Jealousy, Labels & Latino Love — What We Learned from Psychologist Jaime Gama
💧 Jealousy, Labels & Latino Love — What We Learned from Psychologist Jaime Gama
Grab your cafecito, get comfy, and maybe clear the room of tiny humans — because once again, Beyond Monogamy is taking you into the deep, messy, hilarious heart of ethical non-monogamy. This week, we sat down with psychologist + author + all-around relationship badass, Jaime Gama — the creator of Gotitas de Poliamor — whose mission is to help humans stop suffering for love and start communicating like grown-ups with feelings. 😌
This episode digs into:
- ✅ Jealousy (and why it’s actually not the villain)
- ✅ Swingers vs. polyamory (and why the line is blurrier than people pretend)
- ✅ Latino cultural shame around sexuality
- ✅ How to build real community in ENM
- ✅ Labels: Helpful tools or psychological shapewear?
- ✅ Humor + kink + awkward sex moments 💋
Jaime manages to drop deep wisdom while making you laugh through your emotional breakthroughs — just the way we like it.
Links & Where to Listen
- 🌐 Check Out Jaime: www.gotitasdepoliamor.com
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- 📻 Hear Us on FullSwapRadio (Thursdays 1PM & 6PM CST): FullSwapRadio.com
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CTA: If you’re here, you better already be: liking, subscribing, reviewing, and sharing… or we’re sending the Jealousy Goblin to your bedroom mirror tonight. 👀
🌶️ The Jealousy Episode We All Needed
“Jealousy isn’t toxic — it’s a message.”
In Latino culture especially, jealousy has been used as both a weapon and a love language. But guess what? It doesn’t have to be either.
Jealousy = fear + uncertainty + desire for safety — not a personality flaw or proof that you “can’t do ENM.”
Jealousy doesn’t mean:
- ❌ you’re broken
- ❌ you’re controlling
- ❌ you’re not ready
- ❌ your relationship is doomed
It does mean:
- ✅ you need safety, reassurance, communication — or all three
Jaime even says jealousy and arousal can happen together… which honestly explains 90% of our last hotel takeover. 😏
✨ “Labels are a buffet, not a mold.”
This part hit us hard.
Jaime says you get to define your labels — not let labels define you: Poly, swinger, monogamish, kitchen-table molecule-having board game squad… It should feel like something you choose, not something you suffer through to be “legit.”
“Equal-opportunity non-monogamous, fueled by consent and chaos… mostly consent.”
😈 Swingers vs Polyamory: The Spicy Venn Diagram
| Swinging | Polyamory |
|---|---|
| Sex-first | Love-first |
| Feelings? Optional | Feelings? Required |
| Threesomes & group play | Dates & partnerships |
| 20 minutes | …or 20 Google Calendars |
But also: You can be a swinger who falls in love. You can be poly and also love sex parties. You can be neither… or both… or change later.
There is no “right way.” There’s only: do you know what the f*** you’re doing and does everyone else agree?
💥 Culture, Shame & the Catholic Hangover
One of the hardest parts of ENM for Latinos? Religion. Families. Gossip. And the classic line Jaime hears all the time:
“I’d rather you cheat than tell me the truth.”
– Every confused tía ever
We don’t do that here. Transparency over telenovela vibes. 🎭
🔥 Sex Gets Awkward — Laugh Anyway
Jaime says humor is underrated as a relationship tool.
We say: If there isn’t at least ONE ugly cackle during sex, are you even bonding?
- Sex is messy.
- Bodies are weird.
- Penises panic under pressure.
- High-fives happen.
“I will absolutely cheer for your genitals. They deserve encouragement.” 💪
❤️🔥 Community >>> Everything
One of Jaime’s biggest findings? People succeed in ENM when they’re not doing it alone.
Supportive people → less shame → better communication → healthier relationships → hotter sex → fewer existential crises in the shower. Community isn’t a luxury — it’s the foundation.
✅ Your Friendly Episode Checklist
Before you hit play…
- ☑️ Consent
- ☑️ Curiosity
- ☑️ Clean lab results 👌
- ☑️ Lube (always)
- ☑️ A snack — sex is cardio
🎤 Ready to Listen?
- 👉 www.beyond-monogamy.com
- 👉 FullSwapRadio.com on Thursdays
- 👉 Everywhere you get podcasts
🙌 Come Hang With Us IRL — Nov. 8th!
We’re hosting a Q&A meetup at Forbidden Fruit in Austin — Friday, Nov. 8th 🎉
Come get flirty, ask questions, grab a hug, and let’s build this sexy AF community together.
💬 Last Thing…
If you:
- ✨ laughed
- ✨ learned something
- ✨ felt seen
- ✨ got horny
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It costs zero dollars and it helps this beautiful community grow faster than a jealousy spike during a slow kiss.
Co-host
Adam is the bald, bearded, caffeine-fueled voice behind Beyond Monogamy — a guy who never expected to become a spokesperson for ethical non-monogamy… but here we are. After more than a decade navigating the lifestyle with his wife and co-host Pris, he’s learned a ton about communication, boundaries, jealousy (yep, he has it too), and what it really takes to build a relationship that feels like home and adventure at the same time.
Whether he’s diving into deep relationship conversations, calling out the myths the lifestyle loves to cling to, or just hyping up couples to choose their joy unapologetically, Adam brings honesty, humor, and tattoo-level commitment to every episode. If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just us?”, he’s the guy handing you a coffee and saying, “Nah — welcome to the club.”
Beyond Monogamy is his way of making sure nobody has to explore this world alone. Because love gets bigger when community gets louder.
📍 Based in Texas
☕ Early-morning gym rat
🎙 Podcast host, connection-builder, lifestyle storyteller
💭 Motto: “We don’t break rules — we make better ones.”
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