Some people want it every single day. Some are good with once a month. What happens when that's you and your partner?
On this QUICKIE, swinger couple Adam & Pris get brutally honest about mismatched sex drives, low libido, and what's been killing the mood lately.
Adam has always been the every-day guy, so when new medications, stress, a new job, and a little extra weight started slowing him down, it scared him. Pris has always been a take-it-or-leave-it, and with menopause and hormone therapy in the mix, she explains why talk about sex doesn't turn her on, why cuddling is her safe space, and why she gets more into it once things have already started.
Whether you're in the swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), an open relationship, or totally monogamous, libido mismatch is a human thing, not a lifestyle thing. And the fix starts with a conversation.
IN THIS EPISODE
- Why there's no "normal" sex drive
- Medications, menopause, and hormones vs. desire
- Stress, sleep, weight, and body image as libido killers
- Why cuddling can feel better than sex when life gets heavy
- Solo play for dopamine vs. sex with your partner
- Fear of a low-libido season becoming the new normal
- "If one is down, pick up the other": who initiates?
- When to see your doctor or a therapist
ACCOUNTABILITY CHECK: Adam made a pledge on air. Watching on Wednesday? Drop a comment and ask if he got up this morning to go walk!
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