December is magical. Lights, cocoa, parties… and the kind of bills that show up like uninvited cousins. Between Thanksgiving leftovers and Christmas budgets, it’s basically the broke Olympics out here — and yeah, that can ice your libido faster than a peppermint martini.

On this QUICKIE episode, Pris and I talked about how the holiday season turns even the kinkiest calendar into a nap calendar. Desire doesn’t just dip; it packs a suitcase. As Pris put it, “my libido is gone… it packed up the bags and left for the winter.” You’re not alone if that line felt a little too relatable.

Stress vs. Sex: The Rematch

We used to joke about “f**king the stress away,” and honestly — sometimes it works. These days, we’ve learned that stress isn’t just in our wallets, it’s in our heads and hearts, too. Pris gets quiet when she’s overwhelmed; I crack jokes and make coffee. Neither is wrong; both are clues. The trick is noticing the pattern and responding with care instead of pressure.

“Sometimes I just need a hug, not a hookup.”

That’s lifestyle gold right there. The point isn’t always to keep things “spicy” — it’s to keep things safe, honest, and connected.

Holiday Ghosts Are Real

If you listened to the episode, you heard my story: a Christmas spent homeless, walking icy streets, begging a Motel 6 for an upstairs room because downstairs was “full.” I still remember thawing out by the heater and watching A Christmas Story on loop. That memory shows up every December like a cold front. I’ve got a warm home and a beautiful family now, but the ghost still knocks.

Point is — if the holidays trigger you, you’re not broken. You’re human. Old stuff echoes. Money gets tight. Expectations pile up. And even when we’re thriving, December can still press the bruise.

Couple Tactics for the Holiday Crunch

• Name the stressor. Money? Family? Travel? Say it out loud. (It stops the stress from running the show.)
• Switch the goalpost. Connection first, sex second. Sometimes the win is a deep breath and a long hug.
• Work the reset button. Movies, walks, silly memes. Anything that gets you back to “us.”
• Don’t force the vibe. The fastest way to kill the vibe is to insist on one. Let it come back on its own time.
• Remember the community. You’re not alone — hop into our Confessional or voicemail and talk to us anytime.

Community Over Everything

Part of why Beyond Monogamy exists is because we’ve built our chosen family in this space. If you’re feeling isolated, come hang with us — in person or on the air. We meant it when we said, “You are not alone.”

Come Say Hi (Events & Live Streams)

• Texas Desires Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover — Dec 5–7, 2025
  We’ll be on-site all weekend doing a live show, meeting folks, and making memories. Day passes and rooms are still a thing — check our Events tab for details.
• Club Eden Meet & Greet: Naughty & Nice — Beyond Santa’s List — Dec 13, 2025 @ 9 PM (San Antonio)
• Full Swap Radio — Catch us every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com.

Talk to Us

Got a confession, question, or a “holiday blues” story? Hit our Beyond Monogamy Confessional or leave us a voicemail — both live on the site. Keep it anonymous if you want. We read them all and often share (with permission) what can help the whole community.

Links & Goodies

• Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com
• Affiliates: Find our SDC and 3Fun links on the website and in the show notes
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