Adam & Pris sit down with Dan & Lacy—aka The Swing Nation—for a candid, funny, and surprisingly tender conversation about what it really takes to build a lifestyle brand while staying real as a couple. They share how an overseas deployment, COVID, and a spicy OnlyFans idea snowballed into viral TikToks, a top-rated podcast, and a nationwide community. We get into boundaries, why “no sex required” is a perfectly valid club night, how to spot clout chasing, and the weirdness of being both hosts and humans at their own events. They open up about social anxiety, shadowbans, sponsors, and what’s next: TV talks, NDAs, and a new music-festival-meets-hotel-takeover brand. If you’ve ever wondered how the sausage gets made in lifestyle media—this is it.

Show Notes

Guests: Dan & Lacy of The Swing Nation

• Beacons hub: beacons.ai/theswingnation2

• Events & community: SwingerSociety.net

What we cover

• The accidental launch: Deployed Dan, “Southern Girl” OnlyFans, and a viral upside-down pineapple TikTok that outed them overnight—and why they chose to own it.

• Why the podcast: Long-form answers to the same TikTok questions (jealousy, where to start, boundaries) and building a searchable library for newbies.

• Rules that work for them: Usually same-room full swap, always protection, and group chats over side DMs—with realistic “gray areas” at events.

• When one partner is more sought-after: How they check their egos, keep it respectful, and why “connection first” beats counting notches.

• Clout vs. authentic interest: The awkward moments, being recognized, and why they often play with a trusted circle.

• Community at scale: Discord in the tens of thousands, sell-out takeovers, and trying to be present hosts while the AC breaks and the DJ swaps sets.

• First-timer advice: You don’t have to play. Dance, watch, vibe, talk, take baby steps—and be honest about where you’re at.

• It’s a social club (with optional sex): What keeps people coming back is kindness, connection, and being seen without judgment.

• Creator realities: Shadowbans, banned accounts, and posting 3–5x/day across TikTok/IG/Facebook/X/Clapper/Reddit. Why they chose values-aligned sponsors over generic ad networks.

• What’s next: TV conversations under NDA, a new music-festival-meets-hotel-takeover brand, and a quick LA trip in October. Stay tuned.

Links from the episode

• The Swing Nation hub: beacons.ai/theswingnation2

• Swinger Society events/memberships: SwingerSociety.net

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