1 Year of Beyond Monogamy: How We Grew, Loved, and Laughed Through Non-Monogamy

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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.

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This show is raw, real, and
definitely not rated pg.

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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you

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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.

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So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice and get comfy.

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Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not
licensed therapists, counselors, or sex.

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Couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches, not sex couches

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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

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An ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.

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And.

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Hello and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And today we are really, really excited
to, uh, be doing this show today.

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We normally are dropping a quickie on
Wednesdays but this one's gonna be a

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little bit longer, uh, because this is
actually our one year anniversary show.

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It is.

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Yeah.

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So it Happy one year anniversary.

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Happy one year anniversary
beyond monogamy.

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Yay.

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Yeah, that's right.

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So we actually dropped our first
episode on Thanksgiving of 2024.

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And those of you who are listening
to this now, if you listen to it

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when it first drops on Wednesday, or
if you listen to it the next day on

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Thursday, it is Thanksgiving 2025.

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Yes.

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Be Thanksgiving.

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That's right.

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And so we had, uh, you know, this
was something that I've actually

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been looking into for the past
six months as far as what we would

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do for our, uh, one year episode.

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Yeah.

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We had some different plans,
we had different plans, we had

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different ideas, but just a lot
has changed over the past year.

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And so I thought that it
would be fun ish to do like.

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A then and now kind of situation where,
you know, we ask each other questions,

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how did you feel about this then, as
opposed to now kind of thing, because

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a lot has happened in the past years.

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A lot has happened.

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A lot has happened.

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There's been a lot of changes.

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So I am, I'm very excited
to go through this with you.

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I, I don't really know a whole lot
of the questions that are in this.

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Okay.

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Um, I generated them and so
this should be really fun.

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Let's see.

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This should be interesting.

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Let's see.

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And so we're just gonna go from this.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Let's go.

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All right, let's go.

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Go.

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Okay.

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Now, when we first started this podcast,
we didn't know what the hell we were

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doing, and I still say that to this day.

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I feel like I don't know
what I'm doing still.

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No, I did not.

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But as far as you're concerned, what do
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days that makes you kind of laugh now?

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Already laughing.

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You know what I remember we
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what to, what to talk about.

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It was it wasn't boring 'cause I
just listened to our first show.

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It was very interesting and
honestly I was really proud of it.

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'cause it was really flowy.

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Did you think it had a good flow?

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I did.

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I mean, we have good conversations.

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You know, it, it kind of led, you know,
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It wasn't really everywhere.

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But it kind of gave the synopsis of what
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Um, I remember really kind of struggling
because I am a planner and I had to

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just say, okay, I'm not gonna plan this.

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We're just gonna hit record.

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And that's exactly what we did.

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And, uh, I, I listened to our first
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I mean, you can hear the differences
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But it was a good episode.

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I enjoyed it.

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So I loved it.

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So when you think back to the first few
weeks of Beyond monogamy, the nerves, the

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tech, the, is anyone even gonna listen?

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Oh my God, that was you all the time.

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It's still me.

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What surprised you most
about how far we've come?

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You know, I've, I, this is
something I reminisce on a lot.

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Because when we first started mm-hmm.

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I didn't really know analytics,
uh, when it came to podcasts and

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stuff like that, they tell you
the downloads and this and that.

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I didn't really quite understand it.

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I knew that our numbers were really low.

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Our numbers were really
low at the very beginning.

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And I, and really, well, I
mean, it was the beginning.

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And I didn't think that anybody
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Listen.

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We were really doing it for us.

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We were doing it for us and
for our, like our friends Yeah.

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Who wanna listen, you know?

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Um, I didn't really think that
this was gonna take off anywhere.

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It's kind of like those, those.

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Straggler YouTube channels
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And you see how many subscribers they
have and they have like 87 subscribers.

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And they have like maybe
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That's, that's my personal YouTube.

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That is life with pri.

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That's right.

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Sorry guys.

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And so it's one of those things where
you don't expect it to take off.

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And I did not expect
this thing to take off.

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And so I thought that this
was just gonna be a hobby.

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I really had nerves as far
as, is anybody gonna listen?

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Is anybody gonna find us?

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Interesting.

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And so that's really surprised me
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especially in the amount of time that
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year, uh, how much it's taken off.

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I, I I think it's incredible.

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I love it.

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It's, it's, it's been a
nice little ride here.

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And we're just on the cusp Yes.

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Of taken off even further.

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I think that's so fun.

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So what, what moment made you realize,
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people are actually connecting with us?

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Uh, you know, I, I think I, I told
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Gosh, it must have been
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It was right after the
beach takeover mm-hmm.

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That we attended.

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And we, or no, I'm sorry.

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Excuse me.

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It was right before the beach takeover.

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I was gonna say.

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It's right before the beach
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about adding video to our podcast.

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At that time it was just audio.

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And so for the first six to
seven months of our podcast, I

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just figured it to be a hobby.

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I didn't figure that we would ever
reach more than, you know 50, 50

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downloads a month or whatever it was.

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You know, uh, but I kept
seeing these analytics.

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It didn't make sense to me.

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And so finally one day I, I took
those analytics and I, and I gave

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them to some podcast friends and they
looked it over and they pretty much

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told me like, wow, you guys are doing
incredible for the amount of time that

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you guys have been doing this, and.

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They gave me some advice on how we
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And something about that just
kind of inspired me to go, wow,

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people are actually listening.

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People are actually taking notice.

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We should, we should change
the trajectory of this.

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I should take this a
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And so that's really where I made the
change from hobby to more than hobby.

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And, and we started making some changes.

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We started bringing on guests.

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On our, on our Sunday shows we opened
it up not just to the sexual aspect

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of non-monogamy, but the complete
non-monogamy all aspects of it.

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And I just, I, I felt like as
soon as we made those changes.

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Something happened and
it was just explosive.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I, I, I thought that was
really just a, a really fun moment.

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So it was about halfway through.

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Halfway through the year.

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Is when I realized it.

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That's awesome.

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Same probably.

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Maybe before that.

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Well, you've always had this
plan in place, apparently.

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So I knew So you knew we
were gonna be successful.

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Somebody was just telling me, they were
like, yeah, well, this is Adam's baby.

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I was like, oh, no, no, no, no.

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This is my baby.

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Oh, yeah.

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No.

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This was your conception.

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I, I totally.

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Now he, yeah.

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You've created this wonderful, yeah.

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The idea was, was
completely conceived by you.

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This Yeah.

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And I never will let you quit, so.

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No, it is what it is.

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No, I don't.

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We're gonna keep going,
so she won't let me quit.

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We're gonna keep going
until I can't talk anymore.

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The only way that I could quit
this show is if I divorced her.

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And that's not happening.

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That's not happening.

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No, no, no.

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Now I have a question for you.

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Oh, that's right.

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Okay.

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Has podcasting changed the
way you look at our marriage?

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Like, do you think the show has
made us stronger or just given us

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more stuff to argue about on air?

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It's definitely give us give, we've
always had really good communication.

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I feel like I honestly, I feel more heard.

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I don't hold back every now and then
in the beginning shows y'all might've

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heard where we get a little bit of
passionate and then I just kind of shut

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down because he gets a little passionate.

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Um, it's not always like that.

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Like I pick and choose where I wanna
talk more passionate to you about.

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And I feel like the podcast has
really given me a space that I can

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just, just talk, just be myself.

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So I feel like it's made our
marriage a little stronger.

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I think so.

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Um, we've always had good communication,
but now people actually can

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hear me like not agree with you.

256
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Like Yeah.

257
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I think when people see us, they're like,
oh, she, I, I always feel like they think

258
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I am like just a quiet little wife and I'm
not gonna say anything and I just kind of

259
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go along with my husband and Well, yeah.

260
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I mean, I feel like that's
the way people perceive.

261
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I don't think so.

262
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Perceive me sometimes
and it's like, no, no.

263
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I think actually no, when people
look at us, I think what they

264
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perceive is a very strong woman
with a very chill and happy guy.

265
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Yeah.

266
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I think that's what I, I don't know.

267
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That's what I see.

268
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Yeah.

269
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And, and a lot of people who are
in our circle and a lot of people

270
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who know us see that as well.

271
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But, but I think the podcast has
definitely brought us together more.

272
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It's a lot, it's very therapeutic.

273
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To talk it out.

274
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And so it can be, yeah.

275
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And yeah, people are listening to what
we're saying and they're, they're like

276
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engaging with us right.

277
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Through text messaging.

278
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They'll text us, they'll message us.

279
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Yeah.

280
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Or they'll ask us a question.

281
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They're on social media, but I don't know.

282
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It definitely has brought,
it's empowered me.

283
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Yeah.

284
00:10:46,074 --> 00:10:47,514
I, so I was gonna say, it's empowered me.

285
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You, you've found, you know, you've
always had your voice, but you've

286
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really found it where you're on now.

287
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I have a platform, unapologetic.

288
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I'm very un You're really unapologetic.

289
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I am.

290
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And we, sometimes we get off
the show and you're like,

291
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God, that was, that was rough.

292
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And I'm like, I know.

293
00:11:04,164 --> 00:11:08,304
But if I don't say these things or this
is the only time to say 'em, so, yeah.

294
00:11:08,759 --> 00:11:09,049
Yeah.

295
00:11:09,054 --> 00:11:10,494
It's, it's fun, you know?

296
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Yeah.

297
00:11:12,174 --> 00:11:16,254
Now, if you were to think about
where we were as a couple a year ago

298
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versus now, Uhhuh, what's something
about us that's completely different?

299
00:11:22,959 --> 00:11:23,409
Ooh.

300
00:11:24,489 --> 00:11:25,749
Completely different.

301
00:11:25,779 --> 00:11:26,079
Yeah.

302
00:11:26,129 --> 00:11:27,059
I feel

303
00:11:29,909 --> 00:11:33,779
we're more selective with the
people we associate with now.

304
00:11:34,109 --> 00:11:35,159
Oh, that's a good one.

305
00:11:35,339 --> 00:11:36,719
We are very selective.

306
00:11:36,954 --> 00:11:37,574
Yes, that is true.

307
00:11:37,579 --> 00:11:40,289
Um, our circles have changed.

308
00:11:40,289 --> 00:11:43,879
We still have many, many, many,
many really good friends that we

309
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don't always see very often, but
we are very selective with who,

310
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who we just associate with, period.

311
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Yeah.

312
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Yeah.

313
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Well, you know, things, things are
different when you have a podcast because

314
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there are people that kind of come out.

315
00:12:01,174 --> 00:12:04,804
Mm. You know, they, they're just
interested because we have a platform.

316
00:12:04,864 --> 00:12:05,434
Yes.

317
00:12:05,494 --> 00:12:06,664
That is the weirdest thing.

318
00:12:06,664 --> 00:12:09,814
People on, on several occasions, I
don't know how many times we have people

319
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coming up to us going, uh, you need
to have me as a guest on your podcast.

320
00:12:14,014 --> 00:12:14,859
I, oh my God.

321
00:12:14,899 --> 00:12:15,484
I was like, really?

322
00:12:15,814 --> 00:12:20,074
I literally had like three messages
today, you know, I, and they were like,

323
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you need to have me on your podcast.

324
00:12:21,394 --> 00:12:29,794
And I'm like, no, guys, we, we have a
rule If you, if you tell us that you

325
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need to be a guest on our podcast mm-hmm.

326
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That automatically disqualifies you
from being a guest on our podcast.

327
00:12:37,174 --> 00:12:37,864
That is very true.

328
00:12:37,864 --> 00:12:41,974
Because that tells us that you
are wanting to express yourself

329
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via our platform that we've built.

330
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Yes.

331
00:12:44,734 --> 00:12:44,884
Yes.

332
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And we don't know what
you're going to say.

333
00:12:46,594 --> 00:12:46,924
No.

334
00:12:46,924 --> 00:12:51,844
And we're very, we're very, again,
selective with who we get on our show.

335
00:12:51,844 --> 00:12:52,024
It's.

336
00:12:52,609 --> 00:12:55,669
We're not, this is not just the
day in the life of Pris and Adam.

337
00:12:55,669 --> 00:12:59,149
This is, we want this
to be of substance Yeah.

338
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Of some kind of education.

339
00:13:00,949 --> 00:13:04,939
You know, we're not sex therapists,
but, and that's the thing about

340
00:13:04,939 --> 00:13:08,629
it, is we are not experts by any
mean, on any, any portion of this.

341
00:13:08,929 --> 00:13:12,799
And so the guests that we want to
bring onto this show are people

342
00:13:12,799 --> 00:13:19,069
that have been experts in whatever
field they're in, in non-monogamy.

343
00:13:19,339 --> 00:13:19,459
Yeah.

344
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Whether it be sexually, whether
it be dating, whatever it may be.

345
00:13:22,819 --> 00:13:22,879
Yeah.

346
00:13:23,429 --> 00:13:26,939
But we really try to get
experts in the field of whatever

347
00:13:26,939 --> 00:13:28,109
it is we're talking about.

348
00:13:28,169 --> 00:13:28,229
Yes.

349
00:13:28,229 --> 00:13:33,099
And I really try to step out
of our regular community.

350
00:13:33,729 --> 00:13:34,089
Yeah.

351
00:13:34,089 --> 00:13:36,609
Because we need to, we need to expand.

352
00:13:36,609 --> 00:13:37,059
Like, yeah.

353
00:13:37,059 --> 00:13:42,009
And not to mention, you know, you,
when you stay in your community, only.

354
00:13:43,524 --> 00:13:45,594
Everybody is kind of similar.

355
00:13:45,594 --> 00:13:47,364
There's a similar mindset.

356
00:13:47,369 --> 00:13:47,419
Yes.

357
00:13:47,454 --> 00:13:47,724
Yes.

358
00:13:47,814 --> 00:13:52,494
And the more you go outside of that, the
more you're going to catch different ways

359
00:13:52,494 --> 00:13:57,004
of thinking different opinions, uh, you
know, not just out of state, but we've

360
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gotten guests from out of the country.

361
00:13:59,374 --> 00:13:59,674
Yes.

362
00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:03,309
And, and to see the differences in
thinking, I just think it's, it's great.

363
00:14:03,339 --> 00:14:03,904
It's so cool.

364
00:14:03,934 --> 00:14:04,444
I love it.

365
00:14:04,474 --> 00:14:04,744
Yeah.

366
00:14:04,774 --> 00:14:05,104
Yeah.

367
00:14:05,614 --> 00:14:08,554
So what's something about me
that surprised you this year?

368
00:14:08,554 --> 00:14:11,814
Either in the podcast or in the
lifestyle Oh, that you didn't expect?

369
00:14:11,854 --> 00:14:12,544
Oh, man.

370
00:14:13,084 --> 00:14:16,804
Uh, well, I didn't expect us to
have a girlfriend at, at one point.

371
00:14:17,044 --> 00:14:17,194
Mm-hmm.

372
00:14:17,554 --> 00:14:24,014
Um, I did not, you know, you were so
against poly and still are, I think.

373
00:14:24,644 --> 00:14:31,244
But you have opened
yourself up to feelings.

374
00:14:31,784 --> 00:14:35,954
You've opened yourself up to experiences,
you've opened yourself up to way

375
00:14:35,954 --> 00:14:39,224
more than when we first started.

376
00:14:39,524 --> 00:14:39,674
Yes.

377
00:14:39,674 --> 00:14:42,404
Uh, your mind is very open to things.

378
00:14:42,484 --> 00:14:45,484
And you're still a very strong cynic.

379
00:14:45,724 --> 00:14:47,254
You're still very not trusting.

380
00:14:47,734 --> 00:14:47,824
Yes.

381
00:14:47,884 --> 00:14:54,214
Uh, but that alone has really,
like, that's a big deal.

382
00:14:54,364 --> 00:14:57,484
Like for you to even think in that way.

383
00:14:58,084 --> 00:14:59,649
I I felt like that was a pretty big deal.

384
00:15:00,039 --> 00:15:00,369
Yeah.

385
00:15:00,369 --> 00:15:00,379
Yeah.

386
00:15:00,789 --> 00:15:00,939
Yeah.

387
00:15:00,939 --> 00:15:02,199
I felt like that was pretty major.

388
00:15:04,029 --> 00:15:04,389
It is.

389
00:15:04,389 --> 00:15:06,609
Well, yeah, because I mean, I
never thought I'd see that day.

390
00:15:06,669 --> 00:15:06,969
Yeah.

391
00:15:06,969 --> 00:15:10,029
And then all of a sudden one day, like
a flip of a switch, you just came out

392
00:15:10,029 --> 00:15:13,809
and you were like, I think I'm okay
with you going to see so and so, or

393
00:15:13,809 --> 00:15:15,339
I think I'm okay with this or that.

394
00:15:15,339 --> 00:15:16,779
And it's like, what?

395
00:15:16,959 --> 00:15:17,259
Yeah.

396
00:15:17,259 --> 00:15:18,669
What I'm, yeah.

397
00:15:18,754 --> 00:15:19,644
What, what?

398
00:15:19,899 --> 00:15:21,459
I mean I'm still very picky, choosy.

399
00:15:21,759 --> 00:15:22,029
Yeah.

400
00:15:22,029 --> 00:15:23,829
Obviously, but obviously, yeah.

401
00:15:23,829 --> 00:15:24,609
As you should be.

402
00:15:24,609 --> 00:15:24,789
Yeah.

403
00:15:24,794 --> 00:15:27,249
I should because you're
beautiful because you're my baby.

404
00:15:27,429 --> 00:15:28,029
I love you.

405
00:15:28,824 --> 00:15:29,484
What can I say?

406
00:15:30,474 --> 00:15:30,984
So

407
00:15:33,744 --> 00:15:36,564
we've told so many stories
about past experiences.

408
00:15:36,564 --> 00:15:41,634
Once one story we've never told on the
air that probably deserves its moment.

409
00:15:43,224 --> 00:15:44,064
Oh damn.

410
00:15:46,464 --> 00:15:49,284
Do I have a story that you
always got stories, girl?

411
00:15:50,284 --> 00:15:50,794
Hmm?

412
00:15:51,994 --> 00:15:54,004
Past experience, story.

413
00:15:54,124 --> 00:16:01,714
Well, I've had some experiences without
you, but during this whole time I

414
00:16:01,714 --> 00:16:03,334
don't, I don't think I have one hat.

415
00:16:03,334 --> 00:16:04,024
Do I have any?

416
00:16:05,284 --> 00:16:05,974
So

417
00:16:08,344 --> 00:16:14,074
we're talking about past experiences
as far as you are concerned.

418
00:16:14,704 --> 00:16:17,884
I think the, the big story that.

419
00:16:18,919 --> 00:16:26,449
I don't even know if it was ever told, uh,
would be the, um, your wedding, not your

420
00:16:26,449 --> 00:16:28,399
wedding story, but your sister's wedding.

421
00:16:29,299 --> 00:16:32,659
Oh, uh, I, 'cause I, I feel like that
was, that story is kind of monumental

422
00:16:32,659 --> 00:16:35,959
and the reason being is because that
was the first story that I heard

423
00:16:35,959 --> 00:16:38,659
about you when we connected again.

424
00:16:38,809 --> 00:16:39,079
Yeah.

425
00:16:39,079 --> 00:16:43,819
And I was like, literally the very first
time that I saw you out of so many years.

426
00:16:43,849 --> 00:16:44,059
Yeah.

427
00:16:44,059 --> 00:16:46,849
And I heard this story
and I was like, oh my God.

428
00:16:47,069 --> 00:16:47,369
Okay.

429
00:16:47,369 --> 00:16:52,769
So I have a story of me and
my wonderful Sluttiness.

430
00:16:52,914 --> 00:16:54,239
Oh, oh gosh.

431
00:16:54,239 --> 00:16:54,509
So great.

432
00:16:54,599 --> 00:16:56,494
So I, um, so great.

433
00:16:56,549 --> 00:16:59,669
I have a younger sibling,
she's four years younger.

434
00:16:59,669 --> 00:17:00,989
She was Adam's best friend.

435
00:17:00,989 --> 00:17:05,219
She, um, had gotten married,
this was her first wedding.

436
00:17:06,419 --> 00:17:11,969
And I was, I had a, I had a boyfriend.

437
00:17:13,169 --> 00:17:14,669
I guess you can call him a boyfriend.

438
00:17:14,999 --> 00:17:20,999
And I left that weekend to
Houston to go to her wedding.

439
00:17:20,999 --> 00:17:21,809
And it was just me.

440
00:17:21,809 --> 00:17:24,269
They didn't like him, so
he stayed and whatever.

441
00:17:24,689 --> 00:17:32,189
And so I came in and I was at
this wedding and I had always eyed

442
00:17:32,249 --> 00:17:36,689
her soon to be husband's cousin.

443
00:17:37,679 --> 00:17:40,589
And I was like, man, I really
want, he was really cute.

444
00:17:40,589 --> 00:17:42,209
And I was like, I really wanna bag him.

445
00:17:42,449 --> 00:17:44,189
And she was like, no, he's my cousin.

446
00:17:44,189 --> 00:17:45,359
And I'm like, okay, whatever.

447
00:17:45,839 --> 00:17:51,259
So then I knew her best friend's
husband always like, always

448
00:17:51,259 --> 00:17:52,759
gave me the eyes, right?

449
00:17:52,789 --> 00:17:54,709
And I knew he was gonna be easy to get.

450
00:17:55,009 --> 00:17:55,879
Sorry guys.

451
00:17:56,329 --> 00:17:58,189
And so I went to this wedding.

452
00:17:59,164 --> 00:18:02,944
And I was there and all my family
was there and I was drinking.

453
00:18:03,364 --> 00:18:06,654
And I kept flirting with the
cousin and then I kept flirting

454
00:18:06,654 --> 00:18:09,954
with the best friend's hus, my
sister's best friend's husband.

455
00:18:10,644 --> 00:18:14,914
And I was like, Hey do you think
you and your wife, you think your

456
00:18:14,914 --> 00:18:18,004
wife would let you, you know, all
of us go have like a threesome?

457
00:18:18,574 --> 00:18:21,454
And he said, I don't
think she's into that.

458
00:18:21,514 --> 00:18:26,254
And I said, okay, well do
you wanna go have some fun?

459
00:18:27,574 --> 00:18:30,904
I know he was married, but I don't care.

460
00:18:31,414 --> 00:18:33,154
And so he goes, yeah.

461
00:18:33,154 --> 00:18:34,984
And I said, okay, we'll
meet me in the elevator.

462
00:18:35,614 --> 00:18:39,484
And so he met me in the elevator.

463
00:18:39,489 --> 00:18:39,629
Mm-hmm.

464
00:18:39,724 --> 00:18:45,064
And I was kind of like rubbing him and
I could feel that he was getting hard.

465
00:18:45,784 --> 00:18:47,404
So I already knew this guy.

466
00:18:47,404 --> 00:18:51,754
His wife had already told me and hi my
sister, that he was a two minute guy.

467
00:18:51,844 --> 00:18:53,584
And I was like, what the hell is that?

468
00:18:54,214 --> 00:18:56,314
So I've never knew that was a thing.

469
00:18:56,374 --> 00:19:03,604
We went back to his room and I picked
up my dress, pulled down my underwear,

470
00:19:03,604 --> 00:19:08,884
he laid on the bed, legs down, just
kind of dangling, pulled his pants down.

471
00:19:09,184 --> 00:19:14,164
I got on top of him and I literally put
him inside me for a couple of minutes

472
00:19:14,194 --> 00:19:17,044
and he was, he came just like that.

473
00:19:17,049 --> 00:19:17,149
Huh?

474
00:19:17,179 --> 00:19:17,469
Came.

475
00:19:17,704 --> 00:19:19,294
I was like, oh, okay.

476
00:19:20,104 --> 00:19:22,804
And so he was like, we were done.

477
00:19:22,834 --> 00:19:23,794
And I was like, all right.

478
00:19:23,894 --> 00:19:24,404
Cool.

479
00:19:24,944 --> 00:19:26,084
And he is like, I'll get you later.

480
00:19:26,084 --> 00:19:27,254
And I was like, okay.

481
00:19:27,944 --> 00:19:29,474
That had never happened to me.

482
00:19:29,534 --> 00:19:36,644
And so that night I we're still at the,
at the wedding and we're dancing and I was

483
00:19:36,644 --> 00:19:41,534
dancing with the cousin and I was like,
are you gonna go back to my room with.

484
00:19:42,194 --> 00:19:43,304
And he is like, no.

485
00:19:43,304 --> 00:19:44,894
And I was like, well, can
I go back to your room?

486
00:19:44,894 --> 00:19:45,644
And he is like, no.

487
00:19:45,644 --> 00:19:47,024
And I was like, okay, whatever.

488
00:19:47,594 --> 00:19:49,244
We were hopping around different bedrooms.

489
00:19:49,244 --> 00:19:52,574
We ended up in the pool and I ended
up in the pool with him and the other

490
00:19:52,574 --> 00:19:53,924
guy that I had already had sex with.

491
00:19:54,494 --> 00:19:58,544
And so the cousin and I were
getting it on, like making out,

492
00:19:58,604 --> 00:20:02,654
and the guy was just watching and
he decided he was gonna leave.

493
00:20:02,654 --> 00:20:04,034
And I said, oh, okay.

494
00:20:04,664 --> 00:20:07,874
And the pool, one side of
the pool was full of people.

495
00:20:08,654 --> 00:20:15,494
And I, the cousin, we ended up having
sex in the pool, like full of people.

496
00:20:15,554 --> 00:20:19,034
And then we got out of there
and went back to the bedroom

497
00:20:19,394 --> 00:20:20,954
and started having more sex.

498
00:20:21,074 --> 00:20:24,464
And then I walked back to my room
early in the morning and my dad

499
00:20:24,464 --> 00:20:28,094
opened the door and I was like,
damn, talk about the walk of shame.

500
00:20:29,234 --> 00:20:33,254
But yeah, that was my first ever

501
00:20:36,134 --> 00:20:38,144
sluttiness and one night.

502
00:20:38,234 --> 00:20:38,264
Okay.

503
00:20:38,744 --> 00:20:39,914
I'd had one night stand.

504
00:20:39,914 --> 00:20:42,854
I had only had one, one night
stand before my whole life.

505
00:20:43,214 --> 00:20:46,004
And then I had these
two, and I was like, Ooh.

506
00:20:46,544 --> 00:20:50,174
And of course, the best friend
found out because the husband

507
00:20:50,174 --> 00:20:52,004
told her, which was dumb.

508
00:20:52,004 --> 00:20:56,294
But anyway, and so, yeah, that's
a story y'all have not heard.

509
00:20:56,594 --> 00:21:01,094
So that, that, that's a, uh, that's a
Beyond Monogamy one year anniversary.

510
00:21:01,604 --> 00:21:01,874
Exclusive.

511
00:21:02,024 --> 00:21:02,084
Yeah.

512
00:21:02,084 --> 00:21:04,904
That was a good, um, it was fun.

513
00:21:05,474 --> 00:21:09,374
You know, I, I I was told that
story when I first saw you.

514
00:21:09,434 --> 00:21:09,944
Yeah.

515
00:21:10,004 --> 00:21:12,134
Uh, when we, when we met at that bar.

516
00:21:12,764 --> 00:21:16,604
And, uh, your sister told that
story as a matter of fact.

517
00:21:17,114 --> 00:21:17,504
Yeah.

518
00:21:17,504 --> 00:21:20,564
And so when, that's So
when we met you Yeah.

519
00:21:21,134 --> 00:21:23,504
Um, I was like, Ooh,
what does he look like?

520
00:21:23,504 --> 00:21:25,184
Oh, he's tall and he's bald.

521
00:21:25,184 --> 00:21:27,074
And I was like, oh my goodness.

522
00:21:27,104 --> 00:21:27,824
Okay.

523
00:21:27,914 --> 00:21:29,594
And she goes, he's still married.

524
00:21:29,594 --> 00:21:31,694
And I was like, oh.

525
00:21:32,054 --> 00:21:32,834
Okay.

526
00:21:33,014 --> 00:21:34,934
And she goes, no, don't
even think about it.

527
00:21:34,934 --> 00:21:36,464
And I was like, but he
is getting a divorce.

528
00:21:36,674 --> 00:21:36,884
Yep.

529
00:21:37,034 --> 00:21:38,654
And they're like, she was like, Nope.

530
00:21:38,654 --> 00:21:41,504
And so I had to ignore you
at the Yeah, you totally did.

531
00:21:41,534 --> 00:21:42,224
I had to ignore you.

532
00:21:42,224 --> 00:21:43,094
We went to the bar.

533
00:21:43,454 --> 00:21:43,694
Ah, man.

534
00:21:43,694 --> 00:21:46,124
And then finally we got to, and I was
doing everything to get your attention.

535
00:21:46,124 --> 00:21:48,404
We got to the house,
well, we invited you back.

536
00:21:48,434 --> 00:21:48,524
Mm-hmm.

537
00:21:48,854 --> 00:21:50,234
'cause we were gonna just chit chat.

538
00:21:50,294 --> 00:21:51,764
We had babies, we had little infants.

539
00:21:51,764 --> 00:21:51,854
Yeah.

540
00:21:52,244 --> 00:21:55,364
So we sent you back to the house with
us, and we were there all talking

541
00:21:55,364 --> 00:21:56,714
more reminiscing and whatever.

542
00:21:56,714 --> 00:21:59,204
And then you and I
became like good friends.

543
00:21:59,264 --> 00:21:59,564
Yeah.

544
00:21:59,774 --> 00:22:03,824
And then after that we were good friends
for a couple of weeks and that was it.

545
00:22:04,034 --> 00:22:04,454
Yeah.

546
00:22:04,694 --> 00:22:07,124
You moved out of your exes.

547
00:22:07,124 --> 00:22:08,684
And I was like, okay.

548
00:22:09,044 --> 00:22:09,854
Fair game.

549
00:22:11,204 --> 00:22:11,414
Yeah.

550
00:22:11,654 --> 00:22:12,559
So, yeah.

551
00:22:12,564 --> 00:22:13,004
Yeah.

552
00:22:13,004 --> 00:22:15,104
That's, that's a story that
y'all have never heard and.

553
00:22:16,154 --> 00:22:18,224
It's probably one of my favorite stories.

554
00:22:18,254 --> 00:22:19,754
It is one of my favorite
stories, that's for sure.

555
00:22:19,754 --> 00:22:19,904
Yeah.

556
00:22:19,934 --> 00:22:22,334
Because I don't ever,
that's not really me.

557
00:22:22,544 --> 00:22:23,024
That's not me.

558
00:22:23,024 --> 00:22:27,064
Well, and you know, I, I love
you exploring your slutty side.

559
00:22:27,064 --> 00:22:27,214
Yeah.

560
00:22:27,214 --> 00:22:30,484
And so for me to get that
immediately, I was like, holy crap.

561
00:22:30,514 --> 00:22:30,574
Yeah.

562
00:22:30,574 --> 00:22:31,174
Sexually.

563
00:22:31,354 --> 00:22:31,474
Yeah.

564
00:22:31,474 --> 00:22:33,799
This woman sounds exactly
what I'm looking for.

565
00:22:35,884 --> 00:22:37,924
And now he wants me to
do that and I don't.

566
00:22:38,614 --> 00:22:39,484
I do now sometimes.

567
00:22:39,484 --> 00:22:40,204
She's so loyal.

568
00:22:40,204 --> 00:22:41,254
It's ridiculous.

569
00:22:42,064 --> 00:22:42,214
God.

570
00:22:45,124 --> 00:22:45,424
Right.

571
00:22:45,814 --> 00:22:46,714
Stupid loyalty.

572
00:22:46,714 --> 00:22:47,014
I know.

573
00:22:47,014 --> 00:22:49,954
But can I end up with one of those chicks
that always likes to cheat on their man?

574
00:22:51,244 --> 00:22:52,024
I'm sorry.

575
00:22:52,084 --> 00:22:53,164
I cheat with food.

576
00:22:53,704 --> 00:22:54,274
That's true.

577
00:22:54,334 --> 00:22:54,664
Yeah.

578
00:22:54,724 --> 00:22:55,684
And I don't care for that.

579
00:22:55,714 --> 00:22:56,519
No, no.

580
00:22:57,874 --> 00:23:01,474
So you always talk about communication
being like our superpower, right?

581
00:23:01,474 --> 00:23:01,534
Yeah.

582
00:23:01,534 --> 00:23:02,764
Because we do, we talk a lot.

583
00:23:03,004 --> 00:23:03,154
We do.

584
00:23:03,154 --> 00:23:06,064
What's one moment this year
where communication saved

585
00:23:06,064 --> 00:23:08,674
our asses, saved our asses.

586
00:23:08,704 --> 00:23:09,004
Oof.

587
00:23:09,364 --> 00:23:09,994
Um.

588
00:23:11,584 --> 00:23:12,574
Saved your ass.

589
00:23:15,394 --> 00:23:16,624
There's been a few times.

590
00:23:16,684 --> 00:23:18,184
Yeah, there's been a few times.

591
00:23:18,244 --> 00:23:19,654
It's 'cause you're so cute.

592
00:23:19,744 --> 00:23:20,494
Is that what it is?

593
00:23:20,549 --> 00:23:20,769
No.

594
00:23:20,949 --> 00:23:22,129
No, I didn't think so either.

595
00:23:22,129 --> 00:23:22,569
No, it's not.

596
00:23:22,689 --> 00:23:23,254
I didn't think so.

597
00:23:23,734 --> 00:23:29,824
That's a, that's a really good question
that, uh, there have been, I don't

598
00:23:29,824 --> 00:23:34,864
know if I have a specific time because
it's come up a couple different times.

599
00:23:35,434 --> 00:23:40,324
You know, where, and I would
say save our asses more.

600
00:23:40,324 --> 00:23:43,264
Like we just didn't argue about it.

601
00:23:43,264 --> 00:23:48,604
We had to really talk about it, I guess is
pretty much like what one time, I guess.

602
00:23:49,744 --> 00:23:52,414
What about communication
being our supervisor?

603
00:23:52,414 --> 00:23:55,174
What was one moment this year that
communication saved our asses?

604
00:23:56,284 --> 00:23:59,554
Well, you know, I can, I, I don't
know about saved our asses, but I

605
00:23:59,554 --> 00:24:05,194
will tell you that, uh, at some point
throughout the beginning of our.

606
00:24:05,854 --> 00:24:07,654
Podcasting year.

607
00:24:07,804 --> 00:24:08,044
Mm-hmm.

608
00:24:08,734 --> 00:24:12,334
You know, I was entertaining
friends with benefits and that

609
00:24:12,364 --> 00:24:14,494
that was still kind of early on.

610
00:24:15,004 --> 00:24:15,244
Yes.

611
00:24:15,334 --> 00:24:18,664
Uh, when we started the podcast,
I just really started kind

612
00:24:18,664 --> 00:24:20,044
of exploring that dynamic.

613
00:24:20,074 --> 00:24:21,604
And you were not a fan of that.

614
00:24:21,724 --> 00:24:21,994
No.

615
00:24:22,354 --> 00:24:27,214
And it took some real coaxing
for you to be okay with it.

616
00:24:27,214 --> 00:24:30,904
And I found that the real reason
why I had to sit down and really,

617
00:24:31,624 --> 00:24:37,384
we had to really communicate to
the letter and I had to explain to

618
00:24:37,384 --> 00:24:38,944
you that I'm not going anywhere.

619
00:24:39,064 --> 00:24:39,364
Yes.

620
00:24:39,424 --> 00:24:43,474
Um, I, I had to make you realize
that I am very, very devoted to you

621
00:24:43,474 --> 00:24:46,954
and, and you know, there's never
a time when I'm gonna leave you.

622
00:24:46,954 --> 00:24:51,574
And I believe that that
conversation, albeit a long

623
00:24:51,574 --> 00:24:55,124
one, was somehow sunk into you.

624
00:24:55,304 --> 00:24:59,424
And that was when you came out and
you were like, I think I get it now.

625
00:24:59,759 --> 00:25:01,559
Yeah, I think it makes sense now.

626
00:25:01,649 --> 00:25:02,639
I think it was that.

627
00:25:02,644 --> 00:25:02,654
Yeah.

628
00:25:02,654 --> 00:25:05,399
And then the show, like we
had somebody on the show Yeah.

629
00:25:05,399 --> 00:25:06,179
And stuff like that.

630
00:25:06,509 --> 00:25:09,059
And it's, yeah.

631
00:25:09,299 --> 00:25:12,839
I would say that's, communication on
that was really, really, really big.

632
00:25:12,899 --> 00:25:13,229
Yeah.

633
00:25:13,469 --> 00:25:13,949
It's, yeah.

634
00:25:14,039 --> 00:25:14,669
Oh, you know what?

635
00:25:14,669 --> 00:25:15,899
And I can give you another one too.

636
00:25:16,109 --> 00:25:16,859
I got another one.

637
00:25:16,889 --> 00:25:17,699
Oh, it just came up.

638
00:25:17,939 --> 00:25:23,129
So when we go to the club, and some
of you may have heard this on an

639
00:25:23,129 --> 00:25:28,209
episode in the past but when we first
started going to the club, the first

640
00:25:28,209 --> 00:25:34,219
few times people would recognize me
and immediately a lot of women would

641
00:25:34,219 --> 00:25:36,559
just come up to me and just kiss me.

642
00:25:36,559 --> 00:25:37,369
Mm-hmm.

643
00:25:37,429 --> 00:25:40,219
And I used to get in trouble for that.

644
00:25:40,224 --> 00:25:40,424
Mm-hmm.

645
00:25:40,574 --> 00:25:42,619
Like I, you would get mad at me.

646
00:25:42,624 --> 00:25:42,824
Mm-hmm.

647
00:25:42,909 --> 00:25:47,629
And I'd be like, well, I'm not going
out of my way and kissing these people.

648
00:25:47,899 --> 00:25:50,869
They come up to me, they kiss
me, and what am I gonna do?

649
00:25:50,869 --> 00:25:52,909
Say no Uhhuh, I'm not gonna
be an asshole about it.

650
00:25:52,909 --> 00:25:53,779
I don't wanna be a jerk.

651
00:25:54,124 --> 00:25:54,364
Yeah.

652
00:25:54,369 --> 00:25:57,239
So of course, so you had to
pick, be in trouble or were you

653
00:25:57,299 --> 00:25:59,254
be in trouble or enjoy the kiss?

654
00:25:59,254 --> 00:26:03,064
I guess I was in trouble,
but we communicated about it.

655
00:26:03,184 --> 00:26:05,974
We did, and that, and I
communicated to the women.

656
00:26:05,974 --> 00:26:07,594
And you communicated to the women.

657
00:26:07,594 --> 00:26:10,504
And that kind of saved my ass because
now you know, when it happens, you're,

658
00:26:10,744 --> 00:26:13,864
you're able to just kind of roll your
eyes and walk away kind of thing.

659
00:26:14,404 --> 00:26:14,554
Yeah.

660
00:26:15,304 --> 00:26:16,054
For the most part.

661
00:26:16,054 --> 00:26:17,439
Which is something that you were
never able to do before for the,

662
00:26:17,439 --> 00:26:21,274
the most part I do now I'm just
more vocal now I'm just like, Hmm,

663
00:26:22,144 --> 00:26:23,374
all right sweetie pie, let's go.

664
00:26:24,064 --> 00:26:29,464
But yeah, no, it's definitely,
um, yes, communication.

665
00:26:29,764 --> 00:26:30,484
Yeah.

666
00:26:30,724 --> 00:26:32,199
It has saved your ass a lot.

667
00:26:33,059 --> 00:26:36,184
It saved, well, I would say it
saved yours, but you got ADHD and

668
00:26:36,184 --> 00:26:37,744
you're hard to understand sometimes.

669
00:26:37,744 --> 00:26:37,804
Yeah.

670
00:26:38,554 --> 00:26:44,944
So what's something you've learned about
love or partnership through the lifestyle

671
00:26:44,944 --> 00:26:46,984
that you wish more people understood?

672
00:26:47,984 --> 00:26:53,624
That it's okay if you're partner and you
don't see eye to eye on the lifestyle.

673
00:26:54,104 --> 00:26:57,644
Like it's, you're gonna
find the common ground.

674
00:26:57,644 --> 00:27:01,034
You and I do not think
alike in the lifestyle.

675
00:27:01,039 --> 00:27:01,669
No, not alike.

676
00:27:01,674 --> 00:27:07,484
We have different things, but we know
that either, even though you wanna go this

677
00:27:07,484 --> 00:27:09,344
way and either way I wanna go that way.

678
00:27:10,184 --> 00:27:13,574
We have to have to find
that common ground.

679
00:27:13,574 --> 00:27:15,374
Like we, it's a negotiation.

680
00:27:15,374 --> 00:27:17,624
It's a negotiation no matter what.

681
00:27:17,624 --> 00:27:21,524
Like if I don't like something, if you
don't like something, if we don't like a

682
00:27:21,524 --> 00:27:26,294
certain person and it's just not, not a
good vibe that you and I understand that.

683
00:27:26,294 --> 00:27:32,144
So I think that people in the
lifestyle need to understand that your

684
00:27:32,144 --> 00:27:35,174
partner's not doing it to be malicious.

685
00:27:35,504 --> 00:27:40,994
And this is already, the lifestyle
already is opening up a certain

686
00:27:40,994 --> 00:27:42,794
part of your relationship that's

687
00:27:44,834 --> 00:27:46,514
kind of still gonna be.

688
00:27:47,789 --> 00:27:51,989
I don't know in a very weird spot because
you still have to talk about things

689
00:27:51,989 --> 00:27:54,089
like the way you feel about somebody.

690
00:27:54,089 --> 00:27:56,909
And the way I feel about somebody
is not always gonna be the same.

691
00:27:57,029 --> 00:27:57,239
Yeah.

692
00:27:57,299 --> 00:28:00,779
But you're gonna express that to
me and I'm gonna express it to you.

693
00:28:00,809 --> 00:28:01,049
Right.

694
00:28:01,079 --> 00:28:03,869
And we may not like it and that's okay.

695
00:28:03,869 --> 00:28:05,159
You just gotta be okay.

696
00:28:05,789 --> 00:28:08,819
You gotta be okay with the uncomfortable
conversations and you gotta be okay

697
00:28:08,819 --> 00:28:13,769
with the uncomfortable situations
and kind of talking through.

698
00:28:14,039 --> 00:28:15,749
So, you know, I'll take
it even further than that.

699
00:28:16,679 --> 00:28:20,789
I think when it comes to
partnership through the lifestyle.

700
00:28:21,449 --> 00:28:24,779
It needs to be realized that your
partner is your number one priority.

701
00:28:24,779 --> 00:28:25,109
Yes.

702
00:28:25,349 --> 00:28:26,279
Not the lifestyle.

703
00:28:26,279 --> 00:28:26,459
Yes.

704
00:28:26,969 --> 00:28:30,479
So your partner has to always be your
number one priority for this to even work.

705
00:28:30,509 --> 00:28:30,689
Mm-hmm.

706
00:28:31,169 --> 00:28:35,339
If your partner is not your number one
priority, then it's not gonna work.

707
00:28:35,369 --> 00:28:35,489
Nope.

708
00:28:35,729 --> 00:28:39,509
You're gonna have hurt feelings,
you're gonna have lots of fights.

709
00:28:39,509 --> 00:28:39,519
Mm-hmm.

710
00:28:39,539 --> 00:28:42,899
You're gonna have probably
some alcoholic drunken nights.

711
00:28:42,929 --> 00:28:43,079
Yeah.

712
00:28:43,389 --> 00:28:46,479
You know, there's, there's gonna
be a lot of friction and tension.

713
00:28:46,479 --> 00:28:51,429
And the moment that you realize
that your partner is your number one

714
00:28:51,429 --> 00:28:54,039
priority, you start putting them first.

715
00:28:54,459 --> 00:28:58,839
And when you make decisions,
you do so with them in mind.

716
00:28:58,899 --> 00:28:59,079
Yes.

717
00:28:59,419 --> 00:29:03,169
And so then you notice things
get a lot easier that way.

718
00:29:03,439 --> 00:29:03,714
Yeah, they do.

719
00:29:03,774 --> 00:29:07,909
And, and we see a lot of people who have
been in the lifestyle for a long time

720
00:29:07,909 --> 00:29:09,794
and they still haven't realized mm-hmm.

721
00:29:09,919 --> 00:29:12,589
That their partner is
their number one priority.

722
00:29:12,619 --> 00:29:12,859
Yeah.

723
00:29:12,889 --> 00:29:14,209
And they just do not seem too happy.

724
00:29:15,409 --> 00:29:18,079
No, no, no, they don't.

725
00:29:18,139 --> 00:29:19,489
And they just, I mean, it's.

726
00:29:19,849 --> 00:29:22,159
It, it takes a lot to be in the lifestyle.

727
00:29:22,159 --> 00:29:25,699
It's not an easy, it's
not an easy life to live.

728
00:29:25,759 --> 00:29:26,359
No, it's not.

729
00:29:26,419 --> 00:29:30,649
If you don't have a good partnership and a
good communication and a good foundation,

730
00:29:30,649 --> 00:29:32,479
then this is not gonna work for you.

731
00:29:32,539 --> 00:29:32,839
No.

732
00:29:32,839 --> 00:29:34,489
It's all lumped into strength.

733
00:29:34,639 --> 00:29:36,919
I mean, that's what makes
your relationship strong.

734
00:29:36,919 --> 00:29:37,219
Yeah.

735
00:29:37,909 --> 00:29:41,014
So when you think back to our
early lifestyle days mm-hmm.

736
00:29:41,134 --> 00:29:41,144
Mm-hmm.

737
00:29:41,629 --> 00:29:46,189
All those rules and all those nerves,
how do we play differently now?

738
00:29:47,689 --> 00:29:50,329
Way less rules, way less nerves.

739
00:29:50,609 --> 00:29:52,649
You've never really had
a whole lot of nerves.

740
00:29:52,829 --> 00:29:54,509
You've always been very calm and cool.

741
00:29:54,509 --> 00:29:58,949
I don't know how you do it, but you've
never really had a whole lot of nerves.

742
00:29:59,099 --> 00:29:59,189
Mm-hmm.

743
00:29:59,309 --> 00:30:03,239
I think the most nervous I've ever
seen you was when we first started

744
00:30:03,239 --> 00:30:07,469
going to the clubs and you were a
little nervous how you would look

745
00:30:07,499 --> 00:30:10,049
when we would play out in the open.

746
00:30:10,439 --> 00:30:10,499
Yeah.

747
00:30:10,499 --> 00:30:12,269
And that was, that,
that did not last long.

748
00:30:12,449 --> 00:30:12,779
No.

749
00:30:13,169 --> 00:30:15,539
Uh, it, it actually
went away pretty quick.

750
00:30:15,569 --> 00:30:15,839
Yeah.

751
00:30:16,049 --> 00:30:17,094
Um, but for me.

752
00:30:18,704 --> 00:30:23,384
There was some, there was some rules
that we had exp that I had experienced

753
00:30:24,044 --> 00:30:27,134
that I had to kind of learn firsthand.

754
00:30:27,164 --> 00:30:33,914
I, I, there was an experience where we
were at a couple's house and we were gonna

755
00:30:33,914 --> 00:30:36,344
play, and we were in the living room.

756
00:30:36,344 --> 00:30:38,294
We hadn't, we hadn't
gone to the bedroom yet.

757
00:30:38,294 --> 00:30:39,224
We were in the living room.

758
00:30:39,229 --> 00:30:39,359
Mm-hmm.

759
00:30:39,579 --> 00:30:42,434
And I started making out with
the woman in the living room.

760
00:30:42,554 --> 00:30:42,734
Mm-hmm.

761
00:30:43,034 --> 00:30:44,534
And things started getting hot and heavy.

762
00:30:44,534 --> 00:30:47,564
You were sitting on the couch
and the guy was not in the room.

763
00:30:47,564 --> 00:30:50,684
I think he was like checking
on his pets or whatever.

764
00:30:51,464 --> 00:30:53,774
And so you're essentially sitting
on this couch, you're watching

765
00:30:53,774 --> 00:30:55,034
us make out, get hot and heavy.

766
00:30:55,064 --> 00:30:55,544
Yes.

767
00:30:55,604 --> 00:31:01,394
And we both agreed to go to the bedroom
because that's what we were gonna do.

768
00:31:01,454 --> 00:31:01,664
Yeah.

769
00:31:01,664 --> 00:31:03,554
Them two, you two Me and her.

770
00:31:03,614 --> 00:31:03,824
Yes.

771
00:31:03,824 --> 00:31:04,004
Yeah.

772
00:31:04,364 --> 00:31:08,444
Me and her agreed to go to the bedroom
and in the midst of making out.

773
00:31:09,254 --> 00:31:12,524
And so we started to walk that way
and you were like where are you going?

774
00:31:13,714 --> 00:31:15,274
And I was like, well, we're
gonna go to the bedroom.

775
00:31:15,274 --> 00:31:16,444
We'll see you guys there in a minute.

776
00:31:16,504 --> 00:31:16,624
Mm-hmm.

777
00:31:17,194 --> 00:31:20,254
And you, you had this lost
puppy dog look on your face.

778
00:31:20,254 --> 00:31:21,334
Like, God, don't leave me.

779
00:31:21,934 --> 00:31:26,374
And that was the, that was a big
discussion for us afterwards.

780
00:31:26,404 --> 00:31:26,494
Mm-hmm.

781
00:31:26,734 --> 00:31:29,944
Because to me it didn't make any sense.

782
00:31:29,944 --> 00:31:33,724
Like we were, as soon as he came back
from the pets, you were gonna come

783
00:31:33,724 --> 00:31:38,194
into the room with us, but also at the
same time you saw us walking to the

784
00:31:38,194 --> 00:31:41,974
room, nobody said you couldn't come,
nobody said you couldn't come with us.

785
00:31:42,004 --> 00:31:44,284
Like you could have easily gotten
up and just followed us to the room.

786
00:31:45,004 --> 00:31:50,014
But because I did not communicate
that with you it became a thing.

787
00:31:50,254 --> 00:31:50,464
Mm-hmm.

788
00:31:50,704 --> 00:31:55,684
And, and so that was definitely, we had
that rule in place for a while, which was,

789
00:31:56,584 --> 00:31:58,384
don't leave me, you know, kind of thing.

790
00:31:58,384 --> 00:31:59,464
It's more, yeah.

791
00:31:59,464 --> 00:32:00,634
And it's more of the.

792
00:32:03,184 --> 00:32:04,444
Hey, give a heads up.

793
00:32:04,444 --> 00:32:04,504
Yeah.

794
00:32:04,504 --> 00:32:05,044
Say something.

795
00:32:05,044 --> 00:32:06,154
We just met these people.

796
00:32:06,154 --> 00:32:06,214
Yeah.

797
00:32:06,214 --> 00:32:08,074
Like, I didn't think it
was gonna happen that fast.

798
00:32:08,074 --> 00:32:08,854
Yeah, yeah.

799
00:32:09,004 --> 00:32:09,754
Well, yeah.

800
00:32:10,414 --> 00:32:10,954
We know now.

801
00:32:11,074 --> 00:32:11,224
Yeah.

802
00:32:11,224 --> 00:32:14,224
You don't have to say it with such a
negative tone like, we're talking here.

803
00:32:15,304 --> 00:32:15,874
I'm just Jesus, man.

804
00:32:15,934 --> 00:32:16,934
I'm not saying it.

805
00:32:16,934 --> 00:32:19,384
Take that, take that base
out your voice, will you?

806
00:32:19,384 --> 00:32:20,014
Geez.

807
00:32:20,764 --> 00:32:25,144
I mean, I'm smiling, but I don't know how
long I'm gonna be smiling for anyways.

808
00:32:25,204 --> 00:32:26,734
I don't have any sharp objects near me.

809
00:32:26,854 --> 00:32:31,914
That was a big rule that stayed with
me and that was kind of the start

810
00:32:31,914 --> 00:32:33,474
of us figuring a lot of stuff out.

811
00:32:33,474 --> 00:32:33,564
Mm-hmm.

812
00:32:33,564 --> 00:32:34,404
That was early on.

813
00:32:34,494 --> 00:32:34,614
Mm-hmm.

814
00:32:34,854 --> 00:32:34,864
Mm-hmm.

815
00:32:34,964 --> 00:32:38,994
Now as far as nerves, when I play
'cause like I said, you're always,

816
00:32:38,994 --> 00:32:40,704
you, you never have any nerves.

817
00:32:41,094 --> 00:32:45,114
But it doesn't matter who I'm
with, whenever I would play with

818
00:32:45,114 --> 00:32:47,784
somebody, I was always shaky.

819
00:32:48,654 --> 00:32:51,594
Like no matter how most
men are, I'm not anymore.

820
00:32:52,104 --> 00:32:52,374
Good.

821
00:32:52,374 --> 00:32:52,884
That's good.

822
00:32:52,974 --> 00:32:53,724
I'm not anymore.

823
00:32:53,754 --> 00:32:53,994
Yeah.

824
00:32:54,174 --> 00:32:54,594
I don't know.

825
00:32:54,594 --> 00:32:56,454
I guess confident 2025.

826
00:32:56,454 --> 00:32:59,344
Adam is, I swear every guy that
I'm with is always shaking and

827
00:32:59,344 --> 00:33:00,064
I'm like, why are you shaking?

828
00:33:00,069 --> 00:33:01,714
Well, it's it's nerve thing.

829
00:33:01,719 --> 00:33:03,244
Im like, I know it's a
nerve thing, you know?

830
00:33:03,244 --> 00:33:03,304
Yeah.

831
00:33:03,304 --> 00:33:07,244
But, uh, you know, it gets easier the
more you get it on with the same person.

832
00:33:07,614 --> 00:33:12,564
But I think for me now, it's more of
a, as long as I have a connection with

833
00:33:12,564 --> 00:33:15,414
the person, it's usually a lot easier.

834
00:33:15,474 --> 00:33:15,564
Mm-hmm.

835
00:33:16,049 --> 00:33:16,469
Mm-hmm.

836
00:33:16,554 --> 00:33:17,604
But I may still shake, I don't know.

837
00:33:19,524 --> 00:33:20,509
Possibly shake it up.

838
00:33:20,509 --> 00:33:21,029
That's right.

839
00:33:21,199 --> 00:33:21,569
Shake it up.

840
00:33:21,624 --> 00:33:25,194
So what is one misconception
people have about the lifestyle

841
00:33:25,194 --> 00:33:26,574
that you love proving wrong?

842
00:33:28,734 --> 00:33:30,684
Um, that,

843
00:33:33,414 --> 00:33:39,354
that you can't do it this long,
that it's not, there's no way that a

844
00:33:39,354 --> 00:33:41,514
marriage can last in the lifestyle.

845
00:33:41,529 --> 00:33:41,819
Yeah.

846
00:33:42,264 --> 00:33:42,624
Yeah.

847
00:33:42,654 --> 00:33:47,874
Like, we've been together for 14
years, almost 15 years, I think.

848
00:33:47,874 --> 00:33:48,204
Right.

849
00:33:48,204 --> 00:33:48,264
Yeah.

850
00:33:48,534 --> 00:33:49,044
And.

851
00:33:49,404 --> 00:33:50,484
He's not going anywhere.

852
00:33:51,234 --> 00:33:53,094
You know, that's a, that's
a really good example.

853
00:33:53,094 --> 00:33:58,284
He's not because I remember, well, you
know, I would have vanilla friends that

854
00:33:58,284 --> 00:34:02,124
when we were first in the lifestyle
and they'd be like, dude, she gonna

855
00:34:02,124 --> 00:34:05,904
leave you, you guys, you guys are gonna
break up in, in, in a matter of years.

856
00:34:06,144 --> 00:34:06,984
You guys will be done.

857
00:34:07,194 --> 00:34:07,314
Mm-hmm.

858
00:34:07,584 --> 00:34:11,904
And then when we decided to become poly,
I had swinger friends that would reach

859
00:34:11,904 --> 00:34:15,144
out to me and be like, you're making the
biggest mistake of your relationship.

860
00:34:15,144 --> 00:34:15,234
Mm-hmm.

861
00:34:15,474 --> 00:34:18,444
And the reason why people would
say that is because every time

862
00:34:18,444 --> 00:34:22,584
people were around us, we seemed
like the happiest couple around.

863
00:34:22,644 --> 00:34:23,394
And we still do.

864
00:34:23,544 --> 00:34:23,814
Yeah.

865
00:34:23,974 --> 00:34:28,654
But people were like, man, you guys are
just so happy and so into each other.

866
00:34:28,894 --> 00:34:30,424
How can y'all be non-monogamous?

867
00:34:30,424 --> 00:34:31,744
That just isn't gonna work.

868
00:34:31,744 --> 00:34:33,574
Like, you're just not
gonna, it's not gonna work.

869
00:34:34,204 --> 00:34:37,144
And I'm pretty happy that
we proved everybody wrong.

870
00:34:37,324 --> 00:34:37,624
Oh yeah.

871
00:34:37,624 --> 00:34:38,404
And I feel like we're still.

872
00:34:38,854 --> 00:34:39,814
All about each other.

873
00:34:39,814 --> 00:34:41,314
We're still all over each other.

874
00:34:41,464 --> 00:34:41,794
Oh, we are.

875
00:34:41,854 --> 00:34:44,644
You know, um, that really hasn't changed.

876
00:34:44,649 --> 00:34:44,869
Yeah.

877
00:34:44,874 --> 00:34:44,974
Yeah.

878
00:34:44,974 --> 00:34:47,194
Wherever we go, we're all over each other.

879
00:34:47,194 --> 00:34:49,354
It's just, it's nice.

880
00:34:49,804 --> 00:34:50,224
It is nice.

881
00:34:50,224 --> 00:34:51,274
Non-monogamy or not?

882
00:34:51,274 --> 00:34:52,114
It really doesn't matter.

883
00:34:52,204 --> 00:34:53,494
No, it doesn't.

884
00:34:55,354 --> 00:34:58,054
What's been your favorite lifestyle
memory from the past year?

885
00:34:58,144 --> 00:34:59,634
The one that still makes you grin?

886
00:35:00,304 --> 00:35:01,864
My favorite lifestyle memory?

887
00:35:01,894 --> 00:35:05,314
Ooh, from this past year, huh?

888
00:35:06,034 --> 00:35:08,799
Well, Uhhuh, Uhhuh.

889
00:35:08,879 --> 00:35:09,199
Uhhuh.

890
00:35:09,904 --> 00:35:15,334
I've had, I've had several, we've, we've
had a, uh, a, a good amount of stuff

891
00:35:16,204 --> 00:35:19,504
that we, we've had great experiences.

892
00:35:19,509 --> 00:35:19,649
Mm-hmm.

893
00:35:19,729 --> 00:35:22,054
I, I feel like we've had
a lot of fun experiences.

894
00:35:22,544 --> 00:35:27,464
But I will say the most
recent one, the glory hole.

895
00:35:29,144 --> 00:35:29,474
Yeah.

896
00:35:29,474 --> 00:35:30,254
The glory hole.

897
00:35:30,254 --> 00:35:34,634
And I'll, and I'll, and I'll say that
because I was not expecting to like it.

898
00:35:34,634 --> 00:35:36,794
I was not expecting to try it.

899
00:35:37,254 --> 00:35:46,374
And it was kind of cool to have a, an
experience where I proved myself wrong.

900
00:35:46,379 --> 00:35:46,499
Mm-hmm.

901
00:35:46,824 --> 00:35:47,484
Essentially.

902
00:35:47,544 --> 00:35:47,694
Mm-hmm.

903
00:35:48,024 --> 00:35:53,544
Um, because I, I always like to think
that I know myself pretty well, and

904
00:35:53,574 --> 00:35:57,564
when I learn something new about
myself, it always just blows my mind.

905
00:35:58,044 --> 00:36:00,774
And that experience really blew my mind.

906
00:36:00,774 --> 00:36:01,614
Like, that was, yeah.

907
00:36:01,794 --> 00:36:02,694
That was interesting.

908
00:36:02,694 --> 00:36:03,234
I don't think I have one.

909
00:36:03,834 --> 00:36:04,164
No.

910
00:36:04,614 --> 00:36:05,094
No.

911
00:36:05,424 --> 00:36:05,724
Wow.

912
00:36:06,054 --> 00:36:06,864
I don't have one yet.

913
00:36:07,284 --> 00:36:07,494
Mm-hmm.

914
00:36:07,734 --> 00:36:14,064
Yeah, they, um, our, it's, it, there's
nothing that has like, can make me

915
00:36:14,064 --> 00:36:15,924
grin and be like, Ooh, that was no.

916
00:36:16,044 --> 00:36:17,904
Mm-hmm.

917
00:36:17,904 --> 00:36:17,914
Really?

918
00:36:17,914 --> 00:36:17,924
Mm-hmm.

919
00:36:18,714 --> 00:36:18,954
Wow.

920
00:36:20,214 --> 00:36:20,514
Yeah.

921
00:36:21,264 --> 00:36:22,824
Okay, well that's depressing

922
00:36:25,674 --> 00:36:25,854
now.

923
00:36:25,854 --> 00:36:29,814
What's been your biggest lesson this
year as a woman in the lifestyle?

924
00:36:29,964 --> 00:36:32,679
To, to go ahead and be
and say what you want.

925
00:36:32,679 --> 00:36:34,539
So I, I'm okay.

926
00:36:34,539 --> 00:36:40,839
I'm more very, I'm very comfortable
with with my voice and speaking about

927
00:36:40,839 --> 00:36:42,189
what I like and what I don't like,

928
00:36:44,499 --> 00:36:46,599
and also looking out for other women.

929
00:36:46,599 --> 00:36:50,799
So that's like my biggest, my
biggest lesson is, is just to

930
00:36:50,799 --> 00:36:52,569
always be that voice for women.

931
00:36:53,484 --> 00:36:53,774
Yeah.

932
00:36:53,799 --> 00:36:56,619
And I think I pretty mu I think
I am, I think my friends know

933
00:36:56,619 --> 00:36:59,614
that no matter what, you're very
protective of the women around you.

934
00:36:59,634 --> 00:37:02,349
I'm very protective of the women around
me, even if they're not in our circle,

935
00:37:02,379 --> 00:37:03,639
even if they're not in my circle.

936
00:37:03,639 --> 00:37:08,199
Like I, if I'm, see, if I see something
and I don't like it, I'm very vocal

937
00:37:08,199 --> 00:37:10,289
and I think that's that's okay.

938
00:37:11,099 --> 00:37:11,669
That's okay.

939
00:37:11,669 --> 00:37:12,059
Like.

940
00:37:12,524 --> 00:37:15,404
Yeah, more women need to be
more vocal in the lifestyle.

941
00:37:15,404 --> 00:37:18,044
Like, well actually just in life period.

942
00:37:18,044 --> 00:37:19,964
But in the life we're just
talking about the lifestyle.

943
00:37:19,994 --> 00:37:20,354
Yeah.

944
00:37:20,354 --> 00:37:23,144
Women need to have her voice
like a little bit louder.

945
00:37:23,174 --> 00:37:23,594
Yeah.

946
00:37:23,599 --> 00:37:23,849
Yeah.

947
00:37:23,854 --> 00:37:24,164
Yeah.

948
00:37:24,164 --> 00:37:24,674
I agree with that.

949
00:37:24,914 --> 00:37:28,724
So, and yours as a man in the
lifestyle, what shifted for you?

950
00:37:29,144 --> 00:37:30,224
What shifted for me?

951
00:37:30,224 --> 00:37:36,644
Well, um, obviously the confident 2025.

952
00:37:36,644 --> 00:37:39,074
Adam started in January.

953
00:37:39,074 --> 00:37:41,504
I started faking it until I could make it.

954
00:37:42,314 --> 00:37:47,774
And after a few months I noticed
that that kind of confident feeling

955
00:37:48,164 --> 00:37:53,594
and whatever exuded from there
really changed things for me.

956
00:37:53,924 --> 00:37:54,134
Mm-hmm.

957
00:37:54,474 --> 00:37:58,914
So I felt like I wasn't really seen
for the longest time, and then all of a

958
00:37:58,914 --> 00:38:01,944
sudden I just decided to have confidence.

959
00:38:01,944 --> 00:38:03,204
I decided to just.

960
00:38:04,029 --> 00:38:07,239
I decided to dress how I
have always wanted to dress.

961
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:07,329
Mm-hmm.

962
00:38:07,569 --> 00:38:09,584
Without worrying about what
other people are gonna think.

963
00:38:10,209 --> 00:38:16,239
I decided to be the person that
I am, but do so out loud instead

964
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:17,829
of just keeping it to myself.

965
00:38:17,829 --> 00:38:17,919
Mm-hmm.

966
00:38:18,159 --> 00:38:21,219
Just trying to treat people
with respect and, and all that.

967
00:38:21,219 --> 00:38:25,149
But the confidence is what
really changed everything for me.

968
00:38:25,509 --> 00:38:33,249
And I can tell you 100% that if you
lack confidence, if you can just

969
00:38:33,609 --> 00:38:39,594
try, just try to fake it I guarantee
you you'll probably see some results

970
00:38:39,939 --> 00:38:42,159
that, uh, that you've been hoping for.

971
00:38:42,159 --> 00:38:42,674
There you go.

972
00:38:42,774 --> 00:38:44,709
Uh, and I, and I, I swear by it.

973
00:38:44,709 --> 00:38:45,789
That's what shifted for me.

974
00:38:45,789 --> 00:38:51,149
And, and I feel very, that everything
that's come from that confidence

975
00:38:51,509 --> 00:38:52,889
has made me even more confident.

976
00:38:53,699 --> 00:38:53,939
Yeah.

977
00:38:53,969 --> 00:38:54,479
So, there you go.

978
00:38:54,569 --> 00:38:54,929
That's good.

979
00:38:54,929 --> 00:38:55,499
I go with that.

980
00:38:55,529 --> 00:38:56,189
That's good.

981
00:38:56,279 --> 00:38:56,909
I like that.

982
00:38:57,299 --> 00:38:57,569
Yeah.

983
00:38:57,569 --> 00:38:58,394
Now you used to be.

984
00:38:59,654 --> 00:39:01,124
More into women than men.

985
00:39:01,154 --> 00:39:04,514
As a matter of fact, you were only
into women and not into men at all.

986
00:39:04,914 --> 00:39:07,764
Has that balance changed now
that we've met more people?

987
00:39:07,764 --> 00:39:09,774
Like, are, are, are you into some men?

988
00:39:09,774 --> 00:39:12,444
Are you still strictly vaginal?

989
00:39:12,774 --> 00:39:13,074
What is it?

990
00:39:13,074 --> 00:39:13,929
Um, I

991
00:39:16,644 --> 00:39:17,454
It's still the same.

992
00:39:18,144 --> 00:39:18,714
It's still the same.

993
00:39:18,714 --> 00:39:18,834
Yeah.

994
00:39:19,029 --> 00:39:21,429
I, I, I'm actually, well, you've
opened yourself up to more men.

995
00:39:21,429 --> 00:39:21,509
Yeah.

996
00:39:21,509 --> 00:39:23,994
I'm actually more, more confident
with more women, so I'm more

997
00:39:23,994 --> 00:39:25,404
confident with women now.

998
00:39:25,674 --> 00:39:31,344
Men, you, you know, I, I like some
men that, and that's a big change.

999
00:39:31,344 --> 00:39:33,474
So I like some because a lot of
that's not the way, it wasn't.

1000
00:39:33,474 --> 00:39:33,804
Yeah.

1001
00:39:33,804 --> 00:39:37,914
Our circle of friends are the men that
we, that we know in groups and stuff

1002
00:39:37,914 --> 00:39:44,874
like that are, they know, they know me
and they know what I don't like because

1003
00:39:44,874 --> 00:39:47,514
they're avid listeners of the podcast.

1004
00:39:47,544 --> 00:39:47,724
Yeah.

1005
00:39:47,844 --> 00:39:50,334
And let me tell you that,
that goes a long way for me.

1006
00:39:50,334 --> 00:39:50,394
Yeah.

1007
00:39:50,574 --> 00:39:54,714
If you already know what I like
and what I don't like, you've.

1008
00:39:55,164 --> 00:39:57,924
You're, you've already made
your way up on that list.

1009
00:39:58,404 --> 00:39:58,464
Yeah.

1010
00:39:58,494 --> 00:40:05,694
Um, if you, but I mean, the balance,
I, I would still rather I would

1011
00:40:05,694 --> 00:40:07,314
be with a woman than a with a man.

1012
00:40:07,344 --> 00:40:11,034
I mean, that's, that hasn't changed just
because now I'm more confident with women.

1013
00:40:11,064 --> 00:40:12,234
So, yeah.

1014
00:40:12,234 --> 00:40:12,774
That makes sense.

1015
00:40:12,774 --> 00:40:13,789
Yeah, that makes sense.

1016
00:40:13,789 --> 00:40:17,244
I mean, I still love you guys,
but you know, well, you know, I

1017
00:40:17,244 --> 00:40:19,374
mean, I am not bi situational.

1018
00:40:19,884 --> 00:40:21,504
I like women like I'm bi.

1019
00:40:21,534 --> 00:40:27,564
Your situation with men is, you
know, there's been very few that

1020
00:40:27,564 --> 00:40:32,004
can actually hear what you like
and don't like and adhere to that.

1021
00:40:32,244 --> 00:40:32,334
Yes.

1022
00:40:32,334 --> 00:40:36,714
There's a lot of men that hear that
and still do what you don't care for.

1023
00:40:36,774 --> 00:40:40,674
What's funny is there's a lot of
men that listen to the podcast

1024
00:40:41,004 --> 00:40:42,714
and will go and tell their woman.

1025
00:40:44,139 --> 00:40:47,169
Did you not listen to what she
said on the podcast regarding Adam?

1026
00:40:47,169 --> 00:40:50,259
Did you not hear, did you not
hear what she doesn't like?

1027
00:40:51,099 --> 00:40:52,839
And like correct their women?

1028
00:40:53,409 --> 00:40:55,719
And it's like, Ugh, you're so sweet.

1029
00:40:55,929 --> 00:40:56,899
Let's go to the back guy.

1030
00:40:56,989 --> 00:40:57,769
Come on, let's go to the back.

1031
00:40:57,789 --> 00:41:00,009
You deserve, you deserve a
little something, something.

1032
00:41:01,359 --> 00:41:01,959
That's great.

1033
00:41:01,964 --> 00:41:02,144
So yeah.

1034
00:41:02,404 --> 00:41:06,099
So has your social anxiety,
ugh, Mr. Social anxiety.

1035
00:41:06,489 --> 00:41:08,559
Has your social anxiety gotten better?

1036
00:41:08,559 --> 00:41:12,249
Because I was listening to our first
podcast and I was just remembering

1037
00:41:12,249 --> 00:41:15,729
when you said that, or has it gotten
worse since we started being recognized

1038
00:41:15,729 --> 00:41:17,469
at clubs and meet and greets?

1039
00:41:17,619 --> 00:41:18,909
You know, it really comes and goes.

1040
00:41:18,939 --> 00:41:19,269
Yeah.

1041
00:41:19,629 --> 00:41:21,849
It has gotten better to an extent.

1042
00:41:21,909 --> 00:41:27,039
I, I still have the anxiety
that, that, that doesn't go away.

1043
00:41:27,649 --> 00:41:33,769
But it's become routine to
go into social settings.

1044
00:41:34,249 --> 00:41:38,749
And hobnob with people
and socialize with people.

1045
00:41:39,139 --> 00:41:42,709
It's very easy to do so
when people already know us.

1046
00:41:43,609 --> 00:41:43,819
Yeah.

1047
00:41:43,824 --> 00:41:46,099
But, but if they don't know
us, you get freaked out.

1048
00:41:46,099 --> 00:41:46,849
Nope, I know.

1049
00:41:47,209 --> 00:41:50,539
'cause if I'm in a room where
I don't know anybody and nobody

1050
00:41:50,539 --> 00:41:53,929
knows me and I have to go out and
I have to start talking to them.

1051
00:41:54,739 --> 00:41:55,039
Yeah.

1052
00:41:55,099 --> 00:41:57,559
No social anxiety's still there.

1053
00:41:57,649 --> 00:41:57,829
Yeah.

1054
00:41:57,859 --> 00:41:58,699
Very much so.

1055
00:41:58,909 --> 00:42:03,529
And now, and now we're gonna
be doing these, these national

1056
00:42:03,529 --> 00:42:06,949
events, we're gonna be going
outside of our comfort zone mm-hmm.

1057
00:42:07,189 --> 00:42:09,889
Outside of our community
into other states.

1058
00:42:09,889 --> 00:42:09,979
Mm-hmm.

1059
00:42:10,309 --> 00:42:13,519
And we're gonna do these, these takeovers
and these meet and greets mm-hmm.

1060
00:42:13,759 --> 00:42:14,539
For beyond monogamy.

1061
00:42:14,899 --> 00:42:18,714
And I am already anxious about that
because Oh my God, I'm loving it.

1062
00:42:18,859 --> 00:42:19,669
Yeah, of course you are.

1063
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:25,189
I am anxious about it because
I just really, we may not know

1064
00:42:25,189 --> 00:42:27,049
all these people, you know?

1065
00:42:27,049 --> 00:42:27,379
Yeah.

1066
00:42:27,439 --> 00:42:28,069
And.

1067
00:42:28,324 --> 00:42:30,244
They may know us, and I, I don't know.

1068
00:42:30,244 --> 00:42:33,149
It's just, there's something about
that that just is really mm-hmm.

1069
00:42:33,229 --> 00:42:35,014
Really nerve wracking.

1070
00:42:35,044 --> 00:42:35,224
Yeah.

1071
00:42:35,434 --> 00:42:35,644
No.

1072
00:42:35,884 --> 00:42:38,824
Uh, so yeah, no, I still
have the social anxiety.

1073
00:42:38,824 --> 00:42:42,604
The only difference is, is that I'm
more used to going out and being social.

1074
00:42:43,564 --> 00:42:44,044
Okay.

1075
00:42:44,104 --> 00:42:44,434
Yeah.

1076
00:42:44,524 --> 00:42:45,004
I like that.

1077
00:42:45,004 --> 00:42:46,234
But the anxiety is still there.

1078
00:42:46,289 --> 00:42:50,099
Now, what's been your favorite
episode to record this year and why?

1079
00:42:51,269 --> 00:42:57,549
Ooh, my favorite one was, my favorite
episode was when we interviewed Rosie Kay.

1080
00:42:57,549 --> 00:43:00,459
From this kind of girl, this kind of girl.

1081
00:43:00,459 --> 00:43:01,239
This kind of girl.

1082
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:01,899
Uk yeah.

1083
00:43:01,904 --> 00:43:01,934
Yeah.

1084
00:43:01,939 --> 00:43:03,819
She, uh, she was out in the uk.

1085
00:43:03,819 --> 00:43:04,329
Yeah.

1086
00:43:04,329 --> 00:43:08,379
Yeah, because I follow her so amazing.

1087
00:43:08,379 --> 00:43:09,459
I loved her.

1088
00:43:09,459 --> 00:43:13,519
I also loved the one from Italy.

1089
00:43:16,129 --> 00:43:17,569
Francesca.

1090
00:43:17,819 --> 00:43:18,359
Francesca.

1091
00:43:18,359 --> 00:43:19,649
Francesca Gentille.

1092
00:43:19,709 --> 00:43:22,349
I loved those two ladies.

1093
00:43:22,409 --> 00:43:22,529
Yeah.

1094
00:43:23,069 --> 00:43:24,299
Yes, actually.

1095
00:43:24,299 --> 00:43:25,229
Oh my goodness.

1096
00:43:26,309 --> 00:43:28,259
And I also liked the guy that we recorded.

1097
00:43:29,519 --> 00:43:30,269
Jaime Gama.

1098
00:43:30,329 --> 00:43:30,569
Yeah.

1099
00:43:31,049 --> 00:43:31,889
And Jaime Gama.

1100
00:43:32,009 --> 00:43:34,859
So Jaime Gama was probably my favorite.

1101
00:43:34,859 --> 00:43:35,249
Favorite.

1102
00:43:35,249 --> 00:43:35,369
Mm-hmm.

1103
00:43:35,609 --> 00:43:40,109
Because his, he is on the spectrum.

1104
00:43:40,204 --> 00:43:40,494
Yeah.

1105
00:43:40,829 --> 00:43:41,009
Yeah.

1106
00:43:41,399 --> 00:43:44,699
He gave so much clarity.

1107
00:43:44,699 --> 00:43:47,609
Like he was in my brain and he
was just saying these things.

1108
00:43:47,609 --> 00:43:49,199
Now I've read some of his book.

1109
00:43:49,929 --> 00:43:51,829
It's in Spanish, so what is it?

1110
00:43:52,829 --> 00:43:53,069
Mm-hmm.

1111
00:43:53,774 --> 00:43:59,594
Loved, loved his book, and I liked what
he was saying and the way he was saying,

1112
00:43:59,594 --> 00:44:01,964
but the two ladies also were great.

1113
00:44:01,964 --> 00:44:05,294
So we've had some really
good people on the show.

1114
00:44:05,294 --> 00:44:08,814
We like, we have, we have, you know,
my, my favorite first and foremost was

1115
00:44:08,814 --> 00:44:10,464
Dan and Lacey from the Swing Nation.

1116
00:44:10,824 --> 00:44:13,854
They were really cool to
interview, primarily because

1117
00:44:14,214 --> 00:44:15,954
they kind of set the bar.

1118
00:44:16,074 --> 00:44:16,254
Yes.

1119
00:44:16,314 --> 00:44:19,734
Uh, they were kind of, they're the
ones that kind of led the way and

1120
00:44:19,734 --> 00:44:21,984
inspired a lot of us to do what we do.

1121
00:44:21,989 --> 00:44:22,259
Mm-hmm.

1122
00:44:22,444 --> 00:44:27,244
And so to be able to have a, the
kind of conversation that we would

1123
00:44:27,244 --> 00:44:30,154
have if we were there in front of
'em, just sitting down in a table.

1124
00:44:30,184 --> 00:44:30,244
Yeah.

1125
00:44:30,244 --> 00:44:32,404
And just two, two
couples in the lifestyle.

1126
00:44:32,404 --> 00:44:37,234
Not even just content creators, just
two couples in the lifestyle and,

1127
00:44:37,234 --> 00:44:38,974
and, you know, went on from there.

1128
00:44:38,974 --> 00:44:41,014
And there's a, there was so
much to learn from them, which

1129
00:44:41,014 --> 00:44:41,944
I thought was really cool.

1130
00:44:42,004 --> 00:44:43,174
I think we're still learning from them.

1131
00:44:43,174 --> 00:44:43,594
Yeah.

1132
00:44:43,654 --> 00:44:44,009
They're so sweet.

1133
00:44:44,009 --> 00:44:44,464
We really are.

1134
00:44:44,494 --> 00:44:44,734
Yeah.

1135
00:44:44,734 --> 00:44:45,994
They're, they're, they're great people.

1136
00:44:45,994 --> 00:44:50,609
But then also the other one
that I, that I liked was, uh.

1137
00:44:51,319 --> 00:44:55,049
Jessica Fern and Dave
Cooley from Poly Secure.

1138
00:44:55,169 --> 00:44:55,289
Mm-hmm.

1139
00:44:55,859 --> 00:44:57,839
And for, for a couple of reasons.

1140
00:44:57,869 --> 00:45:03,689
One, I I loved their, it, it's
almost like, I don't wanna say

1141
00:45:03,689 --> 00:45:06,329
their dynamic, but their balance.

1142
00:45:06,359 --> 00:45:06,449
Mm-hmm.

1143
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:12,899
Because they, they, they really were very
different from each other, but also on

1144
00:45:12,899 --> 00:45:15,179
the same plane, which was just incredible.

1145
00:45:15,269 --> 00:45:17,249
And, you know, I kind of
crushed on Jessica Fern.

1146
00:45:17,249 --> 00:45:19,439
I thought she's a, she's
a very pretty lady.

1147
00:45:19,559 --> 00:45:19,649
Mm-hmm.

1148
00:45:19,684 --> 00:45:21,269
And, uh, very nice to talk to.

1149
00:45:21,269 --> 00:45:22,019
Very smart.

1150
00:45:22,409 --> 00:45:25,709
Uh, so yeah, those, those were definitely
some of my, my favorites for sure.

1151
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,929
Which guest completely surprised
you in a good way or a holy hell?

1152
00:45:30,929 --> 00:45:32,459
I didn't expect that kind of way.

1153
00:45:33,749 --> 00:45:34,079
Hmm.

1154
00:45:35,009 --> 00:45:35,849
That's interesting.

1155
00:45:36,029 --> 00:45:37,109
That's a good question.

1156
00:45:37,949 --> 00:45:39,479
Well, I can say that.

1157
00:45:40,934 --> 00:45:44,054
Interviewing Lynn from Forbidden Fruit.

1158
00:45:44,144 --> 00:45:44,324
Mm-hmm.

1159
00:45:44,624 --> 00:45:50,294
Uh, was, anytime you have a
conversation with her, it's, it's

1160
00:45:50,294 --> 00:45:53,774
always, uh, you'll always have a
moment that surprises you because

1161
00:45:53,779 --> 00:45:55,249
she has so much freaking knowledge.

1162
00:45:55,249 --> 00:45:56,594
Uh, she has, she has a lot of knowledge.

1163
00:45:56,594 --> 00:45:59,744
She has so many incredible stories mm-hmm.

1164
00:46:00,024 --> 00:46:01,194
Throughout the years.

1165
00:46:01,564 --> 00:46:06,454
And she just, everything that, that
she says, it just kind of captivates

1166
00:46:06,454 --> 00:46:10,264
you and it, and it leaves you see it
sitting, uh, on the edge of your seat.

1167
00:46:10,634 --> 00:46:15,344
And so that, that really, that
one probably really, really

1168
00:46:15,344 --> 00:46:16,239
captures me pretty good.

1169
00:46:16,454 --> 00:46:16,814
Yeah.

1170
00:46:16,814 --> 00:46:16,824
Yeah.

1171
00:46:17,114 --> 00:46:17,894
I enjoyed that one.

1172
00:46:17,894 --> 00:46:17,954
Yeah.

1173
00:46:17,984 --> 00:46:20,984
She's a, she's good to have, she's
good to just to sit there and just

1174
00:46:20,984 --> 00:46:25,034
pick her brain on, on different
things that happened and yeah, she's

1175
00:46:25,034 --> 00:46:26,894
a world of like, just history too.

1176
00:46:27,044 --> 00:46:33,824
Now I will say that I'm gonna go back
to Paul Keebel from, ashley Madison.

1177
00:46:33,824 --> 00:46:34,844
Ashley Madison.

1178
00:46:34,964 --> 00:46:35,564
Yes.

1179
00:46:35,894 --> 00:46:39,104
That was our first
mainstream guest that we had.

1180
00:46:39,194 --> 00:46:39,314
Mm-hmm.

1181
00:46:39,614 --> 00:46:44,374
And I was surprised all to
hell that that he was real.

1182
00:46:45,514 --> 00:46:46,504
Yeah, that one.

1183
00:46:46,834 --> 00:46:47,224
Yeah.

1184
00:46:47,254 --> 00:46:51,604
We kind of as, as podcasters, you know,
people reach out to you and they're

1185
00:46:51,604 --> 00:46:56,104
like, Hey, you know, I'm so and so's
assistant and we really feel like they

1186
00:46:56,104 --> 00:46:58,204
would, they would be great on the show.

1187
00:46:58,204 --> 00:46:58,214
Great.

1188
00:46:58,214 --> 00:46:58,804
On your show show and this and that.

1189
00:46:59,194 --> 00:47:03,844
And I remember sitting back and
thinking, did, have they heard our show?

1190
00:47:03,844 --> 00:47:05,354
Like, are they real?

1191
00:47:05,354 --> 00:47:06,404
Are they, and so as time went on.

1192
00:47:07,339 --> 00:47:10,879
I was only dealing with the
assistant the entire time.

1193
00:47:10,999 --> 00:47:11,149
Yeah.

1194
00:47:11,359 --> 00:47:13,399
Until it was time to do the show.

1195
00:47:13,404 --> 00:47:13,544
Mm-hmm.

1196
00:47:13,629 --> 00:47:17,449
So we had the show ready to go, and we
were sitting here literally sitting where

1197
00:47:17,449 --> 00:47:20,689
we're sitting now going, is it gonna show?

1198
00:47:20,749 --> 00:47:21,069
Is it gonna show?

1199
00:47:21,069 --> 00:47:21,769
Is it, is this real?

1200
00:47:21,859 --> 00:47:23,779
And I, and then I remember thinking,
well, if he doesn't show, then

1201
00:47:23,779 --> 00:47:26,329
we're just gonna, we're gonna do a
show and we're gonna shut it down.

1202
00:47:26,329 --> 00:47:26,809
We're gonna go.

1203
00:47:26,929 --> 00:47:27,139
Yeah.

1204
00:47:27,449 --> 00:47:28,529
And then he showed, yeah.

1205
00:47:28,559 --> 00:47:31,259
And he was an excellent guest
and we learned a lot from him.

1206
00:47:31,589 --> 00:47:34,639
He was and so, but that one really
was our first mainstream guest.

1207
00:47:34,639 --> 00:47:36,709
That one really threw
me for a, for a loop.

1208
00:47:36,829 --> 00:47:40,009
I was, I was not prepared
for him to actually show up.

1209
00:47:40,039 --> 00:47:43,549
And when he did show up, I was
just all, I was a ball of nerves.

1210
00:47:43,759 --> 00:47:49,249
I was Now what topic or moment
made you emotional on mic?

1211
00:47:49,789 --> 00:47:52,879
Or what was the one that
kind of hit you in the gut?

1212
00:47:54,169 --> 00:47:59,629
Um, in the beginning when we would
talk about poly, um, I didn't

1213
00:47:59,629 --> 00:48:01,219
like any of those conversations.

1214
00:48:01,219 --> 00:48:03,979
They weren't, they weren't.

1215
00:48:06,184 --> 00:48:08,764
I wasn't in my right
mindset to listen to them.

1216
00:48:08,764 --> 00:48:12,994
And we would talk about it and
emotions would come up, feelings

1217
00:48:12,994 --> 00:48:18,154
would come up, and I just didn't,
I didn't like 'em, but we did it.

1218
00:48:18,454 --> 00:48:19,324
And it's, yeah.

1219
00:48:19,804 --> 00:48:20,404
Yeah, yeah.

1220
00:48:20,404 --> 00:48:23,164
You still don't care for
those no discussions, but at

1221
00:48:23,164 --> 00:48:24,574
least you don't cry as much.

1222
00:48:25,954 --> 00:48:26,644
Yeah.

1223
00:48:27,004 --> 00:48:27,544
Yeah.

1224
00:48:28,414 --> 00:48:29,254
Meow.

1225
00:48:31,654 --> 00:48:35,194
What's the funniest off the mic
or behind the scenes moment that

1226
00:48:35,194 --> 00:48:36,694
listeners never get to hear?

1227
00:48:37,684 --> 00:48:44,974
Uh, you know, a lot of times when
we do our show Uhhuh I'll, I'll be

1228
00:48:44,974 --> 00:48:46,474
the one to set up all the equipment.

1229
00:48:46,654 --> 00:48:48,004
We have everything set up.

1230
00:48:48,064 --> 00:48:51,604
Uh, it'll take me a good 30 minutes
sometimes to set up everything.

1231
00:48:52,264 --> 00:48:57,604
And I'm normally waiting for you to
either get out of work to join us.

1232
00:48:58,279 --> 00:49:00,799
Or I'm waiting for a guest to join us.

1233
00:49:00,859 --> 00:49:00,949
Mm-hmm.

1234
00:49:01,249 --> 00:49:02,539
Or I'm waiting for both.

1235
00:49:02,629 --> 00:49:02,719
Mm-hmm.

1236
00:49:02,959 --> 00:49:06,379
And I'm normally already set up and
I'm sitting here and I have the mics

1237
00:49:06,379 --> 00:49:10,339
on and you know, I have music going.

1238
00:49:10,339 --> 00:49:14,689
I'll be singing, sometimes I'll go
on TikTok live and I'll have, I'll

1239
00:49:14,689 --> 00:49:17,044
tell stories or I'll just be silly.

1240
00:49:17,044 --> 00:49:21,379
There's times where you and I, we'll
just sit here waiting for a guest and

1241
00:49:21,379 --> 00:49:24,259
we'll have really good conversations.

1242
00:49:24,289 --> 00:49:24,589
Yes.

1243
00:49:24,649 --> 00:49:26,659
And there's other times
where we'll just sit here.

1244
00:49:26,809 --> 00:49:28,999
Just sit here and just look at our phones.

1245
00:49:29,209 --> 00:49:29,329
Mm-hmm.

1246
00:49:29,899 --> 00:49:36,139
Um, now as far as the funniest
though you have had me laughing

1247
00:49:36,139 --> 00:49:38,029
on several different moments.

1248
00:49:38,369 --> 00:49:38,849
Now.

1249
00:49:39,584 --> 00:49:43,514
Neither of these moments were
off the mic or behind the scenes.

1250
00:49:43,514 --> 00:49:45,194
But let me tell you what
my favorite moment was.

1251
00:49:45,194 --> 00:49:46,274
And it was a recent one.

1252
00:49:46,634 --> 00:49:49,894
It was the show that we did
at our Forbidden Fruit Event.

1253
00:49:50,164 --> 00:49:50,194
Uhhuh.

1254
00:49:50,724 --> 00:49:51,454
That moment.

1255
00:49:52,114 --> 00:49:52,804
That moment.

1256
00:49:52,804 --> 00:49:55,654
And I, I loved it so much that
I had to make a clip out of it.

1257
00:49:56,344 --> 00:50:01,594
That moment where we're sitting there
having this discussion, and of course

1258
00:50:01,594 --> 00:50:04,144
there's a wall of dildos in front of us.

1259
00:50:04,264 --> 00:50:04,504
Yeah.

1260
00:50:04,564 --> 00:50:08,944
And we hear the door open up to
the franchise that we're we're at.

1261
00:50:09,784 --> 00:50:11,614
And this very pretty girl walks in.

1262
00:50:11,674 --> 00:50:12,154
Yes.

1263
00:50:12,334 --> 00:50:15,214
And the both of us are just looking off to
the side and we're having a conversation.

1264
00:50:15,244 --> 00:50:16,954
We're both looking, we're both
looking, we're both looking.

1265
00:50:17,674 --> 00:50:19,894
And you're in the middle of a sentence.

1266
00:50:19,894 --> 00:50:22,804
And you did not have a
clue what you were saying.

1267
00:50:22,804 --> 00:50:23,644
I was like, what?

1268
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:25,234
'cause you were distracted
by a pretty girl.

1269
00:50:25,264 --> 00:50:25,504
Yes.

1270
00:50:25,654 --> 00:50:31,054
And I swear, even though, even
though it could not be seen in the

1271
00:50:31,054 --> 00:50:34,294
moment, you know, I played it pretty
cool because that's what I do.

1272
00:50:35,404 --> 00:50:38,074
That part had me.

1273
00:50:38,434 --> 00:50:41,494
Just laughing and still has
me laughing to this day.

1274
00:50:41,494 --> 00:50:46,564
Like, I can, I can replay that,
that clip and it will make my day

1275
00:50:46,594 --> 00:50:50,704
happier because that was, that was
a classic Priscilla moment that

1276
00:50:50,704 --> 00:50:52,834
just, that's my wife right there.

1277
00:50:52,834 --> 00:50:54,454
That's, that's the way you've always been.

1278
00:50:54,454 --> 00:50:57,274
That's something that we've always been
able to laugh at and I just, I love that.

1279
00:50:57,824 --> 00:51:01,904
What's a listener message or a DM that
reminded you we're really helping people?

1280
00:51:04,454 --> 00:51:10,634
I have had the pleasure of
getting this from a few different

1281
00:51:10,634 --> 00:51:15,504
people throughout the year but I
remember the first time I got it.

1282
00:51:16,329 --> 00:51:19,959
Was from a, a friend of mine that
I used to talk to, and she used to

1283
00:51:19,959 --> 00:51:22,269
be an avid listener of the podcast.

1284
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:26,139
And she, I could always tell that
she was listening because all of a

1285
00:51:26,139 --> 00:51:27,879
sudden I'd get these random questions.

1286
00:51:27,909 --> 00:51:28,149
Yeah.

1287
00:51:28,349 --> 00:51:30,689
About different things
that were discussed.

1288
00:51:30,749 --> 00:51:30,929
Yeah.

1289
00:51:31,169 --> 00:51:32,459
And I was like, oh, she's listening.

1290
00:51:32,829 --> 00:51:35,559
And several times I wanted to quit
the show, and she was like, you can't

1291
00:51:35,559 --> 00:51:41,019
quit the show because what you say is
helping a lot of people, including us.

1292
00:51:41,169 --> 00:51:45,999
And then I've had other couples tell us
that now the, the thing that I've really

1293
00:51:45,999 --> 00:51:50,499
held onto is when people come up to me
and they go, Hey, I struggle from really

1294
00:51:50,499 --> 00:51:55,119
bad social anxiety and I've struggled to
have anxiety at the clubs and whatnot,

1295
00:51:55,539 --> 00:51:57,909
and I've taken your piece of advice.

1296
00:51:58,459 --> 00:52:00,769
I've had people tell me, you
know, we go to the club, we're

1297
00:52:00,769 --> 00:52:03,799
the first ones at the club because
we can see everybody coming in.

1298
00:52:03,799 --> 00:52:04,849
So that was great advice.

1299
00:52:04,849 --> 00:52:04,859
Mm-hmm.

1300
00:52:04,919 --> 00:52:06,199
And that makes things a lot easier.

1301
00:52:06,649 --> 00:52:09,834
Uh, I've had people tell me, Hey,
you know, that whole thing where you.

1302
00:52:10,519 --> 00:52:13,549
You act like there's a camera on
you and you're in the show and

1303
00:52:13,549 --> 00:52:17,029
you're just improvising that,
that made it easier for me.

1304
00:52:17,149 --> 00:52:17,239
Mm-hmm.

1305
00:52:17,479 --> 00:52:23,389
So just to be able to really have that
come back as feedback and people say, Hey,

1306
00:52:23,389 --> 00:52:28,009
I heard what you had to say, and I took
it and I ran with it and it really worked.

1307
00:52:28,639 --> 00:52:30,319
I mean, that, that, that is nice.

1308
00:52:30,319 --> 00:52:30,559
Yeah.

1309
00:52:30,559 --> 00:52:31,459
That hit me in the heart.

1310
00:52:31,459 --> 00:52:35,299
And that that always rings in my head
whenever I don't want to do this anymore.

1311
00:52:35,299 --> 00:52:36,109
I'm like, you know what?

1312
00:52:36,649 --> 00:52:39,409
There's people that actually listen.

1313
00:52:39,589 --> 00:52:39,679
Mm-hmm.

1314
00:52:39,919 --> 00:52:40,669
And they try it.

1315
00:52:40,674 --> 00:52:40,874
Mm-hmm.

1316
00:52:40,959 --> 00:52:42,259
And it works, you know?

1317
00:52:42,384 --> 00:52:43,819
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1318
00:52:43,819 --> 00:52:47,899
I get, I get some messages from like women
that are like, oh, you help me really

1319
00:52:47,899 --> 00:52:51,709
kind of figure that part out, like how to
talk to my husband about this or how to.

1320
00:52:52,444 --> 00:52:54,989
Because we're very reactive, so, yeah.

1321
00:52:54,994 --> 00:52:55,384
Yeah.

1322
00:52:55,384 --> 00:52:59,374
And we've had couples that we've had
reach out to us that will straight

1323
00:52:59,374 --> 00:53:02,344
up go, Hey, let's have a group text,
because we're ha we're struggling

1324
00:53:02,344 --> 00:53:03,334
and we need to talk to you guys.

1325
00:53:03,334 --> 00:53:04,804
We've met people Yes.

1326
00:53:04,834 --> 00:53:08,554
At, at places to, so that we could
talk to them about their problems.

1327
00:53:08,614 --> 00:53:08,764
Yeah.

1328
00:53:09,064 --> 00:53:11,734
And it's like, Hey guys,
we're, we're not therapists.

1329
00:53:11,739 --> 00:53:14,224
Not therapists, but we'll talk to
you guys like friends, you know?

1330
00:53:14,229 --> 00:53:14,389
Yeah.

1331
00:53:15,994 --> 00:53:16,324
Yes.

1332
00:53:16,474 --> 00:53:21,664
Now, if you had to pick one theme
of our first year, something we kept

1333
00:53:21,664 --> 00:53:23,314
coming back to, what would it be?

1334
00:53:24,664 --> 00:53:25,054
Ooh.

1335
00:53:26,404 --> 00:53:26,704
Hmm.

1336
00:53:26,764 --> 00:53:28,414
Something that we bring up often.

1337
00:53:28,654 --> 00:53:29,164
Poly.

1338
00:53:29,844 --> 00:53:30,094
Yeah.

1339
00:53:30,664 --> 00:53:31,214
Poly.

1340
00:53:31,864 --> 00:53:34,414
Gosh, you don't have to say
it With such Poly disdain.

1341
00:53:35,254 --> 00:53:36,334
You asked me.

1342
00:53:36,514 --> 00:53:37,174
Oh my gosh.

1343
00:53:37,174 --> 00:53:40,984
But I didn't ask you to have
such, we always come back to that.

1344
00:53:40,984 --> 00:53:43,474
We always, it always comes
up in a conversation.

1345
00:53:43,474 --> 00:53:45,754
It always comes up in in a show.

1346
00:53:45,939 --> 00:53:48,364
Some way I just, well, 'cause
I somewhere I feel like there

1347
00:53:48,364 --> 00:53:49,744
was a lot of lessons learned.

1348
00:53:50,464 --> 00:53:51,004
You do.

1349
00:53:51,124 --> 00:53:51,424
Yeah.

1350
00:53:51,484 --> 00:53:51,664
Yeah.

1351
00:53:51,664 --> 00:53:52,084
You feel that?

1352
00:53:52,144 --> 00:53:52,414
Yeah.

1353
00:53:53,224 --> 00:53:53,914
You've mentioned that.

1354
00:53:54,094 --> 00:53:54,394
Yeah.

1355
00:53:54,844 --> 00:53:55,804
So that's why I bring it up.

1356
00:53:55,804 --> 00:53:57,389
Yeah, that's fine.

1357
00:53:57,874 --> 00:53:58,894
Bring it up, I guess.

1358
00:54:00,214 --> 00:54:06,274
What else, now you opened up about
your ADHD and self-confidence.

1359
00:54:06,304 --> 00:54:06,604
Yes.

1360
00:54:06,634 --> 00:54:09,214
How have you grown this year personally?

1361
00:54:09,964 --> 00:54:10,324
Ooh.

1362
00:54:10,354 --> 00:54:12,214
I have grown so many ways.

1363
00:54:12,244 --> 00:54:16,774
I know not to take things so seriously.

1364
00:54:17,014 --> 00:54:20,164
I know when to take things seriously.

1365
00:54:20,224 --> 00:54:22,654
When I have to bring
up in the conversation.

1366
00:54:22,954 --> 00:54:28,714
I know how now to how now brown cow,
how, how now to even like go up to you

1367
00:54:28,714 --> 00:54:31,594
and just be like, I, I don't like this.

1368
00:54:31,594 --> 00:54:32,734
This is why I don't like it.

1369
00:54:32,734 --> 00:54:32,824
Mm-hmm.

1370
00:54:33,244 --> 00:54:35,374
Or just having conversations, period.

1371
00:54:35,404 --> 00:54:39,784
Like I was never one to, Hmm.

1372
00:54:41,494 --> 00:54:42,839
Not argue with you, but.

1373
00:54:43,839 --> 00:54:44,679
Call you out.

1374
00:54:44,684 --> 00:54:44,914
Mm-hmm.

1375
00:54:44,994 --> 00:54:45,669
Do you know what I mean?

1376
00:54:45,669 --> 00:54:48,819
Like, now I can have a, like a,
we can have a decent conversation

1377
00:54:49,089 --> 00:54:53,739
and I'm not the one who's always
like, okay, like whatever you say.

1378
00:54:53,739 --> 00:54:57,759
Like, you know, like, I know
how to talk now and I feel like

1379
00:54:57,764 --> 00:54:59,229
a DH ADHD has really helped.

1380
00:54:59,439 --> 00:55:00,879
It's helped you find your words.

1381
00:55:00,909 --> 00:55:00,969
Yeah.

1382
00:55:01,059 --> 00:55:04,599
It's helped you figure out how
to say what you need to say.

1383
00:55:04,629 --> 00:55:04,689
Yeah.

1384
00:55:04,689 --> 00:55:06,369
Not all the time, but for the most part.

1385
00:55:06,399 --> 00:55:06,819
Yeah.

1386
00:55:06,879 --> 00:55:10,989
It's helped you stop and think about your
response before you actually respond.

1387
00:55:11,079 --> 00:55:11,319
Yes.

1388
00:55:11,349 --> 00:55:12,429
Which I think is you pretty cool.

1389
00:55:12,434 --> 00:55:12,634
There you go.

1390
00:55:12,634 --> 00:55:13,179
That right there.

1391
00:55:13,179 --> 00:55:17,649
But her ADHD, I still have to speak
for her, but what's good is, Hey, I

1392
00:55:17,649 --> 00:55:18,609
take it early in the morning, dude.

1393
00:55:18,609 --> 00:55:19,269
It's already gone.

1394
00:55:19,329 --> 00:55:23,019
We are, we're, we're a great match
because I know what you're trying to say.

1395
00:55:23,289 --> 00:55:23,679
There you go.

1396
00:55:23,679 --> 00:55:24,939
And I can speak it for you.

1397
00:55:25,119 --> 00:55:25,839
So there you go.

1398
00:55:27,339 --> 00:55:29,589
And you've been honest about your
mental health and your pressure.

1399
00:55:30,039 --> 00:55:30,099
Ugh.

1400
00:55:30,489 --> 00:55:30,729
Yes.

1401
00:55:30,759 --> 00:55:33,009
What's been your biggest
struggle behind the scenes?

1402
00:55:34,579 --> 00:55:35,539
It's still a struggle.

1403
00:55:35,544 --> 00:55:37,189
It is very, so, uh, it's still a struggle.

1404
00:55:37,249 --> 00:55:40,939
I, uh, I struggle with a couple of things.

1405
00:55:40,939 --> 00:55:45,599
One, I put a lot of pressure on
myself to try and do a great show.

1406
00:55:46,139 --> 00:55:49,919
So I, I want to keep things fresh.

1407
00:55:50,069 --> 00:55:51,569
I want to keep topics fresh.

1408
00:55:51,899 --> 00:55:54,959
I want us to be able to talk about
everything we need to talk about.

1409
00:55:55,419 --> 00:55:58,629
But you don't want to replay
and replay and replay all over

1410
00:55:58,629 --> 00:56:01,609
again the same, same crap.

1411
00:56:01,789 --> 00:56:01,879
Mm-hmm.

1412
00:56:02,119 --> 00:56:02,284
You know what I mean?

1413
00:56:02,284 --> 00:56:02,604
Mm-hmm.

1414
00:56:02,689 --> 00:56:08,749
So it takes a lot to continuously
come up with new things, especially

1415
00:56:08,749 --> 00:56:11,269
'cause we drop two episodes a week.

1416
00:56:11,479 --> 00:56:11,629
Yes.

1417
00:56:11,849 --> 00:56:14,909
You add on to the fact that
when you take on guests.

1418
00:56:15,404 --> 00:56:20,314
You have to communicate with these guests,
you have to schedule you know, you have

1419
00:56:20,314 --> 00:56:22,084
to make sure that logistics are there.

1420
00:56:22,084 --> 00:56:26,254
I have to make sure that all
of our equipment is good to go.

1421
00:56:26,624 --> 00:56:30,044
If we're going on location with it,
I have to make sure it's packed up.

1422
00:56:30,044 --> 00:56:34,724
I have to make sure everything's where
it needs to be editing and all of that.

1423
00:56:34,729 --> 00:56:34,779
Mm-hmm.

1424
00:56:34,859 --> 00:56:36,494
I mean, just the logistics of it.

1425
00:56:36,494 --> 00:56:38,024
It, it, it's, it's a lot.

1426
00:56:38,414 --> 00:56:39,104
It is a lot.

1427
00:56:39,594 --> 00:56:41,604
And so I really obsess about it.

1428
00:56:41,604 --> 00:56:47,244
I put myself into it and then you add
on the fact that I have a social life

1429
00:56:47,244 --> 00:56:54,744
on top of that, it's difficult to keep
hand on both, you know what I mean?

1430
00:56:55,164 --> 00:57:00,864
So I start focusing on the show so
much that I start pushing people away.

1431
00:57:01,654 --> 00:57:06,094
I'll start, you know, I'll not
be very talkative or I'll just

1432
00:57:06,184 --> 00:57:09,124
kind of disappear 'cause I'm so.

1433
00:57:09,934 --> 00:57:11,824
Ingrained in what I'm doing.

1434
00:57:11,829 --> 00:57:11,959
Mm-hmm.

1435
00:57:12,044 --> 00:57:15,034
And I'm so focused on this
and it is a lot of pressure

1436
00:57:15,434 --> 00:57:18,284
because I want this to be great.

1437
00:57:18,374 --> 00:57:18,464
Mm-hmm.

1438
00:57:18,704 --> 00:57:22,904
I also want us to be able to do
what we want to do in the time

1439
00:57:22,904 --> 00:57:27,764
that we need to do it, and it
doesn't always work out the best.

1440
00:57:27,884 --> 00:57:28,214
Mm-hmm.

1441
00:57:28,304 --> 00:57:32,324
And, uh, you know, that's,
it's hard and it can affect

1442
00:57:32,324 --> 00:57:34,274
my, my mental health sometimes.

1443
00:57:34,274 --> 00:57:34,364
Mm-hmm.

1444
00:57:34,944 --> 00:57:38,844
But in times like that, I just, uh, I
just gotta suck it up and just do it.

1445
00:57:39,354 --> 00:57:39,474
Yes.

1446
00:57:39,474 --> 00:57:41,304
Uh, because we're not
quitting anytime soon.

1447
00:57:41,304 --> 00:57:42,534
So, yeah, there's that.

1448
00:57:43,534 --> 00:57:47,274
Now, how do you think doing this show
every week has changed how we show

1449
00:57:47,274 --> 00:57:49,404
up for each other outside of the mic?

1450
00:57:51,084 --> 00:57:54,474
Um, I think we're still
learning that part.

1451
00:57:54,864 --> 00:57:55,134
Yeah.

1452
00:57:55,224 --> 00:57:55,529
I think.

1453
00:57:56,244 --> 00:58:00,594
We have a conversation about it
every now and then, just because you

1454
00:58:00,594 --> 00:58:03,804
are so I work from eight to five.

1455
00:58:03,834 --> 00:58:04,074
Yeah.

1456
00:58:04,164 --> 00:58:09,684
So my time when I come home is,
is our, it's like our time and so

1457
00:58:11,934 --> 00:58:14,784
out of the mic, like you have to
make sure that you're on that, that

1458
00:58:14,784 --> 00:58:18,144
same kind of timeline with me so
that we can spend time together.

1459
00:58:18,294 --> 00:58:18,534
Yeah.

1460
00:58:18,594 --> 00:58:22,014
And I think those are just conversations
that we kind of have to, we have

1461
00:58:22,014 --> 00:58:24,534
every now and then just to make
sure that we're both on the same,

1462
00:58:25,044 --> 00:58:28,344
same level, I guess, you know?

1463
00:58:28,554 --> 00:58:28,854
Yeah.

1464
00:58:28,954 --> 00:58:31,474
Because this is what you do and Yeah.

1465
00:58:31,474 --> 00:58:33,844
It'll, it takes a lot of pressure.

1466
00:58:33,934 --> 00:58:37,384
It's a lot on your mind, so, yeah.

1467
00:58:37,504 --> 00:58:37,894
Yeah.

1468
00:58:38,044 --> 00:58:38,374
Yeah.

1469
00:58:38,434 --> 00:58:39,214
That makes sense.

1470
00:58:39,717 --> 00:58:44,757
Alright, what's one habit, fear
or insecurity that you feel like

1471
00:58:44,757 --> 00:58:46,317
you've finally let go this year?

1472
00:58:48,417 --> 00:58:50,247
Insecure, no.

1473
00:58:50,297 --> 00:58:56,537
I guess my one habit is not to always,
not to be so, um, rough with the men.

1474
00:58:56,582 --> 00:58:56,642
Yeah.

1475
00:58:57,572 --> 00:58:58,682
Give them a chance.

1476
00:58:59,342 --> 00:58:59,792
That's true.

1477
00:58:59,792 --> 00:59:01,742
You know, you have done
that successfully this year.

1478
00:59:01,742 --> 00:59:01,802
Yeah.

1479
00:59:01,802 --> 00:59:03,842
I, I've been, I've been a little nicer.

1480
00:59:04,202 --> 00:59:06,362
I don't really have insecurities.

1481
00:59:07,082 --> 00:59:13,532
I have more of, it's not an insecurity,
I, nothing gets me insecure.

1482
00:59:13,772 --> 00:59:16,622
I'm pretty confident in myself Yeah.

1483
00:59:16,712 --> 00:59:17,792
And in my mindset.

1484
00:59:18,162 --> 00:59:21,072
So I don't have any insecurities,
but I have been nicer to guys and

1485
00:59:21,072 --> 00:59:24,942
I, I feel like I was really just
kind of brushing them off and now.

1486
00:59:25,992 --> 00:59:26,742
Now I'm nice.

1487
00:59:27,672 --> 00:59:28,152
I love it.

1488
00:59:28,722 --> 00:59:29,772
Yeah, I'm nice.

1489
00:59:30,342 --> 00:59:33,432
So we've done meet and greets, we've
done takeovers, we've done interviews.

1490
00:59:33,432 --> 00:59:34,842
We've done collaborations.

1491
00:59:34,842 --> 00:59:37,092
What's one event that
completely blew your mind?

1492
00:59:38,022 --> 00:59:41,082
Uh, you know, the beach takeover
was pretty, pretty cool.

1493
00:59:41,132 --> 00:59:44,972
It just to go for the very first
time, the Port Aransas beach takeover.

1494
00:59:45,542 --> 00:59:47,522
You know, you hear so much about it.

1495
00:59:48,252 --> 00:59:52,572
And we had been hearing about it for a
while and seeing pictures and we had fomo.

1496
00:59:52,577 --> 00:59:52,907
Mm-hmm.

1497
00:59:53,007 --> 00:59:56,922
Uh, and we finally went and while
the experience could have been

1498
00:59:56,922 --> 00:59:59,827
better it was seeing it mm-hmm.

1499
00:59:59,912 --> 01:00:04,042
And everything that they had going,
the tents and the vendors and just

1500
01:00:04,402 --> 01:00:08,972
the amount of people, was pretty
incredible that whole thing really.

1501
01:00:08,972 --> 01:00:10,322
That blew my mind for sure.

1502
01:00:10,327 --> 01:00:10,427
Yeah.

1503
01:00:10,522 --> 01:00:10,642
Yeah.

1504
01:00:10,642 --> 01:00:11,092
It was fun.

1505
01:00:11,272 --> 01:00:11,602
Yeah.

1506
01:00:12,232 --> 01:00:16,432
Now, what's one interaction that
reminded you that we love this community?

1507
01:00:17,492 --> 01:00:22,052
We started with this community and
we are where we're at now because

1508
01:00:22,052 --> 01:00:23,317
they really helped and pushed it.

1509
01:00:24,482 --> 01:00:25,082
They really did.

1510
01:00:25,082 --> 01:00:30,017
So yeah, I I don't think that this,
uh, podcast would be exactly around

1511
01:00:30,077 --> 01:00:31,897
if it weren't for our community.

1512
01:00:31,897 --> 01:00:32,057
Exactly.

1513
01:00:32,057 --> 01:00:35,712
And so I think that's that's
one reason why I love them.

1514
01:00:36,162 --> 01:00:38,772
It's why we still do our takeovers.

1515
01:00:38,772 --> 01:00:41,382
We still do our, our meet
and greets because that.

1516
01:00:41,532 --> 01:00:44,022
S that's got us where we're at.

1517
01:00:44,262 --> 01:00:44,562
Yeah.

1518
01:00:44,562 --> 01:00:47,202
You know, everybody
has been so supportive.

1519
01:00:47,207 --> 01:00:47,337
Mm-hmm.

1520
01:00:47,417 --> 01:00:47,427
Mm-hmm.

1521
01:00:47,682 --> 01:00:50,772
The people that knew us before we
even bought a mic, you know, and,

1522
01:00:50,822 --> 01:00:54,032
and they watched us, you know,
they listened to the very first

1523
01:00:54,032 --> 01:00:55,622
episode the day that it dropped.

1524
01:00:55,712 --> 01:00:55,832
Mm-hmm.

1525
01:00:56,142 --> 01:00:59,022
These are the people in our local
community who really supported

1526
01:00:59,022 --> 01:01:00,522
and pushed our name out there.

1527
01:01:00,762 --> 01:01:04,392
They traveled and they told other
people in other communities,

1528
01:01:04,632 --> 01:01:05,712
and it really spread.

1529
01:01:05,712 --> 01:01:05,772
Yeah.

1530
01:01:06,072 --> 01:01:07,657
And, uh, yeah, you're, you're right.

1531
01:01:08,147 --> 01:01:09,647
We really couldn't have
done it without them.

1532
01:01:09,797 --> 01:01:09,887
Mm-hmm.

1533
01:01:10,127 --> 01:01:10,137
Mm-hmm.

1534
01:01:10,137 --> 01:01:10,907
That's, that's pretty cool.

1535
01:01:11,417 --> 01:01:12,497
Have you had that?

1536
01:01:12,497 --> 01:01:13,127
Oh shit.

1537
01:01:13,127 --> 01:01:15,977
We're kind of public figures moments now.

1538
01:01:16,007 --> 01:01:16,997
Like, have you ever had that?

1539
01:01:18,077 --> 01:01:19,872
Yeah, I think we've had it a few times.

1540
01:01:19,872 --> 01:01:20,072
Yeah.

1541
01:01:20,072 --> 01:01:25,127
We've had, we've had that talk before
because it became weird when we started

1542
01:01:25,127 --> 01:01:28,577
going to the club and, and every time
we would go to the club, we would get

1543
01:01:29,027 --> 01:01:31,337
recognized by people that we did not know.

1544
01:01:31,837 --> 01:01:33,727
And even an ex-brother-in-law.

1545
01:01:34,122 --> 01:01:34,602
Yeah.

1546
01:01:34,782 --> 01:01:35,142
Yeah.

1547
01:01:35,142 --> 01:01:39,332
You know, it's, it's just it's
weird it's strange to have people

1548
01:01:39,332 --> 01:01:40,922
refer to you as celebrities.

1549
01:01:41,042 --> 01:01:41,252
Yeah.

1550
01:01:41,282 --> 01:01:44,372
Um, it's not us, we're not celebrities.

1551
01:01:44,402 --> 01:01:44,492
No.

1552
01:01:44,772 --> 01:01:47,832
And so we, you know, we don't
think of ourselves in that way.

1553
01:01:48,112 --> 01:01:54,202
And so when we get people coming up to
us throughout the night, like, I mean,

1554
01:01:54,622 --> 01:01:58,047
there was one night we were at the
club and I felt like every 10 minutes.

1555
01:01:58,707 --> 01:02:00,267
People were coming to our couch Yeah.

1556
01:02:00,267 --> 01:02:02,037
And introducing themselves
and that sort of thing.

1557
01:02:02,037 --> 01:02:02,547
It's very nice.

1558
01:02:02,547 --> 01:02:03,897
We love it and we do love it.

1559
01:02:03,897 --> 01:02:05,637
We love meeting our, our listeners.

1560
01:02:05,847 --> 01:02:07,737
We love meeting everybody.

1561
01:02:07,737 --> 01:02:12,427
That's, that's put themselves into
our, into our show and we love

1562
01:02:12,427 --> 01:02:13,537
hearing what they have to say.

1563
01:02:13,537 --> 01:02:14,947
We love hearing their stories, so.

1564
01:02:15,007 --> 01:02:15,097
Mm-hmm.

1565
01:02:15,377 --> 01:02:17,717
You know, that's, that's
really a fun part for us.

1566
01:02:17,817 --> 01:02:22,557
Now, what's one piece of advice you'd
give to someone new entering the

1567
01:02:22,557 --> 01:02:24,747
lifestyle After hearing our show?

1568
01:02:27,342 --> 01:02:28,602
Keep an open mind.

1569
01:02:28,602 --> 01:02:32,352
A lifestyle is everybody
lifestyles differently.

1570
01:02:32,472 --> 01:02:32,982
Yes.

1571
01:02:32,982 --> 01:02:34,962
So keep an open mind.

1572
01:02:35,322 --> 01:02:37,662
Keep that communication open.

1573
01:02:38,292 --> 01:02:38,742
Talk.

1574
01:02:38,862 --> 01:02:40,992
Yeah, talk, communicate.

1575
01:02:41,322 --> 01:02:45,312
Not just with your partner, because some
people don't have partners with everybody.

1576
01:02:45,312 --> 01:02:45,732
But with everybody, yeah.

1577
01:02:45,732 --> 01:02:46,272
You gotta talk.

1578
01:02:46,272 --> 01:02:47,187
Stay firm on your beliefs.

1579
01:02:47,877 --> 01:02:49,677
Stay grounded.

1580
01:02:49,767 --> 01:02:51,327
Stay firm with your boundaries.

1581
01:02:51,327 --> 01:02:52,767
Stay firm with your boundaries.

1582
01:02:52,772 --> 01:02:53,162
Don't break it.

1583
01:02:53,162 --> 01:02:54,237
Know your rules.

1584
01:02:54,267 --> 01:02:54,507
Don't Yeah.

1585
01:02:54,807 --> 01:02:56,037
Have a safe word.

1586
01:02:57,117 --> 01:02:58,197
Communicate with your partner.

1587
01:02:58,197 --> 01:03:00,497
I mean, if you're solo, having
a safe word gives you good.

1588
01:03:00,497 --> 01:03:02,637
You're solo, you should still
have a safe word for your friends.

1589
01:03:02,697 --> 01:03:03,387
Oh, that's true.

1590
01:03:03,657 --> 01:03:04,347
Yes, that's true.

1591
01:03:04,917 --> 01:03:05,187
Yeah.

1592
01:03:05,757 --> 01:03:10,227
So what's one thing you wish more couples
in the lifestyle talks about openly?

1593
01:03:10,987 --> 01:03:15,457
I wish that people
talked about their wants.

1594
01:03:16,307 --> 01:03:18,687
And, their, their sexual wants.

1595
01:03:19,227 --> 01:03:23,757
Uh, I think that there's, uh, a
lot of people that don't know how

1596
01:03:23,757 --> 01:03:27,627
to express how to satisfy them.

1597
01:03:28,297 --> 01:03:31,477
So there's a, a, a lot
of women and men who.

1598
01:03:32,887 --> 01:03:37,867
Will have an experience with somebody
and it'll be a bad experience for them

1599
01:03:37,927 --> 01:03:41,767
because the person that's with them
doesn't know how to properly please them.

1600
01:03:41,847 --> 01:03:46,467
And that person also doesn't know how to
communicate, how to properly be pleased.

1601
01:03:46,527 --> 01:03:46,767
Yeah.

1602
01:03:46,957 --> 01:03:48,067
I think that if.

1603
01:03:48,772 --> 01:03:53,242
More couples in the lifestyle talked
openly about how to please them.

1604
01:03:53,602 --> 01:03:53,782
Yeah.

1605
01:03:53,812 --> 01:03:54,832
What doesn't work?

1606
01:03:54,832 --> 01:03:55,882
What does work?

1607
01:03:55,882 --> 01:03:58,822
And they, they express that openly
to each other and they express

1608
01:03:58,822 --> 01:04:00,382
that openly with everybody else.

1609
01:04:00,682 --> 01:04:03,682
I think there would be more
good experiences out there.

1610
01:04:04,972 --> 01:04:05,242
Yeah.

1611
01:04:05,662 --> 01:04:06,172
That's good.

1612
01:04:06,232 --> 01:04:07,462
I think it's pretty fair, you know?

1613
01:04:07,492 --> 01:04:07,552
Yeah.

1614
01:04:08,182 --> 01:04:12,592
Uh, now has fame inside the lifestyle
been flattering, weird, or both?

1615
01:04:14,312 --> 01:04:14,852
Both.

1616
01:04:15,062 --> 01:04:15,482
Yeah.

1617
01:04:15,872 --> 01:04:16,532
Both.

1618
01:04:16,772 --> 01:04:17,162
Yeah.

1619
01:04:17,312 --> 01:04:22,202
It's uh, it's very flattering, but
it's weird when you find somebody

1620
01:04:22,202 --> 01:04:25,982
like at your grocery store and
it's like, Hey, I listened to you.

1621
01:04:26,972 --> 01:04:27,722
Look at you.

1622
01:04:27,722 --> 01:04:29,072
You're very beautiful.

1623
01:04:29,072 --> 01:04:31,502
And it's like, that's just weird.

1624
01:04:31,532 --> 01:04:32,402
Thank you.

1625
01:04:33,812 --> 01:04:34,232
Yeah.

1626
01:04:34,482 --> 01:04:34,872
Yeah.

1627
01:04:34,872 --> 01:04:36,222
That is, it is flattering.

1628
01:04:36,402 --> 01:04:36,522
Yeah.

1629
01:04:38,102 --> 01:04:41,252
I've had women express that they
wanna sleep with me just because

1630
01:04:41,252 --> 01:04:42,542
I'm the guy from the podcast.

1631
01:04:43,142 --> 01:04:44,492
I don't know how I feel about that.

1632
01:04:44,792 --> 01:04:48,452
I mean, I'll still do it, but I
don't know how I feel about that.

1633
01:04:48,502 --> 01:04:52,792
You could like me for me, not just
because I'm on a podcast, I'm just saying.

1634
01:04:53,792 --> 01:04:56,432
If we could go back to the first
episode and whisper something to

1635
01:04:56,432 --> 01:04:57,812
ourselves, what would you say?

1636
01:04:58,472 --> 01:05:06,192
If I could whisper something to myself,
I would whisper to myself to podcast

1637
01:05:06,192 --> 01:05:11,802
related, I would whisper to myself,
do what you can to make a great show.

1638
01:05:12,282 --> 01:05:12,462
Mm-hmm.

1639
01:05:12,702 --> 01:05:13,517
And keep it going.

1640
01:05:13,517 --> 01:05:13,837
Mm-hmm.

1641
01:05:14,577 --> 01:05:16,017
Because it's gonna become something.

1642
01:05:16,557 --> 01:05:16,587
Okay.

1643
01:05:16,587 --> 01:05:22,947
Lifestyle wise, I would whisper
to myself, just keep steady.

1644
01:05:23,367 --> 01:05:24,537
She's gonna come along.

1645
01:05:25,347 --> 01:05:26,397
She's gonna come around.

1646
01:05:26,907 --> 01:05:27,177
Yeah.

1647
01:05:27,237 --> 01:05:30,017
And you have, a lot of the thoughts
that you have, a lot of the

1648
01:05:30,017 --> 01:05:33,207
feelings that you have now, like
you've, you're growing emotionally.

1649
01:05:33,507 --> 01:05:33,867
Yeah.

1650
01:05:33,937 --> 01:05:36,607
And you know, that's not something
I would've been able to predict

1651
01:05:36,847 --> 01:05:37,927
when we started the show.

1652
01:05:38,317 --> 01:05:40,597
You pretty much had expressed
that you were just gonna be.

1653
01:05:41,002 --> 01:05:41,692
Right here.

1654
01:05:41,722 --> 01:05:43,952
And you're good with that on this level.

1655
01:05:44,072 --> 01:05:48,602
And as we've talked to more people
and as we've interviewed people and

1656
01:05:49,082 --> 01:05:51,602
you've just kind of figured more
about yourself, it's pretty cool.

1657
01:05:51,907 --> 01:05:52,197
Yeah.

1658
01:05:52,982 --> 01:05:54,362
Yeah, it's been nice.

1659
01:05:55,892 --> 01:06:00,272
Now, what do you hope year two
of Beyond monogamy looks like?

1660
01:06:00,572 --> 01:06:02,462
Bigger, deeper wilder.

1661
01:06:04,232 --> 01:06:05,522
Definitely deeper.

1662
01:06:05,642 --> 01:06:06,632
Definitely bigger.

1663
01:06:06,932 --> 01:06:09,212
Definitely wilder, I feel like.

1664
01:06:09,572 --> 01:06:10,532
We,

1665
01:06:11,532 --> 01:06:13,077
I, I wanna get outta my shell.

1666
01:06:13,077 --> 01:06:16,017
Like, I feel like I'm just
so, I'm stagnant here.

1667
01:06:16,647 --> 01:06:17,367
And so yes.

1668
01:06:17,367 --> 01:06:19,092
I want bigger, I want
better, I want wilder.

1669
01:06:19,092 --> 01:06:19,692
And what do you mean by that?

1670
01:06:19,827 --> 01:06:27,957
I just feel like we, we need to go
outside of our, like we are, we're

1671
01:06:27,957 --> 01:06:30,147
going outside of our, our comfort zone.

1672
01:06:30,912 --> 01:06:33,852
We need to also get off the
couches when we go to the club.

1673
01:06:33,852 --> 01:06:36,042
And we need to to be, we need to be more.

1674
01:06:36,102 --> 01:06:42,912
We need to be more, you know, I feel like
if you can do the horizontal mambo, you

1675
01:06:42,912 --> 01:06:45,317
should also do the mambo on the floor.

1676
01:06:47,832 --> 01:06:50,952
I, you know, when I go to the club,
I don't like to dance because I

1677
01:06:50,952 --> 01:06:52,482
know that we're gonna be having sex.

1678
01:06:52,482 --> 01:06:52,962
Oh no, that's fine.

1679
01:06:52,962 --> 01:06:53,607
I don't wanna get sweaty.

1680
01:06:53,622 --> 01:06:54,117
I'm just gross.

1681
01:06:54,117 --> 01:06:54,912
Just I, yeah, no.

1682
01:06:55,362 --> 01:06:55,462
You know what I mean?

1683
01:06:55,542 --> 01:06:58,932
I'm saying I need to get, like I need to
be more, I'm just saying like, we need

1684
01:06:58,932 --> 01:07:05,322
to go out and be more, I guess more.

1685
01:07:05,892 --> 01:07:07,362
We're so comfortable in the chairs.

1686
01:07:07,362 --> 01:07:08,742
We're so comfortable just sitting there.

1687
01:07:08,742 --> 01:07:09,612
We're just so comfortable.

1688
01:07:09,612 --> 01:07:10,827
Just I am, absolutely.

1689
01:07:11,147 --> 01:07:11,267
Yeah.

1690
01:07:11,272 --> 01:07:14,262
We're just so comfortable being
there that we're, we need to start

1691
01:07:14,262 --> 01:07:15,762
getting out more and we do now.

1692
01:07:16,152 --> 01:07:16,812
We do.

1693
01:07:16,812 --> 01:07:16,877
You do.

1694
01:07:16,962 --> 01:07:17,442
You do.

1695
01:07:17,692 --> 01:07:20,812
I, I drag you out there and you
stand with me and you do the little,

1696
01:07:22,072 --> 01:07:23,602
but yeah, no, I don't wanna sweat.

1697
01:07:24,892 --> 01:07:26,962
But yeah, I think Wilder.

1698
01:07:27,772 --> 01:07:30,862
I think next year is gonna be wilder.

1699
01:07:32,032 --> 01:07:32,632
I hope so.

1700
01:07:33,082 --> 01:07:33,592
For sure.

1701
01:07:35,182 --> 01:07:35,722
You don't think so?

1702
01:07:36,172 --> 01:07:37,342
I'm pretty sure, yeah.

1703
01:07:37,342 --> 01:07:38,752
We're doing a lot more and bigger.

1704
01:07:38,872 --> 01:07:42,262
Yeah, we're doing a lot more
like you've taken us this far.

1705
01:07:43,387 --> 01:07:46,807
It's, you know, next
year's gonna be crazy busy.

1706
01:07:46,817 --> 01:07:48,467
We've got a lot of events going on.

1707
01:07:48,467 --> 01:07:50,927
We're gonna be going to
Naughty Nolins next year.

1708
01:07:51,047 --> 01:07:51,287
Mm-hmm.

1709
01:07:51,587 --> 01:07:54,077
Um, and we're gonna be
podcasting from there.

1710
01:07:54,077 --> 01:07:56,117
We're gonna do a show, a,
a couple shows up there.

1711
01:07:56,117 --> 01:07:58,037
That's what I'm like, you've
taken us so far already.

1712
01:07:58,037 --> 01:08:01,007
Like you've there's a, you know,
I said if we're gonna do this, I'm

1713
01:08:01,007 --> 01:08:02,117
gonna swing for the fences, man.

1714
01:08:02,117 --> 01:08:02,327
That's right.

1715
01:08:02,327 --> 01:08:03,467
We're gonna go big, right?

1716
01:08:03,467 --> 01:08:03,477
Mm-hmm.

1717
01:08:03,587 --> 01:08:05,567
We're gonna go big while at home.

1718
01:08:05,572 --> 01:08:05,712
Yeah.

1719
01:08:06,272 --> 01:08:10,892
And while we're at home and we're here
at the local wonderful clubs that we

1720
01:08:10,892 --> 01:08:13,562
go to, we'll make those fun and wilder.

1721
01:08:13,832 --> 01:08:14,102
Yeah.

1722
01:08:14,372 --> 01:08:14,912
There you go.

1723
01:08:15,032 --> 01:08:15,272
Yeah.

1724
01:08:15,332 --> 01:08:15,902
Good call.

1725
01:08:18,212 --> 01:08:20,972
So what do you want people
to feel when they hit play on

1726
01:08:20,972 --> 01:08:22,562
our next a hundred episode?

1727
01:08:23,552 --> 01:08:26,372
The same thing I've always
wanted them to feel, which is.

1728
01:08:27,102 --> 01:08:30,252
And I believe I said this in
our first episode, I wanted

1729
01:08:30,252 --> 01:08:33,822
people to feel like they, they
were sitting at a table with us.

1730
01:08:33,942 --> 01:08:34,032
Mm-hmm.

1731
01:08:34,512 --> 01:08:40,242
Drinking their coffee, having their pan
dulce, and we were all just chatting.

1732
01:08:40,302 --> 01:08:40,392
Yeah.

1733
01:08:40,392 --> 01:08:41,502
And they're basically just sitting.

1734
01:08:42,207 --> 01:08:46,497
Here listening to our conversation
and, and laughing and feeling whatever

1735
01:08:46,497 --> 01:08:51,387
emotions you feel when you have a,
a conversation with another couple.

1736
01:08:51,717 --> 01:08:53,447
And I want to continue that.

1737
01:08:53,627 --> 01:08:55,587
Only now I do it with guests.

1738
01:08:55,707 --> 01:08:55,977
Yes.

1739
01:08:55,977 --> 01:09:00,307
So I tell the guests before we hit
record, I always tell 'em, look I

1740
01:09:00,307 --> 01:09:04,027
know you're here for a professional
reason, but understand that.

1741
01:09:04,732 --> 01:09:09,232
What I want is for us to be this
just friends talking a table at this.

1742
01:09:09,262 --> 01:09:09,652
Yeah.

1743
01:09:09,657 --> 01:09:09,807
Mm-hmm.

1744
01:09:09,987 --> 01:09:11,602
At this figurative table.

1745
01:09:11,662 --> 01:09:11,902
Yeah.

1746
01:09:11,902 --> 01:09:14,002
That we're just friends
in and we're just talking.

1747
01:09:14,002 --> 01:09:18,472
Let's strip away all the
professional and just be people.

1748
01:09:18,472 --> 01:09:18,562
Yes.

1749
01:09:18,622 --> 01:09:21,772
Just be human people, because that's
what this community is made of.

1750
01:09:21,772 --> 01:09:21,782
Mm-hmm.

1751
01:09:21,782 --> 01:09:22,527
It's a bunch of.

1752
01:09:23,097 --> 01:09:27,357
Humans, it's people that
really make up the community.

1753
01:09:27,357 --> 01:09:31,347
And how many times do we have to sit
at a table at a meet and greet or at a

1754
01:09:31,347 --> 01:09:35,277
club or wherever, across from another
couple and have these conversations.

1755
01:09:35,547 --> 01:09:35,607
Yeah.

1756
01:09:35,907 --> 01:09:36,537
You know what I mean?

1757
01:09:36,777 --> 01:09:41,167
And so I, I really want that feel as
much as possible for all of our shows.

1758
01:09:41,172 --> 01:09:41,202
Yeah.

1759
01:09:42,067 --> 01:09:42,247
Yeah.

1760
01:09:42,252 --> 01:09:43,202
Well, I think you're doing great.

1761
01:09:43,292 --> 01:09:43,722
Thank you.

1762
01:09:44,497 --> 01:09:47,227
Now, if you could pick one word
to describe our first year, what

1763
01:09:47,227 --> 01:09:51,247
would it be and what word do you
hope describes the next year?

1764
01:09:53,237 --> 01:09:54,257
Exhausting.

1765
01:09:56,447 --> 01:09:56,627
Yeah.

1766
01:09:56,627 --> 01:09:57,317
Amazing.

1767
01:09:57,647 --> 01:09:58,307
For next year.

1768
01:09:58,427 --> 01:09:59,267
Oh, I like that.

1769
01:09:59,447 --> 01:09:59,657
Yes.

1770
01:09:59,897 --> 01:10:01,307
Exhausting was this year.

1771
01:10:01,367 --> 01:10:02,297
Exhausting was this year.

1772
01:10:02,297 --> 01:10:02,357
Yeah.

1773
01:10:02,417 --> 01:10:03,467
And amazing.

1774
01:10:03,497 --> 01:10:06,767
It's a lot of new stuff and so
it's like, it's not something

1775
01:10:06,767 --> 01:10:07,967
that we've ever done before.

1776
01:10:08,057 --> 01:10:08,117
No.

1777
01:10:08,117 --> 01:10:11,957
You had to, everything that we do, we're
training ourselves something new on Yeah.

1778
01:10:11,957 --> 01:10:13,157
You had to learn all this.

1779
01:10:13,157 --> 01:10:16,037
It's a lot of stuff and it's, it's
still, I'm still learning a lot.

1780
01:10:16,037 --> 01:10:16,307
Yes.

1781
01:10:16,307 --> 01:10:17,297
Still learning a lot.

1782
01:10:17,297 --> 01:10:17,747
Yes.

1783
01:10:18,257 --> 01:10:18,477
Now.

1784
01:10:19,422 --> 01:10:23,352
What would you say you're, I mean,
we're, we're, it's Thanksgiving.

1785
01:10:23,352 --> 01:10:26,322
What, what are you most thankful
for and what are you most grateful

1786
01:10:26,322 --> 01:10:27,672
for Right here, right now?

1787
01:10:29,092 --> 01:10:32,632
I'm grateful that we have listeners.

1788
01:10:33,682 --> 01:10:33,832
Yeah.

1789
01:10:33,832 --> 01:10:37,792
I'm grateful that everybody
interacts with the podcasts, um,

1790
01:10:38,817 --> 01:10:40,672
and that y'all are enjoying it.

1791
01:10:42,142 --> 01:10:47,362
And I'm grateful that we're
getting opportunities to grow.

1792
01:10:48,277 --> 01:10:48,817
Totally.

1793
01:10:49,207 --> 01:10:49,717
Totally.

1794
01:10:50,257 --> 01:10:50,527
Yeah.

1795
01:10:50,527 --> 01:10:54,577
I'm, I'm pretty, pretty thankful and
grateful at the, for listeners obviously.

1796
01:10:54,607 --> 01:10:56,512
'cause without them we
wouldn't have a show.

1797
01:10:56,512 --> 01:10:56,647
Wouldn't have a show.

1798
01:10:56,647 --> 01:10:58,297
We'd be the only listeners that are there.

1799
01:10:58,357 --> 01:10:58,447
Mm-hmm.

1800
01:10:58,807 --> 01:11:04,377
Um, I am very thankful at the fact that
people have the balls to come up to

1801
01:11:04,377 --> 01:11:06,417
me and tell me when we've helped them.

1802
01:11:07,007 --> 01:11:09,127
I'm so thankful for.

1803
01:11:09,982 --> 01:11:13,762
People reaching out to us in
that way, because frankly, I

1804
01:11:13,762 --> 01:11:15,352
feel like I have a purpose.

1805
01:11:16,042 --> 01:11:16,102
Yeah.

1806
01:11:16,162 --> 01:11:22,432
I feel like we, we do a, a lot for our
listeners by way of, of information.

1807
01:11:22,432 --> 01:11:22,492
Yeah.

1808
01:11:22,492 --> 01:11:23,992
We really try to give a good show.

1809
01:11:24,322 --> 01:11:24,382
Yeah.

1810
01:11:24,382 --> 01:11:26,122
And we try to be entertaining as well.

1811
01:11:26,342 --> 01:11:29,402
And all of those facets together.

1812
01:11:29,402 --> 01:11:29,692
I, I just.

1813
01:11:30,242 --> 01:11:32,552
I, it, it, I feel like
it gives me a purpose.

1814
01:11:32,582 --> 01:11:32,882
Yeah.

1815
01:11:33,002 --> 01:11:37,842
And without our listeners and with,
without them constantly tuning in

1816
01:11:37,842 --> 01:11:40,182
every week, uh, I wouldn't feel that.

1817
01:11:40,362 --> 01:11:42,192
So yeah, I'm grateful for that.

1818
01:11:43,272 --> 01:11:43,872
That's good.

1819
01:11:43,972 --> 01:11:46,462
One lifestyle myth that
still cracks this up.

1820
01:11:48,172 --> 01:11:48,532
Huh.

1821
01:11:51,082 --> 01:11:51,502
I don't know.

1822
01:11:52,042 --> 01:11:52,312
You don't know?

1823
01:11:53,132 --> 01:11:54,062
I would say.

1824
01:11:56,672 --> 01:11:59,942
That everybody thinks that
everybody's sleeping with everybody.

1825
01:12:00,992 --> 01:12:01,802
That's a good one.

1826
01:12:01,862 --> 01:12:04,202
I mean, that's the, that's
the number one I think.

1827
01:12:04,322 --> 01:12:04,532
Yeah.

1828
01:12:04,592 --> 01:12:09,422
Everybody thi like just the
vanilla people on my Facebook.

1829
01:12:09,782 --> 01:12:13,652
I guarantee you think that I sleep
with everybody that's lifestyle on my

1830
01:12:13,652 --> 01:12:16,412
Facebook and it's like, no, we don't.

1831
01:12:16,712 --> 01:12:17,852
No, obviously.

1832
01:12:18,422 --> 01:12:20,402
Now who would you say
is the bigger flirt now?

1833
01:12:20,402 --> 01:12:21,002
You, you or me?

1834
01:12:21,032 --> 01:12:22,022
Me, yeah.

1835
01:12:22,232 --> 01:12:22,772
Me.

1836
01:12:22,802 --> 01:12:23,102
Mm-hmm.

1837
01:12:23,567 --> 01:12:24,767
Yeah, you're right.

1838
01:12:24,947 --> 01:12:25,247
Yeah.

1839
01:12:26,627 --> 01:12:29,597
What episode title Sums
up our sex life this year.

1840
01:12:30,607 --> 01:12:31,197
Cum queen.

1841
01:12:31,197 --> 01:12:31,507
Cum.

1842
01:12:31,867 --> 01:12:32,367
Cum play.

1843
01:12:32,527 --> 01:12:33,507
Cum play episode.

1844
01:12:35,457 --> 01:12:39,087
Now, if we had to add a third
co-host, who would it be and why?

1845
01:12:40,887 --> 01:12:47,757
Ooh, if we had to add a third
co-host, I don't know if we could.

1846
01:12:48,537 --> 01:12:49,527
I don't think we could.

1847
01:12:49,737 --> 01:12:50,587
I don't think we could either.

1848
01:12:50,792 --> 01:12:52,192
I don't think we could,
but if we, if we did.

1849
01:12:53,427 --> 01:12:55,497
I would totally add Jaime Gama.

1850
01:12:55,977 --> 01:12:57,327
I was thinking the same thing.

1851
01:12:57,327 --> 01:12:58,227
Jaime Gama.

1852
01:12:58,362 --> 01:13:02,167
I, I feel like we had
incredible chemistry with Jaime.

1853
01:13:02,167 --> 01:13:03,272
Like we could go sit, sat
there and talk to him forever.

1854
01:13:03,547 --> 01:13:04,027
Easily.

1855
01:13:04,057 --> 01:13:04,267
Yeah.

1856
01:13:04,297 --> 01:13:04,747
Easily.

1857
01:13:04,747 --> 01:13:06,907
Because he's just one of
those personalities and

1858
01:13:06,907 --> 01:13:08,917
conversation flows very easily.

1859
01:13:08,947 --> 01:13:10,027
It would totally have been, it was.

1860
01:13:10,357 --> 01:13:11,707
That was such, that was so much fun.

1861
01:13:11,712 --> 01:13:11,912
Yeah.

1862
01:13:11,917 --> 01:13:12,517
Yeah, it was.

1863
01:13:12,547 --> 01:13:13,657
Yeah, it was.

1864
01:13:13,717 --> 01:13:14,047
Yeah.

1865
01:13:14,227 --> 01:13:16,657
Now, what's one thing we've
learned about balancing family

1866
01:13:16,657 --> 01:13:19,117
work and a podcast about sex?

1867
01:13:19,507 --> 01:13:19,537
Okay.

1868
01:13:20,847 --> 01:13:22,677
We haven't learned how
to balance that yet.

1869
01:13:22,827 --> 01:13:23,127
We're getting there.

1870
01:13:23,697 --> 01:13:24,597
Yeah, we're getting there.

1871
01:13:24,597 --> 01:13:25,917
So we're working on it.

1872
01:13:25,917 --> 01:13:26,007
Yes.

1873
01:13:26,547 --> 01:13:27,267
Lucky for us.

1874
01:13:27,267 --> 01:13:29,907
Our children are, are bigger, are older.

1875
01:13:29,907 --> 01:13:29,917
Yeah.

1876
01:13:29,917 --> 01:13:29,937
Are older.

1877
01:13:29,937 --> 01:13:32,427
So they're in their late
teens, you know, balancing.

1878
01:13:34,467 --> 01:13:37,087
It's really it's, we're getting there.

1879
01:13:37,927 --> 01:13:38,827
It's not there yet.

1880
01:13:38,827 --> 01:13:40,807
People, it's getting there.

1881
01:13:41,507 --> 01:13:41,777
Yeah.

1882
01:13:42,137 --> 01:13:44,867
Now would you say that there's
a difference between the

1883
01:13:44,867 --> 01:13:46,697
podcast us and the real life Us.

1884
01:13:47,762 --> 01:13:57,182
No I feel like you guys really see
the true us in, for the most part.

1885
01:13:57,282 --> 01:13:59,442
You can't see every single little thing.

1886
01:13:59,952 --> 01:14:03,162
Obviously not, but yeah,
that's, I mean, this is us.

1887
01:14:03,162 --> 01:14:03,212
I mean, this is us.

1888
01:14:03,212 --> 01:14:05,232
Um, we're.

1889
01:14:06,927 --> 01:14:07,137
Yeah.

1890
01:14:07,137 --> 01:14:07,827
This is us.

1891
01:14:07,827 --> 01:14:08,307
This is us.

1892
01:14:08,312 --> 01:14:10,227
In nutshell this, I mean,
she's, she's my best friend.

1893
01:14:10,227 --> 01:14:10,287
Yeah.

1894
01:14:10,287 --> 01:14:11,307
She's the love of my life.

1895
01:14:11,307 --> 01:14:17,607
And we spend every day together
and this is what we do.

1896
01:14:17,607 --> 01:14:17,667
Yeah.

1897
01:14:17,697 --> 01:14:20,097
Whether we're recording or
not, this is what we do.

1898
01:14:20,157 --> 01:14:20,667
That's what we do.

1899
01:14:20,667 --> 01:14:23,457
We love to have conversations
with each other and we love having

1900
01:14:23,457 --> 01:14:26,907
conversations with others and, and
you know, let me tell you something.

1901
01:14:26,967 --> 01:14:31,227
There is nobody I'd rather do this
with than you, so I love you very much.

1902
01:14:31,227 --> 01:14:32,877
Love you, and I'm glad that
we're doing this together.

1903
01:14:33,267 --> 01:14:34,587
Yeah, that's nice.

1904
01:14:35,907 --> 01:14:39,927
And that wraps up our one year
anniversary episode, all that mushiness,

1905
01:14:40,557 --> 01:14:44,517
a full year of laughter, lessons,
love, and a whole lot of lifestyle.

1906
01:14:44,727 --> 01:14:45,117
Yes.

1907
01:14:45,117 --> 01:14:46,197
We really seriously can't.

1908
01:14:46,197 --> 01:14:48,627
Thank you guys enough, our
listeners, our friends.

1909
01:14:48,632 --> 01:14:53,402
Yeah, our full swap family, everybody
for rocking us since day one.

1910
01:14:53,402 --> 01:14:55,562
You guys have shared your stories.

1911
01:14:55,562 --> 01:14:57,062
You've sent confessions.

1912
01:14:57,062 --> 01:14:59,762
You reminded us why we do
this every single week.

1913
01:14:59,822 --> 01:15:03,422
And from the bottom of my heart,
I wanna say thank you so much.

1914
01:15:03,512 --> 01:15:04,022
Yeah.

1915
01:15:04,317 --> 01:15:05,547
And we're just getting started.

1916
01:15:05,652 --> 01:15:05,872
Yes.

1917
01:15:05,877 --> 01:15:06,177
Yes.

1918
01:15:06,272 --> 01:15:06,412
We, we are.

1919
01:15:06,412 --> 01:15:09,057
2026 is gonna be massive.

1920
01:15:09,057 --> 01:15:09,357
Yes, I know.

1921
01:15:09,357 --> 01:15:12,117
You've heard me say that and you're
gonna hear me say it lots more.

1922
01:15:12,387 --> 01:15:16,557
We've got new guests, we've got
new cities, new adventures ahead.

1923
01:15:16,657 --> 01:15:19,947
And a lot of new friends that we're
gonna be bringing along for the ride.

1924
01:15:19,947 --> 01:15:22,437
So honestly, we're bringing all of you.

1925
01:15:22,872 --> 01:15:24,432
With us for all of it.

1926
01:15:24,522 --> 01:15:25,362
Yes.

1927
01:15:25,602 --> 01:15:29,352
Speaking of adventures, don't
forget to catch us in person.

1928
01:15:29,352 --> 01:15:33,282
We're gonna be up in Washington State
for Thanksgiving weekend, and while

1929
01:15:33,282 --> 01:15:36,912
we're out there, we are gonna be going
to Club Sapphire on Friday night.

1930
01:15:36,972 --> 01:15:38,892
Then we head to San Antonio.

1931
01:15:39,477 --> 01:15:42,867
For the next weekend for the
naughty and nice hotel takeover,

1932
01:15:42,867 --> 01:15:44,427
December 5th through the seventh.

1933
01:15:44,427 --> 01:15:44,547
Yes.

1934
01:15:44,577 --> 01:15:49,407
And right after that is going to
be our very own Beyond Monogamy

1935
01:15:49,407 --> 01:15:53,907
takeover at Club Eden in San
Antonio on Saturday, December 13th.

1936
01:15:53,907 --> 01:15:54,037
So guys.

1937
01:15:54,897 --> 01:15:56,067
Do not miss that.

1938
01:15:56,097 --> 01:15:57,237
Oh, you don't wanna miss that.

1939
01:15:57,237 --> 01:15:58,677
That's gonna be a major party.

1940
01:15:58,707 --> 01:15:59,037
Yes.

1941
01:15:59,037 --> 01:16:00,267
It's gonna be lots of fun.

1942
01:16:00,547 --> 01:16:05,557
If you scoped out our, uh, pineapple
house Texas episode, which recently

1943
01:16:05,557 --> 01:16:08,497
came out, Nicole and Isaac are
gonna be hanging out there with us.

1944
01:16:08,497 --> 01:16:08,587
Yes.

1945
01:16:08,587 --> 01:16:12,487
We're gonna have a few others that are
traveling to, to be there on the spot.

1946
01:16:12,487 --> 01:16:13,777
You gotta be there.

1947
01:16:13,837 --> 01:16:14,317
Gotta be there.

1948
01:16:14,317 --> 01:16:14,707
Guys.

1949
01:16:14,857 --> 01:16:15,367
Gotta be there.

1950
01:16:15,367 --> 01:16:15,457
Yes.

1951
01:16:15,457 --> 01:16:17,887
So grab your outfits, grab your friends.

1952
01:16:18,217 --> 01:16:20,377
Come celebrate with us in person.

1953
01:16:21,112 --> 01:16:24,882
You can find all the details,
the links, and the event info at

1954
01:16:24,882 --> 01:16:31,192
www.beyond-monogamy.com, and while
you're there, drop us a confessional.

1955
01:16:31,222 --> 01:16:34,282
It's totally anonymous and
you just might hear your story

1956
01:16:34,282 --> 01:16:35,752
pop up in a future episode.

1957
01:16:36,022 --> 01:16:37,672
We love hearing from you guys.

1958
01:16:37,672 --> 01:16:38,482
We really do.

1959
01:16:38,512 --> 01:16:40,282
You know, we love the interaction we do.

1960
01:16:40,637 --> 01:16:45,172
And you can also catch us every Thursday
on Full Swap Radio at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM

1961
01:16:45,172 --> 01:16:49,282
Central, where Beyond Monogamy plays along
some of the best shows in the lifestyle.

1962
01:16:49,282 --> 01:16:51,202
We really love those guys and, uh, me too.

1963
01:16:51,262 --> 01:16:51,682
I don't know.

1964
01:16:51,682 --> 01:16:54,712
I may be, uh, reaching out to a few of
'em to see if we can get 'em on the show.

1965
01:16:54,862 --> 01:16:55,522
Nice.

1966
01:16:55,522 --> 01:16:55,582
Yeah.

1967
01:16:55,582 --> 01:16:57,772
Well, seriously, from the bottom
of our hearts, thank you for being

1968
01:16:57,772 --> 01:16:59,902
part of this crazy, beautiful ride.

1969
01:16:59,962 --> 01:17:04,402
Here's to another year of being bold,
being real, and going beyond monogamy.

1970
01:17:05,257 --> 01:17:08,617
Now as we wrap up, we're leaving
you with something special, a

1971
01:17:08,617 --> 01:17:12,217
four and a half minute highlight
reel from our very first episode.

1972
01:17:12,427 --> 01:17:16,067
Now obviously there's no video to
go along with it because we were

1973
01:17:16,067 --> 01:17:17,477
not doing video at that time.

1974
01:17:18,227 --> 01:17:22,727
It's very raw, it's ridiculous,
but it's where it all began and

1975
01:17:23,027 --> 01:17:25,907
it'll, it's going seamlessly into.

1976
01:17:26,652 --> 01:17:27,672
Spot to spot.

1977
01:17:27,672 --> 01:17:30,997
So you, it may not make a whole
lot of sense, it's just a bunch,

1978
01:17:31,477 --> 01:17:32,832
a bunch of stuff taped together.

1979
01:17:33,072 --> 01:17:36,432
So enjoy the laughs, enjoy the
memories, and get ready because

1980
01:17:36,432 --> 01:17:38,802
year two is about to be even bigger.

1981
01:17:38,802 --> 01:17:39,552
Absolutely.

1982
01:17:39,552 --> 01:17:42,642
And with that, we wish you all
a happy Thanksgiving and we want

1983
01:17:42,642 --> 01:17:46,212
all of our listeners to know
that we are thankful for you.

1984
01:17:46,272 --> 01:17:47,142
Yes, very thankful.

1985
01:17:47,142 --> 01:17:49,302
And we will see you guys next week.

1986
01:17:49,362 --> 01:17:49,872
Bye.

1987
01:17:54,069 --> 01:17:56,769
I am just, I'm banging
chicks left and right.

1988
01:17:56,774 --> 01:17:57,184
It's my job.

1989
01:17:57,604 --> 01:17:58,344
I'm, I'm just kidding.

1990
01:17:58,404 --> 01:17:59,064
I'm not, I'm not.

1991
01:17:59,064 --> 01:17:59,264
It

1992
01:17:59,264 --> 01:18:00,144
just me with different ways.

1993
01:18:00,964 --> 01:18:01,504
That's right.

1994
01:18:01,869 --> 01:18:03,189
You got different personalities.

1995
01:18:03,429 --> 01:18:03,489
Yeah.

1996
01:18:03,489 --> 01:18:04,209
Like this is it.

1997
01:18:04,209 --> 01:18:04,269
Yeah.

1998
01:18:04,389 --> 01:18:09,069
Like there's no backing out
and you guys started making out

1999
01:18:09,129 --> 01:18:10,479
and started getting very hands.

2000
01:18:10,759 --> 01:18:14,539
And then the uncomfortable feeling
stayed, but it became a better,

2001
01:18:14,599 --> 01:18:18,379
uncomfortable feeling, almost like
the butterflies in the stomach, like,

2002
01:18:18,469 --> 01:18:22,339
wow, I, I really like this, but I
don't know if I should like this.

2003
01:18:22,399 --> 01:18:22,729
You know?

2004
01:18:22,909 --> 01:18:25,339
And, and so I like to
go several routes, uh,

2005
01:18:25,339 --> 01:18:27,444
side note without any type of impact.

2006
01:18:28,684 --> 01:18:28,974
It's

2007
01:18:29,354 --> 01:18:29,574
all

2008
01:18:29,574 --> 01:18:29,774
natural.

2009
01:18:29,829 --> 01:18:33,699
So I'm not bragging and you're not
supposed to be bragging for me.

2010
01:18:33,819 --> 01:18:39,309
Yeah, well, you know, and, and that
was kind of the, the thing, realizing

2011
01:18:39,309 --> 01:18:43,659
that, you know, I understand that
the lifestyle is very woman's.

2012
01:18:43,679 --> 01:18:45,119
Centric and that's cool.

2013
01:18:45,539 --> 01:18:50,579
But one of my turnons is
knowing somebody wants me.

2014
01:18:50,579 --> 01:18:50,669
Right?

2015
01:18:50,669 --> 01:18:55,949
So where you have a stereotypical
type of person, you are pretty

2016
01:18:55,949 --> 01:18:57,569
much very, very different.

2017
01:18:57,659 --> 01:18:57,749
Mm-hmm.

2018
01:18:58,679 --> 01:19:01,919
And especially when it
comes to the lifestyle.

2019
01:19:02,279 --> 01:19:02,549
Yeah.

2020
01:19:02,579 --> 01:19:03,284
Well, thank you.

2021
01:19:03,899 --> 01:19:04,889
That's very sweet.

2022
01:19:05,849 --> 01:19:07,139
She's got me blushing over here.

2023
01:19:07,309 --> 01:19:07,669
Yeah.

2024
01:19:07,699 --> 01:19:07,969
Yeah.

2025
01:19:07,969 --> 01:19:10,489
No, there was no, no question about it.

2026
01:19:10,489 --> 01:19:13,819
I was already stressing about
it as it was and, and so it

2027
01:19:13,819 --> 01:19:15,379
was just perfect timing 'cause,

2028
01:19:15,469 --> 01:19:17,119
and we ended our relationships.

2029
01:19:17,149 --> 01:19:17,389
Yeah.

2030
01:19:17,479 --> 01:19:18,799
On good terms.

2031
01:19:18,949 --> 01:19:19,339
Yes.

2032
01:19:19,399 --> 01:19:20,119
And

2033
01:19:20,689 --> 01:19:23,869
yeah, kind of, you're very
Terminator ish, you know?

2034
01:19:23,869 --> 01:19:25,339
You just go in there and you take care.

2035
01:19:25,339 --> 01:19:25,429
Yeah.

2036
01:19:25,549 --> 01:19:25,914
We've already asked.

2037
01:19:26,434 --> 01:19:27,214
People like that.

2038
01:19:27,424 --> 01:19:28,384
Some people like that.

2039
01:19:28,384 --> 01:19:28,654
Yeah.

2040
01:19:28,714 --> 01:19:29,254
Yeah, yeah.

2041
01:19:29,794 --> 01:19:35,074
The people, for me, I, I like
to have that camaraderie.

2042
01:19:35,119 --> 01:19:40,204
I, I even wore a shirt that has
my name on it in big letters.

2043
01:19:40,834 --> 01:19:45,664
Something like Adam doing Adam things,
or the legendary Adam or whatever.

2044
01:19:45,664 --> 01:19:47,284
I have a few different
shirts, I'm not gonna lie.

2045
01:19:47,584 --> 01:19:49,084
It's a little narcissistic what?

2046
01:19:49,174 --> 01:19:49,624
Whatever.

2047
01:19:49,714 --> 01:19:52,719
And who we bang, who we
bang, who we wanna bang.

2048
01:19:52,864 --> 01:19:53,074
Yeah.

2049
01:19:53,074 --> 01:19:55,054
Like just all of that stuff is.

2050
01:19:55,069 --> 01:19:56,269
Normally going through our heads.

2051
01:19:56,419 --> 01:20:00,859
So most, and, and you know, honestly,
because of my anxiety, I really don't

2052
01:20:01,129 --> 01:20:03,109
often pay attention to my surroundings.

2053
01:20:03,139 --> 01:20:04,639
That's, that's what we're known for.

2054
01:20:04,759 --> 01:20:04,819
Yeah.

2055
01:20:04,819 --> 01:20:09,469
Is first in, first out, we'll
be either early or on time to an

2056
01:20:09,469 --> 01:20:11,959
event, whether it be a house party,
at meet, greet, whenever it is.

2057
01:20:12,744 --> 01:20:14,334
Yeah, we're having coffee together.

2058
01:20:14,334 --> 01:20:15,054
We're talking.

2059
01:20:15,354 --> 01:20:18,354
I'm gonna tell you a little secret
about me to get past my social

2060
01:20:18,354 --> 01:20:22,344
anxiety when I'm at these different
events, or the club or wherever.

2061
01:20:23,034 --> 01:20:26,454
I pretend that I am an actor in a movie.

2062
01:20:28,074 --> 01:20:28,944
Yeah, laugh it up.

2063
01:20:29,034 --> 01:20:29,754
It's true though.

2064
01:20:29,934 --> 01:20:30,444
A lot of memes.

2065
01:20:30,924 --> 01:20:32,034
It's a lot of memes.

2066
01:20:32,034 --> 01:20:33,024
I do have a lot of memes.

2067
01:20:33,024 --> 01:20:33,114
It's

2068
01:20:33,114 --> 01:20:34,554
funny because all of our friends use me.

2069
01:20:35,694 --> 01:20:37,194
I use gifs or whatever they're, yeah.

2070
01:20:37,284 --> 01:20:38,874
I use memes and gifs.

2071
01:20:38,994 --> 01:20:39,084
Good

2072
01:20:39,509 --> 01:20:39,799
gifs,

2073
01:20:39,924 --> 01:20:41,359
depending on what side of the,

2074
01:20:41,619 --> 01:20:42,089
are they good gifs?

2075
01:20:42,474 --> 01:20:42,954
I don't know.

2076
01:20:42,954 --> 01:20:44,364
They're gifs or they're gifs I That's

2077
01:20:44,364 --> 01:20:44,964
gonna hate,

2078
01:20:46,314 --> 01:20:46,884
you know, that.

2079
01:20:46,884 --> 01:20:51,354
Maybe it's disingenuine that maybe
it's not my real personality.

2080
01:20:51,684 --> 01:20:55,144
You know, one of those YouTubers
that they look all happy and, and

2081
01:20:55,464 --> 01:20:57,594
positive on when the camera's rolling.

2082
01:20:57,804 --> 01:20:57,924
Yeah.

2083
01:20:57,954 --> 01:21:00,204
But when the cameras are off,
you know, they, they're picking

2084
01:21:00,204 --> 01:21:01,914
cats and yelling at babies.

2085
01:21:02,414 --> 01:21:03,344
That's not me.

2086
01:21:03,344 --> 01:21:04,274
I don't kick cats on.

2087
01:21:04,274 --> 01:21:04,304
I

2088
01:21:04,874 --> 01:21:12,764
met a guy online and he came over to
my work for lunch, but he was my lunch.

2089
01:21:13,004 --> 01:21:14,624
Now you can see the full two inches.

2090
01:21:16,124 --> 01:21:16,364
It's

2091
01:21:16,364 --> 01:21:16,754
two and a

2092
01:21:16,754 --> 01:21:17,474
half now.

2093
01:21:18,134 --> 01:21:18,434
Yeah.

2094
01:21:18,434 --> 01:21:19,064
Look at you.

2095
01:21:19,064 --> 01:21:19,304
You're,

2096
01:21:19,724 --> 01:21:20,594
you're so witty.

2097
01:21:20,594 --> 01:21:21,344
Oh my gosh.

2098
01:21:21,704 --> 01:21:24,164
I mean, now I know I can
suck the soul outta you, but

2099
01:21:24,974 --> 01:21:28,874
Well, so for me, I, I never
felt like I was well endowed,

2100
01:21:29,264 --> 01:21:31,064
and because of that, I really.

2101
01:21:31,214 --> 01:21:32,564
Worked on my technique.

2102
01:21:33,074 --> 01:21:33,314
See,

2103
01:21:33,434 --> 01:21:33,944
that's what happens.

2104
01:21:34,154 --> 01:21:34,934
Wow.

2105
01:21:34,994 --> 01:21:35,294
That's what

2106
01:21:35,294 --> 01:21:37,259
happens with, oh my

2107
01:21:37,329 --> 01:21:37,619
gosh.

2108
01:21:38,089 --> 01:21:39,344
What was the question?

2109
01:21:39,674 --> 01:21:40,154
What do you mean?

2110
01:21:40,154 --> 01:21:40,394
What

2111
01:21:40,394 --> 01:21:41,204
was the question?

2112
01:21:41,209 --> 01:21:42,019
Wasn't there a question?

2113
01:21:42,194 --> 01:21:42,614
Yes.

2114
01:21:42,704 --> 01:21:47,234
I'm realizing that you ladies
are funny because y'all say it

2115
01:21:47,234 --> 01:21:49,754
is bi situational and then my.

2116
01:21:50,029 --> 01:21:52,639
Funny joke is, well, I'm the situation.

2117
01:21:53,329 --> 01:21:54,199
We're so funny.

2118
01:21:55,459 --> 01:21:56,809
I'm glad you think so.

2119
01:21:57,469 --> 01:21:58,459
Oh my gosh.

2120
01:21:58,669 --> 01:22:02,179
Seeing what you're missing out
you guys, any, I'm just kidding.

2121
01:22:02,184 --> 01:22:02,394
I'm not.

2122
01:22:02,629 --> 01:22:02,794
I'm not.

2123
01:22:02,794 --> 01:22:03,044
It's just

2124
01:22:03,044 --> 01:22:04,669
me with different twists all natural.

2125
01:22:04,669 --> 01:22:04,969
So

2126
01:22:04,969 --> 01:22:07,969
I'm not bragging and you're
not supposed to be bragging.

2127
01:22:07,969 --> 01:22:08,419
For me

2128
01:22:08,719 --> 01:22:10,339
fun though, they are getting

2129
01:22:10,339 --> 01:22:10,819
fun.

2130
01:22:10,909 --> 01:22:14,179
They're, it's such a breath of relief.

2131
01:22:14,209 --> 01:22:16,369
Like everybody is so nice.

2132
01:22:16,374 --> 01:22:16,634
Mm-hmm.

2133
01:22:17,454 --> 01:22:20,664
If somebody who maybe you're
not physically attracted to

2134
01:22:20,664 --> 01:22:24,774
reaches out to you, you don't
have to ghost them or block them.