The Double Life: Swing, Kids, and Finding Balance

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This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. We explore

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topics surrounding sexuality, intimate relationships, and related subjects

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in an open and candid manner. Please be advised that we are not licensed

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language, we strongly recommend that you refrain from listening further. However,

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if you are of legal age and comfortable with this content, we invite you to

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settle in and enjoy the show. Hello,

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and welcome to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam.

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And I'm Priz. And today we are talking about something

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that may not affect all of you, but something that may affect many

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of you. And that's swinging while raising a family.

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Yes, it's something that we've been asked about a lot because we,

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as some of you may know, we have a lot of

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kids. We do. We do. And we've been in this journey for almost

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14 years, and we have a total of five

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kids now. We've always had four. We've always had four

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in the house. Yeah. The oldest is in her 20s,

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but we have currently four older

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teenagers in the house. High school students. Yes.

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But they weren't always high school students. No, they were not. There was a time

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when they were babies. When they were little. Little infants. Little babies.

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And toddlers. Toddlers. Babies and toddlers. We had babies, too.

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Yeah. And as you can imagine,

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it is difficult to figure

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out how to maneuver having sex with people when

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you have a house full of kids. Yeah. So for us, our.

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It was hard because we didn't. Sometimes we would have

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an empty weekend, but we didn't play

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or we didn't do a lot of activities, like outings

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and stuff like that, because we had little ones. So,

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yeah, when they weren't with us, we would be able to get out. But some

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people are biologically. They have

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biological kids all the time. Like, they don't have anybody. We were lucky enough

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to, like, be able to get rid of them. Yeah. There was.

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There was a weekend every now and then where we would have the house to

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ourselves. It's been a long time. Yeah. We weren't very active anyway,

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but we were barely trying to get out there. We did have family around,

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so every now and then we would.

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We would either get a babysitter or we would drop

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them off with a family member. And it was only one. Like, you're a grandparent

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or something. But we get that question a

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lot. Like, how do you. How do you do it when you have.

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How do you stay active in the lifestyle, raising a family?

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I mean, that's. That's really what it is. How can you keep your

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foot in the two different worlds? Yeah. You know,

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because you want to go. If you're married, you want to go with your partner.

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Yeah. You know, and that's where it's like, okay, so what do we do with

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the kids? It's expensive to get a babysitter. It is, it is. And that's.

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And that's something that we have. We have friends that deal with that. I mean,

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it's. It's difficult. We had dealt with it

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when our kids were younger. We had a babysitter who would come through and

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we would go out and that sort of thing. But of course, we couldn't always

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host, and that was a problem that we found most people have. And I

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didn't realize how many people have that problem in the lifestyle. There's a lot of

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people that can't host. There's a lot. You know, whether they have roommates

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or they have kids or whatever the reason may be, there's just not

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a whole lot of people who can host. Yeah. And so our

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situation was not, you know, one that.

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That just doesn't come up. It's one that comes up often where people are going,

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well, I have kids at home and I can't have anybody

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come over. You know, realistically,

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we have to consider the very first thing, which is priorities

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and communications. You know, when. When you have kids, your priorities change.

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Yes. Your priorities shift over

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to the kids. Those are your number one priority.

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And realistically, the lifestyle should never be your number

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one priority there, unless you're just a single person who has

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nothing else but your community. Yeah.

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Realistically, we should have our family

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as our priority, our spouse, our significant other.

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But I don't know how well that works out for everybody.

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I will tell you, and I was just telling somebody this the other day.

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To me, the biggest turn on a

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person can. Could do, like the. The one.

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One of the things that really just turns me on about a person is if

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they're a good parent. Yeah. Because it shows that they're

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a good person. Yeah. Yeah. And. Yeah. And they have a big heart. Yeah.

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And they take care and they. They have their priorities straight. Yeah. We've met

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people in the lifestyle who are absolutely shitty parents.

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And I'm sorry, but maybe some of you are listening. Some of y' all got

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your priorities just kind of whacked. You know, I understand

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you want to have fun I understand you want to play, but guess what?

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You also have kids at home that maybe need you.

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They need your guidance a little bit. Yeah. You know, they're still little.

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Yeah. We. We did not go out separately,

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so for us, it was very difficult. We always were

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together, so. And we would only really do it maybe once a month.

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We would go out if that.

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They were really little, and you and I both discussed that.

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That they were our priority and going

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out and all that was going to come whenever it could. Yeah. So we

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didn't like to leave our kids with anybody. We didn't like that.

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No, we didn't. We weren't very trusting. We. We stayed home with the

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kids often. Now, It. It's funny, I was. I was telling a friend of ours

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last night, we were at a. A big gathering or a meet and greet

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yesterday, and he showed up solo

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and his wife stayed home with the kids. Yeah. And I was

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telling him last night, I said, you know, I have a great respect for what

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you're doing right now, because I could not do it. Yeah.

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There's. I probably could now.

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Yeah. Now is different. But when we were younger. No. And we

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had. The kids were young, and we would stay home with the kids, there was

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lots of stuff that we both wanted to do. And, yeah, we could have easily

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said, you know what? You go ahead and go, I'll stay home with the kids,

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which is what they did last night. I don't think I could have done it.

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And I just think we were in a different space back then. We were.

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Our relationship was different. Yeah. And our

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priorities were way different. Yeah. Different community as

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well. Different community as well. Yeah. It made a big difference. Yeah. So there's

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a lot of variables on that. And. Yeah, I. I've noticed that, like,

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when our friends don't have sitters or

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anybody, you know, they will. They will do shifts. And I'm

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like, that's so cool. Yeah, that's cool that they can do that. I mean,

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obviously, FOMO is the thing, because, you know,

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the person staying home has got to be struggling. She totally had fomo. Oh.

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Big time. You know that. And. And. And I would, too, like, if I told

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you. Yeah, you know what, Go ahead and go to the meet and greet and

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I'll stay home with the kids. I would have been going crazy.

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I would have had to find something to keep my mind busy the entire

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time. Yeah. Or. Or something, you know, because I would have been texting

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you the whole night going, so, how's it going? What's going on? Yeah. What's happening?

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Can you. Can you live stream it? Yeah, can. Can we FaceTime? Can you show

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me who you're talking to right now? I mean, I went to a thing during

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the week and it was kind of FOMOISH for you.

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It was. And that's because that was an all girls thing. Yeah, well,

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of course that was FOMO for me. Are you kidding? Love to be the only

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guy in a group of women. Are you kidding me? Not. I would love to.

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I'd like to go everywhere with you, honey. No.

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Are you kidding me? We go everywhere together. I'm not gonna

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go with you anywhere. I love you. You're my favorite partner in crime,

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and we don't commit crime because I'm a boy Scout,

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but I do. I. I do suffer from fomo.

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Not as bad as I used to. I used to really, really struggle

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with it. I would sit there and it's all I could think about sometimes.

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So, yeah, it's different now is separating. If you

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have to leave and one has. I mean, if you can do it, do it.

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Yeah. Like, if you can do it. If you're. If your relationship

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is strong enough and the trust is there and everything like that,

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do it. You know, go have a good time. Go, you know,

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go enjoy yourselves in shifts and shifts and

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shifts. Yeah. Yeah. You know, the worst thing is not the worst thing, but the

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hardest thing is when you go by yourself. You want to make sure

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that you have somebody that you can be like,

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hey, I'm going to go solo. Chill with me. I need.

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I need a safe spot. Yeah, well, see, and that's. That's my big thing.

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I'm a big believer in wherever you go, you got to have a safe spot.

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You got to have that place where you can. It's almost your home base.

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Especially at meet and greets, big events where there's lots

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of people. You want to be able to find a spot, set your shit up

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there and then go, okay, let's walk around, let's mingle,

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and then we'll come back and then we'll chill for a bit, and then let's

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walk around and mingle and let's come back. Let's. Let's chill for a bit.

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Yeah. You know, you got to have your safe spot. Sometimes the

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safe spot is an actual area. Sometimes the safe spot is

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a person or persons. Right. That you can go up

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to and be like, okay, I just made my laps. Yeah, gonna hang out with

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you guys now. Yeah. You know, that sort of thing. And so we.

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We used to require the safe spot. Not so much anymore.

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Yeah, I think we're good now.

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Our anxieties have lowered, so that's. That's really

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changed a lot. So that's. That's pretty good. But I think a good. A good

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portion of it, not only priorities, but. But communication is.

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Is really a big part of it. So. Yeah, you went to that all

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women's thing. And let me tell you something. Not only did I have fomo,

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she didn't even take your phone in. You left your phone in

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the car in the bag. I told our friend. And so I'm like texting

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you, going, are you there? You know, and I can see your. I told you

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I was there. The last thing was, I, I love you. And then I'm like,

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no, no, no text messages. No. No. Oh, yeah, no. Priscilla left

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her. I was. I was like. I was like.

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Because, you know, if I was doing something swinging related and I

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left my phone in the car and somebody messaged you

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and said, oh, by the way, Adam's phone is in the car. You know what

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you'd say? You'd say, well, tell him to go get the fucking phone from the

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car. Yeah. Yes, I would have. Yeah. You and I are very. You should have

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said that. No, girl, it was in the bag next to. I have respect for

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my spouse. Anyway, when you play, when you're doing things separately

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like that, and you have the kiddos, like, you know,

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communication just. I think it can be done. You know,

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communication is important all around, but especially in situations like that,

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especially when you have a family, you have to communicate.

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Yeah. Because you're not just communicating for you and your spouse,

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you're communicating for you, your spouse, and your family. Yeah. You know, and don't worry.

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I mean, the community is there. It's.

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We're not going anywhere. The community is always there. Yeah.

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And I think so. This is what it's been explained to

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me. A lot of people struggle with this. This is the reason why they struggle

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taking breaks. This is the reason why they struggle when they have kids

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and they can't go to every single event. They're afraid that if they

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do not show up to every single event, if they

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don't stay in front of all of these people, that they will get

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forgotten. I mean, there's so many people.

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You will not get forgotten. But there's just

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a lot of people. There's a lot of people that. People just forget people.

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Even when we see them next, like the next. Like at all the events.

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Yeah. I mean, whether you're there or not the community is going to keep going.

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It's going to keep going. And. And it's. I'm sorry, but we're

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all members of the community, but we are not the community.

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Like, it doesn't revolve around a certain person. Like, we're all a

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part of it. Yes. So, yeah, I. I understand that feeling of, man,

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I sure hope nobody forgets about us, you know, because maybe when you're

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showing up to every event, you feel like everybody knows you and everybody likes you

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and everybody wants to spend time with you, and then you take some time off

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and then you show up and maybe there's some new faces that you ain't seen.

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Yeah. Because people join every day. Every day.

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It's a thing, you know, And. And so that's.

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That's really something that needs to be kept in mind, is it's okay to take

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breaks because you're gonna have the community there and gonna be

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there when you come back if you can't come out. But maybe

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once every couple of months, then make sure when you

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do that, it's a really good event. Yes. Yeah.

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No, it's some. It's the priority of, you know,

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the priority of you still wanna be inclusive or not inclusive,

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but you wanna still, like, mingle and at least get some

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type of adventure. Not really adventures. What is it called?

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Like, just go out and meet people. Right. That's the big thing.

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And that's. And that's where a lot of our friends kind of struggle when they

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have kids. It's the having the. Okay, man, how many times?

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If I just do it once a month, is that enough? You know,

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the ones that we were talking about, they. They try to shoot up

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a few things, whether they're together or separate.

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Like, they really do make an effort. Yeah. And they have little

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ones and it's. I know it's hard because we've been there.

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We were there with four little ones. Yeah.

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But I think they're doing well. So amazing.

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The. The interesting thing that we see a lot of.

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And this. This can run hot or cold, but the

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thing that I see a lot of that, that people do is they'll get

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close to, like, say a couple gets close to another couple,

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and they really like their vibe. And it's almost like it's more

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than sex. There's a really good connection. They become really good friends. And guess

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what? They both have kids. Yeah. So then they're gonna say,

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okay, well, you know what? Hey, I've got the kids this weekend. I've got no

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Sitter. But I really want to see you guys. Let's go out. Let's take the

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kids out. Yeah. So then before you know it, the kids are getting to know

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each other and the families have co. Mingled now and the connection has

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gotten stronger. There are goods and bads to that.

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The goods are. There is that you can spend time with these people whenever you

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want, whether you have kids or not. Because guess what? Everybody gets along.

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Everybody knows each other. Right. And it's all good. Right. The bad news

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is, is that you've just made a very, very strong connection in the lifestyle

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that can go either one of two ways. Either it can

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be, you know, a really strong friendship,

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possibly blossom into a relationship. Who knows?

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Whatever. Whatever your plans are, or it's gonna dissolve

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and fizzle or something to that effect and break apart.

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And then the families kind of suffer from that. You know what I mean?

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It's so. It's got its goods and its bads. It'S got its good, it's in

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its bads. And it's hard. But like everything.

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You kind of have to maneuver through that. Kids are

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resilient. They are, they are. And I mean,

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things fizzle. They do. And so that's. That's the thing that,

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you know, I. We used to be very,

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very against introducing our kids to anybody. Yeah. Because we

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didn't want them to figure things out. And we didn't know

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that. We didn't know how to tell people, hey,

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it's. This is vanilla. Like we were brand new. Yeah. Like we

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didn't know how to use those kind of words. Well, also where

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we were at, I mean, it was just a very different community. And I feel

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like we're going to say that over and over again, but it was a very

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different community at a very different time. That same community has changed

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that same area. That whole everything has changed. It's almost like it's been overhauled.

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This is a different time now. Right.

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And they've had to change with the times for the better.

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But I really, really think that for.

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For our situation, when they

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were lit, when the kids were littler there, they had its goods

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and its bads compared to it's now as well. Like it's both have goods

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and bads and they're both different. Right. So when the kids were little, it was

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bad because we had to get a babysitter to watch them in order to get

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out. Yes. And that sucked because it was either going to cost us money or

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we had to find a family member to watch the kids or What? It was

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a pain. We couldn't enjoy ourselves. And then when we would go out,

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like, say, we would meet a couple for dinner, you were on your phone checking

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on the kids all night long, all the time. And I was constantly apologizing

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for you because it's like, sorry, guys, she's not into this because she's checking on

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the kids. It has nothing to do with y' all. I would check on the

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cameras. It was constant. It was constant. I mean, even now.

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And they're not little anymore. Even now. Like, we were out last night.

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We had our big ones at home, or like, three of them were home,

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but the other one was coming in from out of town. Like, I was on

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my phone making sure everyone. Teenagers, everyone, like,

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coordinating. You don't need to be like, they're fine. So I under. I understand

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parents as little ones. Yeah. That was

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the hard part, was that they, you know, it was expensive. We had somebody to

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want. The good part was, is that they didn't have any

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real understanding of this whole other

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world. They didn't question things. It was like, oh, that's mom and Dad's friends.

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If we had friends hanging around, or they're just going to hang out with friends,

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they didn't think anything of it. No. Now they're older, and they

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don't require us to be around anymore. As a matter of fact, they told us,

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hey, you know, we're good. You guys can go. Y' all can go. Have fun.

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Give them our debit card. They have a car, so they don't really require

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us. Now we. We have our weekends available. We can. We can go

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do our thing. But now they're older and they

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know. They know. They know. And. And realistically,

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do we openly talk about the lifestyle to our kids?

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Eh, not really. But we also don't really keep

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quiet either. I mean, so here's the lowdown. Our situation's

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a little bit different. When we came out as Paulie,

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Chris came out as bi. And that was back in,

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like, 2015, 2016, I think it was 2015. When we came out as poly.

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We came out as poly to our kids, and we thought it was important to

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do so because this was a lifestyle change,

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and we were going to start dating outside the marriage, and the

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city that we lived in was very small. It was very small.

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And so I really didn't. I wanted to get ahead of this as

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soon as possible. And we had to have the discussion with the kids, and it

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was a hard discussion to have because they were still little. They weren't

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little. Little, but they were little. Yeah. And it was hard for.

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The bigger ones were old enough to maybe understand,

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but it took a little bit. We had to talk because we. We explained to

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them what we were doing, and they immediately thought we were getting a divorce.

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And it was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And we had to

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explain things. You know, we had to explain what. What we

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meant by when we said we had an open relationship. And so we

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did that for five years, and they knew that we dated.

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And after that five years, we told them, okay, we're not poly anymore.

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Yeah, but we still have an open relationship now. We didn't say we're still sexually

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open, because that's just a weird thing to tell your kids, but we

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did say we are still an open relationship.

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As time went on, and these are high school students.

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As time went on, they hear us talking,

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they hear us saying certain things. We've had really good friends

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come by with their kids and have dinner at the

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house and things like that. They're not dumb.

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And one of our kids was

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really curious and brought it up. And we don't lie. No. And it's like,

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you've obviously put this stuff together, so, yes, this is a

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part of what we do. Yeah. But we don't go into details about it.

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But they do understand, and they also know that we have

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a podcast. I mean, that's really made things a lot easier because they know that

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mom and dad have a sex podcast. Yeah. And. And it's. It's one

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of those things where we raise these kids

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in a very open, communicative household.

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When I first started having my kids,

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I thought back to my days as a

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kid, and I remember struggling to be honest with

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my parents. I remember not feeling like I could tell them anything,

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and it was primarily because of how they reacted to stuff.

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I didn't feel like I could trust them with certain information. I mean,

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yeah, they were inconsistent with how they responded

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to stuff. So I said, I don't want to be that parent. Right.

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And so we raised these kids to be very open and honest.

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We're consistent with how we handle things. They know that they can

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come up to us and talk to us about anything. Yeah. So it's a very

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open communication. Just like a relationship.

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We have the same kind of relationship with the kids. And so it

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has make it. It has made it easier. And it does make it easier that

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they're older and there's, you know,

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if it was just one kid, that would be a little different. There's Four.

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There's four. There's two usually always. There's two that are

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always here. Yeah. And there's two

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that are not. And so life has gotten a little easier.

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And that's why Adam and I have just started,

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like, maybe two years ago. Started really going out.

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Yeah. And making friends. But before

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that, we would sit back and we would be like,

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are there even people that we could be friends with? Like, yeah, our situation

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is so hard. Like, how do people do it when they have.

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And we really thought we were, like, the only ones. We really thought,

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oh, my God, we're the only human beings that are swingers with hands.

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It's a difficult thing. Like, we are.

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It's easier now, you know? And I do give props

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to the ones that have the little ones and have worked it through to

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where one goes out and the other one doesn't. Like, like,

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Adam said he couldn't do that. I probably couldn't do that because I wouldn't be.

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I wouldn't give my whole attention to people.

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It's a distraction sometimes, but I'm just a controlling helicopter

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mom. Yes. Yes, you are. Yeah. But I, I,

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I do find it fascinating. And, and, you know, that's something that when we

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talk to others in the lifestyle who have kids and they

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want to hang out with us, but they're like, oh, man, you know, we've got

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this going on this weekend, and that is this. So we really have to plan,

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like, for next month. Yes. And they always tell us

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this with this shame in their voice, like,

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I'm sorry, guys. And it's like, dude,

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we understand. Like, we get it.

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Trust me, there's anybody who understands what it's like

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to navigate this lifestyle while having kids, it's us. Yeah. Because we've

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had to do it. The, the reason why they feel they have to say it

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that way is because there's so many people out there who either don't have kids

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or do have kids, and, and aren't good parents.

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And they pressure those of us who take care of

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our kids on a regular basis and go,

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are you serious? You can't get out tonight. Like, come on, guys,

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it's a Thursday night. Can't you just meet us for happy hour?

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No, fool. I have family dinner every

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night on the weeknights. Like, this is how we do our family. No,

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I can't break away and go get drunk on a Wednesday. Exactly. It doesn't

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work that way. I have kids. Yeah. You know, it's a thing.

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And, and I, I always said there's there's just a lot of people

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who just don't get it. Yeah. Now another

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topic or not another topic, but another key point is

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keeping your privacy. Totally keeping your privacy with

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a family. Right. Because you don't want, like for us,

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we have our social medias

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and there are. There are family social medias, you know. Yeah. I am

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very particular about who is on my friends list. I have

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to at least meet you. When my kids were little,

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I didn't really post a lot in groups that we were in,

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but I don't post my kids on the groups.

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Right. You know, pictures that are on groups are just of

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myself and just a view. Yeah. But say you

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have a social media and it's public, how do

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you protect your kids from that and what do you do? You know, like,

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that's really the difficult part. So what I notice a lot of people do is

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they have their personal social media that

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they use for family and friends and that sort of thing. Vanilla friends. And then

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they also do a lifestyle.

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Yeah. Profile. Yeah. And they utilize that for the

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groups and. And this and that. And it's purely lifestyle based.

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Now I don't do that personally. I am open in.

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In my lifestyle and I'm really just kind of

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done hiding. You know, we did it for so long. I'm done

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hiding. This is kind of who we are, obviously. Yeah. Podcast.

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Yeah. But I'm just, that's. I don't need. We don't need to

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be discreet like we used to have to be. Correct.

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Now we're not pushing it in our kids faces. We're not pushing it in anybody's

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faces at all. But I utilize my Facebook for,

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you know, personal purposes, whatever.

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And we obviously advertise the podcast on there

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and this, this and that. But I don't put overly sexual stuff on my regular

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Facebook page either. Yeah. I utilize that in the groups.

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Correct. You know. Ye. Yeah. So there is a balance.

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There is now when I post pictures of myself

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on my personal Facebook page, a lot of my

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friends, our friends are lifestyle friends. And they

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flirt. Yeah. They'll flirt openly. And now this was something

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that we dealt with like a year or so ago. We've only recently been

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okay with this. But we used to have a lot of lifestyle friends on our

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personal Facebooks. And when you would, you would

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post a picture and some of these guys would flirt with you

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or they'd say some quote unquote inappropriate things

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on your. Pictures and it would be a regular picture. Yeah. And we

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would have people come up to us and be like, that was

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inappropriate. Yeah, Lifestyler. Yeah,

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yeah, Lifestyler. Lifestylers going, that was,

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that's kind of inappropriate. Yeah. You know,

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we finally said, you know what, who cares? Yeah. This is our lifestyle.

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We don't really care. People can openly flirt with us. It is what it is.

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We openly discuss it. We don't care about that anymore.

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But there was a time where it was, it was, we still hadn't shaken

446
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,780
that. And so like, if you want to keep it private, you create a

447
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:01,100
second Facebook. Created a second Facebook profile

448
00:29:01,730 --> 00:29:05,050
and you can add that to your groups. You know, you don't have

449
00:29:05,550 --> 00:29:08,890
to use your personal vet. Your vet

450
00:29:09,390 --> 00:29:12,890
people. So like, if you're, for me, I like

451
00:29:13,390 --> 00:29:16,970
I said, unless I know you, you're, I'm probably not going to friend you.

452
00:29:17,470 --> 00:29:19,970
I'm not going to accept your friendship or I usually ask you.

453
00:29:20,370 --> 00:29:23,970
But if you want to have one profile,

454
00:29:24,690 --> 00:29:28,330
you know, just do people that you meet, people that you trust, people that

455
00:29:28,830 --> 00:29:32,380
you know. And if you don't like something, if you have a public profile like

456
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,340
we do and someone posts something underneath or comment something, you can always

457
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:40,020
delete it. But that is something that you have a chance to take. Like that's,

458
00:29:40,180 --> 00:29:43,860
that's just something, you know, that's dealing with online. But let me tell you something

459
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,980
also. When you reach a certain degree

460
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:53,060
of, I guess, public facing

461
00:29:53,220 --> 00:29:56,740
kind of situation, like us, for example, where we have the podcast,

462
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,460
people kind of know us. We can go

463
00:30:00,620 --> 00:30:03,500
to like the gym with our kids.

464
00:30:03,740 --> 00:30:07,500
Yes. And run into somebody who knows us from the lifestyle.

465
00:30:07,580 --> 00:30:10,940
And in a situation like that, how do we

466
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:15,180
navigate that? When somebody comes up to you and goes, hey, I know you,

467
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,020
you're, you're so and so from the podcast and from

468
00:30:19,740 --> 00:30:22,980
the groups and this and that. And it's like, well, this is my daughter next

469
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,260
to me, you know, like, how do you navigate, how do you navigate it?

470
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:30,440
Right. So I actually, it's so funny that said that our,

471
00:30:30,940 --> 00:30:34,640
my situation wasn't like that, but I was at the local grocery

472
00:30:35,140 --> 00:30:38,680
store here and there was a couple and I said hi to

473
00:30:39,180 --> 00:30:42,640
them and I was with our kid. Yeah. And she's like, mom, how do you

474
00:30:43,140 --> 00:30:46,760
know them? And I was like, oh, they're just friends. But it's like the

475
00:30:47,260 --> 00:30:51,320
question depending on how nosy your children are, you know.

476
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:54,960
But like for us, when we see anybody that's a lifestyler

477
00:30:55,460 --> 00:30:59,320
and their friends, we are very discreet one.

478
00:30:59,820 --> 00:31:02,960
We're parents. Right. We're not

479
00:31:03,460 --> 00:31:06,880
those people. But what happens when you meet those people?

480
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:10,280
You know, there are people out there that are in the groups and in the

481
00:31:10,780 --> 00:31:13,120
community that just don't know how to read the room.

482
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,040
They don't understand what's inappropriate and what's appropriate.

483
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,080
And it's actually been discussed before as to what

484
00:31:21,580 --> 00:31:25,280
happens when somebody hits on your kid.

485
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:29,600
Right. And your kid is obviously not in the lifestyle,

486
00:31:30,100 --> 00:31:33,600
but this person just assumes and thinks it's okay.

487
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,160
That's a no bueno moment. Right. That is a no,

488
00:31:37,660 --> 00:31:41,320
no, no moment. Yeah. And I mean, frankly, that deserves

489
00:31:41,820 --> 00:31:45,320
an ass kicking. That's right. And I'm not a violent person, but don't be hitting

490
00:31:45,820 --> 00:31:48,840
on my kid. No. You know what I mean? So realistically,

491
00:31:49,340 --> 00:31:52,410
privacy is a big, big part of the puzzle.

492
00:31:52,910 --> 00:31:56,210
Yes. Yes. Now, going back and forth,

493
00:31:56,690 --> 00:31:59,850
you have older kids, like you said,

494
00:32:00,350 --> 00:32:04,010
we discussed it with our kids. Right, Right. But not

495
00:32:04,510 --> 00:32:07,890
everybody wants to do that. No. Right. So not everybody has the communication

496
00:32:08,390 --> 00:32:12,770
levels that we do. And not every detail needs to be told

497
00:32:13,270 --> 00:32:16,780
if you're going to discuss it with your kids. Because your lifestyle,

498
00:32:17,100 --> 00:32:20,540
your sex life is not your kid's business. No.

499
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:24,380
Right. I mean, we are a very open family,

500
00:32:24,940 --> 00:32:28,500
but we're not, we're not that open.

501
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,140
We're not that. We're not like, hey, honey, you want to take me

502
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,300
to the room so we can have sex? No. We are respectful to

503
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,620
our children and our children are respectful to us. Right. So we are

504
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:44,490
open, we are honest. But we discuss things

505
00:32:44,990 --> 00:32:48,970
like consent. We have three boys, you know, we discuss

506
00:32:49,130 --> 00:32:51,930
consent. We discuss how you should act.

507
00:32:53,210 --> 00:32:56,570
We discuss honesty. Just respect.

508
00:32:56,730 --> 00:33:00,330
Respect. You know, we don't have to disclose.

509
00:33:01,530 --> 00:33:05,570
You don't have to get into details. You don't have to talk about flavored

510
00:33:06,070 --> 00:33:09,620
lubes. You don't have to get into all of that stuff. All you have to

511
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:14,380
do is make sure that they understand that we are,

512
00:33:15,340 --> 00:33:18,900
we are very much in love with each other. Yeah. Mom and dad

513
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:23,180
are still here, but we like to hang out with our friends. Realistically,

514
00:33:23,420 --> 00:33:26,220
that's all they need to know is mom and dad have friends.

515
00:33:26,380 --> 00:33:30,660
Yeah. And we're very close to our friends. You know, and say

516
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,350
they overheard a conversation or they,

517
00:33:34,580 --> 00:33:37,860
they're, you know, they, they're like, those are,

518
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,300
those friends are. I haven't seen them around before. Right.

519
00:33:42,020 --> 00:33:45,540
We don't really bring people around unless we absolutely trust them.

520
00:33:45,700 --> 00:33:49,260
Like, absolutely trust them. But if your kids

521
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:52,100
start asking questions, you know, and they're older,

522
00:33:52,980 --> 00:33:56,460
you can discuss as much as, you know your kids, you know, you know

523
00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:00,580
your kids. You know how you raise them. Yeah. You know, the communication level,

524
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,950
you know what you can and can't change to share. Yes. You know how to

525
00:34:04,450 --> 00:34:07,830
say these things. Yeah. So who better to figure that out

526
00:34:08,330 --> 00:34:11,790
than the person who knows? Yeah. Tailor the message to

527
00:34:12,290 --> 00:34:15,790
them. Yes, yes. Very easily. It's not a hard thing.

528
00:34:16,190 --> 00:34:19,590
And like he said, you know your kids. Yeah.

529
00:34:20,090 --> 00:34:23,470
You know what, you can be able. To have the uncomfortable conversation because let me

530
00:34:23,970 --> 00:34:25,790
tell you, if you're going to be in the lifestyle, you need to know how

531
00:34:26,290 --> 00:34:29,160
to have an uncomfortable conversation. Yes, yes.

532
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:33,480
And healthy relationships. Healthy. That's pretty much

533
00:34:33,980 --> 00:34:35,240
what you're teaching your kid.

534
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,920
We have a kiddo that changes girlfriends. Like, like he's

535
00:34:41,420 --> 00:34:44,800
changing socks. It's just, it's, you go socks,

536
00:34:45,300 --> 00:34:49,080
I go underwear. Which is funny because you don't wear. Any, but he does.

537
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:54,330
So it's, you know,

538
00:34:54,830 --> 00:34:58,250
be respectful. But we. That kid, I'm always

539
00:34:58,750 --> 00:35:01,610
like, you know, you could just be honest to the girl and just be like,

540
00:35:02,110 --> 00:35:04,250
well, I'm dating this one, but I really want to date this one. And I

541
00:35:04,750 --> 00:35:08,290
really want to date that one and at that girl. But see,

542
00:35:08,450 --> 00:35:12,210
you said that to me the other day and I, it's like I explained to

543
00:35:12,710 --> 00:35:16,050
you when I was in high school, I, I was,

544
00:35:16,130 --> 00:35:19,810
I was poly minded back then. Right. I didn't even know that that was a

545
00:35:20,310 --> 00:35:23,330
thing. I just knew that I was into all of these different girls and I'd

546
00:35:23,830 --> 00:35:26,390
be in a relationship and I'd be like, man, why can't. With this one?

547
00:35:26,890 --> 00:35:30,510
Yeah. And why can't I be with that one? And what I realized was

548
00:35:30,670 --> 00:35:34,230
that I was poly back then and didn't realize it. There's no way that a

549
00:35:34,730 --> 00:35:39,150
high school girl can have that kind of emotional intelligence

550
00:35:39,630 --> 00:35:43,190
to say, okay, yeah, you can date me and you

551
00:35:43,690 --> 00:35:47,270
can date her. No. High school girls are insecure about

552
00:35:47,770 --> 00:35:51,270
themselves. So are high school boys, obviously. Everybody in high

553
00:35:51,770 --> 00:35:55,720
school is very insecure about themselves and it's very difficult to pull that

554
00:35:56,220 --> 00:35:59,040
off successfully. So you were, you were saying all that and I was like,

555
00:35:59,540 --> 00:36:03,080
there's no way. But it's a different time. It is a different time.

556
00:36:03,580 --> 00:36:06,360
This is a different time. But the insecurities are still there. Boo. Boo.

557
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,920
It is. And you're right. But it's a different time.

558
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:13,120
I, kids are now figuring out there's

559
00:36:13,620 --> 00:36:17,440
more bisexuality. There is, there's more, it's acceptable.

560
00:36:17,940 --> 00:36:21,000
Yeah. And so, you know, things like that come up and it's

561
00:36:21,500 --> 00:36:25,050
like, I know, but just be open and honest if you're gonna want that.

562
00:36:25,130 --> 00:36:28,450
Like, that's just all it's about. You know, we grew up with the

563
00:36:28,950 --> 00:36:32,610
Gay jokes. Yes. Yeah. We grew

564
00:36:33,110 --> 00:36:36,570
up with people calling, if you were bi, you're a

565
00:36:37,070 --> 00:36:40,170
lesbian, you were dyke, you were doing all kinds of.

566
00:36:40,410 --> 00:36:43,610
Kinds of things. And it's like, no, now it's more accepted.

567
00:36:43,690 --> 00:36:47,690
Yeah. Well, you know, I remember being in high school, and every

568
00:36:48,190 --> 00:36:51,390
time there was an issue, they would call you gay,

569
00:36:51,890 --> 00:36:55,950
you know, and of course, even if you were gay, you would get

570
00:36:56,450 --> 00:36:59,630
defensive about that because it was such a negative connotation.

571
00:37:00,190 --> 00:37:03,110
And it's like, what the hell? Why you. Why are you referring to me like

572
00:37:03,610 --> 00:37:06,150
that? I don't think it's as bad as it used to be when it comes

573
00:37:06,650 --> 00:37:09,790
to that. I think it's more accepting now. Yeah. Yeah.

574
00:37:09,870 --> 00:37:13,310
It's a different time. It is a different time.

575
00:37:13,390 --> 00:37:17,110
Yeah. So now this one is sexual energy and

576
00:37:17,610 --> 00:37:21,350
parenting. Sexual energy. Why it matters in the swinging lifestyle,

577
00:37:21,990 --> 00:37:25,070
it's because you're still a sexual being. We're not just mom

578
00:37:25,570 --> 00:37:29,270
and dad. Yeah. And, you know, but see, so this is where you and I

579
00:37:29,770 --> 00:37:33,550
have always been ahead of the game because you and I are very

580
00:37:34,050 --> 00:37:37,110
affectionate with each other. We're constantly cuddling.

581
00:37:37,610 --> 00:37:41,190
We're always touching each other. We're kissing. We have kissing

582
00:37:41,690 --> 00:37:45,500
sessions in the kitchen. We dance. You know, our kids have seen this since

583
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:49,180
they were babies. Yes. They have seen our connection.

584
00:37:49,260 --> 00:37:52,740
They've seen our love for each other. And I wanted to normalize

585
00:37:53,240 --> 00:37:56,140
that because I didn't grow up in a household like that. Yeah. I wanted our

586
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,340
kids to see just how much affection we had for each other, and I

587
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,700
wanted them to see that it was okay. Yeah. So that's the household that they

588
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:06,820
grew up in. They always knew that dad was hot for mom and mom was

589
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:09,660
hot for Dad. I grew up in a household like this. I didn't grow up

590
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:13,950
in a household. Yeah. My parents were always all over each other. Yeah.

591
00:38:14,450 --> 00:38:17,310
Yeah. They were always kissing, they were always hugging. They were always dancing. And it

592
00:38:17,810 --> 00:38:21,390
was normal for. My dad was always flirting with my mom, always grabbing her butt.

593
00:38:21,710 --> 00:38:25,550
Yeah. That's the kind of household that we have. Yeah. My dad

594
00:38:26,050 --> 00:38:29,950
and my mom. My mom, both my parents were always hugging

595
00:38:30,450 --> 00:38:33,070
us, loving on us, you know, doting on us.

596
00:38:34,910 --> 00:38:38,660
Even my siblings, we were like that. So it's

597
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:43,420
a very affectionate family. And. And we are a very affectionate

598
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:47,260
family. Yeah. And so. Yeah. So they grew up looking

599
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,140
at that. And, you know, they gotta know mom and dad are just not mom

600
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,220
and dad. Right. We are sexual beings.

601
00:38:54,620 --> 00:38:58,380
We want to show each other affection.

602
00:38:58,540 --> 00:39:02,550
Right. But parenting is

603
00:39:03,050 --> 00:39:06,750
hard. Parenting is hard. It's exhausting. It's exhausting. Yeah.

604
00:39:07,250 --> 00:39:11,030
And mentally exhausting. Being in the lifestyle kind

605
00:39:11,530 --> 00:39:15,310
of recharges you. It can. And kind of gives you a

606
00:39:15,810 --> 00:39:19,150
little break from the norm. You know, when. When we

607
00:39:19,650 --> 00:39:22,550
were in the thick of raising the kids. Yeah. And they were very little.

608
00:39:23,050 --> 00:39:26,710
And. And, and so we would get out maybe once a

609
00:39:27,210 --> 00:39:30,680
quarter. Yeah. So once every three months we

610
00:39:31,180 --> 00:39:34,840
would go out, if that. It was very few times,

611
00:39:35,340 --> 00:39:38,040
but we were still active in the lifestyle. It was just very few. And we

612
00:39:38,540 --> 00:39:42,080
weren't making the friendships we wanted to. No. It was more sexual conquest.

613
00:39:42,580 --> 00:39:46,600
It was more. Let's just get this experience and go. But what was

614
00:39:47,100 --> 00:39:50,600
good about it was we could have the one experience and

615
00:39:51,100 --> 00:39:54,800
it could be very hot and enjoyable and we would come home and

616
00:39:55,300 --> 00:39:58,620
we already had an amazing sex life. And it's almost like that

617
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,460
experience, once every few months would just keep it recharged.

618
00:40:02,700 --> 00:40:07,180
Yeah. And still make it hot. And we would talk about it for months.

619
00:40:07,260 --> 00:40:10,740
Yeah. And we would have sex and have the conversation

620
00:40:11,240 --> 00:40:13,940
during sex and talk about, oh, well, you did this and I did that,

621
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:17,940
and it was. It was hot. You know, it helped

622
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,900
keep the spice. Yes. Because like I said, we, we have.

623
00:40:22,060 --> 00:40:25,380
We have always had a spice, a healthy sex life.

624
00:40:26,020 --> 00:40:29,220
But add that into it once every

625
00:40:29,720 --> 00:40:32,580
now and then and forget it. Like, it's, it's really.

626
00:40:32,740 --> 00:40:36,180
It really bonds us. Like, it's our. It's our

627
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:39,859
time. Yes. You know, we're busy.

628
00:40:40,180 --> 00:40:43,300
We are extreme. Our Monday through Friday,

629
00:40:44,660 --> 00:40:48,340
that's a lot. Our Monday through Sunday, when we have

630
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,780
them all. It is a lot. It is exhausting. Like,

631
00:40:53,610 --> 00:40:56,490
it's a. It's. It's a bit. They're busy days. They're very.

632
00:40:56,650 --> 00:40:59,890
And we juggle between us

633
00:41:00,390 --> 00:41:03,530
two. We are full time employees. We are

634
00:41:04,250 --> 00:41:07,650
business owners. Yes. We are parents to

635
00:41:08,150 --> 00:41:12,090
four active children. Yeah. Last I checked, it takes time to

636
00:41:12,590 --> 00:41:16,170
do these podcasts. It, you know. Yeah. And, like, doing things like this takes

637
00:41:16,670 --> 00:41:19,930
away. Right, right. We have to find time. Yeah. So being

638
00:41:20,430 --> 00:41:24,330
in a lifestyle, it does. It. It brings a bond,

639
00:41:24,810 --> 00:41:28,730
makes us reconnect, things like that. So it's

640
00:41:29,230 --> 00:41:33,250
a healthy balance. But it is. It did take a while to

641
00:41:33,750 --> 00:41:37,290
get here. Yes. Yes, absolutely. It was. It was tough.

642
00:41:37,690 --> 00:41:41,130
There were times where I was like, you know, this is

643
00:41:41,630 --> 00:41:44,210
pretty much going to be it. Like, we would have a year where maybe we

644
00:41:44,710 --> 00:41:48,840
played twice. Yeah. And be like. And we've always had a strong relationship.

645
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:52,200
Oh, yeah. But this is, like you said, it adds to it, you know.

646
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:55,960
Yeah. It makes it hotter. Yeah. I mean, what's wrong with that?

647
00:41:56,460 --> 00:41:59,920
And Getting away kind of nurtures it and kind of makes it. Well, let me

648
00:42:00,420 --> 00:42:03,000
tell you something, and I'm going to tell you this because we've, you know,

649
00:42:03,500 --> 00:42:07,280
we're exploring more separate stuff now. Yeah. We still do a lot as

650
00:42:07,780 --> 00:42:10,440
a couple, but every now and then we'll explore a little bit of separate.

651
00:42:11,090 --> 00:42:14,130
I love you so much, and we're together all the time.

652
00:42:14,690 --> 00:42:17,930
But now you go away for a little bit, and I

653
00:42:18,430 --> 00:42:21,650
really miss you. Yeah. And you come home and it's like, oh, my gosh,

654
00:42:22,150 --> 00:42:26,770
I'm. I'm ravaging you. Yeah. You know, whereas we

655
00:42:27,270 --> 00:42:29,850
may have sex, but then you take off and you go do your thing and

656
00:42:30,350 --> 00:42:33,770
you come back and I just cannot get enough. Yeah. You know what I mean?

657
00:42:34,270 --> 00:42:37,990
It's just adding that heat. It adds that spice. Yeah. Yeah, I did.

658
00:42:38,490 --> 00:42:42,230
Yeah. I like it. I dig it. Now, I have a question for

659
00:42:42,730 --> 00:42:45,990
you. Yeah, you do. Ask me, baby. Give it to

660
00:42:46,490 --> 00:42:49,870
me. What's one way the lifestyle has made you a

661
00:42:50,370 --> 00:42:53,550
better parent? Oh, you know,

662
00:42:54,030 --> 00:42:57,150
that's a tough one. I don't think that the lifestyle has made me a better

663
00:42:57,650 --> 00:43:00,950
parent. I think that being a good parent has made me better

664
00:43:01,450 --> 00:43:05,490
at the lifestyle. And what I mean by that is I

665
00:43:05,970 --> 00:43:09,330
have always been a great parent, and I. That's one of the few things that

666
00:43:09,830 --> 00:43:13,610
you will hear me say with 100% confidence. There is nothing that I have

667
00:43:14,110 --> 00:43:17,610
meant to do in this world and be a dad. Yeah. This is

668
00:43:18,110 --> 00:43:21,650
the best job that I've ever had. I love what I do. I am great

669
00:43:22,150 --> 00:43:25,170
at parenting these kids, and I didn't think I would.

670
00:43:25,330 --> 00:43:28,290
I didn't think that this was going to be my. My bag, but it is.

671
00:43:28,930 --> 00:43:32,970
And so I'm already a really great dad. I know

672
00:43:33,470 --> 00:43:36,970
how to talk to my kids. I know the household that I wanted to live

673
00:43:37,470 --> 00:43:40,410
in. I knew that it needed to have open communication.

674
00:43:40,650 --> 00:43:44,890
Yes. I knew that it needed to have love and trust and affection.

675
00:43:45,210 --> 00:43:48,410
And it's the same stuff that I apply to our relationship.

676
00:43:48,890 --> 00:43:52,210
So everything that I apply to our relationship and our

677
00:43:52,710 --> 00:43:56,730
relationship with our kids, I apply to others in the lifestyle.

678
00:43:57,230 --> 00:44:00,830
Yeah. And because of that, I have open communication with everybody that we talk

679
00:44:01,330 --> 00:44:04,710
to. I am very affectionate, and I'm very loving with the

680
00:44:05,210 --> 00:44:08,430
people that are in our circle, and it just creates a tighter connection,

681
00:44:08,510 --> 00:44:11,870
a better bond. And, hey, you know, I'm.

682
00:44:12,350 --> 00:44:16,630
I'm. I'm genuine, dude. Like, this is not a Persona.

683
00:44:17,130 --> 00:44:19,710
This is me. Right. You know, I am that person.

684
00:44:20,270 --> 00:44:23,270
You come up to me and have a conversation with me. Guess What? I am

685
00:44:23,770 --> 00:44:26,150
like this all the time. I'm like this with my kids. I'm like this with

686
00:44:26,650 --> 00:44:29,590
my wife. I'm like this with my friends. I'm like this at work. I am

687
00:44:30,090 --> 00:44:33,270
like this all the time. And so I would not

688
00:44:33,770 --> 00:44:37,550
be like this if it weren't for me being a parent.

689
00:44:37,630 --> 00:44:40,910
Yeah. And so, really, yes, one did help the other,

690
00:44:41,630 --> 00:44:45,310
but it was being a good dad helped me be

691
00:44:45,810 --> 00:44:48,630
better at the lifestyle. And you have to. You have to kind of take that

692
00:44:49,130 --> 00:44:52,350
on. You have to put. Sir, thank you. Let's do a little clappy clap.

693
00:44:52,850 --> 00:44:56,350
Oh, thank you. Well, what about you, though? I mean. I mean, realistically, I.

694
00:44:56,590 --> 00:45:00,110
I will agree. I am a great. I'm a great mom,

695
00:45:00,670 --> 00:45:04,470
and I don't think the lifestyle has anything

696
00:45:04,970 --> 00:45:07,790
to do with that. I don't see how it could. I don't even know how

697
00:45:08,290 --> 00:45:12,430
it could. Yeah. Unless you're talking time management. If you learn time management

698
00:45:12,830 --> 00:45:16,510
and you apply that to your family, then you

699
00:45:17,010 --> 00:45:20,750
should have figured that out before. Yeah. No, that's the reason we are.

700
00:45:20,830 --> 00:45:24,640
Ha. We have good time management. Because I'm such a good parent

701
00:45:25,140 --> 00:45:27,880
on time management, man. We have. We have our calendars,

702
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:32,200
and we have our calendars everywhere. We have a family calendar that we

703
00:45:32,700 --> 00:45:36,600
share with the kids. We have our own personal calendars that we

704
00:45:37,100 --> 00:45:40,600
share with each other and the kids. We have a podcast calendar. We have a

705
00:45:41,100 --> 00:45:45,680
lifestyle calendar where we put in different events and couples

706
00:45:46,180 --> 00:45:49,240
that we want to connect with and set up dates. We have to have this

707
00:45:49,740 --> 00:45:53,160
organized for our time management because we cannot pull it off if we don't.

708
00:45:53,660 --> 00:45:57,360
And as a parent, yes. You're in the lifestyle.

709
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:01,840
Also, make some time to reconnect with your spouse. Yes.

710
00:46:02,340 --> 00:46:06,400
You know, parenting, lifestyling is

711
00:46:06,900 --> 00:46:10,480
a lot. The two things are a lot. Take some

712
00:46:10,980 --> 00:46:14,120
time. Have a dinner before you go to a meet and greet. Yeah. Have a

713
00:46:14,620 --> 00:46:18,320
dinner after. Just reconnect with each other. And then

714
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:22,150
once you've done that, you go and you reconnect with your family.

715
00:46:22,230 --> 00:46:26,550
Yes. Like, they're two different. Not two different Personas,

716
00:46:26,710 --> 00:46:30,430
because the way we are, like Autumn said, we are the same way all

717
00:46:30,930 --> 00:46:34,310
the time. But, you know, we're mom and dad here. Yes. We're very

718
00:46:34,810 --> 00:46:38,870
controlling here. A little break, a little mental

719
00:46:39,370 --> 00:46:42,830
break is nice. I love being with the kids and. And, you know,

720
00:46:43,330 --> 00:46:45,750
we can be with the kids all day long, but then we need to do

721
00:46:46,250 --> 00:46:49,670
some adult socializing, and that's great. But then we have months where it's like every

722
00:46:50,170 --> 00:46:53,840
weekend. Adult socializing. Adult socializing. And then

723
00:46:54,340 --> 00:46:57,120
we're like, you know what? We need a few weekends. Let's chill with the kids.

724
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,360
Let's take them on a trip. Or sometimes we'll just chill

725
00:47:00,860 --> 00:47:04,040
here, watch tv, and put our phones away. Yeah. You know, I mean, you got

726
00:47:04,540 --> 00:47:07,480
to. This weekend is a very busy. This month is very busy.

727
00:47:07,980 --> 00:47:12,400
Yes. This weekend is very busy. We have birthday.

728
00:47:12,900 --> 00:47:16,410
Yeah. We have Mother's Day. Yes. We have another

729
00:47:16,910 --> 00:47:20,730
birthday coming up. Yes. Graduation. True. And then summertime.

730
00:47:20,890 --> 00:47:24,090
Yes. And summertime, we lose two kiddos. That we do.

731
00:47:24,250 --> 00:47:27,290
So we really try to get in our time.

732
00:47:28,090 --> 00:47:30,970
When we have them all, we want to do something with them.

733
00:47:31,450 --> 00:47:34,650
So the balancing is. Is good. And we have

734
00:47:35,150 --> 00:47:38,170
a lot of social events this weekend. Like,

735
00:47:38,810 --> 00:47:42,570
we're everywhere. Oh, my God. We are like, we are everywhere,

736
00:47:43,070 --> 00:47:47,110
and it's exhausting. So it is nice to. We're gonna

737
00:47:47,610 --> 00:47:50,630
go spend some time with them. Yeah. You know, then tonight we're gonna go out,

738
00:47:51,190 --> 00:47:54,950
and tomorrow is Mother's Day. Tomorrow is Mother's Day.

739
00:47:55,450 --> 00:47:58,310
And you know what? We have all the kids. We have all the kids.

740
00:47:58,810 --> 00:48:02,110
I'm gonna make you some. Some nice food. Yes. And we're

741
00:48:02,610 --> 00:48:05,910
gonna have a day. And, you know, on days like that, you and I,

742
00:48:06,410 --> 00:48:09,310
we get on our phones and we'll cuddle on the couch. We'll get on our

743
00:48:09,810 --> 00:48:12,190
phones and we'll text the people that we talk to and do that whole thing,

744
00:48:12,690 --> 00:48:16,150
and we'll get on Facebook. And then at some point, it's like, okay, it's us

745
00:48:16,650 --> 00:48:19,630
time. And we'll both put away our phones. Yeah. And we'll cuddle, and we'll pay

746
00:48:20,130 --> 00:48:23,550
attention to each other. You have to be able to know how to flip

747
00:48:24,050 --> 00:48:27,670
that switch. Yes. And be able. Don't apologize. Don't apologize.

748
00:48:28,170 --> 00:48:31,830
Do not apologize. You are a busy person. You are

749
00:48:32,550 --> 00:48:35,910
your own person. Like, you don't know anybody in an explanation

750
00:48:36,410 --> 00:48:40,110
except to your family and your. Your spouse. Yeah. Don't apologize.

751
00:48:40,610 --> 00:48:44,130
Like, everyone should know. We all have other lives. Yeah. I used to

752
00:48:44,630 --> 00:48:48,410
feel real bad, like, if, say, we had a date with a couple,

753
00:48:48,810 --> 00:48:51,890
and then there was an emergency with a kid, like, a kid got sick or

754
00:48:52,390 --> 00:48:56,450
something like that. I used to feel horrible because I felt like people were

755
00:48:56,950 --> 00:48:59,890
thinking, oh, that's a lie. They just don't want to see us, you know?

756
00:49:00,390 --> 00:49:03,490
And that was me overthinking. That was a lot of anxieties, and I just felt

757
00:49:03,990 --> 00:49:06,570
horrible for having to cancel at the last minute because of stuff like that.

758
00:49:08,330 --> 00:49:11,490
Now time has passed. We've been doing this for a while, and I am very

759
00:49:11,990 --> 00:49:15,050
Unapologetic. When it comes to things with my kids. Yeah. We can.

760
00:49:15,550 --> 00:49:18,090
We can even put on an event,

761
00:49:18,890 --> 00:49:22,250
and if we have to cancel hours before because there's

762
00:49:22,750 --> 00:49:26,250
an emergency, well, so be it. But I'm sorry. But I'm not sorry.

763
00:49:26,330 --> 00:49:29,330
The community that we're in, there's a lot of parents, there's a lot of.

764
00:49:29,830 --> 00:49:31,890
Adults, a lot of people that understand. And I mean, like, they're all adults,

765
00:49:32,390 --> 00:49:35,280
but I mean, like, they're a little older. There are ages, you know, so they

766
00:49:35,780 --> 00:49:38,360
all understand. But, yeah,

767
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:42,240
it's. It's a balance. It's a balance. It's a fun little balance.

768
00:49:42,740 --> 00:49:46,400
It's a balancing act. Just like everything else that's regarding

769
00:49:46,900 --> 00:49:50,760
this lifestyle. It's a balancing act. It's. It's. How do you

770
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:54,280
manage your time to. To reconnect with your spouse?

771
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:58,760
How do you manage your time to spend time with the kids and

772
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:03,200
still make time to go out and not only hobnob

773
00:50:03,700 --> 00:50:06,800
with people, but get some sexual time in?

774
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:10,240
Yeah. That's not the easiest thing. That is not easy. And, you know,

775
00:50:10,740 --> 00:50:14,440
there's ways to coordinate it. Like. Like he said, we. We do

776
00:50:14,940 --> 00:50:18,640
our. Our calendar a month out. Like, we already have

777
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:22,560
all the way up to July. Like, we are

778
00:50:23,060 --> 00:50:27,750
booked. You know, there's times that we can get in here and there. But coordinate.

779
00:50:27,990 --> 00:50:31,350
If you can't host. Yeah, coordinate with the person.

780
00:50:32,470 --> 00:50:35,870
We have. We have put stuff in our calendar two months in

781
00:50:36,370 --> 00:50:40,230
advance, you know, because that's the only time that we

782
00:50:40,730 --> 00:50:44,310
and the other couple could make time, you know, because they have

783
00:50:44,810 --> 00:50:47,910
kids and we have kids. Yeah. We've. I think the further.

784
00:50:48,150 --> 00:50:51,950
I think we put something in the calendar, like three months ahead. Yeah. Once,

785
00:50:52,450 --> 00:50:56,610
you know, it's like, I'm a big believer in if you like

786
00:50:57,110 --> 00:51:00,850
somebody, if you want to see them, you're gonna make the

787
00:51:01,350 --> 00:51:03,170
time to see them. And I know that there's a lot of people that argue,

788
00:51:03,670 --> 00:51:07,170
well, you know, not everybody has that opportunity. Not everybody has the

789
00:51:07,670 --> 00:51:11,810
chance to get away. That's true. But even if it's

790
00:51:12,290 --> 00:51:15,890
in three months, you're making an effort to see

791
00:51:16,390 --> 00:51:19,810
them. Yeah. Like, plan ahead. Plan ahead. It's okay to plan ahead.

792
00:51:21,350 --> 00:51:25,190
We. We have to, man. We don't

793
00:51:25,690 --> 00:51:28,830
have a choice. And it's nice because the people that are around us are the

794
00:51:29,330 --> 00:51:32,510
same way. Like, we do not have a choice. I'm about to set up

795
00:51:33,010 --> 00:51:36,310
an event, and I'm gonna have to do it two months out.

796
00:51:36,550 --> 00:51:39,950
Yeah. Because possibly three. Yeah. Because we're

797
00:51:40,450 --> 00:51:43,990
busy. We're busy. And I know a lot of other people are busy and,

798
00:51:44,490 --> 00:51:48,430
and you know, I find that we tend to gravitate more

799
00:51:48,930 --> 00:51:52,340
towards people that have kids than people who don't.

800
00:51:52,500 --> 00:51:55,380
Yeah. Because our schedules align. Because. Yeah,

801
00:51:55,460 --> 00:51:59,940
because. And that. And it's just easier to relate

802
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:03,900
to somebody who has kids than somebody who doesn't. Most people who don't have kids,

803
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:07,420
they're going out during the week. Yeah. And they're doing this and they're doing that

804
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:11,300
and stuff. That we just feel like we cannot. Yeah, no, we are

805
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:15,460
not. And it's funny because our friends know this. Like last

806
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:19,870
night we were out and we were out till like midnight and friends

807
00:52:20,370 --> 00:52:22,270
were coming up to us. They're coming up to me and they were like,

808
00:52:22,430 --> 00:52:26,150
it's past your bedtime. And I'm like, it's like three hours past my

809
00:52:26,650 --> 00:52:29,910
bedtime. We really made an effort. Do not even mention it to

810
00:52:30,410 --> 00:52:33,150
me because my body will shut down as soon as we got in the car.

811
00:52:33,470 --> 00:52:36,950
Yeah, you were like spaced out. I was already tired. Like my

812
00:52:37,450 --> 00:52:41,510
body is tired and sleepy. Yeah. We get up early. Like our day starts early.

813
00:52:42,010 --> 00:52:44,590
Oh, dude. We went to, we crashed out probably about 2, 2:30.

814
00:52:45,370 --> 00:52:49,570
And we woke up at 6:30, almost 7 to

815
00:52:50,070 --> 00:52:52,090
go hit the gym. We've been going ever since. Yeah.

816
00:52:53,050 --> 00:52:56,650
And so just prioritize. Try to figure out your

817
00:52:57,150 --> 00:53:00,490
schedules, you know, communicate with your partner.

818
00:53:01,210 --> 00:53:04,930
Try to work out something that works for

819
00:53:05,430 --> 00:53:08,730
you guys. Yeah. You know, there's a lot of Facebook

820
00:53:08,890 --> 00:53:11,610
groups, There's a lot of events.

821
00:53:12,240 --> 00:53:15,680
There's a lot of people that are like minded

822
00:53:16,180 --> 00:53:19,120
on there. Yeah. You know, go on your group and be like, hey,

823
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:21,760
I need a little break. But we have kids.

824
00:53:22,240 --> 00:53:25,720
Anybody out, you know, that wants to maybe grab some lunch?

825
00:53:26,220 --> 00:53:29,000
My kids are this age. How old are your kids? Yeah. You know what I

826
00:53:29,500 --> 00:53:32,320
mean? Like it's, if you trust your community,

827
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:36,680
there are people that are like you in the same boat. But you

828
00:53:37,180 --> 00:53:40,960
know, well, for me, so it's kind of funny because I was thinking about this.

829
00:53:41,940 --> 00:53:45,340
I can, I like to get out. I like to see people.

830
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:48,820
It's, it's, it's something I enjoy. I like to socialize. Now,

831
00:53:49,060 --> 00:53:52,580
now that I'm getting past this anxiety, I'm, I'm enjoying

832
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:56,740
socializing. But I notice that if

833
00:53:57,240 --> 00:53:59,860
I'm, if I have to stay home for a while,

834
00:54:00,580 --> 00:54:04,620
I'm going to be okay because I have conversations

835
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:08,310
with these people on the phone. Like I'm,

836
00:54:08,810 --> 00:54:12,190
I, I have texting and messaging conversations. So I'm

837
00:54:12,690 --> 00:54:16,070
never out of the loop. I don't really have fomo

838
00:54:16,570 --> 00:54:19,390
because of that, A lot of our friends, they go to these different events,

839
00:54:19,890 --> 00:54:23,109
and it's like they'll shoot me pictures when they're out, you know? And it's like,

840
00:54:23,609 --> 00:54:26,790
oh, how cool. You know? And they'll. They'll text me. So I never feel like

841
00:54:27,290 --> 00:54:30,390
I'm outside of the loop. I may not be physically present,

842
00:54:31,110 --> 00:54:35,600
but I'm still getting. I'm still filling that meter up.

843
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:39,200
Right. You know, I'm still filling that social meter up. So I don't

844
00:54:39,700 --> 00:54:43,520
feel like I. So, you know, you can essentially

845
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:47,760
make your contacts. Yeah. You may not be able to schedule

846
00:54:48,260 --> 00:54:51,760
a dinner date for a couple of months, but guess what? You can have

847
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:55,920
a text message conversation and really get to know each

848
00:54:56,420 --> 00:55:00,040
other. Yeah. Until then. Yeah. And still

849
00:55:00,540 --> 00:55:04,080
have stuff to talk about. And if it's two months out and you're having conversations

850
00:55:04,580 --> 00:55:07,280
every single day, and then all of a sudden you realize we have nothing left

851
00:55:07,780 --> 00:55:11,280
to talk about, well, guess what? You can cancel that and go your separate

852
00:55:11,780 --> 00:55:14,440
ways because you just realize, okay, we done figured this out. Yeah,

853
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:17,880
exactly. Exactly. I just feel like having

854
00:55:18,380 --> 00:55:21,800
those conversations daily, I'm still able to connect, and I

855
00:55:22,300 --> 00:55:25,680
don't necessarily have to go out. So if we took. I think there

856
00:55:26,180 --> 00:55:29,320
was a spell of time where I was home for three weekends in a row.

857
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:33,360
Yes. Not too long ago. And I. By the

858
00:55:33,860 --> 00:55:36,840
third weekend, I was, I was getting a little. I was getting a little stir

859
00:55:37,340 --> 00:55:40,760
crazy. It was a month ago. Whatever. Anyways,

860
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:44,600
I was still getting there, but I was, I, I, I wasn't

861
00:55:45,100 --> 00:55:48,200
going as crazy because I was still having conversations with people. People were,

862
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:51,240
you know, keeping me company, that whole thing. So it was, it was nice.

863
00:55:51,890 --> 00:55:55,610
I was still getting my socialization out. Yeah, of course. So,

864
00:55:56,110 --> 00:55:59,930
yeah, it's. It's a good little balance. And if you can make it

865
00:56:00,430 --> 00:56:03,330
work. Make it work. Absolutely.

866
00:56:03,970 --> 00:56:07,090
I'm gonna make it work. I'm gonna work it, girl. Yeah.

867
00:56:07,810 --> 00:56:10,890
Make it work. We must be getting to the end of the show. What?

868
00:56:11,390 --> 00:56:14,690
What? What? Tomorrow is Mother's Day. Tomorrow is Mother's

869
00:56:15,190 --> 00:56:17,800
Day. So all you fantastic ladies out there who are mothers.

870
00:56:18,750 --> 00:56:22,510
What I want to say it. You're a mom. You don't wish

871
00:56:22,670 --> 00:56:26,270
moms Happy Mother's Day. The guy has to do it. Okay, go.

872
00:56:26,350 --> 00:56:29,710
Okay. Hey, girl. I just want to

873
00:56:29,870 --> 00:56:34,510
say, I know you're a mom. I know you're a MILF because

874
00:56:35,010 --> 00:56:38,590
you're a mom. I'd like to. I'm sorry. Okay. No, but really,

875
00:56:38,670 --> 00:56:42,110
to all our listeners out there, all over Texas,

876
00:56:42,610 --> 00:56:46,350
all over the US all over the world. If you're a mom, I just

877
00:56:46,850 --> 00:56:49,750
want to have. I want to say happy Mother's Day. I hope you enjoy your

878
00:56:50,250 --> 00:56:53,990
day. I hope you have a wonderful day of appreciation and love

879
00:56:54,470 --> 00:56:57,430
and. And just get those good feels out.

880
00:56:57,510 --> 00:57:00,710
Yes. That also goes to my beautiful wife.

881
00:57:00,950 --> 00:57:04,550
I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day. And that is a bit more

882
00:57:05,050 --> 00:57:08,310
in my control. I will ensure you have a good Mother's

883
00:57:08,810 --> 00:57:10,870
Day. I am going to feed you lots of sausage.

884
00:57:11,510 --> 00:57:14,390
Yay. That's right. And chicken and waffles.

885
00:57:14,470 --> 00:57:17,950
Chicken and waffles I am getting. Guys, let me tell you. She's all

886
00:57:18,450 --> 00:57:21,670
about it. Every Mother's Day, he makes me a breakfast.

887
00:57:21,910 --> 00:57:25,510
And my favorite breakfast is chicken

888
00:57:26,010 --> 00:57:28,550
and waffles. That's right. He does the tenders.

889
00:57:28,950 --> 00:57:32,670
He does my waffles. I try to change it up every year. Different variations

890
00:57:33,170 --> 00:57:37,710
of it. I'm a pretty simple person, so that.

891
00:57:38,210 --> 00:57:42,550
And he makes me like a little fruit thingy. Majigger. And so I'm so

892
00:57:43,270 --> 00:57:46,470
looking forward. When the kids were little, they would help you. Yeah.

893
00:57:46,710 --> 00:57:50,510
Yeah. Now they're older and it's. I don't know. You just

894
00:57:51,010 --> 00:57:54,230
rather do it. I'd rather do it myself. Yeah. And life has gotten easier where

895
00:57:54,310 --> 00:57:57,550
you could just go buy tenders and buy me waffles, and I'm good. Just set

896
00:57:58,050 --> 00:58:00,310
it all up for me. If I don't have to do it, it's even better.

897
00:58:00,550 --> 00:58:03,880
Yeah. Like, you take care of it all. So. So, yes.

898
00:58:04,380 --> 00:58:07,880
I'm excited about tomorrow's breakfast. Yeah, It'll be good. It'll be good. But,

899
00:58:08,380 --> 00:58:11,720
you know, I, I, I really feel like all of you mothers out

900
00:58:12,220 --> 00:58:15,520
there, all of y' all deserve the gratitude that we can

901
00:58:16,020 --> 00:58:18,880
give you, because without you guys,

902
00:58:19,600 --> 00:58:23,160
we would have nothing. So happy Mother's

903
00:58:23,660 --> 00:58:25,280
Day. Happy Mother's Day to all of you.

904
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:30,710
Yes. That means happy Mother's Day to all. Of you beautiful

905
00:58:31,210 --> 00:58:34,630
women. And should have kept saying it in Spanish, the whole thing. Ato de las

906
00:58:35,130 --> 00:58:38,550
mujeres juanitas. Feliz dia de los madres.

907
00:58:44,150 --> 00:58:47,470
Tenon dia muy feliz. Okay. Yeah. You hear

908
00:58:47,970 --> 00:58:50,310
that? That means. Yeah.

909
00:58:51,670 --> 00:58:56,000
So you heard the message. Happy Mother's

910
00:58:56,500 --> 00:58:59,600
Day to you all. I hope that everybody has a great weekend.

911
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:03,400
And, you know, we're gonna be here. We're gonna be here

912
00:59:03,900 --> 00:59:06,960
next week. We're gonna be here the week after. We're not going anywhere,

913
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:11,040
so stick with us. Yeah. Because we've

914
00:59:11,540 --> 00:59:14,240
got a lot happening. We've got a lot happening. We do. So with that,

915
00:59:14,480 --> 00:59:17,640
thank you so much for joining us. We really appreciate you guys pulling

916
00:59:18,140 --> 00:59:20,560
up a chair and sitting down with us and having a nice little breakfast chat

917
00:59:21,060 --> 00:59:24,300
with us. We hope to see you guys next week.

918
00:59:24,620 --> 00:59:25,180
Bye.

919
00:59:46,630 --> 00:59:46,870
Sa.