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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.

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This show is raw, real, and
definitely not rated pg.

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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you

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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.

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So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice and get comfy.

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Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not
licensed therapists, counselors, or sex.

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Couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches, not sex couches

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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

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An ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.

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And.

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Hello and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And

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I'm Pris.

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And today we were talking about something
else, but I decided we're gonna scrap

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that because, man, it was not a good show.

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It, I had to let it go.

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I had to just cut that bad boy loose.

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Uh, and I wanted to talk about
something a little bit more real.

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I wanted to talk about
expectations in the lifestyle.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Now we've used this word rather loosely
often, you know, everybody always says.

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Um, oh, I don't have any expectations.

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Yeah.

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I don't have any expectations to play.

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Oh, we're gonna meet with somebody,
but there's no real expectations.

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Uh, and you know, I just wanted to
discuss that because really realistically,

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we're all in this lifestyle together
and we can all say over and over again.

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I don't have any expectations,
but come on, man.

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You, I mean, a lot of us
are really, really hoping.

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It may not be a. Full expectations, but
it's definitely expectation leaning.

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Oh, yeah.

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Um, most of the time when you're
showing interest in somebody,

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I mean, honestly, whenever we go
to the club, I have expectations.

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I mean, automatically you
have expectations on me.

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Like it's a guarantee.

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If we're gonna be at the club,
you and I are gonna be there.

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Oh, for sure.

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It's, but like,

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even for other people, like,
I'm like, you have expectations.

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Really.

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I do.

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Like whenever I'm there, I
guess this is an expectation.

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Whenever we go, I'm always
like, all right, I'm gonna.

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Find somebody and

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that always, and you never do.

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That's, that, that's an,
that's an expectation, right?

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For me to like, to think that I can.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Um, I never do because I'm super
selective, but I try not to be selective.

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How's it going for you?

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so it kind of, you know, it's
going a little bit better, is it?

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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You're starting

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to, uh, let, let go.

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I'm starting

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to, I am definitely starting to
let go, let go of some of that, uh,

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iveness, I mean, I'm still selective,
like I still have to be physically

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attractive, attracted to somebody,
but yeah, you know, there's a lot of.

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Hot women and hot men that
come through the club.

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And I'm always like, Ooh.

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You know, I, I, I will say it's,
it's difficult when it comes to

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the club because like you said,
there's a lot of hot women.

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Uh, we can be sitting there
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it'll catch both of our eyes.

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Oh yeah.

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And we'll like watch and be like,
oh my gosh, she's incredible.

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Yes.

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And then like 20 minutes later, we
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Yes.

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And we're like, what the hell, man?

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You know, we, and you

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don't know what it's what it is.

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Did they, did they see the candy
and the candy store and was like, no

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idea what might have happened,
but it was, you know, whatever.

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It was a bu it was bu
they're gone, you know?

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Um, and, and I guess you
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When we go to the club, mentally,
I always have it in my head.

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This is what I'd like to see happen.

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Oh, for sure.

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We talk about it all
the way over there all

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the time when you go over there.

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Um, and it rarely does happen.

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Yes, it rarely does.

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And you're talking about
rarely, rarely, rarely.

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It rarely does.

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Um, and that's kind of the funny thing
about this is that, you know, we are, I

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don't know if I would call us experienced,
but people call us experienced, and that's

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the reason why we're on this podcast.

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Right.

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I mean, for,

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for the most part, I would say.

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So we,

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we have had some experiences.

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We kind of know a few things.

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Uh.

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And I think that we have managed to wiggle
out of our expectations for the most part.

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Mm-hmm.

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Um, what I really had to do, and
I've said this in past episodes,

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was just to stop pursuing.

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I had to stop pursuing because if I
pursued, if I looked for somebody and

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said, oh, I wanna find that, like, I wanna
talk to that person, and then I reach out.

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And then before you know it,
I'm really, really trying to

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keep this conversation going.

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It will fall flat, guaranteed.

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It is not organic.

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Yeah.

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That is not organic.

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That is me pursuing
somebody off of their looks.

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Yes.

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You know what I'm saying?

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So I just saw somebody, I'm feeling like,
I think they're hot or whatever, and so

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I'm like, I'm gonna pursue that person.

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I let me message them.

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I get a lot of that.

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And I, it's not organic, it's, mm-hmm.

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It's trying to fit, uh, you know, push
a, a square peg into a round hole.

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Like you're really just
forcing it because.

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You're just basing it off of looks.

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And then you get to know this person
and then it just doesn't happen.

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Very rarely does it work.

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It has to be organic.

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It

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has to be organic.

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Unless a person is very transactional,
but it has to be organic.

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But like you just said something and I
was like, man, I get that all the time.

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I get messages all the time of how people
can, they're like, how can we meet up?

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How can we see if this vibe is good?

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I could tell you right off the bat.

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No, I could tell you if you're messaging,

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if you're messaging me, it's,
and you're asking me what, how,

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when it's never gonna happen.

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Like never.

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And you know, it's not, it's not an
easy, it's not an easy lifestyle to live.

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Um, I mean, it, it can because other

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people's, other people's expectations.

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Is where it kills it, I think.

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Well, I mean other people's
expectations, but also ours.

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Yes.

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I mean, I'll give you an example.

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You know, there are times where
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know certain couples will be there.

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Yes.

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And those are couples
that we're interested in.

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Yes.

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And as soon as we get there, we forget
that most people, uh, are, have to drink.

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Mm-hmm.

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And, and.

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Chances are they end up getting drunk.

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So you go in with these
expectations of That's true.

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Wanting to play with these people's and we
walk away, uh, unfulfilled in that aspect.

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Uh, you know, because that's,
that's what, and ended up happening.

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And sometimes they, sometimes they don't
understand, like they are, they see us

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there and they're like, Ooh, I really
wanna play with you, and whatever.

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And then it never happens.

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And we kind of walk away and we're like,
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But they don't know why it didn't happen.

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You know, and so yeah.

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People's expectations
are, aren't very wide.

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You know, and they also, whenever you
go like to whenever you're having an

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event or something, that expectation
for you to show up, for you to be there.

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Especially if your friend
is throwing something like,

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yeah.

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You know,

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that's,

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and

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that's the

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hard part too.

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Because.

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We are a community of flaky people.

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We are.

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And not in a negative, not
in a, because we have wives,

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we all have lives, you know?

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And busy.

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And so it's hard whenever you throw,
say, a birthday party or you throw a,

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you know, a certain event and you expect
your friends to be there, because that's

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something that's done in the vanilla
world is you send your invites to your,

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your tight friends, your friend's show.

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It's a little different.

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Here's hard.

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Everybody's hard.

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Everybody's got some things happening and,

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and you have to have a lot of mental
capacity to be in this lifestyle.

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Like it takes a lot of
you, you, your mind.

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And so it's emotional intelligence.

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It's emotional intelligence.

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Yeah.

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Like you really have to have an, and
even if you're going to someone's

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like party or just a get together, you
have to be mentally prepared for that.

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Yeah.

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More so than you do in the vanilla world.

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Yeah.

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Like you really have to be, you know,
um, women we're very self-conscious.

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I mean, so are men, right?

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But women are very self-conscious and
we're wanna make sure that we look good.

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That takes a lot out of us.

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We wanna make sure that we,
you know, are acting correctly.

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'cause sometimes we have RBF
and it's, so It does, it takes

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a lot of emotional maturity.

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Yeah, it does.

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I, you know.

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I think it's all, it really goes
back to those expectations though.

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Uh, because when people come
into the lifestyle mm-hmm.

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As new people mm-hmm.

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Uh, they have expectations.

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Yeah.

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They have thoughts in their head
as to what this is gonna be.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I expect for this to happen.

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I don't know how many times,
countless times I thought something

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was gonna happen and I was so
disappointed when it didn't Yes.

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When we, like the first couple of years.

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Yeah.

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Like just disappointed Yeah.

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And upset because what I expected to
happen that night did not take place.

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Yeah.

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And everything should have happened
the way it should have happened

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and.

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It's kind of nice now that you
don't have those expectations.

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Yeah.

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Like you actually make, it's very nice to
just go in, do our thing, or not do our

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thing and just kind of leave from there.

253
00:10:14,929 --> 00:10:16,939
It's, um, it's very refreshing.

254
00:10:17,239 --> 00:10:17,479
Yeah.

255
00:10:17,479 --> 00:10:20,689
But that's that sexual freedom
that I've really been aiming for.

256
00:10:20,749 --> 00:10:20,809
Uhhuh.

257
00:10:21,109 --> 00:10:23,209
I didn't know that I really
wanted that back then.

258
00:10:23,209 --> 00:10:25,339
Back then I just wanted experiences.

259
00:10:25,729 --> 00:10:25,819
Mm-hmm.

260
00:10:26,059 --> 00:10:30,589
And as we went along, I realized it's
not the experiences that I wanted, it's

261
00:10:30,589 --> 00:10:32,899
more so just the sexual freedom of it.

262
00:10:33,349 --> 00:10:33,769
The be

263
00:10:33,859 --> 00:10:35,924
like just the, the, just
to be able to do so.

264
00:10:35,924 --> 00:10:36,084
Yeah.

265
00:10:36,084 --> 00:10:36,094
The

266
00:10:36,094 --> 00:10:38,209
ability to just say, you know what, honey?

267
00:10:38,239 --> 00:10:41,959
There's this girl that I've been
talking to and I think she's pretty

268
00:10:41,959 --> 00:10:43,579
attractive and I think I could.

269
00:10:43,864 --> 00:10:45,064
Probably have sex with her.

270
00:10:45,064 --> 00:10:45,724
Is it okay?

271
00:10:45,784 --> 00:10:46,144
Yeah.

272
00:10:46,414 --> 00:10:50,914
Um, and to be able to
do that is monumental.

273
00:10:50,974 --> 00:10:51,064
Yeah.

274
00:10:51,064 --> 00:10:55,834
Ask anybody who's monogamous,
because anybody who's been

275
00:10:55,834 --> 00:10:58,894
in a monogamous relationship,
which is pretty much everybody.

276
00:10:58,924 --> 00:10:59,254
Yeah.

277
00:10:59,314 --> 00:11:03,784
You know that you've dealt with
jealousies, you've dealt with

278
00:11:03,784 --> 00:11:05,644
insecurities, and we still do here.

279
00:11:05,974 --> 00:11:06,994
Oh, most definitely.

280
00:11:06,994 --> 00:11:07,864
That's not different.

281
00:11:07,864 --> 00:11:08,194
No,

282
00:11:08,614 --> 00:11:08,884
no.

283
00:11:09,064 --> 00:11:11,524
But as soon as you.

284
00:11:12,199 --> 00:11:15,649
Even look at another person
or you insinuate something

285
00:11:15,649 --> 00:11:16,729
about another person mm-hmm.

286
00:11:16,969 --> 00:11:19,489
Your world will come crashing down.

287
00:11:19,519 --> 00:11:19,909
Oh yeah.

288
00:11:20,269 --> 00:11:22,099
It will be a, a fight.

289
00:11:22,579 --> 00:11:22,699
Yes.

290
00:11:22,699 --> 00:11:23,629
It'll be an argument.

291
00:11:23,659 --> 00:11:23,749
Mm-hmm.

292
00:11:24,439 --> 00:11:28,729
Whereas here it's very obvious.

293
00:11:28,789 --> 00:11:30,049
It's very obvious.

294
00:11:30,169 --> 00:11:35,239
Um, sometimes you'll come
across an insecurity, but.

295
00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:39,679
Nothing that communication
can't like clear up and stuff.

296
00:11:40,189 --> 00:11:44,449
Now, how would you say you
get past your insecurities?

297
00:11:44,449 --> 00:11:45,949
Because you've come a long way.

298
00:11:45,949 --> 00:11:48,139
You've gotten better at this.

299
00:11:48,259 --> 00:11:50,599
I mean, you're not fully there,
but you're getting better.

300
00:11:50,809 --> 00:11:56,029
I'm not fully there and it's, I wouldn't
say I have very many insecurities.

301
00:11:56,749 --> 00:12:00,139
It's more so I get annoyed very easily.

302
00:12:00,634 --> 00:12:00,964
How's that?

303
00:12:01,474 --> 00:12:05,104
By certain just people, just people
saying things or doing something.

304
00:12:05,464 --> 00:12:09,394
It, it, it, it's annoying to
me, but I wouldn't, I don't

305
00:12:09,394 --> 00:12:10,774
insecurities it took a lot.

306
00:12:10,774 --> 00:12:12,664
Like I had to really talk to you.

307
00:12:13,744 --> 00:12:17,554
Um, I had to read a lot or
listen to a lot of books.

308
00:12:18,094 --> 00:12:20,854
A lot of people that we've had
on the show have helped me.

309
00:12:21,244 --> 00:12:21,574
Yeah.

310
00:12:21,634 --> 00:12:28,474
Um, and so insecurity, I don't, and just,
oh, I mean, talking to you really helped.

311
00:12:28,474 --> 00:12:28,814
Like you don't.

312
00:12:29,719 --> 00:12:30,919
You're not going anywhere.

313
00:12:30,979 --> 00:12:31,159
No.

314
00:12:31,399 --> 00:12:34,969
Like that's the main thing is
like, ooh, you're gonna leave me

315
00:12:34,969 --> 00:12:38,899
for somebody or someone's gonna do
something better for you than for me.

316
00:12:39,199 --> 00:12:41,179
No, that's never gonna happen.

317
00:12:41,719 --> 00:12:43,129
Like, you're amazing.

318
00:12:43,189 --> 00:12:44,329
I'm amazing together.

319
00:12:44,329 --> 00:12:45,079
We're amazing.

320
00:12:45,079 --> 00:12:45,139
Yeah.

321
00:12:45,499 --> 00:12:50,029
So like, just talking to you and a
lot of, what did you say earlier?

322
00:12:50,029 --> 00:12:55,129
Not growing up maturity, but
a lot of, um, mental earth.

323
00:12:55,744 --> 00:12:56,914
Emotional intelligence.

324
00:12:56,919 --> 00:12:57,169
Emotional

325
00:12:57,169 --> 00:12:57,829
intelligence.

326
00:12:57,829 --> 00:12:58,279
There you go.

327
00:12:58,279 --> 00:12:59,419
I have a lot of that now.

328
00:13:00,649 --> 00:13:01,789
Emotional intelligence.

329
00:13:01,789 --> 00:13:08,929
But, um, you and I say that before,
you've made it very easy and I get irked,

330
00:13:08,959 --> 00:13:13,969
like with like the silliest things,
but it's still, they're my things and.

331
00:13:14,374 --> 00:13:17,794
At some point, I'm pretty sure in my life
I'm not gonna get irked by them anymore.

332
00:13:17,794 --> 00:13:18,184
But

333
00:13:18,634 --> 00:13:22,864
now do you think that part of the reason
why you're becoming more accepting and

334
00:13:22,864 --> 00:13:26,914
more open to this sort of stuff is because
you're getting older and just caring less?

335
00:13:28,084 --> 00:13:28,534
Um,

336
00:13:28,594 --> 00:13:30,514
because I've heard you say that before.

337
00:13:30,514 --> 00:13:33,544
You're, you're like, I'm almost 50,
I'm running out of fucks to give.

338
00:13:34,324 --> 00:13:35,014
Yes.

339
00:13:36,274 --> 00:13:38,914
Yeah, because, because I know
you're not going anywhere.

340
00:13:39,244 --> 00:13:39,394
Yeah.

341
00:13:39,784 --> 00:13:41,374
Like this is, this is solid.

342
00:13:41,374 --> 00:13:41,764
Right.

343
00:13:42,004 --> 00:13:42,844
So.

344
00:13:43,129 --> 00:13:46,939
The fucks to give are
really for other things.

345
00:13:47,059 --> 00:13:51,049
Um, but this right here, I don't know.

346
00:13:51,049 --> 00:13:54,529
I'm not, um, no one's gonna
come and take you away.

347
00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:55,849
You're not going anywhere.

348
00:13:55,879 --> 00:13:57,439
I'm not going anywhere.

349
00:13:57,889 --> 00:14:00,019
We still have an amazing life together.

350
00:14:00,019 --> 00:14:01,219
Mm-hmm.

351
00:14:01,220 --> 00:14:04,339
Um, like it doesn't matter.

352
00:14:04,339 --> 00:14:11,569
So that's where a lot of my ins me finally
realizing that, um, kind of helped me.

353
00:14:11,884 --> 00:14:13,714
Get over my insecurities.

354
00:14:13,774 --> 00:14:14,014
Yeah.

355
00:14:14,464 --> 00:14:14,944
Um,

356
00:14:15,244 --> 00:14:18,544
now what would you say your
biggest insecurity right now is?

357
00:14:20,134 --> 00:14:20,764
Um,

358
00:14:23,614 --> 00:14:25,684
I don't have an insecurity at all.

359
00:14:25,684 --> 00:14:26,674
I don't, I don't think I can.

360
00:14:26,674 --> 00:14:29,134
I, I, I feel great in my body.

361
00:14:29,554 --> 00:14:31,594
I feel great the way I look.

362
00:14:32,224 --> 00:14:37,234
Um, no, if anything, I
have way more confidence.

363
00:14:37,234 --> 00:14:41,164
S doing the show, doing social media.

364
00:14:41,194 --> 00:14:43,444
How about insecurities
with our relationship?

365
00:14:44,014 --> 00:14:47,044
Um, no.

366
00:14:48,094 --> 00:14:56,194
I mean, no, I don't have any
insecurities with our relationship, no.

367
00:14:57,634 --> 00:14:59,404
Do you have insecurities
with our relationship?

368
00:14:59,614 --> 00:14:59,824
No.

369
00:14:59,824 --> 00:15:01,174
Yeah, no,

370
00:15:01,174 --> 00:15:01,834
but I mean,

371
00:15:01,894 --> 00:15:02,914
yeah, no,

372
00:15:03,514 --> 00:15:06,784
you know, I, I am, I'm
very open as far as.

373
00:15:07,429 --> 00:15:10,669
Like, I don't have any issues with
you doing certain things Yeah.

374
00:15:10,699 --> 00:15:11,329
And stuff like that.

375
00:15:11,329 --> 00:15:12,109
Whereas you do.

376
00:15:12,349 --> 00:15:12,709
Yeah.

377
00:15:12,979 --> 00:15:16,519
So, and and they always say that that
roots back to certain insecurities.

378
00:15:16,519 --> 00:15:16,549
Oh

379
00:15:16,819 --> 00:15:17,629
yeah, for sure.

380
00:15:17,629 --> 00:15:19,129
I mean, I can't think of any right now.

381
00:15:19,129 --> 00:15:20,929
Can you think of any of my insecurities?

382
00:15:21,229 --> 00:15:25,639
Well, I mean, let's talk about that.

383
00:15:25,999 --> 00:15:32,479
I mean, really what are some of
the things that you don't want

384
00:15:32,479 --> 00:15:34,489
for me to do in our relationship?

385
00:15:36,844 --> 00:15:37,144
Date?

386
00:15:37,144 --> 00:15:37,744
Anybody.

387
00:15:38,014 --> 00:15:38,434
Okay.

388
00:15:39,214 --> 00:15:39,574
Why?

389
00:15:40,504 --> 00:15:42,754
Um, because that goes
into the romantic ness,

390
00:15:43,354 --> 00:15:44,164
which bothers you.

391
00:15:44,164 --> 00:15:44,494
Why?

392
00:15:44,944 --> 00:15:46,564
Because I just don't like that part.

393
00:15:46,624 --> 00:15:47,824
I haven't gotten to that yet.

394
00:15:47,914 --> 00:15:49,654
Like, I haven't mentally gotten there.

395
00:15:50,074 --> 00:15:55,084
Um, I feel like romance is
for me, be romantic with me.

396
00:15:55,089 --> 00:15:55,309
Uhhuh.

397
00:15:55,684 --> 00:15:57,844
You don't need to be
romantic with anybody else.

398
00:15:57,844 --> 00:15:58,114
Sure.

399
00:15:58,294 --> 00:16:01,204
You know, I feel like that
part right there is mine.

400
00:16:01,564 --> 00:16:01,954
Okay.

401
00:16:02,014 --> 00:16:02,434
Um.

402
00:16:03,619 --> 00:16:04,579
I can share a lot.

403
00:16:04,579 --> 00:16:08,329
So then that's not really a, an insecurity

404
00:16:08,329 --> 00:16:08,339
base.

405
00:16:08,339 --> 00:16:08,634
It's not really insecurity base.

406
00:16:09,024 --> 00:16:10,909
It's more a, it's more
just your preference.

407
00:16:10,939 --> 00:16:11,929
Yeah.

408
00:16:11,989 --> 00:16:12,349
Okay.

409
00:16:12,349 --> 00:16:12,949
Yeah.

410
00:16:13,369 --> 00:16:13,849
Um,

411
00:16:15,919 --> 00:16:18,649
but yeah, I can't think, I mean, I
used to have a lot of insecurities.

412
00:16:18,649 --> 00:16:21,469
I used to not like the way
I looked in certain things.

413
00:16:22,414 --> 00:16:24,634
Um, the way I spoke to people.

414
00:16:24,639 --> 00:16:24,649
Yeah.

415
00:16:24,724 --> 00:16:26,854
I was really insecure about all of that.

416
00:16:26,854 --> 00:16:29,734
And people that you spoke to,
were they more intelligent

417
00:16:29,914 --> 00:16:32,914
and now I don't give a crap.

418
00:16:33,034 --> 00:16:33,334
Like

419
00:16:33,334 --> 00:16:33,514
Yeah.

420
00:16:34,209 --> 00:16:34,689
Don't I know it?

421
00:16:34,984 --> 00:16:35,569
You know, like

422
00:16:36,184 --> 00:16:37,684
I'm pretty intelligent.

423
00:16:38,164 --> 00:16:38,524
Yes.

424
00:16:38,584 --> 00:16:39,754
I'm very intelligent.

425
00:16:39,759 --> 00:16:40,169
Oh, absolutely.

426
00:16:40,294 --> 00:16:44,734
And I feel like we're, we're fine.

427
00:16:44,854 --> 00:16:45,304
I don't know.

428
00:16:45,304 --> 00:16:48,454
I don't, I just don't have any more
insecurities that I can like, pop

429
00:16:48,454 --> 00:16:50,644
out on the top of my head, you know?

430
00:16:50,674 --> 00:16:51,064
Um.

431
00:16:52,909 --> 00:16:54,919
Especially your home,
like you're home now.

432
00:16:55,039 --> 00:16:55,339
Yeah.

433
00:16:55,399 --> 00:16:59,899
Like you can be on the computer
all day, you can be chatting it

434
00:16:59,899 --> 00:17:02,449
up with somebody all freaking day.

435
00:17:02,839 --> 00:17:05,509
Um, and I really don't care.

436
00:17:05,899 --> 00:17:06,229
Yeah.

437
00:17:06,469 --> 00:17:08,989
You know, like we've already
gone through so many.

438
00:17:08,989 --> 00:17:10,714
I mean, why would you,
we've gone through deal.

439
00:17:10,714 --> 00:17:15,649
We've gone through so many
scenarios, people, so many freaking

440
00:17:15,649 --> 00:17:17,749
scenarios, crazy ass women.

441
00:17:18,229 --> 00:17:18,589
Um.

442
00:17:19,924 --> 00:17:25,384
And I feel like you're, you're like
one of those mice that gets zapped and

443
00:17:25,384 --> 00:17:26,764
you're not gonna touch that cheese again.

444
00:17:27,124 --> 00:17:28,144
So like you already know.

445
00:17:28,149 --> 00:17:29,369
Yeah, no, I learned from my mistakes.

446
00:17:29,374 --> 00:17:29,854
Yeah.

447
00:17:29,854 --> 00:17:33,304
And you know, they're, they're just
things that just happen and you're

448
00:17:33,304 --> 00:17:37,474
never gonna know how to maneuver
through them unless they happen, so,

449
00:17:37,479 --> 00:17:37,649
yeah.

450
00:17:37,954 --> 00:17:38,134
Yeah.

451
00:17:38,134 --> 00:17:41,464
No, I don't, I don't have any, I used to
be like really resentful because you were

452
00:17:41,464 --> 00:17:44,854
home and I was like, dang man, he's always
home and you could do this and that.

453
00:17:45,934 --> 00:17:46,649
That was back in the day.

454
00:17:46,999 --> 00:17:47,059
So

455
00:17:47,749 --> 00:17:48,559
when I was home

456
00:17:48,919 --> 00:17:49,159
Yeah.

457
00:17:49,159 --> 00:17:52,879
Back, like, back like when you, when
we were first starting off this thing.

458
00:17:52,884 --> 00:17:53,004
Oh yeah.

459
00:17:53,104 --> 00:17:53,324
Oh,

460
00:17:53,444 --> 00:17:53,724
I gotcha.

461
00:17:54,529 --> 00:17:55,759
Oh no, now no.

462
00:17:55,789 --> 00:17:58,599
I was like, you have a couple of
months and then you doesn't gonna

463
00:17:58,599 --> 00:17:59,839
have to go back to work, but yeah.

464
00:17:59,839 --> 00:18:02,209
No, it's um Oh

465
00:18:02,209 --> 00:18:02,629
wow.

466
00:18:02,689 --> 00:18:03,319
Yeah.

467
00:18:04,489 --> 00:18:07,129
You know, I was thinking
right now expectations that

468
00:18:07,129 --> 00:18:08,119
was what we're talking about.

469
00:18:09,919 --> 00:18:12,859
We have expectations as
a couple to each other.

470
00:18:13,399 --> 00:18:13,789
How's that?

471
00:18:14,149 --> 00:18:18,349
Like I expect you to be at your
utmost respectfulness when we go

472
00:18:18,349 --> 00:18:21,169
out with other women and respect me.

473
00:18:21,739 --> 00:18:21,859
Mm-hmm.

474
00:18:22,099 --> 00:18:22,579
Do you know?

475
00:18:22,819 --> 00:18:24,769
And I feel like that's an expectation.

476
00:18:25,099 --> 00:18:27,289
You expect that because
I've always been that way.

477
00:18:27,439 --> 00:18:28,219
Yeah.

478
00:18:28,609 --> 00:18:29,629
I mean, you never know.

479
00:18:29,629 --> 00:18:33,739
You can get a little loosey
goosey sometimes and other people

480
00:18:33,739 --> 00:18:36,319
can get a little loosey goosey
and I'm just not having it.

481
00:18:36,949 --> 00:18:37,804
Yeah, yeah.

482
00:18:38,179 --> 00:18:38,599
Yeah.

483
00:18:39,199 --> 00:18:43,579
And it, I mean, that's an expectation
that you are going to make sure that,

484
00:18:43,849 --> 00:18:45,169
I mean, I'm always on your thoughts.

485
00:18:45,169 --> 00:18:49,579
Like no matter what, you can have a
woman right next to you who's half

486
00:18:49,579 --> 00:18:55,219
naked and I am the first thing that you
think about how I'm feeling, how I'm

487
00:18:55,219 --> 00:18:57,529
gonna react, how, what am I gonna say?

488
00:18:57,799 --> 00:18:58,639
How do you do this?

489
00:18:58,879 --> 00:19:02,719
So I know it's never gone
away, . Is there anything that you

490
00:19:02,719 --> 00:19:04,459
expect for me to be like certain.

491
00:19:04,699 --> 00:19:05,749
Way to behave.

492
00:19:06,409 --> 00:19:06,859
Yes.

493
00:19:07,849 --> 00:19:09,859
Well, yeah, I do actually.

494
00:19:09,859 --> 00:19:12,559
I, you know, I, I know who you are.

495
00:19:12,559 --> 00:19:13,519
I know how you are.

496
00:19:13,579 --> 00:19:19,669
And so most of the time when
I am mulling over trying to

497
00:19:21,889 --> 00:19:25,909
discuss something with you, I normally
know how you're going to react.

498
00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:31,429
A lot of times, I know when we
go out, if something happens, I

499
00:19:31,429 --> 00:19:33,499
usually know how you're gonna react.

500
00:19:34,159 --> 00:19:40,009
Um, we've had situations where
something was said in a certain way,

501
00:19:40,549 --> 00:19:47,299
and I immediately knew without even
looking at you what your reaction was.

502
00:19:47,929 --> 00:19:52,879
Um, yeah, you, you rise to the
occasion when it comes to expectations.

503
00:19:52,879 --> 00:19:54,889
I, I, I pretty much have you down.

504
00:19:55,309 --> 00:19:55,939
Yeah.

505
00:19:56,029 --> 00:19:56,299
Yeah.

506
00:19:56,299 --> 00:19:56,479
I kind

507
00:19:56,479 --> 00:19:57,259
of have you down.

508
00:19:57,439 --> 00:19:57,799
Oh, yeah.

509
00:19:57,799 --> 00:19:58,249
I'm sure.

510
00:19:58,249 --> 00:19:58,999
I'm pretty simple, like,

511
00:19:59,944 --> 00:20:00,234
yeah.

512
00:20:00,239 --> 00:20:00,469
Yeah.

513
00:20:01,519 --> 00:20:06,079
And I kind of know what I, what I'm gonna
walk into when we go somewhere together.

514
00:20:06,439 --> 00:20:10,789
Like I already know what's gonna be the
scenario or like I run through them all.

515
00:20:11,209 --> 00:20:12,049
I do what you do.

516
00:20:12,994 --> 00:20:16,504
And like if this happens, if that
happens, if this happens and that happens

517
00:20:16,534 --> 00:20:18,184
and then we leave with nothing happen

518
00:20:18,274 --> 00:20:23,434
and we, because your expectations
are just too high, sir. Yeah.

519
00:20:23,434 --> 00:20:23,734
My

520
00:20:23,734 --> 00:20:25,324
expectations are really high.

521
00:20:26,014 --> 00:20:26,164
I'm sure.

522
00:20:26,164 --> 00:20:26,524
I mean, and

523
00:20:26,524 --> 00:20:28,594
you expect your people to be around you.

524
00:20:28,594 --> 00:20:34,624
Like, so expectations again, we
expect the adults that we are with,

525
00:20:35,044 --> 00:20:39,904
surrounding ourselves with, we expect
them to be on their utmost behavior.

526
00:20:40,714 --> 00:20:42,574
And that is never the case.

527
00:20:43,629 --> 00:20:44,644
No, no, no.

528
00:20:45,124 --> 00:20:48,904
Like that's the one thing
that's a really big expectation.

529
00:20:49,204 --> 00:20:54,694
You are chilling out with friends and
you're chilling out with your community,

530
00:20:55,324 --> 00:21:00,934
and you expect them all to be on their
best behavior, especially the men

531
00:21:01,744 --> 00:21:03,814
actually, and the women, both genders.

532
00:21:03,934 --> 00:21:06,664
And it never, it never happens.

533
00:21:07,804 --> 00:21:08,009
You know?

534
00:21:08,009 --> 00:21:08,129
It.

535
00:21:09,139 --> 00:21:09,919
You gotta stop expecting.

536
00:21:11,719 --> 00:21:12,289
Yeah.

537
00:21:12,289 --> 00:21:15,889
You know, that's the thing is,
is you ex you expect everybody

538
00:21:15,889 --> 00:21:17,299
to be respectful mm-hmm.

539
00:21:17,689 --> 00:21:21,679
And know and respond
to boundaries and Yeah.

540
00:21:21,679 --> 00:21:24,889
That, that, that ends up
going away as people drink.

541
00:21:25,399 --> 00:21:26,029
Yes.

542
00:21:26,149 --> 00:21:26,569
Um,

543
00:21:27,349 --> 00:21:32,689
like there's been so many, so many things
that have popped up and it's like, man,

544
00:21:32,689 --> 00:21:35,569
I really expected this one to be better.

545
00:21:36,544 --> 00:21:37,594
You know, this event.

546
00:21:37,594 --> 00:21:38,434
It's kind of disappointing, eh?

547
00:21:38,494 --> 00:21:39,124
It is.

548
00:21:39,154 --> 00:21:39,274
Yeah.

549
00:21:39,274 --> 00:21:39,754
It is.

550
00:21:39,934 --> 00:21:43,654
And I mean, it's not for you to,
don't, don't think that you can't

551
00:21:44,014 --> 00:21:46,144
enjoy the lifestyle because you can.

552
00:21:46,504 --> 00:21:53,044
There's, um, there's more to enjoy
than there is to not enjoy, I guess.

553
00:21:53,494 --> 00:21:53,914
How's that?

554
00:21:54,304 --> 00:21:57,274
Well, you enjoy the, the comradery, right?

555
00:21:57,274 --> 00:21:58,619
The people around you, community.

556
00:21:58,619 --> 00:21:58,979
So thats always fun.

557
00:21:58,979 --> 00:22:00,484
The community always fun, the community.

558
00:22:03,049 --> 00:22:05,719
Don't, don't, just don't
have any expectations.

559
00:22:05,809 --> 00:22:09,469
I just walk in and be like,
damn, this is not gonna go well.

560
00:22:09,619 --> 00:22:10,969
And then if it goes well, you're great.

561
00:22:13,069 --> 00:22:15,754
Oh yeah, that's pretty
much sums up the show.

562
00:22:15,894 --> 00:22:16,234
Put those

563
00:22:16,234 --> 00:22:17,554
expectations elsewhere.

564
00:22:19,789 --> 00:22:22,489
That's, Ooh.

565
00:22:23,509 --> 00:22:25,579
Now sexual expectations.

566
00:22:26,854 --> 00:22:30,004
You expect the guy to rise to the
occasion, and sometimes that's

567
00:22:30,004 --> 00:22:32,284
not the case and that is okay.

568
00:22:33,004 --> 00:22:33,784
Yeah, yeah.

569
00:22:33,784 --> 00:22:34,999
You know, sometimes it's not the case.

570
00:22:35,459 --> 00:22:38,014
You know, I, I struggle with that a lot.

571
00:22:38,254 --> 00:22:38,674
I know.

572
00:22:38,674 --> 00:22:41,044
And you really don't like
physically struggle with it

573
00:22:41,554 --> 00:22:42,154
mentally.

574
00:22:42,154 --> 00:22:42,634
I really do.

575
00:22:42,634 --> 00:22:43,324
Yeah.

576
00:22:43,564 --> 00:22:43,984
Yeah.

577
00:22:44,674 --> 00:22:44,794
Yeah.

578
00:22:44,794 --> 00:22:45,334
I struggle a lot.

579
00:22:45,334 --> 00:22:45,604
But

580
00:22:45,814 --> 00:22:49,714
have you noticed a lot of women are
just very understanding about that?

581
00:22:50,524 --> 00:22:50,974
Yeah.

582
00:22:51,034 --> 00:22:54,034
Well, I mean, we've talked to a lot of
people about it and most of the women will

583
00:22:54,034 --> 00:22:58,714
say, oh yeah, no, I, I. You know, if they
would just communicate it with me Exactly.

584
00:22:58,714 --> 00:23:01,054
Instead of really trying
to shove it in me.

585
00:23:01,264 --> 00:23:01,654
Exactly.

586
00:23:01,654 --> 00:23:03,874
Or just try and do
whatever they're gonna do.

587
00:23:03,874 --> 00:23:06,334
You know, they get upset and
they get all stressed out.

588
00:23:06,334 --> 00:23:09,214
But if they just were honest and
said, Hey, you know, I'm having

589
00:23:09,214 --> 00:23:11,434
this trouble, if you could give
me a little bit, or whatever.

590
00:23:11,494 --> 00:23:11,554
Yeah.

591
00:23:12,094 --> 00:23:14,434
Uh, I would definitely
be more understanding.

592
00:23:14,434 --> 00:23:15,874
I, I don't know how many
times I've heard that.

593
00:23:15,904 --> 00:23:17,164
Yeah, I know.

594
00:23:17,164 --> 00:23:18,904
But from a guy standpoint.

595
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,099
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

596
00:23:22,639 --> 00:23:24,559
Uh, we do a lot.

597
00:23:24,649 --> 00:23:29,809
As far as, you know, you, you have
this pornographic image in your

598
00:23:29,809 --> 00:23:35,839
head of how things are gonna go,
the expectations uhhuh, uh, and.

599
00:23:36,274 --> 00:23:37,594
Everybody does this.

600
00:23:37,594 --> 00:23:40,204
And I, if, if anybody says
they don't, they're lying.

601
00:23:40,654 --> 00:23:41,854
Everybody does this.

602
00:23:42,274 --> 00:23:45,814
You know, you, you're going to the club
or you're going to a house party, or

603
00:23:45,814 --> 00:23:47,344
you're gonna go meet up with some friends.

604
00:23:47,344 --> 00:23:51,424
You've played it out in your
head how you would like it to go.

605
00:23:51,514 --> 00:23:51,724
Yes.

606
00:23:52,114 --> 00:23:54,334
And that includes the actual sex.

607
00:23:54,574 --> 00:23:54,664
Yes.

608
00:23:54,754 --> 00:24:00,664
And when that happens, you've got this
whole idea in your head, you picture it.

609
00:24:01,399 --> 00:24:06,049
The way you would picture, you know,
some of the Skin Max movies you saw or

610
00:24:06,049 --> 00:24:09,409
whatever, you know, like you have this
whole thing in your head and it's gonna

611
00:24:09,409 --> 00:24:12,169
go like this and it's gonna be so awesome.

612
00:24:12,174 --> 00:24:12,204
Yeah.

613
00:24:12,504 --> 00:24:13,244
And then those

614
00:24:13,244 --> 00:24:14,004
expectations.

615
00:24:14,524 --> 00:24:14,644
Yeah.

616
00:24:14,644 --> 00:24:15,049
And then as

617
00:24:15,049 --> 00:24:18,919
soon as you get there and it's
like that first kiss, boom.

618
00:24:19,699 --> 00:24:20,809
They're not good kissers.

619
00:24:20,839 --> 00:24:21,319
Okay.

620
00:24:21,679 --> 00:24:23,329
I'm not gonna let that set the tone.

621
00:24:24,244 --> 00:24:25,714
Because this can still work.

622
00:24:25,714 --> 00:24:28,804
You know, there's not a whole lot of
kissing that needs to take place as

623
00:24:28,804 --> 00:24:30,784
far as these expectations that I had.

624
00:24:31,179 --> 00:24:31,399
Okay.

625
00:24:31,564 --> 00:24:32,044
Okay.

626
00:24:32,284 --> 00:24:33,784
So we're gonna move past that.

627
00:24:33,784 --> 00:24:34,534
We're gonna keep going.

628
00:24:34,534 --> 00:24:39,184
And then all of a sudden, uh, you
know, they, they have a hangup

629
00:24:39,604 --> 00:24:42,274
about their body and they don't
wanna take off any of their clothes.

630
00:24:42,694 --> 00:24:46,354
Uh, so they just want you
to remove their pants.

631
00:24:46,774 --> 00:24:47,024
Uh, but.

632
00:24:48,469 --> 00:24:50,899
Maybe kind of do it through their
underwear and they're gonna,

633
00:24:50,899 --> 00:24:52,789
but they're gonna, and they're
wearing a long sleeve shirt.

634
00:24:52,789 --> 00:24:54,019
Like they don't wanna take off anything.

635
00:24:54,109 --> 00:24:54,349
Yeah.

636
00:24:54,829 --> 00:24:55,459
Oh, okay.

637
00:24:56,209 --> 00:24:59,989
So that's, that's something.

638
00:25:00,049 --> 00:25:00,499
Okay.

639
00:25:00,529 --> 00:25:04,189
Let's, let's, uh, let's go
ahead and I can, I, I don't

640
00:25:04,189 --> 00:25:05,239
need, you can wear clothes.

641
00:25:05,239 --> 00:25:05,629
That's fine.

642
00:25:06,379 --> 00:25:06,829
That's fine.

643
00:25:06,829 --> 00:25:09,709
I mean, it's deviating from the
original plan, but that's fine.

644
00:25:10,069 --> 00:25:10,429
Okay.

645
00:25:10,489 --> 00:25:12,019
We can de We can, we can, that's okay.

646
00:25:12,169 --> 00:25:13,339
That expectation, Dawn, that's okay.

647
00:25:13,374 --> 00:25:13,534
Okay.

648
00:25:13,579 --> 00:25:13,909
Because

649
00:25:13,909 --> 00:25:14,929
this is still gonna happen.

650
00:25:14,929 --> 00:25:15,169
Right.

651
00:25:15,169 --> 00:25:15,179
Okay.

652
00:25:15,439 --> 00:25:15,499
Yeah.

653
00:25:16,249 --> 00:25:20,089
So then it's like, okay, well let me,
uh, you know, let me go down there Yeah.

654
00:25:20,089 --> 00:25:23,659
And do my thing, you know,
and, uh, you know, I'm, I'm

655
00:25:23,749 --> 00:25:25,459
enjoying life for a while there.

656
00:25:25,459 --> 00:25:28,009
But yeah, I'm down there for a while.

657
00:25:28,099 --> 00:25:28,489
Yeah.

658
00:25:29,269 --> 00:25:31,009
A good while, which is fine.

659
00:25:31,189 --> 00:25:31,489
Yeah.

660
00:25:31,489 --> 00:25:32,179
It's okay.

661
00:25:32,179 --> 00:25:38,989
I like to spend time down there, but
now it's becoming more of a, okay.

662
00:25:38,989 --> 00:25:39,619
Is, is this.

663
00:25:40,444 --> 00:25:43,384
Is she gonna tap me at any point
and say, Hey, you can stop.

664
00:25:43,444 --> 00:25:43,624
Yeah.

665
00:25:43,624 --> 00:25:45,754
Is she gonna have me do this
for the next three hours?

666
00:25:45,754 --> 00:25:45,814
Yeah.

667
00:25:45,844 --> 00:25:47,044
Like, am I gonna live down here?

668
00:25:47,044 --> 00:25:48,574
Do I make the decision?

669
00:25:48,844 --> 00:25:49,084
Yeah.

670
00:25:49,144 --> 00:25:49,894
To stop.

671
00:25:50,284 --> 00:25:51,149
I think you have to,

672
00:25:52,249 --> 00:25:53,974
you, you have to just wrap yourself up.

673
00:25:53,974 --> 00:25:55,324
Be like, okay, we're done.

674
00:25:55,384 --> 00:25:56,344
I mean, yeah.

675
00:25:56,404 --> 00:26:01,084
Uh, so right off the bat you start
asking yourself that that's not going

676
00:26:01,084 --> 00:26:04,474
quite as well, because now you're
starting to overthink the situation.

677
00:26:04,474 --> 00:26:04,564
Yes.

678
00:26:04,564 --> 00:26:05,404
This is becoming a thing.

679
00:26:05,404 --> 00:26:08,854
So then I'm like, okay,
I could really use some.

680
00:26:09,229 --> 00:26:10,069
Oral support.

681
00:26:10,219 --> 00:26:10,639
Yeah.

682
00:26:10,819 --> 00:26:16,519
Let me jump up here and go, Hey, so do
you think maybe, I don't know, you could

683
00:26:16,519 --> 00:26:20,509
return the favor, and then she goes, yeah.

684
00:26:20,989 --> 00:26:23,809
I, I, I don't, I'm kind
of grossed out by that.

685
00:26:23,809 --> 00:26:25,609
Like, I don't really like to do that.

686
00:26:25,609 --> 00:26:26,134
Well, I mean, hopefully

687
00:26:26,134 --> 00:26:27,859
you're talking to her
ahead of time about that.

688
00:26:27,889 --> 00:26:28,249
Well, yeah.

689
00:26:28,249 --> 00:26:30,409
But this is a, this is a scenario.

690
00:26:30,409 --> 00:26:30,419
Yeah.

691
00:26:30,419 --> 00:26:30,429
Scenario.

692
00:26:30,499 --> 00:26:30,559
Yeah.

693
00:26:30,559 --> 00:26:31,429
This is a scenario, right?

694
00:26:31,429 --> 00:26:32,569
That would not be cool.

695
00:26:32,569 --> 00:26:34,919
So then she's like,
yeah, no, you know, it's.

696
00:26:35,629 --> 00:26:37,009
Not really one of my favorite things.

697
00:26:37,009 --> 00:26:42,379
I mean, I, I, I, I'm, I'll try
and so then I'm like, oh, I

698
00:26:42,379 --> 00:26:44,179
don't wanna force you, you know?

699
00:26:44,179 --> 00:26:45,109
But, uh, yeah.

700
00:26:45,109 --> 00:26:48,739
You know, if you're gonna give it
an old try the old college try.

701
00:26:48,739 --> 00:26:49,219
Sure.

702
00:26:49,224 --> 00:26:49,504
Mm-hmm.

703
00:26:49,879 --> 00:26:50,959
And then it doesn't go well.

704
00:26:51,439 --> 00:26:51,799
Right.

705
00:26:52,249 --> 00:26:55,819
So then as you're recapping, you're
realizing, as you're finishing up the

706
00:26:55,819 --> 00:27:00,169
whole sexual experience, you're realizing
everything that I had planned in my head

707
00:27:01,069 --> 00:27:04,579
from start to finish, none of it happened.

708
00:27:05,899 --> 00:27:06,619
And

709
00:27:07,639 --> 00:27:09,529
I've had many a scenario like that.

710
00:27:09,589 --> 00:27:13,009
Well, the real question is if you
don't have expectations and you

711
00:27:13,009 --> 00:27:14,719
don't run through this in your head.

712
00:27:14,749 --> 00:27:15,379
Exactly,

713
00:27:15,529 --> 00:27:15,859
yeah.

714
00:27:15,979 --> 00:27:17,749
Is it gonna be as disappointing?

715
00:27:19,279 --> 00:27:21,769
I think so, unfortunately.

716
00:27:22,219 --> 00:27:23,509
Yeah, it is.

717
00:27:24,619 --> 00:27:25,249
But it's okay.

718
00:27:25,249 --> 00:27:29,179
I mean, hey, put your
expectations out there.

719
00:27:29,179 --> 00:27:31,394
It doesn't, it doesn't hurt, you know?

720
00:27:32,824 --> 00:27:36,004
It's, it's more like a
motivation for people.

721
00:27:36,094 --> 00:27:36,964
It's a motivation,

722
00:27:37,234 --> 00:27:38,554
you know, expectations.

723
00:27:38,824 --> 00:27:39,994
Expectations.

724
00:27:40,024 --> 00:27:40,174
Hmm.

725
00:27:40,174 --> 00:27:41,164
It's motivation.

726
00:27:42,274 --> 00:27:44,524
They expect me to look hot,
so I'm gonna go get hot.

727
00:27:44,614 --> 00:27:45,394
I'm just kidding.

728
00:27:45,529 --> 00:27:45,749
Oh

729
00:27:45,749 --> 00:27:45,949
God.

730
00:27:45,989 --> 00:27:47,069
I hope that's not an expectation.

731
00:27:47,914 --> 00:27:49,144
You taking me the way I am.

732
00:27:49,144 --> 00:27:50,494
Lumpies and all.

733
00:27:50,524 --> 00:27:50,674
You

734
00:27:50,674 --> 00:27:55,264
know, one, one of the hard parts
about, uh, being a podcaster in

735
00:27:55,264 --> 00:28:00,429
our community is I think people
expect us to be on all the time.

736
00:28:01,834 --> 00:28:03,184
And Yeah.

737
00:28:03,214 --> 00:28:08,824
You know, for anybody who's maybe listened
to our podcast from the early episodes,

738
00:28:08,824 --> 00:28:10,834
I'm talking like the beginning episodes.

739
00:28:10,894 --> 00:28:11,314
Yeah.

740
00:28:11,464 --> 00:28:16,234
Uh, would know, uh, that I have
anxiety and you know, I'm not

741
00:28:16,264 --> 00:28:18,814
always the most sociable person.

742
00:28:18,814 --> 00:28:20,074
Sometimes I'm just not feeling it.

743
00:28:20,074 --> 00:28:21,544
Sometimes I just wanna be in a corner.

744
00:28:21,604 --> 00:28:21,904
Yeah.

745
00:28:22,264 --> 00:28:23,914
Um, people watching

746
00:28:24,304 --> 00:28:25,594
and that's what I like to do.

747
00:28:25,594 --> 00:28:26,434
I do not.

748
00:28:27,019 --> 00:28:27,289
Some.

749
00:28:27,409 --> 00:28:29,899
Most of the time I don't feel
like talking to people and I

750
00:28:29,899 --> 00:28:33,019
just wanna sit there and watch.

751
00:28:33,379 --> 00:28:33,619
Yeah.

752
00:28:34,279 --> 00:28:36,259
And yeah, everyone expects us to be

753
00:28:37,489 --> 00:28:38,209
Adam and Chris.

754
00:28:38,209 --> 00:28:38,989
Adam and Chris.

755
00:28:39,409 --> 00:28:40,219
And we do.

756
00:28:40,369 --> 00:28:40,999
And we do.

757
00:28:40,999 --> 00:28:41,759
And we do.

758
00:28:41,759 --> 00:28:42,649
We rise to the occasion.

759
00:28:42,649 --> 00:28:42,724
We rise.

760
00:28:42,724 --> 00:28:43,644
We don't wanna disappoint you.

761
00:28:43,904 --> 00:28:44,404
No, we don't.

762
00:28:44,719 --> 00:28:45,049
We don't.

763
00:28:45,049 --> 00:28:45,299
We do nothing.

764
00:28:45,384 --> 00:28:46,429
So the last thing we
want do is disappoint.

765
00:28:46,429 --> 00:28:46,969
Exactly.

766
00:28:47,264 --> 00:28:48,739
But yeah, there's times where

767
00:28:48,799 --> 00:28:51,229
I'll disappoint my kids
before I wanna disappoint you.

768
00:28:51,229 --> 00:28:51,319
I

769
00:28:51,319 --> 00:28:53,089
mean, we have to walk away, right?

770
00:28:53,089 --> 00:28:54,799
And we sit down and we just kind of.

771
00:28:55,549 --> 00:28:58,639
Compose ourselves again, and then
go out there and do it again.

772
00:28:58,969 --> 00:29:02,959
Um, it happens at the club all the time.

773
00:29:02,989 --> 00:29:05,509
We're sitting there, we're, you
know, people come up and say

774
00:29:05,509 --> 00:29:07,519
hi, which we absolutely love.

775
00:29:07,519 --> 00:29:08,329
Do not stop.

776
00:29:08,329 --> 00:29:08,389
Yeah.

777
00:29:08,779 --> 00:29:13,009
But then we just sit down and we're
just, you know, back, back at our thing.

778
00:29:13,129 --> 00:29:14,464
People watching so well, so

779
00:29:14,479 --> 00:29:18,259
that's the thing that I worry about
is when people come and talk to us,

780
00:29:18,439 --> 00:29:22,939
uh, you know, they, they know us
from the show and they expect that.

781
00:29:24,019 --> 00:29:27,709
I am always worried that they're
gonna be disappointed when

782
00:29:27,709 --> 00:29:29,414
they leave there like dude.

783
00:29:30,994 --> 00:29:34,324
That was the most boring
conversation I have ever had

784
00:29:34,324 --> 00:29:35,884
with anybody in my entire life.

785
00:29:35,884 --> 00:29:37,234
What kind podcast is that?

786
00:29:37,234 --> 00:29:37,294
We

787
00:29:37,354 --> 00:29:40,354
like this weekend we went and we went
to the club and it was empty on Friday

788
00:29:40,504 --> 00:29:43,264
and we said hi to so many new people.

789
00:29:43,294 --> 00:29:43,684
Oh yeah, you

790
00:29:43,684 --> 00:29:45,454
dragged me from table or was a
Saturday from table to table.

791
00:29:45,454 --> 00:29:46,684
That was Saturday.

792
00:29:46,684 --> 00:29:46,774
Was

793
00:29:46,774 --> 00:29:49,984
Saturday and I dragged you to
every single table that was there.

794
00:29:49,984 --> 00:29:51,184
We met new people.

795
00:29:51,184 --> 00:29:54,664
Everybody was tapping you,
getting our information.

796
00:29:54,814 --> 00:29:55,414
That was rough.

797
00:29:55,504 --> 00:29:57,784
Um, but we did it and we.

798
00:29:58,264 --> 00:30:00,514
Made new friends and
that was rough, you know?

799
00:30:00,844 --> 00:30:01,684
Yeah, no, that was hard.

800
00:30:01,984 --> 00:30:02,614
Uh, you know, I

801
00:30:02,614 --> 00:30:05,074
expect going into those places
that we make new friends.

802
00:30:05,224 --> 00:30:05,914
Really that's what we do.

803
00:30:06,814 --> 00:30:12,634
Um, when I go in, I just go
in expecting to people watch.

804
00:30:13,054 --> 00:30:13,324
Yeah.

805
00:30:13,324 --> 00:30:13,504
And

806
00:30:13,504 --> 00:30:17,314
then you told me, you were like,
so we're gonna go around the

807
00:30:17,374 --> 00:30:21,334
club and we're gonna introduce
ourselves to everybody that's here.

808
00:30:22,204 --> 00:30:23,854
And I was like, no, whatever.

809
00:30:23,854 --> 00:30:25,324
She's gonna change her mind at some point.

810
00:30:25,324 --> 00:30:26,829
'cause the manager told me,
he's like, everyone and me too.

811
00:30:27,099 --> 00:30:27,429
I was like, okay,

812
00:30:27,634 --> 00:30:28,744
let's go say hi to everybody.

813
00:30:28,744 --> 00:30:29,104
He told

814
00:30:29,104 --> 00:30:31,594
me too, he was like, yeah, we
don't have a host couple tonight

815
00:30:31,594 --> 00:30:32,764
and there's some new people.

816
00:30:32,764 --> 00:30:34,234
Y'all should really say hi.

817
00:30:34,864 --> 00:30:36,634
We're already a stomp on the tour.

818
00:30:36,694 --> 00:30:40,024
We are a stop on the tour whether we're
sitting in the front or in the back.

819
00:30:40,294 --> 00:30:40,744
Yeah.

820
00:30:40,744 --> 00:30:41,074
You know?

821
00:30:41,074 --> 00:30:44,014
And so I really didn't wanna, yeah.

822
00:30:44,194 --> 00:30:45,274
I'm not gonna lie, but it's,

823
00:30:45,274 --> 00:30:46,234
it's kind of fun.

824
00:30:46,234 --> 00:30:48,124
It's nice we're getting new people.

825
00:30:49,594 --> 00:30:52,774
It's fun and it's exciting
and it's, you know,

826
00:30:53,974 --> 00:30:54,214
totally.

827
00:30:54,694 --> 00:30:55,024
Yeah,

828
00:30:55,084 --> 00:30:55,564
totally.

829
00:30:56,314 --> 00:30:57,004
So fun.

830
00:30:58,204 --> 00:30:59,524
I love making new friends.

831
00:31:00,784 --> 00:31:02,554
I expect to make new friends.

832
00:31:02,584 --> 00:31:03,874
I need new friends.

833
00:31:03,874 --> 00:31:04,354
Do you?

834
00:31:05,044 --> 00:31:05,494
Yeah.

835
00:31:05,974 --> 00:31:07,114
So here's, here's the thing.

836
00:31:07,114 --> 00:31:08,254
I, I have friends, I just, you used

837
00:31:08,254 --> 00:31:09,364
to say this all the time.

838
00:31:09,514 --> 00:31:11,429
Back in the day, you used to say, oh, I.

839
00:31:12,364 --> 00:31:15,904
I wish I had a group
of of girlfriends Yes.

840
00:31:15,964 --> 00:31:19,624
That I could just on a whim go, oh, we're
gonna have a girls' night, or we're gonna

841
00:31:19,624 --> 00:31:20,764
go do this and we're gonna go do that.

842
00:31:20,824 --> 00:31:21,064
Yeah.

843
00:31:21,394 --> 00:31:25,264
And then you'd have friends that would
reach out and they'd be like, Hey, let's

844
00:31:25,264 --> 00:31:26,884
go to the movies, or let's go do this.

845
00:31:26,884 --> 00:31:28,144
And you'd be like, well, can I bring Adam?

846
00:31:29,014 --> 00:31:30,349
And they're like, no, it's, oh wait,

847
00:31:30,349 --> 00:31:31,474
the, the friends in Corpus?

848
00:31:31,504 --> 00:31:31,774
Yeah.

849
00:31:31,834 --> 00:31:32,074
Oh yeah.

850
00:31:32,074 --> 00:31:32,914
I didn't care for them.

851
00:31:33,004 --> 00:31:33,124
No.

852
00:31:33,454 --> 00:31:33,664
Yeah.

853
00:31:33,664 --> 00:31:37,594
No, but like my friends here, I'm
just not like, I'm so overwhelmed

854
00:31:37,594 --> 00:31:40,864
with work and home life that.

855
00:31:41,599 --> 00:31:46,039
I get literally this past weekend, I was
like, oh my God, my brain's gonna explode.

856
00:31:46,039 --> 00:31:47,569
Like I just have too much going on.

857
00:31:47,629 --> 00:31:47,719
Yeah.

858
00:31:47,719 --> 00:31:50,809
You gotta, you gotta, you know, leave
work at work, you know what I mean?

859
00:31:50,839 --> 00:31:53,479
Well, yeah, but I still have
to be at work for eight hours.

860
00:31:53,479 --> 00:31:53,539
I

861
00:31:53,539 --> 00:31:55,489
mean, look at me, I'm
wearing a Hawaiian shirt.

862
00:31:56,404 --> 00:32:00,274
And, I mean, I left work at
work when they laid me off.

863
00:32:02,164 --> 00:32:03,034
I didn't have a choice.

864
00:32:03,034 --> 00:32:03,394
You left

865
00:32:03,394 --> 00:32:04,474
it two months ago.

866
00:32:04,504 --> 00:32:04,654
That's

867
00:32:04,654 --> 00:32:04,954
right.

868
00:32:04,984 --> 00:32:06,274
I left work there.

869
00:32:06,454 --> 00:32:07,084
Yes, you did.

870
00:32:07,084 --> 00:32:07,714
Good job.

871
00:32:07,714 --> 00:32:07,804
And

872
00:32:07,804 --> 00:32:09,664
uh, now I leave podcast.

873
00:32:09,664 --> 00:32:10,564
At podcast.

874
00:32:10,654 --> 00:32:11,554
Yes, that's right.

875
00:32:11,854 --> 00:32:12,154
I love

876
00:32:12,154 --> 00:32:12,394
that.

877
00:32:14,044 --> 00:32:18,574
You know, it's, my thing
is this, I expect mm-hmm.

878
00:32:18,874 --> 00:32:24,694
That you walk in and
be in pri mode, as in.

879
00:32:25,594 --> 00:32:27,604
I am here for the family.

880
00:32:27,604 --> 00:32:28,804
I'm here for myself.

881
00:32:28,804 --> 00:32:30,814
I'm here to enjoy my life.

882
00:32:31,804 --> 00:32:36,874
And instead you walk in still in work
mode sometimes, like you're still sending

883
00:32:36,874 --> 00:32:39,574
texts and you're angry at your boss.

884
00:32:39,754 --> 00:32:43,054
Oh no, that's a very, it's a very
rare thing that I'm doing that

885
00:32:43,174 --> 00:32:44,434
'cause he doesn't really bother me.

886
00:32:44,494 --> 00:32:48,484
Mine is when you, when I walk
home, when I get in and the

887
00:32:48,484 --> 00:32:50,764
house is dirty, it's like really?

888
00:32:50,854 --> 00:32:52,799
There's six people in this house, bruh.

889
00:32:54,129 --> 00:32:55,174
Kids, nobody else is it.

890
00:32:55,384 --> 00:32:59,194
So I expect my family to
pitch in and they don't.

891
00:32:59,914 --> 00:33:03,814
I feel like this is the
peewee Herman's Playhouse.

892
00:33:03,904 --> 00:33:05,464
I mean, it could be word of the day.

893
00:33:05,584 --> 00:33:08,194
Expect expectations.

894
00:33:08,194 --> 00:33:09,154
Expectations.

895
00:33:09,214 --> 00:33:11,224
I expect that shit to get done.

896
00:33:11,344 --> 00:33:13,624
Yes, I expect my dinner on the table.

897
00:33:13,654 --> 00:33:17,164
I wish, I wish, let me tell you.

898
00:33:17,219 --> 00:33:17,739
No way, man.

899
00:33:17,764 --> 00:33:18,124
No way.

900
00:33:18,124 --> 00:33:21,214
I wish I didn't have to do my
expectations for my family.

901
00:33:21,214 --> 00:33:22,174
Go surpass.

902
00:33:22,189 --> 00:33:25,249
What my family does, and
I'm not counting you.

903
00:33:25,399 --> 00:33:26,899
I'm just saying like, my children,

904
00:33:27,799 --> 00:33:29,269
those kids are something else.

905
00:33:29,269 --> 00:33:29,749
Yes, they are.

906
00:33:30,019 --> 00:33:32,989
But you know, they, there's one
that's starting to cook more.

907
00:33:33,079 --> 00:33:33,589
I know.

908
00:33:33,589 --> 00:33:35,119
So that, that might take
something off your hand.

909
00:33:35,119 --> 00:33:36,139
She's an angry cook.

910
00:33:36,799 --> 00:33:37,429
She's like her mom.

911
00:33:38,299 --> 00:33:41,719
No, I, she's an angry cook.

912
00:33:42,499 --> 00:33:43,159
She's like her mom.

913
00:33:43,159 --> 00:33:43,429
I'm just

914
00:33:43,429 --> 00:33:43,639
saying.

915
00:33:46,489 --> 00:33:46,789
Yeah.

916
00:33:46,789 --> 00:33:53,854
So I. I think rounding about, we
can say this show on expectations,

917
00:33:54,274 --> 00:33:57,064
uh, went exactly as expected,

918
00:33:58,204 --> 00:33:59,104
baby.

919
00:34:00,484 --> 00:34:01,809
Oh yeah, that's, that was good.

920
00:34:01,809 --> 00:34:01,829
That's right.

921
00:34:02,314 --> 00:34:05,764
So I think it's safe to say.

922
00:34:07,174 --> 00:34:09,664
Uh, expectations.

923
00:34:10,264 --> 00:34:12,214
Try your best not to have them.

924
00:34:12,274 --> 00:34:13,174
Yeah, for sure.

925
00:34:13,174 --> 00:34:15,424
Um, but it's a thing, man.

926
00:34:15,424 --> 00:34:17,194
I don't care who says what.

927
00:34:17,194 --> 00:34:19,654
Everybody's gonna have some
sort of internal expectations.

928
00:34:19,659 --> 00:34:19,739
Mm-hmm.

929
00:34:19,819 --> 00:34:20,734
You may not say it out loud.

930
00:34:20,739 --> 00:34:20,779
Mm-hmm.

931
00:34:20,859 --> 00:34:21,179
But it's a thing.

932
00:34:21,179 --> 00:34:21,189
Mm-hmm.

933
00:34:21,904 --> 00:34:22,984
And it's hard not to.

934
00:34:22,984 --> 00:34:25,804
It's the reason why we feel
disappointed when things fall through.

935
00:34:25,804 --> 00:34:25,894
Yes.

936
00:34:26,404 --> 00:34:27,454
It's a thing.

937
00:34:28,174 --> 00:34:28,564
Uh.

938
00:34:28,999 --> 00:34:32,149
But with that, I just wanna
say thank you very much to

939
00:34:32,149 --> 00:34:34,249
everybody who listens to our show.

940
00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:40,459
Every time we do this,
uh, we love you guys.

941
00:34:41,779 --> 00:34:42,589
And that's true.

942
00:34:43,039 --> 00:34:44,809
That's, yes, that's a fact.

943
00:34:45,889 --> 00:34:50,359
And, uh, just a few reminders,
uh, before we let you go.

944
00:34:50,869 --> 00:34:52,189
Uh, everything.

945
00:34:53,809 --> 00:35:01,069
Episodes, blogs, video, everything
can be found on our website, uh, which

946
00:35:01,129 --> 00:35:03,019
should be appearing right about here.

947
00:35:03,409 --> 00:35:10,969
Uh, that's www.beyond-monogamy.com
and when you go there.

948
00:35:11,749 --> 00:35:17,239
You've got so many cool things, but we
recently started the Beyond Monogamy.

949
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:18,109
Confessional.

950
00:35:18,169 --> 00:35:19,429
Yes, guys.

951
00:35:19,489 --> 00:35:19,819
Yeah.

952
00:35:19,819 --> 00:35:21,139
It's a really, really cool thing.

953
00:35:21,139 --> 00:35:23,269
It's completely anonymous.

954
00:35:23,359 --> 00:35:23,449
Mm-hmm.

955
00:35:23,809 --> 00:35:29,989
Uh, but you can basically go in there
and you can write up your thoughts, uh,

956
00:35:30,499 --> 00:35:36,589
anything about the lifestyle, uh, anything
about the podcast, whatever you want, you

957
00:35:36,589 --> 00:35:39,394
can talk about, and whatever you submit.

958
00:35:40,744 --> 00:35:44,944
Can and may be the subject
to one of our shows.

959
00:35:44,974 --> 00:35:45,184
Yeah.

960
00:35:45,184 --> 00:35:47,464
It may even get read out loud.

961
00:35:47,469 --> 00:35:48,039
We got a few.

962
00:35:48,574 --> 00:35:49,894
We have gotten a few.

963
00:35:49,899 --> 00:35:49,919
Yeah.

964
00:35:49,924 --> 00:35:53,764
We have gotten a few, uh, of
which we will most likely be

965
00:35:53,764 --> 00:35:55,474
addressing at some point here.

966
00:35:55,474 --> 00:35:55,564
Yes.

967
00:35:55,984 --> 00:35:56,854
Uh, so.

968
00:35:57,979 --> 00:35:59,959
I think it's a really fun thing to do.

969
00:35:59,989 --> 00:36:04,609
It's a great way for you to express how
you feel or how you are feeling without

970
00:36:04,609 --> 00:36:07,789
actually letting anybody know it's you.

971
00:36:08,149 --> 00:36:12,559
Um, and I know that there's a lot of
people out there who've got some feels.

972
00:36:12,559 --> 00:36:13,189
Let me tell you.

973
00:36:13,219 --> 00:36:13,579
Mm-hmm.

974
00:36:13,849 --> 00:36:15,529
Give it a shot, see what you think.

975
00:36:15,559 --> 00:36:16,819
Take it for a test rock.

976
00:36:16,819 --> 00:36:18,619
But that's the place to do it at.

977
00:36:18,979 --> 00:36:21,829
On top of all that, don't forget at uh.

978
00:36:22,504 --> 00:36:26,944
We are on full swap
radio.com, uh, every Thursday.

979
00:36:27,034 --> 00:36:27,304
Mm-hmm.

980
00:36:27,874 --> 00:36:31,114
It's it, we normally say
it's Tuesday and Thursdays.

981
00:36:31,114 --> 00:36:31,564
I thought

982
00:36:31,654 --> 00:36:32,764
No, it's just Thursdays.

983
00:36:32,824 --> 00:36:33,724
Oh, on Thursdays?

984
00:36:33,754 --> 00:36:35,104
Yeah, it's just Thursdays.

985
00:36:35,704 --> 00:36:36,754
I think it's just Thursdays.

986
00:36:36,814 --> 00:36:37,204
Okay.

987
00:36:37,774 --> 00:36:39,574
And we usually say it's one to six.

988
00:36:39,574 --> 00:36:40,954
It's two to seven now.

989
00:36:41,224 --> 00:36:42,124
Oh, two to seven.

990
00:36:42,124 --> 00:36:42,719
Two to seven.

991
00:36:43,024 --> 00:36:45,964
And then of course you can find
us on all your social platforms.

992
00:36:45,964 --> 00:36:48,484
We're on Facebook, we're on TikTok.

993
00:36:48,574 --> 00:36:49,844
We do TikTok lives.

994
00:36:50,104 --> 00:36:50,164
Yeah.

995
00:36:50,914 --> 00:36:52,984
Um, YouTube guys, we're on YouTube.

996
00:36:52,984 --> 00:36:53,734
You see us here?

997
00:36:53,824 --> 00:36:54,304
YouTube.

998
00:36:54,484 --> 00:36:54,574
Yeah.

999
00:36:54,574 --> 00:36:58,294
Share, like, put that little bell so
that you can know that when we're on,

1000
00:36:58,864 --> 00:37:01,264
um, oh, we have some things coming up.

1001
00:37:01,354 --> 00:37:02,314
November the eighth

1002
00:37:02,344 --> 00:37:05,824
we do November 8th, we
will be at Forbidden Fruit.

1003
00:37:05,974 --> 00:37:06,214
Yes.

1004
00:37:06,214 --> 00:37:06,964
In Austin.

1005
00:37:07,144 --> 00:37:09,724
Uh, forbidden Fruit, of course,
is our wonderful beloved sponsor.

1006
00:37:10,264 --> 00:37:10,714
They are the.

1007
00:37:11,119 --> 00:37:11,899
Oldest.

1008
00:37:12,379 --> 00:37:13,244
Uh, adult store.

1009
00:37:13,249 --> 00:37:15,709
Adult store in town, Austin, Texas.

1010
00:37:15,769 --> 00:37:16,039
Yeah.

1011
00:37:16,279 --> 00:37:19,159
Um, and did you put our calendar
up already on our website?

1012
00:37:19,159 --> 00:37:19,249
Yeah.

1013
00:37:19,249 --> 00:37:22,399
So if you go to our website, you
can actually find our events.

1014
00:37:22,489 --> 00:37:23,569
Everything is listed there.

1015
00:37:23,569 --> 00:37:24,859
We put everything down.

1016
00:37:24,859 --> 00:37:27,889
I'm talking like even if
we go to the club Yes.

1017
00:37:27,949 --> 00:37:28,729
On the weekend.

1018
00:37:28,759 --> 00:37:29,209
Yes.

1019
00:37:29,539 --> 00:37:30,559
Where we're gonna be.

1020
00:37:30,709 --> 00:37:30,859
Yes.

1021
00:37:30,889 --> 00:37:34,849
Because sometimes people like to keep
tabs, sometimes people like to hang out.

1022
00:37:34,999 --> 00:37:35,329
Yeah.

1023
00:37:35,569 --> 00:37:36,564
Now you know where we're gonna be at.

1024
00:37:37,474 --> 00:37:38,194
So there you go.

1025
00:37:38,674 --> 00:37:40,894
Uh, everything, like I
said, is at that site.

1026
00:37:40,894 --> 00:37:42,034
Give us a shot.

1027
00:37:42,034 --> 00:37:42,874
You'll love it.

1028
00:37:43,054 --> 00:37:46,264
Also, uh, for all of you wonderful
people out there, I just wanna

1029
00:37:46,264 --> 00:37:50,884
drop the fact that we now have a
Patreon that is live and going good.

1030
00:37:51,394 --> 00:37:54,724
Um, we are offering
some interesting stuff.

1031
00:37:55,174 --> 00:37:56,314
I'm not gonna list it to you.

1032
00:37:56,944 --> 00:37:58,354
You're gonna have to get
in there and find out.

1033
00:37:58,444 --> 00:37:58,714
Mm-hmm.

1034
00:37:59,014 --> 00:38:00,524
Because, uh, you know.

1035
00:38:01,924 --> 00:38:02,284
The link.

1036
00:38:02,284 --> 00:38:02,434
Good.

1037
00:38:02,434 --> 00:38:02,669
The to

1038
00:38:02,674 --> 00:38:03,964
Patreon is in our website.

1039
00:38:03,964 --> 00:38:04,414
It's, you'll

1040
00:38:04,414 --> 00:38:05,344
find it in our show notes.

1041
00:38:05,374 --> 00:38:05,854
Yeah.

1042
00:38:06,334 --> 00:38:09,184
And so, uh, with that, I just
want to thank you guys once again.

1043
00:38:09,184 --> 00:38:09,994
Thank you for everything.

1044
00:38:09,994 --> 00:38:10,924
Thank you for joining us.

1045
00:38:11,284 --> 00:38:13,474
Uh, and we will see you guys next week.

1046
00:38:13,714 --> 00:38:14,314
Bye.