Sacred Kink, Trauma Healing & Sexy Wisdom with Francesca Gentille
Sacred Kink, Trauma Healing & Sexy Wisdom with Francesca Gentille
What happens when you mix wisdom, wit, and a whole lot of sexual firepower? You get Francesca Gentille — a coach, author, teacher, and straight-up powerhouse who has been helping people explore love, sex, intimacy, non-monogamy, and sacred kink for decades.
On this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we go all in with Francesca on the topics most people are scared to even whisper about: kink, trauma, erotic fantasies, jealousy, menopause, and how to keep sex alive when life is busy as hell. Spoiler: she does it in a way that’s funny, soulful, and sexy as f*.
From the Backseat Therapist to Global Teacher
Francesca didn’t just stumble into this work — she’s been decoding intimacy since she was a kid, literally counseling her parents from the backseat of the car. Fast forward through decades of studying psychology, clinical sexology, tantra, BDSM, and trauma recovery, and she’s become a leading voice in sacred kink — where sex meets intention, spirituality, and empowerment.
Sacred Kink: Where Pleasure Meets Healing
Forget the tired old myths that “kink is just trauma” or that fantasies are shameful. Francesca breaks it down:
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Fantasies are like dreams — gifts from the soul that can point us toward healing.
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Sacred kink is about intention — turning spanking, flogging, role play, or bondage into a tool for intimacy, healing, and empowerment.
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Trauma doesn’t erase desire. Healing doesn’t mean you stop being kinky. It just means you choose from power, not compulsion.
She even dives into erotic hypnosis, re-writing shame into empowerment, and explains why sometimes it’s better to keep a fantasy in the fantasy box (hello, pirate ravishment scene with perfectly folded clothes).
The Long Game: Keeping Sex Hot in Real Life
Non-monogamy is sexy, sure, but it’s also a juggling act. Francesca lays it out: if you want passion to last in long-term relationships, you can’t just “wait until you’re in the mood.” You need to treat sex like a devotional practice — setting time aside, creating a ritual space, and sometimes even booking the no-tell motel to make it happen.
Her advice? Slow it down. Breathe. Rock the body. Build arousal like a wave instead of chasing porn-style quickies. Or if kink is your thing, build sensation arcs with fur, floggers, and endorphin highs. Either way, sex becomes sex-ercise — her favorite workout.
Menopause, Hormones & Breaking the Curse of Aging
This episode gets raw on menopause. Pris shares her own struggles, and Francesca goes full myth-buster:
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Menopause isn’t the end of sex — it’s an invitation to new kinds of vitality.
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Symptoms like dryness, low libido, and fatigue can be supported with bioidentical hormone replacement therapy, supplements, and lifestyle changes.
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We need to break the cultural curse of aging — stop treating it as shameful and start embracing the power, grace, and sexiness of getting older.
Her mantra: aging is an opportunity, not a betrayal. And damn if that isn’t sexy.
Jealousy? Don’t Call It That.
Francesca has a killer take on jealousy: don’t lump it into one word. Look at the flavors — is it fear, rage, sadness, insecurity? Every “jealous” response has roots, and most of them trace back to childhood wounds. Heal the root, and you open space for collaboration instead of conflict.
Why This Conversation Matters
We live in a culture drowning in sexual shame, misinformation about non-monogamy, and a whole lot of silence around aging and menopause. Francesca Gentille isn’t just challenging that — she’s rewriting the script with humor, compassion, and a whole lot of erotic fire.
This episode is not just a conversation — it’s an invitation to rethink desire, sex, aging, and love. And trust me, you’re going to finish it feeling turned on, inspired, and ready to explore.
Connect with Francesca Gentille
Want more of Francesca’s wisdom, workshops, and events? Here’s where to find her:
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