Hotel Takeovers 101: Your Real Talk Survival Guide to the Lifestyle's Most Intoxicating Weekend

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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.

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This show is raw, real, and
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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
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probably don't want blasting through your
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So grab some headphones, pour your
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Couches.

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An ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.

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And.

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Hello, and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam

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and I'm Pris.

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And on today's quickie, we're
talking about hotel takeovers, how

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to navigate them, what not to do,
so you don't become that couple.

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And how to keep your relationship
front and center when everything around

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you is basically a temptation buffet.

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I love me a good buffet.

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We've been to more than a few of
these, including one very recently.

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Mm-hmm.

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This past weekend and hotel takeovers
are some of the most fun that you

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can have in the lifestyle, I think.

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But they can also go sideways real fast
if you walk in without a game plan.

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So today we're giving you the real
talk that nobody hands you at the door.

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Oof.

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I love that.

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Yeah.

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You're gonna think of this as
your hotel takeover survival

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guide with a little humor, a
little honesty, and zero judgment.

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Yes.

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And before we dive in all of our episodes,
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Alright, so let's get into it.

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Let's talk about.

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Exactly what hotel takeovers are.

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We're gonna start from the very beginning
because let me tell you this episode is

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not for our people who go all the time.

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Yeah.

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You guys know about it.

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Yeah.

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This is for our first timers.

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This is for the people who have
never been, or maybe have only been

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once for a day pass or something.

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There's a lot of people out there who
have never been, are interested in

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going, but don't know what to expect.

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Yeah.

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So let's break it down.

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A hotel takeover is just that.

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It's when you've taken
over a hotel mm-hmm.

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Our lifestyle community, whoever decides
to put it on they will either purchase.

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A floor or two?

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Yeah.

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Or the entire hotel.

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Hotel.

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The ones that we've been to, they've
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Uh, and when that happens

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mm-hmm.

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They will basically sell
you rooms for the weekend.

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When you go over there, you
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You can either have a themed room,
some people make their rooms mm-hmm.

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Follow themes and, and there's
judging and stuff like that.

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Mm-hmm.

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Uh, which is always fun.

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Sometimes they have games on the, if
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days, you know, during the day they
have games or something going on.

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I mean, there's really a whole
lot of different activities.

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So, it's basically.

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Social weekend.

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With sex spiced up in it.

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It's a club, a hotel.

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It's,

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and I mean, it's a club, it's like a house
party and then you get to play games.

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It, I don't know.

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I don't know if I would say
it's my preferred place.

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I do love the hotel takeover, especially
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We're getting more comfortable with it.

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Uh, the first few times that
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Love You was hard.

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I

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love you.

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You know you're saying we,
everybody knows it's just me.

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We are married, we're a unit.

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Gimme

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a kiss.

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My craziness is your craziness.

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If you struggle, I struggle.

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That's how that goes.

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If you're having struggles,
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struggles.

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And that's how it goes.

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And frankly it, it's hard at first
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mm-hmm.

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Uh, when you're first
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I, I mean, even me, I always have
anxieties no matter what we do,

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but especially the past couple of
hotel takeovers that we've gone to.

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They've been more or less working
events for us with the podcast.

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But also, yeah, I just have anxiety.

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Like I have to socialize with people
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they know who I am, but I don't know.

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And it's all of that stuff that I
say you really shouldn't be doing.

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Like overthinking all of that.

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I mean, and so when you go, you
may not know anybody 'cause we're

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gonna start going to a few and
we're not gonna know anybody.

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But you know, um.

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You have the whole feel of
the whole, the whole hotel?

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Like it's open, like

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You have, it's everything.

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The common areas.

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You have the hallways.

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The elevators, the event rooms.

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Uh, normally the, those event
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different, they're different events.

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Whether it be Bingo, sometimes you'll see
a wonderful podcast called Beyond Monogamy

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with Adam and PRIs doing a live show,
which is dropping this coming Sunday.

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You know, we've seen pussy eating
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contests, like things like that.

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seen a lot of different things.

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They really do a lot of different things.

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And there's also been seminars
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stuff as

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They're, they're really nice.

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You know, in that kind of environment
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same group for about, for two days.

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So think of it as a big sleepover and
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out the next day, go to the mall.

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You know what, what I was thinking of,
I was thinking of it, I don't know if

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you remember, uh, back in our hometown,
they used to have operation, graduation.

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Uh, when we were in high school.

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As people, as, as different classes would
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They used to take over, uh, that
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In our hometown, and they
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Well I did that for church.

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It's, it's basically a
complete lock-in at, yeah.

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Know, you'd be stuck there.

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You wouldn't, if you left, you
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Um, and so I always viewed these hotel
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You know, you show up and you and I used
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And I think we were talking
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I was like, it's weird that
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And then we came back,
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back and coffee and we came back.

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We left and we did and we did that.

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It was nice.

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And primarily because a lot of these
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the national ones, but the ones that
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Except for maybe continental breakfast.

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But it's not always a guarantee.

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Sometimes there may be a food
truck, but for the most part you're

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pretty much left to yourself.

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You have to get your own food.

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You have to DoorDash, I mean,

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We are so lucky.

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You can take

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a cooler with

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food.

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You can take a cooler.

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I took snacky snacks.

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snack.

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I had chips and a kessel.

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I had a case of water.

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And leftovers from, and
leftovers from pizza.

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So we had, we had some food.

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It's kind of cool 'cause you're
gonna see them, the same people

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you partied with the night before.

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You're hanging out with
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And you're gonna see 'em again.

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You know, like it's super.

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It's fun.

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Makes you wanna get out of your room.

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Last one we went to, we did
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We didn't, before

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this, we were just tired,

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was we had to do a live show and
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live shows that we had ever done.

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And so I was stressed about that.

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My mind was completely on the show.

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Mm-hmm.

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And it was hard to really let
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loose and enjoy other people.

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Really we just got food.

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And we stayed in the room.

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It was nice.

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We watched movies

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and we kind of needed it too.

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It was fun.

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But you, you get to spend some time.

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So that's how, however you wanna play it.

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You know, you take your drinks and
if you're drinking, you can always

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go back to your room and take a nap.

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Come back out, your friends will be out.

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Like, that's exactly
how it happened with us.

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We got there late on a Friday.

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We went to go chill by
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Mm-hmm.

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Walked around a little bit.

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And people started coming.

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'cause you know, we thought we got
there late, but there were still people

263
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arriving and some people started arriving.

264
00:08:11,059 --> 00:08:11,869
It was a really good night.

265
00:08:11,869 --> 00:08:13,549
We didn't go to bed till like two.

266
00:08:13,579 --> 00:08:15,319
It was about two when we went to sleep.

267
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Two.

268
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Now, you know, for those of you
who are new and, and going in for

269
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the first time, understand that
you don't have to do anything.

270
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Yeah.

271
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If you wanna stay in the room
the entire weekend mm-hmm.

272
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Guess what?

273
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You paid for it.

274
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You do what you want.

275
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Yeah.

276
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I think I really struggled with that
and I had to remind myself of that

277
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as well in past hotel takeovers.

278
00:08:36,044 --> 00:08:38,024
I felt like I had to do stuff.

279
00:08:38,024 --> 00:08:40,694
I felt like I had to be in
the pool with everybody.

280
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I felt like I had to be you know,
down at the rave and hobnobbing

281
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with people and doing all of that.

282
00:08:45,804 --> 00:08:45,814
Yeah.

283
00:08:46,134 --> 00:08:47,184
And you don't have to.

284
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No, it

285
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was, it's, it's what
your comfort level is.

286
00:08:49,374 --> 00:08:49,554
Yeah.

287
00:08:49,554 --> 00:08:53,324
It's whatever you feel like doing it
you know, you can always too much.

288
00:08:53,624 --> 00:08:54,734
Is the crowd too much?

289
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Go to your room.

290
00:08:55,954 --> 00:08:58,804
And that's, and that's the great
part about it too, is, you know,

291
00:08:58,894 --> 00:09:03,484
if you go to a club, if you go to a
house party, oftentimes if you are

292
00:09:03,484 --> 00:09:05,524
overwhelmed and you have to break away

293
00:09:05,524 --> 00:09:05,914
mm-hmm.

294
00:09:06,244 --> 00:09:09,394
One of the only places to break
away is to leave, you know?

295
00:09:09,394 --> 00:09:09,604
Yeah.

296
00:09:09,634 --> 00:09:11,134
Otherwise you're, you're in it.

297
00:09:11,374 --> 00:09:11,704
Yeah.

298
00:09:11,754 --> 00:09:16,704
Whereas if you have a, uh, a hotel
takeover room, you just go, Hey guys,

299
00:09:16,704 --> 00:09:17,964
I'm gonna catch up with you guys later.

300
00:09:17,964 --> 00:09:18,774
I'm gonna go to my room.

301
00:09:18,779 --> 00:09:18,879
Yeah.

302
00:09:18,979 --> 00:09:21,624
And you go over there, you get some
quiet time, you get recentered.

303
00:09:21,894 --> 00:09:23,334
And when you're ready to go back out.

304
00:09:23,549 --> 00:09:24,269
You go back out?

305
00:09:24,299 --> 00:09:24,449
Mm-hmm.

306
00:09:24,779 --> 00:09:26,219
Uh, I think that's a really cool thing.

307
00:09:26,219 --> 00:09:27,329
Now I will, I will tell

308
00:09:27,329 --> 00:09:28,679
you, they do offer day passes.

309
00:09:28,979 --> 00:09:30,029
Well, some of them do.

310
00:09:30,089 --> 00:09:31,529
Not of them do, but some of them do.

311
00:09:31,529 --> 00:09:32,219
Sometimes they offer

312
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day passes.

313
00:09:32,429 --> 00:09:34,989
So if you can't stay the whole
weekend, which some people don't.

314
00:09:35,524 --> 00:09:38,764
They'll share a way for you to still join.

315
00:09:39,064 --> 00:09:40,114
I have a question for you.

316
00:09:40,204 --> 00:09:40,534
Yeah.

317
00:09:40,654 --> 00:09:44,644
Are these takeovers for
couples or can singles go?

318
00:09:45,234 --> 00:09:47,454
I know single women can go and obviously

319
00:09:47,454 --> 00:09:47,634
couples.

320
00:09:47,634 --> 00:09:52,914
I, I wanna say that a lot of these
are operated with the same ideals

321
00:09:53,374 --> 00:09:56,654
that clubs and house parties
operate off of, which, okay.

322
00:09:57,014 --> 00:10:01,054
As we know, most of, of those venues will.

323
00:10:01,864 --> 00:10:05,104
Not let too many single men in.

324
00:10:05,524 --> 00:10:11,534
Mm. And, and I hate to say that it's a
bummer but also what brings in people

325
00:10:11,539 --> 00:10:11,729
mm-hmm.

326
00:10:11,809 --> 00:10:12,049
Women.

327
00:10:12,149 --> 00:10:12,569
Mm-hmm.

328
00:10:12,654 --> 00:10:16,064
And I think a lot of these
businesses and clubs and whatnot

329
00:10:16,094 --> 00:10:17,234
they all think of it that way.

330
00:10:17,714 --> 00:10:19,064
Well, single women are always welcome.

331
00:10:19,364 --> 00:10:19,544
Yeah.

332
00:10:19,544 --> 00:10:20,114
No matter what.

333
00:10:20,234 --> 00:10:20,354
Yeah.

334
00:10:20,354 --> 00:10:22,004
Single women will never be turned away.

335
00:10:22,364 --> 00:10:26,129
And then couples, obviously that's
the bread and butter, but single men.

336
00:10:26,629 --> 00:10:31,729
They will normally if there's
some rooms left over or whatever,

337
00:10:31,739 --> 00:10:34,489
they'll work with single men and
they'll vet and this and that.

338
00:10:34,879 --> 00:10:37,249
At least the ones that
we have experience with.

339
00:10:37,349 --> 00:10:39,749
Now we don't have all the
experience, like I said, we're

340
00:10:39,749 --> 00:10:40,719
just talking about our experience.

341
00:10:40,719 --> 00:10:40,894
Our

342
00:10:41,009 --> 00:10:43,014
experience and what you
should expect, like.

343
00:10:43,044 --> 00:10:43,334
Yeah.

344
00:10:43,799 --> 00:10:46,019
Um, so I know there's, so
there's plenty of couples.

345
00:10:46,099 --> 00:10:49,339
It's gonna be your community, but
some people come from out of town, so

346
00:10:49,579 --> 00:10:49,699
Yeah.

347
00:10:49,729 --> 00:10:50,809
Ages vary.

348
00:10:51,079 --> 00:10:51,379
They do.

349
00:10:51,499 --> 00:10:55,399
Yeah, it's, um, it's a,
I don't, I, I enjoy it.

350
00:10:55,789 --> 00:10:56,239
Yeah, it's a great energy.

351
00:10:56,239 --> 00:10:57,109
You gotta say that.

352
00:10:57,109 --> 00:10:59,929
I, I kind of enjoy it.

353
00:11:00,429 --> 00:11:02,409
More than I enjoy the club.

354
00:11:02,769 --> 00:11:03,399
Is that right?

355
00:11:03,669 --> 00:11:03,999
Yeah.

356
00:11:04,059 --> 00:11:04,449
Why is that?

357
00:11:04,899 --> 00:11:07,809
Um, because I can party and
go back to my room party.

358
00:11:07,809 --> 00:11:07,819
Yeah.

359
00:11:08,229 --> 00:11:09,669
And you go visit friends.

360
00:11:09,729 --> 00:11:09,939
Yeah.

361
00:11:09,939 --> 00:11:10,929
We can party in their room.

362
00:11:10,959 --> 00:11:11,559
Yeah.

363
00:11:11,564 --> 00:11:11,754
Yeah.

364
00:11:11,919 --> 00:11:13,029
Or just chill with them.

365
00:11:13,179 --> 00:11:13,539
Yeah.

366
00:11:13,544 --> 00:11:13,594
Mm-hmm.

367
00:11:13,839 --> 00:11:16,689
And that, you know what it
is, it's like a big sleepover.

368
00:11:17,349 --> 00:11:17,439
Yeah.

369
00:11:17,439 --> 00:11:18,249
When you think about it.

370
00:11:18,279 --> 00:11:18,669
Yeah.

371
00:11:18,669 --> 00:11:19,419
It's like a big those,

372
00:11:19,869 --> 00:11:20,859
but like those lockdowns

373
00:11:20,859 --> 00:11:21,009
or

374
00:11:21,009 --> 00:11:21,579
lockouts.

375
00:11:21,579 --> 00:11:21,879
Yeah.

376
00:11:22,219 --> 00:11:26,479
It's like a really big ass sleepover
and you know, you get to stay

377
00:11:26,479 --> 00:11:29,089
up all night and talk to your
friends and giggle and laugh up.

378
00:11:29,089 --> 00:11:29,179
Oh my

379
00:11:29,179 --> 00:11:29,479
gosh.

380
00:11:29,479 --> 00:11:29,599
I

381
00:11:29,599 --> 00:11:30,289
lot of stuff

382
00:11:30,409 --> 00:11:30,889
love so much.

383
00:11:30,949 --> 00:11:32,419
Oh man, it was, it was a great time.

384
00:11:32,419 --> 00:11:32,599
It was

385
00:11:32,599 --> 00:11:32,689
fun.

386
00:11:32,689 --> 00:11:33,229
I love so much.

387
00:11:33,229 --> 00:11:34,279
My face was hurting me.

388
00:11:34,279 --> 00:11:34,909
I laughed so much.

389
00:11:34,969 --> 00:11:36,529
It's hard not to.

390
00:11:37,024 --> 00:11:39,634
Be a part of that infectious

391
00:11:39,694 --> 00:11:39,754
Yeah,

392
00:11:40,234 --> 00:11:40,414
for sure.

393
00:11:40,414 --> 00:11:41,764
Intoxicating energy.

394
00:11:41,814 --> 00:11:41,934
For

395
00:11:41,934 --> 00:11:42,024
sure.

396
00:11:42,454 --> 00:11:43,594
It's nonstop.

397
00:11:43,654 --> 00:11:45,964
And what's funny is you can
wake up early in the morning

398
00:11:45,964 --> 00:11:48,724
looking like absolute dog do-do

399
00:11:48,994 --> 00:11:49,594
nobody cares.

400
00:11:49,594 --> 00:11:52,504
And make your way to go get some
continental breakfast and you'll see

401
00:11:52,504 --> 00:11:54,484
everybody there and everybody's laughing.

402
00:11:54,604 --> 00:11:54,784
It's so

403
00:11:54,784 --> 00:11:55,234
and a good time.

404
00:11:55,734 --> 00:11:56,334
It doesn't matter.

405
00:11:56,834 --> 00:11:59,704
So experience, at least the.

406
00:12:00,609 --> 00:12:01,989
Breaking that part down.

407
00:12:02,459 --> 00:12:04,019
Rules always apply.

408
00:12:04,079 --> 00:12:09,879
You know, it's always, always
ask for permission, consent.

409
00:12:09,979 --> 00:12:11,269
No cameras.

410
00:12:11,659 --> 00:12:12,109
Yeah.

411
00:12:12,109 --> 00:12:13,309
You know, at least in a play space, us in

412
00:12:13,519 --> 00:12:14,269
play spaces.

413
00:12:14,299 --> 00:12:14,509
Yeah.

414
00:12:14,584 --> 00:12:14,984
Like us,

415
00:12:15,109 --> 00:12:16,784
you know, discretion is a thing, right?

416
00:12:16,784 --> 00:12:17,344
Discretion.

417
00:12:17,344 --> 00:12:17,354
Yeah.

418
00:12:17,539 --> 00:12:20,689
And so not everybody's
discreet, obviously.

419
00:12:20,689 --> 00:12:20,779
Mm-hmm.

420
00:12:20,779 --> 00:12:21,799
Like us, we don't care.

421
00:12:21,799 --> 00:12:22,849
You wanna take pictures of us?

422
00:12:22,899 --> 00:12:28,379
Expect that out in the common
areas for pictures, but.

423
00:12:28,859 --> 00:12:32,369
When you play with somebody,
those rules, they still are there.

424
00:12:32,549 --> 00:12:37,049
They still are like, do not take,
um, like for us, it, that was part

425
00:12:37,049 --> 00:12:39,059
of our room that we didn't even open.

426
00:12:39,059 --> 00:12:41,879
'cause we wanted to go hobnob
with everybody, but ours was

427
00:12:41,879 --> 00:12:45,119
going to be recorded and shown,
but it was just questions.

428
00:12:45,269 --> 00:12:45,599
Yeah.

429
00:12:45,599 --> 00:12:48,179
And that's the thing, anybody
who's taking pictures, because

430
00:12:48,179 --> 00:12:49,199
you'll have people taking

431
00:12:49,199 --> 00:12:49,379
pictures.

432
00:12:49,379 --> 00:12:49,949
Yeah, for sure.

433
00:12:49,949 --> 00:12:55,289
Common areas and video recording
if you don't want to be on.

434
00:12:55,439 --> 00:12:58,194
All you gotta do is just, just
politely tell 'em, Hey, I, I,

435
00:12:58,199 --> 00:12:59,489
I don't want to be recorded.

436
00:12:59,609 --> 00:12:59,699
Yeah.

437
00:12:59,699 --> 00:13:00,179
If you don't mind.

438
00:13:00,179 --> 00:13:03,994
And as long as, and they'll know from
that point on, they will know I somebody

439
00:13:03,999 --> 00:13:05,039
and they'll make sure that you're out.

440
00:13:05,069 --> 00:13:06,689
I asked somebody to take a
picture of me and they said no.

441
00:13:06,839 --> 00:13:07,139
Yeah.

442
00:13:07,379 --> 00:13:07,829
I was like that.

443
00:13:08,024 --> 00:13:08,314
Okay.

444
00:13:09,109 --> 00:13:10,219
And he was real polite about it.

445
00:13:10,224 --> 00:13:10,704
He very polite.

446
00:13:10,704 --> 00:13:12,649
He was like, no, you know, it's just
that our kids and this and that.

447
00:13:12,649 --> 00:13:14,479
And it's like, totally understandable man.

448
00:13:14,479 --> 00:13:15,349
We respect that.

449
00:13:15,499 --> 00:13:15,919
Very cool.

450
00:13:15,919 --> 00:13:19,159
Um, there are a lot of people who
are not discreet, but there are just

451
00:13:19,159 --> 00:13:22,789
as many who are, and so you really
have to keep that in mind no matter

452
00:13:22,789 --> 00:13:24,739
where you go in any kind of lifestyle.

453
00:13:24,859 --> 00:13:25,129
Bet.

454
00:13:25,189 --> 00:13:25,489
Yeah.

455
00:13:25,609 --> 00:13:26,419
Because it's a takeover.

456
00:13:26,419 --> 00:13:28,309
You, you don't own everybody.

457
00:13:28,309 --> 00:13:29,929
It's not, you're not taking over people.

458
00:13:29,934 --> 00:13:30,104
Yeah,

459
00:13:30,174 --> 00:13:30,664
exactly.

460
00:13:30,664 --> 00:13:31,909
You're just taking over the hotel.

461
00:13:32,354 --> 00:13:32,954
Having fun.

462
00:13:33,134 --> 00:13:33,554
Yeah.

463
00:13:33,734 --> 00:13:36,734
And just because it's a takeover doesn't
mean that everyone is available to you.

464
00:13:36,734 --> 00:13:37,274
Exactly.

465
00:13:37,274 --> 00:13:37,544
Yeah.

466
00:13:37,544 --> 00:13:40,784
You still have to read the room, you
still have to approach respectfully.

467
00:13:40,884 --> 00:13:40,894
Mm-hmm.

468
00:13:40,964 --> 00:13:44,364
And takeover, we're just hanging out
tonight gracefully, you know, because

469
00:13:44,364 --> 00:13:44,454
Yes,

470
00:13:44,814 --> 00:13:48,204
we've had those nights where it's like,
sorry guys, we're not having sex tonight.

471
00:13:49,074 --> 00:13:49,384
We're just hanging.

472
00:13:49,384 --> 00:13:50,244
We're just relaxing.

473
00:13:50,274 --> 00:13:51,414
We're just having some fun.

474
00:13:51,504 --> 00:13:51,894
Yeah.

475
00:13:51,894 --> 00:13:52,164
Those

476
00:13:52,164 --> 00:13:53,064
rules still apply.

477
00:13:53,064 --> 00:13:53,664
Um, they do.

478
00:13:54,164 --> 00:13:54,764
Let's see.

479
00:13:54,824 --> 00:13:57,574
Don't, there's when you can't.

480
00:13:58,134 --> 00:13:59,934
Handle it anymore when it's too much.

481
00:14:00,084 --> 00:14:00,834
Go to your room.

482
00:14:01,074 --> 00:14:01,374
Yeah.

483
00:14:01,374 --> 00:14:02,484
If you're overwhelmed.

484
00:14:02,484 --> 00:14:02,874
Yeah.

485
00:14:02,934 --> 00:14:03,504
Go take a break,

486
00:14:03,714 --> 00:14:03,804
man.

487
00:14:03,804 --> 00:14:08,724
Um, it's, if you play separately,
just find out where your partner

488
00:14:08,724 --> 00:14:12,024
is, um, they can get lost sometimes.

489
00:14:12,174 --> 00:14:12,594
Yeah.

490
00:14:12,594 --> 00:14:15,354
Push their little air
tag, check their location.

491
00:14:16,104 --> 00:14:18,334
Check-ins, man, checkins check-ins,
guys, check-ins, you know, as a

492
00:14:18,334 --> 00:14:21,034
relationship going into something.

493
00:14:21,034 --> 00:14:21,124
Mm-hmm.

494
00:14:21,394 --> 00:14:22,954
Especially a new event.

495
00:14:23,374 --> 00:14:27,904
Uh, I don't know about you guys, but I
attach myself to my lovely wife here.

496
00:14:28,234 --> 00:14:28,324
Mm-hmm.

497
00:14:28,564 --> 00:14:29,284
I really do.

498
00:14:29,614 --> 00:14:32,554
And I always go with the
mentality of I'm not going to,

499
00:14:32,944 --> 00:14:33,064
yes.

500
00:14:33,064 --> 00:14:35,179
I always go in with the mentality of it

501
00:14:35,259 --> 00:14:35,339
does

502
00:14:35,359 --> 00:14:36,859
am gonna fuck shit up.

503
00:14:37,039 --> 00:14:38,404
He does, like, things are gonna go crazy.

504
00:14:38,644 --> 00:14:39,244
I, I don't know.

505
00:14:39,244 --> 00:14:42,544
I have this version of myself that I think
is still, uh, right outta high school

506
00:14:42,544 --> 00:14:44,299
and into college and just ready to, oops.

507
00:14:44,769 --> 00:14:44,919
Oops.

508
00:14:45,579 --> 00:14:45,999
I gotcha.

509
00:14:45,999 --> 00:14:46,089
Yeah.

510
00:14:46,089 --> 00:14:46,629
You know what I'm saying?

511
00:14:46,899 --> 00:14:48,069
And so I have it.

512
00:14:48,369 --> 00:14:49,719
The thought is great.

513
00:14:49,929 --> 00:14:50,229
Yeah.

514
00:14:50,259 --> 00:14:51,459
I'm ready to go in.

515
00:14:51,519 --> 00:14:51,639
Yeah.

516
00:14:51,639 --> 00:14:57,189
The moment I go in, I realize I
don't feel, I don't feel comfortable.

517
00:14:57,309 --> 00:14:57,519
Yeah.

518
00:14:57,519 --> 00:14:59,619
And then when she's around
me, I feel comfortable.

519
00:14:59,619 --> 00:15:00,729
So then it just changes.

520
00:15:00,849 --> 00:15:01,029
Yeah.

521
00:15:01,089 --> 00:15:01,959
And I latch on.

522
00:15:02,049 --> 00:15:02,139
Yeah.

523
00:15:02,249 --> 00:15:05,309
And that's honestly, you
guys are a, a, a couple,

524
00:15:05,619 --> 00:15:05,914
You, you

525
00:15:05,914 --> 00:15:07,384
can help each other out a lot.

526
00:15:07,414 --> 00:15:07,594
Yeah.

527
00:15:07,594 --> 00:15:07,744
You can

528
00:15:07,744 --> 00:15:08,584
be each other's wing man.

529
00:15:08,584 --> 00:15:08,704
For

530
00:15:08,704 --> 00:15:08,914
one thing.

531
00:15:08,914 --> 00:15:11,344
You pointed to so many things.

532
00:15:11,444 --> 00:15:13,694
Some things that, that you and I do.

533
00:15:14,194 --> 00:15:17,104
We have a really deep
conversation beforehand.

534
00:15:17,194 --> 00:15:17,644
Yes.

535
00:15:17,734 --> 00:15:18,844
What we expect.

536
00:15:19,384 --> 00:15:20,884
So whatever we expect

537
00:15:21,004 --> 00:15:21,194
or what

538
00:15:21,194 --> 00:15:24,364
we're hoping, our expectations,
we, what we are hoping for, we talk

539
00:15:24,364 --> 00:15:25,714
about it all the way over there.

540
00:15:26,014 --> 00:15:27,574
Uncomfortable feelings.

541
00:15:27,964 --> 00:15:28,204
Yeah.

542
00:15:28,204 --> 00:15:29,164
Whatever.

543
00:15:29,584 --> 00:15:30,634
We get there.

544
00:15:31,114 --> 00:15:34,924
If I'm not feeling it, we're
going back to the room or talking.

545
00:15:35,434 --> 00:15:36,754
Um, and vice versa.

546
00:15:37,254 --> 00:15:39,984
May we keep that, that
communication going.

547
00:15:40,164 --> 00:15:42,594
After any playing, we talk about it.

548
00:15:43,314 --> 00:15:43,974
Are we good?

549
00:15:44,184 --> 00:15:44,814
You wanna go out?

550
00:15:44,814 --> 00:15:45,294
Like what?

551
00:15:45,294 --> 00:15:46,434
What's happening next?

552
00:15:46,944 --> 00:15:50,244
We just keep it open and when
everything is done on your

553
00:15:50,244 --> 00:15:52,764
way home still, same thing.

554
00:15:53,424 --> 00:15:53,724
Yeah.

555
00:15:53,724 --> 00:15:58,374
You know, we, we had a, a, a good
long conversation before we actually

556
00:15:58,374 --> 00:15:59,964
went to this past weekend's takeover.

557
00:15:59,969 --> 00:16:00,059
Mm-hmm.

558
00:16:00,139 --> 00:16:03,974
And one of the things that we had
discussed was, and Pris actually

559
00:16:03,974 --> 00:16:06,404
asked me this and I found it an
interesting question, but she said,

560
00:16:06,944 --> 00:16:11,174
should we have some sort of code word?

561
00:16:11,174 --> 00:16:11,184
Yeah.

562
00:16:11,504 --> 00:16:13,544
Or safe word or something like that.

563
00:16:13,964 --> 00:16:15,899
Uh, and you know, we decided.

564
00:16:16,604 --> 00:16:18,434
To opt out of that because

565
00:16:18,494 --> 00:16:19,154
we did,

566
00:16:19,154 --> 00:16:22,994
you know, we, we know how,
we know the tone of voice.

567
00:16:22,994 --> 00:16:23,834
We know how to Yeah.

568
00:16:23,964 --> 00:16:27,144
Catch each other's attention
to show that there's an issue.

569
00:16:27,414 --> 00:16:27,474
Yeah.

570
00:16:27,504 --> 00:16:33,544
So we don't necessarily need a word to,
to say but that is precisely the kind of

571
00:16:33,544 --> 00:16:34,834
stuff that you should be talking about.

572
00:16:34,834 --> 00:16:34,894
Yeah.

573
00:16:35,344 --> 00:16:38,854
Is there something that we should,
is there some sort of signal,

574
00:16:38,854 --> 00:16:40,294
some sort of facial signal?

575
00:16:40,324 --> 00:16:40,474
Yeah.

576
00:16:40,474 --> 00:16:41,644
You wanna give you a, a base

577
00:16:41,644 --> 00:16:43,054
on, I feel like we need one now,

578
00:16:43,294 --> 00:16:43,654
you think?

579
00:16:43,924 --> 00:16:44,134
Yeah.

580
00:16:44,634 --> 00:16:45,114
Oh yeah.

581
00:16:45,174 --> 00:16:45,504
Yeah.

582
00:16:45,624 --> 00:16:46,704
I feel like we need one.

583
00:16:46,704 --> 00:16:47,124
I feel like,

584
00:16:47,124 --> 00:16:47,964
I mean, it wouldn't hurt,

585
00:16:47,964 --> 00:16:48,804
but I feel like it wouldn't,

586
00:16:48,804 --> 00:16:50,979
I just think saying a
weird name or a weird, I

587
00:16:50,979 --> 00:16:53,114
mean can't, weird word out
loud seems weird to me.

588
00:16:53,614 --> 00:16:54,874
I can do, I don't know.

589
00:16:54,874 --> 00:16:57,604
I feel like we need something
and I'm gonna figure that out.

590
00:16:58,204 --> 00:16:58,984
Whatever it is,

591
00:16:59,044 --> 00:17:02,344
it's whatever it is to me, it's gotta
be, it's gotta be a natural word.

592
00:17:02,614 --> 00:17:02,704
Yeah.

593
00:17:02,704 --> 00:17:02,914
You know?

594
00:17:02,914 --> 00:17:05,884
So if I'm having a conversation with
somebody and all of a sudden, you

595
00:17:05,884 --> 00:17:10,744
know, you're across the room and you
say, Figgy tree, and I'm like, well

596
00:17:10,744 --> 00:17:13,624
obviously that's our word, but how
are you gonna get out of the fact that

597
00:17:13,624 --> 00:17:15,334
you're yelling the word figy tree?

598
00:17:15,334 --> 00:17:15,394
Yeah.

599
00:17:15,394 --> 00:17:17,074
That just makes no sense whatsoever.

600
00:17:17,284 --> 00:17:17,614
It's gotta,

601
00:17:17,614 --> 00:17:19,234
you know, I think I'm gonna say something.

602
00:17:19,324 --> 00:17:20,254
I know what I'm gonna say.

603
00:17:20,254 --> 00:17:20,794
I got you.

604
00:17:21,399 --> 00:17:21,689
Okay.

605
00:17:21,689 --> 00:17:23,209
I'm gonna tell you, it's
gonna be really cool.

606
00:17:23,299 --> 00:17:24,229
It's gonna be really cool.

607
00:17:24,289 --> 00:17:24,469
Yeah.

608
00:17:25,074 --> 00:17:25,364
Okay.

609
00:17:25,364 --> 00:17:25,644
Yeah.

610
00:17:25,829 --> 00:17:26,939
I look forward to that.

611
00:17:26,969 --> 00:17:27,269
Yeah.

612
00:17:27,839 --> 00:17:30,869
Now, what do you do when jealousy
spikes in the middle of an event?

613
00:17:31,369 --> 00:17:32,869
Because that, I'm sure that happens.

614
00:17:33,069 --> 00:17:34,359
Just talking to you alone.

615
00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:37,779
In this past weekend, there were
times where we were together and.

616
00:17:38,454 --> 00:17:39,924
I ended up making out with somebody.

617
00:17:40,074 --> 00:17:40,314
Yeah.

618
00:17:40,314 --> 00:17:44,504
And you were right there with whomever and
whatnot, and I think you've got it down

619
00:17:44,504 --> 00:17:46,844
to a science as far as when that happens.

620
00:17:46,904 --> 00:17:47,504
Yes.

621
00:17:47,564 --> 00:17:50,359
What do you normally do when,
when you look over and boom,

622
00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:51,679
your husband's making out with

623
00:17:51,679 --> 00:17:51,889
somebody?

624
00:17:51,889 --> 00:17:54,529
I roll my eyes or I say something snarky.

625
00:17:55,029 --> 00:17:56,314
I said something snarky Or

626
00:17:56,314 --> 00:17:56,434
both?

627
00:17:56,434 --> 00:17:56,674
Yeah,

628
00:17:56,919 --> 00:17:57,339
Yeah.

629
00:17:57,339 --> 00:17:57,579
Or

630
00:17:57,584 --> 00:17:57,754
both.

631
00:17:57,774 --> 00:17:58,944
Um, and.

632
00:17:59,444 --> 00:17:59,984
People.

633
00:18:00,164 --> 00:18:03,674
I go, I say that and I don't,
it's not like it's coming

634
00:18:03,674 --> 00:18:06,164
outta my mouth, not on purpose.

635
00:18:06,494 --> 00:18:11,354
I literally say it on purpose
and I say it knowing that it

636
00:18:11,354 --> 00:18:12,824
might hit him a certain way.

637
00:18:13,214 --> 00:18:14,174
He might get mad.

638
00:18:15,074 --> 00:18:17,684
And it might be a whole
thing the whole weekend.

639
00:18:18,154 --> 00:18:22,714
Because we're normal, we're human,
we're, we're couples, we're a couple.

640
00:18:22,714 --> 00:18:24,124
It's, it's, it is what it is.

641
00:18:24,494 --> 00:18:28,334
Or he can take it and just
kind of laugh about it.

642
00:18:29,054 --> 00:18:34,094
So I take my chances on that because
it's just a reaction of mine.

643
00:18:34,344 --> 00:18:38,304
Sometimes I find it okay, but
sometimes I don't, especially if

644
00:18:38,304 --> 00:18:39,864
I don't know the person, like.

645
00:18:40,584 --> 00:18:42,534
I have to kiss you afterwards.

646
00:18:42,924 --> 00:18:43,164
Yes.

647
00:18:43,344 --> 00:18:46,944
And sometimes it grosses
me out, not my husband.

648
00:18:47,844 --> 00:18:50,094
The fact that someone just
put their tongue in his mouth

649
00:18:50,364 --> 00:18:52,284
without knowing anybody.

650
00:18:52,884 --> 00:18:53,034
So,

651
00:18:53,034 --> 00:18:53,754
without knowing them.

652
00:18:53,904 --> 00:18:54,204
Yeah.

653
00:18:54,354 --> 00:18:56,399
So I find that I, and I see it.

654
00:18:56,609 --> 00:18:57,689
If I don't see it, don't know.

655
00:18:57,689 --> 00:18:58,079
Right.

656
00:18:58,499 --> 00:19:01,249
Um, but if I see it, I.
I find, I don't know.

657
00:19:01,249 --> 00:19:02,299
I think it's gross.

658
00:19:02,689 --> 00:19:04,669
And so then we have that conversation.

659
00:19:04,669 --> 00:19:05,059
Luckily we do.

660
00:19:05,419 --> 00:19:08,839
You don't, you're, you're very
respectful in the fact that you very

661
00:19:08,839 --> 00:19:10,969
don't ever come into the middle of it.

662
00:19:10,999 --> 00:19:11,089
No.

663
00:19:11,089 --> 00:19:12,679
You're like, excuse me.

664
00:19:12,769 --> 00:19:14,869
You know, which is
totally your right to do.

665
00:19:14,899 --> 00:19:15,109
Yeah.

666
00:19:15,379 --> 00:19:17,059
But I appreciate that you don't

667
00:19:17,179 --> 00:19:17,269
Yeah.

668
00:19:17,479 --> 00:19:18,634
And then we just talk about it later.

669
00:19:18,634 --> 00:19:18,824
Yeah.

670
00:19:19,249 --> 00:19:21,859
And you know, it, it, it gets solved

671
00:19:21,889 --> 00:19:22,369
Yeah.

672
00:19:22,369 --> 00:19:24,409
Then and there, which
I think is really cool.

673
00:19:24,529 --> 00:19:27,809
Now I recently had a revelation
because, you know, we've always

674
00:19:27,809 --> 00:19:29,549
said that I don't get jealous.

675
00:19:29,909 --> 00:19:33,239
But I've realized I do get jealous.

676
00:19:33,299 --> 00:19:33,749
You do.

677
00:19:33,749 --> 00:19:36,469
But in a hot way when it comes to you.

678
00:19:37,414 --> 00:19:40,534
So that's one of the reasons why I
like watching you with other men.

679
00:19:40,624 --> 00:19:40,894
Mm. That's great.

680
00:19:40,894 --> 00:19:40,984
It's

681
00:19:40,984 --> 00:19:44,434
like, I love watching you with other
women, obviously, and it's hot, but

682
00:19:44,434 --> 00:19:45,874
I love watching you with other men.

683
00:19:45,974 --> 00:19:47,384
And I've realized why.

684
00:19:47,384 --> 00:19:48,074
Exactly.

685
00:19:48,344 --> 00:19:54,434
It's because afterwards the re the
reclaiming process, the whole where

686
00:19:54,434 --> 00:19:57,854
we're, we're getting back into it
and we're, we're enjoying each other.

687
00:19:57,884 --> 00:19:58,124
Yeah.

688
00:19:58,624 --> 00:20:05,254
I normally will talk to you about it
during sex, and it spurs this jealousy

689
00:20:05,254 --> 00:20:08,234
in me that makes me fuck you better.

690
00:20:08,294 --> 00:20:08,714
Yes.

691
00:20:08,719 --> 00:20:10,469
Yeah, like I go all out.

692
00:20:10,529 --> 00:20:11,109
So men,

693
00:20:11,864 --> 00:20:12,224
yeah,

694
00:20:12,374 --> 00:20:12,834
it's a hot thing.

695
00:20:13,514 --> 00:20:14,234
It's a hot thing.

696
00:20:14,504 --> 00:20:14,774
What?

697
00:20:14,779 --> 00:20:15,794
You know what I'm talking you baby?

698
00:20:15,854 --> 00:20:16,064
Mm-hmm.

699
00:20:16,064 --> 00:20:16,274
What?

700
00:20:16,274 --> 00:20:20,024
Sh So yeah, maybe you should have a code
word, check-ins, do all that good stuff.

701
00:20:20,474 --> 00:20:22,454
Sh What should I bring to this thing?

702
00:20:23,204 --> 00:20:24,884
What should you bring to a hotel takeover?

703
00:20:24,884 --> 00:20:27,404
Well, you wanna obviously
pack for the weekend.

704
00:20:27,404 --> 00:20:27,554
Now.

705
00:20:27,554 --> 00:20:32,774
Me personally, I over pack for the
weekend because you just never know.

706
00:20:32,894 --> 00:20:33,104
Yeah.

707
00:20:33,374 --> 00:20:34,634
Sometimes there's themes.

708
00:20:34,874 --> 00:20:36,164
Sometimes there's themes.

709
00:20:36,194 --> 00:20:37,424
We did not do themes.

710
00:20:37,424 --> 00:20:39,734
I feel bad that we didn't, 'cause
I think we could have rocked it.

711
00:20:40,334 --> 00:20:41,924
Um, I, I, the women looked.

712
00:20:42,214 --> 00:20:43,594
Amazing.

713
00:20:43,594 --> 00:20:44,434
You would've looked great.

714
00:20:44,434 --> 00:20:44,659
I, I don't.

715
00:20:45,334 --> 00:20:46,924
No, I With your beard?

716
00:20:46,924 --> 00:20:47,044
No.

717
00:20:47,044 --> 00:20:47,644
Toga.

718
00:20:47,734 --> 00:20:48,214
Yeah.

719
00:20:48,754 --> 00:20:49,744
Men looked hot.

720
00:20:49,774 --> 00:20:52,354
It was so beautiful.

721
00:20:52,384 --> 00:20:53,524
I was like, wow.

722
00:20:54,004 --> 00:20:56,794
So yeah, bring all that,
bring all protection.

723
00:20:57,154 --> 00:20:58,444
Bring toys.

724
00:20:58,449 --> 00:20:58,509
Yeah.

725
00:20:59,014 --> 00:20:59,104
Yeah.

726
00:20:59,134 --> 00:20:59,224
Um.

727
00:21:00,149 --> 00:21:01,289
This is your time, dudes.

728
00:21:01,289 --> 00:21:03,104
I mean, this is your time to make
it like your bedroom kind of,

729
00:21:03,124 --> 00:21:04,289
sort of really, I, yeah.

730
00:21:04,349 --> 00:21:08,699
Realistically, you should bring
whatever sexually you want.

731
00:21:08,729 --> 00:21:09,059
Yeah.

732
00:21:09,209 --> 00:21:11,129
And I think toys are a great idea.

733
00:21:11,129 --> 00:21:11,189
Yeah.

734
00:21:11,479 --> 00:21:15,439
Some people bring like,
like BDSM furniture.

735
00:21:15,529 --> 00:21:15,619
Yeah.

736
00:21:15,619 --> 00:21:16,489
As a part of their thing.

737
00:21:16,489 --> 00:21:19,339
Bring your blankets,
your protective blankets.

738
00:21:19,339 --> 00:21:20,244
Your protective blanket blankets.

739
00:21:20,244 --> 00:21:20,404
Your little

740
00:21:20,409 --> 00:21:20,779
blankets.

741
00:21:20,779 --> 00:21:21,524
Bring them mm-hmm.

742
00:21:21,604 --> 00:21:21,884
Yeah.

743
00:21:22,159 --> 00:21:24,499
Your waterproof blankets mm-hmm.

744
00:21:24,499 --> 00:21:25,429
And things like that.

745
00:21:25,929 --> 00:21:30,139
Definitely you want to find
out if it's an indoor hotel or

746
00:21:30,139 --> 00:21:32,379
outdoor, or an outdoor motel.

747
00:21:32,469 --> 00:21:32,559
Mm-hmm.

748
00:21:32,799 --> 00:21:36,849
Because if it's something that
really has an outdoor aspect to it,

749
00:21:36,909 --> 00:21:40,149
and a lot of the common areas will
be outdoors, you're gonna wanna

750
00:21:40,149 --> 00:21:41,949
bring whatever, check the weather,

751
00:21:41,979 --> 00:21:43,569
dress appropriate to the at.

752
00:21:43,569 --> 00:21:44,079
Yeah.

753
00:21:44,079 --> 00:21:44,319
So

754
00:21:44,529 --> 00:21:44,949
environment

755
00:21:44,949 --> 00:21:49,149
For example, this past weekend, I
checked the weather and it said it was

756
00:21:49,149 --> 00:21:50,739
going to be rainy and a little cool.

757
00:21:51,229 --> 00:21:52,399
So I packed a hoodie.

758
00:21:52,429 --> 00:21:52,519
Mm-hmm.

759
00:21:52,759 --> 00:21:55,459
Not necessarily for me because I
knew I would be okay, but I knew

760
00:21:55,459 --> 00:21:58,069
my wife would get cold at some
point and I had it ready for her.

761
00:21:58,069 --> 00:21:58,399
Mm-hmm.

762
00:21:58,969 --> 00:22:02,359
I had it ready for her, but then I didn't
realize I would end up getting cold too.

763
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:02,419
Yeah.

764
00:22:02,419 --> 00:22:03,919
And so then we ended up
having to go to the room.

765
00:22:03,919 --> 00:22:05,989
So I was not fully prepared.

766
00:22:05,989 --> 00:22:06,049
Yeah.

767
00:22:06,049 --> 00:22:08,899
I could have been better, but
you know, you definitely wanna,

768
00:22:09,079 --> 00:22:10,669
you want to know more about it

769
00:22:10,669 --> 00:22:10,819
mm-hmm.

770
00:22:11,059 --> 00:22:13,279
And what to prepare for now.

771
00:22:13,519 --> 00:22:17,359
Definitely bring your
protection, bring your lube.

772
00:22:17,819 --> 00:22:19,079
You know, if, if you.

773
00:22:19,549 --> 00:22:23,809
You fellows out there, you, uh, you
have your, your little blue pill or

774
00:22:23,809 --> 00:22:24,739
whatever it is that you take mm-hmm.

775
00:22:24,979 --> 00:22:25,594
Make sure you have.

776
00:22:25,654 --> 00:22:26,074
Mm-hmm.

777
00:22:26,159 --> 00:22:29,239
Uh, that now I do, like I said.

778
00:22:30,064 --> 00:22:34,684
I think it's good for people to
plan on bringing a cooler Yes.

779
00:22:34,684 --> 00:22:36,459
With whatever food you want.

780
00:22:37,139 --> 00:22:37,939
Whatever snacks you want,

781
00:22:38,339 --> 00:22:38,699
whatever snacks

782
00:22:38,879 --> 00:22:39,099
you

783
00:22:39,099 --> 00:22:39,179
want,

784
00:22:39,274 --> 00:22:41,254
because you need to
hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.

785
00:22:41,254 --> 00:22:41,434
Lots

786
00:22:41,434 --> 00:22:41,494
of

787
00:22:41,494 --> 00:22:41,614
water.

788
00:22:41,614 --> 00:22:44,314
There is no glass
allowed in the pool area.

789
00:22:44,344 --> 00:22:45,424
Common sense people

790
00:22:45,424 --> 00:22:45,724
usually.

791
00:22:45,814 --> 00:22:45,904
Yeah.

792
00:22:45,934 --> 00:22:47,464
You're walking around, there's cement.

793
00:22:47,529 --> 00:22:47,819
Yeah.

794
00:22:48,094 --> 00:22:49,534
So no glass.

795
00:22:49,604 --> 00:22:53,114
But everybody usually uses
those little coozies and stuff.

796
00:22:53,864 --> 00:22:54,674
Little cans.

797
00:22:54,674 --> 00:22:54,734
Um.

798
00:22:55,234 --> 00:22:55,684
That's it.

799
00:22:56,044 --> 00:22:56,284
Yeah.

800
00:22:56,284 --> 00:22:56,434
You

801
00:22:56,434 --> 00:23:00,664
know, every room also has drinks and
usually has things, so like you get

802
00:23:00,994 --> 00:23:01,564
cell shots.

803
00:23:01,594 --> 00:23:01,804
Well, I mean,

804
00:23:01,924 --> 00:23:02,674
that's on not all of 'em.

805
00:23:02,704 --> 00:23:03,604
The theme rooms.

806
00:23:03,604 --> 00:23:03,994
Yeah.

807
00:23:03,994 --> 00:23:04,004
Yeah.

808
00:23:04,004 --> 00:23:05,854
Not, not all of them, all of,
but there, but there are a

809
00:23:05,854 --> 00:23:07,594
lot of people who do do that.

810
00:23:07,624 --> 00:23:07,984
Yeah.

811
00:23:08,044 --> 00:23:09,064
Uh, with their themes.

812
00:23:09,114 --> 00:23:09,334
And we.

813
00:23:10,194 --> 00:23:10,434
Yeah.

814
00:23:10,554 --> 00:23:11,304
It's times like that.

815
00:23:11,304 --> 00:23:12,054
I wish we were drinking.

816
00:23:12,114 --> 00:23:12,234
I

817
00:23:12,234 --> 00:23:14,754
know our friend has, she
brings it to every party.

818
00:23:14,754 --> 00:23:19,374
It's called Suck and Blow and it's like
this tube of jello shots shot in there.

819
00:23:19,374 --> 00:23:19,524
Yeah.

820
00:23:19,974 --> 00:23:21,384
And she's always like, do
you want a suck and blow?

821
00:23:21,384 --> 00:23:21,804
Suck and blow?

822
00:23:21,954 --> 00:23:23,844
I've blown to somebody.

823
00:23:24,084 --> 00:23:24,324
Yeah.

824
00:23:24,414 --> 00:23:26,844
But I've never, um, of course
I don't 'cause I don't do that.

825
00:23:26,844 --> 00:23:26,904
Yeah.

826
00:23:26,904 --> 00:23:27,924
So, um, but yeah.

827
00:23:28,364 --> 00:23:28,604
Yeah.

828
00:23:28,604 --> 00:23:30,044
You know, that, that looks like fun.

829
00:23:30,044 --> 00:23:32,564
Although I'm pretty sure I would choke
once it hits the back of my throat.

830
00:23:32,564 --> 00:23:33,704
Oh man, it's so hard.

831
00:23:33,704 --> 00:23:34,064
Is it?

832
00:23:34,124 --> 00:23:35,054
Like it gets stuck to the

833
00:23:35,054 --> 00:23:35,144
wall.

834
00:23:35,149 --> 00:23:37,814
Wall and then there was like a,
there was um, p pudding shots

835
00:23:37,814 --> 00:23:39,374
that were making their way around.

836
00:23:39,374 --> 00:23:39,434
Yeah.

837
00:23:39,704 --> 00:23:42,209
Uh, there was little
bottles of Jager and brew.

838
00:23:42,209 --> 00:23:42,849
Oh, we have a little

839
00:23:42,999 --> 00:23:43,289
Yeah.

840
00:23:43,519 --> 00:23:43,809
Brew.

841
00:23:43,809 --> 00:23:43,889
Adam

842
00:23:43,949 --> 00:23:44,569
got a brew.

843
00:23:44,639 --> 00:23:44,929
Yeah.

844
00:23:45,529 --> 00:23:48,089
A little Jager cold brew
that he's gonna drink.

845
00:23:48,399 --> 00:23:51,069
Probably this Sunday and kind of relax.

846
00:23:51,099 --> 00:23:51,399
Yeah.

847
00:23:51,404 --> 00:23:52,329
I, I gotta try it.

848
00:23:52,329 --> 00:23:54,429
You know, I love my cold brew,
so I said, you know, I'm not a

849
00:23:54,429 --> 00:23:55,569
drinker, but I'll give it a shot.

850
00:23:55,629 --> 00:23:55,929
Yeah.

851
00:23:56,109 --> 00:23:57,309
I have one that I wanna try.

852
00:23:57,309 --> 00:23:57,429
So, woo.

853
00:23:58,324 --> 00:24:02,039
Now you don't wanna assume that there's
a fridge or a microwave, obviously,

854
00:24:02,039 --> 00:24:03,569
because it really depends on the venue.

855
00:24:03,929 --> 00:24:08,699
So come prepared if you bring your own
food, you know, or ask around, don't

856
00:24:08,699 --> 00:24:10,109
bring your microwave people.

857
00:24:10,109 --> 00:24:11,339
Don't bring your microwave.

858
00:24:11,344 --> 00:24:12,094
But if you do, you do.

859
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:12,389
I

860
00:24:12,389 --> 00:24:14,339
The lobby has a microwave all the time.

861
00:24:14,339 --> 00:24:14,999
Usually.

862
00:24:14,999 --> 00:24:15,019
Yeah, usually.

863
00:24:15,479 --> 00:24:16,589
I've never been to one that doesn't.

864
00:24:17,474 --> 00:24:18,314
Us personally,

865
00:24:18,344 --> 00:24:18,704
so Yeah.

866
00:24:18,764 --> 00:24:23,429
And be prepared to the fact that,
like I said this, it's expensive.

867
00:24:23,739 --> 00:24:25,184
It's expensive, it's expensive to

868
00:24:25,184 --> 00:24:25,364
go.

869
00:24:25,364 --> 00:24:25,424
Yeah.

870
00:24:25,484 --> 00:24:26,294
What are we looking at?

871
00:24:26,344 --> 00:24:31,714
Normally for a full weekend, I want
to say I've seen 'em anywhere from I.

872
00:24:32,434 --> 00:24:35,284
500 to 800.

873
00:24:35,404 --> 00:24:35,764
Okay.

874
00:24:35,764 --> 00:24:36,364
For a full weekend.

875
00:24:36,364 --> 00:24:39,214
So you're paying for your room
for the weekend and a little extra

876
00:24:39,214 --> 00:24:40,444
'cause you get the whole hotel.

877
00:24:40,514 --> 00:24:40,604
Yeah.

878
00:24:40,869 --> 00:24:41,109
Yeah.

879
00:24:41,209 --> 00:24:44,104
And there's no food around
not on the premises Usually.

880
00:24:44,164 --> 00:24:44,384
Not.

881
00:24:44,384 --> 00:24:44,394
Usually.

882
00:24:44,394 --> 00:24:45,149
Not usually.

883
00:24:45,209 --> 00:24:45,569
Um,

884
00:24:45,839 --> 00:24:47,939
but in the surrounding
areas it's a hotel, so

885
00:24:47,969 --> 00:24:48,479
Yeah.

886
00:24:48,479 --> 00:24:48,689
Yeah.

887
00:24:48,689 --> 00:24:51,089
I haven't seen any that have room service.

888
00:24:51,199 --> 00:24:54,409
Not to say that there's not
any, but I haven't seen any.

889
00:24:54,799 --> 00:24:56,569
Normally when we get hungry.

890
00:24:56,974 --> 00:24:58,954
We say, okay, let's go.

891
00:24:58,954 --> 00:24:59,234
Mm-hmm.

892
00:24:59,319 --> 00:25:00,799
Let's go find a restaurant nearby.

893
00:25:00,889 --> 00:25:01,639
Let's go eat, you know?

894
00:25:01,639 --> 00:25:01,849
Yeah.

895
00:25:02,179 --> 00:25:06,039
Uh, and then we'll bring home, uh, or
we'll bring back to the hotel leftovers.

896
00:25:06,069 --> 00:25:06,309
Yeah.

897
00:25:06,459 --> 00:25:07,359
And we'll go from there.

898
00:25:07,364 --> 00:25:07,574
Yeah.

899
00:25:07,714 --> 00:25:11,139
So, yeah, there's, there's
really just, those are all things

900
00:25:11,139 --> 00:25:12,279
that you want to keep in mind.

901
00:25:12,279 --> 00:25:14,379
And then from a social aspect.

902
00:25:14,879 --> 00:25:18,329
Try your very best to talk to
people that you don't know.

903
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:18,809
Yeah.

904
00:25:18,809 --> 00:25:21,149
I mean, they make it easy
because they have rooms.

905
00:25:21,179 --> 00:25:24,209
Usually everybody, even if you're not a
theme room, they have their doors open.

906
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:24,509
Yeah.

907
00:25:24,629 --> 00:25:25,379
For the most part.

908
00:25:25,739 --> 00:25:27,329
Unless they're, you know, whatever.

909
00:25:27,629 --> 00:25:30,719
They usually have 'em open and you
can walk around and kind of, you

910
00:25:30,719 --> 00:25:32,599
know, see don't get frustrated.

911
00:25:32,599 --> 00:25:33,859
'cause sometimes they have 'em closed.

912
00:25:33,859 --> 00:25:35,389
They're either napping or something.

913
00:25:35,449 --> 00:25:36,889
And don't open a closed door.

914
00:25:36,889 --> 00:25:37,729
Don't open a closed door.

915
00:25:37,819 --> 00:25:39,529
Same rules apply.

916
00:25:39,544 --> 00:25:40,194
Same rules apply.

917
00:25:40,199 --> 00:25:41,149
Have common sense.

918
00:25:41,149 --> 00:25:43,399
Don't open a, uh, don't
open a closed door.

919
00:25:43,399 --> 00:25:45,649
That means it's closed for reason.

920
00:25:45,679 --> 00:25:45,859
Yeah.

921
00:25:45,859 --> 00:25:49,429
And maybe it was open five
minutes earlier, but don't go in.

922
00:25:49,489 --> 00:25:49,909
Yeah.

923
00:25:50,449 --> 00:25:52,939
The debrief afterwards.

924
00:25:52,939 --> 00:25:55,429
That's probably one of the
most underrated mm-hmm.

925
00:25:55,429 --> 00:25:56,419
Relationship tools.

926
00:25:56,449 --> 00:25:56,599
Mm-hmm.

927
00:25:56,839 --> 00:25:58,009
When you're done.

928
00:25:58,249 --> 00:25:58,339
Mm-hmm.

929
00:25:58,579 --> 00:26:00,909
You know, you can debrief
after every night.

930
00:26:01,179 --> 00:26:01,389
Yeah.

931
00:26:01,389 --> 00:26:04,809
And then after the entire weekend,
you know, for us we had an hour,

932
00:26:04,809 --> 00:26:07,749
a little over hour drive that
we could talk about everything.

933
00:26:07,749 --> 00:26:08,109
We talked too.

934
00:26:08,169 --> 00:26:08,789
We talked,

935
00:26:08,939 --> 00:26:09,229
yeah.

936
00:26:09,584 --> 00:26:12,724
When we went to go eat, we talked
about different things because we

937
00:26:12,724 --> 00:26:14,404
went to go breakfast and lunch.

938
00:26:14,464 --> 00:26:14,644
Yeah.

939
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:16,169
And yeah.

940
00:26:16,229 --> 00:26:17,999
So we did that on the way home.

941
00:26:18,329 --> 00:26:20,759
We talked some more, so it was nice.

942
00:26:20,764 --> 00:26:20,864
Yeah.

943
00:26:20,869 --> 00:26:21,059
Yeah.

944
00:26:21,059 --> 00:26:25,259
So, uh, you know, like we say in every
show, communication is, is everything.

945
00:26:25,319 --> 00:26:25,529
Yeah.

946
00:26:25,619 --> 00:26:27,659
And how you communicate is everything.

947
00:26:27,689 --> 00:26:28,019
Yeah.

948
00:26:28,079 --> 00:26:32,819
Pris and I have always communicated,
but we have really try to

949
00:26:32,819 --> 00:26:34,349
start trusting each other more.

950
00:26:34,349 --> 00:26:34,439
Mm-hmm.

951
00:26:34,629 --> 00:26:36,099
With how we communicate.

952
00:26:36,129 --> 00:26:36,339
Yeah.

953
00:26:36,399 --> 00:26:39,179
And the things that we say and, Hey,
you know what, take a chance on your

954
00:26:39,179 --> 00:26:43,429
spouse or your partner and, and tell
them, look I'm gonna tell you something

955
00:26:43,429 --> 00:26:44,839
that I don't feel comfortable telling.

956
00:26:44,839 --> 00:26:44,929
Mm-hmm.

957
00:26:45,169 --> 00:26:48,469
So please mind your how you react.

958
00:26:48,969 --> 00:26:49,944
Here's what I'm thinking.

959
00:26:49,944 --> 00:26:50,304
Mm-hmm.

960
00:26:50,384 --> 00:26:53,439
You know, this, I'm interested in
this person, or I wanna play with, you

961
00:26:53,439 --> 00:26:55,599
know, this person or whatever it is.

962
00:26:55,899 --> 00:26:57,129
You gotta talk about it.

963
00:26:57,189 --> 00:26:57,339
Mm-hmm.

964
00:26:57,699 --> 00:27:02,859
Uh, because if you hold it in and
then boom, over a, a weekend, you

965
00:27:03,609 --> 00:27:08,529
accidentally did what you oopsies wanting
to talk about without talking about it.

966
00:27:08,529 --> 00:27:08,649
Yeah.

967
00:27:08,649 --> 00:27:09,969
That could cause some problems.

968
00:27:09,974 --> 00:27:09,984
Yeah.

969
00:27:09,984 --> 00:27:10,224
Mm-hmm.

970
00:27:10,304 --> 00:27:11,504
That could definitely cause some problems.

971
00:27:11,504 --> 00:27:11,704
Mm-hmm.

972
00:27:11,784 --> 00:27:13,179
So communicate all the way.

973
00:27:13,284 --> 00:27:13,504
Yes.

974
00:27:13,764 --> 00:27:15,114
But all in all.

975
00:27:15,614 --> 00:27:16,904
Takeovers are fun, man.

976
00:27:16,934 --> 00:27:17,174
Yeah,

977
00:27:17,414 --> 00:27:17,594
they are.

978
00:27:17,594 --> 00:27:18,314
Takeovers are fun.

979
00:27:18,314 --> 00:27:22,094
They're, and if you've got the extra,
extra money, the extra bread to toss

980
00:27:22,094 --> 00:27:24,379
at it, even if you do one a year.

981
00:27:25,139 --> 00:27:26,369
It's pretty, pretty damn cool.

982
00:27:26,374 --> 00:27:26,544
Damn

983
00:27:26,544 --> 00:27:26,704
cool.

984
00:27:26,704 --> 00:27:27,329
It's, it's fun.

985
00:27:27,329 --> 00:27:28,049
Pretty damn cool.

986
00:27:28,199 --> 00:27:30,719
Now, how do you find hotel takeovers?

987
00:27:30,899 --> 00:27:36,979
Um, for, we usually promote it on our SDC
and I believe they have an SDC as well,

988
00:27:36,984 --> 00:27:41,299
so, yeah, so SDC, uh, which
you can find at our website.

989
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:41,509
Yeah.

990
00:27:41,569 --> 00:27:46,429
Uh, down at the very bottom you'll see
a link for S-D-C-S-D-C is a website.

991
00:27:46,434 --> 00:27:46,654
Mm-hmm.

992
00:27:46,739 --> 00:27:52,459
Uh, that is very, community based, and
you can find all sorts of parties and

993
00:27:52,459 --> 00:27:56,659
hotel takeovers and all sorts of stuff
that are happening in your community.

994
00:27:56,689 --> 00:27:56,989
Yeah.

995
00:27:57,139 --> 00:28:01,669
And, uh, a lot of these things
are open to whomever wants to go.

996
00:28:01,669 --> 00:28:01,759
Mm-hmm.

997
00:28:01,999 --> 00:28:02,629
They'll tell you.

998
00:28:02,969 --> 00:28:04,439
And they'll give you
all the information now.

999
00:28:04,589 --> 00:28:06,719
And now there are other ways as well.

1000
00:28:07,079 --> 00:28:09,899
Facebook communities, local
swinger, Facebook communities.

1001
00:28:09,899 --> 00:28:09,989
Mm-hmm.

1002
00:28:10,229 --> 00:28:11,549
If you are in those groups

1003
00:28:11,579 --> 00:28:11,669
mm-hmm.

1004
00:28:11,969 --> 00:28:15,839
Uh, oftentimes they'll post meet and
greets and they'll post hotel takeovers.

1005
00:28:15,869 --> 00:28:16,079
Yeah.

1006
00:28:16,139 --> 00:28:20,189
There are companies out there
that this is what they do.

1007
00:28:20,909 --> 00:28:21,089
Oh, wow.

1008
00:28:21,089 --> 00:28:21,179
Life.

1009
00:28:21,184 --> 00:28:22,289
Life, their lifestyle.

1010
00:28:22,689 --> 00:28:23,199
People.

1011
00:28:23,319 --> 00:28:23,649
Okay.

1012
00:28:23,649 --> 00:28:27,699
Who have started companies, and that's
all they do is they put on these hotel

1013
00:28:27,819 --> 00:28:31,159
takeover events throughout the us.

1014
00:28:31,164 --> 00:28:31,444
Nice.

1015
00:28:32,149 --> 00:28:36,109
And so how, you know, how
they reach out to everybody.

1016
00:28:36,109 --> 00:28:38,299
Normally it's, a lot
of it is word of mouth.

1017
00:28:38,659 --> 00:28:40,609
A lot of it is personal invite.

1018
00:28:40,609 --> 00:28:42,259
But then, like I said, you've got stc.

1019
00:28:42,319 --> 00:28:42,409
Mm-hmm.

1020
00:28:42,709 --> 00:28:44,509
You've got local Facebook groups mm-hmm.

1021
00:28:44,749 --> 00:28:46,669
And discord groups, things like that.

1022
00:28:46,669 --> 00:28:47,299
Telegram.

1023
00:28:47,299 --> 00:28:47,359
Yeah.

1024
00:28:47,689 --> 00:28:49,454
Uh, so however you can find them.

1025
00:28:50,304 --> 00:28:51,204
You find them.

1026
00:28:51,414 --> 00:28:51,624
Yeah.

1027
00:28:51,654 --> 00:28:55,644
And if you like, say you're on
TikTok, you look up hotel Takeover,

1028
00:28:55,974 --> 00:28:58,974
you can probably find one of those,
uh, groups that puts them on.

1029
00:28:59,304 --> 00:29:00,294
It's actually pretty cool.

1030
00:29:00,684 --> 00:29:01,314
It's pretty cool.

1031
00:29:01,314 --> 00:29:04,404
And I think, I think that's how I'm
gonna find, uh, a national one there too.

1032
00:29:04,524 --> 00:29:04,704
Nice.

1033
00:29:05,004 --> 00:29:05,994
Something to keep in mind.

1034
00:29:06,114 --> 00:29:06,474
Yeah.

1035
00:29:06,684 --> 00:29:10,854
Anyways, that's gonna do it for today's
Quickie, hotel Takeovers, how to show up

1036
00:29:10,854 --> 00:29:13,404
how to come home closer than you Arrived.

1037
00:29:13,764 --> 00:29:15,954
And the real takeaway here
is communication doesn't

1038
00:29:15,954 --> 00:29:17,334
stop at the hotel room door.

1039
00:29:17,824 --> 00:29:19,144
It goes with you everywhere.

1040
00:29:19,644 --> 00:29:20,064
Everywhere.

1041
00:29:20,184 --> 00:29:20,754
That's right.

1042
00:29:21,474 --> 00:29:27,264
And hey, if you want to experience that
energy with us, with Adam and Pris.

1043
00:29:27,869 --> 00:29:31,919
Beyond Monogamy is hosting a live
event at Club Eden, San Antonio.

1044
00:29:31,979 --> 00:29:32,189
Yep.

1045
00:29:32,279 --> 00:29:35,939
On June 20th at 9:00 PM
We're letting you know now.

1046
00:29:35,999 --> 00:29:36,809
I know It's early.

1047
00:29:37,169 --> 00:29:37,979
Mark your calendar.

1048
00:29:37,979 --> 00:29:39,089
Come find us in real life.

1049
00:29:39,419 --> 00:29:44,729
June 20th Club Eden, San Antonio, 9:00
PM Put it on your calendar right now.

1050
00:29:44,729 --> 00:29:45,479
Make your plans.

1051
00:29:45,479 --> 00:29:46,499
Pack up the babies.

1052
00:29:46,499 --> 00:29:48,179
Grab the old ladies and come out.

1053
00:29:48,654 --> 00:29:50,009
'cause we would love to see you there.

1054
00:29:50,129 --> 00:29:50,429
Yes.

1055
00:29:50,429 --> 00:29:52,199
We would genuinely want to meet you.

1056
00:29:52,199 --> 00:29:52,919
So come say hi.

1057
00:29:53,489 --> 00:29:53,909
Yeah.

1058
00:29:54,059 --> 00:29:56,729
And don't forget, you can
also catch us every Thursday.

1059
00:29:57,229 --> 00:30:00,829
At 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM
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1060
00:30:01,069 --> 00:30:04,609
And for everything else, episodes,
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1061
00:30:04,609 --> 00:30:05,759
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1062
00:30:06,259 --> 00:30:10,369
And if this episode hit for you,
leave us a review on Apple Podcast.

1063
00:30:10,669 --> 00:30:12,139
Follow us on Spotify.

1064
00:30:12,589 --> 00:30:16,399
And guys, we have so many social
media threads, you can follow us.

1065
00:30:16,399 --> 00:30:16,459
Yeah.

1066
00:30:16,789 --> 00:30:18,439
'cause this guy is amazing.

1067
00:30:18,859 --> 00:30:19,669
He does everywhere.

1068
00:30:19,729 --> 00:30:21,439
Amazing little reels.

1069
00:30:21,469 --> 00:30:22,099
So yes.

1070
00:30:22,489 --> 00:30:24,229
And you can share it with your friends.

1071
00:30:24,259 --> 00:30:25,699
Share it with someone who needs it.

1072
00:30:25,699 --> 00:30:28,869
Because we're not only
ethical non-monogamy.

1073
00:30:28,869 --> 00:30:31,269
We talk about all types of
stuff in our relationship.

1074
00:30:31,299 --> 00:30:31,809
We do.

1075
00:30:31,929 --> 00:30:36,759
Oh, and don't forget that reviews are
the lifeblood of an independent show.

1076
00:30:36,759 --> 00:30:40,049
And we are an independent show in woman.

1077
00:30:40,549 --> 00:30:43,669
Every single one of your reviews,
by the way, and thank you for that,

1078
00:30:43,674 --> 00:30:48,539
we do, we not be for us up because
it helps get the conversation going.

1079
00:30:48,539 --> 00:30:50,579
It helps put us in the algorithm

1080
00:30:50,639 --> 00:30:54,119
and you know, I don't think they know
that if they leave us a review and they

1081
00:30:54,119 --> 00:30:56,079
take a little picture of it, you can.

1082
00:30:56,309 --> 00:30:58,799
I get a prize if we pick you,

1083
00:30:58,919 --> 00:31:01,454
If you can take a picture
of the review that you put

1084
00:31:01,554 --> 00:31:06,214
And show us that you left us a review
and you submit it to us either via

1085
00:31:06,214 --> 00:31:12,344
email or any of our facets on our
website, www.beyondmonogamy.com.

1086
00:31:12,974 --> 00:31:15,434
You may get a, you may get
a little something from us.

1087
00:31:15,434 --> 00:31:15,529
A little

1088
00:31:15,529 --> 00:31:15,769
something.

1089
00:31:15,929 --> 00:31:16,069
A little something.

1090
00:31:16,069 --> 00:31:16,079
Mm-hmm.

1091
00:31:16,454 --> 00:31:20,264
I'm not gonna say what, because if I
said what, that'll ruin the mystery.

1092
00:31:20,264 --> 00:31:20,924
Yes.

1093
00:31:21,024 --> 00:31:23,844
We love that you guys have joined
us for another week, and with that,

1094
00:31:23,844 --> 00:31:26,994
we thank you guys for listening
and we will see you guys next week.

1095
00:31:27,234 --> 00:31:27,564
Bye.