Beyond Fantasy: Francesca Gentille on Kink, Jealousy & Keeping Passion Alive
In this powerful and deeply intimate conversation, Adam & Pris sit down with Francesca Gentille — internationally recognized teacher, coach, and author — to explore the intersections of trauma healing, sacred kink, non-monogamy, and empowered aging.
Francesca opens up about her own journey: from childhood as a natural counselor, to studying psychology, tantra, BDSM, and shamanic practices that connect fantasy with healing. She breaks down the roots of modern kink, leather culture, and polyamory, while challenging myths that label kink as “just trauma” or non-monogamy as “abnormal.”
Together, we dive into:
How fantasies are shaped by trauma, culture, and healing opportunities.
Sacred Kink practices that transform play into intention, empowerment, and soul connection.
Addiction vs. vibrancy — how to tell when desire is a compulsion and when it’s authentic.
Erotic hypnosis, empowerment scenes, and fantasy integration for deeper intimacy.
Menopause & vitality: how to break the cultural curse of aging, embrace bioidentical hormone replacement, and keep passion alive in long-term relationships.
Jealousy reframed: why Francesca says “don’t call it jealousy” and how to uncover the deeper roots of those feelings.
This is one of those episodes that’s hot, spiritual, and full of practical wisdom. Whether you’re kinky, poly, swinging, or just curious, Francesca brings tools and insights that can change the way you approach intimacy.
In this powerful and deeply intimate conversation, Adam & Pris sit down with Francesca Gentille — internationally recognized teacher, coach, and author — to explore the intersections of trauma healing, sacred kink, non-monogamy, and empowered aging.
Francesca opens up about her own journey: from childhood as a natural counselor, to studying psychology, tantra, BDSM, and shamanic practices that connect fantasy with healing. She breaks down the roots of modern kink, leather culture, and polyamory, while challenging myths that label kink as “just trauma” or non-monogamy as “abnormal.”
Together, we dive into:
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How fantasies are shaped by trauma, culture, and healing opportunities.
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Sacred Kink practices that transform play into intention, empowerment, and soul connection.
-
Addiction vs. vibrancy — how to tell when desire is a compulsion and when it’s authentic.
-
Erotic hypnosis, empowerment scenes, and fantasy integration for deeper intimacy.
-
Menopause & vitality: how to break the cultural curse of aging, embrace bioidentical hormone replacement, and keep passion alive in long-term relationships.
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Jealousy reframed: why Francesca says “don’t call it jealousy” and how to uncover the deeper roots of those feelings.
This is one of those episodes that’s hot, spiritual, and full of practical wisdom. Whether you’re kinky, poly, swinging, or just curious, Francesca brings tools and insights that can change the way you approach intimacy.
Show Notes
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🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode
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The shamanic roots of BDSM and why kink can be sacred.
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How trauma and fantasy connect — and how to heal without losing your desires.
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Why menopause doesn’t mean the end of sex (and how to advocate for hormone health).
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Practical ways couples can juggle family, non-monogamy, and still keep intimacy alive.
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How reframing “jealousy” can unlock deeper self-understanding and stronger connections.
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Francesca Gentille
Certified clinical sexologist, Non-Monogamy coach, and Tantric BDSM educator
Francesca Gentille is a certified clinical sexologist, Non-Monogamy coach, and a Tantric BDSM educator presenting at international BDSM conferences in San Francisco, Montreal, Rome, Puerto Rico, Amsterdam, and Prague. She is a leading expert in the therapeutic use of BDSM and Tantra in recovery from trauma. She has researched and presented on Sex Workers and their Clients at The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. She is a Professor at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology and the co-creator of ShamanicKink.com.
LINKS:
FrancescaGentille.com
ShamanicKink.com
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