Busy Isn’t Ghosting: A Lifestyle Reality Check
Busy Isn’t Ghosting: A Lifestyle Reality Check
Let’s clear something up real quick.
Busy does not mean rude.
Busy does not mean uninterested.
Busy definitely does not mean ghosting.
This Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris exists because someone forgot that people in the lifestyle are still… people.
When “Why Didn’t You Text Me Back?” Turns Into Entitlement
This episode kicked off after Pris got hit with the classic message:
“Why did you ghost me?”
Problem is — nobody was ghosted.
No blocking. No disappearing. No dramatic exit.
Just… life.
Work. Stress. Family. Recording episodes. Running businesses. Having kids. Being human.
As Pris put it perfectly:
“That’s not a me problem — that’s a you problem.”
Ghosting vs. Not Living in Your DMs
Let’s define terms, because apparently we need to.
- Ghosting: Someone disappears completely with no explanation.
- Being busy: Someone hasn’t replied in a week because they have a job and a life.
If you confuse those two things, the lifestyle is going to be a rough ride for you.
Adam nailed it when he said:
“Visibility is not the same thing as availability.”
Why Patience Is Actually Sexy
Here’s the wild part — patience doesn’t kill attraction.
It creates it.
Confidence looks like this:
- Not double-texting
- Not guilt-tripping
- Not demanding access to someone’s time
Entitlement looks like this:
“I thought a podcaster like you would know better.”
Nope. Hard stop.
As Adam put it:
“Being in the lifestyle doesn’t mean everyone owes you access.”
Public Presence ≠ Public Property
This is where a lot of people get twisted.
Yes, we podcast.
Yes, we create content.
Yes, we’re visible.
No — that does not mean we are on-call 24/7.
Pris summed it up best:
“Being public does not mean we are public property.”
And honestly? That applies to everyone in this lifestyle.
Lifestyle Etiquette 101 (Take Notes)
- Assume someone is busy, not rejecting you
- Don’t double-text or guilt-trip
- Respect boundaries without taking it personally
- Patience and confidence go hand in hand
Or as Adam so eloquently said:
“Grow — and we’re not talking about your dick size.”
Want Real Access? Show Up Where We Actually Are
If you want to connect with us — or anyone — stop living in the DMs.
We post where we’ll be. We host events. We show up in real life.
Check out all of our upcoming events at:
www.beyond-monogamy.com
Because patience is sexy.
Entitlement isn’t.
And respect will always get you further than pressure ever will.
Co-host
Adam is the bald, bearded, caffeine-fueled voice behind Beyond Monogamy — a guy who never expected to become a spokesperson for ethical non-monogamy… but here we are. After more than a decade navigating the lifestyle with his wife and co-host Pris, he’s learned a ton about communication, boundaries, jealousy (yep, he has it too), and what it really takes to build a relationship that feels like home and adventure at the same time.
Whether he’s diving into deep relationship conversations, calling out the myths the lifestyle loves to cling to, or just hyping up couples to choose their joy unapologetically, Adam brings honesty, humor, and tattoo-level commitment to every episode. If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just us?”, he’s the guy handing you a coffee and saying, “Nah — welcome to the club.”
Beyond Monogamy is his way of making sure nobody has to explore this world alone. Because love gets bigger when community gets louder.
📍 Based in Texas
☕ Early-morning gym rat
🎙 Podcast host, connection-builder, lifestyle storyteller
💭 Motto: “We don’t break rules — we make better ones.”
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