In this powerful episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Jessica Fern — author of Polysecure, Polywise, and Transforming the Shame Triangle — and David Cooley, restorative-justice facilitator and emotional-intelligence educator.
Together, we unpack how attachment styles, jealousy, resentment, and shame shape connection inside and outside of non-monogamy. We get into healing reactive patterns, building emotional capacity, and what repair looks like in real life.
Topics include:
The Shame Triangle and how to break pattern loops
Why resentment is jealousy’s sneaky cousin
Communicating needs without blame or shutdown
What “capacity” really means in polyamory and parenting
Practical tools for secure attachment and repair
Guest links:
Jessica: https://JessicaFern.com
Books: Polysecure, Polywise, Transforming the Shame Triangle
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