Press the Button: Our Raw, Real Conversation About Prostate Massage
Press the Button:
Our Raw, Real Conversation
About Prostate Massage
One listener confession. One live Google session. One husband who might never be the same. This is the conversation nobody else is having — and we just had it on mic.
"My wife has been giving me a prostate massage during blowjobs, and the sensation can only be described as earth-shaking. It feels like a full-body orgasm with the duration, the intensity, and the volume of ejaculate all increased way more than you would think. Usually afterwards, I am completely incapacitated."
— A brave Beyond Monogamy listener, via the anonymous confessional
"Earth-shaking. A full-body orgasm. Completely incapacitated."
We had to talk about it. 😂"
— Adam, approximately 0.3 seconds after reading the letter
The Most Vulnerable Conversation We've Ever Had on Mic
When that confession hit our inbox, we knew we couldn't just move on. So we didn't. What unfolded was a 33-minute deep dive into one of the most stigmatized, misunderstood, and honestly under-discussed topics in male sexuality.
Adam admitted — live on mic — that he has never had this done. And he shared the real reason why: a past experience that happened completely without his consent left him with emotional associations he's carried for years. That's not a prostate problem. That's a consent and communication problem. And we called it out.
Pris, meanwhile, dropped a bombshell: she's actually done this before. With her first husband. And somehow that led to the most genuine boundary-setting conversation the two of us have ever had together — in real time, no script, no edits.
The prostate is densely innervated by both the autonomic and somatic nervous systems — aka it's wired for serious pleasure.
About 2–3 inches in, angled toward the belly button on the rectal wall. Or externally via the perineum (the taint).
Produces prostatic fluid, powers ejaculation, and converts testosterone to DHT. It's doing a LOT of work in there.
Toxic masculinity. The "I ain't gay" reflex. Fear of vulnerability. All of it came up — and we talked through all of it.
Everything on the Table
- 🔬 What the prostate actually is and what it does (Adam Googled it in real time — bless him)
- 💜 The P-spot — why it's called the "male G-spot" and how stimulation actually works
- 📌 Internal vs. external stimulation — and why the taint deserves more credit
- 🚫 Adam's past non-consensual experience and why consent is EVERYTHING here
- 💪 Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" barrier that keeps men from pleasure
- 🛡️ Whether prostate play should be a lifestyle boundary — or something open to others
- 📖 A step-by-step beginner's guide for curious couples who want to explore this together
"If a woman is going down on you and she's the one putting her fingers in your ass — that's not gay. That's Tuesday."
— Adam, cutting through the noise as only Adam can
If You're Curious — Here's Where to Start
We're not experts. We just had the conversation you probably needed someone to have. Here's the five-step framework we landed on:
Both partners need to be genuinely on board. Don't spring this on anyone. Consent here isn't a formality — it's the whole foundation. If the answer is no, it's no. Period.
External pressure on the perineum (between the scrotum and anus) is a low-commitment way to gauge whether there's something worth exploring further — before going internal.
Short nails. Gloves if preferred. And lube — always, always lube. Adam said it three times on mic and we'll say it again here. Always. Lube.
This should feel like an upgrade to intimacy, not something anyone is white-knuckling through. If it's not working, you stop. If it's incredible, you talk about that too.
Drop it in the anonymous Beyond Monogamy confessional. We gots to know. Zero judgment. You just might end up on a future quickie.
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Adam is the bald, bearded, caffeine-fueled voice behind Beyond Monogamy — a guy who never expected to become a spokesperson for ethical non-monogamy… but here we are. After more than a decade navigating the lifestyle with his wife and co-host Pris, he’s learned a ton about communication, boundaries, jealousy (yep, he has it too), and what it really takes to build a relationship that feels like home and adventure at the same time.
Whether he’s diving into deep relationship conversations, calling out the myths the lifestyle loves to cling to, or just hyping up couples to choose their joy unapologetically, Adam brings honesty, humor, and tattoo-level commitment to every episode. If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just us?”, he’s the guy handing you a coffee and saying, “Nah — welcome to the club.”
Beyond Monogamy is his way of making sure nobody has to explore this world alone. Because love gets bigger when community gets louder.
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