Love, Lust & Listening Skills: Ms. Nookie Teaches Us How to Date Like Adults (and Still Flirt Like Freaks)
If you’ve ever swiped through dating apps muttering “everyone’s lying” under your breath — this episode’s for you.
When Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sat down with Ms. Nookie, creator of the Love Mastery Institute and Nookie Notes, we knew we were in for something juicy. What we didn’t know is that she’d drop an entire relationship masterclass — equal parts funny, flirty, and brutally honest.
📱 Dating in the Age of “Ask Me Anything”
According to Ms. Nookie, the first red flag on dating apps is anyone who writes “Ask me anything.” Translation: they put as much effort into their love life as they did their high-school book reports.
She breaks down how to vet potential partners without sounding like the FBI, and why your dating mindset should be: not “is this the one?” but “is this someone worth another coffee?”
Pris chimed in with the real-talk version: “Dating apps are a sea of sharks. If you don’t have boundaries, you’re chum.”
🔥 Sexy Consent Is a Thing
Adam brought up the lifestyle elephant in the room — how to talk consent without killing the vibe. Ms. Nookie’s answer?
“You don’t have to make it weird. You just have to make it yours.”
Whether you’re in a hot-tub chat or a hotel takeover, consent can actually build tension. It’s foreplay with eye contact.
💃 When Strong Women Scare Weak Men
Pris admitted she’s got that spicy Latina fire and sometimes people back off. Ms. Nookie laughed, “Girl, you just need to slow your talk. Slower words = sexier delivery.”
Apparently, talking slow hypnotizes people — and Pris is now practicing her new “slow talk” on Adam, who’s not complaining.
💣 The Big Truth Bombs
- “Monogamy isn’t natural. Anything you have to work at isn’t.”
- “Own who you are. Be unapologetic. Live it, breathe it.”
- “You can’t love anyone more than you love yourself.”
If that doesn’t belong on a t-shirt (or a Nookie Note card), we don’t know what does.
🚪 Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy & That Door Thing
Adam asked if chivalry is still alive. Ms. Nookie said yes — women just forget how to receive. Her pro-tip: “Next time you’re out, let a man open a can of soda for you. Watch how happy he gets.”
Adam’s now opening every door like it’s his Olympic event. Pris is… letting him. (Sometimes.)
🃏 The Nookie Notes Magic
Imagine conversation cards for couples that aren’t cringe. That’s Nookie Notes — designed to help couples or daters talk about sex, boundaries, aftercare, or reconnect after conflict. Basically, therapy — without the clipboard or the awkward eye contact.
We’re officially starting a petition for “Nookie Notes: Swinger Edition.”
❤️ Why We Love Ms. Nookie
She’s equal parts educator and hype-woman. She can turn “communication skills” into “foreplay language.” And her goal is simple:
“Big life changes come from small mindset changes.”
After an hour of laughing, nodding, and re-evaluating our entire dating strategy, Adam and Pris agreed — this is one guest we’ll definitely have back.
✨ Connect with Ms. Nookie
- 🌐 Website: https://msnookie.com
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Adam
Co-host
Adam is the bald, bearded, caffeine-fueled voice behind Beyond Monogamy — a guy who never expected to become a spokesperson for ethical non-monogamy… but here we are. After more than a decade navigating the lifestyle with his wife and co-host Pris, he’s learned a ton about communication, boundaries, jealousy (yep, he has it too), and what it really takes to build a relationship that feels like home and adventure at the same time.
Whether he’s diving into deep relationship conversations, calling out the myths the lifestyle loves to cling to, or just hyping up couples to choose their joy unapologetically, Adam brings honesty, humor, and tattoo-level commitment to every episode. If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just us?”, he’s the guy handing you a coffee and saying, “Nah — welcome to the club.”
Beyond Monogamy is his way of making sure nobody has to explore this world alone. Because love gets bigger when community gets louder.
📍 Based in Texas
☕ Early-morning gym rat
🎙 Podcast host, connection-builder, lifestyle storyteller
💭 Motto: “We don’t break rules — we make better ones.”
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