I are the only ones that play with each other. Yeah. And that's it. Like, and that's it. Right. We leave by the end of the night, you know what I mean? And we're, we're, and we're happy with that. Now does that make us less lifestyles? I don't think so. I don't think so either. And then the other thing I want to touch base on is she had, she says it's easier for her, for her husband to be the one to say no you know, they're not interested or the wife isn't feeling it or whatever.

7:07 I disagree. I, I wanna say it depends on your couple. Yeah, it depends on the person. Like here, I'm the one who. Is okay with telling people Yeah, no, I'm not feeling it. It's just a personality thing on, on, on our part. It, it's, granted, I, I can be, I can look like the big scary guy. When I'm crossed and I get upset, yeah, people can, can back off. And I know that there's a lot of guys who will respond to that, but. If, if you ask me, my wife is 10 times scarier than me, and most men and women if you cross her will, will be scared of her more so than of me. You know what I mean? Uh, so, and, and I don't, I don't like to hurt feelings.

7:50 Yeah. I don't, I don't care to be the heavy I will if I have to. But my wife just has way less fucks to give. Yeah. I just don't care. Like if I'm not feeling it and. Well, first of all, if I see that the expectation that, that they think there's an expectation and I know that there's not, I will squash that expectation within seconds of knowing that they have an expectation. Yeah. Um, you'll purposefully not sleep with somebody purpose. Exactly. Just to prove a point. Purpose. Just to prove a point. That is so true. Um, I am that, I am that bitch. One, it's my choice. It's not your choice. It's my choice. And. My husband is gonna go along with whatever I feel or am feeling.

8:34 That moment only, I mean, I give him respect, but I'm saying like, you go along with, I'm just like, yeah, I'm not feeling I, it, I'm not, I'm just not, I'm not doing it. And I'm so selective that it's that's our thing. Um, yeah, I think everybody configure their own, you know. Maybe your husband is good at is better at that than you are and that Yeah. That works for you guys. I mean, and that's why I said I, it could be just a personality thing. Yeah, exactly. The, the way the, because I don't disagree with how you put that. I, I know that a lot of men are more accepting Yes. With other men, of other men. Mm-hmm. Saying, okay, yeah, no, this isn't gonna work. Yeah. They maybe won't press up on the subject as much but.

9:15 My wife has an amazing attitude that she can fling at people, and she's frankly better at it than I am. And yeah, you're, you're sweetheart. You're very, I'm, I'm a pretty nice guy. Yeah. And I'm a pretty nice guy. You just don't like to hurt feelings. If some, if he knew that you drove three hours, he'd be like, guess someone. Give her the deck. I'd be like, damn, you drove three hours. Okay. I guess, I guess I can overlook the looks. Just, yeah. I'll give you three hours worth as far as Oh, as good. Five minutes. That's so sweet. Hey, you know, I triple my time. Yeah. You know, I mean, that's, that is a, a really good a good one to come across though. Yeah. Because this is.

9:57 This is where you run across people who have a really amazing fantasy about mm-hmm. What this lifestyle is like. Mm-hmm. And it goes back to fantasy versus reality. The fantasy of it is this guy probably said, oh, wow. So they put that, that they're out there. So all we gotta do is show up and we're, we're, we're sealed in the deal. What? You know what I mean? That's how some people think. I know it seems crazy and there aren't probably some of y'all listening that are like, I don't see what's wrong with that logic. There's something wrong with that logic. There's a lot wrong with that logic. There's something wrong with that logic. Lemme tell you, there's something wrong with that logic. Uh, it, it's. You can't expect things like that.

10:38 It is the fantasy view of the lifestyle. Mm-hmm. It is not the realistic side. Mm-hmm. Uh, now are there people who are exceptions to that rule? Absolutely. There are people who are purely down to fuck. They don't care who it's with. Yeah. But usually those people are very open and upfront on their profiles. Or, uh, you know, whenever you strike up a conversation with them mm-hmm. They're normally pretty forward about it. People who are very down to fuck and just want anybody will be very vocal about that. Mm-hmm. Uh, but those are few and far between or is it Yeah, few and far. Yeah. Is it far and few between?

11:19 Either way it's, there's, they're, they're rare. Yeah. Yeah, they're rare. It's, And so that's really the realism of this. Is that you need a, you need actual chemistry. You need mutual chemistry. You need something, you need something. These people said, they didn't even have a conversation with them. They didn't have a conversation until that person, person reached out. I'd like, who the hell do you think you're, I, I think that's pretty presumptuous. I mean, no, you know, I'm all for, uh, you know, we welcome everybody to hang out with us and that sort of thing, but, uh. Hanging out. I don't think you're gonna get any hanging out and having sex are two different parties, my friend. And yeah, there are some people who have a leg in both, but there are some people who only have a leg in one.

12:02 So, you know, you just, you just can't expect things. You can't have expectations. It's horrible. A lot of people do, they brought up the frantic energy and suspected drugs. Yes. I hate to break it to you guys, but that, that happens a lot. Yeah, that happens a lot. Yeah, it does. Um, and it is a turnoff. I do I understand it. I'm not on that side of things, but I do I get it. There's people who wanna stay up all night and party all night, and they wanna be able to last as long as some of the younger people and, and whatever it is. Mm-hmm. Uh, but know that, uh, there's a lot of people that don't partake, oftentimes if you come across this wild-eyed energy.

12:49 That's gonna be kind of a red flag sometimes immediately. Yeah. You're, you're probably not off about the, uh, the suspecting of drugs. Oh, Yeah, for sure. Yeah. Hope we drove three hours. Yeah. Three hours. And his wife had a far off look in her eye. Well, no, she obviously wasn't on the drugs. But you know, you'll run into that a lot, unfortunately. Mm-hmm. The altered states, I mean, you know, you. We know that people, uh, drink. And that's, that's one way to loosen up. But there's just something about the idea of going to party and having fun. And, you know, I've heard of, of ecstasy being passed around and different things like that.

13:30 Hey, you know what works for you guys? Hey, good for you. Good for you. But there's a lot of us that, that does nothing for us. If anything, it turns us off. It, it does. It's instant. Attraction. Yeah. Like it's just not, it's not sexy. No. Uh, and, and then, you know, to roundabout the fact that the wife was kind of distant in the hot tub, that tells you so much. It's mismatched energy. So you've got one person who's really excited, which is usually the guy, and then you've got the wife who's kind of, you know, sitting back and not really into it as much. You know, that just, that's very telling. Oh yeah. And that major red flags, I mean, major, all of that, that's just riddled.

14:10 Riddled with red flags. Yeah. And you know, people can read that story and go, oh, well I recognize one or two. And that thing has, it, it is a, it's a full ass red flag from the moment that he messaged without any previous conversation. Yeah. Uh, and, and ended up traveling three hours like. You got a stalker on your hands lock and, uh, yeah, and, and they kind of give murdery vibes. That's, that's not good. You know what I mean? So yeah, just filled with red flags. I think that was a, a great confessional to have on our show because, and good call, not, not playing with them like Yeah. Good call. I at least you saw the flags and you didn't participate.

14:52 Yeah. So good for you. Yeah. And you know what I've, I've just realized is. Being able to say, no, I'm sorry, but I'm tired. Yeah, it's really smart. It's smart because we normally don't, even if we're tired, if we feel bad or if they're like really good friends, oftentimes we'll be like, oh, okay. You know, even though we're exhausted, we'll stay at the club another hour or whatever, you know? Yeah. Because we're those kinds of people. But recently we realized, you know what? It doesn't hurt just to be honest about it and say, I'm sorry guys, but we're really exhausted. Yeah. You know, and people will understand that. And if they don't, they're not for you.

15:33 So that tells you everything. Alright, bye. Yeah. Tells you everything right there. But lots of lessons to be learned on that one. You know, it's you. You wanna vet who you're talking to anyway? Oh, yeah. Because what if, what if that person, that kind person put a good, anybody Could have been some, I don't know, psycho person, like you said, stalker. I mean, you really don't know who you're dealing with. You don't know. So, and it's a a and anybody can get on a website mm-hmm. And do a profile and, there are a lot of things that we have to do that. Keep our own safety. Uh, because a lot of these websites provide safety up to a point.

16:13 But when you share your location and things like that, you know, you gotta be, I like we do it, uh, we do primarily because we're, we're podcasters and we do a lot of traveling. Yeah. And trust me, the thought has crossed my mind where it's like, well, we're inviting everybody to your birthday party. I have. I know. I know. I have i'm sure. I'm sure I have at least one, but really I don't have any stalkers, homie. Don't come at me. I don't have any stockers. Don't. I'm doing something wrong. I don't have any stockers. Oh, I'm, oh. Better at you got stalkers. Right. Anyways, a good lesson to be learned though. Definitely. Yeah. Don't play with anybody unless you've vetted them fully. And obviously this was a situation where there was no vetting at all.

16:57 Uh, I would've been definitely very open and honest about why we are not choosing you. Yeah. And I would've listed all of the different red flags yeah. So you definitely wanna vet as much as possible. Mm-hmm. All right. Now let's talk about something that hits a lot closer to home for a lot of couples. Ooh. Oh yeah. This next one. It's real. Yeah. Let's read it. So here we go. Okay. I have been with my partner for a few years now, met in the lifestyle and have had an incredible time. However, as a woman in the lifestyle. I'm sure Pris knows what I'm talking about.

17:37 I get a lot of attention. I love the feeling of being wanted and lusted after who wouldn't. However, I find that sometimes this turns my partner on and sometimes he gets really defensive and jealous of the attention, regardless of whether it ends in playing or not. Would love your insight about the balance between honoring his feelings and enjoying that attention. Should I shoot down anyone who looks my way? Should I tell him to get over his feelings? What would a compromise look like? Yes. Get over your feelings. Just kidding. Um, I understand where you're coming from. I, I, I do.

18:18 Do you really? I, well, I know I'm, I know like she said. The attention. Yeah. Yeah. You get a lot of unwanted, but, but yours is unwanted attention. Yeah. I don't want it. I, we make fun of each other because, um, I, I want it, he wants attention. I want attention. He, he grew up, but I don't get it. He, I was, I was a spoiled child. I had a lot, I had a lot of attention growing up. I wasn't, that, that. I'm not lacking that. Not to say that you are right. I'm just saying I am not lacking that at all. Like, I don't I don't take compliments very well. I don't need you to give me attention. I don't, if I wanna be the center of attention, I'll make myself the center of attention.

18:58 So, yeah. Um, when I want it I'll receive it. Yeah. We used to have a issue with not getting attention in the lifestyle. Yeah. And you know, it took me a while to realize that this is a woman centric mm-hmm. Lifestyle. Mm-hmm. I mean, and once you realize that mm-hmm. Once the guy realizes that, then it becomes a lot easier to maneuver because Yeah. Every guy has that initial feeling of, oh man, I'm gonna get in here and I'm just gonna have pussy falling off of trees. Yeah. And then all of a sudden they walk into a room and it's crickets. Meanwhile, their wife, who sometimes wants the attention, sometimes doesn't, walks in and, you know, they, they don't even have to look their best.

19:45 And they've got like five guys tapping them on the shoulder going, excuse me, can I buy you a drink? You know what I mean? So it is, it's a it can kind of screw with you. Of course. I'm sure it can. I mean, I think his feelings of inadequacy or jealousy is normal. Yeah. You just have to, I think as, I think you just have to take care of your partner in certain ways. So it's a lot of reassurance. A lot of reassurance on your part that it's just something that you like. It doesn't mean that. You're not liking how he's feeling, but that you know that you like that attention. And it is, it is a woman.

20:25 It's a woman's world. And the lifestyle. Yeah. I mean, you guys have your, your way as much as you want. Yeah. I think that, but you don't want her to like, to minimize that. No, no. And, and so I mean, like, but also her feelings are valid too. And so this is really. I wouldn't call it a compromise. More so as it's just a really, really it's something that, that both of y'all have to come to an understanding. Mm-hmm. So you have to really play more of a role to him in reassurance, uh, so that he can feel better about y'all's relationship. That the more he feels stronger about y'all's relationship, the less he's going to feel that jealousy.

21:07 I mean, the jealousy will always be there most likely, but it's always, yeah. Uh, but you know, it takes away, there's a security there Yeah. That you feel, and it's like, okay, well this is, this is not bad. The other thing would be that he, where he needs to work on is he needs to, is that all of the men in this lifestyle are dealing with that. This is normal. This is absolutely normal. Now it's not just the men that are dealing with that in our situation, it could be considered opposite. Mm-hmm. If you talk to Paris, it's opposite. If you talk to her, she's saying, oh, well he's, he's getting all the attention and I don't really care for it, yada, yada, yada.

21:49 And so. Where I pick it up is, I, I reassure her. Yeah. I constantly am reassuring her. I'm texting her throughout the day. You know, I'm telling her how I miss her. I'm telling her how I love her, and it's not bullshit, it's not lines, it's just me talking to my wife. It's it should be a natural part of, of a, a couple's Day. It just to reassure 'em. And if it's not, and if it's not, make it. This is your, this is your homework. Make it a priority to just show a little bit more affection a little bit more understanding. Not that you're not, but just, just give it more and, reassure him like, like Autumn said, like it's just a little bit of, um, you know, you are hot, you're sexy.

22:38 Yeah. I mean, you know, I, you guys. Most likely are already thinking it. You're just not saying it out loud. Yeah. Uh, and maybe you are, you know, and, and really if there's anything to take away from this is that we don't actually know what your situation is behind closed doors. So we're saying all this stuff. You could probably be doing all this stuff, lay on thick lay if you're doing it. Lay on thick, on thicker. If you, if you're not doing it over, do it. Yeah. Overkill. Yeah. It doesn't, it doesn't hurt. Just overdo it. But, you know, they, he doesn't need to know. It is a, it is a woman's world and the lifestyle. Um. There are men's support groups, as silly as it may sound to some men. Yeah. There are men's support groups for the lifestyle.

23:18 Other men can talk about these things and you can find out that you are not the only one. Like I said, I, I'm not a jealous person, but I've dealt with this a little bit myself. You know? I know I was pretty sour for the first couple of years. Mm-hmm. Because I was like, what the hell? Everybody wants her. Nobody wants me. Why the hell would I do this? It was hard. It was rough, really hard. Um, it was rough. It's bad on the ego, it's bad on, you know, and everything. And as his wife, it makes me feel bad because I'm like, he's amazing. How could you, how could people not see it? You know? And not that y'all are unattractive or anything like that, but women are also shallow. Yeah. I mean, we're shallow like.

24:00 It's it just takes a lot of little bandaids, a lot of little caressing, and it's gonna be give and take it. And it won't be perfect on its first go around. Yeah. This is something that take it, it takes time. Takes, it does. So where we're at in our relationship has taken time. Yeah. You know, nothing was ever perfect overnight. We had to really, it was give and take. There were times where we got into small little arguments about stupid stuff. Yeah. And then we had to talk it out and, and worked it out. You know, it just. If it doesn't work right away, just know that you're not failing. There you go. There's, there's more to it than that. If you're even trying, then you're successful. It just, it takes time for things like that to stick.

24:41 It does, you know, we, we all were kind of raised to be jealous creatures. It's kind of how life is when you grow up in cities. Yeah. With people. Everybody's jealous about everybody. And I wanna say what something really will help is like a little exercise, is before going into an event, before doing something, he loves to watch people hit on me. Loves it. I'm a fan. I don't know if he loves it because he doesn't know what reaction I'm gonna give them. That too is entertaining. But Yeah. Or, or what it is. But maybe talk about it. Maybe talk about before going, Hey, we're gonna go to the club this weekend, or we're gonna go go to the club tonight.

25:25 I'm gonna wear this outfit. I might get a little bit more of attention. How would you like me to handle that? Do you want me to stay on your arm for a while? Do you wanna be the one to kind of push me along? Yeah. What steps will help you? Be more successful tonight in your feelings. Like we, we have really actually had those conversations. Yeah. Before we got into a house party or a club or whatever. So you like watching me get hit on I do not like I do, but I know that you don't. And, and like a good, a good example of this too is, you know, Priscilla's birthday party is coming up and I just asked her yesterday, I was like, look, uh, it's your birthday. And you know, we're gonna be at a lifestyle club.

26:07 We're gonna be around a lot of people, of which I would enjoy having sex with, but it's not my party. It's not my birthday. So I wanna know. Should this be a night where I purely focus on you and I'm by your side and, and I don't have any fun, I'm just there to take care of you or, or, partake in whatever you want. Or can I also have, you know, my own little things on the side as they come up? If they come up, they may not, but if they do, you know, would that be all right? And there was a time where I wouldn't have even asked that. Yeah. Uh, because I would've just assumed it's a, it's all good. But sometimes we are. Expectations of what we want to do.

26:49 Uh, and we don't fully think of our partner in those kinds of situations. Yeah. And frankly, if I thought about myself on the night of her birthday, uh, I could see that unraveling and not the greatest of ways. And so I was likes the conversation we're having. Yeah. It is a conversation worth having because Yeah. She is not a fan of, of me getting hit on all the time, stuff like that. And so it's like, well. And if it happens, is it something I can act on or is it something that I'm gonna have to tell 'em, Hey, sorry guys, but let's aim for another day or this. Yeah. So we got that conversation out and you know what? It was painless and it worked out great. We now know, and, and those expectations are set going into that. Mm-hmm. It's a matter of having those conversations, just having those little conversations, especially if you already know that he's already feeling that way.

27:36 Sometimes, um, then yeah, I would be, I would definitely have those conversations a little bit more often, especially before any events. I try to set expectations with you whenever we go places. You know, like early on I used to tell you, yes, look, we're gonna, we're gonna go so, so is gonna be there, so and so-and-so's gonna be there and they're probably gonna be on me. Or there may be some women who are gonna be very, flirty with me in person. How are you go? I know you don't care for that. How would you handle it? How are you gonna like start getting this in your head now because the more you are prepared for it, the less it feels like, an aggressive shock. Mm-hmm. When it happens in front of you, you're kind of expecting it.

28:17 Yeah. And then, you know, like Pris, I told her, Hey, just roll your eyes and walk away. That's all you gotta do. That's kind of her thing. Now it is my thing. Let's just close your eyes. And, but I also have lots of friends around, so I'm like, if you see so and so with so and so, and you know, just go and grab them. You go squish and make out with them. Oh my goodness. You know what's funny is that is totally true. It is. Yeah. It's, that's horrible. I mean, but it's okay. I mean, but I think you're, you're doing great. At least you know, y'all at least know. He's feeling that way, and I'm glad that you love the attention. That's great. Yeah. That's wonderful. And just talk to him about it, you know, it's something that you, like. If it was the other way around, would you be supportive?

28:59 Like, yeah. Yeah. Talk. Definitely try and treat him the way you would want him to treat you. Yes. You know? So if that, if you can sit back and go, okay, well I'm him in this situation, how do I want him to handle this for me? Yeah. You know what I mean? And then work it from there. I think that would work. You know, I gotta tell you, we love these confessionals. I know, I do. Uh, they're so real. If you've got one, head to www on monogamy.com and submit it. It is 100% anonymous unless you're like some of these people who like to message me and let me know, Hey, I left a confessional. It's supposed to be anonymous guys, but it's all good.

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