We're stepping outside our usual non-monogamy lane and into the world of kink with special guest Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant! Amanda is a certified somatic sex & relationship coach and sexologist (and former NYC dominatrix) who breaks down the real difference between a "kink" and a "fetish," why labels help you find yourself, and how power exchange, hot wifing, pre-claiming, and reclaiming sex all fit on the same spectrum. Plus: the $20 light bulb communication hack, healthy aftercare boundaries, and why justice might be Pris's real kink.

IN THIS EPISODE:
- Kink vs. fetish: what's actually the difference
- Amanda's journey from curious kid to NYC pro-domme to kink coach
- Foot fetishes, power exchange, and why "normal" kink is a spectrum
- The $20 light bulb trick for signaling dominant energy
- Hot wifing vs. hot husbanding, pre-claiming and reclaiming sex
- Compartmentalizing fantasy without cheating
- Aftercare, boundaries, and honest communication in ENM relationships

FIND AMANDA DAMES (THE KINK CONSULTANT):
Website: https://www.amandadames.com/ (grab her free guide, "Speaking Your Desires With Confidence")
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Email: info@thekinkconsultant.com
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