Midlife Mischief: Confidence and Sexuality Unleashed

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Hello, and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris. And welcome. Because this is where we

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keep it hot and fun, and we keep it real. That's right. We're your

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favorite midlife mischief makers, and tonight, we're getting into it.

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We're talking sex, aging, and confidence, because,

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yes, baby, we still got it. Yes, we do.

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Just because it's, you know, birthday candles are stacking up doesn't mean that you,

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you know, the fire's out. So, in fact, we'd argue

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that it's burning hotter than ever. Facts. Yeah,

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let's get into it. Let's do this, man.

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Because, you know, we are over 40. We are. And most

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of our. Most of the crowd that we're in is over 40.

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Usually, like, it's. There's some that are not. There's some that are older.

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There's some. I mean, there's some that are younger. Excuse me. Yeah. So, like,

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even, like, in this age, I feel. I feel sexier.

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I will tell you that. You know, bodies change as

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you get older. Hormones, they get weird. You know all about that.

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And skins get looser. That's right. But,

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oh, and also, like, the, like, orgasms, I feel like the older you get,

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they're like. They take longer to get. Do they? I was like. Yeah. Like,

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I feel like when I was, like, in my, like, 20s, and maybe

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when we first. First. First started getting together. Yeah. They were faster.

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Really? Yeah. Well, you and I were just talking about that.

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So when we first started, I remember telling you, okay, it takes me a long

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time to come. And I remember it. It did.

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And then somehow you managed to get me so hot and bothered that it didn't.

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Yeah. And then you helped me master the art of the quickie, which is nice.

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Yeah. And now it takes me a long time to come. But I think that

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has to do with the antidepressant that I'm on. I. You say. You say that.

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I think so. I think so. And, I mean, it's Also, like,

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the. The. Like your libido. Right. Like, it's libido.

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Libido. Like, it's a little bit different than it was when

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you were in your 20s or in your 30s, I guess.

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I mean, it's for, like, for me. Right. So I feel like

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it's definitely the menopause that has,

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like, slowed. Slowed it down or made it kind of. So I. So. Well,

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so let me tell you from a. From a husband standpoint, when menopause was

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for our relationship. And I know that there's a lot of men

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out there who maybe are in the similar situation. Being a husband

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to a wife who's going through menopause at the very beginning or perimenopause

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even, is a little difficult at times. And it's. And people think it's

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because, oh, well, she's getting upset or she's dealing with emotions.

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That's only half the battle. I remember when you first started and you

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made it real clear to me, you were like, I'm not feeling very sexual.

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Yeah. And I'm really struggling to feel sexy. I'm struggling

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to have any kind of sex drive. And I know that you really

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want it all the time. And so I just don't want this to affect our

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relationship. And I was like, okay. Yeah, that's cool. Yeah. And so

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obviously, it was already a struggle to get you,

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like, really into the lifestyle. I always felt like I was really

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kind of the one who was enjoying it more than you, and it was just

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not, you know, that great. I didn't feel like we were both really pushing for

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it. And then one day, out of nowhere,

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you. It's like you woke up and you were horny.

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Like, you were horny. And you were like, I can't get enough.

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And I think we had sex like, nine or ten times in that one

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day. And that was a work day. And I remember thinking, holy shit, what's going

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on? And you were like, I don't know. I just feel really just like a

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cat in heat. I just can't get enough. Yeah. Because it comes in, like waves.

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So, like, I get. In the beginning, it was definitely

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something that I just noticed. I'm very submissive to

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you. And so, like, in the mood or not in the mood? I'm gonna give

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it to you. And then you kind of get me in the mood. Right,

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Right. I mean, that's just the way it is. Yeah. And. Cause I'm always in

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the mood. Yeah. And so it kind of. First of all, it hit

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me hard. Menopause I didn't even know that it was there. Yeah. And then

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I was like, okay, you know, it's like

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a surprise orgy. You just have no idea, like, what's gonna

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happen. You don't know who's gonna show up. You don't know who's gonna show up.

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If it's this Priscilla or that Priscilla. Like, you just don't know.

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Yeah. And so for you and I, I don't. I, I'm in

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like, my fifth or sixth year in menopause,

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and so I don't have, I have the hot

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flashes, which does not make it fun for, like, cuddling.

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I don't have, like, the vaginal dryness.

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Although I was told by a doctor that no matter what, whether vaginal dryness

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or not, you should always use lube. We'll get to that later.

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And I mean, like, I don't, I don't have, like, right now

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I'm at a very high peak where I, I feel

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good. Yeah, I feel good mentally. I feel good in my body.

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No, my sex drive is, it has its waves, but it's definitely on

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the higher point right now. Right on, right on. Like,

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I don't feel the, the. Oh my God, what do I do?

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I mean, I get my moods. I get my moods. They come back and forth,

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back and forth. But sure, that could also be that I'm on ADHD

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meds and they wear off and, you know, I have a lot of shit.

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But yeah, yeah, well. And you know, from my, from my end,

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I'm surrounded by a lot of 40 and 50 year olds who,

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A lot of the men, they're like, oh, man, I'm exhausted.

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I can only go one round or this. You know, it's like a

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lot of, A lot of the guys in my circle, they'll give me a hard

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time because I'm always like, ready to go. You know, they listen to the podcast

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and they're like, geez, man, come on, why don't you match up with the rest

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of us? You know? And I, I, my explanation

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is very simple. I have been inactive all my life. I have not

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been active. So I've always been out of shape.

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I've always been very large. You know, I was always the big

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boy growing up. I've always had a high sex drive, but I've also always

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been very, very, just overweight. And so I've never been

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in shape. Well, 4, 40 hit. 40 hit hard.

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Yes. And I remember thinking, if, you know, we're, we're in

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our 40s now. This is Where a lot of the time when you

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go see the doctor, they're like, okay, we're gonna need you to start eating right.

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We're gonna need you to start doing this. We're gonna need to start doing that.

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Like, it all starts going downhill. It does. And so I kind of got

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a little scared, and I said, okay, as soon as I turn 40,

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literally, I gave myself. My. My birthday

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month, which was August, and I was like, okay, as soon as my birthday month

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is over with starting September, I'm going strict. And I started losing

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weight, and I lost well over a hundred pounds. I started putting

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on more muscle, and I'm not where I need to be. I'm not where I

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want to be, but I have definitely. If you compare

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me to when I was 38, very, very different

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look. Very different look. Yeah, for sure. And so I

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don't know if. If it's because I've never been in shape, and now

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I'm being more active in my 40s. I don't have

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the knee problems that my friends have. I don't have the back problems that my

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friends have. No, I can. I'm not an acrobat, but I can get

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down, man, and, you know, I can. I can get loose and.

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And play around and have some fun, and I.

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I can do so for several hours, even all night, and I'm gonna

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be okay. Yeah. Yeah. So I. You know, I think between the

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high sex drive and just an unused body that's

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finally starting to get used. Yeah. You know, it's. It's almost like I'm

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in my prime right now. I'm loving it. I mean, so we're adjusting. Like,

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we're trying to figure out what. What works for us. You know, I mean,

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we are not very. We. You and

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I do not have, like, rough sex. That's not what we do. And I feel

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like it's gotten. Since I kind of expressed what I wanted, it's kind of gotten

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more. A little slower, a little more sensual,

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Deeper connections. Yeah. You know, so, like,

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with the getting older and trying to, like,

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figure out the lifestyle, we've kind of

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gotten down pretty much to where we want to be, I think. So.

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You know, what people forget is that the whole point of this is to evolve.

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You. You know, it's like the person that you start in the journey is

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not the person that you should still be years later. No. You know what I

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mean? You want to grow. You want to learn more about the people around you

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and what you like and what you don't like. And what your spouse likes and

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doesn't like. Like, there's a lot of stuff you should be learning. Yeah.

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And evolving through. Yeah. And I mean, so we're getting older. The confidence.

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I feel like I am way more confident now than I was in my.

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When we first started in my early 30s. I'm definitely

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on the older side. Right. I'm 47. Oh, yeah. You are

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47. I am. I'm 47. And so I know certain

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things come with age and whatnot, but I feel great.

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Do you? I do. I feel good. There's moments, of course,

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where I'm like, I'm just exhausted. But, I mean,

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I do run a whole household of

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humans. We have a. We have a lot going on. We do. All the time.

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All the time. And it's. It's. It is tiring, but we do make the best

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of it, and it doesn't really. We're kind of rolling with the punches.

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We're doing our best. Yeah. This is the most active we've ever been before.

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Now, I will say you brought it to confidence, in which I love, because,

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as you may have heard, 2025. Yes.

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Is the year of confident, Adam. Now, if you've been listening to us since the

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very first podcast that we dropped back in Thanksgiving of 2024,

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you will know that during November and during December,

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I wasn't that confident. I struggled. But 2025 is

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the year of confident, Adam, And I will tell you that a lot has changed

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for me because of that. Yeah. You know, I mentioned the whole fake it

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till you make it. Obviously, I didn't have the confidence going into it. Here we

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are in, you know, just about summertime of 2025,

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which just blows my mind. Like, the time's going by fast.

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Just in that amount of time, I feel like I've

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made it. I faked it till I made it. And I feel

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legitimately confident in myself. Yeah, I do.

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I do. I do. I think I look good. You do?

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I can. You know, body dysmorphia is a thing I was telling a friend of

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mine the other day. It is really difficult because

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there's just something about it. You know, it's like you. You see yourself in one

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minute, you're going, oh, wow, I look good. And then the next minute, you turn,

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and it's like, oh, my go. God, what was that? So that's always a struggle,

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but I. I do celebrate myself a little bit more

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this time around. I feel like I'm looking better. I'm getting the attention of

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some very pretty ladies that I've, I've always wanted

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to get attention from. And so, you know, I think, I think I'm

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doing all right, you know, and I'm feeling pretty confident in my abilities.

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There you go. And then, you know, I'm not a disappointment in bed.

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I'm no slouch in bed. No, no, you're not. No. I can do some things.

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Yeah. And that, that doesn't mean that I can just like, you know,

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eat it. Like, I can, I can do it all. Like, I know, I know

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a bunch of guys, they're like, oh, man, I'm amazing in bed. I can do

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this and I can do that. And really all they can do is just give

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amazing head because they're overcompensating for their

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lack of libido. But no, I, I'm like an all

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around. Yeah. I'm no Kobe, but I, I, I think I'm a mid level player,

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you know, I feel like I can get down. You're good? I'm good. Yeah.

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I'm good. Yeah. That was my confident rant, guys.

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I mean, so the community is. Confidence is like the

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currency. So it's not like being the youngest or the skinniest. It's about the vibe

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when you walk in. And we definitely, I feel like we're

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there. Like, we have. You have to exude confidence because it's sexy.

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You know, I've always wanted that whenever we want. Like, because when we

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used to walk into meet and greets and house parties, I felt very timid.

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I felt like we walked in with no confidence. We didn't know where to go.

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We never knew the people. Yeah. And we would see other people, like in their

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50s, you know, you knew that they were just,

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it really wasn't even about their age as much as it was about

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the fact that they were confident in themselves. And they would just walk in and

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it was like, oh, yeah, we've done this before. Where do we go? Who's this?

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Who's that? Oh, nice to meet you. That sort of thing. That confidence is sexy

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as it is. It is. Like when, now, when we

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go, I am, I'm usually the one dragging us around.

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Not anymore. I'm getting better. You like to stop and talk to

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absolutely everybody. I. So I will say I'm, I'm very bad in the fact that

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you, because. You don't know when to cut it off. Well, because you say you're

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like, okay, you ready to go? And I'm like, yes, let's go. And. But then

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you're like, okay, let's sneak out the back. And I'm like, well, we can't leave

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without saying goodbye. And then if we're going to say goodbye to a small few

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people, they're normally talking to others, and then we got to say goodbye to them.

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Then before, you know, we're walking all around saying our goodbye to her, you know?

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Yeah, yeah. But, I mean, important. I don't know. So it's not

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even the goodbye. It's just like the hellos. Yeah. Like,

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we go in, and I feel like we're.

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I kind of walk in with a little bit of, like, confidence. I. I can

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do the thing where everyone is not

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looking at me. So I just kind of walk in and I'm like,

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to everybody who I want to say hi to, go say hi. And then I

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just kind of just. I'm the opposite. I don't want to know. I feel like

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everybody's watching. I don't. And I probably are, but I don't want to know who's

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looking at me. I don't want to feel. Because I.

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The confidence is there, but still, I get shy, and I'm like,

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oh, my God, let's just go say hi, everybody. I do. What the. I mean,

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I have confidence. I don't even get shy, man. I'm standing

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there, and we're in a circle, and we're talking to all these people, and I'm

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normally scanning the area that we're around to see

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who's looking at us, because normally somebody will be looking at us,

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and I'll catch somebody's eyes, and it'll be like, oh, hey, what's up? You know,

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and that sort of thing. Or they'll come and see us or that sort of.

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You know, I'm always scanning the room. Plus, I'm always looking because,

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I mean, I just. I like women, and I'm a fan of scoping them

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out, you know, so I'm always scanning. I'm just like, okay, is she one of

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us? I don't know. Let's go find out. I mean, I do that, too.

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I know, but you're making yourself sound like you're this timid little Chihuahua. You are

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not. No, what I'm saying is, when we go in, I feel confident,

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but I don't. I just kind of go in and say hi to everybody,

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and then I get to my section, is what I'm saying. Like, we used to

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go from place to place, though, and couple to couple, and. Yeah,

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I find it's hit or miss when we go to, like, Meet and greets

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and we, and we stop at couple to couple and say hello and this and

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that. Some couples we'll introduce ourselves to and say hi

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and it's just like this weird staring moment. Like you can tell they have no

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idea what to say. And if we don't say

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anything, we're all just going to stand there and stare at each other. And that's

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happened a few times before and it's like, okay, well we're going to go over

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here now, we'll see you later and we'll keep moving and other people you

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can introduce and man, it's like you just pulled their string.

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And eventually you're like, hey, I gotta go to the bathroom.

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So I'll be back, I'll check you later.

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That's right, I'll come back, I'll be back. I will, I will check you another

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time. And if I don't, feel free to hit me up on messenger.

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And say what? And just say, hey, I saw you.

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And I saw you. And I saw you. I saw you sneak

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out the back door. Yeah. No, I mean, so, yeah. So in

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this age that we're in confidence, right? You want to

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have that confidence, you want to feel sexy? We try. Yeah,

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we try. And yeah, there's like these 20 year olds and

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30 year olds that come in and I don't know, my body still feels like

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I'm in my 20s. Does it? In, in the inner part of my

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body. The inner part was like your bones. Like inside

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my soul. I feel like I'm in my 20s. Your organs? Yeah.

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Oh my God. No, definitely. I don't know, I mean, you bend

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like a 20 year old, I'll tell you that much. I, I can, I can

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bend you in all sorts of ways and I, I'm always worried that I'm hurting

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you. I know you always. For years. Still. Still years.

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Just yesterday I know I had you, I had you like a pretzel.

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Yeah. You were like one of those little elephants. Was that this morning? Yeah,

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I think it was actually both. Yeah, I think. But both times

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it's like I had your legs over my shoulders and you

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know, I kind of push down on them. Yeah. So I can get in

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deeper. You're like my stretching guru. Like you stretch my legs and I love

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it. I stretch you inside and out. Yeah. But I, you know,

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I do it for so long, but if I'm taking a long time, I'm like,

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she's gotta be, she's gotta be hurting. Like I've

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got her just bent in Half. I don't even focus on.

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It's really. Really kind of impressive that

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you've been that way. I'm very bendy. Oh, man. Like, you're like.

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Yeah, you. You bend like a wallet, man. Twisty ones.

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Yeah, it's incredible. Like, I'm. I'm just so impressed. Plus, I'm impressed by our bet.

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Boy, that thing's taken, right? Yeah, that thing's got some road miles, man,

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let me tell you. Yeah, yeah. You know, we. We try to.

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We try to keep up with the. With the. Yeah, it's got

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a memory foam, and it is. It remembers a lot. It does.

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Remembers a lot. It does. I mean, it is. It is. It is a good

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bed. So, like. Okay, so we definitely know

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that with this age thing, because that's what we're kind of discussing, right?

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Like, it happens. It's just. It's just

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what happens? It's just what it is. Now, do you feel.

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I think you kind of touched base a little bit because you said,

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like, your orgasms take a little bit longer now. Well, yeah, that's the antidepressant.

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Yeah. And you really think it's your entity? Oh, I guarantee you. Because literally before

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I started taking it, it was fine. And it takes me even longer to come

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now when I'm masturbating. Really? Yeah.

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Yeah, man. And I used to be able to, like, switch hands and gain a

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stroke. Like, I was. I was a pro. Like, I could pop one off really

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fast. Give me two, three minutes. Maybe you need to set the mood. For myself.

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Yeah. Should I just light a bunch of candles around me? Light a bunch

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of candles. Play some Boys to Men? Bended knee.

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Yes. Yeah. No, I don't think so. And just kind of like, I don't need

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to romance myself. I don't even do that with you. I'm. Buy myself flowers.

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I can buy myself flowers. No, take yourself dancing.

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No, I don't appreciate myself enough for that. I treat my body the way a

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person shouldn't. Well, I mean, I'm sure that you're not the only person. So for

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you, it's. It's your medication. Yeah. I. I want to say. And it's not.

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It's not horrible. It's not like I. It's not. It's really not. It's just

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extended a bit longer. It makes it to where, like, even a friend of mine,

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she was like, I don't think that you're really able

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to have a quickie. And I'm like, I don't. I don't know. I don't think

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so. I mean, it depends on how hot it is. Like, the situation can

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be really, really hot. And it doesn't matter if I'm on my antidepressants or not.

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You can have a quickie. It'll. It'll knock me out. Yeah. I feel like this

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morning was a quickie. It was a. It was a medium me. Yeah,

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it was a quick medium me. I mean, I know how to get you well.

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Yeah. Like, I know that. And that's why we're married.

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And that's why we're never gonna leave each other, because both of us can happen

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that fast. Very quick. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Good times.

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This is a great, great talk show right here. We should pause this.

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That's right. So that we could go have one real quick. Yeah, People listen to

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Kathy Lee and Regis. So we're over here. No way, man.

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We may have to pause it. What the hell, dude? That's right. I'm 42.

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That's right. And I'll be 43 in August. Yeah. And you're 47,

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girl. And you just turned 47 and in March.

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Yeah, I did. So you're. You're five years older than me right now,

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but in August, you'll be four years older than me. What are some good

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tips for, like, our older people? Like, for us? Like, what. What do you

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think? Do you think anything has changed? You think our intimacy has changed now?

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Our intimacy? No, no, no.

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Our intimate. So I. I will say this. When we first got together, I was

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28, 29. You were in your early 30s. Yeah.

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And we were very hot for each other.

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I mean, like, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Now we still cannot

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keep our hands off each other. But it's slightly different now. It's not

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like, oh, my gosh, I gotta slide my hand in between her

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legs right now. Like. Like, I still do that, but I feel like back then

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we were constantly trying to turn each other on. Yeah. We were constantly making

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out in front of everybody. We were constantly going at it like a couple of

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cats. And he. Yeah, we still have that, but I

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feel like it's. It's a bit softer now. It's more on the romantic,

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you are my best friend, let's cuddle and watch TV

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kind of thing. And before you know it, your hands on my leg. And then

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it goes up to my dick, and then you're rubbing me, and we're watching TV

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under the blanket, and you're just getting me hard. And then before you know it,

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you're kissing my neck, and you're like, hey, do you want to go to the

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room? Absolutely. We come over here, we put on some music,

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we bang it out a little bit. Then we come back to the couch and

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we sit down and we do it all over again. Do you think things like

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that help you with your confidence?

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I think so. I think, like, the desire that

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even. I mean, I. I know I'm your wife. It's hard to say, really,

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because honestly, I struggled with my confidence for the

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longest time, and I've always had you wanting me. You have

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never not wanted me, and you've never not expressed that.

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You've always been my biggest fan. But I

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still struggled with my confidence, and I think we've talked about that before because you

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were like, well, why can't you feel confident? Because you're getting it from me.

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Why do you have to get it from others? And I don't know if it's

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something that roots back from when I was younger and I didn't get the attention

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from women like I wanted, but I just felt like I needed

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that validation from others, and it was nice to feel wanted.

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Now, for the longest time, I did not. Now, that was

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a combination of two different things. A, nobody really wants

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to talk to somebody who's not exuding confidence. It's kind of obvious.

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Correct. And I don't believe I really exuded confidence. I think I kind of

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gave out vibes, like, I didn't really want to talk to anybody. And then the

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other thing, too, is that nobody really wants

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to be a. You know, they don't want to get involved with

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a guy who doesn't put. Themselves out there, who's emotionally damaged.

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No, no. From what I've seen in the groups, there's a lot of women who

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love emotionally damaged guys. But realistically,

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if you don't. And this is something that I've told a lot of my friends

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because I have a lot of friends who are like, man, you know, I really

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want to get this girl's attention, or I want to. I want to. I don't

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feel like I'm getting enough attention from. From women out there. And I'm really trying,

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but nobody's, like, talking to me and this and that. Well, you got to put

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yourself out there. You know what I mean? And it takes some work. You really

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have to put yourself out there. You have to do your best to just kind

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of associate with everybody because you

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don't know what connection's going to lead you into. What. What I figured

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out is you know that there's a lot of people out there that are like,

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well, I don't want to talk to this person because I'm not. I don't find

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them attractive and I won't want to sleep with them. But that doesn't matter because

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if you talk to them and they just become a friend, guess what? They have

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a network of friends that they can introduce you to. And then all of a

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sudden your network just opened up and that can lead into something, and then

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you make another friend, and then you make another friend, and before you know it,

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it's led you into other areas that you

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weren't in before. Yeah. So, you know, if you treat every person

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that you meet like a potential contact, that could lead

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you into something else. People will learn to

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appreciate you a little bit more. They'll get to know you better because you're not

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just trying to fuck them, you're trying to get to know them and be friends

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with them. And they're going to tell their friends and be like, that guy was

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all right. Yeah, you should invite him to the house party. He can get along

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with it. Yeah. No, you're right. People. I mean, women, I find confidence very

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sexy. Not confidence and arrogance. Not arrogant. I don't want arrogant. No,

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I want difference. Yeah. I want. I want the. The confident guy

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that's confident enough to at least go up to me and talk to

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me. Or even the girl. Like, when a girl comes up to me and talks

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to me, it kind of makes me feel

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good. It's like, okay, they. They're digging. You always said that it seemed more genuine

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coming from women than from men. Yeah, because we're fucking picky.

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Are you? Women are picking. I know a lot of women that aren't picky.

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No women to women. I mean, I'm a picky woman. Yeah. Even for women.

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Yeah. I know a lot of women that are so hard up for woman

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experiences but aren't very good at talking to other women

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that they'll take whatever they can get. No, not me. Well, not you.

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Yeah. No, no, no. But I mean, like, like, like, not. I'm not like that.

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Like, I've had my experiences and I really want to

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find the genuine. But you are right, though. Yeah. We've met a lot of

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women who are just. And you've. You position. When we first started,

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there was that one girl. We were at a bar and we

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were. I mean, we were still dating. We were at a bar and there was

423
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this girl. There was actually a couple, and the girl was not Attractive at

424
00:26:56,740 --> 00:26:59,360
all. Bless her heart. She was not an attractive woman.

425
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:04,200
And. And. But we were just talking about

426
00:27:04,700 --> 00:27:08,280
how hot it would be for. For her to have girl experiences and everything.

427
00:27:08,780 --> 00:27:11,480
And this girl was fawning over you the whole night, and she was like,

428
00:27:11,980 --> 00:27:15,190
oh, my God, you're so hot. This and that. And you were like, okay.

429
00:27:15,690 --> 00:27:18,830
So then y' all ended up going to the bathroom where she. She did some

430
00:27:19,330 --> 00:27:23,150
things, didn't she? She made out with me. And then I think she

431
00:27:23,870 --> 00:27:27,150
took my boobs out. I don't remember. My God. That was a. That was a

432
00:27:27,650 --> 00:27:29,550
long time ago. That was a long time ago. But I remember you coming back

433
00:27:30,050 --> 00:27:32,750
out and you. You sat down next to me and you're like, you're not gonna

434
00:27:33,250 --> 00:27:35,670
believe what just happened in the bathroom. And you told me all about it,

435
00:27:36,170 --> 00:27:39,000
and I was like, oh, my God, can we have sex with them? Like,

436
00:27:39,500 --> 00:27:41,320
this is. This is going to be a new experience. And you were like,

437
00:27:41,820 --> 00:27:43,400
no, we don't want to have sex with them. And I was like, really?

438
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,240
And you were like, no, she's not attractive. No. And I

439
00:27:47,740 --> 00:27:50,880
was like, really? And I looked over and I was like, you know, in the

440
00:27:51,380 --> 00:27:53,760
midst of horniness for a guy, I don't know if this is the way it

441
00:27:54,260 --> 00:27:57,720
is with women, but for a lot of us guys, if you're hard up for

442
00:27:58,220 --> 00:28:01,760
an experience and you're extremely horny and you feel like there's a chance

443
00:28:02,260 --> 00:28:05,920
there, that would take the most ugliest person and make them look

444
00:28:06,420 --> 00:28:09,340
very attractive. Because it's like, I'm horny. Let's do this.

445
00:28:09,500 --> 00:28:13,340
And then they call that the. The post nut Regret.

446
00:28:13,660 --> 00:28:17,260
That's how people have sex with people that they don't actually find

447
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,140
attractive. They find them attractive when they're extremely horny because they need

448
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,860
that release. But once they actually get it on and they actually

449
00:28:25,020 --> 00:28:28,260
come, then they immediately regret it. And they're like, yeah,

450
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,500
I'm gonna go now. You know what I mean? Oh, my goodness. Oh, dude.

451
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,150
It's a thing. It's a thing. I've done it via phone sex

452
00:28:35,650 --> 00:28:38,870
before when I was younger, and I've been hard up for, like,

453
00:28:39,370 --> 00:28:41,870
just, yeah, man, I'm so horny and I'm talking to something, and all of a

454
00:28:42,370 --> 00:28:44,470
sudden it's like, hey, you wanna. You wanted to have phone site. And so then

455
00:28:44,970 --> 00:28:48,510
we'll like, have this moment on the phone, and then after I come,

456
00:28:49,010 --> 00:28:51,270
I'm like, oh, my God, I can't believe I just did that. Hey, so I

457
00:28:51,770 --> 00:28:55,670
gotta go. It just

458
00:28:56,170 --> 00:28:58,650
gets awkward. Yeah. You know, so it's, it's.

459
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:03,440
That's a thing, man. You know, like post nut regret and.

460
00:29:03,940 --> 00:29:06,560
Didn'T even know that was a thing. That is a thing. Post nut regret.

461
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:10,960
And you know when, when you're extremely horny, you can sleep with people that

462
00:29:11,460 --> 00:29:14,720
you don't ordinarily find attractive and

463
00:29:15,220 --> 00:29:18,480
it, it can cause issues. Yeah.

464
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,280
I mean, it can. Or you can just

465
00:29:22,780 --> 00:29:25,040
accept it and. Go and just be like, it is what it is. Yeah.

466
00:29:25,540 --> 00:29:28,670
Oops. Oops. I did it again. It's like George Carlin said,

467
00:29:29,170 --> 00:29:32,790
I've never a ten, but one night I. Five twos.

468
00:29:33,510 --> 00:29:37,190
Oh my. That's a really. That's funny.

469
00:29:37,690 --> 00:29:41,350
It's Carlin, man. He was hilarious. Wow, that is hilarious. Yeah, because that's.

470
00:29:43,830 --> 00:29:47,110
No, I mean. So, yeah, I mean, I get, I get a.

471
00:29:47,270 --> 00:29:51,390
I get. I'm not picky, but I do like to have somebody

472
00:29:51,890 --> 00:29:55,570
who's attractive and has confidence. Like that's my main thing.

473
00:29:56,130 --> 00:29:59,490
Okay, so now that you're, now that we're in this, in this age.

474
00:30:00,050 --> 00:30:03,370
Well, see, now you, you bring up something because. Okay, we are talking

475
00:30:03,870 --> 00:30:07,090
about age as it applies. And we were talking earlier

476
00:30:07,250 --> 00:30:11,290
today, we were looking at some pictures of you and I and

477
00:30:11,790 --> 00:30:15,170
you said, God, I look like I'm getting older and you look

478
00:30:15,670 --> 00:30:18,980
like you're getting younger. Yeah. Which just blew

479
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,620
my mind because I've always looked older since I haven't been carded since

480
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,460
I was 15. I always looked like I was in my 30s until I reached

481
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,460
my 30s. Then I looked like I was in my 50s. I always looked older

482
00:30:30,860 --> 00:30:34,219
when I started growing out my beard. My beard started growing

483
00:30:34,719 --> 00:30:37,860
out very salt and peppery. Actually grew out white with a

484
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,660
black mustache. It's really weird. And I was

485
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,590
very insecure about that. I thought it made me look older.

486
00:30:45,990 --> 00:30:49,470
Every year I feel like I look older because of the

487
00:30:49,970 --> 00:30:54,190
gray hairs, the white and all that stuff, you know. But I

488
00:30:54,690 --> 00:30:58,270
have been informed that I, in fact, I don't look older now.

489
00:30:58,770 --> 00:31:02,310
I don't know how that makes sense that I have,

490
00:31:02,710 --> 00:31:05,830
I don't have a beard and I look older.

491
00:31:06,330 --> 00:31:08,630
I put on a beard that has white hair on it and all of a

492
00:31:09,130 --> 00:31:13,080
sudden I don't look old. That doesn't make any sense to me. But I will

493
00:31:13,580 --> 00:31:17,160
say that reaching this age, I think when I was in my

494
00:31:17,660 --> 00:31:21,760
30s, it was a bit more difficult. I felt like there were more people in

495
00:31:22,260 --> 00:31:26,160
our age group that were just heavy duty partiers and it wasn't really

496
00:31:26,660 --> 00:31:30,400
for me. And sometimes I felt like I had to join into that partying to

497
00:31:30,900 --> 00:31:33,200
be a part of the crowd. I'm in my 40s now.

498
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,280
I feel like I'm very happy where we are.

499
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,680
And if we go to a party or a meet and greet and nobody

500
00:31:42,180 --> 00:31:45,400
wants to talk to us, guess what? I'm fucking cool with it.

501
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,280
Because we're chill. I know that I'm fun

502
00:31:49,780 --> 00:31:51,640
to be around. I know that you're fun to be around. And nobody wants to

503
00:31:52,140 --> 00:31:54,800
hang out with us. Fuck it. Nobody wants to have sex with us. Guess what?

504
00:31:55,300 --> 00:31:59,080
You're missing out. That's some golden pussy right there. And I've got

505
00:31:59,580 --> 00:32:03,440
some things that I can do. So it's one of those things where it's

506
00:32:03,940 --> 00:32:07,240
like, okay, well, if we're not your bag, if we're not your flavor,

507
00:32:07,850 --> 00:32:11,490
that's okay. Yeah. You know, I'm not gonna get offended by it because now

508
00:32:11,990 --> 00:32:15,850
I finally understand. It makes sense to me that you're

509
00:32:16,350 --> 00:32:19,770
not gonna be everybody's cheeseburger. You know what I mean? Not everybody's

510
00:32:20,270 --> 00:32:23,569
gonna dig you. And maybe they're not gonna like your personality,

511
00:32:24,069 --> 00:32:26,970
or maybe they are gonna like your personality, but they're not gonna feel a sexual

512
00:32:27,470 --> 00:32:30,730
vibe. Yeah, that's a thing. You know? But I feel

513
00:32:31,230 --> 00:32:34,090
like this now, the age that we're in,

514
00:32:34,810 --> 00:32:38,770
I just feel like I'm in my don't give a fuck era right

515
00:32:39,270 --> 00:32:42,490
now. Oh, yeah. I am in definitely in that era. Yeah, I've been in

516
00:32:42,990 --> 00:32:45,610
that era. It's nice. Yeah. I do not care. Yeah.

517
00:32:46,170 --> 00:32:49,770
Now, like, for me, I. I have moments

518
00:32:50,270 --> 00:32:53,570
of where I'm like, damn, I really look older, but I.

519
00:32:54,070 --> 00:32:57,770
I honestly do not care. Like. Well, I will notice whenever

520
00:32:58,270 --> 00:33:01,850
you're exceptionally stressed, you tend to stop

521
00:33:02,890 --> 00:33:06,650
really focusing on how you look. It's been a

522
00:33:07,150 --> 00:33:10,250
while. It's been a while. But there was a span of time where you were

523
00:33:10,750 --> 00:33:14,330
just, like, just really tired and just really stressed,

524
00:33:14,830 --> 00:33:18,450
and you just didn't. You didn't feel sexy? No. You didn't

525
00:33:18,950 --> 00:33:21,890
feel like you looked sexy. You just weren't feeling it. It kind of comes in

526
00:33:22,390 --> 00:33:25,370
waves every now and then. It does. Where you're just like, I'm not feeling.

527
00:33:25,870 --> 00:33:29,050
Yeah, I just. I get really tired and I'm. It's a lot.

528
00:33:29,550 --> 00:33:32,130
So, like, for women, like, you know, you.

529
00:33:32,450 --> 00:33:35,770
How do you make yourself feel good? Okay, well, you go take care

530
00:33:36,270 --> 00:33:39,970
of your hair, you. Your makeup, your clothing, your.

531
00:33:40,470 --> 00:33:45,170
Whatever. Dude, I got four freaking kids at home, and I

532
00:33:45,670 --> 00:33:48,770
do not like to spend time myself.

533
00:33:48,850 --> 00:33:52,090
Like. Okay, so, like, things that I'm doing to

534
00:33:52,590 --> 00:33:55,480
make myself feel better, I.

535
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:59,000
I Got my lashes done. You know, I don't color my

536
00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:03,160
hair, and I am almost 50%

537
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,840
gray. You would say maybe less.

538
00:34:07,340 --> 00:34:10,600
Yeah. And I. I mean, I have a lot of gray, but it's like the

539
00:34:11,100 --> 00:34:14,520
confidence booster is you have to embrace that, Right? Yeah. You have to.

540
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:19,000
So things that I do like to make myself feel good, I make

541
00:34:19,500 --> 00:34:23,380
sure I dress nicely. Yeah. You know, clothing is really big.

542
00:34:24,260 --> 00:34:27,380
Self care, makeup, hair,

543
00:34:27,860 --> 00:34:30,580
at least. You know, I hate to be that guy. But fitness.

544
00:34:30,980 --> 00:34:34,700
Fitness is everything, right? Yes. And I will tell a lot of my friends out

545
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,420
there, because I've. I've had friends who have seen

546
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,460
kind of like the fitness journey that I've gone on and this sort of thing,

547
00:34:41,860 --> 00:34:45,700
and I'm still working it, and I've had friends in the lifestyle

548
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,810
who are like, dude, I've decided I'm gonna start hitting the gym because I

549
00:34:50,310 --> 00:34:54,210
realized that as I'm shaping up a bit more, I'm starting to get more confidence,

550
00:34:54,710 --> 00:34:57,970
and I'm also starting to get more attention, which I really like. And I.

551
00:34:58,470 --> 00:35:01,530
I've noticed that for myself, but I've had friends that have noticed that

552
00:35:02,030 --> 00:35:05,890
for themselves, and they're like, this really makes a difference. That alone is

553
00:35:06,390 --> 00:35:09,090
motivation. Same. I have women that are like, wow, you.

554
00:35:09,650 --> 00:35:13,150
You're looking great. And I. Guys are like, wow,

555
00:35:13,650 --> 00:35:16,150
y' all get up, and you're looking really good. You and Adam are looking really

556
00:35:16,650 --> 00:35:20,230
nice. Yeah. And it. And of course, that's a confidence booster.

557
00:35:20,730 --> 00:35:24,910
Right. It also puts pressure on you, though. It does. It does help

558
00:35:25,410 --> 00:35:28,950
you feel better. Right. Which exudes your.

559
00:35:29,110 --> 00:35:32,790
I mean, dude, we're. We're getting old. We are. We got to move those bones,

560
00:35:32,870 --> 00:35:35,670
man. You know, I. Here's a truth for you.

561
00:35:36,230 --> 00:35:39,680
If we were not in the lifestyle, I would not

562
00:35:40,180 --> 00:35:43,440
be taking this much care of myself right now. I probably would.

563
00:35:43,940 --> 00:35:46,880
I mean, I would do the. I would do the whole losing weight at 40

564
00:35:47,380 --> 00:35:50,560
thing. I didn't do that for the lifestyle. No, but I'm talking about all the

565
00:35:51,060 --> 00:35:55,320
changes I made. I didn't just make a. A weight transformation.

566
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,240
I changed my whole style. I changed it.

567
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,920
It took me a little bit to kind of navigate, and I had to try

568
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:07,020
new things and this and that. I kind of found my footing on how

569
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,580
I wanted to dress and what kind of style I wanted to rock and this

570
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:15,140
and that. You know, it's constantly evolving and changing because I'm

571
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,860
constantly evolving and changing. Yeah. But I feel like the way I dress

572
00:36:20,340 --> 00:36:24,220
and the way I do my appearance is

573
00:36:24,720 --> 00:36:29,060
the best representation of me and my personality and

574
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:33,430
So I don't know, I don't particularly

575
00:36:33,930 --> 00:36:37,670
feel like I rocked that previous. I feel like I just

576
00:36:38,170 --> 00:36:41,630
dressed however I needed to. You know what I mean?

577
00:36:42,130 --> 00:36:45,110
Yeah. I didn't really look for stuff that was going to look good. I just

578
00:36:45,610 --> 00:36:49,110
looked for stuff that I could wear, you know. And now it's like I go

579
00:36:49,610 --> 00:36:53,790
in there and I'm putting together different, different outfits and this matches

580
00:36:54,290 --> 00:36:57,590
this. And I always match my earrings with what I wear and my

581
00:36:58,090 --> 00:37:01,830
mother band to my watch and my shirt, shoes. Got a mat. Like everything's a,

582
00:37:02,330 --> 00:37:05,870
it's a thing, man. You know, you're fit. I, I, I, you know,

583
00:37:06,370 --> 00:37:10,470
I got some swag. I got some swag. Yeah. And so that makes

584
00:37:10,970 --> 00:37:14,990
a difference. It's. I always said, self care. Buying yourself

585
00:37:15,490 --> 00:37:19,030
new clothes, getting yourself a new haircut, maybe for fellas,

586
00:37:19,110 --> 00:37:22,550
trimming your beard and looking clean shaven for

587
00:37:23,050 --> 00:37:26,400
women, getting your nails done, getting your, your pedicures and,

588
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,920
and all that stuff. Getting waxed and all, all that great stuff.

589
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:34,160
Those are internal wins. Yeah. That boost

590
00:37:34,660 --> 00:37:37,840
you enough to make you feel like, I'm gonna go in there and I'm gonna

591
00:37:38,340 --> 00:37:42,000
show, I'm gonna peacock. I'm gonna show myself, you know, and.

592
00:37:42,500 --> 00:37:46,240
Like at the clubs. Right. So you're around a lot of beautiful

593
00:37:46,740 --> 00:37:50,120
people. So that took me a couple of

594
00:37:50,620 --> 00:37:54,050
times to kind of, it's a little intimidating at first, but put me on,

595
00:37:54,210 --> 00:37:57,250
put me, get me some nice lingerie. Yeah.

596
00:37:57,490 --> 00:38:01,370
I feel great. I don't give about anybody else

597
00:38:01,870 --> 00:38:05,130
who's looking at me, who's not looking at me, because I know you're looking at

598
00:38:05,630 --> 00:38:09,650
me. I'm always looking and I. Me. Yes. So I

599
00:38:10,150 --> 00:38:13,530
love like a nice piece of like sexy lingerie because

600
00:38:14,030 --> 00:38:17,450
that makes me feel really good at the clubs, like when we're going somewhere.

601
00:38:17,950 --> 00:38:22,090
Yeah. To look a certain way. Yeah. Yeah. That's like the. Now I've

602
00:38:22,590 --> 00:38:26,770
noticed that you've, now that you're older, you're embracing a bit more your

603
00:38:26,850 --> 00:38:30,050
own sexy style. Just going to the store,

604
00:38:30,450 --> 00:38:33,650
going to regular places, not even lifestyle stuff, but just

605
00:38:34,210 --> 00:38:37,290
you used to really struggle wearing cleavage or going out

606
00:38:37,790 --> 00:38:41,050
without a bra because, you know, people are staring. I, I used to say men

607
00:38:41,550 --> 00:38:44,770
were staring. Yeah. Women stare just as much, if not more than men.

608
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,360
Yeah. And I hate wearing bras. Yeah. And, and you, it used

609
00:38:48,860 --> 00:38:52,200
to kind of piss you off. And it was very, it was, you would notice

610
00:38:52,700 --> 00:38:56,080
it all the time. Do you find yourself still noticing it? Does it still bother

611
00:38:56,580 --> 00:39:00,400
you? No, it doesn't. I will tell you. We go

612
00:39:00,900 --> 00:39:04,360
to the gym Every. Pretty much every. Every day during the week. Right?

613
00:39:04,860 --> 00:39:08,400
Yeah, we try. And that's rolling out of bed

614
00:39:08,900 --> 00:39:12,340
at 3:45 for me. Right. So it's

615
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:16,380
a little bit. But I feel. I feel as soon as I get up

616
00:39:16,620 --> 00:39:19,260
and I'm getting ready, I get all.

617
00:39:19,500 --> 00:39:22,820
I'm usually wearing just my. My sports bra and my pants.

618
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:26,780
Right. We go to the gym and I'm definitely getting looks.

619
00:39:27,099 --> 00:39:30,700
Right. So. So I have to remember that these.

620
00:39:30,860 --> 00:39:35,260
It's okay to be looked at, but that's where I was getting really insecure

621
00:39:35,340 --> 00:39:38,990
at the gym. Yes. So, like, not even. There's a lot of attract at 4

622
00:39:39,490 --> 00:39:42,510
in the morning. There's a lot of attractive women at the gym. I think I

623
00:39:43,010 --> 00:39:45,950
told you. I was like, man, I swear that these guys just sit at that

624
00:39:46,450 --> 00:39:49,270
one little area and they just stare at me.

625
00:39:49,590 --> 00:39:52,989
And I look at them and I look away and I know

626
00:39:53,489 --> 00:39:56,990
that they're still staring at me. And I'm not gonna lie. That gives

627
00:39:57,490 --> 00:40:00,870
a little bit of a boost. Yeah. So I kind of make sure I

628
00:40:01,370 --> 00:40:03,810
don't put makeup on when I go to the gym. Sure. Like, I just.

629
00:40:04,310 --> 00:40:07,610
I wash my face, I fix my hair and whatever,

630
00:40:07,850 --> 00:40:11,530
but I'm not wearing a T shirt. It's just my sports bra,

631
00:40:12,030 --> 00:40:14,810
usually. Yeah. So I know they're looking,

632
00:40:15,310 --> 00:40:17,930
and so it makes me feel. It makes me feel a little good. I don't.

633
00:40:18,430 --> 00:40:21,690
I don't get embarrassed anymore. Yeah. I probably don't look the hottest when I'm working

634
00:40:22,190 --> 00:40:25,290
out, but, you know, because I'm not the skinniest person.

635
00:40:25,850 --> 00:40:29,620
But. Yeah. No, that. I don't mind the staring anymore.

636
00:40:29,700 --> 00:40:34,100
Well, see, so I can tell you this. On a women's standpoint,

637
00:40:34,740 --> 00:40:38,220
it's easy for y' all to get the boost because men

638
00:40:38,720 --> 00:40:41,700
and women both look at other women.

639
00:40:41,860 --> 00:40:44,940
Yeah. And check them out and go, and we'll compliment them and

640
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:49,860
things like that. Men do not get compliments

641
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:54,070
from women, either because women are too shy or

642
00:40:54,570 --> 00:40:58,670
because they don't want to disrespect the wife. Even in the lifestyle,

643
00:40:59,070 --> 00:41:02,430
I have had women that have wanted to

644
00:41:02,670 --> 00:41:05,870
approach me, have wanted to compliment me,

645
00:41:06,370 --> 00:41:10,790
have wanted to flirt with me, but just weren't able

646
00:41:11,290 --> 00:41:15,230
to. They were too afraid because they didn't want to disrespect my wife.

647
00:41:15,950 --> 00:41:19,310
Even now with people we get

648
00:41:19,810 --> 00:41:23,130
involved with, a lot of times the women are like, I don't know

649
00:41:23,630 --> 00:41:26,410
if this is okay to say, but you know, And I'm like,

650
00:41:26,910 --> 00:41:30,450
it's. It's okay. My wife. I know what I have. Yeah. My wife likes you,

651
00:41:30,950 --> 00:41:33,330
you're okay, it's fine. But that's the way I think about it. I know what

652
00:41:33,830 --> 00:41:37,290
I have and I know how you

653
00:41:37,790 --> 00:41:40,890
look. Yeah. So like, well, so. And it's really more of a message to a

654
00:41:41,390 --> 00:41:44,450
lot of the women out there in the lifestyle. You know, a lot of the

655
00:41:44,950 --> 00:41:48,250
men. I'm not saying ego boost the man. That's not what I'm saying.

656
00:41:48,750 --> 00:41:51,450
What I'm saying is there's a lot of men that are out there that are

657
00:41:51,950 --> 00:41:55,170
like me in which we like to feel wanted too. We like

658
00:41:55,670 --> 00:41:58,730
to feel sexy. You know, a lot of women, they post these pictures in the

659
00:41:59,230 --> 00:42:02,489
groups and on the, on the web pages and whatnot. And, and they get

660
00:42:02,989 --> 00:42:05,610
tons of likes and they get tons of comments and it's like, oh my gosh,

661
00:42:06,110 --> 00:42:09,050
she looks so great, blah, blah, blah. So then men, we, we try to put

662
00:42:09,550 --> 00:42:13,090
ourselves out there sometimes and we don't get even a quarter of that attention.

663
00:42:13,810 --> 00:42:17,770
And it can get a little difficult to deal with

664
00:42:18,270 --> 00:42:21,730
because it's like, oh, well, I'm just not, I'm not attractive. This and that.

665
00:42:22,230 --> 00:42:25,090
Well, women operate different than men. Yes.

666
00:42:25,410 --> 00:42:28,370
Men see women and they go, wow, she's hot.

667
00:42:28,610 --> 00:42:31,810
Let me heart this. Women will see that and go,

668
00:42:31,970 --> 00:42:35,170
oh, he's an attractive looking guy. And just keep on moving.

669
00:42:35,490 --> 00:42:39,330
They won't feel the need to validate them with any kind of comment or like,

670
00:42:39,830 --> 00:42:42,940
or that sort of thing because they don't know them. Women,

671
00:42:43,260 --> 00:42:46,580
a lot of women need more of a connection.

672
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,380
They need to know you, that sort of thing. So a lot of

673
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,780
times you can be the hottest dude in the group. And if you just put

674
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,860
a picture out there and you, and it's once every four to

675
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:00,300
six months, you're not going to get a whole bunch of likes.

676
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:03,900
You're not going to get a whole lot of attention. But if you're

677
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:07,540
out there, often people get to know you. As people get to know you,

678
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,460
they've had conversations with you. All of a sudden it's like, oh, I know that

679
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:14,240
we have a flirty vibe in. Let me flirt with him on here, on his

680
00:43:14,740 --> 00:43:17,200
picture and that sort of thing. And that's where things start to change. But you

681
00:43:17,700 --> 00:43:20,200
really have to put yourself out. You do. I will say what's not.

682
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,560
Let me, let me just cut this real quick. What is not cool?

683
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:27,720
Do not ever tell the partner, the significant

684
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:31,400
other man. You're lucky.

685
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:35,840
You're lucky. You're lucky to have Priscilla or you're lucky

686
00:43:36,340 --> 00:43:39,890
to have Adam. Yeah. Utterly rude.

687
00:43:40,050 --> 00:43:43,450
Because it can be taken into Yeah. I am not

688
00:43:43,950 --> 00:43:47,450
good enough. Right? I'm not good enough. Oh, what? I don't.

689
00:43:47,950 --> 00:43:50,370
I don't deserve the best. And we've had it happen to both of us.

690
00:43:51,410 --> 00:43:53,570
And so when someone tells me, oh,

691
00:43:54,290 --> 00:43:57,410
Adam is so lucky, I'm like, you know,

692
00:43:57,650 --> 00:43:59,010
Adam has to put up with a lot.

693
00:44:00,450 --> 00:44:03,770
Like, I'm lucky. I mean, we're both lucky to

694
00:44:04,270 --> 00:44:08,190
have found each other, and we're both lucky that we have this amazing relationship.

695
00:44:08,690 --> 00:44:11,950
But realistically, we work at it. Yeah. You know, and we have worked at it

696
00:44:12,450 --> 00:44:14,830
for a long time. Neither of us are easy. No, neither of us are easy

697
00:44:15,330 --> 00:44:19,430
at all. And so it's easy to be on the outside looking

698
00:44:19,930 --> 00:44:23,270
in and going, wow, everything just looks so great. This person's

699
00:44:23,770 --> 00:44:27,310
really lucky to have them. And it's like, that's okay if you think that.

700
00:44:27,810 --> 00:44:31,310
Yeah. Don't say it. No, don't say it. Even if your intentions are good,

701
00:44:31,570 --> 00:44:35,610
don't say it. Don't say it. Because even though it may sound like a compliment

702
00:44:36,110 --> 00:44:39,090
to you, it's. It doesn't get taken that way. No, It.

703
00:44:39,590 --> 00:44:42,890
You know, it makes. It makes the person you're telling that to feel insignificant.

704
00:44:43,390 --> 00:44:47,170
You know, if you say something like, oh, Adam's really hot.

705
00:44:47,810 --> 00:44:50,730
That's different. Yeah. Not, oh,

706
00:44:51,230 --> 00:44:54,570
Priscilla, you're lucky. I've had. I. I have a lot of men who will.

707
00:44:55,070 --> 00:44:57,810
Who will message me or even comment on things, and they'll be like,

708
00:44:58,590 --> 00:45:02,270
man, your wife is incredibly hot. Oh, man, she's so sexy. Oh,

709
00:45:02,770 --> 00:45:05,630
I know. Yeah. You know, and that's usually my response. Oh, I know.

710
00:45:05,950 --> 00:45:09,310
Trust me. Same. Trust me. I'm aware. You know, things like that,

711
00:45:09,810 --> 00:45:13,350
like, I am your biggest hype man. So it's. I'm constantly just

712
00:45:13,850 --> 00:45:16,990
pushing it out there. But, yeah, you know, I mean, realistically,

713
00:45:17,870 --> 00:45:22,270
most of the time, I think when that's uttered, it's. It's not with ill intention.

714
00:45:22,590 --> 00:45:25,830
Yeah. But that's, you know, it's just one of those things where you just got

715
00:45:26,330 --> 00:45:30,000
to keep that in mind. Not everybody finds that as a compliment. No,

716
00:45:30,500 --> 00:45:32,720
it can. It can come out really rude. I mean, I just wanted to,

717
00:45:33,220 --> 00:45:36,840
like, say that I know that people don't really mean. Mean for it to.

718
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:40,880
To be rude, but it does come out. It does.

719
00:45:41,380 --> 00:45:45,400
It does. Yeah. Now would you say. So things are

720
00:45:45,900 --> 00:45:49,080
very different for us as far as where we are in life.

721
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:53,080
There are other couples that we hobnob with. There's one couple in particular.

722
00:45:53,240 --> 00:45:56,990
I love them. They're. They're. There's a lot of fun. They're a younger couple

723
00:45:57,470 --> 00:46:01,350
and they, they are in the lifestyle.

724
00:46:01,850 --> 00:46:05,190
They're brand, they're not brand spanking new, but they're relatively new to it. They're kind

725
00:46:05,690 --> 00:46:08,870
of learning the ropes, they're making friends, that sort of thing. But they're very young,

726
00:46:09,370 --> 00:46:12,950
they have no kids and you know, they, they just have

727
00:46:13,450 --> 00:46:16,910
to worry about themselves, you know, so they get to really enjoy every aspect

728
00:46:17,070 --> 00:46:21,210
of this lifestyle, especially going to the different vanilla

729
00:46:21,710 --> 00:46:25,130
clubs and going out drinking during the week and staying

730
00:46:25,630 --> 00:46:29,090
out all night and doing all that fun stuff that that young people should be

731
00:46:29,590 --> 00:46:33,330
doing. We are in our 40s and things are a bit different because

732
00:46:33,830 --> 00:46:37,730
we're married. We have very, very busy jobs, we have a side job

733
00:46:37,810 --> 00:46:41,570
and we have four kids at home. And so

734
00:46:42,070 --> 00:46:45,730
our time gets to be a bit more choosier.

735
00:46:46,230 --> 00:46:48,690
So if we, if we elect to spend time with people,

736
00:46:50,500 --> 00:46:54,100
it's kind of a big deal because we have limited time.

737
00:46:54,820 --> 00:46:58,020
So if we're sharing our time with somebody, it is

738
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:02,140
definitely a big deal. Currently I'm on a five

739
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,740
day weekend because we had one of our kids just had

740
00:47:06,240 --> 00:47:09,220
a birthday and then two of our kids are graduating on Tuesday.

741
00:47:09,860 --> 00:47:13,300
And all of this week is nothing but barbecues and

742
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:17,600
celebrations for both of those events. But we're taking this

743
00:47:18,100 --> 00:47:22,120
evening to go out with, with a couple friends of ours

744
00:47:22,620 --> 00:47:25,920
who they're, you know, we're going to be spending the evening here in town.

745
00:47:26,420 --> 00:47:29,040
We're going to show them different places and we're going to have a good time.

746
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,480
And that's a good kind of example

747
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:36,480
of the fact that, yeah, we would love nothing more than to have

748
00:47:36,980 --> 00:47:40,280
gone to the club yesterday and partied all night and go

749
00:47:40,780 --> 00:47:43,800
to the club again tonight and party all night or go to an orgy tonight

750
00:47:44,300 --> 00:47:46,090
and that sort of thing. You know, it's a five day weekend. We could have

751
00:47:46,240 --> 00:47:49,760
partied it up all the whole time. Yeah. But we have

752
00:47:50,260 --> 00:47:53,520
to really balance our time. But we still manage to

753
00:47:54,240 --> 00:47:57,480
spend a little bit of time in the lifestyle and I think that's, that's pretty

754
00:47:57,980 --> 00:48:01,600
cool. Yeah, that's pretty cool. I mean it's, it's, it is definitely. Oof.

755
00:48:02,100 --> 00:48:05,840
It is definitely balanced. It's a balance. It's a balancing act for sure. Every,

756
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:09,120
It's a, it's balancing and wanting

757
00:48:09,620 --> 00:48:13,400
to put yourself out there. So if that's what you're looking for, you definitely have

758
00:48:13,900 --> 00:48:17,690
to figure that part out. Yeah. Because it's not, it's not

759
00:48:18,190 --> 00:48:21,730
easy. Where we've gotten better is we've, we've started to learn

760
00:48:22,230 --> 00:48:25,490
how to spot red flags early on. So when you spot red

761
00:48:25,990 --> 00:48:29,810
flags early on, you know, okay, I can back off of this person relatively quickly

762
00:48:30,310 --> 00:48:33,490
instead of wasting more time. A lot of people who are newer to the

763
00:48:33,990 --> 00:48:37,610
lifestyle, they don't know how to see that right away. Yeah, they don't

764
00:48:38,110 --> 00:48:40,610
recognize that right away. And so then they end up wasting a lot of time

765
00:48:41,110 --> 00:48:44,590
on somebody, then it ends up falling through and then they're like sour about the

766
00:48:45,090 --> 00:48:48,510
situation. Yeah. For us, we, we know what we like, we know

767
00:48:49,010 --> 00:48:52,230
what qualities we really dig in other people. And a lot of times it's the

768
00:48:52,730 --> 00:48:55,550
same qualities that we have and those are the people we seek out.

769
00:48:56,050 --> 00:48:59,790
Yeah. And I mean for us, yeah, we are a little older, but it

770
00:49:00,290 --> 00:49:03,550
doesn't really matter. Like the younger ones, they still have

771
00:49:04,050 --> 00:49:07,230
kids. The older ones don't have any kids. We're kind of in the middle of

772
00:49:07,730 --> 00:49:11,000
that. Yeah, we, we still have a lot of free time, but we're

773
00:49:11,500 --> 00:49:15,640
not. That we can make. But we're not empty nesters. Yeah. And so being

774
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:19,640
at this age in the lifestyle can get a little difficult

775
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:23,400
because you have to figure out your time. We are in the

776
00:49:23,900 --> 00:49:27,760
depth of, of our lives. I think this

777
00:49:28,260 --> 00:49:31,880
is a transition. It's a transition into a new chapter. We've got

778
00:49:32,380 --> 00:49:35,880
two kids that are becoming adults. We've still got two more that are going into

779
00:49:36,380 --> 00:49:39,610
high school and our youngest are going into high school. So in another

780
00:49:40,110 --> 00:49:43,890
four years we'll be able to say that all of our kids are all legal

781
00:49:44,390 --> 00:49:48,250
adults. And then from there we can really reevaluate where we are

782
00:49:48,810 --> 00:49:51,610
in life, in the lifestyle and all of that.

783
00:49:52,090 --> 00:49:55,690
Till then we are still quite busy parents

784
00:49:56,330 --> 00:50:00,210
and yeah, it's not the difficulty that we had when they were

785
00:50:00,710 --> 00:50:04,250
little, little and we had to find babysitters or we had to just stay home.

786
00:50:05,210 --> 00:50:08,610
Now we can leave, they can, they're pretty autonomous.

787
00:50:09,110 --> 00:50:13,650
They can take care of themselves on a lot of different aspects. Yeah. But you

788
00:50:14,150 --> 00:50:17,770
know, while that frees us up, we, we still have, we're still very

789
00:50:18,270 --> 00:50:20,970
involved. Yeah. You know, we are. So I don't know,

790
00:50:21,850 --> 00:50:25,370
what do you think? And I know that we have nothing to compare it to

791
00:50:25,870 --> 00:50:29,370
for further down. We haven't experienced the 50s and the 60s,

792
00:50:30,340 --> 00:50:33,700
but compared we've been doing this since our early 30s.

793
00:50:34,740 --> 00:50:38,420
What would you say has been the best time in,

794
00:50:38,660 --> 00:50:42,100
in the lifestyle for us? Would you say it's now? Yeah,

795
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,620
yeah, definitely. Boundaries are different,

796
00:50:45,940 --> 00:50:50,100
rules are different. The way we lifestyle

797
00:50:50,260 --> 00:50:54,180
is very different. We are different than

798
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,940
when we first started. Our relationship is different. Than when we first started.

799
00:50:59,980 --> 00:51:03,900
I would say, I would say now I can even see it like

800
00:51:04,780 --> 00:51:08,580
years down, couple years down. Like I can. It's still going to

801
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:12,700
be this, this good. Yeah. You know, like it's only going to get better.

802
00:51:13,820 --> 00:51:17,100
I, I love the lifestyle because of the.

803
00:51:17,980 --> 00:51:21,660
I can make friends, I can make friends around my age.

804
00:51:22,220 --> 00:51:26,730
We can talk about things that we're dealing with because there's

805
00:51:27,230 --> 00:51:31,050
menopause, there's just different, different levels. Right. Especially for

806
00:51:31,550 --> 00:51:34,770
women. So, yeah, I would say right now

807
00:51:35,270 --> 00:51:37,890
is probably the best, the best time.

808
00:51:38,370 --> 00:51:42,090
Plus making lifestyle friends over vanilla friends

809
00:51:42,590 --> 00:51:46,050
is just different, you know? Yeah. We don't have a lot. We don't. And we

810
00:51:46,130 --> 00:51:49,490
realize one, we realize just how, how much

811
00:51:49,570 --> 00:51:53,370
better it is to have lifestyle friends than vanilla friends. Because with vanilla friends you

812
00:51:53,870 --> 00:51:57,240
have to walk on eggshells. You can't talk about everything. You don't want

813
00:51:57,740 --> 00:52:01,080
to offend certain people. Some people are religious, some people are conservative, some people this,

814
00:52:01,580 --> 00:52:05,080
that and the other, whatever. Everybody has their own beliefs and

815
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:08,480
a lot of people are very stringent on how they think and what they

816
00:52:08,980 --> 00:52:12,560
feel and this and that lifestyle people, you sit down

817
00:52:13,060 --> 00:52:16,400
and you talk sex. And if you can talk sex

818
00:52:16,900 --> 00:52:20,200
very easily, then you can talk about anything with them easily.

819
00:52:20,730 --> 00:52:23,530
And so normally with all of our friends, I mean,

820
00:52:24,030 --> 00:52:26,650
obviously we've either had sex or we've talked about sex.

821
00:52:26,970 --> 00:52:30,250
Talking about other stuff, very easy. Yeah,

822
00:52:30,490 --> 00:52:33,730
it really is like. So, yeah, I would

823
00:52:34,230 --> 00:52:38,010
say this is the best time. I mean, I have girlfriends,

824
00:52:38,330 --> 00:52:42,090
I have friends that I can go and chit chat with and you know,

825
00:52:42,590 --> 00:52:46,090
we're gossiping or whatever and it's nice. Yeah,

826
00:52:46,590 --> 00:52:49,500
I've, I've really hadn't had a lot of friends.

827
00:52:50,860 --> 00:52:54,420
Now what, in your opinion, what is there a certain age

828
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,940
that you want to hang this up? You want to, you want to retire the

829
00:52:58,440 --> 00:53:02,060
jersey, so to speak. Are we, are we seeing this one all the way through

830
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:03,900
to that special Florida community?

831
00:53:07,260 --> 00:53:10,940
Right. I don't know. I mean, we're, our goal is

832
00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:14,910
to move in about five. Five years. Five year

833
00:53:15,410 --> 00:53:20,110
plan. Yeah. Yeah. Our five year plan starts this year. Yeah. And I

834
00:53:20,610 --> 00:53:24,270
don't know, I don't know what's, you know, things can change,

835
00:53:24,770 --> 00:53:28,270
but I'm kind of riding it until, until I

836
00:53:28,770 --> 00:53:31,750
get tired. I say we just enjoy it. We enjoy it. Yeah. We just enjoy.

837
00:53:32,250 --> 00:53:35,750
Not like. So like for us, we're not. I think everyone

838
00:53:36,250 --> 00:53:39,590
thinks that we do not like play every

839
00:53:39,670 --> 00:53:42,710
weekend. No. So that's. Weekends revolve around our family.

840
00:53:42,790 --> 00:53:45,970
That's the fun misconception. About having a PODC cast in

841
00:53:46,470 --> 00:53:50,210
the lifestyle and people knowing who you are and constantly watching your posts.

842
00:53:50,710 --> 00:53:54,050
Yeah. Is that people automatically assume that the people you hang around

843
00:53:54,550 --> 00:53:57,610
with and the people that come and talk to you randomly at a meet and

844
00:53:58,110 --> 00:54:01,210
greet. Oh, they're. No, they're having sex. And I mean, no one really

845
00:54:01,710 --> 00:54:05,410
cares. Right. It's just, it's, it's just gossip or whatever. Yeah. But no,

846
00:54:05,910 --> 00:54:08,850
like, we're, we're, we're not, we're not out. As much as we'd love to be

847
00:54:09,350 --> 00:54:12,690
out pouring it out every weekend, we're not. I mean, and you gotta understand that

848
00:54:13,190 --> 00:54:16,270
we, you and I are very into each

849
00:54:16,770 --> 00:54:19,630
other. Like, if you give us a option of,

850
00:54:20,130 --> 00:54:22,910
oh, can you. You want to go out or do you want to stay in

851
00:54:23,410 --> 00:54:26,430
and just bang it out? Like we're gonna stay in and bang it out.

852
00:54:26,930 --> 00:54:30,670
Yeah, that's the comfort. Like, that's, that's our thing. We're each other's.

853
00:54:31,170 --> 00:54:33,670
Like every now and then we have to get out. Like, we have to get

854
00:54:34,170 --> 00:54:37,070
out. Yeah. And you know, sex with others is just really fun. It is.

855
00:54:37,150 --> 00:54:39,630
So obviously. But if it doesn't happen, it's all good. But if it doesn't happen,

856
00:54:40,130 --> 00:54:43,990
it's all good. And that's something that I've learned because back in the day,

857
00:54:44,310 --> 00:54:47,550
if it didn't happen, it would bother the fuck out of me and be like,

858
00:54:48,050 --> 00:54:51,470
damn, man, I really was hoping for that because that's that horniness. It just

859
00:54:51,970 --> 00:54:55,110
makes you nuts. Yeah. But now I remember. Yeah,

860
00:54:55,430 --> 00:54:58,790
I remember. Yes, I know, I know. But you know,

861
00:54:59,290 --> 00:55:02,070
realistically now, it's just different.

862
00:55:02,230 --> 00:55:06,190
I'm like, oh, they canceled. That's good. That's fine.

863
00:55:06,690 --> 00:55:08,310
We can either find somebody else to hang out with or we can just go

864
00:55:08,810 --> 00:55:12,190
to the room. Yes. I'm sorry. We always opt for the room. You know,

865
00:55:12,690 --> 00:55:16,150
we're, we're, you know, we've learned to value our time at home.

866
00:55:16,310 --> 00:55:19,430
Especially with each other. Yeah. We are very busy people.

867
00:55:19,910 --> 00:55:23,470
And you need that downtime. Oh my God, you need that downtime.

868
00:55:23,970 --> 00:55:27,590
Plus, that's where age comes in. Crazy. That's where the age comes in. It's like,

869
00:55:28,090 --> 00:55:30,350
God, give me the bed. I don't know how we did it. When we were

870
00:55:30,850 --> 00:55:33,510
younger, we used to stay out all night till like four in the morning.

871
00:55:34,010 --> 00:55:37,230
I know. Like, we would come home at like 4, 3. And we would have

872
00:55:37,730 --> 00:55:41,270
sex till like 5. Yeah. Or 4:30. And we would drink and we

873
00:55:41,770 --> 00:55:44,110
would drink and then we would be up by like 9 in the morning.

874
00:55:44,610 --> 00:55:47,670
Yeah. Going to get breakfast. No. Not happening. No way,

875
00:55:48,170 --> 00:55:51,310
man. Like, even tonight, I was like, yeah, you're gonna have to let me take

876
00:55:51,810 --> 00:55:54,150
a nap, because there's no way in hell that I'm gonna stay up till,

877
00:55:54,650 --> 00:55:58,110
like, past 10. Come on, man. I mean, I. I get

878
00:55:58,610 --> 00:56:02,440
tired. Sack up, dude. You know, if I had two hours to

879
00:56:02,940 --> 00:56:06,000
lounge on the couch while everyone else was doing something. Tell me about it.

880
00:56:06,500 --> 00:56:09,560
I wish I had that, too. I would probably be as rambunctious

881
00:56:10,060 --> 00:56:14,080
as you are. Sounds kind of accusatory. Yeah. Sounds like you're kind of talking shit.

882
00:56:14,580 --> 00:56:16,760
As he's not even looking at me in the face. I don't need to look

883
00:56:17,260 --> 00:56:20,360
at you. I don't want to look at you. Well, I mean, it's.

884
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:24,320
It is what it is. It is what it is. I'm gonna

885
00:56:24,820 --> 00:56:27,980
need a little, you know, nappy nap. I'm old.

886
00:56:28,380 --> 00:56:31,700
Girl, you are not that old. I am. You know what's funny

887
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:35,700
is you are 47, and I do not see 47 on you

888
00:56:36,200 --> 00:56:39,460
at all. I remember my parents at 47. Yeah. And they were old

889
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:43,180
as. Like, they just carried themselves like

890
00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:46,820
old people. Oh, yeah. No, like, if I look in the mirror and I see

891
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:49,820
that my hair is like. I love wearing my hair in a bun because.

892
00:56:50,460 --> 00:56:53,630
Sorry, homies, it's freaking hot. Yeah. And it

893
00:56:54,130 --> 00:56:56,310
gets. It's their curls, and they get in my face. Yeah. So when I pick

894
00:56:56,810 --> 00:56:59,790
up my hair, I will notice that I'm like, oh, God,

895
00:57:00,290 --> 00:57:03,630
go put something on your face, girl. Go do your eyebrows. Go do something.

896
00:57:03,950 --> 00:57:07,350
Because it does. It does make me feel older. I catch us.

897
00:57:07,850 --> 00:57:11,270
And so for us. I. I think I've told you because you've asked

898
00:57:11,770 --> 00:57:14,870
me when we've gone shopping, you're like, should I even be wearing this? Like,

899
00:57:15,370 --> 00:57:17,670
you try something on, you're like, I just don't. I feel like I'm that old

900
00:57:18,170 --> 00:57:21,720
person who's putting on young people's clothes, like, I shouldn't be wearing

901
00:57:22,220 --> 00:57:24,440
this. And I'm like, do you want to wear it? Do you feel like you

902
00:57:24,940 --> 00:57:27,200
look good? Because I think you look good. And then it's like, okay, fuck it.

903
00:57:27,700 --> 00:57:30,960
I'm going to wear it. What I've noticed is you and I, we dress a

904
00:57:31,460 --> 00:57:34,960
certain way, we carry ourselves a certain way. Not the

905
00:57:35,460 --> 00:57:39,040
way our parents did when they were in their 40s. We almost are kind of

906
00:57:39,540 --> 00:57:42,360
ageless, the way we carry ourselves. You know what I mean? Like, we don't really

907
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:45,880
identify by age. Yeah. I got white in my beard.

908
00:57:46,380 --> 00:57:49,320
Whatevs. But if you look at us, all done up and out.

909
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:52,960
We don't look like an old couple. You know what I mean? Parents.

910
00:57:53,460 --> 00:57:57,120
We don't know. And I think, you know, we. Our kids are in marching band.

911
00:57:57,620 --> 00:58:01,200
We go to, like, the different. Around the parents, the marching

912
00:58:01,700 --> 00:58:04,600
band parents. And I'm looking around and I'm like, God,

913
00:58:05,100 --> 00:58:08,760
these people are my age, maybe younger, and they're all

914
00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:12,440
dressed like parents. We're people watchers. And yeah,

915
00:58:12,590 --> 00:58:16,510
yeah, they're dressed like parents. They carry themselves like parents.

916
00:58:16,990 --> 00:58:19,790
It's old, it's boring, it's drab,

917
00:58:20,270 --> 00:58:23,550
you know, And I'm just like. And we're, like the only ones sitting there.

918
00:58:24,050 --> 00:58:26,510
And even our kids have been like, oh, man. All the kids in school,

919
00:58:27,010 --> 00:58:29,550
they're like, you guys are the cool parents. You're the cool parents.

920
00:58:30,830 --> 00:58:33,710
I mean, we have a teenage daughter, and she'll come out and she'll be like,

921
00:58:34,110 --> 00:58:37,470
mom, you look like a teenager.

922
00:58:37,970 --> 00:58:40,870
Look what you're wearing. Oh. You know, and we come. We come out of the

923
00:58:41,370 --> 00:58:43,910
room, and our kids are out there in the living room, and they watch us

924
00:58:44,410 --> 00:58:46,850
as we walk. Walk out, and they're like, whoa, look at you guys. Y' all

925
00:58:47,350 --> 00:58:50,410
look great. Like, they're our biggest hype before we head out.

926
00:58:50,730 --> 00:58:54,370
And so it's. It's fun to feel, you know, we already

927
00:58:54,870 --> 00:58:57,450
have a good support system, so we hype each other up.

928
00:58:57,690 --> 00:59:00,890
Our kids hype us up. Yeah. And then we go out there, of course we're

929
00:59:01,390 --> 00:59:03,610
gonna have confidence. Yeah. Of course. We're gonna show up to a date and be

930
00:59:04,110 --> 00:59:07,650
like, I mean, I know I look good. Oh, my God. Age is

931
00:59:08,150 --> 00:59:11,770
just a number, you know, it's how you present yourself, especially in

932
00:59:12,270 --> 00:59:15,460
the lifestyle. Like, I know that it's hard. Women,

933
00:59:15,620 --> 00:59:19,620
I know that we do a lot, but it is definitely do some.

934
00:59:20,020 --> 00:59:22,820
Self care and yourselves a lot. Yeah. And, like,

935
00:59:23,460 --> 00:59:26,940
I do love that. This style, this community that we're

936
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:31,460
in. A lot of the people, like I said, are older or

937
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:35,620
our age. Right. They look great. Like, it makes it. That even

938
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:39,740
boosts my confidence that everyone looks really good. Yeah. And no one's

939
00:59:40,240 --> 00:59:43,440
acting like they're young or acting like they're old.

940
00:59:43,940 --> 00:59:47,160
Like, it's all. It. It kind of all meshes together.

941
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:49,400
Sure. And it kind of makes.

942
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:53,960
It makes you more comfortable, you know? Like,

943
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:57,320
I don't know, you know, the way you're sitting in this chair.

944
00:59:57,800 --> 01:00:00,840
I'm gonna have to wrap this up. Okay, well, hold on, hold on, hold on.

945
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:04,520
So I wanted to say. What did I want to say?

946
01:00:05,020 --> 01:00:08,930
Dude, I don't even know, did you? You distracted me with your look

947
01:00:09,570 --> 01:00:12,730
because you distracted me. You got your legs up. I'm literally

948
01:00:13,230 --> 01:00:15,650
looking at your vagina right now. I'm sorry. Okay. You could wrap it up.

949
01:00:16,150 --> 01:00:19,010
Go ahead. Because I don't know what you were going to say, but I can't

950
01:00:19,510 --> 01:00:22,170
even. I don't even know what we did the show on. Like, I'm just distracted

951
01:00:22,670 --> 01:00:25,250
by you. I think it was confidence and age. Whatever.

952
01:00:26,290 --> 01:00:29,210
Sorry, baby. I don't even care, man. You might as well.

953
01:00:29,710 --> 01:00:33,130
Yeah. Damn, girl. All I see is vagina and tits right now.

954
01:00:33,630 --> 01:00:36,970
Yeah, I think we need to end this show. Let's do that. All right,

955
01:00:37,470 --> 01:00:40,930
guys, listen, thanks for coming out. Thanks for coming out. Thanks for listening.

956
01:00:41,430 --> 01:00:45,090
Whatever. You know, whatever it is that. That you do. Yeah. Thank you for supporting

957
01:00:45,590 --> 01:00:48,050
us. Thank you for being there. Thank you for being a part of our.

958
01:00:48,550 --> 01:00:51,930
Our lifestyle journey. Because realistically, we have grown just

959
01:00:52,430 --> 01:00:55,850
by taking on this podcast. So we really enjoy the suggestions that

960
01:00:56,350 --> 01:00:59,010
we get from you guys. We enjoy the interactivity that comes from y' all.

961
01:00:59,420 --> 01:01:02,660
We appreciate everybody that listens and downloads and

962
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:06,940
is a part of this community with us. And if you have

963
01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:10,540
some time, feel free to go to our socials. Show some love.

964
01:01:10,700 --> 01:01:14,580
We're on Facebook. We're on Instagram, we're on TikTok, and.

965
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:18,500
And you know, even on our Facebook, you can find that. We have a

966
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:22,220
link to a phone number. You can call us, leave us voicemail. You could text

967
01:01:22,720 --> 01:01:25,900
us. You can email us at beyond monogamy for you@gmail.com.

968
01:01:26,350 --> 01:01:28,670
that's beyond monogamy. Number four, letter U,

969
01:01:29,170 --> 01:01:32,350
gmail.com and just drop us a line, man.

970
01:01:32,850 --> 01:01:36,110
Let us know what you. What you want to do. Yeah, you know, you can

971
01:01:36,610 --> 01:01:40,190
always reach us on any of those little social media stuff.

972
01:01:40,350 --> 01:01:43,710
Yeah, for sure. So we really appreciate you guys signing on with us.

973
01:01:44,210 --> 01:01:48,030
And we are out of here. We will see y' all next week. Bye,

974
01:01:54,990 --> 01:02:10,510
Sam.