We Had The Accidental Swingers On The Show and Honestly, We're Not the Same People We Were Before

Let's just start here: if you are new to the lifestyle, there is a very good chance that Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers podcast were the first voices you ever heard talk about this life out loud. They were for Adam. And if that's the case for you too, then this episode is basically a full-circle moment wrapped in a cocktail napkin from a New Orleans jazz bar.

If you have never heard of The Accidental Swingers, buckle up, because you are about to go from zero to obsessed in approximately eleven minutes. And if you already know them, then you already know this conversation was going to be good — and we are happy to report that it absolutely delivered.

Nobody Plans This Stuff. That's Kind of The Point.

The name Accidental Swingers is not a bit. It is a factual account of events. Myrina and Tristan were a totally normal married couple with totally normal neighbors and a totally normal habit of having driveway drinks and hanging out. Then one night those neighbors invited them to dinner. Then a dance club. Then another dinner. Then another dance club — this time a Latin one in downtown St. Petersburg, Florida — and then there was an Uber ride home that, let's just say, took a very interesting turn.

Nobody swapped that night. Nothing "happened." But something was clearly in the air, because three weeks later a playday was on the calendar and an entire lifestyle was quietly beginning. Not because anyone sat down and said "I think we should open our marriage." Not because of a long conversation sparked by a documentary. But because of neighbors. And dancing. And an Uber driver who politely asked if everything was okay back there.

(Everything was very okay back there.)

The first playdate did not go great, by the way. They'll tell you that themselves. They'll tell you all of it, in fact — because before they ever planned to have a podcast, Tristan was recording everything on his iPhone. The car rides. The conversations before and after events. The fights. The revelations. The moments of "Holy shit, what are we doing?" and the equally loud moments of "Holy shit, I can't believe we almost didn't do this."

Two years of that audio became the scaffolding of one of the most genuinely unique podcasts in the ENM space. You don't just hear Myrina and Tristan talk about their experiences. You hear the recordings from inside the car on the way home from a party. You hear them be tired and confused and sometimes a little messy. And then you hear them, years later, reflecting on that same moment with perspective and grace and occasionally a lot of laughter.

It's like a time machine for your relationship — except the time machine sometimes makes you a little uncomfortable and that is precisely the point.

Let's Talk About Jealousy, Because We're All Thinking About It

Adam asked Myrina and Tristan about jealousy, and they gave the most honest, useful answer we've heard on this show. Which is saying something, because we ask everyone about jealousy.

The short version: yes, they felt it. Both of them. Myrina had a boyfriend first. Tristan had a girlfriend not long after. Both of them hit the predictable wall of "Wait, I thought I was your dream person." And both of them had to sit with the uncomfortable truth that loving one person fully does not prevent you from having feelings for others — and that being on the receiving end of that truth requires either a lot of communication or a lot of pretending, and pretending doesn't work long-term.

What they landed on — slowly, messily, and with a lot of help from The Ethical Slut — was that jealousy is almost always a you problem, not a them problem. Not because your feelings aren't real. They're real. But because the path forward isn't about changing what your partner is doing. It's about understanding what that feeling is telling you about yourself, then figuring out how to say it in a way that doesn't immediately put your partner on the defensive.

Myrina's breakdown of that skill — pausing, owning the feeling, communicating it without accusation — was genuinely one of the most practical things we've had on this show. Not therapy-speak. Not a list of rules. Just two people who have actually done the work and can tell you what it looks like in practice.

Pris, for her part, related deeply to the territorial side of this. Adam, for his part, confirmed that he could watch Pris do her thing and basically cheer her on like a proud dad at a little league game. They are, in his words, "completely mismatched" when it comes to jealousy. And somehow it works.

Nobody Warned Us About Menopause and the Lifestyle, and That's a Problem

Okay, this section of the conversation hit differently. Myrina got real — like, genuinely real — about what it felt like when menopause arrived mid-lifestyle journey and basically knocked the whole thing sideways. She looked at Tristan one day and told him she couldn't even enjoy looking at him across the table, let alone contemplate going to parties and meeting new people. So they paused. They made an episode about it. And the response was overwhelming — from women who felt seen, and from men who finally had something they could show their partners as proof that this wasn't made up.

Pris jumped in here because she has been through it too — and the extra fun version, where she went through menopause while living 300 miles away from Adam during a poly chapter of their relationship that she, in her words, "tried for five years and it was good but it is not for me." Adam's commentary on the timing of all of this was, diplomatically, that he would have pumped the brakes had he known what was coming.

The bigger point Myrina made is one that doesn't get said enough: you can be a swinger for the rest of your life without necessarily having sex with strangers for the rest of your life. The lifestyle, at its core, is a community. It's authenticity. It's choosing to be around people who are living openly and honestly. And that doesn't go away just because your body is going through changes, or because caregiving has become part of your life, or because you're just in a different chapter than you were six years ago.

That framing? We're keeping it.

Naughty Nawlins: Myrina Is Literally the Headmistress and We Are Taking Notes

Here's a fun fact: Myrina didn't just attend Naughty Nawlins. She attended it three months into the lifestyle with absolutely no idea what she was doing — and then, years later, became the person who runs the entire education program for what is arguably the largest lifestyle takeover event in the world.

Naughty Nawlins 2026 runs July 8–12 in New Orleans. We are talking over 4,000 people. Multiple hotels. Multiple vibes. Piano bars, themed parties, afternoon orgies, poolside hangs, and enough programming that you could genuinely build your own choose-your-own-adventure experience without ever having to touch a dance floor at 2 AM if that's not your thing. (Adam's people. Those are Adam's people.)

Myrina and Tristan also run a Discord group every year for listeners who are attending Naughty — so you can meet people, make dinner plans, and not show up solo to a 4,000-person party wondering where to stand. Their YouTube channel also has the Naughty Guide to Naughty New Orleans live streams from the past several years, where they walk through logistics and take live questions. Essential viewing if you are going for the first time — or even the third time.

And for the record, Adam and Pris will be there. With a booth. At an event with 4,000 people. Adam, who has social anxiety. This is going to be great content, is all we're saying.

Get your tickets and info at naughtyneworleans2026.com.

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