Pregnancy in the Lifestyle: Fetishes, Scares & the Conversations You Need to Have

Let's just jump right in, shall we? Pregnancy in the lifestyle. Not exactly the topic you'd expect to come up over a couple of cocktails at a hotel takeover — but here we are. And if you think it's rare, think again. Because between the fetish-forward profiles on swinger apps, the Craigslist ads Adam still can't get out of his head, and a condom break that had Pris looking at Adam like "I swear to God if that's yours..." — it comes up more than people want to admit.

This week's QUICKIE was inspired by a message from a friend who's about to meet a couple, only to find out one half of said couple is pregnant. She reached out to Adam like, hey, is this a thing? And Adam, being Adam, turned it into a full-on conversation that goes places you didn't expect.

Here's everything that went down.

So... Pregnancy as a Fetish. Yes, That's a Thing.

Adam's got a story. Of course he does.

Back in his younger years, he's at a strip club in their hometown. Normal night, nothing crazy. Except one of the dancers is eight months pregnant. On the pole. Working. And here's the wild part — she made four times more money than anyone else there that night.

"She bounces from club to club and she'll clean up every single time." — Adam

Pris's response? Pure solidarity with the dancer. "Ladies, we already have to give birth and hold a baby — and then we gotta be on the pole? I mean, come on."

But here's Adam's point: people weren't giving that woman extra cash out of sympathy. They were into it. Pregnant women get fetishized — the body changes, the boobs, all of it. It's a kink. A real one. And you'll find it all over the lifestyle if you know where to look — swinger apps, lifestyle clubs, even old-school Craigslist back when that was where people went to feel equally dirty and adventurous.

"There's something about searching through Craigslist that just made you feel dirty... I didn't care for it." — Adam

And before anyone clutches their pearls — nobody's yucking anybody's yum over here. If that's your thing, do your thing. Beyond Monogamy is a judgment-free zone, always.

Would Adam and Pris Play With a Pregnant Woman?

Short answer: No. But the way they got there is the best part of this whole episode.

Adam's issue is what he calls the "parental switch." Once he knows someone is pregnant — even if she's barely showing — something in his brain flips. Suddenly he's not thinking about a play date. He's thinking about lemonade and rocking chairs.

"Last thing I want is to have a hard on and then have that parental switch turned on. And then be like, oh nope — that's a very weird place to go." — Adam

He also gets philosophical about it in true Adam fashion — starts going down a therapy rabbit hole, mentions Oedipus, then immediately pumps the brakes on the whole thought experiment. The man knows himself.

Pris? Same answer, different reasoning. Her maternal instincts kick in hard and fast.

"The maternal in me just comes out and I'm like — she's a mama. Leave her alone." — Pris

She'd go full nesting mode. She'd want to rub feet. She'd ask if the laundry's been done. She'd want to talk about the baby. Zero sexual energy, full mom mode — and she knows it.

That said — it's not a hard no to hanging out. A gentle no to the play, but they'd still socialize. Maybe even watch. Parallel play. As Adam put it: "If you wanna watch us, you're welcome to."

Fun Facts About Sex During Pregnancy That Even Adam Didn't Know

Okay, here's where things got genuinely educational and also extremely funny.

Pris dropped some pregnancy health knowledge that had Adam completely stunned:

"When you're pregnant, you cannot have oral sex done on you. An air bubble can travel up into your area." — Pris

Adam's jaw hit the floor. But Pris connected it in the most Pris way possible:

"Lunch meat is off the table, so there won't be no pussy eating either. Connect the dots." — Pris

She can't eat sushi. She can't have oral. It's a whole vibe shift. And if you're thinking about playing with a pregnant woman, these are things worth knowing before you get there. Do your research. Be safe. Respect the situation.

The Real Story: A Condom Break, a Pregnancy Announcement & Some Very Clear Boundaries

Now for the part of the episode that had Pris going "wait — I thought someone actually got pregnant!"

Here's what really happened. Adam and Pris were playing with a couple. The condom broke. Adam noticed, pulled out, said something. Everyone seemed fine. Two weeks later, the woman reached out — she was pregnant.

"I looked at Adam and I was like — if that's yours, it's not yours." — Pris

Lucky for everyone involved, it was her husband's. But Pris made it very clear — that was a conversation she and Adam had already had way before it almost mattered. They've known since the very beginning: no kids with anyone outside this marriage. None.

"You didn't have any kids with me. We're not having kids with anybody. Like, sorry — we'll sign what you need. We will not disown. But you have all the parental rights. We are not doing that." — Pris

Hard line. No negotiation. And Adam? One hundred percent on board.

The Hypothetical That Every Couple in the Lifestyle Needs to Talk Through

Adam posed the scenario directly: a condom breaks with a play partner. She reaches out two weeks later. She might be late. What do you do?

Pris answered without hesitation:

"I would be very honest with her and be like, I'm so sorry that you're late, but if you are pregnant — we do not want any part of this. We'll sign whatever you need." — Pris

Then she leveled up the hypothetical to a single woman friend. Same answer. The only curveball? If the friend didn't want to terminate and wanted to give the baby up for adoption — Pris said she'd probably end up adopting that kid. Because of course she would. The woman has a heart the size of Texas.

But co-parenting with a play partner? A hard, resounding no from both of them.

"I hate to make your rod go soft. But these are conversations that need to be had." — Adam

And that's the real takeaway. These conversations feel heavy. They feel like a buzzkill. But they're not optional. If you don't have a plan before something happens, you're going to be scrambling in the worst possible moment.

The Bottom Line From Adam & Pris

Whether you're fetish-curious, wondering about playing with a pregnant partner, or just haven't thought about what you'd do if a condom broke — this QUICKIE covered all of it.

• Pregnancy fetish is real and it shows up in the lifestyle — no shame, just facts.
• Adam and Pris personally would not play with a pregnant woman — parental switch is too real.
• There are actual health considerations around sex during pregnancy that both partners should know.
• Pregnancy scares happen. Even to experienced couples in the lifestyle. Even with condoms.
• The best thing you can do? Have the conversation with your partner now, before it matters.

"Go with your gut. And if you wanna play with somebody who's pregnant — just be safe about it. Use protection either way." — Pris

Events Coming Up

Since you listened through to the end — here's what's on the calendar:

• Sunday, March 22nd — Monthly live webinar on SDC: Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle. Real-time questions, real-time answers. Find them at SDC under Beyond Monogamy.
• Last Sunday of March — In-person workshop at Forbidden Fruit in Austin, Texas. More info at www.forbiddenfruit.com/workshops.
• Weekend of April 11th — Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Adam and Pris will be on-site all weekend, including a live in-person show. Limited rooms remain — check the events tab at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

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