The High Costs of Swinging: An Honest Look

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Hello and welcome to Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam. And I'm

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Bris. And today we're talking about the expenses

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of being a swinger. The high expenses, I mean,

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because if you're new to the lifestyle, if you're new to

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the community of lifestyle, if you're new to this whole journey and

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say, I don't know, money's tight, you're gonna

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learn very quickly that things add up. Things.

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This lifestyle can be expensive. Yes.

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Can it be done for less? Yeah. Can it

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be done on a budget? I would think so. I would think

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it's possible. Yeah. What I found when we first

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started was because when we

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first started, you and I, we had very little money when we first got

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together. Yes. And we were, you know, we were

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living together, cut off by finances when we moved in. Yeah.

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Because your. Your. Your mom was like, sorry, but now

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that you're with him, it's his job to pay your rent. She was.

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Damn it. She was done after the last one. Oh, dude, such a

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bummer on that one. Bye. Bye, money. And so. And, you know, we had.

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We had four kids, and so money was tight,

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and we were working all the time, and the little bit of money that we

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had, we just couldn't really justify it. And I remember always

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saying, I can't justify spending money for sex

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stuff. No. Well, let's. Let's even start even

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further, huh? Let's start as

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parents. Parents with. With kids.

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Nannies. Oh, man. So, like, even before you

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think about going out, if you have children that

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are unable to stay alone, then you have the cost

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of. Even if you want to go out anywhere,

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the cost of a. Of a babysitter. Yeah. You know, not everybody has a family

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member. Yeah. Like, they're and readily available. So for instance,

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we had a nanny, and we had to pay for her. We would pay for

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her for, like, the whole weekend sometimes because, you know,

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we didn't do it very often because we

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really wanted to. To be with our children. So when we did that right there

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Is a cost. Yeah, like, that's a. That's a major cost.

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So, okay, you have your babysitter, right. Which can run

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anywhere from, like, I think right now people pay even, like,

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20 bucks an hour. Oh, you know, I could be wrong.

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Wow. You know, 20 bucks an hour for,

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like, four hours. That's. Yeah, yeah. You know, that's 80 bucks

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right there. Yeah. Or like, say, you know, you're even

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Your dogs. I mean, we've. We've had a situation where we. We didn't have

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kids and we wanted to go somewhere, and it's like, well, who's going to take

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care of the dogs? Watch the dogs. Yeah, yeah. And so then we got to

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pay for somebody to take care of that, you know? Exactly. So those. So those

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are like the beginning cost, right? Those. Those. And those can be pretty high.

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Okay, so then you say, all right, let's look for somewhere

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to go. So this was the first experience that I had for. That was,

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where do we find people? Right. And that's where you introduced

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me to the websites. AdultFriendFinder.com was,

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I think, one of them Swing Lifestyle.com. those. Those were the

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two that we really were on.

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And of course, you can set up free profiles with them,

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but you realize that with free profiles,

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you can't do dick. Like, there's. There's nothing. Like,

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you really can't see anything. You can't message with people.

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And of course, they. I think they do this thing on those websites

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where if you're a free profile, you know, you can

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only send off, like, three messages or three to five messages,

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whatever it is, before it cuts you off. And it'll

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always show that you have messages waiting for you in your inbox,

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but you can't check your inbox until. Until you pay.

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Yeah. So then it's like the anticipation of. Man, people are

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messaging me, and I can't even see who it is because I'm

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not paying for it. So then it just pushes you to pay for it.

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Yeah. And these things are not cheap. I mean, there's been.

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Yeah. The websites are not. I think, like, some of them are.

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I think we monthly. Some of them are yearly. So with.

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I. I want to say with Swing Lifestyle and this was. This was a good

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long time ago, but we paid. Eventually. We paid

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for the. I think we. We paid for the year or we

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paid to be lifetime members. So I think we're lifetime members,

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but we just don't utilize it anymore. Yeah. And that could be from like 20

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to $40. It was expensive. A month.

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Oh, my goodness. But we were. We were lifetime members,

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so we had. So we paid this, like. I think it was like 300 bucks

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or whatever. And that gave us lifetime. It was close to paying.

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You know how people pay yearly? And I was like, why would somebody pay

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just short of that yearly when they can just

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pay a little bit more and just be lifetime members? I never quite understood that,

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but whatever. I. I realized that those websites, like,

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I said they were expensive, and I told you a couple times,

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I was like, you know what? When things got tight and we had to budget,

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and you were like, we. We can't. We're gonna have to turn off this.

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And it's like, okay, that's fine. Yeah. And I think by then we

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had met a few people through the Facebook group.

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Yeah. Which is a. Which is free. Yeah. And that's

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why I always like the Facebook groups was. Because that's free. Yeah.

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And it just seems a little bit easier to stay local. You just don't know

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who is kind of lurking, who has a fake profile.

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Yeah. Not. Not everybody's really good at verifying,

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you. Know, so we've done a show on how Priscilla verifies.

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Yeah. So, you know, right off the bat, the websites

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are expensive. Now, outside of the websites,

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the new age stuff would be the apps. And we've done the

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apps. You know, we've done three Fun, and there's a

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few others out there that we did. Yeah. And it's the same thing with.

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With those apps where it shows you,

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you know, you can create a free profile and you can swipe

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through so many profiles per day, but eventually,

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because you're free, it'll. It'll cut off at. At some point. Right.

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And you can't really message very many people.

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And it shows that you have all these notifications, but you can't always read

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them all until you pay for it. Yeah. And these things are like 30

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to $50 a month to

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pay for. That's crazy. 30 to $50.

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My workout apps are cheaper than that. My music apps

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are cheaper. Yeah. I could not justify that. And I think I've said several times

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over, I'm like, you know, I just can't justify that expense

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because back then it was like, we weren't looking

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for friendships, we were looking

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for experiences. Right. And so. So that's why we went to things like that.

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Right. We weren't. Yeah. Yeah. We weren't. We weren't really a

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part of the community. Yeah. We didn't have. We didn't have access to Any

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of that. Right. Like. Right. We don't, we weren't even

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like thinking into those kind of groups. Like we didn't even

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know they existed. Exactly. Well, we didn't think that this was an actual community.

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Like we looked at it. Now it's, it is a community.

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Yeah. And there's a lot of people that are what

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we used to be, which is just swingers. Yeah. And not in the community

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of swingers. Yeah. So it's just kind of case by case

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sort of thing. Yeah. But for us that was, that was

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really the issue was it's like, well, we're not really meeting people.

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We're not really enjoying these things. I can't justify spending

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30 to $50 a month for this. Like, it just doesn't make sense,

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you know? And, and my anxiety was real bad too.

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So whenever we would meet with a couple, it would be really,

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really just hard. You know, it would be very,

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very nerve wracking. It wasn't very fun because it was. There was no connections.

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No. Like it was a different type of connection. Yeah. Yeah. You know,

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and, and, and almost every single time it just didn't,

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didn't pan out for us. So I couldn't justify spending

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that money. And that's just kind of the, the tip of the iceberg

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that when, when you're in the community, you start realizing all the different things.

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Oh. That. All the different costs. So now

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you have your babysitter. Yeah. You have your platform

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on where you found it. Right. So those are two costs.

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Yeah. Now self grooming. So for

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me, like people spend easy,

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100 to 400amonth easy on just grooming.

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That just blows my mind for women.

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Well, let me just say me, I don't get my hair done.

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Okay. So I am what you would call a low maintenance.

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You are. Actually, I've had to over the years, really convince you

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to start. Yeah. Kind of take care of yourself in that way. Before this,

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I had a little moment in my life where I

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did my hair, I did my nails,

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I did all that good stuff. And it was only for a little bit.

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But I'm not that girl. Right. My hair, I used to get done all,

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all the time, but my best friend used to do hair. So we would,

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you know, she would do it for free. Like a barter system. Yeah. Or really,

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really cheap. So I didn't spend that much.

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Now, now I don't do my hair. I rarely do my nails.

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I'll do my toes and I always

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do a Brazilian wax.

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So for me, my costs

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of like Maintenance is. Oh, I'm doing my lashes

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now. Oh, yeah. Add that to the list. I know. You know you want to

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look pretty, right? You want to look pretty. You want to look good.

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And so 100 to 400amonth, that's. That gets

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up there. Oh, totally. And then you know what you can add to that?

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A gym membership. Because let's face facts.

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We are involved in this community, and we're like, you know

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what? We really need to work on ourselves.

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So first of all, you have to work on yourself. Feel. Want it. You'll want

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it. Feel sexy and clarity in your brain, right? Oh, totally.

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And stamina. Yes, stamina. So, like. Absolutely.

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You have to have stamina because it. It involves sex.

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Yes. You know, so. Absolutely. Man, I didn't even think about that. You're paying

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for your gym. Yeah. You're paying for your

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maintenance. So men, haircuts, grooming. Right. Products.

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Right, right. So you just. The products just to make yourself look

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presentable for sure. Because. And then that doesn't.

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That doesn't count towards the different outfit.

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Yeah. So then you. Yeah. You have your sexy

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lingerie. Yeah. I mean, luckily for

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women in. In this lifestyle, we are

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very. We tell each other where we find deals.

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Like, I'm on a website for women, and we will tell each

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other, like, hey, you have.

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It's like $3 for this bikini on. On this website

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and go to Amazon and let's do this. And I mean, it really

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is. And I don't. I don't have a lot of lingerie. Yeah. Like,

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my lingerie is. The pieces that I wear

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a lot of are more expensive.

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Okay. You know, like, I have some Victoria Secret

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pieces. I have a little. I have a lot of, like,

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little things from, like, Adore Me. So those are kind of.

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Those are expensive. Oh, my God. Adore me. That's a subscription.

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Yeah, absolutely. That is a freaking subscription. You know?

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But, yeah, like, we help each other out. For instance, yesterday we

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went to. We went to the club, and every. It was a glow party.

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I have nothing that glows. And everybody was.

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I was telling. I was telling people, it's like, I have nothing that glows.

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And they're. We were all talking, and they're like, oh, my gosh. Here, let me

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send you this link. Let me see that. And that. That was. The funny thing

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was we were standing in line, and I was talking to the.

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To one of the guys that was there. Oh, because everyone loves the way you

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dress. Yeah. Because I have. I dress a little swaggish. I got some Swag.

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You do, you look good. And. But I was, you know, we were talking about

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our different clothes and stuff and they were like, oh yeah,

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mine's Walmart. And I said, hey, my, my shirt's from Target.

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Yeah. My pants are from Walmart. Yeah. And my shoes are from Ross.

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Yes. And he was like, oh man, we need to go shopping. And I was

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like, dude, that's, that's hilarious. But that's funny, right? So then you have your lingerie.

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Men, you have your clothes. I mean, yeah. You guys want

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to look good, right? I mean, if, if, if you really want to make

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an impression. Yeah. And dude, I swear, there is always

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a theme. There is everything.

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So yesterday was the first time that we didn't really do

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theme wise because it was a spur of the moment type of thing. True.

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And I was like, I don't have anything close. Oh, well, I'm just gonna wear

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whatever. Right, right. So they have

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themes. You wanna be part of the, of the

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theme. You don't wanna be the, you don't. Wanna be the one that stands out.

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You wanna be the one that stands out. So there's always a theme.

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There's always a piece of lingerie you have to buy.

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There's grooming. Yeah. You know,

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there's also thing, there's gym memberships. Oh my gosh.

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And there's also things that people like to, like some women do Botox.

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Right. Some women have facials

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every month. Some women have surgeries. Some men do.

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Some women have surgeries. But like, and so like you, you do that to make

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yourself feel better. And then, I mean, that's part of

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the whole package. Right. I like, I've heard a lot of women say who have

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implants. Yeah. They're like, I, I got this for this reason

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I'm here to show them off. And it makes you feel confident. Yeah.

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You know, like you want, it makes you feel sexy. You want to feel sexy.

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Right. You know, so all of that goes into,

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God, it could be monthly, could be yearly, but it is, it's a cost.

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It catches up. Perfume, lotions, you know. Oh my

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God, condoms. Now. Can it not be done on a budget? Sure.

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Oh, it can be done on a budget. I will have to make a show

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on how it is done on a budget. And we will. Yeah. We have

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four kids. We've had to do it on a budget. Like we

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don't have a choice. Yeah. I mean, we're not bougie people. We, we don't have

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that kind of money. And so we really have to make it work.

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And that's what a lot of people don't realize.

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You know, it's like, hey, it doesn't take much for you to

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look presentable. At least put a little bit of effort into yourself.

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Make yourself look a little bit nice. You're meeting people you want to impress.

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There's thrift stores, but it doesn't cost. It doesn't have to cost a whole lot.

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It doesn't. You can put together something nice. Yeah. You can smell nice and

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that's it. You know, you can do your hair. You know, it doesn't take

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much. No. But yeah, it does cost. It does. It does

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add up. Yeah. So you got your babysitter, you got your club or

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your platform or your. You found your event. Yeah. You got your

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clothing. Okay. Now. And you got your self care and

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your grooming. Now you got to figure out, are you

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going to stop and eat? Oh, dude, we always. Are you going to take an

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Uber? Yeah, yeah. Like just

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well before. Yeah. And then, you know, most of the time,

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say you're meeting another couple. It's usually

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at a restaurant. Let's have dinner or let's

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meet for drinks. It's never, let's meet in the park under

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a shady tree. You know, it's never anything free. It's always

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something that's going to cost. So if we're going to set up something with a.

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With a couple, we have to make sure that we have money to go do

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that. Yeah. You know what I mean? Because it's again,

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expensive. Right. So you gotta. Okay, so then you figure out

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where you're gonna go. How much is that gonna cost? Yeah. Do you

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wanna spend a lot of money? Do you wanna do it on a budget?

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How do you tell somebody? Right? So we are very open and

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we're like, look, you know, we don't have a lot

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of money. Where can we go on a budget? Yeah, the community

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is really cool because it's like, girl,

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we got you. Or well, it's. And it's funny because when we first got together

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and I would do this in our vanilla world and I

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would do this in lifestyle too, where. Oh my gosh. Where we would have

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a date set up and we would have to break it off and it's like,

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sorry, guys, but we just. We're broke this week. Like, we don't have the money.

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And I remember you would get. You would get mortified because you'd be like,

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oh, my God, don't tell them that. So I was raised very differently.

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Yeah. I always had Money

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to do that. So to tell somebody I didn't have money to do that was

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very. I don't know, like, it made me feel super

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well. So I was raised the same as you. I mean,

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my. My parents would have been mortified if they heard me say that to

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somebody else. But my thing is that I am just very honest.

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Yes. And I feel like without that transparency, they're going

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to think, okay, what the hell? They just canceled on us. Yeah. You know,

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that sort of thing. Yeah. And it. And you told me that. Yeah. And I

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found that whenever I would be honest about that, people always understood. Yeah.

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Because everybody struggles financially, especially now.

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Yeah. Like right now, times are very hard. Yeah.

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You know, it's. The world is just expensive.

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It is expensive to live, you know.

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And prices are high. So just feeding your face.

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Right. Is expensive. Right. So then you

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eat. Some people have alcohol.

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Yeah. Some people have to drink in order to loosen up. Some people

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use, you know, cbd. Yeah. Some people

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use thc. Some just to stay. Weed.

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Just to stay in. To make them comfortable.

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Right, right. Okay. So that. That's an add a. That's an ad.

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That's an addition to all your fun. Right. For sure.

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Oh, my gosh. And then you have to, like, get all your setups when you

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go to the club to do that. Yeah, yeah. You gotta bring an ice chest

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because, I mean. Yeah. Jeez. And then

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some, like, there's the cost of. If you're in the community,

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some meet and greets. You know, everybody's drinking.

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There's the cost of the alcohol there. Some meet and greets, there's a cover

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to get into certain places. Some places.

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I mean, you just. There's costs associated with all of those places.

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There's been meet and greets at the. The sex club. There's been

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meet and greets at strip clubs. And if you don't have the money,

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you can't go. You know what I mean? So you're

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there, you've arrived, you buy your drinks,

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whatever. What if it's out of town? Yeah.

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What if there's travel? For sure, you're paying

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for a longer babysitter. Yeah. Or maybe you don't even have kids. You're just paying

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for travel. Like for us. Our. Our gas.

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Our gas. Because we. We're in between. We're an hour away.

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We're an hour from north and an hour south. Yeah.

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From where all this stuff is happening. Yeah. And so every

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time, we pretty much have to drive, like an hour or more. Yeah. And that's

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gas money. And it's wear and tear on your vehicle. Wear and tear on the

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vehicle. Because you want to stay social. Yeah. You know, and you want to

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make it whenever you can, for sure. So. Yeah. Wow.

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It's a lot. It's a lot. And then on top of all that,

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you know, wherever we. We have to stop and eat.

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Like you said. Feed your face. You gotta feed your face. You gotta feed your

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face. Yeah. I mean, you can't especially,

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like, say if we're at the club, we just expelled a lot of energy.

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We need some sustenance. You know what I mean?

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So, you know, we always have to stop and do that whole thing. I remember

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you talking. It was funny because we were coming back from the club and

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this was a while back, and I guess it was a time when finances

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were a little. A little tight. And you said,

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you know, it's really just. It's costing us a lot of money every time

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we come over here and we decide to get a room.

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And so if we're going to come over here, we're just not going to get

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a room. We're just going to have to come back home. Yeah. Because we don't

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drink. Right. So. So we can. We. We're driving. It doesn't matter. We're sober.

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Right. And then, you know, it's hot to have a hotel,

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but most of the time when we do that, we're at the sex

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club till like three in the morning and we've been having sex literally all

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night. So by the time we leave there, we don't want to bring anyone home.

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Yeah. Or bring anyone to the hotel. Yeah. Because we just

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want to go to bed. We. We want to eat and we gonna go to

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bed. And so the last thing we wanna do is bring anybody to the hotel.

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Yeah. And so that, that just changes everything.

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Yeah. Yeah. It's. It is a lot.

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It is a lot. Yeah. You know, and I know, like,

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it's okay. So, like, for us, we, we make

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arrangements ahead of time, we put it in our calendar,

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we try to budget around us. I've even told people,

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okay, so we're not going to go out until after the 15th. Yeah. Like,

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yeah. We're extremely transparent about. Yeah. If we cancel,

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we tell people why we canceled. We try to do it ahead of. Time,

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you know, but everybody seems to understand when it comes to finances.

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Like. Yeah. What I do like about this community, though, that I have

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noticed is when there's situations where,

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you know, everybody's doing stuff and there's one or two people that

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just don't have the money to the community kind of rallies

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behind them, and it's like, oh, I got you. Don't even worry about it.

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It just happened to us. Did it? Yeah, we had to go to a

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club, and we were like, well, we have a membership at this club, and it's

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cheaper for us to go to this club. And friends

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paid for us to go in. Oh, yeah, that's right. You know, our friends paid

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for us to go in, which we were very appreciative of. That was really

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cool. We just couldn't. We couldn't afford it. Right. We had.

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We had summer with the kids and, you know, and. And we really wanted to

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partake in that. And so it was really birthing graduations. And so we were

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like, man, money was tight. They paid for

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us to go in. And that was really cool, man. Yeah. Yeah, that was nice.

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So, yes, the community, we've.

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We've had, like, meet and greets and stuff

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like that, and friends have really rallied up to kind of

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help. Yeah. So things like that is. It is. It's really cool when you have

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a good community. But, yeah, everything costs, man.

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And then if you want to, like, travel outside of

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the area, like, like, not even in your own state,

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people go to, like, hido. Oh, yeah, yeah. They do

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cruises. The. Cruises. The resorts. The resort.

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There's people that maybe travel to other states

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because they know people out there and they go to the clubs out there

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and whatnot. And that, you know, that really is a big expense

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in and of itself are memberships to clubs.

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If you go enough or often enough,

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then it makes sense to get a membership, like a. Like a yearly membership

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or whatever. That kind of justifies

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it if you can lower the amount that you pay at the door.

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But they're pricey, man. These. I've never seen

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a real cheap adult club, and if I

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did, chances are it's probably pretty skeezy.

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I mean, sometimes they do sales, like, toward the end of the

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year. They give memberships. Yeah, they give, like, discounts, but I

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think we paid a full price for one of our memberships, and that's an

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easy $300. Yeah, three to $400. And then you still have

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to pay to get in. Yeah. And then it's still the door fee. Yeah.

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A lot of these clubs right now are doing a lot of, like, little discounts

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if you come in before a certain time. Yeah, they do different promotions and stuff

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like that, which is. Is very helpful, like, if you really want to get out.

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And, you know, they're going to have something like that and you know, you have

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a chance. Take up on it. Take up. Of course, you also got to consider

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the fact that everybody else is seeing that promotion and

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going, okay, we're going. Yeah. And so then you're, you're, you're going on

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busier times. You are. And get there early.

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Yeah, that's always the answer. So you have your babysitter,

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you have your clothing, you have all this, you have your travel time, you have

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your Uber. If you don't Uber, you have your car.

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Yep. You go on cruises, you go on this and that.

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Yeah. It is a. Go to clubs. It's a

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big cost. House parties. House parties. I was gonna say, you know,

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now it's. I, I don't know how true this is. I heard

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this. I have not read this. I haven't done my research on it,

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honestly. But I heard that it is

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against the law to charge for

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a sexual party.

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And I, I think, like, if you're gonna have sex, right, like, if we're,

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if we're having a, A down to fuck house party,

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we cannot charge $20 per

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couple or $30 per couple or whatever. We cannot charge that.

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I, I heard that it's against the law. And like I said,

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I don't know if there's any backing to this or not. I heard it's against

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the law and that the reasoning is kind

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of similar to the same as to why in

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the, in the sex clubs, at least here in Texas,

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they have the stripper poles and whatnot. And you can,

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you can dance. Yeah, you can dance on the stripper poles, but nobody can throw

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money. Money cannot be exchanged. Someone said something.

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Yeah, it was at one of the clubs when we first went and they gave

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us the tour and they said, yeah, you can dance up there and whatnot,

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but money cannot be exchanged. Is it because they don't have liquor

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license? Nope. I don't, I don't know what it is. I wonder what that is.

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But whatever it is, I, I think it's like a similar thing.

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Maybe that's why they asked for donation. So that's what I was gonna get at.

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So these house parties instead, they don't charge,

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but they say, we, we're asking for you to donate. Yeah.

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And then they have like, these prices and of course, you don't want to be

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the one that shows up and don't. Doesn't pay anything and then,

444
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,740
you know, ends up mooching and eating everybody's food and then going, all right,

445
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,740
see you guys later. But if you did, everybody would be okay with

446
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,700
it because it's just like, whatever. Yeah. You know. Yeah.

447
00:28:56,100 --> 00:28:59,860
For the most part, people in this community rally behind

448
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,780
each other. Yes. And if somebody says, okay, you know,

449
00:29:04,420 --> 00:29:07,140
this is. This is the donation. If everybody could.

450
00:29:07,570 --> 00:29:11,090
Everybody does. Yeah. You know, everybody does. And that's cool.

451
00:29:11,330 --> 00:29:14,690
That is. It is a really good community

452
00:29:15,190 --> 00:29:18,770
that we're in. Yeah. And. But. And. But, man, it costs, you know, like,

453
00:29:19,270 --> 00:29:22,650
my. My birthday's coming up. Your birthday's coming up.

454
00:29:23,150 --> 00:29:26,610
So. And that is El Costarun. It is. And I. I am.

455
00:29:27,090 --> 00:29:30,010
I'm the. I'm the person who down who does the finances.

456
00:29:30,510 --> 00:29:34,540
So she's my accountant. Yes. My boo bear here has always. Since we

457
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:38,980
were dating, has always deposited his check into

458
00:29:39,460 --> 00:29:42,900
our joint account. Yeah. I take care of all

459
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:47,220
the bills and kind of allocate

460
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:51,020
money here and there. So, you know, I have to make magic,

461
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:55,220
and I always know I'm gonna figure it out. She's. She's pretty incredible.

462
00:29:55,380 --> 00:29:58,980
I. I will say that, you know, there. There were times where

463
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:03,090
I had to do it, and I guess it would put me in a

464
00:30:03,590 --> 00:30:07,170
bad mood, and nobody likes for me to be in a bad mood. So that's

465
00:30:07,670 --> 00:30:10,090
when my wife is like, you know what? Don't worry about it. I'll, like.

466
00:30:10,590 --> 00:30:12,930
I think it was when I was really going through, like, menopause, like, the very

467
00:30:13,430 --> 00:30:16,369
beginning of it. Yeah. When I didn't have, like, my Adderall or anything. When I

468
00:30:16,869 --> 00:30:20,730
never have, because it would frustrate me. I would get very

469
00:30:21,230 --> 00:30:24,370
frustrated in the finances, like, we can't do anything. And you'd get mad because we

470
00:30:24,870 --> 00:30:28,320
couldn't do anything. Right. You didn't understand. Because I didn't know what was going on.

471
00:30:28,820 --> 00:30:32,080
You know what was going on. I didn't talk to you, so. So I took

472
00:30:32,580 --> 00:30:35,880
it back. And now I. I'm the one who does it. Right. You.

473
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:40,040
You just would rather not. I would really rather. No, I can,

474
00:30:40,540 --> 00:30:43,640
but I'd really rather so. He. He.

475
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,280
He's very cute. You are very cute. Oh. Like, we could be

476
00:30:47,780 --> 00:30:50,600
super broke and little spoiled brat here will still get his Dutch,

477
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:55,070
so. It's so good. It's best coffee. You know, if.

478
00:30:55,570 --> 00:30:58,790
If I'm having a hard day, am I having a hard time, Then I do

479
00:30:59,290 --> 00:31:02,470
tell him, stop and look at the bank account. Yeah.

480
00:31:03,110 --> 00:31:06,990
Yeah. But it's because I'm just having a bad day or

481
00:31:07,490 --> 00:31:09,909
I'm having a bad moment because I don't like you to look at the bank

482
00:31:10,409 --> 00:31:13,790
account. Oh, I don't like to look at the bank account so much.

483
00:31:14,290 --> 00:31:17,430
Yeah. And so things like that. Right. So it's.

484
00:31:18,390 --> 00:31:21,620
It's a. It's a funny little life here that.

485
00:31:21,860 --> 00:31:24,900
Well. And, you know, so that.

486
00:31:25,780 --> 00:31:29,220
That brings me to a cost that. That I used to accumulate,

487
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,740
not necessarily as a swinger, but just as a pervert, was that

488
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,420
I used to pay for only fans. Yeah. And so I had to have,

489
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,500
like, a monthly allowance of only fans. I had to cut back on that.

490
00:31:40,740 --> 00:31:44,060
Sometimes, you know, it's like, oh, no. There was a time the only

491
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,680
fans this month. Yeah. There was a time where I

492
00:31:48,180 --> 00:31:52,160
was the only one working because he was in school and

493
00:31:52,660 --> 00:31:55,400
I wasn't even working. Like, we would do our business, and then I would have,

494
00:31:55,900 --> 00:31:59,640
like, bar jobs at the end. At the, like the. Toward the end,

495
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,120
summer to the end of the year. Right.

496
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,880
And so I'd be like, what the fuck?

497
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,920
Like, why is there $20 to some place in California like,

498
00:32:10,420 --> 00:32:13,400
what the fuck is this? And it would say only fans. And.

499
00:32:13,730 --> 00:32:17,170
No, it doesn't. No, no. Oh, good. And I'm like, what the

500
00:32:17,670 --> 00:32:21,090
fuck? What did you buy? In the very beginning,

501
00:32:21,810 --> 00:32:25,010
he would say, oh, I got you a gift. It just hasn't come in.

502
00:32:25,510 --> 00:32:28,130
Oh, I remember that. I didn't know. I was cornered, and I was like.

503
00:32:28,210 --> 00:32:30,810
I knew he was lying, but I didn't want to call him out. I was

504
00:32:31,310 --> 00:32:34,330
a bad liar. And then finally he was like, well, you know, I look at

505
00:32:34,830 --> 00:32:38,410
only fans, and I'm like, well, that's fine, but you're cutting into some money we

506
00:32:38,910 --> 00:32:42,650
don't have because we'd go negative. And we

507
00:32:43,150 --> 00:32:46,890
finally gave him. He started working. I started working.

508
00:32:46,970 --> 00:32:50,450
I was like, I was making good money. I was making good money.

509
00:32:50,950 --> 00:32:53,050
And she's like, okay, I'll give you an allowance. Yeah,

510
00:32:54,010 --> 00:32:58,010
20$. Like 20. Sometimes I would give him 50. Be like, whatever you want.

511
00:32:58,090 --> 00:33:01,450
Well, so I only needed 20 because I would want.

512
00:33:01,690 --> 00:33:05,130
You know, I support sex workers, and I think

513
00:33:05,540 --> 00:33:08,740
only fans workers, you know, they need the support. Well,

514
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,300
in the beginning it was even better because you could see videos. Now they just

515
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,460
do. Now everything's pay per view. So it's like, you have. You have

516
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:20,460
to pay. I would. I would find these only fan girls that would charge

517
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:24,180
three to five bucks a month. And I would sign up for a month,

518
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,820
and I would enjoy their only fans for a month. But now you pay that

519
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,780
just to get in there to be told, you know, to be given

520
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:37,476
a little teaser and told, if you want this whole video, pay me 20,

521
00:33:37,604 --> 00:33:41,100
$30. And I'm like, that so now I'm

522
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,180
just straight free porn. But yeah, I, I,

523
00:33:44,580 --> 00:33:47,900
I really liked supporting the only fans,

524
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,900
girls, you know, the. You like supporting anybody who's doing

525
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,660
things like that. But we got to a point where it was like,

526
00:33:55,540 --> 00:33:59,150
I started one and I was like, okay, if they're not

527
00:33:59,650 --> 00:34:03,510
supporting us, we don't support them. Right. Like, that's just the way it's gonna

528
00:34:04,010 --> 00:34:06,590
be. Don't be taking, don't be taken from my mama. Don't be taking from my

529
00:34:07,090 --> 00:34:10,510
kids and giving to their kids. I don't think so. You ain't their sugar daddy.

530
00:34:10,990 --> 00:34:15,230
Like, we got to that. I feel like that's strippers

531
00:34:15,730 --> 00:34:19,310
bartering dancing services. It is. You don't, if you're a

532
00:34:19,810 --> 00:34:23,320
stripper, you don't go. I mean, you do. They do go and stripper

533
00:34:23,820 --> 00:34:26,560
to stripper. They will go and give you a dollar or whatever. When you're there,

534
00:34:27,060 --> 00:34:29,800
you go. Yeah, but no, yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like they have to support

535
00:34:30,300 --> 00:34:31,960
here much. Yeah. So it was that.

536
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,920
There's a lot of. Man, dude, hotels are

537
00:34:37,420 --> 00:34:40,080
expensive. I was just about to say, like. Just you need a place to,

538
00:34:40,580 --> 00:34:44,640
to, to, to have sex. Yeah. I mean, nobody wants

539
00:34:45,140 --> 00:34:48,730
to swamp in a car. Yeah. If you can't post, you know, I.

540
00:34:49,230 --> 00:34:52,610
Mean, they're, I'm talking about the first time. Like, maybe when you're comfortable

541
00:34:53,110 --> 00:34:55,490
with somebody, you can fool around in a car, but the first swap, you don't

542
00:34:55,990 --> 00:34:59,850
want to fucking. I've heard stories about that, by the way, of people like

543
00:35:00,350 --> 00:35:03,730
having. Oh, my goodness. Having their first swap in a car. Blows my mind.

544
00:35:04,050 --> 00:35:07,810
But yeah, I mean, you have to find a place to,

545
00:35:08,310 --> 00:35:11,450
to, to, to have sex. And not everybody can host. As a

546
00:35:11,950 --> 00:35:15,820
matter of fact, a large portion of people cannot host. Yeah.

547
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:20,140
Either because they have kids or family or roommates or whatever the situation

548
00:35:20,220 --> 00:35:23,660
is. There's a lot of people that just can't hope. Yeah.

549
00:35:23,820 --> 00:35:27,220
And so with that, it's okay, well, let's get a

550
00:35:27,720 --> 00:35:31,340
hotel. Yeah. Well, hotels are not cheap. Yeah.

551
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:35,060
No, even the gross ones are not cheap.

552
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,780
No. Oh, but we were talking about your birthday party. Oh, yeah.

553
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,190
How expensive that is. Yeah. Like throwing parties. Yeah.

554
00:35:42,670 --> 00:35:45,790
Like there's commute. There's places here that have,

555
00:35:46,290 --> 00:35:49,070
or there's people in our community that have Airbnbs. And so you can get them

556
00:35:49,570 --> 00:35:51,950
at a, at a discount if you reach out to the right people. Sure.

557
00:35:52,110 --> 00:35:55,270
Right. But even that, like you're having

558
00:35:55,770 --> 00:35:59,470
a celebration and you wanted to do that thing like you did the club for

559
00:35:59,970 --> 00:36:03,150
me. And I think we went out, but like that was,

560
00:36:03,870 --> 00:36:07,470
that was a pretty penny. Yeah. You know, and then

561
00:36:07,970 --> 00:36:11,780
we're doing your birthday. So that right there is going to be a pretty penny.

562
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:15,540
Oh, yeah. You know, and it's like you want to do

563
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,900
special things on special days and you know, if it's your anniversary, you want to

564
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,980
go. What? You know, you want to do this and that. So like

565
00:36:23,620 --> 00:36:25,700
between that and hotels. Yeah.

566
00:36:26,820 --> 00:36:30,220
Yeah. And then, you know, you could end up in

567
00:36:30,720 --> 00:36:34,220
a situation where you have a girlfriend that you have to

568
00:36:34,720 --> 00:36:37,550
pay for even though she says you don't have to.

569
00:36:38,510 --> 00:36:41,910
You're kind of old school and you kind of go, well, I should pay for

570
00:36:42,410 --> 00:36:45,150
her. Yes. You know, I kind of like her, so I should pay for her.

571
00:36:45,650 --> 00:36:49,030
Yes. And that's what ends up happening. And that's what ends up happening. But you

572
00:36:49,530 --> 00:36:53,390
know, I don't mind telling her, hey, maybe, I don't know, buy me a sandwich.

573
00:36:53,790 --> 00:36:56,350
She brought a potato. I know. She did. She did.

574
00:36:57,630 --> 00:37:01,230
We had breakfast today and she brought a big potato. She brought a potato,

575
00:37:01,390 --> 00:37:04,510
big potato. And a five pound bag of onions.

576
00:37:05,010 --> 00:37:08,610
Yes. She's, you know, always offers, but yeah,

577
00:37:09,110 --> 00:37:12,010
I mean, if you have another partner, you.

578
00:37:13,210 --> 00:37:16,570
Luckily you don't have to pay bills, but. But I mean, if you do have

579
00:37:17,070 --> 00:37:20,570
another partner, like say a couple situation that takes on another partner,

580
00:37:21,370 --> 00:37:25,410
you know, there's, there's situations where you, you wanna kind

581
00:37:25,910 --> 00:37:28,770
of buy them stuff and you. Wanna, you know, you want to be romantic,

582
00:37:29,270 --> 00:37:31,770
you want to be cute, like you want to get gifts. Right. You know.

583
00:37:32,310 --> 00:37:35,430
Oh, we got a cool gift, by the way. Yeah.

584
00:37:35,750 --> 00:37:39,110
Squirrel. Sorry. You want to buy gifts? You want to be,

585
00:37:39,990 --> 00:37:43,710
you want to take them out? Yeah, it's. And if you're

586
00:37:44,210 --> 00:37:47,630
doing it together, that's great. But like if you're doing that and then

587
00:37:48,130 --> 00:37:51,030
I'm doing that. Right. You know, Lucky for us,

588
00:37:52,070 --> 00:37:55,270
she's very even Steven. She's like, I know. I got it. No,

589
00:37:55,770 --> 00:37:59,030
I got it. Yeah. No, I got it. Yeah. Bringing her potato. So bringing

590
00:37:59,530 --> 00:38:02,890
her potato salsa. Yeah. No, I mean it, it does,

591
00:38:02,970 --> 00:38:07,050
it. Gets, it can get cost. It's costly just all around,

592
00:38:07,130 --> 00:38:10,490
right? Yeah. Yeah. And. And you know, I've,

593
00:38:10,990 --> 00:38:14,370
I've seen people say, well, if you can't, if you can't

594
00:38:14,870 --> 00:38:18,690
handle the cost of it, then you shouldn't do it. And I thought that's

595
00:38:19,190 --> 00:38:22,450
so lame. Come on, man. Like, that's lame. That's. You're saying

596
00:38:22,950 --> 00:38:26,370
that people cannot be a part of this, this community because. Because they

597
00:38:26,870 --> 00:38:30,060
brokey broke. Because they can't afford it. Maybe at that time.

598
00:38:30,220 --> 00:38:33,180
Dude, no. Oh, my God. You're talking of friendship.

599
00:38:33,260 --> 00:38:36,820
It doesn't cost. It doesn't cost. It doesn't have to. I was

600
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,940
just thinking right now, we, We're a couple,

601
00:38:41,180 --> 00:38:44,499
right? We are a couple. And it's like, it's. And we got the membership or

602
00:38:44,999 --> 00:38:48,220
whatever at the, at the club. These single people. Yeah,

603
00:38:48,720 --> 00:38:52,340
single men. Because, yeah, the women, we got it right

604
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,340
when we go into clubs, but, oh, my goodness, the single men,

605
00:38:56,370 --> 00:39:00,130
you guys pay a pretty penny just to go in.

606
00:39:00,450 --> 00:39:04,010
And then you can't even go to the back unless you're

607
00:39:04,510 --> 00:39:07,890
invited. Right. And if you're not invited,

608
00:39:08,370 --> 00:39:10,770
did you just spend, like, $200?

609
00:39:11,330 --> 00:39:15,090
So, like, you single guys, y' all have yalls? I think it's

610
00:39:15,590 --> 00:39:18,690
like 200 a night. Yeah. Oh, I,

611
00:39:19,190 --> 00:39:23,020
I, I don't ice from club to club. Yeah, it is a, A large

612
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:26,780
amount. It's a, it's a couple of bills just for the, the one time just

613
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:30,780
to go in. Yeah. And, like. And there's no guarantee that you're gonna get

614
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,140
anything or even talk to anybody. No. Yeah,

615
00:39:34,220 --> 00:39:37,299
it's. I have sympathy for

616
00:39:37,799 --> 00:39:41,100
that. Sometimes I'm like, oh, my gosh. Oh, maybe I should have sex with him

617
00:39:42,140 --> 00:39:45,580
because, you know, he dropped wallet. It's like,

618
00:39:46,060 --> 00:39:49,510
my gosh, if you're just gonna stand there and drink beer,

619
00:39:49,910 --> 00:39:53,630
you could put money in my pocket. We can go out to the parking

620
00:39:54,130 --> 00:39:56,710
lot. You can see me in my lingerie. Yeah.

621
00:39:57,350 --> 00:40:00,310
Yeah. You can scope me up from afar. From afar.

622
00:40:00,710 --> 00:40:03,750
It gave me the $200. That's right. Like,

623
00:40:04,470 --> 00:40:08,470
we were just talking about that last night. So. Yeah, it's, It's a cost.

624
00:40:08,790 --> 00:40:12,470
It is a cost. But is it. You can do it on a budget?

625
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:17,960
Is it possible to do it on a budget? Is it ways.

626
00:40:18,460 --> 00:40:21,760
How can you do it on a budget? Okay, so look for deals.

627
00:40:22,240 --> 00:40:25,880
Look for deals. Wait for special promos at clubs.

628
00:40:26,380 --> 00:40:30,280
Pick and choose. Yes. You know, find yourself a community. If you don't

629
00:40:30,780 --> 00:40:34,080
have it in your area, I'm sure you do. You know, there's,

630
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:39,200
there's platforms that give you a free trial. Yeah.

631
00:40:39,710 --> 00:40:43,310
Try them out. You know, ask your friends. But if

632
00:40:43,810 --> 00:40:47,630
you're new and you're trying to break into this, where do you start?

633
00:40:48,990 --> 00:40:52,190
As far you're brand new. Yeah. You're thinking about being a

634
00:40:52,690 --> 00:40:54,750
swinger. Yeah. Where do you start?

635
00:40:55,470 --> 00:40:57,390
Well, you really need to.

636
00:41:00,270 --> 00:41:04,030
You don't. It helps if you know people

637
00:41:04,350 --> 00:41:07,930
who are already in the community that can help expand. I know

638
00:41:08,090 --> 00:41:11,650
people get on the websites,

639
00:41:12,150 --> 00:41:16,010
like adultfriendfinder.com and stuff to link up with people and. And that's how

640
00:41:16,510 --> 00:41:20,410
they learn. I think that the actual. The initial

641
00:41:20,910 --> 00:41:23,610
costs. Yeah, yeah, for sure.

642
00:41:24,570 --> 00:41:28,130
You know, I know a lot of people that if. If they want to

643
00:41:28,630 --> 00:41:31,810
know more, they'll turn to podcasts like this about how

644
00:41:32,310 --> 00:41:36,060
to start out or how to break into the community. It really depends on what

645
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,700
you're looking for. That's what I was gonna say. Like, where. What are you into

646
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:44,340
a certain. Yeah, because cost, man. Oh, forget it.

647
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:48,060
Some. Some kinks cost high. Yeah.

648
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:53,180
Oh, man. They can get expensive. But like, anything. Like, anything things

649
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:57,260
can get expensive. Do you mean, like, the tools to also. If you're in a

650
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:01,340
kind of. Yeah, yeah. Now, like, wow. I didn't think about that. And I am

651
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:05,120
not well versed in these. In these different kinks, so don't quote me

652
00:42:05,620 --> 00:42:09,000
on this, but, like, you and I, we've. We've gone to a

653
00:42:09,500 --> 00:42:13,080
kink party before, and they had this one

654
00:42:13,580 --> 00:42:16,880
gal on that. That little cross. I forget what they're called.

655
00:42:17,380 --> 00:42:20,840
St. Andrew's Cross or something. I don't. I don't know what they're called. But they

656
00:42:21,340 --> 00:42:24,760
had her on there, and they were flogging

657
00:42:25,260 --> 00:42:28,480
her for a while. But this girl really liked pain to the point to

658
00:42:28,980 --> 00:42:32,620
where she was almost gonna pass out. And they were hitting her with all sorts

659
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,220
of shit. Like, they were hitting her with paddles and this and

660
00:42:36,720 --> 00:42:40,220
that. But at one point, they were hitting her with kitchen

661
00:42:40,300 --> 00:42:43,580
spatulas. We were there. We're there.

662
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,740
I don't remember that. Oh, I do. Well, no, because I was making. I had

663
00:42:48,240 --> 00:42:51,740
you laughing. I had you laughing because I was like, look at

664
00:42:52,240 --> 00:42:55,540
that. They're. They're gonna. They're gonna go to the kitchen and make. Go flip the

665
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:59,170
omelet. Oh, my God. I don't remember that. And you were laughing,

666
00:43:00,530 --> 00:43:03,730
and we had piled into the living room after that, and you just could

667
00:43:04,230 --> 00:43:07,850
not stop laughing. That specific joke gave

668
00:43:08,350 --> 00:43:11,890
you the giggles because all you could think of was flipping

669
00:43:12,390 --> 00:43:15,650
an omelet and smacking her ass with the spatula.

670
00:43:15,970 --> 00:43:19,170
Yeah, but I mean, that right there, I guess,

671
00:43:19,670 --> 00:43:23,500
is a form of budget on. On a kink. You know,

672
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,100
if you like to get smacked or. I just thought about that. Toys.

673
00:43:27,660 --> 00:43:29,980
Toys are very expensive. Condoms are expensive.

674
00:43:30,860 --> 00:43:35,260
Lubes are expensive. If you're sensitive like me. I am super,

675
00:43:35,900 --> 00:43:39,140
super sensitive. True. I can

676
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:43,740
only have certain condoms. I can only have. There's that website where

677
00:43:44,240 --> 00:43:47,660
you can get. Yes. Free condoms. I'm gonna

678
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:50,000
have to tell y' all what that is because we got a whole package,

679
00:43:50,150 --> 00:43:54,230
package of condoms. We did. And, and I think you can only, if I remember

680
00:43:54,730 --> 00:43:56,550
correctly, order them like once a month.

681
00:43:58,150 --> 00:44:01,270
But they sent you a very large package

682
00:44:01,990 --> 00:44:05,590
of, of just assorted condoms,

683
00:44:05,830 --> 00:44:09,110
different types of condoms. And you

684
00:44:09,610 --> 00:44:13,110
know, we're not picky, we're not especially free.

685
00:44:13,610 --> 00:44:16,780
Are you kidding me? Because man, condoms are pricey. You know what I was thinking

686
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,460
also, huh? Testing, testing, testing.

687
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:24,660
Well, there's a lot of clinics that do free testing. Okay. But of

688
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,500
course, if you have a doctor, you know, and you go to that doctor,

689
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,220
like we, we have a, we have our doctor. What? I mean like people that

690
00:44:31,720 --> 00:44:34,780
don't knee insurance, you know, like you'd have to find a place so.

691
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:37,980
Well, like I. A big one around here is the kind clinic.

692
00:44:38,700 --> 00:44:41,500
A lot of people go to the kind clinic around here. Those, those are.

693
00:44:41,580 --> 00:44:45,730
And then. So if you want like free condom and go to texaswear

694
00:44:46,230 --> 00:44:49,690
condoms.com if you're in Texas. I don't know, like if

695
00:44:50,190 --> 00:44:53,250
you're in France country or a different state, I'm not sure where you would go,

696
00:44:53,490 --> 00:44:57,290
but I would just Google like free condoms. And there's a lot

697
00:44:57,790 --> 00:45:01,650
of different places that will send out free condoms because

698
00:45:02,130 --> 00:45:06,330
they want people to use protection. I believe we

699
00:45:06,830 --> 00:45:10,770
use. Because I'm sensitive. We use our own. But I think, think clubs usually have

700
00:45:11,270 --> 00:45:15,250
condoms. I know I have left condoms there that, that you didn't

701
00:45:15,750 --> 00:45:19,170
like or that I didn't like. I'm not,

702
00:45:19,670 --> 00:45:23,090
I'm not sure. But also, if you're going to play and you don't have a

703
00:45:23,590 --> 00:45:27,010
condom, ask your friendly neighbor. It's like asking for sugar when you're in the

704
00:45:27,510 --> 00:45:30,410
club. Like, hey, hey, you got a condom? You know,

705
00:45:30,910 --> 00:45:34,050
some people pretty, pretty sharing with that. Luckily. Yeah,

706
00:45:34,290 --> 00:45:38,280
I think we all kind of agree that we should be safe.

707
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:41,440
Yes. And you know, if somebody comes up to us and is like, hey,

708
00:45:41,940 --> 00:45:45,080
do you have an extra condom? Because we don't have one. Yeah, yeah, here you

709
00:45:45,580 --> 00:45:49,120
go. I mean it is man. So you have

710
00:45:49,620 --> 00:45:51,480
condoms, you have that. There's.

711
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,320
There's so many like different things and. Oh, I mean there's a

712
00:45:56,820 --> 00:45:59,840
lot of stuff that we don't have that we want to get and we know

713
00:46:00,340 --> 00:46:02,920
it's going to cost like one of those yoga sex chairs.

714
00:46:03,690 --> 00:46:07,330
Yeah, one of those. I wanna, I wanna freaking little couch

715
00:46:07,830 --> 00:46:10,810
guy. A little couch guy. You know, the little yoga couch eyes or what is

716
00:46:11,310 --> 00:46:14,770
it called? You know, the ones that we, the, the club used

717
00:46:15,270 --> 00:46:18,810
to have. And it's like a kind of like. Yeah, the yoga sex couch

718
00:46:19,310 --> 00:46:22,090
yes. Yeah, I know. They're like 300 bucks.

719
00:46:22,650 --> 00:46:25,690
Really? I know. I still want them.

720
00:46:25,930 --> 00:46:29,690
I have, I have, I have looked it up. I still want them. Yeah.

721
00:46:29,770 --> 00:46:33,220
And, but like, I mean, all this stuff, it really cost.

722
00:46:33,720 --> 00:46:36,980
Like you said, the sex toys. Sex toys. Oh my gosh.

723
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:41,540
So expensive. Yeah, yeah. And, and you know, you want to

724
00:46:42,500 --> 00:46:47,660
add to your collection. Situations like that. And we're

725
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:51,140
Kents. Yes. You know, not, not a lot of people know that, but we,

726
00:46:51,540 --> 00:46:55,540
we do know our business as far as tax

727
00:46:55,620 --> 00:46:57,940
preparation and bookkeeping.

728
00:46:58,700 --> 00:47:02,780
And let me ask you something, Ms. Accountant. You're an accountant

729
00:47:03,660 --> 00:47:07,060
and we're accountants. But I'm asking you right

730
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:09,500
now, as far as taxes are concerned,

731
00:47:11,020 --> 00:47:14,060
as an OnlyFans person. Yes.

732
00:47:15,180 --> 00:47:19,740
Can you deduct your costs

733
00:47:20,240 --> 00:47:23,940
on adult toys if you're using them as a

734
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,640
form of, of entertainment for your business?

735
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:32,400
Rule of thumb, and if I am incorrect, it's because something has

736
00:47:32,900 --> 00:47:36,840
changed. But you can use your

737
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:41,160
lingerie write off. You can use your toy

738
00:47:41,660 --> 00:47:45,640
write off only if you use them for

739
00:47:45,720 --> 00:47:49,080
the business, period only.

740
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,160
So that means your little purple lingerie there, you are not going to

741
00:47:53,660 --> 00:47:57,530
use that to go out. That is business attire only.

742
00:47:58,730 --> 00:48:01,930
You know, you're gonna, you're gonna use

743
00:48:02,430 --> 00:48:05,650
that only for your business, your makeup.

744
00:48:06,150 --> 00:48:09,130
So just understand, anything you use for your business is for your right.

745
00:48:09,290 --> 00:48:13,210
You can't use it at the club, you can't use it anywhere

746
00:48:13,710 --> 00:48:16,890
else. It's not for personal use. It is for only business use.

747
00:48:17,390 --> 00:48:21,530
So, so this is not a dual situation because

748
00:48:22,030 --> 00:48:26,690
then, then you cannot, you cannot. Yeah. And people

749
00:48:27,190 --> 00:48:30,730
have asked me, can you use medical

750
00:48:31,530 --> 00:48:34,850
expenses that you have done because of your

751
00:48:35,350 --> 00:48:38,730
business? Yeah. So like, and stuff like that. There's a very

752
00:48:38,810 --> 00:48:42,090
fine, there was a very fine line

753
00:48:42,570 --> 00:48:45,850
to that if that is your business.

754
00:48:46,250 --> 00:48:49,850
So let's say content creator.

755
00:48:50,070 --> 00:48:53,430
You're a content creator and you're a content creator

756
00:48:53,670 --> 00:48:56,990
for like all day type of

757
00:48:57,490 --> 00:49:01,150
thing. Okay. You don't anything else. You're just a content creator

758
00:49:01,650 --> 00:49:04,910
the whole time business. And you want to enhance your body, you want to,

759
00:49:05,410 --> 00:49:10,190
you know, get implants. I don't know. I don't think that's

760
00:49:10,690 --> 00:49:13,070
a write off. I mean, it's a medical write off, but not a business write

761
00:49:13,570 --> 00:49:16,730
off. But I mean, I think

762
00:49:17,230 --> 00:49:20,170
that if. You'Re 24 7, I think something like. That would,

763
00:49:21,690 --> 00:49:25,890
it would get questioned. I think so. Yeah. But it's

764
00:49:26,390 --> 00:49:28,610
one of those that it would, it would have to get ruled on and you

765
00:49:29,110 --> 00:49:31,970
could appeal it. You could, you could, you know, if. You'Re willing to go all

766
00:49:32,470 --> 00:49:35,970
that that route. Yeah. But if you don't use

767
00:49:36,470 --> 00:49:39,490
it outside of your business. If you use it outside of your business and.

768
00:49:39,990 --> 00:49:42,090
No, you can write it off. Yeah. You know. Yeah.

769
00:49:43,650 --> 00:49:46,370
I have an. Only fans. We have.

770
00:49:47,250 --> 00:49:50,810
We have a business. So the things that

771
00:49:51,310 --> 00:49:54,450
I write off on our business is only. Because we use it at our business,

772
00:49:54,530 --> 00:49:57,810
we don't use it anywhere else. Right, Right.

773
00:49:58,290 --> 00:50:01,930
You won't see me in my lingerie. I'm not gonna write off my

774
00:50:02,430 --> 00:50:05,610
lingerie because I. I'm. Boo. I'm not bougie. Like,

775
00:50:06,110 --> 00:50:10,090
I'm gonna wear it anywhere I can wear. Yeah, yeah. No, we don't.

776
00:50:10,590 --> 00:50:12,530
We don't. I don't think that we're.

777
00:50:14,050 --> 00:50:17,290
We're not on those. No. For only fans.

778
00:50:17,790 --> 00:50:21,090
So it's more like just kind of a fun thing that we do. Yeah.

779
00:50:21,590 --> 00:50:24,690
Yeah. So, like. But people are. There's a lot of people that we know that.

780
00:50:24,770 --> 00:50:28,370
That really make a living off of that. And I don't

781
00:50:28,870 --> 00:50:31,610
know how they do their taxes. I'm just saying. Yeah. We. Us.

782
00:50:32,110 --> 00:50:35,230
I. I just know that you can't, you know, use it

783
00:50:35,730 --> 00:50:39,150
here and use it there. Yeah, yeah. But. Yeah, that's it. You know, I just

784
00:50:39,650 --> 00:50:42,870
said. I think that was an interesting one. Yeah. Yeah.

785
00:50:43,370 --> 00:50:46,870
But as swingers go, there's nothing that you can do. You cannot deduct

786
00:50:47,370 --> 00:50:50,870
your lifestyle. I am so sorry. On your taxes. Sorry, guys. It's just

787
00:50:51,370 --> 00:50:55,470
not possible. Maybe one of these days, you never

788
00:50:55,970 --> 00:50:59,030
know. Maybe. Maybe somebody can push for it and.

789
00:50:59,990 --> 00:51:02,470
Do, like, you have a certain lifestyle.

790
00:51:02,710 --> 00:51:06,640
That's right. If you're part of the lifestyle, you deduct these

791
00:51:07,140 --> 00:51:10,400
things. I mean, that would be cool in any type of

792
00:51:10,900 --> 00:51:14,840
lifestyle if you're like a hunter and you can deduct your guns

793
00:51:15,340 --> 00:51:18,040
and hunting material. But no,

794
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,880
sorry, guys. Well, hey, lifestyle is

795
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:25,320
expensive. Or can be. Maybe it is. It is. But it's

796
00:51:25,820 --> 00:51:29,520
fun. Worth it. You can do things on a budget. Look for

797
00:51:30,020 --> 00:51:33,360
your. Certain platforms. I mean, obvious stuff. You don't have to do it every weekend.

798
00:51:33,860 --> 00:51:36,890
You can do it once every once in a while. Like honey Boo was saying

799
00:51:37,390 --> 00:51:41,210
here, we. We had to cut back on some things we do. We were

800
00:51:41,710 --> 00:51:44,770
going to drive home. Yeah. We weren't going to stay. And if we can stay,

801
00:51:45,270 --> 00:51:48,730
I tell them ahead of time, hey, we can stay, or, hey, we cannot,

802
00:51:49,850 --> 00:51:53,330
because there was a time last year that we didn't even go out because it

803
00:51:53,830 --> 00:51:56,850
was just Christmas was about to come. Yeah. And then you were like, you know

804
00:51:57,350 --> 00:52:00,330
what? And we got to stop going to Waterburger after the. After the Club.

805
00:52:00,830 --> 00:52:04,220
It's costing too much. I'm going to start making us sandwiches.

806
00:52:05,340 --> 00:52:08,500
That didn't work. We still did. Well, we never did it. No,

807
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:12,860
we never did it. Carpool if you know like for us we live

808
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:16,140
out. We live an hour though. Yeah. If we can,

809
00:52:16,220 --> 00:52:19,820
we'll carpool. Yeah, if you can. If you can make friends

810
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:24,980
with other swing in the area. Yeah. We've actually stayed

811
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,540
the night with friends because it was out of town. Yeah.

812
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:32,240
And we were going to party in their neck of the woods and they have

813
00:52:32,740 --> 00:52:35,360
let us stay at their house a few times. Yeah.

814
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:41,600
We'Re. I'm part of a woman's only and they

815
00:52:42,100 --> 00:52:44,880
do. Or clothing swaps. Really.

816
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:48,320
Yeah. I don't ever partake. I may partake in the next one

817
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,800
just because I could use. I have some stuff that I just want to give

818
00:52:52,300 --> 00:52:55,760
away to people I've never worn. Sure. But yeah, they do

819
00:52:56,260 --> 00:52:59,040
like recycle outfits and ray and stuff.

820
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:02,010
I didn't know that. Yeah. Because I mean it's.

821
00:53:02,890 --> 00:53:06,330
It's expensive. Sure. Over time. Yeah. Right. Absolutely.

822
00:53:07,450 --> 00:53:11,210
So you stick to one main side, you6m but

823
00:53:11,710 --> 00:53:15,690
also if you want like sometimes there's like Netflix and

824
00:53:16,190 --> 00:53:20,210
chill type of nights, you know. Well, so I. What was funny was when

825
00:53:20,710 --> 00:53:24,410
we would. We would make dates with couples and

826
00:53:24,490 --> 00:53:27,970
I always felt bad because this would be our first meeting these couples and so

827
00:53:28,470 --> 00:53:31,270
there would be times where we didn't have the money but we were scrounge up

828
00:53:31,770 --> 00:53:34,510
what we could to meet up to have dinner or whatever. And you and I

829
00:53:35,010 --> 00:53:38,430
would. An appetizer or whatever and they would get to the point to where we

830
00:53:38,930 --> 00:53:41,590
just. Hey, why don't you guys just come over to the house. We'll cook and

831
00:53:42,090 --> 00:53:45,630
we'll cook and we've. Done that because it was just. It's not vanilla, but it's

832
00:53:46,130 --> 00:53:48,830
just. It's really is vanilla. Yeah, it really is. It's just. We're all sitting down,

833
00:53:49,330 --> 00:53:52,190
we're. We're eating a meal and we're talking. Yeah. It.

834
00:53:52,510 --> 00:53:55,910
A lot of people are standoffish about going

835
00:53:56,410 --> 00:54:00,080
to somebody else's house for their first meat. Yes. Because that's

836
00:54:00,580 --> 00:54:04,360
just strange and that sort of thing. But hey man, for us we would rather

837
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:08,640
hold on to our money. We're gonna make ourselves dinner anyways.

838
00:54:09,140 --> 00:54:11,440
We can just make a little bit extra. You guys come over, we can sit

839
00:54:11,940 --> 00:54:15,800
down and have a meal and it's free for you guys and

840
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,560
we can all enjoy getting to know each other and then you guys can chat.

841
00:54:20,060 --> 00:54:23,640
Yeah. You know, you can have social events with your lifestyle friends.

842
00:54:23,720 --> 00:54:27,240
Game nights. Oh, dude, game nights are the best. Game nights

843
00:54:27,740 --> 00:54:31,260
are so much fun. Yeah. You know, or just sitting down and you

844
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:35,060
put on a movie off scene and then you start talking. Because you can't

845
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:38,740
really have a conversation at the club. Yeah. Like, that is

846
00:54:39,240 --> 00:54:42,460
a very good point. You can't meet and greets. It's tough. It's tough.

847
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:46,780
You know, for instance, we're having your party and I'm

848
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:51,020
doing it potluck. Because I was like, man, I'm already spending a good penny

849
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:55,020
on the whole social event part. Yeah. It's like our.

850
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:57,880
My friend was like, Our friend was like saying, well, just do it as a

851
00:54:58,380 --> 00:55:02,120
potluck. And I was like, that's a really good idea. Yeah. If you bring food

852
00:55:02,620 --> 00:55:05,640
or if you don't bring food, if you're, you know, bring your own drinks and

853
00:55:06,140 --> 00:55:10,120
stuff like that. So that's. Those are things that you can do and attend.

854
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:13,800
Maybe, maybe a. A dish or

855
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,600
some sort of food item can be their donation.

856
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,960
How is it. We've gone to many parties where that's how.

857
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,640
Yeah, that's what they want. Like bring something that you can share. Yeah.

858
00:55:26,140 --> 00:55:29,400
You know, or the people that'll bring.

859
00:55:29,900 --> 00:55:32,720
Cookies or donuts or a charcuterie board. Charcuterie board.

860
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:35,840
Yeah. You know, so the community is there.

861
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:38,800
You just gotta find it. So you can do this on a budget. Yeah,

862
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:42,960
it is possible. You know, a good example is

863
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:46,640
we're. We're doing a. We're partaking in a very

864
00:55:47,140 --> 00:55:51,490
big event in a couple weeks where several

865
00:55:51,990 --> 00:55:55,250
different. Gosh. I mean, it's, it's going to be hundreds of

866
00:55:55,750 --> 00:55:59,010
people taking over a large portion of the

867
00:55:59,510 --> 00:56:03,210
beach and incredible, incredible. Port Aransas beach

868
00:56:03,710 --> 00:56:07,650
takeover and I. Now we're a

869
00:56:08,150 --> 00:56:11,490
few weeks away and there's well over 550 plus people that

870
00:56:11,990 --> 00:56:15,910
have reserved. They're going. And that is one

871
00:56:16,410 --> 00:56:19,750
specific group creating this. Right. But. But they shared with other ones.

872
00:56:20,250 --> 00:56:23,750
Yeah. And it's, it's. It's really grow over the past, what, five. I think

873
00:56:24,250 --> 00:56:28,350
they said five or six years. Yeah. And it literally takes.

874
00:56:28,750 --> 00:56:32,430
So this right there. That is the biggest cost that we have ever

875
00:56:32,930 --> 00:56:36,110
spent on an event. It's.

876
00:56:36,610 --> 00:56:39,230
And it isn't. So I mean, it really depends. And that's what I was getting.

877
00:56:40,030 --> 00:56:42,190
If we lived in Corpus. Yeah.

878
00:56:42,910 --> 00:56:45,670
Which is where. Where we were. We used to live.

879
00:56:46,170 --> 00:56:49,990
Yeah. Where it's at is just a small drive away. And in that

880
00:56:50,490 --> 00:56:54,550
case it would have only cost us $15 for entry

881
00:56:55,050 --> 00:56:59,150
fee, essentially donation to take part in it. Right. For a 15 donation.

882
00:56:59,650 --> 00:57:03,070
Yeah. To take part in it. And so that's.

883
00:57:03,570 --> 00:57:07,270
That's pretty cheap. But of course for us we're not. We're not out there anymore.

884
00:57:07,770 --> 00:57:10,560
So now it's going to cost us some stay.

885
00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:14,640
So people. And, and so look, this is. Let's just

886
00:57:15,140 --> 00:57:19,280
tell you how good this community we. You get a condo

887
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:22,400
or you get a room and you share it. Yeah.

888
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:27,000
So like we are sharing a house with three

889
00:57:27,500 --> 00:57:30,880
other couples. Yeah. We all put in a certain amount of money

890
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:34,240
and you have it for many days. Yep. Oh,

891
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:39,440
there's that cost. Plus they all

892
00:57:39,940 --> 00:57:43,560
of us have agreed to make a meal, you know, for.

893
00:57:44,060 --> 00:57:48,400
For a day or whatever. Some place. Some people even are

894
00:57:48,900 --> 00:57:53,840
doing. Yeah. Like make meals person. Like I've heard that. I've heard people

895
00:57:54,340 --> 00:57:56,600
are just going to be doing it on the beach and just having like meals

896
00:57:57,100 --> 00:58:00,320
for people. Right. Like community. Community style meals.

897
00:58:00,980 --> 00:58:04,980
But they're. They're people bringing their RVs.

898
00:58:05,940 --> 00:58:09,100
They're sharing their RVs with other in the community. Man, I love

899
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:13,060
this community. They're really. It is great. And it's an awesome group. You said 500.

900
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:17,540
We were just talking about this. That's just the people like on Facebook

901
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:21,300
and stuff that I preserve. But some have joint counts.

902
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:24,860
Yeah. Like. And there's still a lot of people that. That are going to go

903
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:28,660
last. Yeah. Yeah. This is a really, really large event.

904
00:58:29,330 --> 00:58:32,410
At usually that week because we miss. This is going to be our first time

905
00:58:32,910 --> 00:58:35,970
because we were so FOMO last year. We were like could have gone what is

906
00:58:36,470 --> 00:58:40,050
this? We. Because we're from that area. We have been out there

907
00:58:40,530 --> 00:58:44,170
and seen. It's. It's for miles and

908
00:58:44,670 --> 00:58:48,890
it really is. It's miles of just amazing humans having

909
00:58:49,390 --> 00:58:52,850
a really good time. And we have little parties

910
00:58:53,350 --> 00:58:57,250
out there. But I was just thinking Jorde is making

911
00:58:58,690 --> 00:59:01,490
so much money during this time.

912
00:59:01,970 --> 00:59:06,010
During that time. It's already a summer place. Yeah. I mean it's. It's like

913
00:59:06,510 --> 00:59:10,090
another spring break almost. It really is. And I

914
00:59:10,590 --> 00:59:14,130
think they like already prepare for us. You know, I don't

915
00:59:14,630 --> 00:59:17,810
know. It makes sense. I think that it's. It's been a while and it's really

916
00:59:18,310 --> 00:59:21,850
exploded. I think this year is really going to be big. Yeah. And I'm

917
00:59:22,350 --> 00:59:26,530
super excited because it's going to be. It's fun and we.

918
00:59:26,610 --> 00:59:29,610
We made sure we had the money ahead of time and we pay for it

919
00:59:30,110 --> 00:59:33,330
and we, you know. Yeah. And usually during that weekend people

920
00:59:33,830 --> 00:59:36,850
will actually post. Hey, we still have an extra room if you're going to come

921
00:59:37,170 --> 00:59:41,010
this is how much it is. And so, and if you can't

922
00:59:41,510 --> 00:59:45,850
afford it, talk to your friend. If you want to go find

923
00:59:46,350 --> 00:59:49,580
somebody who's there, be great community.

924
00:59:49,820 --> 00:59:53,180
Oh, man, it's great, great community. And I

925
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:56,860
really hope people that you're, if you're not from this area where we're at and

926
00:59:56,940 --> 01:00:00,220
you find yourself a community like that.

927
01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:04,100
Yeah, right. I mean, it was kind of cool that we

928
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:07,820
found it. Oh, I loved it. Like, it's, it's really nice.

929
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:11,900
So. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, we're gonna, we're gonna start wrapping up,

930
01:00:12,140 --> 01:00:16,150
but on, we are talking about Takeover

931
01:00:16,650 --> 01:00:20,710
in a couple weeks. We are actually going to be doing some on

932
01:00:21,210 --> 01:00:23,910
the spot podcast recording out there.

933
01:00:24,550 --> 01:00:29,070
We're going to be talking to some people and so we're

934
01:00:29,570 --> 01:00:31,870
going to be changing up our format a little bit. We're going to be adding

935
01:00:32,370 --> 01:00:36,110
some people in. We're going to be just kind

936
01:00:36,610 --> 01:00:40,110
of throwing, throwing a little different voices

937
01:00:40,610 --> 01:00:44,480
out there, listening to the community, hearing from

938
01:00:44,980 --> 01:00:48,800
the people around the need, the want, and people who know way more about

939
01:00:48,960 --> 01:00:52,120
things that we don't. Because there's a lot of stuff that

940
01:00:52,620 --> 01:00:55,760
we don't know and it's good to hear that

941
01:00:56,260 --> 01:00:59,440
from others that maybe don't have access to that, you know.

942
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:04,520
So we will be out at this huge Port

943
01:01:05,020 --> 01:01:07,520
Aransas beach takeover in the coming weeks.

944
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:11,640
We'll be doing some, some podcast shows out

945
01:01:12,140 --> 01:01:16,200
there. We may have a few different ones. And you know,

946
01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:20,120
if you manage to travel to that area and you

947
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:23,520
know what we're talking about and you're going to be out at that

948
01:01:24,020 --> 01:01:27,160
takeover, come and find us. We're going to be near the,

949
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:30,920
the main tent there we'll be set up. So,

950
01:01:31,160 --> 01:01:34,750
you know, come by, stop by, say hello. We would

951
01:01:35,250 --> 01:01:39,070
love to meet you. If you listen to the podcast,

952
01:01:39,570 --> 01:01:43,270
by all means, please, we are very approachable. Please come

953
01:01:43,770 --> 01:01:46,950
and say yes. Yeah, we, we absolutely love to talk to people

954
01:01:47,450 --> 01:01:50,750
who listen to the show. They're just, I mean, it's, it's, it's a fun banter.

955
01:01:51,250 --> 01:01:54,470
It is. And, and I always like to hear what others have

956
01:01:54,970 --> 01:01:58,710
to say. So, yeah, if you manage to find yourself out

957
01:01:59,210 --> 01:02:03,620
there during that time, we're going to be out there, look for us and

958
01:02:04,020 --> 01:02:07,700
be sure and say hello. Yeah, yeah. Outside of

959
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:12,420
that, we love to hear from our listeners, especially on

960
01:02:13,300 --> 01:02:17,060
messenger. And, you know, if you go to our Facebook,

961
01:02:17,140 --> 01:02:21,180
you can find our phone number there, which you can leave us a voicemail

962
01:02:21,680 --> 01:02:25,140
or a text message. You're welcome to email us at.

963
01:02:25,640 --> 01:02:29,220
Beyond Monogamy 4, you gmail.com that's Beyond Monogamy.

964
01:02:29,720 --> 01:02:32,520
Number four letter umail.com and,

965
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:35,960
you know, tell us a story. Let us know what you,

966
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:39,240
what you think. Different things like that. If you want something read on the air,

967
01:02:39,740 --> 01:02:43,400
let us know. Yeah, but we do love to hear from all of you.

968
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:48,520
And with that, we're gonna. We're gonna say adieu. And we

969
01:02:49,020 --> 01:02:50,280
will see you next week.

970
01:02:59,180 --> 01:03:14,780
Sam.