Pregnancy in the Lifestyle: Fetishes, Scares & the Conversations You Need to Have

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Alright y'all, before we
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And.

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Hello, and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And today on our Wednesday
quickie, we are gonna be discussing

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pregnancy in the lifestyle.

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Oh, oh, hello?

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Yeah.

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Wait, I was trying to do, ladies not

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sound like Lucy.

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Yeah, no, that, that's
exactly how you sounded.

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Oh my goodness.

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Yeah.

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That was horrible.

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Um, yeah, no, I actually, uh, this is
inspired, uh, through a friend of mine.

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She had reached out and we
were talking, uh, it's just a

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random question that came out.

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I guess her and her husband, they're
gonna be, uh, meeting up with a, a couple.

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Mm-hmm.

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And they've been talking.

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Via Messenger, and, uh, it was
revealed the, one of the woman

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said that she was pregnant.

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Oh didn't, I don't think she said how far
along, but she was, that she was pregnant.

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I'm

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getting seven months pregnant
in case you don't notice

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now this and the situation.

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You know, she was just kind of, asking
about, you know, has this come up

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before and this and that, and so it just
brought up a really good point and a

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discussion that's not really discussed.

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Very often when it comes to
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And there's two different aspects to this.

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Uh, the first one is, we're gonna start
with is the actual premise of what

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we were just talking about and we're
talking about fetishizing pregnancy.

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Uh, you know, because, and that,
that was something that I was talking

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about before was, uh, you know,
pregnant women are fetishized, uh,

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and, and, and, you know, that's.

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People find it hot.

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Not everybody subscribes to
this, but it is a kink, uh, that

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people do subscribe to, um hmm.

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And so I first noticed this when I
was younger back in our hometown.

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I was a, it was a young book, uh, and, and
I used to go to a, a certain strip club,

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Uhhuh,

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uh, and I remember that there was a girl
there who was like eight months pregnant.

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She was on the pole, you know?

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Okay.

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Yeah.

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Mama's

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gotta get

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money

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from somewhere.

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She was dancing.

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Hey, in all respect, that's fine.

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Yeah.

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You know, like I, everybody's got a thing,
but what the reason why it always stayed

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with me throughout these years was that
woman made four times the amount of money

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that any other dancer made that night.

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I remember I was friends with a
waitress who worked there, and her

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and I were talking about it and she
was like, oh yeah, this woman, she,

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she bounces from club to club and
she'll clean up every single time.

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Wow.

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Because men really

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wanna

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help her

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out.

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Like maybe

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wanna help her out.

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I mean,

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I mean, I don't know.

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Poor lady already has to dance.

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I mean,

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I don't,

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ladies, we already have to
give birth and hold a baby.

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I don't.

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And then we gotta be on pole.

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I mean, come on.

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I don't think that that's,

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oh,

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the way they're looking at it, I
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oh man, I need to give this,
this poor girl a 20 mean that she

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can do.

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I think it's more sexually fetishized.

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Oh

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my bad guys.

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Sorry.

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And I've, I've asked friends
about this before, who I know

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who dig, that sort of thing.

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I know that the, there's a lot of
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boobs and how they become, you
know, big and that sort of thing.

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I mean, I think,

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Hey, we don't yuck anyone's,
no, what I'm saying

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is like, I think every woman is
fetishized in some way just because

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that's true.

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It's.

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Let's just not get into that part.

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it is what it's,

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well, it's what it's, you know,

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misogyny at his best.

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But realistically it, it's, it's
something that I have seen in different,

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I mean, I have two, I I've,

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I, you know, on, on the apps, you know,

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on the apps.

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On the apps.

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Like three fun, you
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Uhhuh,

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uh, you know, when you.

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Swipe through it to see who's, there's
some people that are very clear that,

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they're pregnant, they're expecting, and

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really,

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hopefully that's your thing, you know?

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Ah.

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Now it's my understanding, I guess,
I mean, I know this from third

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party, but when women are pregnant,
they're hormones are off the chain.

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But you also can have oral sex.

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Yeah.

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Really?

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Really?

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Women, you should they, that's like
the, I don't know if that's still a

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major thing, but when you're pregnant,
you, you cannot have it done on you.

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I was not

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aware.

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Because an air bubble can travel up

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wow.

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Into your area.

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I'm not really sure the whole thing.

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I mean, I was pregnant.

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I, I didn't have sex with anybody.

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So it's an accident and
it's gonna stay that way.

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Um, yeah.

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So I know that's dangerous.

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That's why I'm like, wow.

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And so I, you know, like I said,
there's there and, and there's

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a lot of, in porn culture.

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And I see it a lot in porn Uhhuh.

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I mean, there's, it exists and, you know,
there's, there's pregnant women that are

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very visibly showing that are doing porn

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uhhuh.

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Um, you know, so there's, there's
a fetishizing that's there.

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And like I said, I've, I've
seen it in couples before.

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And like I said, I. That's their thing.

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That's

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Oh yeah.

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Nobody's jacking your yum.

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No, you do your thing.

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I'm not talking shit about it at all.

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It is, yeah.

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It, it's a thing.

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Uh, but it is definitely, like
I said it's a thing, and how

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prominent is it in the lifestyle?

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Well, I've seen, postings, but I
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pretty much as far as it's gone.

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I don't think we've ever
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Visibly

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pregnant in our area.

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Would you play with
somebody who's pregnant?

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Well, so I was thinking about
that, that really brought up a

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big plus.

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I mean, I don't, I don't
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Uh, you know, at, at some point
I would probably be like, nah,

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you know, I'll sit this one out.

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Coach.

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And it's not so much.

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I don't know.

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It becomes a maternal thing.

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Yes.

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And I don't know if I don't, yeah.

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Know if it's an Oedipus rec, I
don't know how deep this shit goes.

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So I'd just rather stay the fuck away
from it, you know what I'm saying?

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I can probably look past it at,
at a certain point, but then

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after a while I'm just gonna mind
fuck myself to the 10th degree.

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And I would just rather not,
you know, let's just, just,

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let's just not do that're

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just smart man.

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Let's just not do that.

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Let's not go down that route because
therapy's taught me anything.

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It's, you don't open the door.

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You don't even open if you really
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box.

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Yeah.

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Forget it.

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I'm not gonna go there.

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Don't ask what's in the box.

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Yeah.

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So I think a lot of it has to do
with, you know how much I know.

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I mean,

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I know that

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it's so if, if I know that she's pregnant,
even if she's not showing, I don't know.

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It might be tough if she's not showing
and I don't know that she's pregnant.

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Well, obviously I didn't know.

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So how could I be discerning about that?

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Right.

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If she's slightly showing, like it
looks like a, maybe a beer belly.

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Yeah.

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I'm cool with that.

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I think I could see past that.

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I'd be like, ha, she'd just
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a beer belly.

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You know what I'm saying?

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I mean, us women look past the beer belly.

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So

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my husband, I do, I don't
have a problem with it.

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I, I love the curves on my ladies man.

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Just that little pudge it, you know, it's
just kind of like, you know what I mean?

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Yes.

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And so I, it's like I
could look past that.

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I could be like, well, maybe
she's had a couple tacos.

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I'm, I dig it, you know, but.

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Once it reaches a certain point, it's
like, I know she very clearly has a child.

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Yeah.

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Uh, then I'm kind of like, eh, it's off

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kicking you.

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Maybe, probably not.

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Yeah.

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You know, I'll just stay here.

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That's

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not my thing.

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No,

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no,

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no.

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Not my, I would figure not.

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I would figure not.

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No.

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But yeah, it's, I

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mean, I get it.

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Been there

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and see

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that

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your answer was much shorter than mine.

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Yeah.

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Um.

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I know a lot of men find it sexy.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I find it.

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00:08:24,969 --> 00:08:28,219
I think the maternal in me just
comes out and be like she's a mama.

260
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Leave her alone.

261
00:08:29,299 --> 00:08:31,639
I just know I'm too fucked
up to really explore that.

262
00:08:31,639 --> 00:08:32,874
I'm just like, no, I'm good.

263
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I already got, I'm already
fucked up so much in the head.

264
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I'd rather not open that door.

265
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This is

266
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so true.

267
00:08:39,139 --> 00:08:40,539
Just keep away from that one.

268
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Uh, so yeah, that I think it's.

269
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It's something that
I've always seen though.

270
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I mean all the way back to
like the Craigslist days.

271
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You know what, you know what I'm saying?

272
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Mm-hmm.

273
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You guys that have been in a while
know about the Craigslist days.

274
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That's when everybody would go searching
on Craigslist because they didn't wanna

275
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pay for God for sites like s Ls and a fff.

276
00:09:00,179 --> 00:09:02,999
Uh, you know, I was one of
those guys, what can I say?

277
00:09:03,029 --> 00:09:05,969
But we didn't get anybody off of
Craigslist, but I used to always look

278
00:09:05,969 --> 00:09:07,529
through it to see what was out there.

279
00:09:08,219 --> 00:09:10,619
And I don't know what it was about
searching through Craigslist.

280
00:09:10,619 --> 00:09:11,699
It just made you feel dirty,

281
00:09:12,569 --> 00:09:13,139
yeah.

282
00:09:13,379 --> 00:09:14,339
Just made you feel dirty.

283
00:09:14,609 --> 00:09:15,239
I didn't care for it.

284
00:09:15,239 --> 00:09:15,299
Yeah.

285
00:09:15,789 --> 00:09:20,059
But I remember I used to see a lot
of ads that would basically say,

286
00:09:20,059 --> 00:09:23,299
you know, my wife is pregnant and
I'm looking for somebody to come

287
00:09:23,599 --> 00:09:23,869
Yeah.

288
00:09:23,869 --> 00:09:24,739
Have sex with her.

289
00:09:24,989 --> 00:09:27,838
Uh, and I remember thinking, wow, why?

290
00:09:28,678 --> 00:09:29,188
Yeah.

291
00:09:29,188 --> 00:09:29,553
It, I.

292
00:09:30,133 --> 00:09:34,193
Like even with my, my hot wife I love
the whole hot wife thing, but I, I

293
00:09:34,193 --> 00:09:38,063
think if you were pregnant, I think
I'd want us to just take a step back

294
00:09:38,183 --> 00:09:38,543
Yeah.

295
00:09:38,813 --> 00:09:39,563
Until after the

296
00:09:39,918 --> 00:09:40,318
frailness.

297
00:09:40,458 --> 00:09:40,958
The, yeah.

298
00:09:40,963 --> 00:09:44,933
You just think you, you go into
mommy mode or, or I, I go into mommy

299
00:09:44,933 --> 00:09:46,193
mode and you'd go into dad mode.

300
00:09:46,253 --> 00:09:46,793
It's just, yeah.

301
00:09:46,793 --> 00:09:48,713
It's kind of, it's just like,
it's, it's hard to separate it.

302
00:09:48,743 --> 00:09:49,013
Yeah.

303
00:09:49,013 --> 00:09:49,673
Sometimes.

304
00:09:49,673 --> 00:09:49,733
Yeah.

305
00:09:49,733 --> 00:09:52,638
You know, I mean, that's just from a
parental st uh, state, you know, we got.

306
00:09:53,348 --> 00:09:54,098
Five kids.

307
00:09:54,098 --> 00:09:57,758
And so we've both been through the
grinder when it comes to, we've, we've

308
00:09:57,758 --> 00:10:02,248
had to raise these kids, for so long,
and it's just, I, it's even then,

309
00:10:02,248 --> 00:10:06,958
like sometimes we'll meet somebody
really young or they act really young.

310
00:10:06,958 --> 00:10:07,018
Yeah.

311
00:10:07,518 --> 00:10:09,528
They make us totally feel like parents.

312
00:10:09,533 --> 00:10:09,553
Yeah.

313
00:10:09,553 --> 00:10:09,753
No.

314
00:10:09,758 --> 00:10:13,248
And then I'm like, ah, you know, and
that's not even, that's without pregnancy.

315
00:10:13,248 --> 00:10:13,458
Yeah.

316
00:10:13,518 --> 00:10:13,998
That's just

317
00:10:13,998 --> 00:10:14,448
exactly

318
00:10:14,478 --> 00:10:14,688
us.

319
00:10:14,688 --> 00:10:16,548
We start turning into
parents and it's like,

320
00:10:16,848 --> 00:10:17,328
no, thank you.

321
00:10:17,328 --> 00:10:19,218
You know what they start saying?

322
00:10:19,218 --> 00:10:22,578
They start telling us stories,
and I'm like are you serious?

323
00:10:22,658 --> 00:10:22,868
Yeah.

324
00:10:22,898 --> 00:10:23,948
That's very dangerous.

325
00:10:24,128 --> 00:10:24,248
Yeah.

326
00:10:24,248 --> 00:10:24,578
You know?

327
00:10:24,668 --> 00:10:27,038
And if I have to say that to
somebody at a party, then I just feel

328
00:10:27,038 --> 00:10:28,478
like an, I feel like the old guy.

329
00:10:28,478 --> 00:10:28,928
Mm-hmm.

330
00:10:28,934 --> 00:10:29,173
And then.

331
00:10:29,803 --> 00:10:31,813
Just take me to the back
and shoot you, shoot me.

332
00:10:31,873 --> 00:10:33,913
Yeah, no, I, I agree with you.

333
00:10:34,123 --> 00:10:34,303
Yeah.

334
00:10:34,333 --> 00:10:40,873
It's not it's not something I would
go for and if I didn't know and found

335
00:10:40,873 --> 00:10:42,223
out later, that would be different.

336
00:10:42,733 --> 00:10:46,273
But if I can visibly see that
the woman is pregnant, no.

337
00:10:46,773 --> 00:10:48,903
I would have to be like, oh yeah.

338
00:10:49,403 --> 00:10:50,213
Not my thing.

339
00:10:50,213 --> 00:10:50,223
Yeah.

340
00:10:50,983 --> 00:10:51,283
Yeah.

341
00:10:51,493 --> 00:10:55,423
Now, if she wasn't showing, but you knew

342
00:10:55,603 --> 00:10:56,413
I still Yeah,

343
00:10:56,418 --> 00:10:56,908
yeah, yeah.

344
00:10:56,913 --> 00:10:57,103
You'd

345
00:10:57,103 --> 00:10:58,153
still be steadfast

346
00:10:58,153 --> 00:10:58,303
with it.

347
00:10:58,308 --> 00:10:58,318
Yeah.

348
00:10:58,318 --> 00:10:59,188
She was delicate for me.

349
00:10:59,418 --> 00:10:59,708
Yeah.

350
00:10:59,968 --> 00:11:00,788
That's interesting.

351
00:11:00,953 --> 00:11:01,253
Yeah.

352
00:11:01,283 --> 00:11:03,413
'cause the maternal will
click in and I'm like, no.

353
00:11:03,913 --> 00:11:07,573
Yeah, that's a, that's a tricky
line to, uh, kind follow.

354
00:11:07,573 --> 00:11:07,933
You can, I mean,

355
00:11:08,623 --> 00:11:09,883
I don't know all the rules.

356
00:11:09,883 --> 00:11:10,573
I, you know, I know

357
00:11:10,573 --> 00:11:12,313
as a woman, you know a lot more about

358
00:11:12,313 --> 00:11:12,943
this than I do.

359
00:11:12,943 --> 00:11:13,033
When

360
00:11:13,033 --> 00:11:14,893
you're pregnant, you can't have oral sex.

361
00:11:14,893 --> 00:11:17,713
Like, you should not have
oral sex done on you.

362
00:11:17,943 --> 00:11:21,558
Um, you can't eat sushi, so

363
00:11:21,788 --> 00:11:22,078
yeah.

364
00:11:22,078 --> 00:11:22,638
What the fuck?

365
00:11:23,138 --> 00:11:24,363
You can't eat sushi.

366
00:11:24,723 --> 00:11:25,473
Oh my god.

367
00:11:25,803 --> 00:11:31,793
Lunch meat is off the table, so there
won't be no pussy eating either.

368
00:11:31,793 --> 00:11:32,093
So you

369
00:11:32,218 --> 00:11:32,298
go,

370
00:11:32,298 --> 00:11:32,658
there you go.

371
00:11:33,158 --> 00:11:33,938
I mean, don't make sense.

372
00:11:34,053 --> 00:11:34,943
Connect the dots.

373
00:11:35,773 --> 00:11:36,903
Connect the dots.

374
00:11:37,303 --> 00:11:40,573
I don't know, I. I would feel, I
mean, I've seen people fuck at the

375
00:11:40,573 --> 00:11:44,773
clubs and at, and it's a lot of
roughness and I mean, I know you like

376
00:11:44,773 --> 00:11:49,573
it, like that and whatever, but no,
I would, I it would fuck me up too.

377
00:11:50,173 --> 00:11:50,503
Yeah.

378
00:11:50,628 --> 00:11:50,918
Yeah.

379
00:11:50,923 --> 00:11:51,253
Yeah.

380
00:11:51,283 --> 00:11:53,083
I mean, it's not showing,
not, it's not like it would be

381
00:11:53,083 --> 00:11:54,613
unsafe for the baby, obviously.

382
00:11:54,853 --> 00:11:54,973
Of

383
00:11:54,973 --> 00:11:55,183
course not.

384
00:11:55,513 --> 00:11:59,113
I, I would assume most people
are are very careful Yeah.

385
00:11:59,113 --> 00:12:00,398
With what they're doing, but

386
00:12:00,578 --> 00:12:00,798
no,

387
00:12:00,818 --> 00:12:01,038
um.

388
00:12:01,918 --> 00:12:06,188
I think outside of that, if we have that
opportunity, I think that was something

389
00:12:06,188 --> 00:12:07,358
that we talked about the other day.

390
00:12:07,358 --> 00:12:07,418
Yeah.

391
00:12:07,418 --> 00:12:09,878
If we had that opportunity,
we would most likely say no.

392
00:12:09,998 --> 00:12:10,268
Yeah.

393
00:12:10,398 --> 00:12:15,208
And not for any other reason, except for
the fact that we're just man, that it.

394
00:12:15,748 --> 00:12:20,608
Last thing I want is to have a hard on and
then have that parental switch turned on.

395
00:12:20,643 --> 00:12:20,933
Nope.

396
00:12:21,088 --> 00:12:26,158
And then be like, oh, nope, that's not
a, that's a very weird place to go.

397
00:12:26,158 --> 00:12:27,208
I don't even want to go there.

398
00:12:27,298 --> 00:12:27,898
You know what I mean?

399
00:12:28,258 --> 00:12:29,218
Uh, so that's just.

400
00:12:29,938 --> 00:12:30,958
I would stay away from it,

401
00:12:31,288 --> 00:12:31,528
yeah.

402
00:12:32,028 --> 00:12:32,628
Me personally.

403
00:12:33,318 --> 00:12:34,368
I mean, same.

404
00:12:34,548 --> 00:12:35,058
I wouldn't,

405
00:12:35,058 --> 00:12:36,168
I'm so glad and that's why we're

406
00:12:36,168 --> 00:12:36,498
married.

407
00:12:36,498 --> 00:12:39,408
I wouldn't, I mean, I, 'cause I,
I would be like, oh, put your feet

408
00:12:39,408 --> 00:12:40,818
up and let me massage your feet.

409
00:12:40,868 --> 00:12:41,648
Relax mama.

410
00:12:41,653 --> 00:12:41,873
Yeah.

411
00:12:42,128 --> 00:12:42,338
Yeah.

412
00:12:42,338 --> 00:12:43,778
I'd be like, lemme go get you lemonade.

413
00:12:44,108 --> 00:12:44,498
Yes.

414
00:12:44,498 --> 00:12:45,548
What do you need now?

415
00:12:45,608 --> 00:12:45,968
That's so

416
00:12:45,968 --> 00:12:46,388
old time.

417
00:12:46,778 --> 00:12:47,918
Get you lemonade, lemonade.

418
00:12:48,638 --> 00:12:48,728
And

419
00:12:49,373 --> 00:12:52,448
sit in a rock and sit in my
rocking chair on my deck.

420
00:12:52,518 --> 00:12:52,818
Yeah.

421
00:12:52,818 --> 00:12:57,168
No, I started going into nesting mode
and she's like, this is not your kid.

422
00:12:57,228 --> 00:12:57,798
Oh my bad.

423
00:12:58,298 --> 00:12:59,108
Have you done the laundry?

424
00:12:59,378 --> 00:13:00,638
I would be mom mode.

425
00:13:00,638 --> 00:13:00,818
No.

426
00:13:00,823 --> 00:13:00,923
Yeah.

427
00:13:01,088 --> 00:13:01,658
I just can't.

428
00:13:01,658 --> 00:13:04,088
'cause then I wanna talk
about the baby and Nah.

429
00:13:04,328 --> 00:13:05,048
Yeah, dude.

430
00:13:05,048 --> 00:13:05,858
Don't do that.

431
00:13:05,858 --> 00:13:06,578
Oh my gosh.

432
00:13:06,608 --> 00:13:06,818
No.

433
00:13:06,818 --> 00:13:07,448
Stay away from that.

434
00:13:07,778 --> 00:13:08,443
Totally turn it off.

435
00:13:08,943 --> 00:13:10,743
Yeah, that would be, that
would be rough for us.

436
00:13:10,743 --> 00:13:11,703
Yeah, that would be rough for us.

437
00:13:11,703 --> 00:13:14,258
Now I could be friends like that, that Oh,

438
00:13:14,258 --> 00:13:14,418
of

439
00:13:14,418 --> 00:13:16,323
course we not friends with
now we're, we're strictly

440
00:13:16,323 --> 00:13:18,153
talking sexual here, obviously.

441
00:13:18,543 --> 00:13:21,033
Uh, that wouldn't stop us from
like, hanging out with them,

442
00:13:21,033 --> 00:13:23,583
you know, not, it would be a
gentle, it would be a gentle No.

443
00:13:24,043 --> 00:13:27,523
But we can still hang out and, you know,
if you wanna watch us, you're welcome to.

444
00:13:27,523 --> 00:13:27,583
Yeah.

445
00:13:27,583 --> 00:13:28,753
You know, we can parallel Blake.

446
00:13:29,593 --> 00:13:29,983
Yeah,

447
00:13:30,223 --> 00:13:31,393
that would be, that could be my, but

448
00:13:31,393 --> 00:13:33,193
if he's rough with you, I'm
gonna tell your man to stop.

449
00:13:33,943 --> 00:13:34,678
Be like, stop it.

450
00:13:34,698 --> 00:13:35,278
You can't do that.

451
00:13:35,338 --> 00:13:35,558
Hey.

452
00:13:35,888 --> 00:13:36,638
Take it easy.

453
00:13:36,758 --> 00:13:36,878
Yes.

454
00:13:36,878 --> 00:13:37,718
You can't go down on Earth.

455
00:13:37,718 --> 00:13:38,018
Stop it.

456
00:13:38,518 --> 00:13:38,758
Yeah,

457
00:13:39,408 --> 00:13:39,768
Yeah.

458
00:13:40,068 --> 00:13:41,478
It's a thing guys.

459
00:13:41,478 --> 00:13:42,288
It is a thing.

460
00:13:42,708 --> 00:13:43,908
Probably just blew your mind there.

461
00:13:44,178 --> 00:13:46,938
Well, I thought when you were
mentioning the pregnancy, SC Pregnancy

462
00:13:47,058 --> 00:13:49,998
Show, I was like, oh my God, did
someone accidentally get pregnant?

463
00:13:50,058 --> 00:13:51,408
Well, that's where we're going.

464
00:13:51,618 --> 00:13:52,548
Ooh.

465
00:13:52,548 --> 00:13:53,178
Part two.

466
00:13:53,568 --> 00:13:54,168
Part two.

467
00:13:54,788 --> 00:13:56,288
Not, not recently.

468
00:13:56,288 --> 00:13:57,548
Don't, don't get me wrong.

469
00:13:57,548 --> 00:13:59,278
Not recently, but you know, I have heard.

470
00:13:59,938 --> 00:14:03,208
On occasion, a story from a
person or two, this or that

471
00:14:03,688 --> 00:14:05,518
where there is a pregnancy scare?

472
00:14:05,728 --> 00:14:05,998
Yeah.

473
00:14:06,448 --> 00:14:07,558
And it it's come up.

474
00:14:07,738 --> 00:14:07,798
Yeah.

475
00:14:07,798 --> 00:14:11,638
Now, obviously there's a lot of
people out there who are, um,

476
00:14:12,358 --> 00:14:14,878
steadfast on condoms only rule.

477
00:14:15,418 --> 00:14:19,258
Uh, there are others who have
different ways of playing that

478
00:14:19,268 --> 00:14:21,953
they still play safe on the norm,
but, uh, you know, things happen.

479
00:14:22,453 --> 00:14:22,843
Happen.

480
00:14:23,083 --> 00:14:24,313
We had a semi,

481
00:14:24,463 --> 00:14:27,823
I actually ha, I was asked
about a very specific situation,

482
00:14:27,853 --> 00:14:27,883
Uhhuh,

483
00:14:28,813 --> 00:14:35,063
which was, even if we use a condom if
they, say the condom breaks or something

484
00:14:35,063 --> 00:14:40,103
happens and they still, there's, has
this ever come up where they say, oh

485
00:14:40,103 --> 00:14:41,513
well I might be pregnant or whatever.

486
00:14:41,513 --> 00:14:43,043
Like, what do you do?

487
00:14:43,493 --> 00:14:44,663
So this was funny.

488
00:14:44,663 --> 00:14:49,503
We had a situation, us, where
we played with a couple, and

489
00:14:49,563 --> 00:14:51,813
I wanna say the condom broke.

490
00:14:52,323 --> 00:14:52,593
Yeah.

491
00:14:52,743 --> 00:14:53,673
When you used it.

492
00:14:54,603 --> 00:14:54,903
Yeah.

493
00:14:55,113 --> 00:14:57,963
And you pulled off, pulled it
off, and you're like, shit.

494
00:14:57,963 --> 00:14:58,653
The condom broke.

495
00:14:58,953 --> 00:15:01,383
And they were just like, all cool now.

496
00:15:01,383 --> 00:15:03,993
But two weeks later she
says, oh, I'm pregnant.

497
00:15:03,993 --> 00:15:08,783
And I looked at Adam and I was like,
yeah, if that's yours, it's not yours.

498
00:15:08,783 --> 00:15:08,963
I went,

499
00:15:09,803 --> 00:15:10,253
yeah.

500
00:15:10,373 --> 00:15:13,043
It wasn't, it it, we didn't
even have to cross that bridge.

501
00:15:13,043 --> 00:15:13,833
It was her husband's, but.

502
00:15:14,333 --> 00:15:16,913
I remember thinking, yeah,
no, we're not doing that.

503
00:15:17,273 --> 00:15:18,833
That would be a sorry.

504
00:15:19,673 --> 00:15:21,893
And believe me, we've had
these conversations in the very

505
00:15:21,893 --> 00:15:24,053
beginning where he was like,
well, I'm, I have to be a dad.

506
00:15:24,083 --> 00:15:25,913
Nah, you didn't have any kids with me.

507
00:15:25,913 --> 00:15:27,203
We're not having kids with anybody.

508
00:15:27,203 --> 00:15:27,953
Like, sorry,

509
00:15:28,283 --> 00:15:28,493
I get

510
00:15:28,493 --> 00:15:29,903
we'll sign what you need.

511
00:15:29,903 --> 00:15:31,583
We will just not disown.

512
00:15:31,583 --> 00:15:33,323
But you have all the parental rights.

513
00:15:33,323 --> 00:15:34,613
We are, we're not doing that.

514
00:15:34,673 --> 00:15:35,033
No.

515
00:15:35,153 --> 00:15:35,453
Yeah.

516
00:15:35,553 --> 00:15:38,073
So that's the only
scare I think we've had.

517
00:15:38,073 --> 00:15:41,358
But I, we do know of people who
have had like True, I know a lot.

518
00:15:41,718 --> 00:15:41,958
I, a lot

519
00:15:41,958 --> 00:15:42,438
of people, yeah.

520
00:15:42,543 --> 00:15:46,613
Know of people who have actually
got their par play partner

521
00:15:46,613 --> 00:15:50,483
pregnant and it ended in divorce.

522
00:15:50,513 --> 00:15:50,573
Yeah.

523
00:15:51,293 --> 00:15:51,563
Yeah.

524
00:15:52,373 --> 00:15:54,743
Which is sad 'cause he's old as fuck.

525
00:15:54,953 --> 00:15:55,933
Hey, she was young.

526
00:15:55,933 --> 00:15:56,023
Mean.

527
00:15:56,523 --> 00:15:57,038
But, but

528
00:15:57,038 --> 00:15:59,048
those, I mean that these are things,

529
00:15:59,548 --> 00:15:59,748
I mean, it happens.

530
00:15:59,748 --> 00:16:02,143
These are things that, I mean, you're
playing it, it, if you're worried

531
00:16:02,143 --> 00:16:07,663
about STDs and all that good stuff
you should be worried about, about

532
00:16:07,663 --> 00:16:11,143
things like that, like condoms
breaking and what ifs like that.

533
00:16:11,203 --> 00:16:13,483
You should have those open conversations.

534
00:16:13,983 --> 00:16:14,943
Before they happen.

535
00:16:15,033 --> 00:16:15,333
Yeah.

536
00:16:15,423 --> 00:16:17,433
I mean, obviously, um, you

537
00:16:17,433 --> 00:16:18,693
can see where our conversations go.

538
00:16:18,903 --> 00:16:22,773
The easiest way would be to
just condoms all the time.

539
00:16:22,773 --> 00:16:22,983
Yeah.

540
00:16:23,063 --> 00:16:23,333
Yeah,

541
00:16:23,483 --> 00:16:26,873
if you, you know, there are people
who work something out with people

542
00:16:26,873 --> 00:16:28,373
that they play regularly with.

543
00:16:28,493 --> 00:16:31,883
Uh, you know, when it comes to testing
and stuff, and maybe there's vasectomies

544
00:16:31,883 --> 00:16:33,443
involved and you know, things like that.

545
00:16:33,443 --> 00:16:34,133
Oh yeah,

546
00:16:34,133 --> 00:16:34,143
yeah.

547
00:16:34,198 --> 00:16:35,418
And, you know, that's, Hey.

548
00:16:35,918 --> 00:16:39,188
Consenting adults will consent an adult.

549
00:16:39,188 --> 00:16:39,968
You know what I'm saying?

550
00:16:39,968 --> 00:16:40,028
Yeah.

551
00:16:40,358 --> 00:16:41,828
Uh, so that's cool.

552
00:16:41,828 --> 00:16:42,848
That's cool that you can do it.

553
00:16:42,848 --> 00:16:49,808
But if you are not in a position to
have a child, if you know that you

554
00:16:49,808 --> 00:16:54,998
are at risk at maybe, there's a, they
could be a slip or something like that.

555
00:16:55,268 --> 00:16:56,048
Tread lightly.

556
00:16:56,053 --> 00:16:56,223
Mm-hmm.

557
00:16:56,308 --> 00:16:57,068
You know what I mean?

558
00:16:57,458 --> 00:16:58,778
Can a, a condom break.

559
00:16:58,778 --> 00:16:58,988
Yeah.

560
00:16:59,048 --> 00:16:59,738
Obviously.

561
00:16:59,798 --> 00:16:59,948
Yeah.

562
00:16:59,948 --> 00:17:00,788
These things happen.

563
00:17:00,878 --> 00:17:01,118
Yeah.

564
00:17:01,208 --> 00:17:05,648
Uh, and in that situation, uh, it could
have escalated, it didn't, thank goodness.

565
00:17:06,218 --> 00:17:08,328
But, you know, these
things they can happen.

566
00:17:08,448 --> 00:17:08,658
Mm-hmm.

567
00:17:08,853 --> 00:17:09,353
Uh, because.

568
00:17:09,853 --> 00:17:11,563
They can happen in the vanilla world.

569
00:17:11,563 --> 00:17:11,653
Mm-hmm.

570
00:17:12,073 --> 00:17:13,758
So they're just gonna happen
just the same out here.

571
00:17:13,758 --> 00:17:13,918
They can

572
00:17:13,918 --> 00:17:14,503
happen anywhere.

573
00:17:14,593 --> 00:17:14,683
Yeah.

574
00:17:14,683 --> 00:17:18,053
You know, uh, but the key
is to definitely be safe.

575
00:17:18,123 --> 00:17:21,003
And you cross that bridge
when it gets there.

576
00:17:21,333 --> 00:17:22,203
If it gets there.

577
00:17:22,263 --> 00:17:22,623
Yes.

578
00:17:22,803 --> 00:17:23,073
Uh,

579
00:17:23,073 --> 00:17:23,793
be very careful.

580
00:17:23,793 --> 00:17:24,513
Just be safe.

581
00:17:24,543 --> 00:17:24,873
Yeah.

582
00:17:24,873 --> 00:17:25,473
Like he said.

583
00:17:25,923 --> 00:17:26,253
Yeah.

584
00:17:26,253 --> 00:17:26,673
You know?

585
00:17:26,673 --> 00:17:32,753
Now, uh, in a situation, in a hypothetical
situation, let's build this for a second

586
00:17:33,683 --> 00:17:35,693
now, hypothetical situation where.

587
00:17:36,328 --> 00:17:37,648
It's me, ya, Mario.

588
00:17:37,648 --> 00:17:38,698
And it's me and you.

589
00:17:39,118 --> 00:17:45,958
And we play with another couple Uhhuh
and, you know, condoms are involved,

590
00:17:45,958 --> 00:17:47,308
but like I said, something happens.

591
00:17:47,308 --> 00:17:47,398
Mm-hmm.

592
00:17:47,638 --> 00:17:49,018
A condom breaks or Yeah.

593
00:17:49,018 --> 00:17:50,908
Whatever the situation may be.

594
00:17:51,718 --> 00:17:56,208
And it comes back like that and it's
like, hey, you know, i'm late or whatever.

595
00:17:56,238 --> 00:17:56,328
Mm-hmm.

596
00:17:57,258 --> 00:17:58,458
Uh, what's the move?

597
00:17:58,758 --> 00:17:59,958
What are, what are we doing?

598
00:18:00,198 --> 00:18:02,748
What, first off, we just got the message.

599
00:18:02,748 --> 00:18:03,078
Okay.

600
00:18:03,318 --> 00:18:06,408
And you look at me and you
go, so and so said this.

601
00:18:06,828 --> 00:18:07,068
And

602
00:18:07,073 --> 00:18:09,858
what I would be, I would be very
honest with her and be like, I'm

603
00:18:09,858 --> 00:18:16,098
so sorry that you're late, but if
you are pregnant, we do not want,

604
00:18:16,398 --> 00:18:18,408
like, we'll sign whatever you need.

605
00:18:18,408 --> 00:18:20,598
We do not want any part of this.

606
00:18:20,718 --> 00:18:21,018
Yeah.

607
00:18:21,258 --> 00:18:22,158
Period.

608
00:18:22,878 --> 00:18:27,918
I would discuss it with you, and I would
think that you'd be on the same, the same.

609
00:18:28,418 --> 00:18:30,548
Level mindset as me.

610
00:18:30,553 --> 00:18:30,723
Mm-hmm.

611
00:18:30,843 --> 00:18:30,853
Mm-hmm.

612
00:18:31,088 --> 00:18:35,108
If you weren't, that would be
a totally different situation.

613
00:18:35,113 --> 00:18:35,883
That would be a

614
00:18:35,883 --> 00:18:37,563
totally different s would situation.

615
00:18:37,563 --> 00:18:40,718
Adam is now single and he's
gonna be raising an infant.

616
00:18:41,148 --> 00:18:43,308
Honestly, I don't want any part of that.

617
00:18:43,308 --> 00:18:45,298
Like, if that ever
happened, I'd be like that.

618
00:18:45,298 --> 00:18:45,513
I'm sorry.

619
00:18:46,018 --> 00:18:49,948
I guess you and your partner are
gonna have a baby because we're not

620
00:18:50,098 --> 00:18:50,308
Yeah.

621
00:18:50,358 --> 00:18:50,368
Yeah.

622
00:18:50,448 --> 00:18:50,628
Yeah.

623
00:18:50,628 --> 00:18:52,218
You gotta be able to
draw the line somewhere.

624
00:18:52,308 --> 00:18:52,758
Yeah.

625
00:18:52,853 --> 00:18:56,928
And I, I mean, I, I am a hundred
percent sure that you're on the same.

626
00:18:57,738 --> 00:18:58,008
Yeah.

627
00:18:58,008 --> 00:18:59,268
I never disagreed with that.

628
00:18:59,273 --> 00:18:59,433
Yeah.

629
00:18:59,438 --> 00:18:59,778
Yeah.

630
00:18:59,828 --> 00:19:01,038
And I think that would.

631
00:19:01,558 --> 00:19:03,208
That would just be where it would end.

632
00:19:03,208 --> 00:19:06,598
It'd be like, sorry, but yeah, no,
you know, unless you wanna go comping

633
00:19:06,598 --> 00:19:08,003
because you weren't Texas and you know,

634
00:19:08,823 --> 00:19:11,188
you know, I hate to make your rod go soft.

635
00:19:11,188 --> 00:19:13,018
But these are conversations
that need to be had.

636
00:19:13,018 --> 00:19:13,228
Sometimes

637
00:19:13,228 --> 00:19:15,328
these are, um, because

638
00:19:15,328 --> 00:19:15,988
'
cause they come up,

639
00:19:16,048 --> 00:19:18,158
they come up like it's, it can happen.

640
00:19:18,278 --> 00:19:19,093
Where you can think that.

641
00:19:19,988 --> 00:19:21,038
It cannot happen.

642
00:19:21,038 --> 00:19:21,938
It can happen.

643
00:19:22,298 --> 00:19:22,568
Yeah.

644
00:19:23,018 --> 00:19:26,678
Like you, you always have to talk
through these situations because

645
00:19:27,098 --> 00:19:30,818
if you don't have a plan already
in place, then we're fucked.

646
00:19:30,848 --> 00:19:32,198
Now I am curious about one thing.

647
00:19:32,198 --> 00:19:33,278
So that's, that's the,

648
00:19:33,368 --> 00:19:34,538
I cannot get pregnant,

649
00:19:35,238 --> 00:19:36,498
So we ain't worried about that.

650
00:19:37,148 --> 00:19:39,308
And you can hear all about
that on Sunday's show.

651
00:19:39,808 --> 00:19:44,148
Uh, but when it co So that was the,
the situation with a co, a couple

652
00:19:44,208 --> 00:19:44,238
uhhuh,

653
00:19:44,478 --> 00:19:44,748
right?

654
00:19:45,258 --> 00:19:46,128
Uh, say.

655
00:19:46,953 --> 00:19:48,243
Say it's a single woman

656
00:19:48,483 --> 00:19:49,413
Who's a friend of ours.

657
00:19:49,503 --> 00:19:49,593
Mm-hmm.

658
00:19:49,863 --> 00:19:50,883
What if it happens there?

659
00:19:51,093 --> 00:19:51,333
What?

660
00:19:51,333 --> 00:19:51,693
Same?

661
00:19:51,783 --> 00:19:52,053
Yeah.

662
00:19:52,058 --> 00:19:52,338
Same.

663
00:19:52,338 --> 00:19:52,538
Yeah.

664
00:19:52,713 --> 00:19:53,013
Same.

665
00:19:53,103 --> 00:19:56,493
I, uh, you and I decided
not to have any children.

666
00:19:56,553 --> 00:19:56,823
Yeah.

667
00:19:57,813 --> 00:20:00,603
There's no way in hell
I would be like, okay.

668
00:20:00,603 --> 00:20:00,843
Yeah.

669
00:20:00,843 --> 00:20:01,563
Cool.

670
00:20:01,663 --> 00:20:05,533
The only way it would be in our
favor is she said, I don't want this

671
00:20:05,533 --> 00:20:07,513
baby, but I don't wanna terminate it.

672
00:20:07,513 --> 00:20:07,573
Yeah.

673
00:20:08,003 --> 00:20:10,643
I would, I want this baby and I'm
gonna give it up for adoption.

674
00:20:10,643 --> 00:20:13,343
Then I would be like, I guess
we're adopting a freaking kid.

675
00:20:13,493 --> 00:20:13,733
Yeah.

676
00:20:14,093 --> 00:20:16,193
Because she's gonna sign her rights over.

677
00:20:16,198 --> 00:20:16,703
Right, right.

678
00:20:16,803 --> 00:20:22,983
But like to co-parent with somebody
that we just play with, that they're

679
00:20:23,883 --> 00:20:25,683
okay, maybe they're friends, whatever.

680
00:20:25,833 --> 00:20:26,223
No.

681
00:20:27,003 --> 00:20:28,263
We lost some friends.

682
00:20:28,263 --> 00:20:28,653
I don't know.

683
00:20:28,653 --> 00:20:29,973
It sounds like a great sitcom.

684
00:20:30,003 --> 00:20:34,503
Yeah, no, I mean, I don't, I I, I don't,
would never wanna go through that.

685
00:20:34,503 --> 00:20:35,583
I'm 48.

686
00:20:36,273 --> 00:20:36,483
Yeah.

687
00:20:36,543 --> 00:20:38,993
And No, no.

688
00:20:39,318 --> 00:20:41,748
I'm ready to be a grandma, but not really.

689
00:20:42,408 --> 00:20:42,798
Yeah.

690
00:20:42,798 --> 00:20:43,753
But yeah, no, I, we have,

691
00:20:43,823 --> 00:20:44,113
it's,

692
00:20:44,268 --> 00:20:45,888
I am definitely in line with you on that.

693
00:20:45,918 --> 00:20:45,978
Yeah.

694
00:20:45,978 --> 00:20:49,738
I just, I, I like to hear your
point of view on that because it.

695
00:20:50,338 --> 00:20:51,298
It really is.

696
00:20:51,298 --> 00:20:54,928
There's, there's a lot of people
who would sit back and just go

697
00:20:54,928 --> 00:20:56,878
along with whatever is said.

698
00:20:56,908 --> 00:20:57,118
Yeah.

699
00:20:57,418 --> 00:20:57,478
No.

700
00:20:57,478 --> 00:20:59,098
Now we've had our discussions.

701
00:20:59,098 --> 00:20:59,158
Yeah.

702
00:20:59,768 --> 00:21:01,988
And I've explained my beliefs yeah.

703
00:21:02,288 --> 00:21:08,778
But I've also felt that you felt a lot
stronger about the matter than I did.

704
00:21:08,928 --> 00:21:09,258
Yeah.

705
00:21:09,318 --> 00:21:12,438
And because of that, I
absolutely back you up.

706
00:21:12,438 --> 00:21:14,748
And I'm 100% on the same level as you.

707
00:21:15,678 --> 00:21:16,728
He ain't gonna be a single daddy.

708
00:21:17,228 --> 00:21:20,308
I don't wanna be single and I'm
a little tired of being dead.

709
00:21:20,968 --> 00:21:21,108
Lemme tell you.

710
00:21:21,783 --> 00:21:22,083
Are you

711
00:21:22,138 --> 00:21:22,288
though?

712
00:21:22,288 --> 00:21:23,698
It's financially taxing.

713
00:21:23,998 --> 00:21:24,268
Are you though?

714
00:21:24,268 --> 00:21:24,883
Yeah, that's right.

715
00:21:25,383 --> 00:21:25,503
It's

716
00:21:25,503 --> 00:21:26,493
exhausting man.

717
00:21:27,063 --> 00:21:28,023
It's just t hiring.

718
00:21:28,833 --> 00:21:29,073
Um,

719
00:21:29,103 --> 00:21:30,783
yeah, no, we're like
living our lives right now.

720
00:21:30,873 --> 00:21:31,053
Yeah.

721
00:21:31,053 --> 00:21:34,143
We are living our best lives and
we're, and really we're not, uh, we're

722
00:21:34,173 --> 00:21:35,973
not looking to raise any more kids,

723
00:21:36,118 --> 00:21:40,113
you know, like you were saying, this is
a very real conversation that you should

724
00:21:40,113 --> 00:21:41,793
be having with your partner because.

725
00:21:42,168 --> 00:21:46,008
There's a lot of younger people that
are coming into this lifestyle, and

726
00:21:46,008 --> 00:21:49,038
I'm not saying that they're younger
and don't understand because they

727
00:21:49,038 --> 00:21:54,078
do, they probably understand sex
probably better than a 40 year olds.

728
00:21:54,198 --> 00:21:54,258
Yeah.

729
00:21:54,258 --> 00:21:56,538
Because of the technology
and shit that's out there.

730
00:21:56,838 --> 00:21:56,898
Yeah.

731
00:21:57,258 --> 00:22:00,618
They've been having sex with AI way
before we even knew how to work ai.

732
00:22:00,738 --> 00:22:00,798
So

733
00:22:01,728 --> 00:22:02,223
Yeah, true.

734
00:22:02,278 --> 00:22:05,323
Those Gen Zs, they, they got it down guys.

735
00:22:05,803 --> 00:22:09,763
Um, and so you, you really should
have that conversation with

736
00:22:09,763 --> 00:22:13,933
your partner along with all the
other hard conversations, like

737
00:22:13,963 --> 00:22:14,263
Yeah.

738
00:22:14,593 --> 00:22:14,743
Yeah.

739
00:22:14,743 --> 00:22:17,708
I mean, this, obviously
we're talking about it now.

740
00:22:18,488 --> 00:22:19,538
Very easily.

741
00:22:19,958 --> 00:22:20,078
Yeah.

742
00:22:20,108 --> 00:22:22,448
Because we've already had this discussion

743
00:22:22,478 --> 00:22:22,898
Yeah.

744
00:22:23,108 --> 00:22:24,758
Behind closed doors before.

745
00:22:25,258 --> 00:22:27,628
And that was an
uncomfortable conversation.

746
00:22:27,628 --> 00:22:27,688
Yeah.

747
00:22:28,188 --> 00:22:31,878
And it is just one of the many
uncomfortable conversations that

748
00:22:31,878 --> 00:22:35,028
if you're in a relationship and
you're doing this with your partner,

749
00:22:35,538 --> 00:22:37,368
you gotta have that conversation.

750
00:22:37,638 --> 00:22:37,968
Yeah.

751
00:22:38,118 --> 00:22:39,978
Uh, because it is a thing.

752
00:22:40,068 --> 00:22:43,698
It is something that, that has come
up and it's worth talking about.

753
00:22:43,703 --> 00:22:44,313
It is, it is worth,

754
00:22:44,443 --> 00:22:46,758
worth talking about, even if
it's a far off hypothetical.

755
00:22:46,818 --> 00:22:47,178
Yeah.

756
00:22:47,388 --> 00:22:50,958
It's very worth talking about
because you should be prepared.

757
00:22:51,318 --> 00:22:53,298
You should absolutely be prepared.

758
00:22:53,538 --> 00:22:53,598
Yeah.

759
00:22:53,603 --> 00:22:53,673
Yeah.

760
00:22:53,958 --> 00:22:56,348
Um, but that is.

761
00:22:56,768 --> 00:23:00,998
Probably the best advice I could give
for anybody is just, just be safe,

762
00:23:00,998 --> 00:23:02,258
feel, go with your gut,

763
00:23:02,498 --> 00:23:02,798
go with

764
00:23:02,798 --> 00:23:03,128
your gut.

765
00:23:03,128 --> 00:23:07,148
It's, you know, this is, that, this
is our scenario and what would happen,

766
00:23:07,148 --> 00:23:09,458
what we would say, but go with your gut.

767
00:23:09,458 --> 00:23:14,978
Like if, if you wanna play with somebody
who's pregnant, just be safe about it.

768
00:23:15,218 --> 00:23:15,458
Yeah.

769
00:23:15,578 --> 00:23:19,913
Doesn't matter that they can't get
pregnant, use protection either way.

770
00:23:20,573 --> 00:23:26,363
Now if you're, if you're polyamorous and
the people that you get involved with.

771
00:23:27,038 --> 00:23:28,568
Are also polyamorous.

772
00:23:28,568 --> 00:23:31,178
Well, hell start up a relationship
and you probably got a good

773
00:23:31,178 --> 00:23:32,848
thing going there, you know?

774
00:23:33,058 --> 00:23:33,928
And that's the thing.

775
00:23:34,168 --> 00:23:35,218
Yeah, that's the thing, man.

776
00:23:35,218 --> 00:23:39,778
You know, um, I, I know Swingers that
have gotten involved with polyamorous

777
00:23:39,778 --> 00:23:44,098
couples and ended up getting pregnant
and they ended up raising kids together.

778
00:23:44,098 --> 00:23:44,188
Mm-hmm.

779
00:23:44,428 --> 00:23:44,938
And you know what?

780
00:23:44,968 --> 00:23:45,533
So it works.

781
00:23:45,633 --> 00:23:46,573
How can I write, bro?

782
00:23:46,633 --> 00:23:46,973
Go ahead.

783
00:23:46,973 --> 00:23:47,253
Works

784
00:23:47,253 --> 00:23:47,453
for some.

785
00:23:47,758 --> 00:23:48,718
Do you?

786
00:23:48,778 --> 00:23:49,558
That's awesome.

787
00:23:49,618 --> 00:23:50,583
I, you know, and I boo.

788
00:23:50,588 --> 00:23:51,298
I think that's it.

789
00:23:51,343 --> 00:23:51,543
Yeah.

790
00:23:51,543 --> 00:23:52,498
It takes a village.

791
00:23:52,558 --> 00:23:52,678
Yeah.

792
00:23:52,678 --> 00:23:53,458
Become a village.

793
00:23:53,518 --> 00:23:53,638
Yeah.

794
00:23:53,638 --> 00:23:54,148
Do your thing.

795
00:23:54,328 --> 00:23:54,538
There you go.

796
00:23:54,668 --> 00:23:56,608
But for us, obviously
it's not it's not our,

797
00:23:56,613 --> 00:23:56,903
we're done,

798
00:23:57,233 --> 00:23:58,648
we're meeting our village.

799
00:23:58,678 --> 00:24:01,468
I'm already tired and I'm just
having to take care of myself.

800
00:24:02,248 --> 00:24:04,018
Uh, so that's just a bit much for me.

801
00:24:04,018 --> 00:24:06,628
But, uh, I, I really appreciate the, uh.

802
00:24:07,303 --> 00:24:07,693
Questions.

803
00:24:07,693 --> 00:24:08,473
The questions.

804
00:24:08,503 --> 00:24:08,563
Yeah.

805
00:24:08,623 --> 00:24:11,653
I thought it was, uh, very,
very masterful in thinking.

806
00:24:11,983 --> 00:24:13,243
Uh, and I appreciate it.

807
00:24:13,243 --> 00:24:14,563
You guys gotta keep it coming, man.

808
00:24:14,773 --> 00:24:14,923
Yeah,

809
00:24:14,923 --> 00:24:15,253
that's question.

810
00:24:15,258 --> 00:24:15,418
Keep it coming.

811
00:24:15,703 --> 00:24:18,193
I love hearing what you gotta say.

812
00:24:18,243 --> 00:24:20,583
And we've, we've had a lot
of interaction lately and I

813
00:24:20,583 --> 00:24:21,873
think it's really, really cool.

814
00:24:22,413 --> 00:24:23,163
Keep it coming.

815
00:24:23,373 --> 00:24:23,463
Yes.

816
00:24:23,463 --> 00:24:26,648
So with that, thanks for hanging
with us this week, hanging.

817
00:24:26,668 --> 00:24:30,543
If you loved it, make sure to like,
subscribe, share, and leave us a review

818
00:24:30,543 --> 00:24:34,623
because it seriously helps us grow
and it keeps that conversation going.

819
00:24:34,953 --> 00:24:35,673
Yes.

820
00:24:36,243 --> 00:24:39,803
And you can find everything beyond
monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com,

821
00:24:42,153 --> 00:24:44,343
including our Beyond
Monogamy Confessional.

822
00:24:45,093 --> 00:24:48,843
Our blog posts are merge
and all the juicy extras.

823
00:24:49,263 --> 00:24:53,613
Yeah, don't forget to check out
our events tab on our website for

824
00:24:53,613 --> 00:24:59,333
details on upcoming Beyond Monogamy
events, or even just a few events.

825
00:24:59,603 --> 00:25:02,693
Pause, because we just had a badass event.

826
00:25:03,233 --> 00:25:03,683
We did.

827
00:25:04,313 --> 00:25:05,333
It was my birthday guys.

828
00:25:05,333 --> 00:25:06,713
Y'all get to hear that next Sunday?

829
00:25:07,013 --> 00:25:07,403
Yes.

830
00:25:07,883 --> 00:25:10,463
Um, yeah, pretty much.

831
00:25:10,793 --> 00:25:13,193
Uh, we had, we had an event.

832
00:25:13,283 --> 00:25:14,693
It was her birthday.

833
00:25:14,693 --> 00:25:17,923
And Sunday's show is gonna
break it all down for you.

834
00:25:17,923 --> 00:25:18,523
Trust me.

835
00:25:18,963 --> 00:25:20,313
It gets juicy.

836
00:25:20,313 --> 00:25:23,023
And that one, if you're not feeling.

837
00:25:23,158 --> 00:25:25,408
I like hearing some spicy stuff.

838
00:25:25,408 --> 00:25:28,493
You may want to go past that one
'cause this one gets a little rough

839
00:25:28,493 --> 00:25:29,698
around there just a little bit.

840
00:25:29,698 --> 00:25:32,068
Yeah, it's been a while since
we visited something like that.

841
00:25:33,028 --> 00:25:34,798
Uh, so yeah, definitely.

842
00:25:35,188 --> 00:25:37,678
Uh, we've got a few events
to mark your calendars with.

843
00:25:38,008 --> 00:25:43,588
This Sunday, March 22nd, we will
have our monthly webinar on SDC.

844
00:25:44,143 --> 00:25:45,523
One of our favorites.

845
00:25:45,643 --> 00:25:48,343
Uh, where we'll be discussing
the red flags and the green

846
00:25:48,343 --> 00:25:49,723
flags of the lifestyle.

847
00:25:50,053 --> 00:25:53,963
It's a live webinar where we
take questions in real time.

848
00:25:53,963 --> 00:25:55,253
It's an absolute blast.

849
00:25:55,253 --> 00:25:56,693
You definitely gotta check it out.

850
00:25:57,143 --> 00:25:58,433
Find us on SDC.

851
00:25:58,553 --> 00:26:01,823
Uh, if you already are on
it, look up beyond monogamy.

852
00:26:02,193 --> 00:26:07,013
Or if you don't have beyond, uh, if you
don't have SDC check out our website.

853
00:26:07,403 --> 00:26:10,283
At the very bottom, you'll see SDCs logo.

854
00:26:10,283 --> 00:26:10,763
Click it.

855
00:26:10,993 --> 00:26:12,343
And we're all about it.

856
00:26:12,343 --> 00:26:14,623
You can, you can join us on the 22nd

857
00:26:15,043 --> 00:26:16,093
Nice.

858
00:26:16,093 --> 00:26:20,563
And also the next following Sunday,
March 28th, and it will be our

859
00:26:20,563 --> 00:26:23,563
in-person workshop at Forbidden
Fruit here in Austin, Texas.

860
00:26:23,893 --> 00:26:25,603
If you wanna join us for that, you can.

861
00:26:25,603 --> 00:26:28,303
You can find all the information
that you need on our website

862
00:26:28,693 --> 00:26:31,993
also@www.forbiddenfruit.com.

863
00:26:32,493 --> 00:26:34,263
Slash workshops.

864
00:26:34,353 --> 00:26:35,043
That's right.

865
00:26:35,313 --> 00:26:37,953
Actually I think that's, is
that March 29th or March 28th?

866
00:26:37,953 --> 00:26:38,824
It's March 28th.

867
00:26:38,883 --> 00:26:40,938
You had said 29th on the last one, but

868
00:26:40,938 --> 00:26:41,338
that's okay.

869
00:26:41,883 --> 00:26:41,943
Oh,

870
00:26:41,943 --> 00:26:42,258
it's alright

871
00:26:42,598 --> 00:26:42,818
man.

872
00:26:43,053 --> 00:26:43,683
That's alright.

873
00:26:43,713 --> 00:26:44,673
Well, hot damn.

874
00:26:45,123 --> 00:26:45,813
Are we sure about that?

875
00:26:45,813 --> 00:26:46,353
Yeah.

876
00:26:46,413 --> 00:26:46,683
Okay.

877
00:26:46,683 --> 00:26:51,543
Well either way, if it's, if it says
Sunday, March 29th, then it's March 29th.

878
00:26:51,573 --> 00:26:53,553
If it says Sunday, March
28th, then it's 28th.

879
00:26:53,588 --> 00:26:54,243
There you go.

880
00:26:54,333 --> 00:26:54,738
There you go.

881
00:26:55,088 --> 00:26:55,773
Just go with

882
00:26:55,773 --> 00:26:55,863
it.

883
00:26:55,863 --> 00:26:57,993
It's the last Sunday of March.

884
00:26:57,993 --> 00:26:58,413
That's right.

885
00:26:58,413 --> 00:27:00,573
But if you go to that, that, uh, website.

886
00:27:00,918 --> 00:27:01,548
You got it all.

887
00:27:02,048 --> 00:27:04,898
And of course, the upcoming
Texas Desires Hotel takeover.

888
00:27:04,898 --> 00:27:09,188
The weekend of April 11th, we will
be hanging there for the weekend.

889
00:27:09,548 --> 00:27:09,728
Mm-hmm.

890
00:27:09,968 --> 00:27:12,908
Just hanging out with everybody
and we're even doing a live in

891
00:27:12,908 --> 00:27:15,128
person show from the festivities.

892
00:27:15,908 --> 00:27:18,128
I believe they only have a few rooms left.

893
00:27:18,128 --> 00:27:21,638
So if you're interested, check out
the events tab for more information.

894
00:27:21,638 --> 00:27:24,968
If you have any questions, feel
free to reach out on the channels

895
00:27:24,968 --> 00:27:28,328
that we provide and we can put you
in touch with the right people.

896
00:27:28,478 --> 00:27:29,048
There you go.

897
00:27:29,048 --> 00:27:32,738
And we're also streaming every
Thursday on full swap radio.com

898
00:27:32,738 --> 00:27:34,478
at two and 7:00 PM Central.

899
00:27:34,808 --> 00:27:38,378
So tune in for a show there and
of course, show us some love.

900
00:27:38,858 --> 00:27:41,588
There are plenty of other shows
you can listen to on that.

901
00:27:42,308 --> 00:27:43,603
Full swap radio.com.

902
00:27:43,663 --> 00:27:44,798
So go and check 'em all out.

903
00:27:44,798 --> 00:27:45,548
They're amazing.

904
00:27:45,698 --> 00:27:45,938
Yeah.

905
00:27:46,118 --> 00:27:47,318
Yeah, they really are.

906
00:27:47,678 --> 00:27:51,458
Uh, as always, thank you so
much for listening and we

907
00:27:51,458 --> 00:27:52,778
will see you guys next week.

908
00:27:53,168 --> 00:27:53,828
Bye.