Polyamory, Marriage, and Dating Women: How One Couple Makes Non-Monogamy Work

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Alright y'all, before we
dive in, a quick heads up.

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This show is raw, real, and
definitely not rated pg.

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We're talking about adult themes, sexual
content, and the kind of stuff you

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probably don't want blasting through your
speakers at work or around your kits.

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So grab some headphones, pour your
drink of choice and get comfy.

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Oh, and just so we're clear, we are not
licensed therapists, counselors, or sex.

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Couches.

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Sex coaches.

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Sex coaches,

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not sex couches

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or just a couple of people sharing our
lives, experiences and sexy adventures.

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An ethical non-monogamy.

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So with that, pull up a
chair and enjoy the show.

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Hello and welcome to another
episode of Beyond Monogamy.

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I'm Adam.

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And I'm Pris.

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And today we're talking with someone
who lives a relationship dynamic that I

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think a lot of people are curious about
because it's a little different than

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what most people are used to seeing.

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Yeah.

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But honestly not that different from
the kinds of relationships that we

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talk about on this show all the time.

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Exactly.

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Dominique from the TikTok account
life with Dominique has been really

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open about her relationship dynamic.

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She's married to her husband and
she also has a long-term girlfriend

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who's joining us here today.

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Leah and she shares a lot about what
all of that looks like in real life,

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which I actually love because
people see things like that

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online and immediately have.

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About a thousand questions.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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People are always like, okay, but
wait, how does this actually work?

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Mm-hmm.

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Who lives here?

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How does jealousy work?

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Do people get along?

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How do you balance relationships?

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Who gets the weekends?

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Exactly,

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exactly.

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Yes.

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The logistics alone are fascinating.

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So thank,

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yeah.

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So today we're gonna talk about how
Dominique discovered non-monogamy,

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how her relationship dynamic works,
what people misunderstand about poly

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relationships and what it's like sharing
all of that publicly on social media.

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And honestly, I am really excited
about this conversation because

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there are so many different ways
people practice non-monogamy, and

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it's always interesting hearing about
how different couples make it work.

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Yeah.

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But before we jump in, if you're enjoying
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That's right.

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And with that, Dominique, Leah, thank you
so much and welcome to Beyond Monogamy.

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Welcome, welcome,
welcome, welcome, ladies.

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How are you guys?

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Good.

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Very

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good.

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Good.

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I'm so happy to have you on here, Leah.

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I followed you only because my
husband said she's spicy like

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you, you need to follow this one.

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And I said, great.

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And I'll pop in your lives most
times 'cause I'm, I'm working.

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So I'll get on there and I'll just,
I'll listen to your things because.

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You say a lot of things
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Well, and like we were saying before
we, uh, started the show, uh, and what

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our, a lot of our listeners already
know is that, you know, we had our,

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our five year stint, uh, in Poly.

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Yes.

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And it did not go well.

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It did not go well.

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We'll get into that, but

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And, and, and we'll, we'll get into that.

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But, for the most part, uh, you know,
she just wasn't, uh, really into it.

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And so a lot of what you say
definitely reframes how people

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think about this sort of thing.

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So I wanna start from the very beginning.

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And Leah, you feel free to jump in as
anytime you guys talk, as you would.

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Okay.

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But what I really wanna know is,
Dominique, how did you, how did

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you even get to non-monogamy?

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Like what brought you here?

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Honestly, I didn't even know
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Yeah, I say it all the time, like,
I never thought you couldn't pay

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me to think that I'd be here.

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But eight years ago I had set my husband
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and an attraction to be with other women.

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Um, I wanna go ahead and act on that.

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I've been suppressing this
for a long time in my life.

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Do you wanna be here?

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Do you wanna be involved?

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I want you here, but I get
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Literally.

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I was like, I couldn't breathe
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I was so nervous.

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I was like, okay, cool.

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Uh, if he leaves and I'm gonna just give
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me authentically, love me authentically,
or say, Hey, this is not for me.

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Yeah, that was eight years ago.

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He looked at me, he said, I already knew.

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I already knew.

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Really?

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So why'd you know that?

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What?

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I thought I was hiding it.

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Well, he was like, no, your friends would
hit on you and you just seem so intrigued.

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Like you seem like you were interested.

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And I'm like, what?

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thought I was hiding it.

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Well,

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we all think

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that, right?

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I was so confused by like how he
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And then we kind of talked about different
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Oh, I don't wanna, I'm not
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I'm not comfortable knowing details.

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We were 24 at that time, so we were young.

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It was all about you.

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Kind of like how you guys said,
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Like we wasn't thinking
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But in the midst of that and kind
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and talking to friends, I ended
up getting pregnant and I. Yeah.

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Damn.

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How does this happen?

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That changes shit.

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Doing, doing grown folks things.

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You, you gotta, you know.

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It happens.

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It happens.

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Believe

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me.

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Yeah.

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That put things to a,
a, a nice little halt.

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I stayed home.

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I raised our baby.

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We bought a house, we opened a business.

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We did so many, like, just regular
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I said, Hey, bringing this
back to the forefront here.

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Now that we kind got things settled
let's talk about this again.

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What do you wanna do?

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Like, do you wanna leave?

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Do you wanna be here?

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Kind of giving you a out again?

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He's like, no, but you know what?

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I think this journey is for you.

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I feel like it's for you to be with a
woman outside of me and know what that's

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like, and it has nothing to do with me.

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I completely support you on your journey.

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Go ahead.

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I said, well, how do you feel
about me talking publicly about it?

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He's like, yeah, fine.

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I don't care what people think.

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I said, okay.

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So I started talking about it.

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I got online, I wanted to tell my story.

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I'm very dramatic.

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I'm very big energy.

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So if I'm gonna tell my story, I'm
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to tell it with all the flares.

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Like, so yes, that's what I did.

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And then she came along sliding
in my dms at 11:00 PM at night.

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Oh, that's the only way to do it.

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That's the only way to do

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that.

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Is the only way to do it.

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I wanna

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care to know exactly what
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Mm.

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Yeah.

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And I thought she just
wanted to be a friend.

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I'm like, oh, we're talking about
astrology, we're talking about family.

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And I'm like, just, flowing
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She was like, by the way, I'm
not trying to be your friend.

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I, oh yes, dude.

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That's smart.

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That was smart

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right there.

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I was ready to buy some tea and I didn't
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I'm just trying to be a friendly customer.

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No ma'am.

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No, I'm trying to play,

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I was, there was more intentions there.

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Now, did Leah, did you know already
that she was in like looking.

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Were you a follower of that?

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Like, of her content?

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Yes.

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I, I followed her on Instagram for a
while, was following her whole journey.

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We were both like walking to lose
weight at the same time, so we were just

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doing a lot of the same things and it,

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oh, that works.

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The time.

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That right there is awesome.

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That's cool's Awesome, because now
how long have you been married Dom?

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Um, so we'll be 11 years this year.

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And Leah, you're married?

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Yes.

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And me and my husband will
be 10 years this year.

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Leah, now I, I'd like to know how you
got here now, now we, we, we, we got

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up to a certain point with Dom, so I,
I, I gotta know like how you got to,

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to the non-monogamy portion of it.

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So basically.

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I didn't come out to my husband
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turn 35 this year, so, okay.

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A little later, a little later in life.

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We had been married for a while and
things were just very monotonous.

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In our marriage, just the same.

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We had a good routine.

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We had four kids together, so I was a
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then COVID happened and he deployed.

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He was Air Force, so he deployed
and I was like, I'm not about to

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do life alone, I'm not doing this.

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when he got back from his deployment,
I had a conversation with him

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basically telling him that I wanted
to pursue women, that I was interested

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in women, and I wanted to date
them separately outside of him.

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And he, and here we're,

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he

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supportive of That's,

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that's Amazing's.

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Cool.

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Yeah.

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I, we have a lot in common ladies.

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We do.

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I, I like that.

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Um.

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He would I would, I love women.

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I think women are the best.

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If I had not found my
best friend here mm-hmm.

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I have to sneeze.

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I would've totally been

255
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with, I'm, I'm, I'm I'm
com I'm competition.

256
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I'm competition.

257
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Yeah.

258
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For sure.

259
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Um,

260
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I told her she could date
others and I'm competition.

261
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I'm, I'm telling you right now.

262
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Yeah.

263
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I have, I've lived open since I
was little that I can remember.

264
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Um, but I was raised in a very Latino
culture that, that was frowned upon.

265
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They were very Catholic.

266
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Are you crazy?

267
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My mom would tell me when I was little.

268
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Um, if you, ev we have, we
have a lot of gay family.

269
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We have, I've gay cousins in
gay uncles and I have gay aunts

270
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and it's all in the family.

271
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Like it's there, but it's very my
parents were very, if you ever marry

272
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outside of your race, you're out of here.

273
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If you marry or if you get with
somebody that's in your same,

274
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same gender, you're out of here.

275
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Yeah.

276
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And so that scared me when I was little.

277
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And I just stayed within my people
and followed the, you know, the

278
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norm of hey or what they consider
the norm of just marrying a man.

279
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So, man, number three, you
think I learned my lesson after

280
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man number one, but I didn't.

281
00:10:22,139 --> 00:10:25,649
Um, when I, you know, and when I got with
without, I was like, look, I like women.

282
00:10:25,799 --> 00:10:27,989
Like I've done this, I've done
that, and I really like women.

283
00:10:27,989 --> 00:10:29,369
Like, I don't normally like 'em sexually.

284
00:10:29,369 --> 00:10:33,299
I like 'em like they are,
we are the fucking bomb.

285
00:10:33,299 --> 00:10:34,259
Like, period.

286
00:10:34,589 --> 00:10:35,909
We are amazing humans.

287
00:10:35,914 --> 00:10:36,114
Yeah.

288
00:10:36,414 --> 00:10:36,674
You know?

289
00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:36,869
Yeah.

290
00:10:36,929 --> 00:10:39,689
We just need these beautiful
creatures right here to have babies.

291
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And that's about,

292
00:10:42,869 --> 00:10:44,309
and I, I have boys, so

293
00:10:44,639 --> 00:10:47,729
she says that now, but when
this thing hits off, then

294
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she's like, oh, I missed you.

295
00:10:49,494 --> 00:10:50,034
Be my best friend.

296
00:10:50,034 --> 00:10:52,079
You know, when you find your
best friend, your soulmate, it's

297
00:10:52,079 --> 00:10:53,489
like, this is amazing, right?

298
00:10:53,539 --> 00:10:53,779
Yeah,

299
00:10:53,814 --> 00:10:55,249
I did, we did try the poly thing.

300
00:10:55,474 --> 00:10:55,854
We did,

301
00:10:55,859 --> 00:10:55,939
we

302
00:10:55,939 --> 00:10:56,869
did try the poly thing.

303
00:10:56,869 --> 00:10:59,659
Now, you know, there was two
things that, that we really

304
00:10:59,659 --> 00:11:00,949
wanted to experience from that.

305
00:11:01,159 --> 00:11:01,489
Yeah.

306
00:11:01,539 --> 00:11:01,779
Because.

307
00:11:02,839 --> 00:11:06,649
When she first came out and she came out
to me like within our first month dating.

308
00:11:06,649 --> 00:11:06,769
Yes.

309
00:11:07,219 --> 00:11:09,449
And she was like, Hey I'm bisexual.

310
00:11:09,449 --> 00:11:10,989
I was like the first person
she ever came out to.

311
00:11:10,989 --> 00:11:11,224
Mm-hmm.

312
00:11:11,304 --> 00:11:12,689
She's like, I'm bisexual.

313
00:11:12,689 --> 00:11:13,589
I love women.

314
00:11:14,009 --> 00:11:16,949
I had these experiences in
the past with other women.

315
00:11:17,049 --> 00:11:20,289
With my last relationship, it
did not go well because of the

316
00:11:20,289 --> 00:11:21,694
person I was with and of thing, it

317
00:11:21,694 --> 00:11:22,054
was just swinging.

318
00:11:22,194 --> 00:11:22,534
So I

319
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was just

320
00:11:22,959 --> 00:11:23,619
swapping.

321
00:11:23,619 --> 00:11:28,119
Um, but she told me all these stories
and as a guy, you know, I have this

322
00:11:28,119 --> 00:11:32,809
whole amazing fantasy cinema thing in
my head, and I'm like, you know what?

323
00:11:32,899 --> 00:11:33,679
Let's do that.

324
00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:34,699
That sounds amazing.

325
00:11:35,209 --> 00:11:40,339
Uh, and she had tribulations about that
initially because of her past experiences.

326
00:11:40,809 --> 00:11:44,359
But I wanted to try poly.

327
00:11:44,379 --> 00:11:47,529
You know, we did the sexual thing for a
while, but I wanted to try poly for me,

328
00:11:47,529 --> 00:11:51,289
because I realized I was non-monogamous
since like middle school, high school.

329
00:11:51,849 --> 00:11:52,839
I've always had.

330
00:11:53,784 --> 00:11:58,124
Crushes, like I've always been with
you know, I, I date a girl and then

331
00:11:58,124 --> 00:11:59,774
I always had like a roving eye.

332
00:11:59,774 --> 00:12:01,724
And I remember in high school
always thinking like, what

333
00:12:01,724 --> 00:12:02,564
the hell's wrong with me?

334
00:12:02,639 --> 00:12:03,059
Mm-hmm.

335
00:12:03,524 --> 00:12:09,224
I don't understand why I can't just do
what everybody says and just focus on one

336
00:12:09,224 --> 00:12:12,734
relationship when all of a sudden somebody
else will come through and I'll see

337
00:12:12,734 --> 00:12:14,324
somebody else and this and that, you know?

338
00:12:14,324 --> 00:12:17,649
And I, I didn't know it had
a name until I got older.

339
00:12:17,709 --> 00:12:17,889
Mm-hmm.

340
00:12:18,249 --> 00:12:21,219
Uh, and then we started exploring
the lifestyle together and then we

341
00:12:21,219 --> 00:12:24,279
had some friends that were poly and
they kind of explained it to us.

342
00:12:24,279 --> 00:12:26,109
And then I did my research
'cause I'm total geek.

343
00:12:26,619 --> 00:12:28,059
And so I started learning a lot.

344
00:12:28,269 --> 00:12:32,124
Here's the problem that I really had
though, uh, is when we first started poll.

345
00:12:33,534 --> 00:12:36,144
The only resources we
had were Facebook groups.

346
00:12:36,149 --> 00:12:36,229
Mm-hmm.

347
00:12:36,594 --> 00:12:40,314
And we would go into these Facebook
groups and everybody was horrible.

348
00:12:40,494 --> 00:12:43,134
You know, you'd ask questions and
they would not help you at all.

349
00:12:43,134 --> 00:12:43,794
They'd say, you know what?

350
00:12:43,794 --> 00:12:44,484
You need to Google it.

351
00:12:44,539 --> 00:12:45,199
Don't waste my time.

352
00:12:45,199 --> 00:12:45,859
You need to Google it.

353
00:12:46,349 --> 00:12:49,769
And so when we decided to start
this podcast, I said, you know, we

354
00:12:49,769 --> 00:12:52,379
need to be resources for others.

355
00:12:52,439 --> 00:12:58,709
And when I see people like yourself who
are actively being resources for others

356
00:12:59,079 --> 00:13:03,499
the, the content you provide is valuable.

357
00:13:03,589 --> 00:13:04,309
It's very valuable.

358
00:13:04,339 --> 00:13:04,939
It is.

359
00:13:04,939 --> 00:13:05,209
Yeah.

360
00:13:05,209 --> 00:13:11,299
And I, where also we, you, I believe you
had mentioned before, Dom, that you don't

361
00:13:11,299 --> 00:13:13,519
wanna see your husband dating anybody.

362
00:13:13,759 --> 00:13:13,849
Mm-hmm.

363
00:13:13,849 --> 00:13:14,839
Like, that's not your thing.

364
00:13:15,049 --> 00:13:15,259
Okay.

365
00:13:15,259 --> 00:13:16,249
So that's the way it is here.

366
00:13:16,249 --> 00:13:19,219
I, he, he would love for me to date a
woman and he has no problem with it.

367
00:13:19,489 --> 00:13:23,149
He wants friends with benefits,
which I can do, but for him to

368
00:13:23,149 --> 00:13:27,049
call somebody else, like his
girlfriend doesn't sit well with me.

369
00:13:27,329 --> 00:13:27,539
Yeah.

370
00:13:27,839 --> 00:13:29,399
Going out and doing all that stuff.

371
00:13:30,494 --> 00:13:31,784
I'm not down for that.

372
00:13:32,324 --> 00:13:33,944
He loves it for me.

373
00:13:33,944 --> 00:13:36,344
And I'm like, okay, well that's fine,
but I don't, I know that you like

374
00:13:36,344 --> 00:13:39,784
it for me, but I don't wanna do that
for I don't want you to do that.

375
00:13:39,784 --> 00:13:40,504
Mm-hmm.

376
00:13:40,584 --> 00:13:43,444
Um, how did you, how did
y'all walk through that?

377
00:13:43,684 --> 00:13:47,044
Did you, did he try at least,
or that was just something that

378
00:13:47,044 --> 00:13:48,634
was not on the table for you?

379
00:13:49,444 --> 00:13:52,954
Um, so in the beginning it never
was something that we discussed.

380
00:13:53,044 --> 00:13:53,464
Okay.

381
00:13:53,764 --> 00:13:56,014
Um, he just was kind of
like, this is your journey.

382
00:13:56,014 --> 00:13:59,224
Like this is something you need to do,
you need to figure out for yourself.

383
00:13:59,224 --> 00:14:00,454
So that's never been a thing.

384
00:14:00,874 --> 00:14:04,774
Now, later, you know, now that
it's been some time and things

385
00:14:04,774 --> 00:14:06,124
like that, we've had a discussion.

386
00:14:06,124 --> 00:14:08,494
'cause we usually do like
monthly check-ins where we'll

387
00:14:08,494 --> 00:14:09,754
say, Hey, how's it going?

388
00:14:10,144 --> 00:14:11,044
How you feeling?

389
00:14:11,104 --> 00:14:12,484
Do you need any reassurance?

390
00:14:12,484 --> 00:14:13,054
X, Y, Z?

391
00:14:13,054 --> 00:14:13,624
We'll do that.

392
00:14:14,494 --> 00:14:18,564
Um, so during that conversation,
he was like how do you feel in

393
00:14:18,564 --> 00:14:21,114
regards to like, if I, that's
something I wanted to explore.

394
00:14:21,564 --> 00:14:27,594
And I Yeah, that, that conversation,
that took quite a few conversations

395
00:14:27,594 --> 00:14:32,424
because conversations, 'cause I
said, excuse me, like, excuse me.

396
00:14:33,084 --> 00:14:36,904
And that was kind of crazy because when I
asked him how would he feel if I was with

397
00:14:36,904 --> 00:14:40,079
other men, he was like, oh no I'm okay.

398
00:14:40,079 --> 00:14:42,389
Like, if that's what you wanna do,
you could do it, but without me.

399
00:14:42,899 --> 00:14:43,979
And I was like, well, why?

400
00:14:44,159 --> 00:14:46,529
And he's like, because that's
like apples and apples.

401
00:14:46,904 --> 00:14:50,504
And I said, huh, okay, so
then can you flip that?

402
00:14:50,894 --> 00:14:51,434
Flip it?

403
00:14:51,794 --> 00:14:53,834
How do you think it would be
from my point of view then?

404
00:14:53,834 --> 00:14:55,574
And he's like, yeah, I get it.

405
00:14:55,934 --> 00:14:56,204
You know?

406
00:14:56,204 --> 00:14:57,224
He was like, I understand that.

407
00:14:57,284 --> 00:15:00,584
So it was a conversation I just told
him like, if that's something you ever

408
00:15:00,584 --> 00:15:02,744
desire, just come to me, let me know.

409
00:15:02,794 --> 00:15:06,799
But it's not something I want
to be like a part of or mm-hmm.

410
00:15:06,879 --> 00:15:07,654
Any of those things.

411
00:15:07,654 --> 00:15:09,184
So he's not there yet.

412
00:15:09,184 --> 00:15:10,054
He hasn't done it.

413
00:15:10,104 --> 00:15:12,939
He doesn't know if he has
the capacity to mm-hmm.

414
00:15:13,024 --> 00:15:15,804
He is an electrician, so he works a lot.

415
00:15:16,164 --> 00:15:19,584
He goes to school, so he doesn't even
know if he has the capacity to even do it.

416
00:15:19,674 --> 00:15:20,184
Yeah.

417
00:15:20,934 --> 00:15:21,894
So, yeah, that's where said

418
00:15:21,894 --> 00:15:23,064
it is time consuming.

419
00:15:23,064 --> 00:15:24,354
I mean, there's no lying about that.

420
00:15:24,354 --> 00:15:30,454
Like, it is the, the big thing that we're
constantly, bringing up is the calendars.

421
00:15:30,743 --> 00:15:36,871
So was there a moment did it, did it
feel natural when, when you started

422
00:15:37,471 --> 00:15:41,671
out of, you know, you, you said, okay,
you know what, I'm gonna explore this.

423
00:15:41,971 --> 00:15:42,061
Mm-hmm.

424
00:15:42,391 --> 00:15:46,051
Did it seem natural to you or
was it really scary at first?

425
00:15:47,431 --> 00:15:48,511
It was scary.

426
00:15:48,631 --> 00:15:48,811
Yeah.

427
00:15:48,811 --> 00:15:53,971
Like, because I never thought that I would
actually have a relationship with a woman.

428
00:15:54,301 --> 00:15:56,461
Like I was like, yeah,
I like being with women.

429
00:15:56,461 --> 00:15:57,001
They're cute.

430
00:15:57,031 --> 00:15:57,331
You know?

431
00:15:57,331 --> 00:16:00,361
I like being like that and sexual
with a woman, but I'm like, I

432
00:16:00,361 --> 00:16:04,261
never thought I'd actually have
the genuine feelings behind it.

433
00:16:04,681 --> 00:16:06,781
And then she comes around
and I'm like, wait.

434
00:16:08,581 --> 00:16:14,791
So it was very, it was very scary in the
beginning to figure out how to do it all.

435
00:16:15,271 --> 00:16:18,331
So we were learning like right,
everything was hypothetical.

436
00:16:18,361 --> 00:16:18,631
You know?

437
00:16:18,631 --> 00:16:21,061
Everything is different in
theory than it is in reality,

438
00:16:21,211 --> 00:16:21,301
right?

439
00:16:21,301 --> 00:16:21,331
Oh

440
00:16:21,331 --> 00:16:21,421
yeah.

441
00:16:21,451 --> 00:16:24,871
So when it actually started to
happen, we were learning in the

442
00:16:24,871 --> 00:16:27,481
moment of, this is a boundary.

443
00:16:27,481 --> 00:16:29,611
This is not, we can do
this, we can't do that.

444
00:16:30,001 --> 00:16:34,051
So it's just so much that you learn at
that point, it was definitely scary.

445
00:16:34,471 --> 00:16:36,541
Now, do y'all live in the same city?

446
00:16:37,321 --> 00:16:37,891
No.

447
00:16:38,131 --> 00:16:41,161
So is this, is this really
long distance or just.

448
00:16:42,106 --> 00:16:43,246
Hop, skip and jump away.

449
00:16:43,246 --> 00:16:43,801
She's in Okay.

450
00:16:43,801 --> 00:16:45,496
In Mexico, I'm in Arizona.

451
00:16:46,216 --> 00:16:46,526
Oh, wow.

452
00:16:46,526 --> 00:16:46,906
Wow.

453
00:16:46,906 --> 00:16:47,866
So how does that work?

454
00:16:47,866 --> 00:16:48,556
How do y'all It's

455
00:16:48,556 --> 00:16:49,166
a seven hour drive.

456
00:16:49,941 --> 00:16:50,161
Wow.

457
00:16:50,806 --> 00:16:54,646
And do y'all like set up a time where
y'all like, Hey, this is my week,

458
00:16:54,706 --> 00:16:56,021
or Hey, this is this is his week.

459
00:16:57,131 --> 00:16:58,151
'cause y'all are moms, right?

460
00:16:58,151 --> 00:16:59,051
Like literal weekends

461
00:16:59,051 --> 00:16:59,171
that

462
00:16:59,171 --> 00:17:01,016
come 'cause y'all are moms and Yes.

463
00:17:01,021 --> 00:17:02,861
And you're also wives, so.

464
00:17:02,866 --> 00:17:03,056
Mm-hmm.

465
00:17:03,136 --> 00:17:05,746
That's a lot of, that's a lot.

466
00:17:05,746 --> 00:17:06,066
Mm-hmm.

467
00:17:06,256 --> 00:17:06,596
It's a lot.

468
00:17:06,596 --> 00:17:07,181
It is.

469
00:17:07,211 --> 00:17:07,721
It's a lot.

470
00:17:07,721 --> 00:17:11,531
I mean, you know, we're, we're the
moms and we do most of it, right?

471
00:17:11,981 --> 00:17:12,071
Mm-hmm.

472
00:17:12,311 --> 00:17:15,461
And I mean, of course we love
our husbands and they're amazing.

473
00:17:15,461 --> 00:17:18,461
But we do because we're just,
we're just creatures like that.

474
00:17:18,881 --> 00:17:19,121
Yeah.

475
00:17:19,121 --> 00:17:20,051
How do you manage that?

476
00:17:20,051 --> 00:17:21,371
'cause that's so hard.

477
00:17:22,601 --> 00:17:24,041
We live on a schedule.

478
00:17:24,041 --> 00:17:24,071
Okay.

479
00:17:24,611 --> 00:17:26,561
Like, we have a calendar back.

480
00:17:26,651 --> 00:17:26,831
Perfect.

481
00:17:26,861 --> 00:17:31,241
Everything is written and we put
one on the fridge, we put one in our

482
00:17:31,241 --> 00:17:33,161
bathroom, we put one on our phones.

483
00:17:33,161 --> 00:17:35,861
Like, it's so much where it's like, okay.

484
00:17:36,311 --> 00:17:36,471
Same.

485
00:17:36,476 --> 00:17:40,141
This is when her and I have the time to
see each other, and every time before

486
00:17:40,141 --> 00:17:43,441
we leave each other, we try to make sure
that we have the next month's schedule.

487
00:17:43,441 --> 00:17:47,191
Like, okay, well this is when we have
the availability to see each other again.

488
00:17:47,581 --> 00:17:50,971
And then I'll go home, I'll go put it on
the calendar right away on the fridge.

489
00:17:50,971 --> 00:17:52,891
I'll tell my husband like,
Hey, this is the time.

490
00:17:53,161 --> 00:17:54,301
And he'll be like, okay, cool.

491
00:17:54,541 --> 00:17:55,051
That's Zach.

492
00:17:55,111 --> 00:17:59,011
And then my husband and I kind of
just scheduled time around there and

493
00:17:59,041 --> 00:17:59,431
Okay.

494
00:17:59,941 --> 00:18:00,001
Yeah.

495
00:18:00,001 --> 00:18:00,451
Pretty simple.

496
00:18:01,126 --> 00:18:02,536
I love that that's how it's supposed to.

497
00:18:02,536 --> 00:18:04,061
I mean, that's how our lives are, period.

498
00:18:04,301 --> 00:18:06,106
I mean, it, it should
ideally flow that way.

499
00:18:06,106 --> 00:18:06,376
Yeah.

500
00:18:06,381 --> 00:18:06,581
Yeah.

501
00:18:06,646 --> 00:18:08,686
It's, it's so difficult to
get to that point though.

502
00:18:08,686 --> 00:18:10,606
'cause it takes a lot
of figuring stuff out.

503
00:18:10,696 --> 00:18:10,906
Yes.

504
00:18:11,016 --> 00:18:13,566
I'm not dating anyone, but I'm
pretty much married to this

505
00:18:13,566 --> 00:18:15,111
podcast and the content that I do.

506
00:18:15,851 --> 00:18:18,966
So, I mean, anybody who does
content, you know, it's like that's

507
00:18:18,966 --> 00:18:21,006
a lot of it can be a lot of work.

508
00:18:21,051 --> 00:18:21,471
Mm-hmm.

509
00:18:21,556 --> 00:18:22,476
It can get exhausting.

510
00:18:22,746 --> 00:18:26,376
And so that's, that's pretty much, that's
who I'm dating right now is my podcast.

511
00:18:26,686 --> 00:18:29,686
But we have, we have all the
calendars, you know, we got our

512
00:18:29,686 --> 00:18:33,106
podcast calendar, we got our lifestyle
calendar, you know, we've got our

513
00:18:33,106 --> 00:18:36,676
kids' calendar, our family calendar,
we've got our date night calendars.

514
00:18:36,676 --> 00:18:36,686
Yeah.

515
00:18:36,686 --> 00:18:40,116
You know, we've, we've got so many
different things on top of, work

516
00:18:40,206 --> 00:18:42,956
and just the regular everyday life.

517
00:18:43,196 --> 00:18:43,406
Yeah.

518
00:18:43,916 --> 00:18:44,966
I'm curious though,

519
00:18:45,656 --> 00:18:46,891
you're probably gonna
ask the same question

520
00:18:47,036 --> 00:18:47,576
probably.

521
00:18:47,726 --> 00:18:50,291
I'm sure we're on the same,
same way I'm have manys

522
00:18:50,291 --> 00:18:50,311
you guys,

523
00:18:50,726 --> 00:18:53,006
you guys are seven hours
away from each other.

524
00:18:53,771 --> 00:18:56,751
On the day to day, you know, uh,
when, when you're with somebody,

525
00:18:57,171 --> 00:19:00,291
uh, you know, you want to fit them
in your day as much as possible,

526
00:19:00,351 --> 00:19:01,731
even though you're already busy.

527
00:19:02,181 --> 00:19:04,911
So I'm assuming you guys
talk almost every single day.

528
00:19:05,181 --> 00:19:06,891
Maybe FaceTime, that sort of thing.

529
00:19:06,891 --> 00:19:08,271
Like, how does it work?

530
00:19:08,271 --> 00:19:10,971
Like, are y'all able to, are
there days where it's like, I'm

531
00:19:10,971 --> 00:19:12,261
sorry, I just don't have time?

532
00:19:12,261 --> 00:19:14,811
Or is it a guaranteed every single day?

533
00:19:15,201 --> 00:19:17,841
It's a relationship, so it's very, okay.

534
00:19:18,141 --> 00:19:21,351
It's a high priority for me to
send her a good morning text

535
00:19:21,351 --> 00:19:22,881
before I even get out of bed.

536
00:19:22,881 --> 00:19:24,441
I'm sending her audio mm-hmm.

537
00:19:24,711 --> 00:19:25,161
Daily,

538
00:19:25,581 --> 00:19:26,151
every day.

539
00:19:26,151 --> 00:19:29,601
And we usually just find our
time when we can talk check in.

540
00:19:29,931 --> 00:19:32,961
Like if we're gonna go pick up our
kids, we'll call each other like,

541
00:19:32,961 --> 00:19:34,701
Hey, waiting on the kids to come out.

542
00:19:34,701 --> 00:19:35,811
We'll check in on each other.

543
00:19:36,231 --> 00:19:37,761
So yeah, we make the time.

544
00:19:38,121 --> 00:19:38,361
Yeah.

545
00:19:38,931 --> 00:19:39,531
You guys are so excited.

546
00:19:39,531 --> 00:19:42,831
Do y'all, do your significant
others, do your other partners have

547
00:19:42,831 --> 00:19:47,211
relationships within, like, are y'all
friends or is everybody friends?

548
00:19:47,211 --> 00:19:48,561
Are kids, do they all

549
00:19:48,566 --> 00:19:48,736
Yeah.

550
00:19:48,736 --> 00:19:49,456
The whole Metamore

551
00:19:49,456 --> 00:19:49,616
thing.

552
00:19:49,616 --> 00:19:49,896
Yeah.

553
00:19:49,971 --> 00:19:50,211
Yeah.

554
00:19:50,211 --> 00:19:50,481
There you

555
00:19:50,486 --> 00:19:50,496
go.

556
00:19:50,496 --> 00:19:50,616
Yeah.

557
00:19:50,616 --> 00:19:50,776
Yeah.

558
00:19:50,776 --> 00:19:50,856
Yeah.

559
00:19:51,341 --> 00:19:53,081
We cool like her?

560
00:19:53,081 --> 00:19:54,341
I think her husband's cool.

561
00:19:54,371 --> 00:19:56,891
Um, she's met my husband
quite a few times.

562
00:19:56,891 --> 00:19:59,651
They've, they have like a
whole nickname for each other.

563
00:20:00,071 --> 00:20:01,901
Like when they first
met, they had a whole,

564
00:20:01,901 --> 00:20:02,681
he take dinner together.

565
00:20:02,681 --> 00:20:02,951
Yeah.

566
00:20:02,951 --> 00:20:04,871
Y'all had a whole little
handshake going on.

567
00:20:04,871 --> 00:20:05,201
Like,

568
00:20:05,426 --> 00:20:06,146
ID him up.

569
00:20:06,176 --> 00:20:06,466
Yeah.

570
00:20:06,586 --> 00:20:07,146
I him up.

571
00:20:07,706 --> 00:20:08,026
I, okay.

572
00:20:08,066 --> 00:20:09,281
I do call him Big dog.

573
00:20:09,281 --> 00:20:12,281
I do call him Big Dog because he
be taking care of shit financially.

574
00:20:12,281 --> 00:20:12,826
So I, yeah.

575
00:20:12,866 --> 00:20:13,666
I call him Big Dog.

576
00:20:14,186 --> 00:20:14,946
I have respect.

577
00:20:15,536 --> 00:20:15,826
Yeah.

578
00:20:16,781 --> 00:20:16,991
Cool.

579
00:20:17,291 --> 00:20:18,971
And I've met her daughter.

580
00:20:18,971 --> 00:20:19,871
We've hung out.

581
00:20:19,871 --> 00:20:23,651
She's met my kids at our event when
she's come to my city in mm-hmm.

582
00:20:23,651 --> 00:20:24,401
Albuquerque.

583
00:20:24,761 --> 00:20:24,941
Okay.

584
00:20:24,941 --> 00:20:25,871
She's met my husband.

585
00:20:26,681 --> 00:20:28,121
The kids haven't met yet.

586
00:20:28,126 --> 00:20:28,466
Mm-hmm.

587
00:20:28,751 --> 00:20:31,031
But they're begging us to
come on a trip to get us.

588
00:20:31,541 --> 00:20:35,321
They're sick of us leaving once
a month and them not getting

589
00:20:35,321 --> 00:20:35,381
go.

590
00:20:36,551 --> 00:20:39,281
Do you ever have that
mommy guilt when you leave?

591
00:20:39,641 --> 00:20:41,626
I dunno why, but I have in the kids be

592
00:20:42,086 --> 00:20:42,426
in the

593
00:20:42,426 --> 00:20:42,666
beginning.

594
00:20:43,631 --> 00:20:43,751
I did.

595
00:20:43,751 --> 00:20:46,061
My kids are, our kids are freaking adults.

596
00:20:46,061 --> 00:20:48,941
They're all, Weve got two, I mean,
our youngest are 14 and we got

597
00:20:48,941 --> 00:20:50,171
two 14-year-old about to be 15.

598
00:20:50,556 --> 00:20:53,976
I have such mom guilt when I leave them.

599
00:20:54,186 --> 00:20:54,631
I don't, I

600
00:20:54,681 --> 00:20:55,551
don't have any guilt and it's

601
00:20:55,601 --> 00:20:55,861
I'm good.

602
00:20:56,011 --> 00:20:58,066
It's like they don't even need me.

603
00:20:58,066 --> 00:20:58,936
They do not need me.

604
00:20:58,936 --> 00:20:59,686
There is Uber.

605
00:20:59,686 --> 00:21:00,706
My kids have tea.

606
00:21:00,706 --> 00:21:01,186
They're old Ubers, they're,

607
00:21:01,186 --> 00:21:02,506
they know how to cook,
they know how to clean.

608
00:21:02,686 --> 00:21:04,006
They don't do either of
them, but they know how,

609
00:21:04,036 --> 00:21:09,136
you know, I have such mom guilt, so that's
why I'm like, man, I don't even know.

610
00:21:09,286 --> 00:21:12,286
I have mom guilt and I have wife guilt.

611
00:21:13,096 --> 00:21:14,206
Like, I'm like, holy.

612
00:21:14,266 --> 00:21:15,766
That was AGB earlier and I was like.

613
00:21:16,576 --> 00:21:18,436
Man, I really should
have brought him with me.

614
00:21:18,991 --> 00:21:21,191
You know, it's, it's, I didn't

615
00:21:21,191 --> 00:21:21,391
wanna go.

616
00:21:21,531 --> 00:21:23,416
I'm so, I'm, so, I was

617
00:21:23,416 --> 00:21:23,626
good.

618
00:21:23,776 --> 00:21:26,326
What is that called when you're like,
you just need somebody around you.

619
00:21:26,326 --> 00:21:27,796
Like it's, uh, that, that attachment.

620
00:21:27,796 --> 00:21:28,071
That what?

621
00:21:28,461 --> 00:21:30,671
It's because you got
you disgust sometimes.

622
00:21:30,731 --> 00:21:31,846
You like having somebody.

623
00:21:31,906 --> 00:21:32,236
Yeah.

624
00:21:32,236 --> 00:21:32,656
So

625
00:21:32,656 --> 00:21:32,986
time.

626
00:21:33,076 --> 00:21:35,146
It could be anybody if I, I'm
just gonna blow up of him.

627
00:21:35,146 --> 00:21:36,646
Just have him there next to me in the car.

628
00:21:37,786 --> 00:21:37,906
Buffer.

629
00:21:37,906 --> 00:21:37,916
Buffer.

630
00:21:37,916 --> 00:21:40,696
Not a blow, like a
Right there, there every

631
00:21:40,696 --> 00:21:41,026
time.

632
00:21:41,026 --> 00:21:41,791
Put his face on there.

633
00:21:42,171 --> 00:21:42,391
Cut.

634
00:21:42,391 --> 00:21:42,591
Yeah.

635
00:21:42,591 --> 00:21:42,751
No.

636
00:21:42,826 --> 00:21:43,156
So

637
00:21:43,156 --> 00:21:44,236
they make pillows like that.

638
00:21:44,236 --> 00:21:44,986
You could get a body

639
00:21:45,046 --> 00:21:45,346
pillow.

640
00:21:45,346 --> 00:21:48,531
I thought about, you know, 'cause
uh, Sunday is her birthday, so I'm,

641
00:21:48,801 --> 00:21:48,981
oh,

642
00:21:49,426 --> 00:21:49,776
about

643
00:21:50,456 --> 00:21:51,981
I thank, thank you.

644
00:21:51,981 --> 00:21:52,191
Yeah.

645
00:21:52,191 --> 00:21:52,941
I would love that.

646
00:21:52,941 --> 00:21:53,601
That's a good idea.

647
00:21:54,111 --> 00:21:54,741
That's awesome.

648
00:21:54,741 --> 00:21:54,891
Is that

649
00:21:54,891 --> 00:21:55,191
Pisces?

650
00:21:55,461 --> 00:21:56,061
Yes.

651
00:21:56,121 --> 00:21:57,171
I'm gonna be 48.

652
00:21:57,171 --> 00:21:58,671
I'm a Pisces and I love it.

653
00:21:59,091 --> 00:22:00,831
I just found out I'm
gonna be 44 this year.

654
00:22:00,831 --> 00:22:01,611
Yeah, he forgot.

655
00:22:02,901 --> 00:22:04,461
I, I thought I was gonna be 43 this year.

656
00:22:04,731 --> 00:22:05,301
I can't believe it.

657
00:22:05,301 --> 00:22:05,541
Awesome.

658
00:22:05,841 --> 00:22:06,621
I was kind of disappointed.

659
00:22:06,771 --> 00:22:08,421
Now I have another question.

660
00:22:08,421 --> 00:22:11,301
So my, everyone has jealousy.

661
00:22:11,571 --> 00:22:12,231
It's a thing.

662
00:22:12,231 --> 00:22:13,761
It's a, it's a normal feeling.

663
00:22:13,761 --> 00:22:14,256
It's feeling a human right characteristic.

664
00:22:14,261 --> 00:22:14,871
It's just a thing.

665
00:22:15,696 --> 00:22:20,616
Do you ever, did you ever find
yourself with y'all's other, with

666
00:22:20,616 --> 00:22:25,056
your partners, with your husbands,
where that jealousy came through?

667
00:22:25,056 --> 00:22:27,936
Or y'all pretty much like Adam
and I were, you just have those

668
00:22:28,056 --> 00:22:30,906
uncomfortable conversations and
just kind of work through it?

669
00:22:31,986 --> 00:22:33,126
Are you saying from Martha?

670
00:22:33,336 --> 00:22:33,516
Our

671
00:22:33,516 --> 00:22:33,696
spouses?

672
00:22:33,696 --> 00:22:33,876
Yeah.

673
00:22:33,876 --> 00:22:35,856
Like did your spouses have Jenny jealousy?

674
00:22:35,856 --> 00:22:36,036
Oh.

675
00:22:36,036 --> 00:22:37,536
And did y'all have any jealousy?

676
00:22:37,536 --> 00:22:39,966
Because you know, you're
leaving each other to go back

677
00:22:40,326 --> 00:22:40,791
with your husband.

678
00:22:40,871 --> 00:22:42,936
I like, I mean, I see you guys
staring at each other, longly.

679
00:22:42,936 --> 00:22:43,296
I know.

680
00:22:43,656 --> 00:22:44,826
It's freaking adorable.

681
00:22:45,606 --> 00:22:45,766
It's so cute.

682
00:22:45,766 --> 00:22:49,326
But I'm also sitting and I'm watching
you guys, and I'm like, Ooh, how

683
00:22:49,326 --> 00:22:50,256
the husband's feeling about that?

684
00:22:51,581 --> 00:22:52,991
Adam, you being messy.

685
00:22:53,541 --> 00:22:56,856
He's, he's, you hear Adam.

686
00:22:56,946 --> 00:22:58,626
It's International Women's Day.

687
00:22:58,686 --> 00:22:58,776
Okay.

688
00:22:59,526 --> 00:23:00,036
Thank you,

689
00:23:00,036 --> 00:23:00,546
ma'am.

690
00:23:00,731 --> 00:23:01,311
Yes ma'am.

691
00:23:01,356 --> 00:23:01,626
Thank y'all.

692
00:23:01,651 --> 00:23:02,191
Yes, ma'am.

693
00:23:02,371 --> 00:23:02,671
I'm sorry.

694
00:23:02,931 --> 00:23:03,311
On us,

695
00:23:03,581 --> 00:23:04,711
Adam being messy.

696
00:23:05,451 --> 00:23:05,671
Um,

697
00:23:06,791 --> 00:23:06,911
I

698
00:23:06,911 --> 00:23:07,471
don't forgot the,

699
00:23:08,371 --> 00:23:12,516
I'm the only, I'm the only
husband representation here,

700
00:23:12,516 --> 00:23:13,566
so I gotta bring it up.

701
00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:16,386
So as far as like
jealousies from, from fair,

702
00:23:16,596 --> 00:23:17,766
honestly, he loves that.

703
00:23:17,826 --> 00:23:18,576
He loves that.

704
00:23:18,576 --> 00:23:21,846
I, he loves when I can find even a
woman that I can be friends with.

705
00:23:21,876 --> 00:23:22,991
I do not like people.

706
00:23:23,101 --> 00:23:23,391
Yeah.

707
00:23:23,451 --> 00:23:23,671
And

708
00:23:23,671 --> 00:23:24,876
I'm just not a people person.

709
00:23:24,876 --> 00:23:25,591
Sometimes like that's just.

710
00:23:26,396 --> 00:23:28,526
You know, it's like you have
to really rub me the right

711
00:23:28,526 --> 00:23:30,386
place for me to even like you.

712
00:23:30,386 --> 00:23:30,806
Like, and I

713
00:23:31,256 --> 00:23:31,406
rub

714
00:23:31,406 --> 00:23:31,796
me the right

715
00:23:31,931 --> 00:23:32,171
place.

716
00:23:32,456 --> 00:23:33,146
I'm not gonna lie to you.

717
00:23:33,146 --> 00:23:36,296
I'm so, I'm that one that's like,
I could see her picture and be

718
00:23:36,296 --> 00:23:37,316
like, nah, I ain't gonna like her.

719
00:23:37,706 --> 00:23:38,571
She's like straight up, dang.

720
00:23:38,726 --> 00:23:38,966
And I'm

721
00:23:39,231 --> 00:23:40,531
my profile picture straight up.

722
00:23:40,711 --> 00:23:40,976
I'm sorry.

723
00:23:41,516 --> 00:23:43,646
There's something about her
or something about them.

724
00:23:43,646 --> 00:23:45,716
And that's just the way, that's
just the way I've always been.

725
00:23:45,806 --> 00:23:49,466
And I, I, I personally, so she's
my balance because I don't.

726
00:23:49,506 --> 00:23:51,426
I don't have, he

727
00:23:51,426 --> 00:23:52,541
thinks everybody's a sweetish human.

728
00:23:52,541 --> 00:23:53,661
I love everybody so bad.

729
00:23:53,666 --> 00:23:55,086
I get along with everybody.

730
00:23:55,086 --> 00:23:55,746
And so, yeah,

731
00:23:55,746 --> 00:23:55,836
like,

732
00:23:56,536 --> 00:23:57,226
I'm that guy.

733
00:23:57,226 --> 00:23:58,696
Like I, I'll get along with everybody.

734
00:23:58,701 --> 00:23:58,711
Yeah.

735
00:23:58,711 --> 00:24:00,286
So I'm like, oh man, I love this person.

736
00:24:00,286 --> 00:24:01,306
They're, and she's like, no.

737
00:24:01,396 --> 00:24:01,996
Yeah, no, they're,

738
00:24:03,406 --> 00:24:03,456
oh, he's her.

739
00:24:03,496 --> 00:24:04,426
And he loves that.

740
00:24:04,426 --> 00:24:07,306
So him saying that, y'all
look love, he loves that.

741
00:24:07,306 --> 00:24:07,966
He loves that.

742
00:24:08,056 --> 00:24:09,226
Like, when I find somebody that I like, oh

743
00:24:09,226 --> 00:24:10,336
dude, I love, love, man.

744
00:24:10,341 --> 00:24:10,351
Yeah.

745
00:24:10,501 --> 00:24:12,586
I, I, I'm totally digging
what I see here front.

746
00:24:12,586 --> 00:24:13,636
I think it's beautiful.

747
00:24:13,636 --> 00:24:13,876
Beautiful.

748
00:24:13,891 --> 00:24:14,181
Said

749
00:24:14,211 --> 00:24:14,501
that

750
00:24:14,501 --> 00:24:14,701
earlier.

751
00:24:15,291 --> 00:24:15,581
Yeah.

752
00:24:15,586 --> 00:24:18,371
Like, I think this is, then that's
really why I wanted to I, yeah.

753
00:24:18,406 --> 00:24:20,806
I kind of wanted to bring you guys
on just to celebrate what you guys

754
00:24:20,806 --> 00:24:22,066
got going on, because I, I think,

755
00:24:22,306 --> 00:24:22,396
yeah,

756
00:24:22,396 --> 00:24:25,606
we need to see more of this, especially
nowadays, you know what I mean?

757
00:24:25,606 --> 00:24:25,696
Yes.

758
00:24:26,086 --> 00:24:29,386
Um, but I do want to turn it back
around to the jealousy portion.

759
00:24:29,386 --> 00:24:29,446
Yeah.

760
00:24:29,611 --> 00:24:33,436
Because I was, uh, yeah, I was
just a little curious about that.

761
00:24:33,646 --> 00:24:35,876
Well, because, you know, it's
aval, it's valid, it's valid.

762
00:24:35,876 --> 00:24:35,966
This,

763
00:24:37,321 --> 00:24:38,081
I would say yes.

764
00:24:38,821 --> 00:24:42,981
The husbands did get jealous,
especially in the beginning Ooh, child.

765
00:24:43,041 --> 00:24:49,401
So when two women get together, you know,
it, it can be very fast, very intense.

766
00:24:49,701 --> 00:24:50,091
Yes.

767
00:24:50,181 --> 00:24:54,471
And I would say it started right
after her and I first meetup.

768
00:24:54,921 --> 00:24:56,691
We spent the whole weekend together.

769
00:24:56,691 --> 00:24:59,751
I came back in the door, like she
dropped me back off at the house.

770
00:24:59,751 --> 00:25:03,531
I came in the door, I sat on the
couch and I was talking to my husband.

771
00:25:03,531 --> 00:25:05,511
He was asking me like, so how's
your, how was the weekend?

772
00:25:05,511 --> 00:25:07,251
And I was just like, it was fine.

773
00:25:07,281 --> 00:25:08,481
I was, I guess I didn't notice.

774
00:25:08,481 --> 00:25:12,411
I was talking soft was like, oh
my God, you're talking different.

775
00:25:12,411 --> 00:25:13,131
What going on?

776
00:25:13,941 --> 00:25:15,496
And I was like, what?

777
00:25:16,176 --> 00:25:18,831
What are you like, I see it all on you.

778
00:25:18,831 --> 00:25:20,511
He was like, you, you're in love with her.

779
00:25:20,511 --> 00:25:22,521
And I'm like, oh, I, yeah.

780
00:25:23,726 --> 00:25:24,016
Okay.

781
00:25:24,501 --> 00:25:27,381
See, now that right there
is so uncomfortable.

782
00:25:27,381 --> 00:25:29,031
Like I don't even think
I could tell him that.

783
00:25:29,031 --> 00:25:30,981
I mean, it would be accepted.

784
00:25:31,011 --> 00:25:31,281
Yeah.

785
00:25:31,281 --> 00:25:31,376
He would be.

786
00:25:31,376 --> 00:25:31,496
I,

787
00:25:31,496 --> 00:25:31,696
yeah.

788
00:25:31,791 --> 00:25:32,811
I'm not a jealous person.

789
00:25:32,811 --> 00:25:34,881
Like I, I very rarely run jealous.

790
00:25:35,191 --> 00:25:36,301
And I never.

791
00:25:36,851 --> 00:25:41,731
I never viewed her when it came to
women as anything to feel threatened by.

792
00:25:41,791 --> 00:25:42,121
Yeah.

793
00:25:42,151 --> 00:25:46,081
Because like your husband says, apples
to apples, you know, I like what

794
00:25:46,081 --> 00:25:48,451
she gets from a woman relationship.

795
00:25:48,451 --> 00:25:50,206
She can't get from the
relationship with me.

796
00:25:50,206 --> 00:25:50,406
Yeah.

797
00:25:50,431 --> 00:25:51,991
Like it's a different thing.

798
00:25:51,991 --> 00:25:52,231
Exactly.

799
00:25:52,501 --> 00:25:55,441
Now, you know, if she wanted a
relationship with another guy, I

800
00:25:55,471 --> 00:25:56,671
still wouldn't have a problem with it.

801
00:25:56,756 --> 00:25:59,166
I would explore it a little bit
more and be like, well, what's he

802
00:25:59,166 --> 00:26:02,656
got that, that you're not getting
from me already, but whatever.

803
00:26:03,106 --> 00:26:07,206
Uh, but as far as, you know, her
exploring women relationships, I

804
00:26:07,206 --> 00:26:08,516
was like, dude go do your thing.

805
00:26:08,516 --> 00:26:09,986
You know, like, it doesn't bother me.

806
00:26:10,136 --> 00:26:10,436
Yeah.

807
00:26:10,436 --> 00:26:10,766
Mm-hmm.

808
00:26:10,766 --> 00:26:11,216
I love that.

809
00:26:11,276 --> 00:26:13,436
I love that y'all just sat
and just been like, okay.

810
00:26:13,436 --> 00:26:13,856
Yeah.

811
00:26:14,396 --> 00:26:16,256
Yeah, that was definitely the hardest.

812
00:26:16,256 --> 00:26:19,676
And then that's when the emotions
kind of flooded in for both husbands.

813
00:26:19,676 --> 00:26:21,446
We were both getting it at the same time.

814
00:26:21,446 --> 00:26:22,196
They were like, oh, wow.

815
00:26:22,226 --> 00:26:24,356
How do you guys love each other already?

816
00:26:24,356 --> 00:26:25,646
You didn't go through anything.

817
00:26:25,646 --> 00:26:27,026
You didn't see her when she was sick.

818
00:26:27,026 --> 00:26:28,226
You didn't see her through death.

819
00:26:28,466 --> 00:26:29,126
And I'm like, whoa.

820
00:26:31,826 --> 00:26:32,696
Pump the brakes.

821
00:26:32,756 --> 00:26:35,006
Yeah, it's, they're a little,
it's a little different.

822
00:26:35,006 --> 00:26:35,696
It's a little different.

823
00:26:35,696 --> 00:26:38,816
I mean, now that you have explored
it so much, you can explain it

824
00:26:38,876 --> 00:26:42,266
in different, it's not, it's not.

825
00:26:42,386 --> 00:26:42,956
It's love.

826
00:26:43,136 --> 00:26:43,556
It is.

827
00:26:43,556 --> 00:26:45,626
It's just a love, like
we love our friends.

828
00:26:45,626 --> 00:26:46,736
It's just, it's love.

829
00:26:46,826 --> 00:26:47,276
It is.

830
00:26:47,306 --> 00:26:47,606
Yeah.

831
00:26:47,726 --> 00:26:48,206
Well, you know.

832
00:26:49,226 --> 00:26:52,196
The, the love aspect of it was difficult.

833
00:26:52,436 --> 00:26:55,016
It was an uncomfortable conversation
for me to have with her.

834
00:26:55,016 --> 00:26:55,076
So

835
00:26:55,376 --> 00:26:57,356
I tell 'em right now, you
fall in love with anybody.

836
00:26:57,356 --> 00:26:58,436
What are you supposed to do, baby?

837
00:26:59,006 --> 00:27:00,086
Stuff it deep down inside.

838
00:27:00,086 --> 00:27:00,386
That's right.

839
00:27:03,686 --> 00:27:05,161
I do not want to know about it.

840
00:27:05,301 --> 00:27:06,561
Nah, that ain't gonna happen though.

841
00:27:06,621 --> 00:27:10,056
And, and, you know, that's the
thing about it is, I really, when

842
00:27:10,056 --> 00:27:13,206
we started becoming poly, I really
wanted to explore relationships.

843
00:27:13,206 --> 00:27:16,326
I wanted to see, because I
frigging love my friends.

844
00:27:16,326 --> 00:27:17,526
Like, I'll fall in love with my friends.

845
00:27:17,526 --> 00:27:20,236
I'm like, dude, I love you guys and
it doesn't matter what I'm a straight

846
00:27:20,236 --> 00:27:22,246
man, but like, I love my guy friends.

847
00:27:22,246 --> 00:27:24,256
Like, I, I'll straight
up, I'll say it out loud.

848
00:27:24,256 --> 00:27:24,946
I love you guys.

849
00:27:24,946 --> 00:27:26,386
I, I, I'm affectionate with everybody.

850
00:27:26,896 --> 00:27:30,556
And so I was like, man, I,
I got so much love to give.

851
00:27:30,586 --> 00:27:31,606
That was my, that was my line.

852
00:27:31,636 --> 00:27:33,196
I got so much love to give.

853
00:27:33,406 --> 00:27:33,796
Mm-hmm.

854
00:27:33,796 --> 00:27:36,856
Can you can't just keep me caged
up in this cage like a bird.

855
00:27:37,276 --> 00:27:38,971
And she was like, no, I, I can't, I can't.

856
00:27:39,946 --> 00:27:41,386
You need to stay in that cage.

857
00:27:41,956 --> 00:27:45,466
And uh, and so we finally agreed
that we were gonna give it a shot.

858
00:27:46,276 --> 00:27:51,496
And I, I told her, I said, look at,
in this entire time, whatever happens,

859
00:27:51,556 --> 00:27:55,606
if you ever feel, if either one of us
feel like we have to get out of this,

860
00:27:55,606 --> 00:27:57,046
like we just can't do this anymore.

861
00:27:57,676 --> 00:27:57,766
Mm-hmm.

862
00:27:58,006 --> 00:28:01,366
Just say it, just pull that rip cord
and say, I don't wanna do this anymore.

863
00:28:01,466 --> 00:28:04,166
And without any argument,
without any discussion.

864
00:28:04,166 --> 00:28:07,676
Like, I will accept it, or we will
accept it and we will walk away.

865
00:28:07,676 --> 00:28:11,006
Because the priority has always
been this relationship for me.

866
00:28:11,456 --> 00:28:11,546
Mm-hmm.

867
00:28:11,786 --> 00:28:15,746
Um, even though I am more poly
than anything else, I can put

868
00:28:15,746 --> 00:28:18,786
that on the back 'cause it, it,
it's not that big a deal for me.

869
00:28:18,786 --> 00:28:21,746
I'm married my soulmate, you know,
I married my best friend, so, you

870
00:28:21,746 --> 00:28:26,096
know, it's gonna be really difficult
to find anything outside of that.

871
00:28:26,096 --> 00:28:28,706
And that was an issue that I
had when I was poly two, was I

872
00:28:28,706 --> 00:28:30,386
was comparing everybody to her.

873
00:28:30,566 --> 00:28:31,166
Yeah.

874
00:28:31,166 --> 00:28:35,006
That's a hard part, like the
comparison, I know you can't compare

875
00:28:35,006 --> 00:28:41,606
a woman to a man, but relationship
re relationship wise, the what you.

876
00:28:42,716 --> 00:28:46,256
What kind of information you're
giving the other partner, like if

877
00:28:46,256 --> 00:28:49,976
he and I are having a bad day, do I
go discuss it with the other person?

878
00:28:50,306 --> 00:28:52,826
Do y'all keep a boundary where it's
like, we don't, we're not talking

879
00:28:52,826 --> 00:28:55,616
about our husbands right now,
but then she is also your best,

880
00:28:55,616 --> 00:28:56,571
one of your best friends, right?

881
00:28:56,571 --> 00:28:56,891
Mm-hmm.

882
00:28:56,976 --> 00:28:58,916
So it's like how do you keep that kind of,

883
00:28:58,921 --> 00:28:59,816
how do you walk that line?

884
00:28:59,966 --> 00:29:00,416
Yeah.

885
00:29:01,046 --> 00:29:02,636
It's difficult sometimes.

886
00:29:02,636 --> 00:29:05,606
'cause like you said,
this is my best friend.

887
00:29:05,606 --> 00:29:08,606
So like we'll be talking and
I'll be like, man, you know,

888
00:29:08,606 --> 00:29:10,076
Warren done pissed me off today.

889
00:29:10,076 --> 00:29:11,036
Lemme tell you about it.

890
00:29:11,036 --> 00:29:11,126
Yes.

891
00:29:11,651 --> 00:29:13,766
And it's just like such a thing.

892
00:29:14,066 --> 00:29:17,126
But it does like, that is something
that's in the back of your mind

893
00:29:17,126 --> 00:29:19,916
where you're like kind of like
how do you really tote that line?

894
00:29:20,246 --> 00:29:20,966
'cause it is.

895
00:29:21,401 --> 00:29:23,531
Very hard to flow into that.

896
00:29:23,531 --> 00:29:26,801
And I think that's something that
like, you know, as we're going on

897
00:29:26,801 --> 00:29:31,261
we're gonna learn to maybe fine tune or
maneuver, but yeah, that's difficult.

898
00:29:31,261 --> 00:29:32,176
Yeah, that's difficult.

899
00:29:32,611 --> 00:29:36,181
I think on the other side of that though,
I'm able to offer different perspectives

900
00:29:36,181 --> 00:29:40,141
'cause I'm able to relate to Warren, him
and I are very similar in personalities,

901
00:29:40,471 --> 00:29:46,381
so I'm able to offer some resolution
sometimes without her having to get Yeah.

902
00:29:46,381 --> 00:29:48,421
With just true, just being
able to have a conversation.

903
00:29:48,421 --> 00:29:50,011
I'm able to offer you a new perspective.

904
00:29:50,251 --> 00:29:50,461
And

905
00:29:50,466 --> 00:29:51,091
that's true in the best,

906
00:29:51,091 --> 00:29:53,101
in the best friend role
almost, you know, it's like,

907
00:29:53,101 --> 00:29:54,511
yeah, well you're not, she's my therapist.

908
00:29:54,511 --> 00:29:57,486
So a lot of things I come to her
with, like, that's what she's doing

909
00:29:57,631 --> 00:29:59,191
to school for, that's what she do.

910
00:29:59,191 --> 00:30:04,291
So, and she's just very easy to
talk to and she has a lot of, a

911
00:30:04,291 --> 00:30:05,881
lot of good perspective to offer.

912
00:30:05,881 --> 00:30:06,391
That's awesome.

913
00:30:06,481 --> 00:30:07,081
Dominic, you true?

914
00:30:07,081 --> 00:30:07,141
Yeah.

915
00:30:07,171 --> 00:30:10,471
You're, you're going to school for, are
you going to school for that right now?

916
00:30:10,531 --> 00:30:10,621
Yes.

917
00:30:10,626 --> 00:30:11,176
To be a therapist?

918
00:30:11,176 --> 00:30:11,336
Yes.

919
00:30:11,431 --> 00:30:11,821
Okay.

920
00:30:12,361 --> 00:30:12,841
Wow.

921
00:30:12,841 --> 00:30:16,631
Any specific arena or
that you're going for?

922
00:30:16,666 --> 00:30:19,351
So I'm trying to be a licensed
clinical social worker.

923
00:30:19,711 --> 00:30:20,221
Beautiful.

924
00:30:21,186 --> 00:30:21,686
We need that.

925
00:30:21,826 --> 00:30:22,526
Oh, I love that.

926
00:30:22,906 --> 00:30:23,486
That's amazing.

927
00:30:23,486 --> 00:30:23,766
We need that.

928
00:30:23,771 --> 00:30:24,271
Mental health is

929
00:30:24,431 --> 00:30:24,791
mm-hmm.

930
00:30:24,946 --> 00:30:25,886
So important right now.

931
00:30:25,886 --> 00:30:26,206
Mm-hmm.

932
00:30:26,286 --> 00:30:26,486
Yay.

933
00:30:26,626 --> 00:30:28,406
It always has been, but
especially right now.

934
00:30:28,961 --> 00:30:29,441
Um, thank you.

935
00:30:29,471 --> 00:30:29,741
Yeah.

936
00:30:29,741 --> 00:30:32,351
We need, we need a whole lot
of you, so that's awesome.

937
00:30:32,351 --> 00:30:32,486
That's great.

938
00:30:32,951 --> 00:30:33,461
That's awesome.

939
00:30:33,461 --> 00:30:34,751
Well, I'm sending you good vibes for that.

940
00:30:34,811 --> 00:30:35,471
Yeah, because that's,

941
00:30:35,471 --> 00:30:35,891
thank you.

942
00:30:35,891 --> 00:30:37,271
You're gonna, you're
gonna kick ass at that.

943
00:30:37,271 --> 00:30:37,841
That's awesome.

944
00:30:38,151 --> 00:30:38,901
Thank you.

945
00:30:38,951 --> 00:30:42,841
I, I love what you guys have and I
think that's really, really cool that

946
00:30:42,841 --> 00:30:47,251
y'all are able to work that where
you can give her other perspective

947
00:30:47,411 --> 00:30:48,671
on what she's kind of going through.

948
00:30:48,941 --> 00:30:52,721
I have another couple of friends
that they're all kind of in a

949
00:30:52,721 --> 00:30:54,701
relationship together, the two couples.

950
00:30:54,821 --> 00:30:54,911
Mm-hmm.

951
00:30:55,331 --> 00:30:55,811
And

952
00:30:56,051 --> 00:30:56,321
Oh,

953
00:30:56,651 --> 00:30:57,611
they play that.

954
00:30:57,941 --> 00:30:58,241
Yeah.

955
00:30:58,241 --> 00:31:01,671
They, they play that role for each
other, even though, the ladies are

956
00:31:01,671 --> 00:31:05,121
together, but they play that role
in which, you know, it's like, okay,

957
00:31:05,121 --> 00:31:07,431
well let me, let me tell you, this
is kind of what you're going through.

958
00:31:07,431 --> 00:31:08,421
And I always found that kind of

959
00:31:08,471 --> 00:31:09,311
Fascinating.

960
00:31:09,851 --> 00:31:14,311
Is there ever Leah, is there ever a
time where you're playing that role

961
00:31:14,581 --> 00:31:17,491
and you're doing what you should
as, as the best friend should?

962
00:31:18,271 --> 00:31:24,151
Uh, but then you're kind of like, man,
I gotta, I wanna give my, uh, I want

963
00:31:24,151 --> 00:31:27,241
to give like a real passionate opinion,
but I should probably, I should probably

964
00:31:27,241 --> 00:31:28,891
keep that to myself for a little bit

965
00:31:29,791 --> 00:31:30,271
every day.

966
00:31:31,231 --> 00:31:31,321
Yes.

967
00:31:31,321 --> 00:31:31,741
I was like, of

968
00:31:31,976 --> 00:31:32,576
course, right?

969
00:31:32,676 --> 00:31:32,896
Yes.

970
00:31:34,351 --> 00:31:37,021
Yeah, because I don't,
I don't wanna, yeah.

971
00:31:37,021 --> 00:31:39,871
I don't wanna impact their relationship
in any kind of way, you know?

972
00:31:39,871 --> 00:31:40,051
Of course.

973
00:31:40,051 --> 00:31:42,751
If I can't add something positive
to the conversation, then I'm

974
00:31:42,751 --> 00:31:43,981
just not gonna say anything

975
00:31:44,191 --> 00:31:47,131
I that is, so that's
a really great answer.

976
00:31:47,221 --> 00:31:47,581
Yeah.

977
00:31:47,586 --> 00:31:47,776
Yeah.

978
00:31:47,781 --> 00:31:49,171
That's a really great answer.

979
00:31:49,176 --> 00:31:49,416
And you guys

980
00:31:49,416 --> 00:31:49,856
are so strong.

981
00:31:49,886 --> 00:31:52,736
Now, now do, okay, so y'all are together.

982
00:31:52,796 --> 00:31:55,856
Parents, I mean, family knows
your, your significant others know.

983
00:31:55,916 --> 00:31:57,056
Do your other, do your.

984
00:31:57,881 --> 00:31:58,871
Outside family?

985
00:31:58,871 --> 00:32:01,451
No, we don't have any, like, we
don't talk to our family, so we

986
00:32:01,451 --> 00:32:02,686
can give a shit if it No, we're

987
00:32:02,686 --> 00:32:02,726
not.

988
00:32:02,726 --> 00:32:04,691
It's, it's really just the
people in this household.

989
00:32:04,691 --> 00:32:04,926
I don't talk to me.

990
00:32:05,076 --> 00:32:05,366
Yeah.

991
00:32:05,526 --> 00:32:08,771
I mean we, we became, when we
came out she came out as bisexual.

992
00:32:08,771 --> 00:32:09,881
We came out as Poly.

993
00:32:09,881 --> 00:32:10,226
Poly or,

994
00:32:10,406 --> 00:32:14,141
and they were just people shed off
of us, like fleas off of a clean cat.

995
00:32:14,171 --> 00:32:15,791
Like they just started just jumping off.

996
00:32:15,791 --> 00:32:15,851
Yeah.

997
00:32:16,641 --> 00:32:17,661
And so, mm-hmm.

998
00:32:17,761 --> 00:32:20,726
It was kind of like the trash kind
of taking itself out to the curve.

999
00:32:20,726 --> 00:32:21,206
Those Oh, yeah.

1000
00:32:21,236 --> 00:32:22,196
We realized that this

1001
00:32:22,196 --> 00:32:22,616
was, it's the best.

1002
00:32:22,616 --> 00:32:24,476
These were the people that were
stressing us out and all of

1003
00:32:24,476 --> 00:32:25,286
a sudden they were all gone.

1004
00:32:25,316 --> 00:32:25,376
Yeah.

1005
00:32:25,376 --> 00:32:26,456
And they weren't stressing us out anymore.

1006
00:32:26,516 --> 00:32:27,476
Mm-hmm.

1007
00:32:27,601 --> 00:32:31,051
So y'all are in different, I mean, know
you have your sisters on here, everybody

1008
00:32:31,051 --> 00:32:34,021
knows Ev It's pretty open, it's accepted.

1009
00:32:34,921 --> 00:32:40,531
Yeah, so I came out, I, so the
first person I was really scared

1010
00:32:40,531 --> 00:32:41,401
to come out to was my mom.

1011
00:32:41,401 --> 00:32:41,491
Mm-hmm.

1012
00:32:42,511 --> 00:32:45,031
She was the reason why I
hid this side of myself.

1013
00:32:45,061 --> 00:32:45,151
Yeah.

1014
00:32:45,151 --> 00:32:46,326
Like the entire time.

1015
00:32:46,786 --> 00:32:49,981
So I text her, I FaceTimed my dad.

1016
00:32:50,171 --> 00:32:51,161
I called my sister.

1017
00:32:51,161 --> 00:32:54,736
I told everybody, but like distance
family, they found out through my TikTok.

1018
00:32:54,741 --> 00:32:54,761
Okay.

1019
00:32:55,811 --> 00:32:55,991
Yeah.

1020
00:32:56,171 --> 00:32:57,791
And they were like, what's going on here?

1021
00:32:57,791 --> 00:33:00,311
Like, what do, what is Dominique
doing out there in Arizona?

1022
00:33:03,041 --> 00:33:03,371
It got freak on

1023
00:33:03,371 --> 00:33:03,491
point

1024
00:33:04,151 --> 00:33:04,571
where Yes.

1025
00:33:04,721 --> 00:33:08,621
It got to the point where my grandma
found out and she's like, so how's

1026
00:33:08,621 --> 00:33:10,151
your lady friend doing over there?

1027
00:33:10,151 --> 00:33:13,091
And I'm like, whoa, grandma,
how did you find this out?

1028
00:33:14,891 --> 00:33:16,001
I call your TikTok.

1029
00:33:16,001 --> 00:33:16,571
Hello.

1030
00:33:17,561 --> 00:33:18,071
That's awesome.

1031
00:33:18,071 --> 00:33:18,641
That's amazing.

1032
00:33:18,641 --> 00:33:18,701
Yeah.

1033
00:33:19,211 --> 00:33:19,691
I love that.

1034
00:33:19,691 --> 00:33:20,501
Same for you, Leah.

1035
00:33:20,501 --> 00:33:22,421
Was that just pretty much everybody knows.

1036
00:33:24,206 --> 00:33:24,926
For the most part.

1037
00:33:24,926 --> 00:33:25,196
Yeah.

1038
00:33:25,346 --> 00:33:25,766
Yeah.

1039
00:33:25,886 --> 00:33:29,396
I didn't have conversations with
like my extended my stepdad or Yeah.

1040
00:33:29,396 --> 00:33:32,486
People that I grew up with that
I knew were really religious.

1041
00:33:32,486 --> 00:33:32,546
Yeah.

1042
00:33:32,786 --> 00:33:35,936
I already knew what their comments are
gonna be, so I didn't feel the need to, of

1043
00:33:35,936 --> 00:33:36,356
course.

1044
00:33:36,596 --> 00:33:39,926
But they're all on my Facebook
and they can see my social media.

1045
00:33:40,166 --> 00:33:40,196
Yeah.

1046
00:33:40,196 --> 00:33:43,736
My oldest daughter is also
on my Instagram, so she's

1047
00:33:43,796 --> 00:33:45,506
hit to our relationship.

1048
00:33:45,506 --> 00:33:47,006
She's seen our trips and

1049
00:33:47,756 --> 00:33:49,226
she knows what's going on.

1050
00:33:49,676 --> 00:33:50,126
I love that.

1051
00:33:50,126 --> 00:33:51,176
I need to find me a girlfriend.

1052
00:33:51,566 --> 00:33:54,806
I've been telling you for a long
time, man, I could, frankly,

1053
00:33:54,806 --> 00:33:55,796
I could use the break at home.

1054
00:33:55,796 --> 00:33:58,226
I, I'm actually you, so

1055
00:34:01,796 --> 00:34:03,956
Adam should have a conversation
with our husband to be like,

1056
00:34:04,736 --> 00:34:06,566
that is is such a husband thing to say.

1057
00:34:06,566 --> 00:34:07,196
I'm sorry, but I,

1058
00:34:07,496 --> 00:34:08,481
yeah, no, I mean.

1059
00:34:10,001 --> 00:34:14,231
You love your husband, but yeah,
every now and then a good break.

1060
00:34:14,251 --> 00:34:16,351
I always go to that,
that damn eighties song.

1061
00:34:16,831 --> 00:34:18,151
Every lover needs a holiday.

1062
00:34:18,661 --> 00:34:19,171
It's like, yes.

1063
00:34:19,171 --> 00:34:19,231
You,

1064
00:34:20,406 --> 00:34:20,706
you do.

1065
00:34:20,706 --> 00:34:24,661
You know, and I, this is where I always
said that I'm, I'm competition because,

1066
00:34:24,691 --> 00:34:26,821
you know, I. I bus her chops a lot.

1067
00:34:26,821 --> 00:34:31,231
But we really are best friends
and it's for both of us.

1068
00:34:31,261 --> 00:34:33,691
We rarely are apart from each other.

1069
00:34:33,691 --> 00:34:33,751
Yeah.

1070
00:34:33,751 --> 00:34:34,831
Like we're always together.

1071
00:34:34,831 --> 00:34:35,851
And I always keep her laughing.

1072
00:34:35,851 --> 00:34:36,811
Like this is, this is just,

1073
00:34:36,811 --> 00:34:36,991
yeah.

1074
00:34:37,201 --> 00:34:40,441
What you see here is the way we
are all the time with each other.

1075
00:34:40,921 --> 00:34:41,491
And, uh,

1076
00:34:41,551 --> 00:34:41,761
I know.

1077
00:34:41,761 --> 00:34:42,541
Don't feel sorry for me.

1078
00:34:42,541 --> 00:34:42,631
Yeah.

1079
00:34:43,261 --> 00:34:43,936
No, she chose this.

1080
00:34:44,176 --> 00:34:44,616
I can survive.

1081
00:34:45,596 --> 00:34:46,296
She chose this.

1082
00:34:46,531 --> 00:34:49,861
I didn't, I I, she caught me right
after a divorce and I was like, I

1083
00:34:49,861 --> 00:34:51,241
don't wanna get into a relationship.

1084
00:34:51,241 --> 00:34:52,951
She was like, no, we're
getting married at some point.

1085
00:34:53,136 --> 00:34:54,736
I was like, no.

1086
00:34:54,736 --> 00:34:55,891
Like I just divorced.

1087
00:34:55,891 --> 00:34:56,761
I gotta get married.

1088
00:34:57,301 --> 00:34:57,691
So, yeah.

1089
00:34:57,691 --> 00:34:58,831
No, it's, it is hard.

1090
00:34:58,831 --> 00:35:02,611
I, we actually, we have been discussing
every now and then, I'm like, wow.

1091
00:35:02,611 --> 00:35:06,961
Because I talk to people like yourself
and we talked to therapists and we

1092
00:35:06,961 --> 00:35:11,671
get to interview a lot of really
amazing people on our show that I have.

1093
00:35:11,731 --> 00:35:12,751
I've actually grown.

1094
00:35:12,751 --> 00:35:15,781
If you listen to the first podcast
and listen to my podcast, I listen

1095
00:35:15,781 --> 00:35:17,731
to our podcast from like today.

1096
00:35:17,731 --> 00:35:19,491
It's just holy crap.

1097
00:35:19,491 --> 00:35:20,541
Is that the same woman?

1098
00:35:20,931 --> 00:35:22,941
I love women, and so we have discussing.

1099
00:35:22,941 --> 00:35:23,781
I was like, man.

1100
00:35:24,306 --> 00:35:26,376
I could go for a
girlfriend, I really could.

1101
00:35:26,376 --> 00:35:26,496
But

1102
00:35:26,496 --> 00:35:27,786
then she wants to take me on her dates,

1103
00:35:27,786 --> 00:35:29,406
but then I'm like, you
think they'll legit?

1104
00:35:30,306 --> 00:35:31,446
She wants to take me on her dates.

1105
00:35:31,446 --> 00:35:31,971
She's like, you think

1106
00:35:31,971 --> 00:35:32,171
they'll

1107
00:35:32,171 --> 00:35:32,406
let you

1108
00:35:32,406 --> 00:35:32,886
come with me

1109
00:35:32,886 --> 00:35:32,976
too?

1110
00:35:32,976 --> 00:35:37,296
So when we were poly and, and we had, in
the hometown that we were at, we lived in

1111
00:35:37,296 --> 00:35:39,126
this, a small beach town in South Texas.

1112
00:35:39,276 --> 00:35:39,456
Yeah.

1113
00:35:39,516 --> 00:35:39,636
Mm-hmm.

1114
00:35:39,636 --> 00:35:43,566
And it was a very conservative
town, and everybody there cheated.

1115
00:35:43,926 --> 00:35:46,866
And if it was out in the open, they
were like no, we're not doing that.

1116
00:35:46,926 --> 00:35:47,286
Yeah.

1117
00:35:47,786 --> 00:35:51,476
Like I, I would go out with women that
I would meet on, on different apps

1118
00:35:51,536 --> 00:35:53,276
and they'd be like, yeah, it's open.

1119
00:35:53,276 --> 00:35:54,026
I don't think so.

1120
00:35:54,026 --> 00:35:55,766
I there's a better chance
of if you were cheating.

1121
00:35:55,891 --> 00:35:56,711
And I was like, what?

1122
00:35:57,091 --> 00:35:57,871
I'm the competition.

1123
00:35:57,961 --> 00:35:58,311
Right?

1124
00:35:58,381 --> 00:35:59,951
They have to compete with the wife.

1125
00:36:00,116 --> 00:36:00,416
And

1126
00:36:00,566 --> 00:36:01,586
that was the mentality.

1127
00:36:01,856 --> 00:36:04,106
So then we moved out here
towards central Texas.

1128
00:36:04,106 --> 00:36:05,666
We're near, we're, we're by Austin.

1129
00:36:06,026 --> 00:36:08,406
And, you know, it's, it's a
bit more accepted out here.

1130
00:36:08,406 --> 00:36:09,936
It's, it's a bit easier out here.

1131
00:36:09,936 --> 00:36:10,026
Mm-hmm.

1132
00:36:10,411 --> 00:36:12,696
And so I told her, I was
like, look go explore.

1133
00:36:12,696 --> 00:36:15,696
Go find yourself a, a
nice girl, this and that.

1134
00:36:15,696 --> 00:36:16,866
See what, what comes out of it.

1135
00:36:16,866 --> 00:36:18,426
You can explore a relationship.

1136
00:36:18,426 --> 00:36:18,486
Yeah.

1137
00:36:18,486 --> 00:36:19,716
Like an actual relationship.

1138
00:36:20,176 --> 00:36:25,006
And after the relationships that she had,
she was like, I don't want to date women.

1139
00:36:25,996 --> 00:36:31,048
You know, it was very, um, it
was all about sex, you know.

1140
00:36:31,128 --> 00:36:35,238
So, yeah, no, we, um, now that I
get to talk to a lot of people.

1141
00:36:36,058 --> 00:36:39,178
And in, in, and different relationships
and different therapists and different

1142
00:36:39,178 --> 00:36:43,068
just people that we have on our
platform, it really has opened my

1143
00:36:43,068 --> 00:36:45,558
eyes up to different scenarios.

1144
00:36:45,798 --> 00:36:45,888
Mm-hmm.

1145
00:36:46,128 --> 00:36:48,798
But when I was dating with
poly and I was dating women, it

1146
00:36:48,798 --> 00:36:50,448
was just, it, it was just sex.

1147
00:36:50,448 --> 00:36:51,288
That's all they wanted.

1148
00:36:51,288 --> 00:36:54,828
And, and that's all they,
you know, and they, it's very

1149
00:36:54,828 --> 00:36:56,268
hard for me to accept gifts.

1150
00:36:56,268 --> 00:36:59,628
It's very hard for me to be
pampered when it's not my husband.

1151
00:37:00,108 --> 00:37:01,323
And so that was really, I was

1152
00:37:01,323 --> 00:37:01,523
okay with

1153
00:37:01,523 --> 00:37:01,603
it.

1154
00:37:01,608 --> 00:37:02,928
It was really awkward for me.

1155
00:37:02,928 --> 00:37:02,938
And

1156
00:37:03,083 --> 00:37:04,248
I didn't have to buy AirPods.

1157
00:37:04,393 --> 00:37:04,683
Okay.

1158
00:37:05,953 --> 00:37:07,818
Like, you know, how
expensive those things are.

1159
00:37:08,508 --> 00:37:08,928
I didn't have

1160
00:37:08,928 --> 00:37:10,818
to buy AirPods, you know, I didn't know.

1161
00:37:10,818 --> 00:37:12,708
I, I'm always the gift giver.

1162
00:37:13,098 --> 00:37:17,963
And so it was really hard for me to have
that kind of relationship and mm-hmm.

1163
00:37:18,228 --> 00:37:19,158
It felt weird.

1164
00:37:19,158 --> 00:37:20,208
It didn't feel right to me.

1165
00:37:20,718 --> 00:37:23,698
Now I see things way differently.

1166
00:37:24,793 --> 00:37:26,773
Have experienced a lot
of different things.

1167
00:37:26,773 --> 00:37:29,113
And so it's like, oh, okay.

1168
00:37:29,323 --> 00:37:33,253
The only hard part that I could see
would be because this is where we balance

1169
00:37:33,253 --> 00:37:36,373
at, you know, I wear my, my heart on
my sleeve, like I'm just that guy.

1170
00:37:36,743 --> 00:37:40,993
My lovely wife here is a bit cynical
and that's the label that she should

1171
00:37:40,993 --> 00:37:42,403
choose, you know, she wears it as a badge.

1172
00:37:42,403 --> 00:37:42,823
It's okay.

1173
00:37:43,273 --> 00:37:46,093
And that's where we balance, you
know, because she'll see me flying

1174
00:37:46,093 --> 00:37:48,613
off to the next adventure and she's
like, Uhuh, come back over here.

1175
00:37:48,613 --> 00:37:48,883
You know?

1176
00:37:49,313 --> 00:37:53,843
And so she's not, it takes a
lot for her to trust somebody.

1177
00:37:53,993 --> 00:37:54,143
Yes.

1178
00:37:54,353 --> 00:37:58,223
Enough to let those true feelings fly.

1179
00:37:58,223 --> 00:37:59,033
I'm getting better.

1180
00:37:59,933 --> 00:38:00,533
I'm getting better.

1181
00:38:00,533 --> 00:38:01,433
But that is hard.

1182
00:38:01,433 --> 00:38:03,653
But that's where I'm, I'm getting better.

1183
00:38:03,653 --> 00:38:05,983
I have, I like a lot of, yeah, he's, he's,

1184
00:38:06,523 --> 00:38:08,533
I was like, you sure about

1185
00:38:08,533 --> 00:38:08,653
that?

1186
00:38:08,653 --> 00:38:09,343
I'm telling you.

1187
00:38:09,348 --> 00:38:09,468
No.

1188
00:38:10,318 --> 00:38:13,108
I have women in my life now that
I actually like to be around.

1189
00:38:13,108 --> 00:38:13,378
Absolutely.

1190
00:38:13,408 --> 00:38:14,248
Just as friends.

1191
00:38:14,248 --> 00:38:17,548
Like that's just, that
right there is a win for me.

1192
00:38:17,548 --> 00:38:17,608
So,

1193
00:38:18,163 --> 00:38:18,453
yeah.

1194
00:38:18,473 --> 00:38:19,973
You know, but, you know, sound familiar?

1195
00:38:19,973 --> 00:38:20,373
Mm-hmm.

1196
00:38:20,643 --> 00:38:23,898
There's it's just funny because
a lot of people they have

1197
00:38:23,898 --> 00:38:25,948
fantasies about this whole mm-hmm.

1198
00:38:26,203 --> 00:38:29,598
Scenario, and I'm not even talking
sexually, but just the look

1199
00:38:29,628 --> 00:38:33,708
of this is like, it gets very
beautiful in somebody's mind.

1200
00:38:33,708 --> 00:38:34,998
It's like, yeah, I can go out there.

1201
00:38:34,998 --> 00:38:35,658
I mean, I had it.

1202
00:38:35,988 --> 00:38:39,138
I can go out there and I can
date other women, and I can

1203
00:38:39,138 --> 00:38:40,518
have my primary relationship.

1204
00:38:40,968 --> 00:38:45,558
That shit was hard, guys, and I'm, I'm,
I'm saying it wasn't just hard date.

1205
00:38:45,558 --> 00:38:50,148
I mean, it's, I'm 43 and swiping
left and right is not the easiest

1206
00:38:50,148 --> 00:38:52,458
thing for me because I kept
swiping on the wrong person.

1207
00:38:52,698 --> 00:38:52,998
Yeah.

1208
00:38:53,058 --> 00:38:55,248
I would swipe, I swiped
the wrong direction.

1209
00:38:55,248 --> 00:38:56,478
I couldn't get my coordination down.

1210
00:38:56,478 --> 00:38:57,888
And then I'm like, why is
this person messaging me?

1211
00:38:57,888 --> 00:38:58,938
I swiped the other way.

1212
00:38:59,088 --> 00:38:59,358
Yeah.

1213
00:38:59,448 --> 00:39:02,833
But then when I finally stood, you
know, I, I dated a few women and I had

1214
00:39:02,833 --> 00:39:04,218
a few girlfriends and this and that.

1215
00:39:05,293 --> 00:39:06,223
It was stressful.

1216
00:39:06,433 --> 00:39:09,283
And it was stressful because my
wife purposefully made it stressful.

1217
00:39:10,453 --> 00:39:10,493
I did.

1218
00:39:10,493 --> 00:39:11,533
Like, she straight up a admit, she's like,

1219
00:39:11,538 --> 00:39:11,778
I did,

1220
00:39:11,903 --> 00:39:14,393
I made it hard for you
because I didn't like it.

1221
00:39:14,393 --> 00:39:14,483
Mm-hmm.

1222
00:39:15,328 --> 00:39:20,063
And, uh, and I knew she was, but
we did our best to try and, and get

1223
00:39:20,063 --> 00:39:21,563
those experiences as much as possible.

1224
00:39:21,563 --> 00:39:26,903
The hard part for me was really
kind of sharing, sharing my time,

1225
00:39:27,413 --> 00:39:29,123
because we have so many kids.

1226
00:39:29,128 --> 00:39:29,368
Mm-hmm.

1227
00:39:29,548 --> 00:39:33,683
Uh, we have five kids, we have four at
home, and I'm very, very close to them.

1228
00:39:33,683 --> 00:39:35,843
Like, I, I homeschooled them for a while.

1229
00:39:35,843 --> 00:39:38,783
Like, I was really, really,
really close to my kids and we

1230
00:39:38,783 --> 00:39:39,893
spent a lot of time together.

1231
00:39:40,223 --> 00:39:43,103
And then of course, my wife and
I spent a lot of time together.

1232
00:39:43,103 --> 00:39:46,973
It was really difficult to say,
okay guys, I'll see you later.

1233
00:39:47,093 --> 00:39:47,283
Mm-hmm.

1234
00:39:47,363 --> 00:39:50,698
I'm gonna go out with this girl now,
you know, and spend time with them.

1235
00:39:51,178 --> 00:39:53,428
It just was really, it
was too difficult for me.

1236
00:39:53,818 --> 00:39:54,103
Uh mm-hmm.

1237
00:39:54,183 --> 00:39:56,158
Now when the kids are outta
the house, I don't know.

1238
00:39:56,398 --> 00:39:56,698
Yeah.

1239
00:39:56,968 --> 00:39:58,023
Maybe, maybe.

1240
00:39:58,318 --> 00:40:00,178
But, you know, with the kids
still around there, it's like,

1241
00:40:00,178 --> 00:40:01,588
gosh, it's just too difficult.

1242
00:40:01,588 --> 00:40:06,348
And our kids know, uh, uh, you know,
we came, when we came out, uh, as poly,

1243
00:40:06,928 --> 00:40:09,903
we let our kids know, look, we're you
know, we're in open relationships,

1244
00:40:09,903 --> 00:40:12,423
you know, we didn't get into the
details, but we explained to them what

1245
00:40:12,783 --> 00:40:14,493
non-monogamy meant, and this and that.

1246
00:40:14,523 --> 00:40:14,613
Mm-hmm.

1247
00:40:14,853 --> 00:40:18,453
Well, now they're older, this
generation, they, they know more

1248
00:40:18,453 --> 00:40:20,343
about non-monogamy than we ever did.

1249
00:40:20,768 --> 00:40:21,058
Yeah.

1250
00:40:21,063 --> 00:40:23,483
You know, the, the research is out there.

1251
00:40:23,483 --> 00:40:24,743
Like I said, it's normalized now.

1252
00:40:24,863 --> 00:40:25,253
Yeah.

1253
00:40:25,253 --> 00:40:29,513
Uh, being out there, what did you, how
did you decide, I'm just gonna start

1254
00:40:29,513 --> 00:40:31,913
sharing this relationship online?

1255
00:40:31,913 --> 00:40:33,443
Like how, where did you just like,

1256
00:40:33,443 --> 00:40:33,953
yes,

1257
00:40:34,043 --> 00:40:34,658
I'm just gonna do this,

1258
00:40:34,658 --> 00:40:36,413
this content creator here?

1259
00:40:36,563 --> 00:40:37,163
Yes.

1260
00:40:37,163 --> 00:40:38,733
You, you had to put your
whole life out there.

1261
00:40:38,733 --> 00:40:41,103
And I, I, and I get it
because that's what we do.

1262
00:40:41,673 --> 00:40:42,093
Yeah.

1263
00:40:42,093 --> 00:40:42,153
Um,

1264
00:40:42,483 --> 00:40:44,943
but that's a very personal portion of you.

1265
00:40:45,738 --> 00:40:47,808
How did you, how did this even come about?

1266
00:40:47,808 --> 00:40:48,948
Like you just said, you know what?

1267
00:40:48,948 --> 00:40:49,938
I'm gonna throw it out there.

1268
00:40:50,643 --> 00:40:51,633
Yeah, pretty much.

1269
00:40:51,663 --> 00:40:55,083
Um, like I said earlier, I
wanted to tell my own story.

1270
00:40:55,083 --> 00:40:55,143
Yeah.

1271
00:40:55,353 --> 00:40:58,683
I didn't want no one to call up this
person, call up that person, get the

1272
00:40:58,683 --> 00:41:00,483
details wrong, say this, say that.

1273
00:41:00,843 --> 00:41:04,083
Listen, if I'm gonna do it, number
one, I'm gonna do it and I'm

1274
00:41:04,083 --> 00:41:05,403
gonna be proud of what I'm doing.

1275
00:41:05,673 --> 00:41:07,683
Nobody's gonna shame me into any box.

1276
00:41:07,683 --> 00:41:10,893
Nobody's gonna tell me what I can
and can't do, and I'm gonna tell

1277
00:41:10,893 --> 00:41:12,453
you straight out what I'm doing.

1278
00:41:13,083 --> 00:41:16,473
However, I just thought I was gonna
put a camera in front of my face, yap.

1279
00:41:16,473 --> 00:41:19,353
About what's going on and
nobody was gonna care.

1280
00:41:19,743 --> 00:41:20,103
Yeah.

1281
00:41:21,513 --> 00:41:21,843
They can't.

1282
00:41:21,843 --> 00:41:22,893
Thousand people care.

1283
00:41:23,433 --> 00:41:26,833
Turns out I took a lot
of things by storming.

1284
00:41:26,833 --> 00:41:28,933
I had no idea that this was gonna come.

1285
00:41:28,933 --> 00:41:31,513
I've been called everything under the sun.

1286
00:41:31,513 --> 00:41:31,573
Yeah.

1287
00:41:31,933 --> 00:41:36,103
I've been, had so much stuff
happening and I'm just like, I didn't

1288
00:41:36,283 --> 00:41:38,203
quite think all of this through.

1289
00:41:38,203 --> 00:41:42,703
Like, I just wanted to tell my story,
but I've so much good came from it.

1290
00:41:42,733 --> 00:41:48,473
I have a group of over 730 women in
it, and we all share inspiration.

1291
00:41:48,473 --> 00:41:50,573
We've gone on trips, uh, together.

1292
00:41:50,573 --> 00:41:51,833
We're playing in our second trip.

1293
00:41:52,323 --> 00:41:55,533
I've helped so many women just
come out to their husbands, come

1294
00:41:55,533 --> 00:41:56,793
out to their family members.

1295
00:41:57,513 --> 00:41:59,313
So much Good has come out of it.

1296
00:41:59,583 --> 00:42:02,523
However, I never expected me to be here.

1297
00:42:02,523 --> 00:42:02,583
Yeah.

1298
00:42:02,943 --> 00:42:04,593
I just was like, I wanna tell my story.

1299
00:42:05,043 --> 00:42:06,903
Oh, I don't want anyone to tell it for me.

1300
00:42:07,393 --> 00:42:07,453
So,

1301
00:42:08,353 --> 00:42:08,503
yes.

1302
00:42:08,623 --> 00:42:12,043
Yeah, that was kind of like my
decision factor was for me to tell it.

1303
00:42:12,673 --> 00:42:15,253
I had no idea it was
gonna get this public.

1304
00:42:15,703 --> 00:42:15,943
I

1305
00:42:15,943 --> 00:42:16,243
love

1306
00:42:16,243 --> 00:42:16,453
that.

1307
00:42:16,453 --> 00:42:19,423
Now, I, you know, I'm curious
while we're on the content portion

1308
00:42:19,423 --> 00:42:23,903
of it, because, uh, I know how
difficult a live can be and mm-hmm.

1309
00:42:24,693 --> 00:42:27,513
I frigging love your lives because
I'm, and I'm not gonna lie to you,

1310
00:42:27,513 --> 00:42:30,993
Dom, I, I'm a little scared of you
the same way I'm scared of my wife.

1311
00:42:31,293 --> 00:42:31,713
Okay?

1312
00:42:32,448 --> 00:42:34,863
And, and I got no reason
for me to be scared of you.

1313
00:42:34,863 --> 00:42:37,323
But it, what it is, is you're
just a very strong personality.

1314
00:42:37,323 --> 00:42:39,363
Like you're a strong direct woman.

1315
00:42:39,363 --> 00:42:43,503
And one, I, I dig that, but two
uhhuh, it's, it kind of makes you

1316
00:42:43,503 --> 00:42:45,843
sit off to the side and go, Ooh,
I don't wanna say the wrong thing.

1317
00:42:45,903 --> 00:42:46,473
You know what I mean?

1318
00:42:47,103 --> 00:42:51,483
Um, and so it, that's very
similar to how my wife is.

1319
00:42:51,483 --> 00:42:52,893
I've seen her on her lives.

1320
00:42:52,953 --> 00:42:55,683
She's dealt with her
trolls so beautifully.

1321
00:42:56,103 --> 00:42:58,888
I. I hate going on lives,
I'll be honest with you.

1322
00:42:58,888 --> 00:42:58,903
Yeah.

1323
00:42:58,998 --> 00:43:02,778
I go on lives maybe once a week if I
can get past the anxiety of it all.

1324
00:43:03,168 --> 00:43:05,418
But I build up this whole
thing in my head like, no.

1325
00:43:05,448 --> 00:43:07,458
'cause as soon as I'm gonna get
on, I'm gonna deal with trolls.

1326
00:43:07,458 --> 00:43:09,318
They're gonna piss me off
and it's gonna ruin my day.

1327
00:43:09,318 --> 00:43:10,248
I don't even wanna go there.

1328
00:43:10,788 --> 00:43:11,358
You know what I mean?

1329
00:43:11,508 --> 00:43:11,628
Yes.

1330
00:43:11,628 --> 00:43:17,568
Because people come in and they tell you
also, and I've seen the comments on some

1331
00:43:17,568 --> 00:43:17,988
of your stuff.

1332
00:43:17,988 --> 00:43:19,548
They never say whatever
the hell they wanna say.

1333
00:43:19,758 --> 00:43:20,268
Yeah.

1334
00:43:20,268 --> 00:43:20,278
Yes.

1335
00:43:20,543 --> 00:43:20,833
Yeah.

1336
00:43:20,988 --> 00:43:22,908
So how do you, how do you deal?

1337
00:43:22,908 --> 00:43:25,038
I mean, I know what I see,
but how do you deal with it?

1338
00:43:25,038 --> 00:43:27,608
Like when you shut it off,
does it sit with you still?

1339
00:43:27,608 --> 00:43:31,208
Are you able to just kind of push it
away and not think twice about it?

1340
00:43:32,078 --> 00:43:33,218
I'm gonna be honest.

1341
00:43:33,218 --> 00:43:36,308
So I've been talking
online for over a year now.

1342
00:43:36,518 --> 00:43:40,118
In the beginning, those
comments used to hit hard.

1343
00:43:40,298 --> 00:43:40,448
Yeah.

1344
00:43:40,478 --> 00:43:42,398
I used to be like, why so?

1345
00:43:42,498 --> 00:43:46,698
So many mean people, they'll, if they
can't attack my actual relationship

1346
00:43:46,698 --> 00:43:48,498
dynamic, they'll attack my looks.

1347
00:43:48,498 --> 00:43:48,588
Right.

1348
00:43:48,858 --> 00:43:50,478
They'll attack this, they'll attack that.

1349
00:43:50,478 --> 00:43:51,378
And I'm like, damn.

1350
00:43:52,068 --> 00:43:52,128
Yeah.

1351
00:43:52,338 --> 00:43:54,738
It's so much hatred in the world.

1352
00:43:55,128 --> 00:43:56,928
So much people are so, so unhappy.

1353
00:43:57,138 --> 00:43:57,378
Yes.

1354
00:43:57,378 --> 00:43:59,178
That it's like, oh my God.

1355
00:43:59,178 --> 00:44:00,113
And they'll throw it at you.

1356
00:44:00,133 --> 00:44:00,553
Mm-hmm.

1357
00:44:00,638 --> 00:44:01,428
They'll keep throwing at, yeah.

1358
00:44:01,758 --> 00:44:05,508
And so in the beginning, I
used to hate getting on live.

1359
00:44:05,508 --> 00:44:07,278
I used to be like, man, I can't do this.

1360
00:44:07,548 --> 00:44:11,208
But then I'll get so many people coming
to me and they'll be like, you helped me.

1361
00:44:11,238 --> 00:44:11,658
Thank you.

1362
00:44:11,658 --> 00:44:12,588
I love talking to you.

1363
00:44:12,588 --> 00:44:13,398
You did this for me.

1364
00:44:13,398 --> 00:44:15,858
And I'll be like, okay,
well let me focus on that.

1365
00:44:16,368 --> 00:44:19,338
But like now, everybody has
said the same damn thing.

1366
00:44:19,338 --> 00:44:19,398
Yeah.

1367
00:44:19,638 --> 00:44:20,808
I hear the same comments.

1368
00:44:20,808 --> 00:44:20,868
Yeah.

1369
00:44:22,188 --> 00:44:22,728
You are this, you are that.

1370
00:44:22,728 --> 00:44:24,978
They'll bring up my race, they'll
bring up my weight, they'll bring

1371
00:44:24,978 --> 00:44:28,098
up my looks, they'll bring up my
hair, they'll bring up everything.

1372
00:44:28,098 --> 00:44:29,118
And I've heard it all.

1373
00:44:29,178 --> 00:44:29,238
Yeah.

1374
00:44:29,538 --> 00:44:31,218
And so now it's just like redundant.

1375
00:44:31,218 --> 00:44:33,228
So I'll just tell them like, try again.

1376
00:44:33,408 --> 00:44:37,038
Put your back into the next
comment and try a little bit more.

1377
00:44:37,128 --> 00:44:38,213
Yeah, and a little bit razzle.

1378
00:44:38,778 --> 00:44:42,933
So when I get offline, once I
press and nobody else exists, like

1379
00:44:42,933 --> 00:44:44,343
they don't even exist for real.

1380
00:44:44,583 --> 00:44:46,353
So I'll press in and
I'll go on about my day.

1381
00:44:46,443 --> 00:44:47,193
I'll blow it off.

1382
00:44:47,193 --> 00:44:48,873
I'll be like, huh, cool.

1383
00:44:49,083 --> 00:44:49,773
All right, let's go.

1384
00:44:50,073 --> 00:44:51,063
Like, yeah, because I've

1385
00:44:51,063 --> 00:44:51,398
seen it all.

1386
00:44:51,423 --> 00:44:54,393
So I'm, I'm hoping to attain that
level and I'm getting better.

1387
00:44:54,643 --> 00:44:57,943
I used to take a lot of comments,
you know, comments on my content,

1388
00:44:58,168 --> 00:45:01,303
comments on the lives, all that
stuff on our YouTube, oh my God.

1389
00:45:01,333 --> 00:45:02,593
The contents we get on our YouTube.

1390
00:45:02,773 --> 00:45:06,013
I was called a bad parent because
we're, we're non monogamous, whatever.

1391
00:45:06,733 --> 00:45:10,033
But all of these comments, I
used to take 'em very seriously.

1392
00:45:10,033 --> 00:45:11,833
And then I, I saw an
interview with Dave Chappelle.

1393
00:45:11,833 --> 00:45:14,413
Dave Chappelle said, you know,
I, I would get upset about it,

1394
00:45:14,413 --> 00:45:15,528
but social media's not real.

1395
00:45:15,528 --> 00:45:17,233
This is not a real space.

1396
00:45:17,398 --> 00:45:17,808
It's not

1397
00:45:17,978 --> 00:45:21,163
these, this, these people just come
on here and they write on your wall or

1398
00:45:21,163 --> 00:45:22,663
they say whatever they're gonna say.

1399
00:45:23,268 --> 00:45:24,528
And this is not real.

1400
00:45:25,358 --> 00:45:25,968
It's really not.

1401
00:45:25,968 --> 00:45:29,113
And I just kind of, and that kind of rang
with me and I was like, okay, whatever.

1402
00:45:29,113 --> 00:45:31,723
And so I can handle it a lot better,
but I still got that anxiety.

1403
00:45:31,963 --> 00:45:32,053
Mm-hmm.

1404
00:45:32,058 --> 00:45:33,463
Nothing, nothing bothers me.

1405
00:45:33,538 --> 00:45:33,628
Care.

1406
00:45:33,838 --> 00:45:34,963
Nothing bothers her.

1407
00:45:35,263 --> 00:45:36,868
And I don't really like a lot of men.

1408
00:45:37,108 --> 00:45:41,818
So when men, of course, men are the first
people to get on there and they're like,

1409
00:45:41,848 --> 00:45:47,188
oh your man doesn't do what you want, and
that's why you're, I'm like, yeah, O okay.

1410
00:45:47,188 --> 00:45:47,578
Bye.

1411
00:45:47,998 --> 00:45:50,878
I mean, I'll fight back with
them just because I, just,

1412
00:45:50,878 --> 00:45:51,988
because I like to fight with men.

1413
00:45:52,288 --> 00:45:56,698
It's pretty much what it's, but
I don't get bothered by anything.

1414
00:45:56,698 --> 00:45:57,838
I'm like, oh, we're gonna do this.

1415
00:45:57,838 --> 00:45:58,198
All right.

1416
00:45:58,198 --> 00:45:59,218
You wanna do this on live?

1417
00:45:59,268 --> 00:45:59,958
Let's do this.

1418
00:45:59,958 --> 00:46:00,048
Mm-hmm.

1419
00:46:00,763 --> 00:46:00,883
Yeah.

1420
00:46:01,008 --> 00:46:05,118
You know, she's, she's definitely got
her way of, of doing things and Yeah.

1421
00:46:05,118 --> 00:46:07,728
Um, you know, from the content
creation, you know, I didn't

1422
00:46:07,728 --> 00:46:09,708
figure that I would be here.

1423
00:46:09,783 --> 00:46:10,888
For sure.

1424
00:46:10,888 --> 00:46:13,208
Um, you know, this was
not in the plans for me.

1425
00:46:13,628 --> 00:46:18,273
You know, when we moved out here
and my lovely wife in the year 2020

1426
00:46:18,273 --> 00:46:20,433
decided, Hey, let's start a podcast.

1427
00:46:20,823 --> 00:46:23,463
And I was like, Uhuh, ain't
nobody gonna listen to us.

1428
00:46:23,463 --> 00:46:25,863
Like that's, no, nobody
wants to hear about this.

1429
00:46:26,013 --> 00:46:28,653
I wish I had because we'd probably
be more popular right now.

1430
00:46:29,283 --> 00:46:31,233
We started about a year ago.

1431
00:46:31,773 --> 00:46:32,643
You just gotta do it.

1432
00:46:33,273 --> 00:46:33,483
Yeah.

1433
00:46:33,513 --> 00:46:34,503
You really do.

1434
00:46:34,503 --> 00:46:35,103
And.

1435
00:46:35,643 --> 00:46:39,033
Like you said, when it comes to
men, like men were my biggest

1436
00:46:39,033 --> 00:46:39,903
haters in the beginning.

1437
00:46:40,293 --> 00:46:40,653
Oh, first, sure.

1438
00:46:40,653 --> 00:46:44,973
Then it became a lesbian women, men
and lesbian women cannot stand me.

1439
00:46:44,973 --> 00:46:47,108
They shake hands and
they get in my comments.

1440
00:46:47,328 --> 00:46:48,623
And they just destroyed.

1441
00:46:48,623 --> 00:46:50,483
And it's just like, what the hell?

1442
00:46:50,933 --> 00:46:54,653
So as men, lesbian women,
religious people, those three.

1443
00:46:54,953 --> 00:46:55,433
Yeah.

1444
00:46:55,583 --> 00:46:56,308
And it never fails.

1445
00:46:56,768 --> 00:46:57,388
It never fails.

1446
00:46:57,533 --> 00:46:59,603
And then the world just
goes around everybody

1447
00:47:00,773 --> 00:47:00,983
literally.

1448
00:47:00,983 --> 00:47:03,923
Because men want you, and lesbian
women want you, and they can't.

1449
00:47:03,923 --> 00:47:05,183
Neither one of them can have you.

1450
00:47:05,183 --> 00:47:05,903
It's true.

1451
00:47:05,963 --> 00:47:08,033
And religious people, well,
they're just religious people

1452
00:47:08,208 --> 00:47:08,428
so

1453
00:47:08,428 --> 00:47:08,693
that they're just

1454
00:47:08,693 --> 00:47:09,473
throwing whatever around.

1455
00:47:09,473 --> 00:47:10,403
Yeah.

1456
00:47:10,433 --> 00:47:11,348
There's preaching going on there.

1457
00:47:12,218 --> 00:47:12,458
Exactly.

1458
00:47:12,458 --> 00:47:12,818
Uh, yeah.

1459
00:47:13,388 --> 00:47:14,078
So that's that.

1460
00:47:14,078 --> 00:47:16,868
And that was one of the things that
I, I had wanted to discuss with

1461
00:47:16,868 --> 00:47:21,308
you because I, I highly respect
your, uh, your tactics during live.

1462
00:47:21,378 --> 00:47:21,518
Mm-hmm.

1463
00:47:21,673 --> 00:47:24,193
Uh, you're, you know, you really are.

1464
00:47:24,198 --> 00:47:27,358
You come off very unbothered
very straightforward.

1465
00:47:27,598 --> 00:47:29,758
And like I said, you caught my
attention because what you're

1466
00:47:29,758 --> 00:47:31,648
doing is very, very important.

1467
00:47:31,708 --> 00:47:35,698
The information you're giving
is, um, is really, it's great.

1468
00:47:35,998 --> 00:47:37,588
It's information that it's clear.

1469
00:47:37,738 --> 00:47:38,068
Yeah.

1470
00:47:38,128 --> 00:47:39,058
It's concise.

1471
00:47:39,088 --> 00:47:39,208
Yes.

1472
00:47:39,208 --> 00:47:41,158
You know, it's straight and
direct and to the point.

1473
00:47:41,608 --> 00:47:45,208
There are a lot of, uh, you know,
there's a lot of us content creators

1474
00:47:45,238 --> 00:47:46,738
in this niche that we're in.

1475
00:47:47,168 --> 00:47:49,268
And some of 'em only.

1476
00:47:49,763 --> 00:47:51,503
Show the happy sides.

1477
00:47:51,653 --> 00:47:52,223
Mm-hmm.

1478
00:47:52,743 --> 00:47:54,803
The, the, the beautiful
highlight reel all the time.

1479
00:47:54,833 --> 00:47:54,893
Yeah.

1480
00:47:54,893 --> 00:47:55,343
You know what I mean?

1481
00:47:55,703 --> 00:47:59,363
Um, we got into this because we really
wanted to focus on the relationship

1482
00:47:59,363 --> 00:48:03,868
aspect of it, the internal mechanics
of it, all the questions that you

1483
00:48:03,868 --> 00:48:06,628
have to ask yourself before you
jump into something like this.

1484
00:48:06,628 --> 00:48:06,638
Mm-hmm.

1485
00:48:06,638 --> 00:48:09,398
People don't really realize
what goes into this.

1486
00:48:09,398 --> 00:48:12,068
This is not a one night stand
situation that turns into,

1487
00:48:12,068 --> 00:48:13,508
oh, I'm in a relationship now.

1488
00:48:13,848 --> 00:48:19,128
There's a lot of moving parts
and you guys really embody that.

1489
00:48:19,618 --> 00:48:23,848
And that's really why I wanted to have
you guys on, with that, I, uh, we're

1490
00:48:23,848 --> 00:48:25,288
gonna go ahead and start wrapping up.

1491
00:48:25,338 --> 00:48:26,173
We're gonna definitely have you

1492
00:48:26,173 --> 00:48:26,443
back on.

1493
00:48:26,443 --> 00:48:28,093
We would love to have
you guys back on Yes.

1494
00:48:28,153 --> 00:48:29,683
Maybe later on in the year.

1495
00:48:30,193 --> 00:48:30,283
Sure.

1496
00:48:30,593 --> 00:48:33,233
We can schedule something and get you
guys back on and, because there's so

1497
00:48:33,318 --> 00:48:33,398
much,

1498
00:48:33,398 --> 00:48:36,143
and I wanna know about these
friends with all the trips that

1499
00:48:36,143 --> 00:48:37,798
you go on, take me with you.

1500
00:48:38,778 --> 00:48:38,998
Yes.

1501
00:48:40,868 --> 00:48:42,083
Join the group, girl.

1502
00:48:42,383 --> 00:48:42,893
Yes.

1503
00:48:42,898 --> 00:48:43,798
There's room for you.

1504
00:48:44,258 --> 00:48:44,478
Yes.

1505
00:48:44,778 --> 00:48:45,398
Gme gotta call.

1506
00:48:45,598 --> 00:48:51,173
I, I, yeah, I wanna know all about that
because I would love to not only like,

1507
00:48:51,173 --> 00:48:55,163
just sit there and kind of be amongst
women who have the same mentality.

1508
00:48:55,213 --> 00:48:57,193
You know this, this
woman is very empowered.

1509
00:48:57,313 --> 00:48:58,573
She's very strong woman.

1510
00:48:58,753 --> 00:49:00,703
That's what I, that's
what I adore about her.

1511
00:49:01,033 --> 00:49:03,943
And that to me, honestly, I'm, I'm
gonna put it all out on the table here.

1512
00:49:04,663 --> 00:49:07,033
I am very turned on by strong women.

1513
00:49:07,063 --> 00:49:11,203
Like, I love and adore
strong women, opinionated.

1514
00:49:11,533 --> 00:49:14,053
Independent, straightforward
kind of women.

1515
00:49:14,053 --> 00:49:14,113
So

1516
00:49:14,233 --> 00:49:14,353
that's

1517
00:49:14,353 --> 00:49:14,803
what I'm talking

1518
00:49:14,803 --> 00:49:14,983
about.

1519
00:49:14,983 --> 00:49:15,253
Preach.

1520
00:49:15,253 --> 00:49:15,613
You got it.

1521
00:49:15,628 --> 00:49:16,048
You got

1522
00:49:16,048 --> 00:49:16,128
it.

1523
00:49:16,128 --> 00:49:16,138
Yes.

1524
00:49:16,138 --> 00:49:16,148
And

1525
00:49:16,403 --> 00:49:21,023
so that's, that's what I dig, because
there's no, there's no question about it.

1526
00:49:21,023 --> 00:49:21,083
Yeah.

1527
00:49:21,083 --> 00:49:22,463
There's no beating around the bush.

1528
00:49:22,523 --> 00:49:26,663
I, I'm, I know exactly what this woman is
thinking because she's saying it out loud.

1529
00:49:27,113 --> 00:49:27,713
You know what I mean?

1530
00:49:27,923 --> 00:49:28,013
Mm-hmm.

1531
00:49:28,013 --> 00:49:29,123
Or my face is showing it.

1532
00:49:29,128 --> 00:49:29,208
Right.

1533
00:49:29,213 --> 00:49:34,043
And for a lot of us guys, we need
that simplicity, you know, because

1534
00:49:34,223 --> 00:49:34,283
Yeah.

1535
00:49:34,463 --> 00:49:37,633
You know, it's like, Hey, be, and I
use, tell her all the time, I can't

1536
00:49:37,633 --> 00:49:38,503
figure out what you're thinking.

1537
00:49:38,503 --> 00:49:39,463
You have to tell me.

1538
00:49:39,643 --> 00:49:39,913
Yeah.

1539
00:49:40,123 --> 00:49:42,883
And so she, she is very empowered now.

1540
00:49:42,883 --> 00:49:46,853
She loves strong, to be around strong
women and kind of be a part of that group.

1541
00:49:46,853 --> 00:49:46,973
Yes.

1542
00:49:47,513 --> 00:49:49,418
And when we started all of this.

1543
00:49:50,528 --> 00:49:53,198
The podcast started taking
off about six months into it.

1544
00:49:53,198 --> 00:49:53,288
Mm-hmm.

1545
00:49:53,863 --> 00:49:57,188
And I was informed by
people who do podcasts.

1546
00:49:57,188 --> 00:49:59,618
They were like, Hey man, you need
to take this to the next level.

1547
00:49:59,618 --> 00:50:02,228
You need to start doing video and
you need to start doing TikTok.

1548
00:50:02,228 --> 00:50:04,143
And I was like, dude, I don't like TikTok.

1549
00:50:04,988 --> 00:50:06,098
I don't wanna be on TikTok.

1550
00:50:06,098 --> 00:50:06,188
I

1551
00:50:06,188 --> 00:50:09,158
mean, I do my, like he, his tiktoks
and my tiktoks are very different.

1552
00:50:09,158 --> 00:50:09,168
Right.

1553
00:50:09,168 --> 00:50:09,503
Different.

1554
00:50:09,503 --> 00:50:12,698
Like, he's very sweet, he's very
direct, but he's very sweet and

1555
00:50:12,698 --> 00:50:14,138
he wants to be more educational.

1556
00:50:14,138 --> 00:50:18,488
And I'm more of the, now we're gonna keep
this real, like yeah, they're jealousy.

1557
00:50:18,488 --> 00:50:20,408
Yes, there's this and that and mm-hmm.

1558
00:50:20,648 --> 00:50:21,458
Get over it.

1559
00:50:21,758 --> 00:50:22,778
Talk to your spouse.

1560
00:50:22,778 --> 00:50:23,708
And it's our styles.

1561
00:50:23,708 --> 00:50:23,948
Yeah.

1562
00:50:23,978 --> 00:50:25,058
It's our different styles.

1563
00:50:25,058 --> 00:50:28,958
And, and it's what I love about her and
that's, that's really what I wanted when

1564
00:50:28,958 --> 00:50:33,308
we started our TikTok was because she was
like we should start a, a TikTok together.

1565
00:50:33,308 --> 00:50:34,058
And I said, no.

1566
00:50:34,418 --> 00:50:36,998
I said, what we need are our
own two separate tiktoks.

1567
00:50:36,998 --> 00:50:37,838
Mm-hmm.

1568
00:50:37,844 --> 00:50:39,578
Where you can be this one.

1569
00:50:39,923 --> 00:50:41,333
Individual person.

1570
00:50:41,333 --> 00:50:41,423
Mm-hmm.

1571
00:50:42,138 --> 00:50:43,703
I could be this one individual person.

1572
00:50:43,703 --> 00:50:45,953
People can get to know us as individuals.

1573
00:50:46,343 --> 00:50:46,493
Yeah.

1574
00:50:46,493 --> 00:50:49,763
And then they can come onto our pod,
they can see our podcast and see how we

1575
00:50:49,763 --> 00:50:51,058
interact with each other as a couple.

1576
00:50:51,058 --> 00:50:51,338
Yeah.

1577
00:50:51,398 --> 00:50:51,818
Mm-hmm.

1578
00:50:51,898 --> 00:50:53,903
Uh, because everybody knows us as a unit.

1579
00:50:54,113 --> 00:50:54,203
Yeah.

1580
00:50:54,443 --> 00:50:57,983
And it's, I think it's important that
people know her, specifically her,

1581
00:50:57,983 --> 00:50:59,333
because I am the frigging talker.

1582
00:51:01,493 --> 00:51:05,243
It's important that they get to know
her because I frigging adore this woman.

1583
00:51:05,333 --> 00:51:08,583
And she, there's a reason why I love
her so much and if people get to

1584
00:51:08,583 --> 00:51:09,603
know her, they're gonna love her too.

1585
00:51:09,603 --> 00:51:09,723
But

1586
00:51:09,723 --> 00:51:10,863
we need more women like that.

1587
00:51:10,863 --> 00:51:11,943
Like we need more of us.

1588
00:51:11,948 --> 00:51:11,998
Yeah.

1589
00:51:11,998 --> 00:51:12,158
We,

1590
00:51:12,603 --> 00:51:13,503
we really do stay.

1591
00:51:14,313 --> 00:51:16,473
We need more, we need way more of us.

1592
00:51:16,473 --> 00:51:19,983
Like there should not be any
reason for us to be quiet.

1593
00:51:19,983 --> 00:51:22,863
There should not be any reason for us
not to be able to talk to our spouses.

1594
00:51:23,133 --> 00:51:24,123
Nobody owns us.

1595
00:51:24,123 --> 00:51:26,103
We are all together in this relationship.

1596
00:51:26,103 --> 00:51:27,278
It is partnerships.

1597
00:51:28,008 --> 00:51:28,488
Yes.

1598
00:51:29,148 --> 00:51:30,798
I love that you said that.

1599
00:51:30,798 --> 00:51:34,608
And I say that all the time in regards
to women, that we need to speak up

1600
00:51:34,608 --> 00:51:38,598
more, we need to be more confident,
we need more confident women in the

1601
00:51:38,598 --> 00:51:40,518
world so that things can be better.

1602
00:51:40,788 --> 00:51:41,118
Yes.

1603
00:51:41,123 --> 00:51:44,228
There's so many unconfident
women that just sit back.

1604
00:51:44,228 --> 00:51:46,328
They kind of just let
the men run all this.

1605
00:51:46,688 --> 00:51:47,673
Look at what's going on.

1606
00:51:47,823 --> 00:51:48,313
Exactly.

1607
00:51:48,313 --> 00:51:49,153
Look at what we have going on.

1608
00:51:49,153 --> 00:51:49,553
Exactly.

1609
00:51:49,673 --> 00:51:52,868
'cause we don't have women that are
confident enough in their energy.

1610
00:51:53,078 --> 00:51:58,058
Our energy alone, our cadence
alone as women is so valuable.

1611
00:51:58,208 --> 00:51:58,388
Yes.

1612
00:51:58,388 --> 00:51:59,528
It's so valuable.

1613
00:51:59,528 --> 00:52:03,428
And the more confident
women we have, baby.

1614
00:52:04,208 --> 00:52:04,478
Yes.

1615
00:52:04,483 --> 00:52:05,918
It's just, it's so important.

1616
00:52:05,918 --> 00:52:07,958
We gotta stand up, we gotta speak up.

1617
00:52:07,958 --> 00:52:08,858
We can't be quiet.

1618
00:52:08,858 --> 00:52:09,158
Why?

1619
00:52:09,398 --> 00:52:10,718
Why as a woman are you quiet?

1620
00:52:10,718 --> 00:52:11,768
Like, why are you quiet?

1621
00:52:12,128 --> 00:52:12,608
Exactly.

1622
00:52:12,608 --> 00:52:13,058
Speak up

1623
00:52:13,688 --> 00:52:14,198
and if you're their

1624
00:52:14,663 --> 00:52:16,298
part turned you every which way but loose.

1625
00:52:16,448 --> 00:52:17,018
Exactly.

1626
00:52:17,588 --> 00:52:21,128
And he's, and, and if you have
a man who's behind you, beside

1627
00:52:21,128 --> 00:52:22,628
you and just telling you, do it.

1628
00:52:23,138 --> 00:52:23,618
Do it.

1629
00:52:24,653 --> 00:52:25,673
They're there for you.

1630
00:52:25,673 --> 00:52:27,203
You know, your family's there for you.

1631
00:52:27,203 --> 00:52:28,058
Like it's, that's

1632
00:52:28,058 --> 00:52:28,403
your support.

1633
00:52:28,463 --> 00:52:29,303
It's your support.

1634
00:52:29,303 --> 00:52:29,363
Yeah.

1635
00:52:29,813 --> 00:52:32,633
It's, it's, it's a partnership and yeah.

1636
00:52:32,693 --> 00:52:33,743
We definitely need more women.

1637
00:52:33,743 --> 00:52:37,223
So I will definitely be
looking into those vacations.

1638
00:52:38,123 --> 00:52:38,693
That's right.

1639
00:52:38,693 --> 00:52:40,343
Our next one is in October, so

1640
00:52:40,343 --> 00:52:40,433
Yes.

1641
00:52:40,823 --> 00:52:40,943
The

1642
00:52:40,948 --> 00:52:42,508
crew, you can't do,

1643
00:52:43,433 --> 00:52:45,413
you know, we're going
on a cruise in October.

1644
00:52:45,413 --> 00:52:48,743
We have been invited to go
on a cruise from Montreal

1645
00:52:48,893 --> 00:52:49,493
to Boston.

1646
00:52:49,493 --> 00:52:51,323
To Boston to go see, um,

1647
00:52:51,323 --> 00:52:52,163
the, the foliage changed.

1648
00:52:52,163 --> 00:52:52,223
The

1649
00:52:52,223 --> 00:52:53,453
foliage changed.

1650
00:52:53,458 --> 00:52:54,503
Yeah, the leaves changed.

1651
00:52:54,503 --> 00:52:54,523
What's that?

1652
00:52:54,983 --> 00:52:56,603
The leaves changing during the, oh

1653
00:52:57,023 --> 00:52:57,293
girl.

1654
00:52:57,293 --> 00:52:58,523
I don't even know what it is, but

1655
00:52:58,523 --> 00:53:01,583
it's that we're down in south Texas,
or we were down in South Texas.

1656
00:53:01,613 --> 00:53:03,023
We lived our whole lives in Texas.

1657
00:53:03,023 --> 00:53:03,068
It's changing.

1658
00:53:03,068 --> 00:53:03,108
Right.

1659
00:53:03,208 --> 00:53:04,733
And we don't have seasons in Texas.

1660
00:53:05,093 --> 00:53:08,513
Uh, you know, and so we were told
this is like a beautiful event.

1661
00:53:08,513 --> 00:53:08,603
Yes.

1662
00:53:08,603 --> 00:53:10,863
Apparently the colors of
the leaves all changed.

1663
00:53:10,863 --> 00:53:11,853
And this is the thing,

1664
00:53:11,883 --> 00:53:13,113
we're gonna go to Nova Scotia.

1665
00:53:13,208 --> 00:53:13,298
What?

1666
00:53:13,808 --> 00:53:14,168
Yeah,

1667
00:53:14,378 --> 00:53:16,538
I didn't even know it was, I didn't
even know how close that place is.

1668
00:53:16,638 --> 00:53:19,473
But yeah, I wanna know more about
your, your trips and stuff, so

1669
00:53:19,473 --> 00:53:20,943
I will definitely keep in touch.

1670
00:53:20,973 --> 00:53:21,273
Yeah.

1671
00:53:21,273 --> 00:53:22,503
So you guys definitely should link.

1672
00:53:22,503 --> 00:53:22,773
Yes.

1673
00:53:22,773 --> 00:53:22,783
Yes.

1674
00:53:22,783 --> 00:53:23,438
Awesome.

1675
00:53:23,708 --> 00:53:27,158
We, you know, I, I gotta say, I, I
appreciate Leah, I appreciate you joining.

1676
00:53:27,188 --> 00:53:27,548
Yes.

1677
00:53:27,608 --> 00:53:30,668
Uh, I think you guys are
frigging adorable, man.

1678
00:53:30,668 --> 00:53:33,938
I love that you, I love, love and
I love what you guys have going on.

1679
00:53:33,938 --> 00:53:34,028
Yes.

1680
00:53:34,028 --> 00:53:34,658
Y'all, y'all.

1681
00:53:35,118 --> 00:53:35,748
Rock on

1682
00:53:35,748 --> 00:53:35,853
with that.

1683
00:53:35,853 --> 00:53:38,508
And thank you for being here and
sharing y'all story with everybody.

1684
00:53:38,508 --> 00:53:42,978
We love how different people, different
relationships, know how to navigate

1685
00:53:42,978 --> 00:53:44,388
through non-monogamy in their own way.

1686
00:53:44,388 --> 00:53:48,828
So I find it so beautiful and we're gonna
have way more conversations with you guys.

1687
00:53:48,828 --> 00:53:48,888
We

1688
00:53:48,888 --> 00:53:49,338
really are.

1689
00:53:49,338 --> 00:53:51,018
So we're gonna, I'm gonna
be in contact with you.

1690
00:53:51,018 --> 00:53:52,698
We're gonna, we're gonna
get something scheduled now.

1691
00:53:52,698 --> 00:53:56,758
With that, Dominique, this has
been a really great conversation.

1692
00:53:56,758 --> 00:54:00,118
We appreciate you coming out
and sharing your story with us.

1693
00:54:00,178 --> 00:54:00,268
And

1694
00:54:00,988 --> 00:54:04,798
thank you everybody for listening,
and thank you for being here again.

1695
00:54:04,798 --> 00:54:07,918
We love to hear how different people
navigate through this non-monogamy

1696
00:54:08,248 --> 00:54:09,598
and doing it their own way.

1697
00:54:09,688 --> 00:54:09,988
Yeah.

1698
00:54:10,558 --> 00:54:14,338
So if you've enjoyed today's episode
and you wanna follow Dominique and see

1699
00:54:14,338 --> 00:54:18,748
the content that she shares about her
relationship dynamic, you can also find

1700
00:54:18,748 --> 00:54:22,528
all of her social media links on our
website under the guest bio section

1701
00:54:22,528 --> 00:54:25,708
at www dot beyond monogamy do com.

1702
00:54:25,948 --> 00:54:29,638
And while you're there, you can check out
all of our past episodes, our video clips,

1703
00:54:29,638 --> 00:54:31,978
our blogs, merch, and ways to contact us.

1704
00:54:32,248 --> 00:54:32,758
Yes.

1705
00:54:33,118 --> 00:54:36,598
Uh, you can also leave us a message
through our 100% anonymous beyond

1706
00:54:36,598 --> 00:54:40,628
Monogamy confessional, where people
share their stories, their questions,

1707
00:54:40,628 --> 00:54:44,168
their opinions about relationships,
the lifestyle, even our podcast like.

1708
00:54:45,053 --> 00:54:46,343
We have no way of tracking you down.

1709
00:54:46,583 --> 00:54:51,923
It is you just throw it out there and if
you elect to you check that little box,

1710
00:54:52,283 --> 00:54:54,533
we will talk about it on our next shelf.

1711
00:54:54,533 --> 00:54:57,293
So that is always something that,
uh, you have available to you.

1712
00:54:57,353 --> 00:55:01,163
Yes, and we've got some
really fun events coming up.

1713
00:55:01,163 --> 00:55:01,853
That's right.

1714
00:55:01,853 --> 00:55:07,853
On March 22nd at 4:00 PM Central, we'll be
doing our monthly online webinar at SDC.

1715
00:55:08,273 --> 00:55:08,783
Yes.

1716
00:55:08,843 --> 00:55:11,753
And the topic is red flags and
green flags in the Lifestyle, which

1717
00:55:11,753 --> 00:55:14,753
honestly is one of the most important
things should understand when

1718
00:55:14,753 --> 00:55:16,103
navigating through the lifestyle.

1719
00:55:16,133 --> 00:55:16,523
Oh, big time.

1720
00:55:16,528 --> 00:55:17,093
Big time, yes.

1721
00:55:17,453 --> 00:55:20,453
Then on March 29th from 6:00
PM to 8:00 PM Central, we'll be

1722
00:55:20,483 --> 00:55:25,013
doing an in-person workshop called
Swingers 1 0 1 at Forbidden Fruit.

1723
00:55:25,433 --> 00:55:28,913
So if you're curious about the
lifestyle or just wanna learn more,

1724
00:55:29,123 --> 00:55:34,583
you can find all the information there
at www.forbiddenfruit.com/workshops.

1725
00:55:35,063 --> 00:55:40,703
Also, the weekend of April 11th will be
at the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in

1726
00:55:40,703 --> 00:55:42,863
San Antonio, Texas, doing a live show.

1727
00:55:43,568 --> 00:55:44,978
Hanging out all weekend long.

1728
00:55:45,068 --> 00:55:45,488
Yeah.

1729
00:55:45,488 --> 00:55:47,378
So if you're there,
definitely come say hi.

1730
00:55:47,378 --> 00:55:50,588
Also, don't forget to catch us every
Thursday, 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central

1731
00:55:50,588 --> 00:55:55,598
on full swap radio.com, along with a
Be of other Cool and sexy podcasts.

1732
00:55:55,943 --> 00:55:57,388
Oh, that's so good.

1733
00:55:57,388 --> 00:55:57,723
That's so good.

1734
00:55:57,723 --> 00:55:57,908
That's right.

1735
00:55:57,908 --> 00:55:59,198
And you're gonna be able to catch.

1736
00:55:59,573 --> 00:56:02,093
These awesome people here as our guest.

1737
00:56:02,093 --> 00:56:03,053
Yes, Dom.

1738
00:56:03,053 --> 00:56:06,313
Leah, thank you so much for
joining us, and with that we,

1739
00:56:06,313 --> 00:56:07,393
thank you all for listening.

1740
00:56:07,483 --> 00:56:07,633
Yes.

1741
00:56:07,723 --> 00:56:09,103
And, we'll see you next week.

1742
00:56:09,373 --> 00:56:09,583
Bye.