Oct. 29, 2025
QUICKIE: Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle
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Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle
Podcast: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Sometimes you're vibing at a lifestyle club—lights low, bodies moving, drinks flowing—and boom… someone from your vanilla life walks in. Your coworker. A family friend. Someone from the PTA. 😳 Now what?
In today's Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down exactly what happens when you get SPOTTED in the wild… and how to turn that panic moment into a confident lifestyle win. From awkward introductions to "keep your eyes up" territory, this episode shares a real-life run-in that ended up being surprisingly great.
What You'll Learn
- The #1 newbie fear: "What if I run into someone I know?!"—and how to handle it
- Consent, discretion, and reading the room when worlds collide
- When not to approach someone—and why
- Why being open can feel freeing (and build real community)
- Turning "oh no" into "we're good" without the drama
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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.
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This show is raw, real, and
definitely not rated pg.
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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you
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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.
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So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice and get comfy.
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Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not
licensed therapists, counselors, or sex.
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Couches.
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Sex coaches.
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Sex coaches, not sex couches
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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.
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An ethical non-monogamy.
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So with that, pull up a
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And.
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Hi everyone.
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So today's subject is actually a little
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about could be listening to the show.
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So with that, we have certain areas where
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audio is missing, and that's because we
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so that all identities can be protected.
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How about that?
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That's right.
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And with that, enjoy the show.
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Hello, and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.
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I'm Adam.
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And I'm Pris.
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And today on our Wednesday quickie,
we are going to be talking about.
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When you run into people, you know.
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Yeah.
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When you, at a lifestyle event spotted,
when you've been spotted like a
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leopard at a San Antonio Zoo, man,
guys, this is a really cool zoo by the
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way, guys, are we delving into this?
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We are delving into this.
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Let's talk about time.
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Let's talk about it.
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Okay, so a few months ago, will you
tell me how deep you want me to get?
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Get into it.
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All right, so a few months ago I was on
social media word, and I spotted a couple.
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Hmm.
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And I saw who their friends were
and I was like, who is this?
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Why are they on here?
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So this couple was there, but
first I go and I ask, okay,
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who has the mutual friends?
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I go and I ask the friend, and I'm
like, okay, how do you know them?
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And she proceeds to tell me,
oh, they're always at the club.
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And I was like, okay, I've never
seen 'em and this is who they are.
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And she was like, oh, okay.
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Hope you never run into him.
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A few months pass.
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I never see him at events.
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We really haven't been doing
a lot of events in town.
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Mm-hmm.
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So I haven't seen them.
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Saturday we are reversed in a
parking spot in front of the club.
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I see this truck coming into the parking
lot, I think it's our other friends.
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So I'm like really staring and
I look and I see the guy and I
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look and I see the driver and the
girl and I'm like, and I went.
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Oh man.
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And a matter of seconds,
I've never seen move so fast.
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You were like a cat that
was about to take a bath.
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My blood pressure was off the charts.
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Like I was like mind blowing.
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So awkward, mind blowing.
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And Adam is asking me,
so what's wrong with you?
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And I tell him, Hey, that's so-and-so's
. He's like, oh man, do you wanna leave?
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And I'm like, I'm not gonna leave.
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I, I have nothing.
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I don't wanna leave because
one, it, that's my environment.
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That's where I'm most comfortable.
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That's just a fun place for me.
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So I was like, I'm not gonna leave.
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And can we traveled over an hour to Yeah.
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And I, I was like, no, we're fine.
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If they feel uncomfortable,
they could leave.
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Sure.
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So.
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They go, we, the door's
open, we get in line.
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We're the last to in the line,
and they're in the front.
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So they might've seen me
walk up, but I don't know.
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So anyway, they, they say hi to the
door people, which are friends of ours.
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They go in.
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They're with the same group of
people of the party that we were
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gonna attend, but we got ourselves
a couch because we like to have a
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little safe spot for For ourselves.
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And so they were on one corner
of the club and we were on
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the other corner of the club.
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We go, we sit down and I'm just vibing.
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I'm just dancing, oh, I like you dance.
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I'm just dancing along.
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Little shoulder action, you know,
a little bit of moving movement.
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A little empty hammer.
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Yeah, a little parachute pants thing.
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Can't touch this.
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And you and I are just chit chatting and
we're talking and we're people watching?
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This is true.
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And about what, two hours?
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Yeah, about two hours.
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They come up to us and they're like, Hey.
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And I said, oh, hey, how are you?
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And he goes, this is weird.
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And I said, yeah.
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And he is like, y'all
are like celebrities.
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And I was like.
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Oh, really?
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And he is like, yeah, people
have been asking us, do you
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wanna go meet Adam and Pris?
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Do you wanna go meet Adam and Pris?
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And I was like, yeah, it's, we
have a show, we have a podcast.
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And he goes, yeah, I know.
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So then I'm talking to him very briefly,
then I tell Adam, Hey Adam, it is this
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is so and so and so-and-so, so-and-so's.
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And he was like, oh, okay.
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Hi.
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Yeah.
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And then after that, I don't even
know, I don't even know where
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you want me to go from there.
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Uh, you know, I just, I just think it's
funny because it turned out to be okay.
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It turned out to be great, and it's
like I told you it was gonna be fine.
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Oh yeah.
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And this is the part that people
really kind of freak out about.
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I've heard so many times people say over
and over again, especially if they're new.
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Yeah.
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They say, well, what if I
run into somebody I know.
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Yeah, and my first reaction, and
unfortunately it's always a little
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sarcastic, and I don't mean to be,
but it's just one of those situations,
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it's like, what if you run into
somebody, you know, you are an
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you're at a place where, you know.
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It's just as guilty for you as
it is for them and vice versa.
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I mean, you know, and it's not,
and so like, I, so for me, I am
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super, super, super comfortable in
my, in my body for the most part.
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That's where it was
getting a little awkward.
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Is that right?
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And so I straight out told
them, I was like, just an FYI.
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We are, we usually play in the middle.
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So heads up.
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But I was kind of telling him like,
heads up, like heads up, heads up, man.
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Just in case, you know.
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No, like really keep your heads up.
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You don't need to see where you're,
where your niece and nephew came from.
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Oh my God.
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Like, we don't need to see that.
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That's right.
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You don't need to see the
birth canal all over again.
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This time.
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Not on VHS and I'm sorry.
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Start old what?
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We grew up in the VHS era.
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I didn't have any kids during the VHS era.
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I don't know,
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it's so, it was a little, uh, it
panic had said it in the beginning,
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and then after that it was fine.
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Oh, dude, you freaked out, man.
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But then we went to the
back and that was awkward.
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I didn't think twice.
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It was awkward, but I mean, it
wasn't my connection, so I, yeah,
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it was, it was a little awkward.
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They saw what they saw.
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It is what it is, but I have a question.
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This all happens.
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It is what it is.
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Yeah.
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I think I would've stepped
away if they would've wanted to
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do like parallel play Really?
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I think Too weird.
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I think.
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I think that would've
gotten too weird for.
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I think she would've been fine with
it, but yeah, I, that's not my jam.
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And you know, it's one of those
situations where you really gotta
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know where you want to draw your line.
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Yeah.
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I know some couples I've heard
actually recently, uh, where someone
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will say, I would really prefer it,
you don't sleep with my friends.
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Like if I'm really, if I have
really good friends, like, and
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I've heard people say that.
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I have said you couldn't, when
we were poly, you couldn't date
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anybody I went to school with.
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Yeah, that's right.
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Which made made it very small because hey,
those hoes were already taken, but some
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of them were a little bee hoing still.
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Hey, and I was like.
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And I was, I was here for it.
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Yeah.
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I was here for it.
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I was disappointed that that was a rule.
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No.
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Only because I knew I knew them
and I wasn't gonna have that.
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Like, I knew I was gonna have
to beat some bitches and yeah.
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Everybody's gotta have their thing.
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Everybody has a thing.
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Yeah.
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And you know how awkward.
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Yeah, I guess.
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I guess it's a, I mean, it, it, it
really depends on how you think of it.
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Not because I was just talking
about this the other day.
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I don't remember to who, but we are sexual
beings and we forget that everybody in
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our, in our world are also sexual beings.
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You know, you get to see different
people out in their everyday life.
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Mm-hmm.
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Your boss, your coworkers, the people that
work down the street, at the post office.
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Yeah.
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You know, all of these different people.
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Yeah.
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And you.
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Aside from our asexual
friends who do exist.
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Yeah.
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For the most part, everybody
else is a very sexual being.
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We all have these thoughts.
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We all have these feelings.
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We all get off at one point or another.
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Yeah.
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And we don't view people who we've
connected with in certain ways.
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We don't view them in that way.
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Yeah.
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And no, that's very true, especially in
a. In a kinky way, I guess you would say.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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The lifestyle is, is kinky.
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It is something that, that not everybody
does, and I totally respect that.
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So I have no problem with that.
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And again, they're not
blood related to me, right?
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So I don't care.
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But I wouldn't,
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I don't think that I
would go any further than.
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The interaction that we had.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I don't think I could, I could
go any, any further than that.
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And I'm sure that there is a
possibility that could come up.
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Come up.
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Yeah.
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Just because a woman knows.
237
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Hey, and I don't know.
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It's like, it was.
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It was, it was a little weird.
240
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But then after that I
was like, okay, whatever.
241
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I don't know.
242
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I didn't think twice, but you know,
I don't really have connections
243
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like that nearby that, or even
if we did, like, I mean, yeah, I
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just don't, that's the second time
I've seen somebody that we know.
245
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Yeah.
246
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And you know, I'd never run
into anybody that I know.
247
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No.
248
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And.
249
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I don't think there are people in
our circle that I always think,
250
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not in our circle, but like when we
were, when we would work or when we
251
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would go somewhere and be like, how
funny would it be if we caught them?
252
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If we saw them?
253
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Yeah.
254
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You just never know.
255
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Yeah.
256
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But I, I don't ever really run
into, you know, and if I ran into
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somebody that I knew from the past,
I don't think I would really think
258
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anything of it, because I've run into
people that I knew at strip clubs.
259
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Yeah.
260
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And why isn't that?
261
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And that's just as awkward.
262
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Oh my god.
263
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I remember when I was stripping
and my uncle walked in.
264
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Oh yeah, guys, one I classic
sucked as Aer classic Pris.
265
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I was not a very good dancer.
266
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I mean, I, I thought you were fantastic.
267
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I was a good dancer.
268
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I just wasn't a good,
fantastic dancer, money maker.
269
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Like I would go up to the guys and
I'd be like, look, I don't drink.
270
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Let me just sit here with you.
271
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Let's chitchat.
272
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How was your day?
273
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What did you invest in today?
274
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Um, like I was that person I'd
be like, go home to your wife.
275
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She's probably waiting for
you at your dinner, man.
276
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But I remember walking
in self destructive.
277
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I remember being there and my uncle
walking in and I looked at, and I
278
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remember calling you be like, oh my God.
279
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Yeah.
280
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Yeah.
281
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I remember that phone call.
282
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I think.
283
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How awkward would it be
if you were to see like
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your parents.
285
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So that's the thing.
286
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Again, I understand
everyone's my situation.
287
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I, no, but I mean, like, I'm hypothetical.
288
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Yeah, no, like I said, uh, so I had
always and I don't know if I ever
289
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mentioned this, I think we had talked
about it because, you knew my father had
290
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been cheating on my mother for years.
291
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But previous to that,
in his first marriage.
292
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He was, I believe, a swinger.
293
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And so when he wasn't able to be
a swinger with my mother, then
294
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he just started cheating on her.
295
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Mm-hmm.
296
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But I always suspected that he wanted back
in that lifestyle and when we came out
297
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as open I think he was jealous of that.
298
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So when he remarried,
I had always wondered.
299
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Are they gonna pop up at
a fuck at a fucking party?
300
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Yeah.
301
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Or something like, I, I always wondered
if there was gonna be a time where I was
302
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gonna run into either them or one of my
single sisters or, or cousin or something.
303
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Yeah.
304
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And I always wondered, what, what
would be my response if that happens?
305
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Well, it's, it's gonna be one of two
things, either I'm gonna say, screw it.
306
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I'm about to make things
very uncomfortable because
307
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I'm about to let loose here.
308
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Yeah.
309
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Or I'm gonna have the opposite reaction,
which is, let's call it a night.
310
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Let's get outta here
before, let's just duck out.
311
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Yeah.
312
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We don't have to say goodbye to anybody.
313
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Yeah.
314
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Let's just go.
315
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Yeah.
316
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And so there's no in between.
317
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Those are gonna be the only two.
318
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Choices that are gonna come up.
319
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Yeah.
320
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And whatever I'm feeling at
that time is what I'm gonna do.
321
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And I don't think that
there's any shame in that.
322
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No, there isn't.
323
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There isn't any shame in it, but
it nevertheless is very awkward.
324
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It can, it can be.
325
00:14:05,977 --> 00:14:10,177
I think it's more awkward for, uh,
for women in situations like that.
326
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Yeah.
327
00:14:11,707 --> 00:14:12,247
Yeah.
328
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And you know, you get the nervousness of,
Ooh, are they gonna go and tell so and so?
329
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Are they gonna go and tell so and so?
330
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What's funny is that I was having
conversation with him and he is like,
331
00:14:22,417 --> 00:14:23,857
yeah, we've been doing this for a while.
332
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So yeah, it's large community,
but where we live, you're either
333
00:14:29,747 --> 00:14:32,297
going an we're central, right?
334
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Or not central, but in be,
we're an hour away from each.
335
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Yeah.
336
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Each club.
337
00:14:38,157 --> 00:14:45,437
You know, and so I knew I was bound to
see them somewhere, but I didn't think,
338
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I don't know, I didn't think it was
gonna be the club, but it is what it is.
339
00:14:48,737 --> 00:14:49,127
I don't know.
340
00:14:49,127 --> 00:14:50,537
It's cool now because I'm.
341
00:14:50,897 --> 00:14:52,157
Desensitized to it.
342
00:14:52,157 --> 00:14:52,337
Yeah.
343
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I don't think that I would have
any issue running into anybody.
344
00:14:55,907 --> 00:14:56,267
Yeah.
345
00:14:56,267 --> 00:14:59,912
If I were to see that, I mean, I
think I've overplayed it in my head.
346
00:14:59,972 --> 00:15:00,212
Yeah.
347
00:15:00,302 --> 00:15:01,412
Now I don't care.
348
00:15:01,472 --> 00:15:01,592
Yeah.
349
00:15:01,622 --> 00:15:03,692
I just know that I
wouldn't play with them.
350
00:15:03,752 --> 00:15:04,052
Yeah.
351
00:15:04,112 --> 00:15:06,632
But them being at the same place I'm at.
352
00:15:06,692 --> 00:15:07,892
No, I don't mind that.
353
00:15:08,012 --> 00:15:08,282
Yeah.
354
00:15:08,432 --> 00:15:09,752
No, it doesn't have to be awkward.
355
00:15:09,752 --> 00:15:10,982
Well, they're not gonna
go and say anything.
356
00:15:10,982 --> 00:15:11,792
What are they gonna go do?
357
00:15:11,792 --> 00:15:13,352
Go and tell them and be like, okay.
358
00:15:13,412 --> 00:15:13,772
And.
359
00:15:14,347 --> 00:15:17,767
Yeah, you want an invitation next time?
360
00:15:18,632 --> 00:15:19,092
No problem.
361
00:15:19,447 --> 00:15:24,137
You know, it's like that's the only
thing that can that, but I know I
362
00:15:24,137 --> 00:15:25,817
know none of that will come up yeah.
363
00:15:25,977 --> 00:15:26,137
Yeah.
364
00:15:26,632 --> 00:15:36,022
Well, you know, for us, uh, you know, we
have, we've been reached out to before,
365
00:15:36,352 --> 00:15:39,472
you know, in, in like swinger apps.
366
00:15:40,262 --> 00:15:44,702
And websites where, and I say
we, but it's primarily, it's,
367
00:15:44,762 --> 00:15:45,977
it's happened to you mm-hmm.
368
00:15:46,062 --> 00:15:49,572
Where somebody will reach out to you
and they'll be like do you remember me?
369
00:15:50,277 --> 00:15:52,137
Oh, that is the, oh God.
370
00:15:52,422 --> 00:15:58,242
So I don't know if you remember
me, but, uh, we did this.
371
00:15:58,777 --> 00:16:04,327
One time block, I know that you've
run into that, uh, a few times.
372
00:16:04,357 --> 00:16:04,837
Oh, yeah.
373
00:16:05,017 --> 00:16:06,487
And I think still, yeah.
374
00:16:06,487 --> 00:16:06,727
Right.
375
00:16:06,727 --> 00:16:12,397
To this day, I still run into like,
Hey, I met you and your husband, or
376
00:16:13,057 --> 00:16:15,787
I'll be like, O okay who are you?
377
00:16:16,057 --> 00:16:17,077
And they won't tell me.
378
00:16:17,077 --> 00:16:19,957
And then I'm like, I'm just gonna block
you if you don't tell me who you are.
379
00:16:19,957 --> 00:16:20,017
Yeah.
380
00:16:20,697 --> 00:16:24,237
So I also don't ever have that feeling of.
381
00:16:24,902 --> 00:16:28,202
I know a lot of people work for bigger
community or bigger companies and stuff.
382
00:16:28,202 --> 00:16:32,192
It's Ooh, if I run into a coworker,
are they gonna go blast me at work?
383
00:16:32,222 --> 00:16:32,282
Yeah.
384
00:16:32,352 --> 00:16:33,312
They're there too.
385
00:16:33,522 --> 00:16:33,822
Yeah.
386
00:16:33,867 --> 00:16:34,157
Yeah.
387
00:16:34,362 --> 00:16:35,532
Now I, and that's a big point.
388
00:16:35,532 --> 00:16:36,102
Yeah.
389
00:16:36,222 --> 00:16:37,332
And so they're there too.
390
00:16:37,332 --> 00:16:38,322
It's like, okay.
391
00:16:38,332 --> 00:16:43,822
And I don't think jobs should even care
about what you do and what you say.
392
00:16:44,242 --> 00:16:44,452
Yeah.
393
00:16:44,452 --> 00:16:49,512
Well, after hours, like, I
think that's ridiculous, but.
394
00:16:50,607 --> 00:16:54,957
I don't know if I ever saw my boss at,
if I ever saw my boss at a swinger's
395
00:16:54,957 --> 00:16:58,677
club, that one would make me laugh.
396
00:16:59,097 --> 00:17:02,817
If you ever saw your boss at a Swinger's
club, chances are it's because he
397
00:17:02,817 --> 00:17:05,487
tracked you down because he needs
you to take care of that report.
398
00:17:06,597 --> 00:17:08,247
And why didn't you answer your phone?
399
00:17:08,787 --> 00:17:10,497
You didn't acknowledge his text.
400
00:17:11,607 --> 00:17:12,927
You didn't get on the Zoom.
401
00:17:15,652 --> 00:17:16,432
Oh gosh.
402
00:17:17,517 --> 00:17:18,057
Needy.
403
00:17:18,057 --> 00:17:18,987
These are those ass men.
404
00:17:18,987 --> 00:17:19,677
Wonderful moments.
405
00:17:20,037 --> 00:17:20,127
Yeah.
406
00:17:20,577 --> 00:17:21,177
Hey, what?
407
00:17:21,177 --> 00:17:22,347
Hey, I'm just, I'm one of them.
408
00:17:22,437 --> 00:17:23,097
I'm not gonna lie.
409
00:17:23,307 --> 00:17:25,227
I like you being needy, but I am needy.
410
00:17:25,287 --> 00:17:25,617
Yeah.
411
00:17:25,647 --> 00:17:27,027
But no, it is, it is.
412
00:17:27,067 --> 00:17:30,977
It is a little awkward when you
see someone and me, when I'm at
413
00:17:30,977 --> 00:17:34,217
the club again, like he said,
that is the most comfortable.
414
00:17:34,742 --> 00:17:36,122
Spot for me.
415
00:17:36,332 --> 00:17:40,592
So I, Adam's always sitting
and I'm always dancing.
416
00:17:40,592 --> 00:17:42,572
Like I'm right there next to him dancing.
417
00:17:42,572 --> 00:17:45,452
And they've been playing
some good music lately.
418
00:17:45,752 --> 00:17:48,692
And so, and the girls are out.
419
00:17:48,992 --> 00:17:49,082
Yeah.
420
00:17:49,082 --> 00:17:50,342
You know, and.
421
00:17:51,222 --> 00:17:55,067
Me and the girls are vibing dance, you
know, we're doing our little dance.
422
00:17:55,067 --> 00:17:56,657
That's a great little chacha.
423
00:17:56,657 --> 00:17:57,497
Chacha Nest.
424
00:17:58,127 --> 00:17:58,307
Oh my, my gosh.
425
00:17:58,307 --> 00:17:58,907
Easy dead chief.
426
00:17:59,807 --> 00:18:01,877
You gonna knock down a
microphone with that?
427
00:18:01,877 --> 00:18:03,167
A little Chacha Nest.
428
00:18:03,197 --> 00:18:03,587
So, wow.
429
00:18:04,727 --> 00:18:07,562
Yeah, that's, you're gonna replay that.
430
00:18:08,142 --> 00:18:08,682
Oh my goodness.
431
00:18:09,262 --> 00:18:12,202
That's ingrained in my memory, baby.
432
00:18:12,287 --> 00:18:13,247
You have 'em all the time.
433
00:18:13,247 --> 00:18:13,907
You, I know.
434
00:18:13,907 --> 00:18:19,637
And it never gets old to me, but yeah, so
it's, uh, it could be a little awkward.
435
00:18:20,612 --> 00:18:25,002
Although I do feel like it's,
it has this situation for me has
436
00:18:26,562 --> 00:18:28,632
made me feel a little more free.
437
00:18:29,742 --> 00:18:30,912
It's made you feel free.
438
00:18:30,942 --> 00:18:32,262
I feel a little freer.
439
00:18:32,262 --> 00:18:33,942
Like, can you explain that?
440
00:18:35,082 --> 00:18:39,492
Well, nobody really knows our
background and the situation in that.
441
00:18:40,122 --> 00:18:41,442
Category Sure.
442
00:18:41,802 --> 00:18:43,092
With these people.
443
00:18:43,362 --> 00:18:43,452
Sure.
444
00:18:43,662 --> 00:18:48,942
And so that situation makes
me feel a little freer.
445
00:18:49,032 --> 00:18:49,692
I gotcha.
446
00:18:50,142 --> 00:18:51,432
Kind of safe.
447
00:18:52,542 --> 00:18:52,902
Okay.
448
00:18:53,262 --> 00:18:54,492
Kind of safe.
449
00:18:54,642 --> 00:18:56,322
If that, if that makes any sense.
450
00:18:56,322 --> 00:19:01,062
Kind of like that person's
not gonna go and say anything.
451
00:19:01,162 --> 00:19:04,722
Not that it matters but that person's
not gonna go and say anything.
452
00:19:04,722 --> 00:19:08,292
And then, and if that person
does, it's only gonna make that
453
00:19:08,292 --> 00:19:09,592
person feel bad, not the person.
454
00:19:09,597 --> 00:19:10,047
Well see.
455
00:19:10,047 --> 00:19:11,967
And that's the thing that we,
like, I, we seem to forget.
456
00:19:12,037 --> 00:19:12,327
Yeah.
457
00:19:12,427 --> 00:19:12,647
Is.
458
00:19:13,302 --> 00:19:15,222
It's a big community.
459
00:19:15,492 --> 00:19:20,802
Everybody forgets that it's, it is bigger
than what you see because there's a lot
460
00:19:20,802 --> 00:19:23,082
of the community that's very discreet.
461
00:19:23,532 --> 00:19:23,832
Yeah.
462
00:19:23,892 --> 00:19:28,452
And so they're so discreet that most
people that are in the community don't
463
00:19:28,452 --> 00:19:30,162
even know they're in the community.
464
00:19:30,172 --> 00:19:33,082
Straight up, you know, I,
and so that's the thing.
465
00:19:33,132 --> 00:19:37,482
They'll pop up at a, at a party once a
month or, or once every couple of weeks.
466
00:19:37,752 --> 00:19:41,322
You know, something will happen
where they, they will be a
467
00:19:41,322 --> 00:19:43,692
part of the community, but you
just won't see 'em that often.
468
00:19:43,692 --> 00:19:44,052
Yeah.
469
00:19:44,172 --> 00:19:48,852
And so we forget that there's a good
chance you're gonna run into somebody.
470
00:19:48,852 --> 00:19:49,362
No, it there is.
471
00:19:49,362 --> 00:19:52,122
And it's like, oh well.
472
00:19:52,707 --> 00:19:53,577
Like, it, it is.
473
00:19:53,667 --> 00:19:56,307
Well, so, and that's really the
thing is you kind of gotta have
474
00:19:56,307 --> 00:19:59,697
to get your mind set up mm-hmm.
475
00:19:59,997 --> 00:20:04,137
And prepared before you go to anything
that's lifestyle related, that there
476
00:20:04,137 --> 00:20:06,837
is a chance that you could Yes.
477
00:20:06,837 --> 00:20:09,957
Be walking into something
that you know somebody Yeah.
478
00:20:10,257 --> 00:20:11,187
You know what's funny?
479
00:20:11,967 --> 00:20:18,687
What tell me, I don't know if you
remember the story about how I got
480
00:20:18,747 --> 00:20:21,027
I was catfished in high school.
481
00:20:21,507 --> 00:20:26,977
This girl that I was kind of dating
over the phone through a mutual
482
00:20:26,977 --> 00:20:31,617
acquaintance, Uhhuh, and you know, it
was that puppy love stuff, you know?
483
00:20:31,617 --> 00:20:32,427
Oh, I love you.
484
00:20:32,427 --> 00:20:33,267
Oh, I love you, Uhhuh.
485
00:20:33,267 --> 00:20:33,897
Don't hang up.
486
00:20:33,897 --> 00:20:34,707
You know, whatever.
487
00:20:34,797 --> 00:20:34,827
Uhhuh.
488
00:20:35,187 --> 00:20:35,247
Yeah.
489
00:20:36,117 --> 00:20:39,672
And then when we finally met up,
we were at the mall and she didn't
490
00:20:39,672 --> 00:20:42,672
look anything like, and she didn't
look anything like her pictures.
491
00:20:42,672 --> 00:20:43,677
It was her cousin's picture.
492
00:20:43,742 --> 00:20:44,032
Yeah.
493
00:20:44,037 --> 00:20:44,247
Yeah.
494
00:20:44,247 --> 00:20:46,797
She didn't look anything like
her, like her pictures at all.
495
00:20:46,857 --> 00:20:49,917
Not attractive whatsoever, but I
was like, oh, I'll give this a shot.
496
00:20:49,917 --> 00:20:53,337
And then she totally just like
was not satisfied with me.
497
00:20:53,397 --> 00:20:53,697
Yeah.
498
00:20:54,027 --> 00:20:56,007
And so she's like, gave
her the cold shoulder.
499
00:20:56,222 --> 00:20:56,432
Yeah.
500
00:20:56,432 --> 00:21:01,682
Anyways, so not like I'm holding
onto that or anything, but somebody
501
00:21:01,682 --> 00:21:02,942
needs a little bit of therapy.
502
00:21:03,782 --> 00:21:04,232
Okay.
503
00:21:04,232 --> 00:21:05,462
That's what this is right here.
504
00:21:05,492 --> 00:21:05,672
Yes.
505
00:21:05,912 --> 00:21:06,902
Uh, that's why I have a show.
506
00:21:07,532 --> 00:21:15,482
So this person I've always known about
well, when we got started in the lifestyle
507
00:21:15,482 --> 00:21:17,912
we had, we were on those websites Yeah.
508
00:21:17,912 --> 00:21:18,842
That we were on.
509
00:21:19,022 --> 00:21:19,382
Yeah.
510
00:21:20,132 --> 00:21:21,302
And this.
511
00:21:21,807 --> 00:21:24,207
Girls started reaching out to us.
512
00:21:24,207 --> 00:21:24,267
Yeah.
513
00:21:24,717 --> 00:21:26,877
And they wanted to meet up with us.
514
00:21:27,297 --> 00:21:33,057
And I was hell bent against it being
a no, because that was the same girl.
515
00:21:33,267 --> 00:21:35,037
No, same girl.
516
00:21:35,217 --> 00:21:36,537
You never told me that.
517
00:21:36,567 --> 00:21:37,617
Well, yeah, I know.
518
00:21:37,767 --> 00:21:38,097
How about that?
519
00:21:38,097 --> 00:21:41,187
Why we were working on our
communication and look at this,
520
00:21:41,187 --> 00:21:43,017
now we're talking about it.
521
00:21:43,247 --> 00:21:43,907
Now I got you.
522
00:21:44,447 --> 00:21:44,837
I don't know.
523
00:21:44,837 --> 00:21:45,557
I just, I don't know.
524
00:21:45,557 --> 00:21:48,917
It was early on and it was never anything
important enough for me to bring up again.
525
00:21:48,977 --> 00:21:50,177
No, but that's a good story.
526
00:21:50,177 --> 00:21:51,407
That is a good story.
527
00:21:51,412 --> 00:21:51,947
Told me you, how about that?
528
00:21:51,947 --> 00:21:54,287
I reached into the sack and
I pulled out the rabbit.
529
00:21:54,317 --> 00:21:54,737
Wow.
530
00:21:54,737 --> 00:22:01,127
Because this particular person who
I felt was a, a horrible person
531
00:22:01,127 --> 00:22:05,607
back then all of a sudden they're
in a position where she didn't know
532
00:22:05,607 --> 00:22:08,187
who I was, but I remembered her.
533
00:22:08,582 --> 00:22:10,592
Yeah, you remember everybody
I'm saying, oh, I do.
534
00:22:11,192 --> 00:22:18,332
And so that was a situation where I could
have like been, you know, I could have,
535
00:22:18,392 --> 00:22:20,072
I could have brought it up, you know?
536
00:22:20,072 --> 00:22:22,322
Yeah, I could've been
that guy, but I didn't.
537
00:22:23,582 --> 00:22:24,422
I was better than that.
538
00:22:24,422 --> 00:22:24,452
I
539
00:22:26,582 --> 00:22:28,292
thank goodness for that.
540
00:22:28,472 --> 00:22:30,767
But I will always remember was she
always remember still unattractive.
541
00:22:30,767 --> 00:22:30,977
Remember?
542
00:22:31,397 --> 00:22:31,687
Yeah.
543
00:22:31,692 --> 00:22:32,422
Yeah, yeah.
544
00:22:32,482 --> 00:22:33,172
Yeah.
545
00:22:33,232 --> 00:22:35,122
I'm glad you, I'm glad
you didn't bring it up.
546
00:22:35,152 --> 00:22:38,212
And of course, back then it
was early on in our yeah.
547
00:22:38,212 --> 00:22:40,132
And you didn't see that and No, I didn't.
548
00:22:40,132 --> 00:22:41,842
I was looking at experiences.
549
00:22:41,872 --> 00:22:41,932
Yeah.
550
00:22:41,932 --> 00:22:45,872
So for me to turn down something
is a pretty big deal because I was
551
00:22:45,872 --> 00:22:48,032
ready to, you know Yeah, I know.
552
00:22:48,032 --> 00:22:49,322
Have a sex time.
553
00:22:49,892 --> 00:22:50,162
Yes.
554
00:22:50,372 --> 00:22:52,922
You know, so yeah, I was, I
was gonna have a good time.
555
00:22:52,952 --> 00:22:56,702
Uh, and I wanted my experiences
and but I was not gonna.
556
00:22:57,617 --> 00:22:58,757
I wasn't gonna be that person.
557
00:22:58,787 --> 00:22:59,207
No way.
558
00:22:59,207 --> 00:23:00,797
No, no way.
559
00:23:01,397 --> 00:23:01,667
Yeah.
560
00:23:02,087 --> 00:23:02,927
Good for you.
561
00:23:02,957 --> 00:23:03,677
Yeah, right.
562
00:23:03,677 --> 00:23:04,337
Thank you.
563
00:23:05,147 --> 00:23:05,597
I know.
564
00:23:05,807 --> 00:23:07,977
But since then, yeah.
565
00:23:07,977 --> 00:23:12,677
You know, I have we've become
kind of this loud ass advocate
566
00:23:12,677 --> 00:23:16,157
for monogamy poster children.
567
00:23:16,157 --> 00:23:19,157
If you will, uh, for, you're
gonna be on milk cartons.
568
00:23:19,157 --> 00:23:19,697
That's right.
569
00:23:19,847 --> 00:23:21,677
Milk carton, non-monogamous.
570
00:23:21,767 --> 00:23:22,187
Mm-hmm.
571
00:23:22,727 --> 00:23:30,677
Um, and we kind of have gotten to
be seen in our community mm-hmm.
572
00:23:30,917 --> 00:23:32,207
And communities beyond.
573
00:23:32,917 --> 00:23:41,857
And so for us it's a little bit easier
for us to be outed to people that know us.
574
00:23:42,757 --> 00:23:43,687
Wouldn't you say?
575
00:23:44,692 --> 00:23:45,802
We're not discreet.
576
00:23:46,192 --> 00:23:47,002
We're not discreet.
577
00:23:47,007 --> 00:23:47,427
So I care less.
578
00:23:47,427 --> 00:23:49,642
As a matter of fact, we're
louder than discrete.
579
00:23:49,642 --> 00:23:51,482
We're not, we're discre, we're
literally live on TikTok.
580
00:23:51,482 --> 00:23:51,692
Yeah.
581
00:23:51,692 --> 00:23:52,892
We're not discreet at all.
582
00:23:52,892 --> 00:23:54,122
And I don't care with the podcast.
583
00:23:54,152 --> 00:23:54,992
I don't care.
584
00:23:54,992 --> 00:23:55,862
Who knows?
585
00:23:55,862 --> 00:23:56,942
It's national and global.
586
00:23:57,392 --> 00:23:59,942
I don't care who knows
about the lifestyle.
587
00:24:00,542 --> 00:24:04,322
So yeah, no, for us, it is what it is.
588
00:24:04,932 --> 00:24:06,057
It's a, it's different.
589
00:24:06,057 --> 00:24:06,297
It's life.
590
00:24:06,297 --> 00:24:06,927
It's our lifestyle, it's our life.
591
00:24:07,512 --> 00:24:08,862
We're not hurting anybody.
592
00:24:08,862 --> 00:24:09,522
We're not no.
593
00:24:09,737 --> 00:24:11,627
Not, we're not hurting anybody.
594
00:24:11,627 --> 00:24:13,822
We're not being violent to anybody's.
595
00:24:13,847 --> 00:24:15,827
We're not saying bad things to anybody.
596
00:24:15,827 --> 00:24:15,862
That's true.
597
00:24:15,867 --> 00:24:19,532
We're not bringing our families into this.
598
00:24:19,532 --> 00:24:20,582
This is us.
599
00:24:20,672 --> 00:24:20,822
Correct.
600
00:24:20,942 --> 00:24:23,642
And, you know, realistically,
what we are doing here.
601
00:24:24,167 --> 00:24:26,117
We talk a lot about our relationship.
602
00:24:26,117 --> 00:24:26,567
Yeah.
603
00:24:26,567 --> 00:24:30,347
It's, it's not, you know, you're not
talk, I'm not talking about, we're not
604
00:24:30,347 --> 00:24:32,617
getting into details about you know.
605
00:24:32,767 --> 00:24:33,037
Yeah.
606
00:24:33,037 --> 00:24:34,222
And I, so I, vaginal structure.
607
00:24:34,222 --> 00:24:34,502
Yeah.
608
00:24:34,502 --> 00:24:35,287
So we are a little different.
609
00:24:35,287 --> 00:24:36,307
I do not care.
610
00:24:36,337 --> 00:24:39,607
Um, I've never cared who know,
who knew about my lifestyle.
611
00:24:39,937 --> 00:24:44,377
The only reason I cared was I don't wanna
have that conversation with that person.
612
00:24:44,377 --> 00:24:48,447
Like, like if someone found out, like
my boss found out, I'd be like, yeah.
613
00:24:48,887 --> 00:24:50,207
Yeah, we're not discussing that.
614
00:24:50,317 --> 00:24:52,567
Yeah, not that's, you really
want to bring that up?
615
00:24:52,567 --> 00:24:54,967
Like, no, you really
want to bring that up.
616
00:24:54,967 --> 00:24:55,657
Stop it.
617
00:24:55,657 --> 00:24:55,717
Yeah.
618
00:24:55,957 --> 00:24:56,737
We don't do that.
619
00:24:56,947 --> 00:25:01,207
You know, so when you walk in and
you see Karen from the PTA or you
620
00:25:01,207 --> 00:25:06,007
know, Ramon from your apartments,
just be like, yo, what's up?
621
00:25:06,637 --> 00:25:06,802
You know?
622
00:25:06,832 --> 00:25:09,127
It's a, that's a, that's
an oh shit moment.
623
00:25:09,157 --> 00:25:09,517
It is.
624
00:25:09,517 --> 00:25:10,352
It does take you, it's.
625
00:25:10,637 --> 00:25:13,247
Catch your, to catch your
breath a little for the moment.
626
00:25:13,247 --> 00:25:14,927
'cause you're like, yeah, I saw yours.
627
00:25:14,987 --> 00:25:16,427
I was like, I saw yours.
628
00:25:16,427 --> 00:25:19,237
You turned to me like Beetlejuice.
629
00:25:19,237 --> 00:25:19,357
Yeah.
630
00:25:19,357 --> 00:25:20,347
Like, you just did this complete.
631
00:25:20,347 --> 00:25:21,907
And I instantly started shaking.
632
00:25:21,907 --> 00:25:26,587
'cause I was like, uh, but the only
reason I shook is because of my past and
633
00:25:26,617 --> 00:25:32,947
my trauma from that person that it, and
all the shit that we've gone through.
634
00:25:32,947 --> 00:25:34,717
And it's like, oh my God, really?
635
00:25:34,717 --> 00:25:36,517
But then I was like,
what is he gonna go do?
636
00:25:36,517 --> 00:25:37,447
Say in what?
637
00:25:37,537 --> 00:25:38,137
No.
638
00:25:38,797 --> 00:25:39,577
So, yeah.
639
00:25:40,137 --> 00:25:42,147
You know, it it, it's
bound to happen though.
640
00:25:42,147 --> 00:25:42,387
You know?
641
00:25:42,387 --> 00:25:42,507
It is.
642
00:25:42,987 --> 00:25:44,217
You've got your vanilla life.
643
00:25:44,277 --> 00:25:44,367
Mm-hmm.
644
00:25:44,607 --> 00:25:45,957
You've got your spicy life.
645
00:25:45,957 --> 00:25:47,367
They're bound to collide.
646
00:25:47,367 --> 00:25:47,697
Yeah.
647
00:25:47,697 --> 00:25:48,327
At some point.
648
00:25:48,327 --> 00:25:50,547
But like guys, we don't
have any family around here.
649
00:25:50,547 --> 00:25:51,477
That's just as you know.
650
00:25:51,477 --> 00:25:51,687
No.
651
00:25:51,927 --> 00:25:55,317
So, um, people that do,
I, you know, guys like it.
652
00:25:55,317 --> 00:25:56,787
It's gonna, it's bound to happen.
653
00:25:56,877 --> 00:25:57,237
Yeah.
654
00:25:57,297 --> 00:25:59,787
The answer right there is move away.
655
00:26:00,687 --> 00:26:01,297
Yes, that's right.
656
00:26:01,947 --> 00:26:02,607
Move away.
657
00:26:03,177 --> 00:26:03,537
Don't listen.
658
00:26:03,537 --> 00:26:04,317
Four more years.
659
00:26:04,377 --> 00:26:05,697
I am not a sex couch.
660
00:26:06,117 --> 00:26:07,647
No, we are not sex couches.
661
00:26:08,107 --> 00:26:08,117
No.
662
00:26:08,257 --> 00:26:08,647
We are not.
663
00:26:09,727 --> 00:26:13,957
So the golden rule would
be consent and discretion.
664
00:26:14,017 --> 00:26:14,257
Yes.
665
00:26:14,257 --> 00:26:14,617
Okay.
666
00:26:15,817 --> 00:26:17,467
Don't take a night off.
667
00:26:18,667 --> 00:26:18,697
Oh.
668
00:26:19,552 --> 00:26:21,172
No, don't take a night off.
669
00:26:21,322 --> 00:26:24,422
If you recognize someone,
just play it cool.
670
00:26:24,512 --> 00:26:27,032
Keep your eyes up, smile friendly.
671
00:26:27,452 --> 00:26:31,412
Don't go yelling their name across the
club and waving because that's awkward.
672
00:26:32,492 --> 00:26:33,482
That's weird.
673
00:26:33,992 --> 00:26:37,142
Uh, you know, you don't want to be in
the spotlight while you're in pasties.
674
00:26:37,202 --> 00:26:37,562
Yeah.
675
00:26:37,662 --> 00:26:38,952
They hurt 'cause I'm hairy.
676
00:26:40,002 --> 00:26:40,937
They hurt when you call Aaron.
677
00:26:40,937 --> 00:26:41,217
Me too.
678
00:26:41,222 --> 00:26:41,892
'cause I'm hairy.
679
00:26:43,302 --> 00:26:43,842
Hi Harry.
680
00:26:43,842 --> 00:26:44,232
I'm Adam.
681
00:26:44,232 --> 00:26:44,712
Hi.
682
00:26:45,282 --> 00:26:45,342
Hi.
683
00:26:45,342 --> 00:26:46,002
Nice to meet you.
684
00:26:47,172 --> 00:26:47,532
Yeah.
685
00:26:47,532 --> 00:26:50,102
So, you know, that's, that's
the big thing is just play it.
686
00:26:50,102 --> 00:26:50,462
Cool.
687
00:26:50,552 --> 00:26:52,202
You know, don't, don't be weird about it.
688
00:26:52,682 --> 00:26:53,402
And.
689
00:26:53,747 --> 00:26:56,477
And treat it like Vegas.
690
00:26:56,537 --> 00:26:59,687
What happens at your little
event stays with your event.
691
00:26:59,987 --> 00:27:01,847
You don't need to go blast it on anybody.
692
00:27:01,847 --> 00:27:05,837
You don't need to go and be
like, Hey, I saw so and so.
693
00:27:05,867 --> 00:27:07,097
No, don't do that.
694
00:27:07,262 --> 00:27:08,362
Hey, guess what?
695
00:27:09,377 --> 00:27:10,562
Let me send you texts right now.
696
00:27:10,682 --> 00:27:12,797
I mean, I went and I told some
friends 'cause I was like,
697
00:27:12,797 --> 00:27:14,237
y'all gotta hear the story man.
698
00:27:15,677 --> 00:27:18,647
You're not supposed to do
what we're saying you're not
699
00:27:18,647 --> 00:27:20,417
supposed to do either way.
700
00:27:20,987 --> 00:27:21,167
Yes.
701
00:27:21,167 --> 00:27:22,217
Goodness gracious.
702
00:27:22,847 --> 00:27:23,987
Fighting an uphill battle.
703
00:27:24,647 --> 00:27:27,917
But yeah, don't, don't
just don't leave it there.
704
00:27:28,517 --> 00:27:28,997
Leave it there.
705
00:27:28,997 --> 00:27:29,957
You gonna listen to her now?
706
00:27:31,997 --> 00:27:35,627
Well, so you know, I was telling,
uh, I was on live earlier today.
707
00:27:35,627 --> 00:27:35,717
Mm-hmm.
708
00:27:35,957 --> 00:27:38,147
And I was saying, you know, one of
the things that you want to do is
709
00:27:38,147 --> 00:27:41,432
definitely follow their lead, match
their energy, that sort of thing.
710
00:27:41,432 --> 00:27:41,442
Yes.
711
00:27:41,747 --> 00:27:47,067
So when you see somebody in the club or
wherever you're at, at, at whatever event
712
00:27:47,067 --> 00:27:49,912
that you feel is this situation you obvi?
713
00:27:49,972 --> 00:27:51,962
I, me personally, I'm
not gonna go up to them.
714
00:27:53,272 --> 00:27:53,332
No.
715
00:27:53,332 --> 00:27:54,022
And we did not.
716
00:27:54,072 --> 00:27:54,122
No.
717
00:27:54,307 --> 00:27:57,937
And and that's my big thing is we
don't know how they're processing it.
718
00:27:57,937 --> 00:28:00,127
I know how we're processing
it and it's all good.
719
00:28:00,157 --> 00:28:00,457
Yeah.
720
00:28:00,487 --> 00:28:04,327
But we don't know if, if maybe they
want to keep that separate or how Yeah.
721
00:28:04,657 --> 00:28:05,737
Mortified they are.
722
00:28:05,737 --> 00:28:06,487
We don't know that.
723
00:28:06,547 --> 00:28:06,847
Yeah.
724
00:28:06,877 --> 00:28:09,067
So we really have to
kind of match their vibe.
725
00:28:09,127 --> 00:28:12,127
I think they needed liquid courage
and then they finally came up to us.
726
00:28:12,217 --> 00:28:12,667
Possibly.
727
00:28:12,847 --> 00:28:13,627
Possibly.
728
00:28:13,627 --> 00:28:15,847
But you definitely want to
follow the people's lead.
729
00:28:15,847 --> 00:28:15,937
Yes.
730
00:28:15,937 --> 00:28:17,497
That's a good, so if they look away, yeah.
731
00:28:17,497 --> 00:28:18,547
Give 'em space.
732
00:28:18,832 --> 00:28:19,282
Yeah.
733
00:28:19,372 --> 00:28:19,492
Yeah.
734
00:28:19,492 --> 00:28:22,312
You know, if they make eye contact
and wave, well, maybe it's okay.
735
00:28:22,402 --> 00:28:22,552
Yeah.
736
00:28:22,552 --> 00:28:27,142
Maybe if they give you the nod and
there's no need to do the, Hey, I
737
00:28:27,142 --> 00:28:28,677
saw you blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
738
00:28:29,467 --> 00:28:30,127
Tomorrow.
739
00:28:30,127 --> 00:28:32,287
Like leave it be, although I did that.
740
00:28:32,317 --> 00:28:32,647
Sorry.
741
00:28:32,647 --> 00:28:33,187
My bad.
742
00:28:34,387 --> 00:28:34,597
Totally.
743
00:28:35,482 --> 00:28:37,957
And don't out someone on accident.
744
00:28:38,017 --> 00:28:39,397
You're a bad, don't do that.
745
00:28:39,397 --> 00:28:39,667
Influencer.
746
00:28:39,667 --> 00:28:42,247
Just, you know, a nice
little check-in is fine.
747
00:28:42,247 --> 00:28:44,197
Hey, did you get home okay?
748
00:28:44,227 --> 00:28:45,547
You literally just, it was really nice.
749
00:28:45,547 --> 00:28:47,342
How did somebody yourself I did.
750
00:28:47,742 --> 00:28:49,507
Gracious you go against
all of these rules.
751
00:28:49,507 --> 00:28:49,957
I know.
752
00:28:49,957 --> 00:28:50,437
My bad.
753
00:28:50,437 --> 00:28:50,977
I'm sorry.
754
00:28:50,977 --> 00:28:51,942
Oh my gosh.
755
00:28:53,032 --> 00:28:53,662
How do I do it?
756
00:28:55,792 --> 00:28:56,692
You say that one.
757
00:28:57,892 --> 00:28:58,537
I'm gonna say that one.
758
00:28:59,797 --> 00:29:06,427
So anyways, if it's someone really
close to you, like your work supervisor
759
00:29:06,427 --> 00:29:10,177
or a sibling's friend, or even
your dentist, keep the interactions
760
00:29:10,177 --> 00:29:12,397
polite, brief, and respectful.
761
00:29:12,697 --> 00:29:18,397
Everyone is equally terrified in that
moment, and I'm sure you'll realize that
762
00:29:18,397 --> 00:29:23,077
just as pale as you are is probably just
as pale as the person in front of you.
763
00:29:23,287 --> 00:29:23,467
Yeah.
764
00:29:23,497 --> 00:29:25,057
So keep that in mind.
765
00:29:25,177 --> 00:29:25,567
Yeah.
766
00:29:25,897 --> 00:29:27,157
And turn that panic.
767
00:29:27,892 --> 00:29:31,402
Turn it into a connection because it
could be a chance to build the community.
768
00:29:32,002 --> 00:29:33,742
Oh, we're cool.
769
00:29:33,742 --> 00:29:37,942
You know, because we're both human
and we're horny and we're curious.
770
00:29:37,972 --> 00:29:38,512
Nice.
771
00:29:38,512 --> 00:29:38,902
Right?
772
00:29:38,902 --> 00:29:42,172
Like, make it very, no dude,
we're sexual beings, man.
773
00:29:42,202 --> 00:29:42,652
Yeah.
774
00:29:42,832 --> 00:29:47,482
This is how we get down, uh, no,
don't check it down, down as we are
775
00:29:47,482 --> 00:29:52,532
wrapping up here and I feel like this
is very necessary, you know, because.
776
00:29:53,027 --> 00:29:54,257
I had this whole thing.
777
00:29:54,257 --> 00:29:56,447
It was really, really cool for the intro.
778
00:29:56,452 --> 00:29:56,462
Okay.
779
00:29:56,537 --> 00:29:56,837
Okay.
780
00:29:56,837 --> 00:29:58,067
And I loved it to death.
781
00:29:58,067 --> 00:29:59,477
And I said, you know, I want to do it.
782
00:29:59,507 --> 00:29:59,567
Okay.
783
00:29:59,567 --> 00:30:02,687
And then you were like,
yeah, but it's just you.
784
00:30:03,677 --> 00:30:05,207
And so I was like, you know what?
785
00:30:05,507 --> 00:30:06,347
That's all good baby.
786
00:30:06,617 --> 00:30:07,607
We'll do the show together.
787
00:30:07,877 --> 00:30:09,047
Okay baby, go ahead.
788
00:30:09,107 --> 00:30:09,947
But I'm gonna do my intro.
789
00:30:09,947 --> 00:30:10,532
It's the Adam Show.
790
00:30:10,952 --> 00:30:11,447
I'm gonna do it.
791
00:30:11,897 --> 00:30:12,467
Do it.
792
00:30:12,617 --> 00:30:13,397
I should do it.
793
00:30:13,667 --> 00:30:14,567
I'm gonna do it.
794
00:30:14,987 --> 00:30:21,257
Okay, so picture this fam,
you're at a lifestyle club.
795
00:30:22,307 --> 00:30:25,037
The lights are low, the music's vibing.
796
00:30:25,877 --> 00:30:28,577
You just had a drink with a couple
that looks like they stepped
797
00:30:28,577 --> 00:30:31,127
straight out of your fantasies.
798
00:30:31,127 --> 00:30:32,357
Ooh, that's right.
799
00:30:33,027 --> 00:30:37,457
Pris is looking like she's about to ruin
somebody's life in the best possible way,
800
00:30:38,687 --> 00:30:42,767
and I'm over here stretching like I'm
about to enter the Olympics of adult fun.
801
00:30:43,997 --> 00:30:45,287
Everything is perfect.
802
00:30:45,437 --> 00:30:50,597
We are in our element, the lifestyle
Gods are smiling upon us, and then.
803
00:30:51,527 --> 00:30:56,357
The doors open, bright white lights
from the hallway cut through the
804
00:30:56,357 --> 00:31:02,137
room like the universe is suddenly
judging your decisions and bam.
805
00:31:03,037 --> 00:31:09,577
In walks your coworker or your Jim
bro, or God forbid, your cousin
806
00:31:09,577 --> 00:31:11,887
Mark from the family barbecue.
807
00:31:12,997 --> 00:31:13,087
What?
808
00:31:14,917 --> 00:31:19,417
Instant terror, sudden Catholic guilt,
and I'm not even Catholic anymore.
809
00:31:20,992 --> 00:31:21,592
Your brain.
810
00:31:21,592 --> 00:31:23,302
Short circuits like, no.
811
00:31:23,362 --> 00:31:23,782
Nope.
812
00:31:24,412 --> 00:31:29,092
Uhuh, this is simulation is
glitching, which if you've watched
813
00:31:29,092 --> 00:31:30,802
The Matrix, you would know about that.
814
00:31:32,362 --> 00:31:35,932
You do that thing where you pretend to
be super interested in the decorative
815
00:31:35,932 --> 00:31:39,652
plant next to the dungeon room, like
that's the best thing you've ever seen.
816
00:31:39,832 --> 00:31:42,442
How many layers of dust are in that plant?
817
00:31:42,802 --> 00:31:44,542
A lot and some semen.
818
00:31:47,012 --> 00:31:51,307
Pris has given me the eyes
like do not make eye contact.
819
00:31:52,567 --> 00:31:54,697
Meanwhile, I'm whispering, babe.
820
00:31:55,957 --> 00:31:56,947
They definitely saw us
821
00:31:57,947 --> 00:31:58,997
and here's the kicker.
822
00:31:59,177 --> 00:32:05,687
They are just as horrified because now
they know, you know that they know, and
823
00:32:05,687 --> 00:32:08,507
it's a whole mutual blackmail situation.
824
00:32:09,947 --> 00:32:12,857
But hey, this is a part of the
lifestyle adventure, right?
825
00:32:13,367 --> 00:32:16,757
Sometimes the universe just
throws two worlds together, like
826
00:32:16,757 --> 00:32:18,917
surprise growth opportunity.
827
00:32:19,697 --> 00:32:25,787
So today we broke down what to do when
someone from your vanilla life sachets
828
00:32:25,787 --> 00:32:31,052
right into your spicy life and how you
could keep that moment from turning into
829
00:32:31,057 --> 00:32:33,947
a lifetime movie called Outed at the orgy.
830
00:32:36,557 --> 00:32:37,097
Thank you.
831
00:32:38,147 --> 00:32:38,627
Thank you.
832
00:32:38,627 --> 00:32:39,227
And scene.
833
00:32:39,467 --> 00:32:40,757
And scene.
834
00:32:43,617 --> 00:32:48,242
So with that being said, we're
gonna go ahead and wrap this up.
835
00:32:48,782 --> 00:32:52,472
. All righty, y'all, before we get
out of here, we've got some spicy
836
00:32:52,472 --> 00:32:58,382
community stuff coming up and we want
to see your beautiful faces in person.
837
00:32:58,532 --> 00:32:59,492
Absolutely.
838
00:32:59,492 --> 00:32:59,897
We have.
839
00:33:00,392 --> 00:33:06,182
Coming up November 8th at Forbidden Fruit,
our wonderful sponsors, we're doing a
840
00:33:06,182 --> 00:33:11,912
Beyond Monogamy meet and greet and q
and a from 12 noon to 4:00 PM So feel
841
00:33:11,912 --> 00:33:14,522
free to come out and hang out with us.
842
00:33:14,582 --> 00:33:17,612
We can talk lifestyle, ask
questions, take pictures.
843
00:33:17,852 --> 00:33:18,752
We got merch.
844
00:33:19,502 --> 00:33:20,522
Whatever feels good.
845
00:33:20,552 --> 00:33:21,392
Yes.
846
00:33:21,642 --> 00:33:25,032
And if you're more of the
behind the curtain type.
847
00:33:26,937 --> 00:33:29,667
We've got the Beyond
Monogamy Confessional.
848
00:33:29,727 --> 00:33:32,457
It is live and on our website.
849
00:33:32,457 --> 00:33:34,797
Ooh, it's 100% anonymous.
850
00:33:34,797 --> 00:33:35,427
That's right.
851
00:33:35,817 --> 00:33:42,087
You can drop your wild stories, your
questions, your confessions, even if
852
00:33:42,087 --> 00:33:49,347
it's about the podcast, and you might
hear it featured in a feature episode.
853
00:33:50,847 --> 00:33:54,027
And no, the merch does not include.
854
00:33:55,692 --> 00:33:56,262
Pasties.
855
00:33:57,102 --> 00:33:58,572
Ooh, that's right.
856
00:33:58,572 --> 00:34:01,362
But it should plus make sure
you're checking our website to
857
00:34:01,362 --> 00:34:04,482
stay up to date on all our events.
858
00:34:04,572 --> 00:34:07,692
Like the Naughty & Nice Hotel
Takeover in San Antonio.
859
00:34:07,692 --> 00:34:08,832
That's on December 5th.
860
00:34:09,192 --> 00:34:14,262
Through the seventh, we will be hanging
and we will be doing a live podcast.
861
00:34:14,262 --> 00:34:14,772
Yes, we will.
862
00:34:14,862 --> 00:34:18,102
It's gonna be a whole weekend
of clothing, optional chaos,
863
00:34:18,102 --> 00:34:20,712
and we are so ready for sure.
864
00:34:20,712 --> 00:34:23,262
We're gonna be talking
more about that next week.
865
00:34:23,382 --> 00:34:23,532
Ooh.
866
00:34:23,532 --> 00:34:25,062
So be sure and look out for that.
867
00:34:25,242 --> 00:34:30,822
And also if you've listen to this
show and you love it, or even kind
868
00:34:30,822 --> 00:34:33,972
of like it a little bit, help us
grow in this amazing community.
869
00:34:33,972 --> 00:34:34,577
We love you guys.
870
00:34:35,277 --> 00:34:36,417
We know you love us too.
871
00:34:36,687 --> 00:34:38,997
Share us with your friends, okay.
872
00:34:39,177 --> 00:34:40,527
Like and subscribe.
873
00:34:40,677 --> 00:34:45,147
Drop us a review on whatever platform
you're listening on or all of them.
874
00:34:45,597 --> 00:34:46,317
We'll take them.
875
00:34:46,527 --> 00:34:46,737
Yes, please.
876
00:34:47,652 --> 00:34:48,612
Show us the love.
877
00:34:48,612 --> 00:34:50,082
'cause we show you the love every week.
878
00:34:50,082 --> 00:34:50,092
Twice.
879
00:34:50,292 --> 00:34:50,442
Twice.
880
00:34:50,447 --> 00:34:50,537
Do.
881
00:34:50,637 --> 00:34:51,732
And why do you want those reviews?
882
00:34:51,762 --> 00:34:54,762
We want those reviews
because it helps us big time.
883
00:34:54,852 --> 00:34:55,812
It really does, guys.
884
00:34:55,812 --> 00:34:56,592
More than you know.
885
00:34:56,652 --> 00:34:57,162
Yes.
886
00:34:57,382 --> 00:34:58,912
And then also everything.
887
00:34:58,912 --> 00:35:01,582
Episodes, links, confessional events.
888
00:35:01,972 --> 00:35:03,802
It's all at our website.
889
00:35:03,802 --> 00:35:06,807
www.beyondmonogamy.com.
890
00:35:08,932 --> 00:35:13,912
And don't forget, you can also catch us
every Thursday on full swap radio.com
891
00:35:13,972 --> 00:35:18,052
at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central Time.
892
00:35:18,052 --> 00:35:19,912
We are in the lineup.
893
00:35:20,212 --> 00:35:20,452
Yes.
894
00:35:20,512 --> 00:35:24,322
Along with many other adult shows.
895
00:35:24,322 --> 00:35:25,042
Broadcast.
896
00:35:25,132 --> 00:35:26,302
Interesting shows.
897
00:35:26,332 --> 00:35:26,422
Yes.
898
00:35:26,542 --> 00:35:26,902
Yeah.
899
00:35:27,602 --> 00:35:29,367
So with that being said, we love you guys.
900
00:35:29,367 --> 00:35:30,807
Thank you for being here.
901
00:35:30,807 --> 00:35:34,497
Thank you for helping us
build the community that we.
902
00:35:35,667 --> 00:35:37,377
Didn't have when we started.
903
00:35:37,557 --> 00:35:37,977
True that.
904
00:35:37,977 --> 00:35:39,177
Guys, thank you so much.
905
00:35:39,177 --> 00:35:40,317
We appreciate you guys.
906
00:35:40,317 --> 00:35:40,407
Yes.
907
00:35:40,407 --> 00:35:42,717
And we will see you all next week.
908
00:35:43,197 --> 00:35:43,527
Bye.
00:00:07,184 --> 00:00:10,664
Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.
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This show is raw, real, and
definitely not rated pg.
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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you
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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.
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So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice and get comfy.
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Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not
licensed therapists, counselors, or sex.
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Couches.
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Sex coaches.
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Sex coaches, not sex couches
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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.
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An ethical non-monogamy.
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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.
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And.
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Hi everyone.
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So today's subject is actually a little
sensitive in the fact that people we talk
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about could be listening to the show.
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So with that, we have certain areas where
it may sound a little funny, maybe some
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audio is missing, and that's because we
are removing any reference of anybody
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so that all identities can be protected.
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How about that?
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That's right.
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And with that, enjoy the show.
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Hello, and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.
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I'm Adam.
25
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And I'm Pris.
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And today on our Wednesday quickie,
we are going to be talking about.
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When you run into people, you know.
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Yeah.
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When you, at a lifestyle event spotted,
when you've been spotted like a
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leopard at a San Antonio Zoo, man,
guys, this is a really cool zoo by the
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way, guys, are we delving into this?
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We are delving into this.
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Let's talk about time.
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Let's talk about it.
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Okay, so a few months ago, will you
tell me how deep you want me to get?
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Get into it.
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All right, so a few months ago I was on
social media word, and I spotted a couple.
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Hmm.
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And I saw who their friends were
and I was like, who is this?
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Why are they on here?
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So this couple was there, but
first I go and I ask, okay,
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who has the mutual friends?
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I go and I ask the friend, and I'm
like, okay, how do you know them?
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And she proceeds to tell me,
oh, they're always at the club.
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And I was like, okay, I've never
seen 'em and this is who they are.
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And she was like, oh, okay.
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Hope you never run into him.
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A few months pass.
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I never see him at events.
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We really haven't been doing
a lot of events in town.
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Mm-hmm.
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So I haven't seen them.
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Saturday we are reversed in a
parking spot in front of the club.
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I see this truck coming into the parking
lot, I think it's our other friends.
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So I'm like really staring and
I look and I see the guy and I
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look and I see the driver and the
girl and I'm like, and I went.
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Oh man.
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And a matter of seconds,
I've never seen move so fast.
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You were like a cat that
was about to take a bath.
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My blood pressure was off the charts.
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Like I was like mind blowing.
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So awkward, mind blowing.
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And Adam is asking me,
so what's wrong with you?
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And I tell him, Hey, that's so-and-so's
. He's like, oh man, do you wanna leave?
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And I'm like, I'm not gonna leave.
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I, I have nothing.
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I don't wanna leave because
one, it, that's my environment.
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That's where I'm most comfortable.
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That's just a fun place for me.
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So I was like, I'm not gonna leave.
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And can we traveled over an hour to Yeah.
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And I, I was like, no, we're fine.
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If they feel uncomfortable,
they could leave.
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Sure.
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So.
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They go, we, the door's
open, we get in line.
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We're the last to in the line,
and they're in the front.
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So they might've seen me
walk up, but I don't know.
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So anyway, they, they say hi to the
door people, which are friends of ours.
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They go in.
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They're with the same group of
people of the party that we were
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gonna attend, but we got ourselves
a couch because we like to have a
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little safe spot for For ourselves.
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Yeah.
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And so they were on one corner
of the club and we were on
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the other corner of the club.
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We go, we sit down and I'm just vibing.
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I'm just dancing, oh, I like you dance.
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Yeah.
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I'm just dancing along.
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Little shoulder action, you know,
a little bit of moving movement.
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A little empty hammer.
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Yeah, a little parachute pants thing.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Can't touch this.
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And you and I are just chit chatting and
we're talking and we're people watching?
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This is true.
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And about what, two hours?
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Yeah, about two hours.
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They come up to us and they're like, Hey.
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And I said, oh, hey, how are you?
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And he goes, this is weird.
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And I said, yeah.
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And he is like, y'all
are like celebrities.
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And I was like.
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Oh, really?
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And he is like, yeah, people
have been asking us, do you
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wanna go meet Adam and Pris?
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Do you wanna go meet Adam and Pris?
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And I was like, yeah, it's, we
have a show, we have a podcast.
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And he goes, yeah, I know.
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So then I'm talking to him very briefly,
then I tell Adam, Hey Adam, it is this
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is so and so and so-and-so, so-and-so's.
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And he was like, oh, okay.
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Hi.
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Yeah.
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And then after that, I don't even
know, I don't even know where
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you want me to go from there.
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Uh, you know, I just, I just think it's
funny because it turned out to be okay.
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It turned out to be great, and it's
like I told you it was gonna be fine.
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Oh yeah.
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And this is the part that people
really kind of freak out about.
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I've heard so many times people say over
and over again, especially if they're new.
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Yeah.
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They say, well, what if I
run into somebody I know.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and my first reaction, and
unfortunately it's always a little
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sarcastic, and I don't mean to be,
but it's just one of those situations,
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it's like, what if you run into
somebody, you know, you are an
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you're at a place where, you know.
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It's just as guilty for you as
it is for them and vice versa.
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I mean, you know, and it's not,
and so like, I, so for me, I am
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super, super, super comfortable in
my, in my body for the most part.
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That's where it was
getting a little awkward.
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Is that right?
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And so I straight out told
them, I was like, just an FYI.
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We are, we usually play in the middle.
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So heads up.
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But I was kind of telling him like,
heads up, like heads up, heads up, man.
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Just in case, you know.
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No, like really keep your heads up.
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You don't need to see where you're,
where your niece and nephew came from.
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Oh my God.
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Like, we don't need to see that.
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That's right.
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You don't need to see the
birth canal all over again.
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This time.
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Not on VHS and I'm sorry.
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Start old what?
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We grew up in the VHS era.
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I didn't have any kids during the VHS era.
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I don't know,
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it's so, it was a little, uh, it
panic had said it in the beginning,
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and then after that it was fine.
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Oh, dude, you freaked out, man.
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But then we went to the
back and that was awkward.
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I didn't think twice.
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It was awkward, but I mean, it
wasn't my connection, so I, yeah,
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it was, it was a little awkward.
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They saw what they saw.
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It is what it is, but I have a question.
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This all happens.
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It is what it is.
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Yeah.
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I think I would've stepped
away if they would've wanted to
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do like parallel play Really?
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I think Too weird.
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I think.
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I think that would've
gotten too weird for.
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I think she would've been fine with
it, but yeah, I, that's not my jam.
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And you know, it's one of those
situations where you really gotta
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know where you want to draw your line.
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Yeah.
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I know some couples I've heard
actually recently, uh, where someone
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will say, I would really prefer it,
you don't sleep with my friends.
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Yeah.
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Like if I'm really, if I have
really good friends, like, and
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I've heard people say that.
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I have said you couldn't, when
we were poly, you couldn't date
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anybody I went to school with.
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Yeah, that's right.
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Which made made it very small because hey,
those hoes were already taken, but some
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of them were a little bee hoing still.
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Hey, and I was like.
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And I was, I was here for it.
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Yeah.
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I was here for it.
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I was disappointed that that was a rule.
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No.
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Only because I knew I knew them
and I wasn't gonna have that.
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Like, I knew I was gonna have
to beat some bitches and yeah.
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Everybody's gotta have their thing.
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Everybody has a thing.
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Yeah.
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And you know how awkward.
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Yeah, I guess.
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I guess it's a, I mean, it, it, it
really depends on how you think of it.
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Not because I was just talking
about this the other day.
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I don't remember to who, but we are sexual
beings and we forget that everybody in
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our, in our world are also sexual beings.
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You know, you get to see different
people out in their everyday life.
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Mm-hmm.
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Your boss, your coworkers, the people that
work down the street, at the post office.
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Yeah.
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You know, all of these different people.
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Yeah.
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And you.
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Aside from our asexual
friends who do exist.
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Yeah.
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For the most part, everybody
else is a very sexual being.
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We all have these thoughts.
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We all have these feelings.
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We all get off at one point or another.
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Yeah.
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And we don't view people who we've
connected with in certain ways.
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We don't view them in that way.
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Yeah.
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And no, that's very true, especially in
a. In a kinky way, I guess you would say.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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The lifestyle is, is kinky.
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It is something that, that not everybody
does, and I totally respect that.
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So I have no problem with that.
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And again, they're not
blood related to me, right?
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So I don't care.
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But I wouldn't,
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I don't think that I
would go any further than.
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The interaction that we had.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I don't think I could, I could
go any, any further than that.
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And I'm sure that there is a
possibility that could come up.
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Come up.
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Yeah.
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Just because a woman knows.
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Hey, and I don't know.
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It's like, it was.
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It was, it was a little weird.
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But then after that I
was like, okay, whatever.
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I don't know.
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I didn't think twice, but you know,
I don't really have connections
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like that nearby that, or even
if we did, like, I mean, yeah, I
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just don't, that's the second time
I've seen somebody that we know.
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Yeah.
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And you know, I'd never run
into anybody that I know.
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No.
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And.
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I don't think there are people in
our circle that I always think,
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not in our circle, but like when we
were, when we would work or when we
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would go somewhere and be like, how
funny would it be if we caught them?
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If we saw them?
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Yeah.
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You just never know.
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Yeah.
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But I, I don't ever really run
into, you know, and if I ran into
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somebody that I knew from the past,
I don't think I would really think
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anything of it, because I've run into
people that I knew at strip clubs.
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Yeah.
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And why isn't that?
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And that's just as awkward.
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Oh my god.
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I remember when I was stripping
and my uncle walked in.
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Oh yeah, guys, one I classic
sucked as Aer classic Pris.
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I was not a very good dancer.
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I mean, I, I thought you were fantastic.
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I was a good dancer.
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I just wasn't a good,
fantastic dancer, money maker.
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Like I would go up to the guys and
I'd be like, look, I don't drink.
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Let me just sit here with you.
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Let's chitchat.
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How was your day?
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What did you invest in today?
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Um, like I was that person I'd
be like, go home to your wife.
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She's probably waiting for
you at your dinner, man.
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But I remember walking
in self destructive.
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I remember being there and my uncle
walking in and I looked at, and I
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remember calling you be like, oh my God.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I remember that phone call.
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I think.
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How awkward would it be
if you were to see like
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your parents.
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So that's the thing.
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Again, I understand
everyone's my situation.
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I, no, but I mean, like, I'm hypothetical.
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Yeah, no, like I said, uh, so I had
always and I don't know if I ever
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mentioned this, I think we had talked
about it because, you knew my father had
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been cheating on my mother for years.
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But previous to that,
in his first marriage.
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He was, I believe, a swinger.
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And so when he wasn't able to be
a swinger with my mother, then
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he just started cheating on her.
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Mm-hmm.
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But I always suspected that he wanted back
in that lifestyle and when we came out
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as open I think he was jealous of that.
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So when he remarried,
I had always wondered.
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Are they gonna pop up at
a fuck at a fucking party?
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Yeah.
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Or something like, I, I always wondered
if there was gonna be a time where I was
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gonna run into either them or one of my
single sisters or, or cousin or something.
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Yeah.
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And I always wondered, what, what
would be my response if that happens?
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Well, it's, it's gonna be one of two
things, either I'm gonna say, screw it.
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I'm about to make things
very uncomfortable because
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I'm about to let loose here.
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Yeah.
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Or I'm gonna have the opposite reaction,
which is, let's call it a night.
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Let's get outta here
before, let's just duck out.
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Yeah.
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We don't have to say goodbye to anybody.
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Yeah.
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Let's just go.
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Yeah.
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And so there's no in between.
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Those are gonna be the only two.
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Choices that are gonna come up.
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Yeah.
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And whatever I'm feeling at
that time is what I'm gonna do.
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And I don't think that
there's any shame in that.
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No, there isn't.
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There isn't any shame in it, but
it nevertheless is very awkward.
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It can, it can be.
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I think it's more awkward for, uh,
for women in situations like that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And you know, you get the nervousness of,
Ooh, are they gonna go and tell so and so?
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Are they gonna go and tell so and so?
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What's funny is that I was having
conversation with him and he is like,
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yeah, we've been doing this for a while.
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So yeah, it's large community,
but where we live, you're either
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going an we're central, right?
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Or not central, but in be,
we're an hour away from each.
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Yeah.
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Each club.
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You know, and so I knew I was bound to
see them somewhere, but I didn't think,
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I don't know, I didn't think it was
gonna be the club, but it is what it is.
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I don't know.
340
00:14:49,127 --> 00:14:50,537
It's cool now because I'm.
341
00:14:50,897 --> 00:14:52,157
Desensitized to it.
342
00:14:52,157 --> 00:14:52,337
Yeah.
343
00:14:52,397 --> 00:14:55,877
I don't think that I would have
any issue running into anybody.
344
00:14:55,907 --> 00:14:56,267
Yeah.
345
00:14:56,267 --> 00:14:59,912
If I were to see that, I mean, I
think I've overplayed it in my head.
346
00:14:59,972 --> 00:15:00,212
Yeah.
347
00:15:00,302 --> 00:15:01,412
Now I don't care.
348
00:15:01,472 --> 00:15:01,592
Yeah.
349
00:15:01,622 --> 00:15:03,692
I just know that I
wouldn't play with them.
350
00:15:03,752 --> 00:15:04,052
Yeah.
351
00:15:04,112 --> 00:15:06,632
But them being at the same place I'm at.
352
00:15:06,692 --> 00:15:07,892
No, I don't mind that.
353
00:15:08,012 --> 00:15:08,282
Yeah.
354
00:15:08,432 --> 00:15:09,752
No, it doesn't have to be awkward.
355
00:15:09,752 --> 00:15:10,982
Well, they're not gonna
go and say anything.
356
00:15:10,982 --> 00:15:11,792
What are they gonna go do?
357
00:15:11,792 --> 00:15:13,352
Go and tell them and be like, okay.
358
00:15:13,412 --> 00:15:13,772
And.
359
00:15:14,347 --> 00:15:17,767
Yeah, you want an invitation next time?
360
00:15:18,632 --> 00:15:19,092
No problem.
361
00:15:19,447 --> 00:15:24,137
You know, it's like that's the only
thing that can that, but I know I
362
00:15:24,137 --> 00:15:25,817
know none of that will come up yeah.
363
00:15:25,977 --> 00:15:26,137
Yeah.
364
00:15:26,632 --> 00:15:36,022
Well, you know, for us, uh, you know, we
have, we've been reached out to before,
365
00:15:36,352 --> 00:15:39,472
you know, in, in like swinger apps.
366
00:15:40,262 --> 00:15:44,702
And websites where, and I say
we, but it's primarily, it's,
367
00:15:44,762 --> 00:15:45,977
it's happened to you mm-hmm.
368
00:15:46,062 --> 00:15:49,572
Where somebody will reach out to you
and they'll be like do you remember me?
369
00:15:50,277 --> 00:15:52,137
Oh, that is the, oh God.
370
00:15:52,422 --> 00:15:58,242
So I don't know if you remember
me, but, uh, we did this.
371
00:15:58,777 --> 00:16:04,327
One time block, I know that you've
run into that, uh, a few times.
372
00:16:04,357 --> 00:16:04,837
Oh, yeah.
373
00:16:05,017 --> 00:16:06,487
And I think still, yeah.
374
00:16:06,487 --> 00:16:06,727
Right.
375
00:16:06,727 --> 00:16:12,397
To this day, I still run into like,
Hey, I met you and your husband, or
376
00:16:13,057 --> 00:16:15,787
I'll be like, O okay who are you?
377
00:16:16,057 --> 00:16:17,077
And they won't tell me.
378
00:16:17,077 --> 00:16:19,957
And then I'm like, I'm just gonna block
you if you don't tell me who you are.
379
00:16:19,957 --> 00:16:20,017
Yeah.
380
00:16:20,697 --> 00:16:24,237
So I also don't ever have that feeling of.
381
00:16:24,902 --> 00:16:28,202
I know a lot of people work for bigger
community or bigger companies and stuff.
382
00:16:28,202 --> 00:16:32,192
It's Ooh, if I run into a coworker,
are they gonna go blast me at work?
383
00:16:32,222 --> 00:16:32,282
Yeah.
384
00:16:32,352 --> 00:16:33,312
They're there too.
385
00:16:33,522 --> 00:16:33,822
Yeah.
386
00:16:33,867 --> 00:16:34,157
Yeah.
387
00:16:34,362 --> 00:16:35,532
Now I, and that's a big point.
388
00:16:35,532 --> 00:16:36,102
Yeah.
389
00:16:36,222 --> 00:16:37,332
And so they're there too.
390
00:16:37,332 --> 00:16:38,322
It's like, okay.
391
00:16:38,332 --> 00:16:43,822
And I don't think jobs should even care
about what you do and what you say.
392
00:16:44,242 --> 00:16:44,452
Yeah.
393
00:16:44,452 --> 00:16:49,512
Well, after hours, like, I
think that's ridiculous, but.
394
00:16:50,607 --> 00:16:54,957
I don't know if I ever saw my boss at,
if I ever saw my boss at a swinger's
395
00:16:54,957 --> 00:16:58,677
club, that one would make me laugh.
396
00:16:59,097 --> 00:17:02,817
If you ever saw your boss at a Swinger's
club, chances are it's because he
397
00:17:02,817 --> 00:17:05,487
tracked you down because he needs
you to take care of that report.
398
00:17:06,597 --> 00:17:08,247
And why didn't you answer your phone?
399
00:17:08,787 --> 00:17:10,497
You didn't acknowledge his text.
400
00:17:11,607 --> 00:17:12,927
You didn't get on the Zoom.
401
00:17:15,652 --> 00:17:16,432
Oh gosh.
402
00:17:17,517 --> 00:17:18,057
Needy.
403
00:17:18,057 --> 00:17:18,987
These are those ass men.
404
00:17:18,987 --> 00:17:19,677
Wonderful moments.
405
00:17:20,037 --> 00:17:20,127
Yeah.
406
00:17:20,577 --> 00:17:21,177
Hey, what?
407
00:17:21,177 --> 00:17:22,347
Hey, I'm just, I'm one of them.
408
00:17:22,437 --> 00:17:23,097
I'm not gonna lie.
409
00:17:23,307 --> 00:17:25,227
I like you being needy, but I am needy.
410
00:17:25,287 --> 00:17:25,617
Yeah.
411
00:17:25,647 --> 00:17:27,027
But no, it is, it is.
412
00:17:27,067 --> 00:17:30,977
It is a little awkward when you
see someone and me, when I'm at
413
00:17:30,977 --> 00:17:34,217
the club again, like he said,
that is the most comfortable.
414
00:17:34,742 --> 00:17:36,122
Spot for me.
415
00:17:36,332 --> 00:17:40,592
So I, Adam's always sitting
and I'm always dancing.
416
00:17:40,592 --> 00:17:42,572
Like I'm right there next to him dancing.
417
00:17:42,572 --> 00:17:45,452
And they've been playing
some good music lately.
418
00:17:45,752 --> 00:17:48,692
And so, and the girls are out.
419
00:17:48,992 --> 00:17:49,082
Yeah.
420
00:17:49,082 --> 00:17:50,342
You know, and.
421
00:17:51,222 --> 00:17:55,067
Me and the girls are vibing dance, you
know, we're doing our little dance.
422
00:17:55,067 --> 00:17:56,657
That's a great little chacha.
423
00:17:56,657 --> 00:17:57,497
Chacha Nest.
424
00:17:58,127 --> 00:17:58,307
Oh my, my gosh.
425
00:17:58,307 --> 00:17:58,907
Easy dead chief.
426
00:17:59,807 --> 00:18:01,877
You gonna knock down a
microphone with that?
427
00:18:01,877 --> 00:18:03,167
A little Chacha Nest.
428
00:18:03,197 --> 00:18:03,587
So, wow.
429
00:18:04,727 --> 00:18:07,562
Yeah, that's, you're gonna replay that.
430
00:18:08,142 --> 00:18:08,682
Oh my goodness.
431
00:18:09,262 --> 00:18:12,202
That's ingrained in my memory, baby.
432
00:18:12,287 --> 00:18:13,247
You have 'em all the time.
433
00:18:13,247 --> 00:18:13,907
You, I know.
434
00:18:13,907 --> 00:18:19,637
And it never gets old to me, but yeah, so
it's, uh, it could be a little awkward.
435
00:18:20,612 --> 00:18:25,002
Although I do feel like it's,
it has this situation for me has
436
00:18:26,562 --> 00:18:28,632
made me feel a little more free.
437
00:18:29,742 --> 00:18:30,912
It's made you feel free.
438
00:18:30,942 --> 00:18:32,262
I feel a little freer.
439
00:18:32,262 --> 00:18:33,942
Like, can you explain that?
440
00:18:35,082 --> 00:18:39,492
Well, nobody really knows our
background and the situation in that.
441
00:18:40,122 --> 00:18:41,442
Category Sure.
442
00:18:41,802 --> 00:18:43,092
With these people.
443
00:18:43,362 --> 00:18:43,452
Sure.
444
00:18:43,662 --> 00:18:48,942
And so that situation makes
me feel a little freer.
445
00:18:49,032 --> 00:18:49,692
I gotcha.
446
00:18:50,142 --> 00:18:51,432
Kind of safe.
447
00:18:52,542 --> 00:18:52,902
Okay.
448
00:18:53,262 --> 00:18:54,492
Kind of safe.
449
00:18:54,642 --> 00:18:56,322
If that, if that makes any sense.
450
00:18:56,322 --> 00:19:01,062
Kind of like that person's
not gonna go and say anything.
451
00:19:01,162 --> 00:19:04,722
Not that it matters but that person's
not gonna go and say anything.
452
00:19:04,722 --> 00:19:08,292
And then, and if that person
does, it's only gonna make that
453
00:19:08,292 --> 00:19:09,592
person feel bad, not the person.
454
00:19:09,597 --> 00:19:10,047
Well see.
455
00:19:10,047 --> 00:19:11,967
And that's the thing that we,
like, I, we seem to forget.
456
00:19:12,037 --> 00:19:12,327
Yeah.
457
00:19:12,427 --> 00:19:12,647
Is.
458
00:19:13,302 --> 00:19:15,222
It's a big community.
459
00:19:15,492 --> 00:19:20,802
Everybody forgets that it's, it is bigger
than what you see because there's a lot
460
00:19:20,802 --> 00:19:23,082
of the community that's very discreet.
461
00:19:23,532 --> 00:19:23,832
Yeah.
462
00:19:23,892 --> 00:19:28,452
And so they're so discreet that most
people that are in the community don't
463
00:19:28,452 --> 00:19:30,162
even know they're in the community.
464
00:19:30,172 --> 00:19:33,082
Straight up, you know, I,
and so that's the thing.
465
00:19:33,132 --> 00:19:37,482
They'll pop up at a, at a party once a
month or, or once every couple of weeks.
466
00:19:37,752 --> 00:19:41,322
You know, something will happen
where they, they will be a
467
00:19:41,322 --> 00:19:43,692
part of the community, but you
just won't see 'em that often.
468
00:19:43,692 --> 00:19:44,052
Yeah.
469
00:19:44,172 --> 00:19:48,852
And so we forget that there's a good
chance you're gonna run into somebody.
470
00:19:48,852 --> 00:19:49,362
No, it there is.
471
00:19:49,362 --> 00:19:52,122
And it's like, oh well.
472
00:19:52,707 --> 00:19:53,577
Like, it, it is.
473
00:19:53,667 --> 00:19:56,307
Well, so, and that's really the
thing is you kind of gotta have
474
00:19:56,307 --> 00:19:59,697
to get your mind set up mm-hmm.
475
00:19:59,997 --> 00:20:04,137
And prepared before you go to anything
that's lifestyle related, that there
476
00:20:04,137 --> 00:20:06,837
is a chance that you could Yes.
477
00:20:06,837 --> 00:20:09,957
Be walking into something
that you know somebody Yeah.
478
00:20:10,257 --> 00:20:11,187
You know what's funny?
479
00:20:11,967 --> 00:20:18,687
What tell me, I don't know if you
remember the story about how I got
480
00:20:18,747 --> 00:20:21,027
I was catfished in high school.
481
00:20:21,507 --> 00:20:26,977
This girl that I was kind of dating
over the phone through a mutual
482
00:20:26,977 --> 00:20:31,617
acquaintance, Uhhuh, and you know, it
was that puppy love stuff, you know?
483
00:20:31,617 --> 00:20:32,427
Oh, I love you.
484
00:20:32,427 --> 00:20:33,267
Oh, I love you, Uhhuh.
485
00:20:33,267 --> 00:20:33,897
Don't hang up.
486
00:20:33,897 --> 00:20:34,707
You know, whatever.
487
00:20:34,797 --> 00:20:34,827
Uhhuh.
488
00:20:35,187 --> 00:20:35,247
Yeah.
489
00:20:36,117 --> 00:20:39,672
And then when we finally met up,
we were at the mall and she didn't
490
00:20:39,672 --> 00:20:42,672
look anything like, and she didn't
look anything like her pictures.
491
00:20:42,672 --> 00:20:43,677
It was her cousin's picture.
492
00:20:43,742 --> 00:20:44,032
Yeah.
493
00:20:44,037 --> 00:20:44,247
Yeah.
494
00:20:44,247 --> 00:20:46,797
She didn't look anything like
her, like her pictures at all.
495
00:20:46,857 --> 00:20:49,917
Not attractive whatsoever, but I
was like, oh, I'll give this a shot.
496
00:20:49,917 --> 00:20:53,337
And then she totally just like
was not satisfied with me.
497
00:20:53,397 --> 00:20:53,697
Yeah.
498
00:20:54,027 --> 00:20:56,007
And so she's like, gave
her the cold shoulder.
499
00:20:56,222 --> 00:20:56,432
Yeah.
500
00:20:56,432 --> 00:21:01,682
Anyways, so not like I'm holding
onto that or anything, but somebody
501
00:21:01,682 --> 00:21:02,942
needs a little bit of therapy.
502
00:21:03,782 --> 00:21:04,232
Okay.
503
00:21:04,232 --> 00:21:05,462
That's what this is right here.
504
00:21:05,492 --> 00:21:05,672
Yes.
505
00:21:05,912 --> 00:21:06,902
Uh, that's why I have a show.
506
00:21:07,532 --> 00:21:15,482
So this person I've always known about
well, when we got started in the lifestyle
507
00:21:15,482 --> 00:21:17,912
we had, we were on those websites Yeah.
508
00:21:17,912 --> 00:21:18,842
That we were on.
509
00:21:19,022 --> 00:21:19,382
Yeah.
510
00:21:20,132 --> 00:21:21,302
And this.
511
00:21:21,807 --> 00:21:24,207
Girls started reaching out to us.
512
00:21:24,207 --> 00:21:24,267
Yeah.
513
00:21:24,717 --> 00:21:26,877
And they wanted to meet up with us.
514
00:21:27,297 --> 00:21:33,057
And I was hell bent against it being
a no, because that was the same girl.
515
00:21:33,267 --> 00:21:35,037
No, same girl.
516
00:21:35,217 --> 00:21:36,537
You never told me that.
517
00:21:36,567 --> 00:21:37,617
Well, yeah, I know.
518
00:21:37,767 --> 00:21:38,097
How about that?
519
00:21:38,097 --> 00:21:41,187
Why we were working on our
communication and look at this,
520
00:21:41,187 --> 00:21:43,017
now we're talking about it.
521
00:21:43,247 --> 00:21:43,907
Now I got you.
522
00:21:44,447 --> 00:21:44,837
I don't know.
523
00:21:44,837 --> 00:21:45,557
I just, I don't know.
524
00:21:45,557 --> 00:21:48,917
It was early on and it was never anything
important enough for me to bring up again.
525
00:21:48,977 --> 00:21:50,177
No, but that's a good story.
526
00:21:50,177 --> 00:21:51,407
That is a good story.
527
00:21:51,412 --> 00:21:51,947
Told me you, how about that?
528
00:21:51,947 --> 00:21:54,287
I reached into the sack and
I pulled out the rabbit.
529
00:21:54,317 --> 00:21:54,737
Wow.
530
00:21:54,737 --> 00:22:01,127
Because this particular person who
I felt was a, a horrible person
531
00:22:01,127 --> 00:22:05,607
back then all of a sudden they're
in a position where she didn't know
532
00:22:05,607 --> 00:22:08,187
who I was, but I remembered her.
533
00:22:08,582 --> 00:22:10,592
Yeah, you remember everybody
I'm saying, oh, I do.
534
00:22:11,192 --> 00:22:18,332
And so that was a situation where I could
have like been, you know, I could have,
535
00:22:18,392 --> 00:22:20,072
I could have brought it up, you know?
536
00:22:20,072 --> 00:22:22,322
Yeah, I could've been
that guy, but I didn't.
537
00:22:23,582 --> 00:22:24,422
I was better than that.
538
00:22:24,422 --> 00:22:24,452
I
539
00:22:26,582 --> 00:22:28,292
thank goodness for that.
540
00:22:28,472 --> 00:22:30,767
But I will always remember was she
always remember still unattractive.
541
00:22:30,767 --> 00:22:30,977
Remember?
542
00:22:31,397 --> 00:22:31,687
Yeah.
543
00:22:31,692 --> 00:22:32,422
Yeah, yeah.
544
00:22:32,482 --> 00:22:33,172
Yeah.
545
00:22:33,232 --> 00:22:35,122
I'm glad you, I'm glad
you didn't bring it up.
546
00:22:35,152 --> 00:22:38,212
And of course, back then it
was early on in our yeah.
547
00:22:38,212 --> 00:22:40,132
And you didn't see that and No, I didn't.
548
00:22:40,132 --> 00:22:41,842
I was looking at experiences.
549
00:22:41,872 --> 00:22:41,932
Yeah.
550
00:22:41,932 --> 00:22:45,872
So for me to turn down something
is a pretty big deal because I was
551
00:22:45,872 --> 00:22:48,032
ready to, you know Yeah, I know.
552
00:22:48,032 --> 00:22:49,322
Have a sex time.
553
00:22:49,892 --> 00:22:50,162
Yes.
554
00:22:50,372 --> 00:22:52,922
You know, so yeah, I was, I
was gonna have a good time.
555
00:22:52,952 --> 00:22:56,702
Uh, and I wanted my experiences
and but I was not gonna.
556
00:22:57,617 --> 00:22:58,757
I wasn't gonna be that person.
557
00:22:58,787 --> 00:22:59,207
No way.
558
00:22:59,207 --> 00:23:00,797
No, no way.
559
00:23:01,397 --> 00:23:01,667
Yeah.
560
00:23:02,087 --> 00:23:02,927
Good for you.
561
00:23:02,957 --> 00:23:03,677
Yeah, right.
562
00:23:03,677 --> 00:23:04,337
Thank you.
563
00:23:05,147 --> 00:23:05,597
I know.
564
00:23:05,807 --> 00:23:07,977
But since then, yeah.
565
00:23:07,977 --> 00:23:12,677
You know, I have we've become
kind of this loud ass advocate
566
00:23:12,677 --> 00:23:16,157
for monogamy poster children.
567
00:23:16,157 --> 00:23:19,157
If you will, uh, for, you're
gonna be on milk cartons.
568
00:23:19,157 --> 00:23:19,697
That's right.
569
00:23:19,847 --> 00:23:21,677
Milk carton, non-monogamous.
570
00:23:21,767 --> 00:23:22,187
Mm-hmm.
571
00:23:22,727 --> 00:23:30,677
Um, and we kind of have gotten to
be seen in our community mm-hmm.
572
00:23:30,917 --> 00:23:32,207
And communities beyond.
573
00:23:32,917 --> 00:23:41,857
And so for us it's a little bit easier
for us to be outed to people that know us.
574
00:23:42,757 --> 00:23:43,687
Wouldn't you say?
575
00:23:44,692 --> 00:23:45,802
We're not discreet.
576
00:23:46,192 --> 00:23:47,002
We're not discreet.
577
00:23:47,007 --> 00:23:47,427
So I care less.
578
00:23:47,427 --> 00:23:49,642
As a matter of fact, we're
louder than discrete.
579
00:23:49,642 --> 00:23:51,482
We're not, we're discre, we're
literally live on TikTok.
580
00:23:51,482 --> 00:23:51,692
Yeah.
581
00:23:51,692 --> 00:23:52,892
We're not discreet at all.
582
00:23:52,892 --> 00:23:54,122
And I don't care with the podcast.
583
00:23:54,152 --> 00:23:54,992
I don't care.
584
00:23:54,992 --> 00:23:55,862
Who knows?
585
00:23:55,862 --> 00:23:56,942
It's national and global.
586
00:23:57,392 --> 00:23:59,942
I don't care who knows
about the lifestyle.
587
00:24:00,542 --> 00:24:04,322
So yeah, no, for us, it is what it is.
588
00:24:04,932 --> 00:24:06,057
It's a, it's different.
589
00:24:06,057 --> 00:24:06,297
It's life.
590
00:24:06,297 --> 00:24:06,927
It's our lifestyle, it's our life.
591
00:24:07,512 --> 00:24:08,862
We're not hurting anybody.
592
00:24:08,862 --> 00:24:09,522
We're not no.
593
00:24:09,737 --> 00:24:11,627
Not, we're not hurting anybody.
594
00:24:11,627 --> 00:24:13,822
We're not being violent to anybody's.
595
00:24:13,847 --> 00:24:15,827
We're not saying bad things to anybody.
596
00:24:15,827 --> 00:24:15,862
That's true.
597
00:24:15,867 --> 00:24:19,532
We're not bringing our families into this.
598
00:24:19,532 --> 00:24:20,582
This is us.
599
00:24:20,672 --> 00:24:20,822
Correct.
600
00:24:20,942 --> 00:24:23,642
And, you know, realistically,
what we are doing here.
601
00:24:24,167 --> 00:24:26,117
We talk a lot about our relationship.
602
00:24:26,117 --> 00:24:26,567
Yeah.
603
00:24:26,567 --> 00:24:30,347
It's, it's not, you know, you're not
talk, I'm not talking about, we're not
604
00:24:30,347 --> 00:24:32,617
getting into details about you know.
605
00:24:32,767 --> 00:24:33,037
Yeah.
606
00:24:33,037 --> 00:24:34,222
And I, so I, vaginal structure.
607
00:24:34,222 --> 00:24:34,502
Yeah.
608
00:24:34,502 --> 00:24:35,287
So we are a little different.
609
00:24:35,287 --> 00:24:36,307
I do not care.
610
00:24:36,337 --> 00:24:39,607
Um, I've never cared who know,
who knew about my lifestyle.
611
00:24:39,937 --> 00:24:44,377
The only reason I cared was I don't wanna
have that conversation with that person.
612
00:24:44,377 --> 00:24:48,447
Like, like if someone found out, like
my boss found out, I'd be like, yeah.
613
00:24:48,887 --> 00:24:50,207
Yeah, we're not discussing that.
614
00:24:50,317 --> 00:24:52,567
Yeah, not that's, you really
want to bring that up?
615
00:24:52,567 --> 00:24:54,967
Like, no, you really
want to bring that up.
616
00:24:54,967 --> 00:24:55,657
Stop it.
617
00:24:55,657 --> 00:24:55,717
Yeah.
618
00:24:55,957 --> 00:24:56,737
We don't do that.
619
00:24:56,947 --> 00:25:01,207
You know, so when you walk in and
you see Karen from the PTA or you
620
00:25:01,207 --> 00:25:06,007
know, Ramon from your apartments,
just be like, yo, what's up?
621
00:25:06,637 --> 00:25:06,802
You know?
622
00:25:06,832 --> 00:25:09,127
It's a, that's a, that's
an oh shit moment.
623
00:25:09,157 --> 00:25:09,517
It is.
624
00:25:09,517 --> 00:25:10,352
It does take you, it's.
625
00:25:10,637 --> 00:25:13,247
Catch your, to catch your
breath a little for the moment.
626
00:25:13,247 --> 00:25:14,927
'cause you're like, yeah, I saw yours.
627
00:25:14,987 --> 00:25:16,427
I was like, I saw yours.
628
00:25:16,427 --> 00:25:19,237
You turned to me like Beetlejuice.
629
00:25:19,237 --> 00:25:19,357
Yeah.
630
00:25:19,357 --> 00:25:20,347
Like, you just did this complete.
631
00:25:20,347 --> 00:25:21,907
And I instantly started shaking.
632
00:25:21,907 --> 00:25:26,587
'cause I was like, uh, but the only
reason I shook is because of my past and
633
00:25:26,617 --> 00:25:32,947
my trauma from that person that it, and
all the shit that we've gone through.
634
00:25:32,947 --> 00:25:34,717
And it's like, oh my God, really?
635
00:25:34,717 --> 00:25:36,517
But then I was like,
what is he gonna go do?
636
00:25:36,517 --> 00:25:37,447
Say in what?
637
00:25:37,537 --> 00:25:38,137
No.
638
00:25:38,797 --> 00:25:39,577
So, yeah.
639
00:25:40,137 --> 00:25:42,147
You know, it it, it's
bound to happen though.
640
00:25:42,147 --> 00:25:42,387
You know?
641
00:25:42,387 --> 00:25:42,507
It is.
642
00:25:42,987 --> 00:25:44,217
You've got your vanilla life.
643
00:25:44,277 --> 00:25:44,367
Mm-hmm.
644
00:25:44,607 --> 00:25:45,957
You've got your spicy life.
645
00:25:45,957 --> 00:25:47,367
They're bound to collide.
646
00:25:47,367 --> 00:25:47,697
Yeah.
647
00:25:47,697 --> 00:25:48,327
At some point.
648
00:25:48,327 --> 00:25:50,547
But like guys, we don't
have any family around here.
649
00:25:50,547 --> 00:25:51,477
That's just as you know.
650
00:25:51,477 --> 00:25:51,687
No.
651
00:25:51,927 --> 00:25:55,317
So, um, people that do,
I, you know, guys like it.
652
00:25:55,317 --> 00:25:56,787
It's gonna, it's bound to happen.
653
00:25:56,877 --> 00:25:57,237
Yeah.
654
00:25:57,297 --> 00:25:59,787
The answer right there is move away.
655
00:26:00,687 --> 00:26:01,297
Yes, that's right.
656
00:26:01,947 --> 00:26:02,607
Move away.
657
00:26:03,177 --> 00:26:03,537
Don't listen.
658
00:26:03,537 --> 00:26:04,317
Four more years.
659
00:26:04,377 --> 00:26:05,697
I am not a sex couch.
660
00:26:06,117 --> 00:26:07,647
No, we are not sex couches.
661
00:26:08,107 --> 00:26:08,117
No.
662
00:26:08,257 --> 00:26:08,647
We are not.
663
00:26:09,727 --> 00:26:13,957
So the golden rule would
be consent and discretion.
664
00:26:14,017 --> 00:26:14,257
Yes.
665
00:26:14,257 --> 00:26:14,617
Okay.
666
00:26:15,817 --> 00:26:17,467
Don't take a night off.
667
00:26:18,667 --> 00:26:18,697
Oh.
668
00:26:19,552 --> 00:26:21,172
No, don't take a night off.
669
00:26:21,322 --> 00:26:24,422
If you recognize someone,
just play it cool.
670
00:26:24,512 --> 00:26:27,032
Keep your eyes up, smile friendly.
671
00:26:27,452 --> 00:26:31,412
Don't go yelling their name across the
club and waving because that's awkward.
672
00:26:32,492 --> 00:26:33,482
That's weird.
673
00:26:33,992 --> 00:26:37,142
Uh, you know, you don't want to be in
the spotlight while you're in pasties.
674
00:26:37,202 --> 00:26:37,562
Yeah.
675
00:26:37,662 --> 00:26:38,952
They hurt 'cause I'm hairy.
676
00:26:40,002 --> 00:26:40,937
They hurt when you call Aaron.
677
00:26:40,937 --> 00:26:41,217
Me too.
678
00:26:41,222 --> 00:26:41,892
'cause I'm hairy.
679
00:26:43,302 --> 00:26:43,842
Hi Harry.
680
00:26:43,842 --> 00:26:44,232
I'm Adam.
681
00:26:44,232 --> 00:26:44,712
Hi.
682
00:26:45,282 --> 00:26:45,342
Hi.
683
00:26:45,342 --> 00:26:46,002
Nice to meet you.
684
00:26:47,172 --> 00:26:47,532
Yeah.
685
00:26:47,532 --> 00:26:50,102
So, you know, that's, that's
the big thing is just play it.
686
00:26:50,102 --> 00:26:50,462
Cool.
687
00:26:50,552 --> 00:26:52,202
You know, don't, don't be weird about it.
688
00:26:52,682 --> 00:26:53,402
And.
689
00:26:53,747 --> 00:26:56,477
And treat it like Vegas.
690
00:26:56,537 --> 00:26:59,687
What happens at your little
event stays with your event.
691
00:26:59,987 --> 00:27:01,847
You don't need to go blast it on anybody.
692
00:27:01,847 --> 00:27:05,837
You don't need to go and be
like, Hey, I saw so and so.
693
00:27:05,867 --> 00:27:07,097
No, don't do that.
694
00:27:07,262 --> 00:27:08,362
Hey, guess what?
695
00:27:09,377 --> 00:27:10,562
Let me send you texts right now.
696
00:27:10,682 --> 00:27:12,797
I mean, I went and I told some
friends 'cause I was like,
697
00:27:12,797 --> 00:27:14,237
y'all gotta hear the story man.
698
00:27:15,677 --> 00:27:18,647
You're not supposed to do
what we're saying you're not
699
00:27:18,647 --> 00:27:20,417
supposed to do either way.
700
00:27:20,987 --> 00:27:21,167
Yes.
701
00:27:21,167 --> 00:27:22,217
Goodness gracious.
702
00:27:22,847 --> 00:27:23,987
Fighting an uphill battle.
703
00:27:24,647 --> 00:27:27,917
But yeah, don't, don't
just don't leave it there.
704
00:27:28,517 --> 00:27:28,997
Leave it there.
705
00:27:28,997 --> 00:27:29,957
You gonna listen to her now?
706
00:27:31,997 --> 00:27:35,627
Well, so you know, I was telling,
uh, I was on live earlier today.
707
00:27:35,627 --> 00:27:35,717
Mm-hmm.
708
00:27:35,957 --> 00:27:38,147
And I was saying, you know, one of
the things that you want to do is
709
00:27:38,147 --> 00:27:41,432
definitely follow their lead, match
their energy, that sort of thing.
710
00:27:41,432 --> 00:27:41,442
Yes.
711
00:27:41,747 --> 00:27:47,067
So when you see somebody in the club or
wherever you're at, at, at whatever event
712
00:27:47,067 --> 00:27:49,912
that you feel is this situation you obvi?
713
00:27:49,972 --> 00:27:51,962
I, me personally, I'm
not gonna go up to them.
714
00:27:53,272 --> 00:27:53,332
No.
715
00:27:53,332 --> 00:27:54,022
And we did not.
716
00:27:54,072 --> 00:27:54,122
No.
717
00:27:54,307 --> 00:27:57,937
And and that's my big thing is we
don't know how they're processing it.
718
00:27:57,937 --> 00:28:00,127
I know how we're processing
it and it's all good.
719
00:28:00,157 --> 00:28:00,457
Yeah.
720
00:28:00,487 --> 00:28:04,327
But we don't know if, if maybe they
want to keep that separate or how Yeah.
721
00:28:04,657 --> 00:28:05,737
Mortified they are.
722
00:28:05,737 --> 00:28:06,487
We don't know that.
723
00:28:06,547 --> 00:28:06,847
Yeah.
724
00:28:06,877 --> 00:28:09,067
So we really have to
kind of match their vibe.
725
00:28:09,127 --> 00:28:12,127
I think they needed liquid courage
and then they finally came up to us.
726
00:28:12,217 --> 00:28:12,667
Possibly.
727
00:28:12,847 --> 00:28:13,627
Possibly.
728
00:28:13,627 --> 00:28:15,847
But you definitely want to
follow the people's lead.
729
00:28:15,847 --> 00:28:15,937
Yes.
730
00:28:15,937 --> 00:28:17,497
That's a good, so if they look away, yeah.
731
00:28:17,497 --> 00:28:18,547
Give 'em space.
732
00:28:18,832 --> 00:28:19,282
Yeah.
733
00:28:19,372 --> 00:28:19,492
Yeah.
734
00:28:19,492 --> 00:28:22,312
You know, if they make eye contact
and wave, well, maybe it's okay.
735
00:28:22,402 --> 00:28:22,552
Yeah.
736
00:28:22,552 --> 00:28:27,142
Maybe if they give you the nod and
there's no need to do the, Hey, I
737
00:28:27,142 --> 00:28:28,677
saw you blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
738
00:28:29,467 --> 00:28:30,127
Tomorrow.
739
00:28:30,127 --> 00:28:32,287
Like leave it be, although I did that.
740
00:28:32,317 --> 00:28:32,647
Sorry.
741
00:28:32,647 --> 00:28:33,187
My bad.
742
00:28:34,387 --> 00:28:34,597
Totally.
743
00:28:35,482 --> 00:28:37,957
And don't out someone on accident.
744
00:28:38,017 --> 00:28:39,397
You're a bad, don't do that.
745
00:28:39,397 --> 00:28:39,667
Influencer.
746
00:28:39,667 --> 00:28:42,247
Just, you know, a nice
little check-in is fine.
747
00:28:42,247 --> 00:28:44,197
Hey, did you get home okay?
748
00:28:44,227 --> 00:28:45,547
You literally just, it was really nice.
749
00:28:45,547 --> 00:28:47,342
How did somebody yourself I did.
750
00:28:47,742 --> 00:28:49,507
Gracious you go against
all of these rules.
751
00:28:49,507 --> 00:28:49,957
I know.
752
00:28:49,957 --> 00:28:50,437
My bad.
753
00:28:50,437 --> 00:28:50,977
I'm sorry.
754
00:28:50,977 --> 00:28:51,942
Oh my gosh.
755
00:28:53,032 --> 00:28:53,662
How do I do it?
756
00:28:55,792 --> 00:28:56,692
You say that one.
757
00:28:57,892 --> 00:28:58,537
I'm gonna say that one.
758
00:28:59,797 --> 00:29:06,427
So anyways, if it's someone really
close to you, like your work supervisor
759
00:29:06,427 --> 00:29:10,177
or a sibling's friend, or even
your dentist, keep the interactions
760
00:29:10,177 --> 00:29:12,397
polite, brief, and respectful.
761
00:29:12,697 --> 00:29:18,397
Everyone is equally terrified in that
moment, and I'm sure you'll realize that
762
00:29:18,397 --> 00:29:23,077
just as pale as you are is probably just
as pale as the person in front of you.
763
00:29:23,287 --> 00:29:23,467
Yeah.
764
00:29:23,497 --> 00:29:25,057
So keep that in mind.
765
00:29:25,177 --> 00:29:25,567
Yeah.
766
00:29:25,897 --> 00:29:27,157
And turn that panic.
767
00:29:27,892 --> 00:29:31,402
Turn it into a connection because it
could be a chance to build the community.
768
00:29:32,002 --> 00:29:33,742
Oh, we're cool.
769
00:29:33,742 --> 00:29:37,942
You know, because we're both human
and we're horny and we're curious.
770
00:29:37,972 --> 00:29:38,512
Nice.
771
00:29:38,512 --> 00:29:38,902
Right?
772
00:29:38,902 --> 00:29:42,172
Like, make it very, no dude,
we're sexual beings, man.
773
00:29:42,202 --> 00:29:42,652
Yeah.
774
00:29:42,832 --> 00:29:47,482
This is how we get down, uh, no,
don't check it down, down as we are
775
00:29:47,482 --> 00:29:52,532
wrapping up here and I feel like this
is very necessary, you know, because.
776
00:29:53,027 --> 00:29:54,257
I had this whole thing.
777
00:29:54,257 --> 00:29:56,447
It was really, really cool for the intro.
778
00:29:56,452 --> 00:29:56,462
Okay.
779
00:29:56,537 --> 00:29:56,837
Okay.
780
00:29:56,837 --> 00:29:58,067
And I loved it to death.
781
00:29:58,067 --> 00:29:59,477
And I said, you know, I want to do it.
782
00:29:59,507 --> 00:29:59,567
Okay.
783
00:29:59,567 --> 00:30:02,687
And then you were like,
yeah, but it's just you.
784
00:30:03,677 --> 00:30:05,207
And so I was like, you know what?
785
00:30:05,507 --> 00:30:06,347
That's all good baby.
786
00:30:06,617 --> 00:30:07,607
We'll do the show together.
787
00:30:07,877 --> 00:30:09,047
Okay baby, go ahead.
788
00:30:09,107 --> 00:30:09,947
But I'm gonna do my intro.
789
00:30:09,947 --> 00:30:10,532
It's the Adam Show.
790
00:30:10,952 --> 00:30:11,447
I'm gonna do it.
791
00:30:11,897 --> 00:30:12,467
Do it.
792
00:30:12,617 --> 00:30:13,397
I should do it.
793
00:30:13,667 --> 00:30:14,567
I'm gonna do it.
794
00:30:14,987 --> 00:30:21,257
Okay, so picture this fam,
you're at a lifestyle club.
795
00:30:22,307 --> 00:30:25,037
The lights are low, the music's vibing.
796
00:30:25,877 --> 00:30:28,577
You just had a drink with a couple
that looks like they stepped
797
00:30:28,577 --> 00:30:31,127
straight out of your fantasies.
798
00:30:31,127 --> 00:30:32,357
Ooh, that's right.
799
00:30:33,027 --> 00:30:37,457
Pris is looking like she's about to ruin
somebody's life in the best possible way,
800
00:30:38,687 --> 00:30:42,767
and I'm over here stretching like I'm
about to enter the Olympics of adult fun.
801
00:30:43,997 --> 00:30:45,287
Everything is perfect.
802
00:30:45,437 --> 00:30:50,597
We are in our element, the lifestyle
Gods are smiling upon us, and then.
803
00:30:51,527 --> 00:30:56,357
The doors open, bright white lights
from the hallway cut through the
804
00:30:56,357 --> 00:31:02,137
room like the universe is suddenly
judging your decisions and bam.
805
00:31:03,037 --> 00:31:09,577
In walks your coworker or your Jim
bro, or God forbid, your cousin
806
00:31:09,577 --> 00:31:11,887
Mark from the family barbecue.
807
00:31:12,997 --> 00:31:13,087
What?
808
00:31:14,917 --> 00:31:19,417
Instant terror, sudden Catholic guilt,
and I'm not even Catholic anymore.
809
00:31:20,992 --> 00:31:21,592
Your brain.
810
00:31:21,592 --> 00:31:23,302
Short circuits like, no.
811
00:31:23,362 --> 00:31:23,782
Nope.
812
00:31:24,412 --> 00:31:29,092
Uhuh, this is simulation is
glitching, which if you've watched
813
00:31:29,092 --> 00:31:30,802
The Matrix, you would know about that.
814
00:31:32,362 --> 00:31:35,932
You do that thing where you pretend to
be super interested in the decorative
815
00:31:35,932 --> 00:31:39,652
plant next to the dungeon room, like
that's the best thing you've ever seen.
816
00:31:39,832 --> 00:31:42,442
How many layers of dust are in that plant?
817
00:31:42,802 --> 00:31:44,542
A lot and some semen.
818
00:31:47,012 --> 00:31:51,307
Pris has given me the eyes
like do not make eye contact.
819
00:31:52,567 --> 00:31:54,697
Meanwhile, I'm whispering, babe.
820
00:31:55,957 --> 00:31:56,947
They definitely saw us
821
00:31:57,947 --> 00:31:58,997
and here's the kicker.
822
00:31:59,177 --> 00:32:05,687
They are just as horrified because now
they know, you know that they know, and
823
00:32:05,687 --> 00:32:08,507
it's a whole mutual blackmail situation.
824
00:32:09,947 --> 00:32:12,857
But hey, this is a part of the
lifestyle adventure, right?
825
00:32:13,367 --> 00:32:16,757
Sometimes the universe just
throws two worlds together, like
826
00:32:16,757 --> 00:32:18,917
surprise growth opportunity.
827
00:32:19,697 --> 00:32:25,787
So today we broke down what to do when
someone from your vanilla life sachets
828
00:32:25,787 --> 00:32:31,052
right into your spicy life and how you
could keep that moment from turning into
829
00:32:31,057 --> 00:32:33,947
a lifetime movie called Outed at the orgy.
830
00:32:36,557 --> 00:32:37,097
Thank you.
831
00:32:38,147 --> 00:32:38,627
Thank you.
832
00:32:38,627 --> 00:32:39,227
And scene.
833
00:32:39,467 --> 00:32:40,757
And scene.
834
00:32:43,617 --> 00:32:48,242
So with that being said, we're
gonna go ahead and wrap this up.
835
00:32:48,782 --> 00:32:52,472
. All righty, y'all, before we get
out of here, we've got some spicy
836
00:32:52,472 --> 00:32:58,382
community stuff coming up and we want
to see your beautiful faces in person.
837
00:32:58,532 --> 00:32:59,492
Absolutely.
838
00:32:59,492 --> 00:32:59,897
We have.
839
00:33:00,392 --> 00:33:06,182
Coming up November 8th at Forbidden Fruit,
our wonderful sponsors, we're doing a
840
00:33:06,182 --> 00:33:11,912
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841
00:33:11,912 --> 00:33:14,522
free to come out and hang out with us.
842
00:33:14,582 --> 00:33:17,612
We can talk lifestyle, ask
questions, take pictures.
843
00:33:17,852 --> 00:33:18,752
We got merch.
844
00:33:19,502 --> 00:33:20,522
Whatever feels good.
845
00:33:20,552 --> 00:33:21,392
Yes.
846
00:33:21,642 --> 00:33:25,032
And if you're more of the
behind the curtain type.
847
00:33:26,937 --> 00:33:29,667
We've got the Beyond
Monogamy Confessional.
848
00:33:29,727 --> 00:33:32,457
It is live and on our website.
849
00:33:32,457 --> 00:33:34,797
Ooh, it's 100% anonymous.
850
00:33:34,797 --> 00:33:35,427
That's right.
851
00:33:35,817 --> 00:33:42,087
You can drop your wild stories, your
questions, your confessions, even if
852
00:33:42,087 --> 00:33:49,347
it's about the podcast, and you might
hear it featured in a feature episode.
853
00:33:50,847 --> 00:33:54,027
And no, the merch does not include.
854
00:33:55,692 --> 00:33:56,262
Pasties.
855
00:33:57,102 --> 00:33:58,572
Ooh, that's right.
856
00:33:58,572 --> 00:34:01,362
But it should plus make sure
you're checking our website to
857
00:34:01,362 --> 00:34:04,482
stay up to date on all our events.
858
00:34:04,572 --> 00:34:07,692
Like the Naughty & Nice Hotel
Takeover in San Antonio.
859
00:34:07,692 --> 00:34:08,832
That's on December 5th.
860
00:34:09,192 --> 00:34:14,262
Through the seventh, we will be hanging
and we will be doing a live podcast.
861
00:34:14,262 --> 00:34:14,772
Yes, we will.
862
00:34:14,862 --> 00:34:18,102
It's gonna be a whole weekend
of clothing, optional chaos,
863
00:34:18,102 --> 00:34:20,712
and we are so ready for sure.
864
00:34:20,712 --> 00:34:23,262
We're gonna be talking
more about that next week.
865
00:34:23,382 --> 00:34:23,532
Ooh.
866
00:34:23,532 --> 00:34:25,062
So be sure and look out for that.
867
00:34:25,242 --> 00:34:30,822
And also if you've listen to this
show and you love it, or even kind
868
00:34:30,822 --> 00:34:33,972
of like it a little bit, help us
grow in this amazing community.
869
00:34:33,972 --> 00:34:34,577
We love you guys.
870
00:34:35,277 --> 00:34:36,417
We know you love us too.
871
00:34:36,687 --> 00:34:38,997
Share us with your friends, okay.
872
00:34:39,177 --> 00:34:40,527
Like and subscribe.
873
00:34:40,677 --> 00:34:45,147
Drop us a review on whatever platform
you're listening on or all of them.
874
00:34:45,597 --> 00:34:46,317
We'll take them.
875
00:34:46,527 --> 00:34:46,737
Yes, please.
876
00:34:47,652 --> 00:34:48,612
Show us the love.
877
00:34:48,612 --> 00:34:50,082
'cause we show you the love every week.
878
00:34:50,082 --> 00:34:50,092
Twice.
879
00:34:50,292 --> 00:34:50,442
Twice.
880
00:34:50,447 --> 00:34:50,537
Do.
881
00:34:50,637 --> 00:34:51,732
And why do you want those reviews?
882
00:34:51,762 --> 00:34:54,762
We want those reviews
because it helps us big time.
883
00:34:54,852 --> 00:34:55,812
It really does, guys.
884
00:34:55,812 --> 00:34:56,592
More than you know.
885
00:34:56,652 --> 00:34:57,162
Yes.
886
00:34:57,382 --> 00:34:58,912
And then also everything.
887
00:34:58,912 --> 00:35:01,582
Episodes, links, confessional events.
888
00:35:01,972 --> 00:35:03,802
It's all at our website.
889
00:35:03,802 --> 00:35:06,807
www.beyondmonogamy.com.
890
00:35:08,932 --> 00:35:13,912
And don't forget, you can also catch us
every Thursday on full swap radio.com
891
00:35:13,972 --> 00:35:18,052
at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central Time.
892
00:35:18,052 --> 00:35:19,912
We are in the lineup.
893
00:35:20,212 --> 00:35:20,452
Yes.
894
00:35:20,512 --> 00:35:24,322
Along with many other adult shows.
895
00:35:24,322 --> 00:35:25,042
Broadcast.
896
00:35:25,132 --> 00:35:26,302
Interesting shows.
897
00:35:26,332 --> 00:35:26,422
Yes.
898
00:35:26,542 --> 00:35:26,902
Yeah.
899
00:35:27,602 --> 00:35:29,367
So with that being said, we love you guys.
900
00:35:29,367 --> 00:35:30,807
Thank you for being here.
901
00:35:30,807 --> 00:35:34,497
Thank you for helping us
build the community that we.
902
00:35:35,667 --> 00:35:37,377
Didn't have when we started.
903
00:35:37,557 --> 00:35:37,977
True that.
904
00:35:37,977 --> 00:35:39,177
Guys, thank you so much.
905
00:35:39,177 --> 00:35:40,317
We appreciate you guys.
906
00:35:40,317 --> 00:35:40,407
Yes.
907
00:35:40,407 --> 00:35:42,717
And we will see you all next week.
908
00:35:43,197 --> 00:35:43,527
Bye.
