Flirting Fumbles: A Guide to Connection

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show. Hello, and welcome

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to another episode of Beyond Monogamy. I'm Adam

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and I'm press. And today on our Wednesday quickie, we're going

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to be discussing flirting.

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Flirting. Flirting. Do you like that?

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I like. I like the face that you make there. Yeah, it's very

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cute. Thanks. Yeah, yeah. We're talking about

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flirting today because I realize that.

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That you're no good at it. I suck. Yeah, you are not good at flirting.

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I suck at flirting. You. You suck at flirting. But would you say

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you suck at flirting with both men and women or just

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no women? I suck at flirting with women.

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Okay. Because I'm so aggressive,

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and I want to kind of get to the point. So for men,

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it's easy for me to, like, just tell them what I want.

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And so, like, the flirting is, like, easy. Flirting easy. I've been doing

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it all my life. Really easy. I can make y'all come

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and just sitting here. Oh, my gosh.

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We're just talking about flirting. Oh, my bad. Talking about lap dances

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here. It's. It's easy to flirt with a guy.

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I. I've been doing it for 40. Well, not 42.

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Or. Wait, how long old am I? You're 46. 46.

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Jeez. You were fast, little girl. Fast. I mean, I did have

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four years old. I did have two boyfriends in kindergarten.

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Oh, my gosh. Yeah. That's intimidating. Daniel and Chris,

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very intimidating. I couldn't compete with.

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Yeah, no, Flirting with. With guys is very easy. Comes very

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natural to me. Flirting with women

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is very hard. Why? I don't understand that. Because I

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don't know what to say other

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than you're hot, you're beautiful, I totally want you.

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Well, wait now. How come you know what to say with men?

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What do you. What do you say with men?

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I can flatter y'all, and it's like,

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oh, you're so handsome. And so.

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You can't do that with women. I mean, it doesn't come. It come women so

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women can read through your.

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Oh, okay. Like, I Do

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not like when men. You know this. If a man is just. I mean,

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I'm getting better at it, and I'm just dealing with it. Although my friend keeps

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doing it, and it's like, dude, you know, I don't like this. But anyway,

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it's the whole, oh,

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you're so beautiful, and, man. No, I don't

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want to hear that. Well, not everybody's

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like you. I think there's some people I feel like, to hear that. Yeah.

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But I feel like some men need to, like, step up their game,

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like, come up with some new lines. Come up with new lines.

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Yes. Be original. Be original. Like,

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I think I remember you saying that one person caught your attention

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because he said the word awesome sauce.

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Yeah. Yeah. Was it that or.

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Oh, I think it was awesome sauce. I was like, dude, you're cool.

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Yeah. Or he didn't even. Like, he was just like, what up,

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girl? Or something like that. And I was like, great, we're gonna be

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best friends and we're gonna have sex. So,

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yeah. Flirting with women super hard for me,

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I don't know. I don't know how to break the barrier

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between flirting with a guy and flirting with a woman. And again,

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women can read through your bullshit. So, yeah, I mean, I do the whole,

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you're so beautiful. You're so hot, but, like, what else do

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you do? So for me,

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I am just very honest.

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Okay, so I'm right. So you just. You just started.

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Okay, I need it. I mean, I. I know your game, so let's.

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Oh, my God. Well, not your game, but I know what you say,

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right? Oh, my game. I know what you say. So tell me.

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Like, we just started chatting.

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Okay, well, I'd have to get to know you first. First of all, I'm like,

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hi, Adam. I just wanted to shoot you a message and see

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how you were doing. How's your day going so

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far? Well, it's going good. Thank you for asking.

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You're very welcome. Very nice of you to ask. You know, you're very,

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very inquisitive, and I like that. Thank you.

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Thank you. Yeah, I've been looking at your, like, Facebook posts,

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and you and whatever are really

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freaking cute. Tell me,

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like, what. What's up with y'all? Like, how does

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this work? Is that what girls tell you?

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No, I don't think I've ever been told that. What's your dynamic?

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Like, can I get in? Can I. Do they do. Like, can I get in

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your pants? Like, I've never been told. What do I have to do

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to get in your pants. No, I've never. I've never had anybody

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be that forward. Do you like that forwardness?

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I would respect it. I do. I would, too. Now, I would

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respect it from a woman. But if a guy. This is

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where my brain is all up. Because if a guy came at me like

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that, unless I knew I wanted him, which there's a few.

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If they were to come at me like that and be like, yeah, I want

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to get in your pants, I'd be like, okay, that would work.

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But it won't work on. If a man were to tell me that, I'd be

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like. Like just a random person, you know. I.

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I think it's just. Well, give me your game.

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You've asked me before to give you advice on flirting,

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and I'm telling you it is just honesty, man. It's just being

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direct. It's just being honest. And, you know, and obviously

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there are compliments involved, but the compliments

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aren't doing good. Aren't. Bullshit. Yeah. Okay. So,

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like, if I compliment somebody, I can. Yeah. Some of

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these guys, I've seen them go, hey, you've got nice boobs.

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Oh, my gosh. You know, I'm sorry, but that's not really.

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That's not. That's not flirting. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like, that's not.

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That's not game. No. You know what I mean?

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For me, it's more of a connecting thing. It's like,

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I'm going to find something about you.

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Right. That is really kind of

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set to you. But how do you flirt with somebody on. In person? So getting

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online is great. I mean, I could do that. I could. I can hold that

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conversation because you've given me lots of pointers and I appreciate that. Sure.

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But, like, in person, like, so, like, in person, I get very shy

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eye contact, bruh. And I don't know if I want to, like,

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touch. Well, see, so first off, you have to have

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eye contact. I mean, you and I, we have eye contact right now. Yeah.

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You have to have eye contact when you're talking to the person that you're interested

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in. Okay. Whether you're flirting or not,

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you have to make that eye contact, because that eye contact

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is showing that it doesn't matter what's going on around you.

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I'm paying attention to you. You know that right there

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in and of itself is a flirt. Okay.

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And then from there, you just start reading the eyes, because the eyes

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don't lie. If you're not into somebody, those eyes

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are gonna tell. And if you're into somebody,

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those eyes are gonna tell. I don't know, man. I have ADHD and

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I roam. Yeah, but if you're not into somebody, those eyes are

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very, very obvious. I have seen it. That is true.

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So there's, there's no lying in those eyes, you know,

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ADHD or not. Okay. So. Yeah, no,

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like when I. Yeah. I mean, that's the big one, is eye contact. Yeah.

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When I talk to girls, when I talk to women, it's. It is a little

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difficult. It's. In person,

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I find it a little difficult because I don't know what to

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say. Like, I just lose, like, I get all giddy,

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I guess. Well, so here's, here's the thing. And we,

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we took a poll a while back to see if women wanted

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more connection or if they wanted like straightforward.

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Because you told me that you're like, you're, you're too forward. Yeah. And,

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and, and the people responded with what you thought, which was they preferred

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being forward, you know, and I found that interesting.

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But when it comes to women,

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you have to really connect with

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them more on a personal

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level rather than a physical level. Yeah. So it

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can't just be, hey, man, you're hot. Yeah. And then

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expect something to happen shortly thereafter. Yeah. It's going to take

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you taking an interest in them,

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you know, getting to know them. It just

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takes regular conversation as if you were going to take them on as a friend.

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Because that's essentially what you're doing. Yes. You're taking them on

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as a friend. Yes. And then from there it happens.

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What's. The big it?

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I mean, I've had the it with people I barely spoke to,

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so. Well, yeah, but you also had a husband who warmed up

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the oven to get you there. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah,

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yeah, yeah. Okay. These things, you know, that's just my

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experiences. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe a woman will tell you

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otherwise. I mean, as a woman. A woman flirting with

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me. Yeah. I like the. I like the attention.

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I like the one on one attention. So I do understand that.

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Like the, the eyes and I like a little bit of touch.

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Yeah. You want to feel like they want you. I do. Yeah.

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You know, I like that, that little bit of.

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I wouldn't call it intimacy, but something,

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some kind of connection, like a. Almost like an affection. An affection.

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There you go. That's a good word. I like that. And so

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I have been noticing that there is a lot of that which

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is making me a little bit more comfortable because all

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the women that I have been with have always

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been very easy to be with.

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And the fact, like, I didn't really have to be their friends,

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so I don't know, that process. Does that make sense?

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You didn't have to be their friend? Well, I mean, I was their friend,

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but it wasn't like. So, like, now I'm trying to make connections.

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Sure. And the women previous to us being swingers,

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it was just like, oh, you know, you're cool.

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Yeah, let's do this. Let's go do this. Sure. It's different

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now because I want something out of it. I want something

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different. Right. I don't want just the. The sex.

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I mean, the sex is great. Right. Because I love women,

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but it's. I want to have that. That, you know.

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Sure. That connection. So, yeah, I mean, I am. It is a little.

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I guess it is getting easier. I'm just being harder on myself,

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flirting wise. I mean, I haven't heard any complaints.

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Well, no, I mean, but then I. Haven'T heard from

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guys. You really haven't flirted too much. I think.

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I would think. And I'm not certain, but. But I would think flirting with

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guys is a lot easier than it is flirting

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with women. Yes. And I

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feel like flirting with women is probably one

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of the most difficult things to do successfully.

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Yes. I have seen guys flirt with

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women in some of the lamest ways,

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and it's gone far. Like, it's. It's hit

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out of the park. I mean, you flirted with me very. I remember

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thinking you were the cheesiest person ever. Really? And you totally

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won me over. Cheesiest? What are you talking about?

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I was smooth? What? I was smooth. What do

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you mean? I was cheesy. What are you talking about? What did

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I do that was cheesy? I don't know. Get lost. I can't

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think of. No way, man. I was Romeo.

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Are you kidding? I. I thought I was very smooth,

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actually. I mean, God, I can't even remember.

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Wow. I mean, well, you were smooth.

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Okay. I felt like. Because I never,

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ever. I have never pursued any. You know what? You were smooth.

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You were very funny. So I will say that not even your smoothness is

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what caught me. It was your. Your.

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What is that called? Humor. Yes. Thank you. Okay.

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Your humor. Okay, like, that is for sure what.

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Got me my humor. So what hooked me, I had you laughing.

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That was. And I like funny girls. So if a girl can make me.

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Laugh, you know, that's. We have that in common.

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Yeah. Yeah. Somebody. Because you said that men

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can't make me laugh. That it's not allowed.

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That's true. But that is true. You didn't say anything about woman.

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No, And I. And I. I wouldn't feel threatened by that at all.

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Good. I would be like, can I at least listen to some of the jokes?

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They're funny. Yeah. Yeah. I dig that. I am. I guess I'm getting better.

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I guess I'm just being hard on myself. Yeah,

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you are rather hard on yourself. Yeah. I think if you would just be

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more yourself. Yeah. I think you'd

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do just fine. I mean, you're. You're a pretty amazing person.

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Like, I think you're incredible. And that's

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not just me being biased and being your husband. Like, you're a really, really cool

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person. You're one of the most interesting people I've ever

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met in my entire life. I'm still learning about you

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after 14 years. Yeah, that's. That's incredible.

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You are not one dimensional at all. Yeah.

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Yeah, man. You keep me coming back every single day. So with

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that, you would think if you would just be

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yourself. Yeah. And let people get to know

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you. Forget it. That'd be it.

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I'm trying. I'm trying not to be. So stick

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in the mud. Yeah. Be more open to different experiences.

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Different experiences. And it is getting better. I mean, I've had some

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pretty good turnout, you know, pretty good reactions

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to my actions. There have been some people

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that have been showing interest in you that you never

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figured would. No. You were pretty. Yeah. Thrilled about that.

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Yeah. I was like, oh, that's cool.

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Yeah. So. Yeah, no, it. I guess it is getting easier.

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I mean, it's always hard to flirt with. With women. I've never had to flirt

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with a guy. No. So what's your go to when it

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comes to flirting with a guy? Like, what's any.

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Just any interest at all is pretty good. Y'all are pretty easy.

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Any interest at all? Like. Yeah, like. What do you mean?

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I mean, it's pretty basic.

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Hey. Hey, handsome. How are you doing today?

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And then the conversation just kind of goes from there.

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And it could be the lamest thing. Really? Yeah.

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Yeah. Wow. I feel like men show an

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interest more than the woman. There you

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go. Women do not show a lot of interest

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until something is happening. Until something is.

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Yeah. Like, I mean, I. I'll get a message here and there from, like,

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women, Right. That they're interested or whatever,

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but men are pretty.

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You can be in. You can be in person and y'all can. Like, we can

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still flirt. You can be over text. You can Be over a messenger. And it's

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still very flirty when it comes to women in

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the lifestyle. I just don't know if they're interested,

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really be. And I don't know if it's because they're

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not single and they don't or it's new

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to them. Like they're not used to being like

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not hunted by women, I guess. Yeah. And I find that. And so

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that's hard. Yeah, that's what she said.

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Sorry. That's. It's hard because it's like I

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don't know if you're interested in me until you say so. Yeah. You know,

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like I am. I tell everybody I am bisexual.

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I love women. Right.

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So that's where it's kind of like. And so

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I, I hate to say this, but what you're experiencing

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is the, from my experience,

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the typical male experience.

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Okay. When pursuing women.

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Yeah. And I'm not saying, I'm not saying. This about all women, but you can

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pretty much know that the women that

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are in the lifestyle are looking for men.

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90%. You know what, what's funny is when we

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started in the lifestyle, it seemed like 98

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of the women that were in the lifestyle. We're looking for

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other women. Really. And something has

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changed. Either something has changed or I'm seeing more of this now

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where that's, that number's not as true.

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Okay. Maybe half now.

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But realistically, there's still a

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lot of women that are in this only for women.

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Really? Yeah. Oh. I mean,

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yeah. I know of a couple or two. Yeah. That are only

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in this. They own. Their only dynamic is to play with another woman.

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Yeah. I know several. Yeah. Huh. Yeah.

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They exist. They're out there. Yeah. You see,

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I mean I like the whole couples swap and I

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like one on one women. I don't know how I feel about the whole

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women playing and their men just kind of sit back and watch.

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So I guess maybe that's my difficulty too. To find the right

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kind of dynamic that fits me.

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Yeah. Yeah. So when. So you either want women

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in a couple swamp or a foursome. Uh huh.

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Or a woman one on one. Yes.

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Nobody else. Correct. Yeah, I mean

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I'm pretty open to anything, but if I have to pick and

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choose. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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I, I would. I like one on one with

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a woman and a full swap. As long

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as she can play too. I gotcha. Because I do like you

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watching and I don't mind people watching. Like I, I like that. It's hot.

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Yeah. But I don't know if

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it's like a dynamic where. Oh, well, the. I can play

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with you, but my dude has to watch.

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I mean, maybe if I'm in the mood, but I want an. I want

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intimacy with a woman. Okay.

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You know, I don't. I mean, intimacy with a man.

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I'll take it. I'm not dogging it. I just,

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I have that. True. I have that.

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I'm not lacking anything. I'm just.

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And lack is not the word I want to use. I'm not lacking anything.

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I'm just, I'm lacking the. A woman.

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A woman's touch. A woman's intimacy,

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I guess. That softness again. Yeah. And that's

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what I like more.

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I don't know. I mean, does that make sense?

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It makes sense to me. I mean, I understand that. Yeah.

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You know, I mean, I, I don't know what it's like to be with a

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guy. Yeah. But I know what I like about

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being with women. Yeah. And it's that softness. It's that we're so

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cuddly. Yeah. I mean, that feminine energy is just everything.

335
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You know what I mean? And, you know, I just, I dig the hole.

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Yeah. Woman thing, you know? Like, I dig it.

337
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Yeah, me too. Yeah,

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me too, baby. Oh, I, I, I get what you mean. I, I just

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don't know what the word is. Yeah. Because it's not a lot.

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It's not lacking. Because intimacy I

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get. It's just a. I, I would love to

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just be with a woman and enjoy that

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woman. Like, we have friends that are girls and

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we've played with them before and you've given me the

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space to kind of enjoy that moment. Yeah.

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Which I find wonderful. And her dude,

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when he's there, gives me that space, like,

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lets us do our thing and doesn't interrupt.

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I like that. That's cool. But I really

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have to know you and be okay with that. Like,

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I know him. We know him. We know he's going to give us our

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space and you are going to, like, let me do my thing,

353
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you know? Yeah. Which I find cool. So.

354
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Yeah. I mean, I just like to. I like women,

355
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and flirting with them is. It's a little difficult.

356
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It can be. It can. I mean, just tell me you like me. And that's

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the thing is it's, it's hard to read. It's hard to read. Yeah.

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So then it's hard to tell if you're doing good. Yeah.

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Or if you're not doing good. I've, I've looked out. Sometimes I,

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I, I really run into women who

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Are very open and honest. And so it's

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a lot of times not difficult for me to get,

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you know, straight up answers from them. But I'll. There are

364
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a lot of women out there who just don't really communicate all that well as

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far as if there's an interest or not.

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Yeah. And so then, like, I'm clueless. I literally am

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clueless if they're interested in me until.

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I don't even know, like, until we're on the freaking bed.

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Yeah. It's like, oh, dude, you. Oh, okay.

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And it's not. I'm not everybody's cup of tea.

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I'm just not, you know. Right. And so

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it's like, I don't know, like, should I. Should I

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just ask, hey, are you interested in like playing with me?

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And maybe that. I mean, there's nothing wrong with it.

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I love being forward. I am all. I understand you and I have different ways

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of going about thing, but I am all about. Well, you gotta understand that

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coming from a pretty woman like yourself,

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a forward line like, hey, do you want to play with me?

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Will be well received by anybody.

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But from a man,

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if I were to just walk up to somebody and go, hey, do you want

382
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to play. With me hot or not? It would. Yeah, it's a situation

383
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of hot or not. Yeah, yeah.

384
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And it's one of those things. It's like, what do they

385
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say? They say if you're good looking,

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it's flirting and if you're not good looking,

387
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it's. What is it? I don't even remember now. Scummy.

388
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Yeah, pretty much. Oh, yeah,

389
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we got some chances because you hot, homie. Oh,

390
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stop it. You are hot. So. Yeah, that. I'm sure

391
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you give that little dimple,

392
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but. Yeah, I mean, I love that you give me my little tips and stuff.

393
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Well, you know, I try to help out a little bit. You know, I just

394
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need to get out of my head. Yeah. And just be like,

395
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hey, I mean, it's. It's difficult. It is.

396
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And I still am in my own head most of the time,

397
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but. And I also don't want to be

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disrespectful to the couple. Do you know

399
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what I mean? I know exactly what you. I don't like. I don't

400
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want to be disrespectful to the couple if I want the girl.

401
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Sure. You know, I'm okay with

402
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being nice and telling them, oh, I like you, but I'm not really into your.

403
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Dude. I'm okay with saying that. I know you don't like that,

404
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because you're like, that's mean. But I have

405
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to be honest, if I'm not attracted to their man.

406
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And see, your situation's a little different because, you know,

407
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if you show even a little bit of interest and

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say you're not attracted to the man, he's gonna think that you might be.

409
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And this sort of thing, it can get. It can get misconstrued. It can.

410
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Whereas me being the guy in the situation,

411
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it would be a little bit easier because it's

412
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not automatically assumed. Right. You know what I mean?

413
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Yeah. Yeah. Interesting, right?

414
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Ah, us humans, it's mind blowing,

415
00:25:41,848 --> 00:25:45,512
man. We are full of just different puzzles in our

416
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brains. Oh, man. All of us, we all have

417
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a different way of thinking.

418
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Yeah. Yeah. As it's. It's really difficult.

419
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It's difficult to gauge. You know, it's difficult to gauge if

420
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somebody is interested. It's difficult to gauge if maybe

421
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whatever you're flirting is going.

422
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If it's going well. If it's not going well. It's just very difficult

423
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to gauge. Yeah. And then if you're already struggling internally

424
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thinking, I'm striking out, and realistically you

425
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might not be striking out. Yeah. But your mind

426
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is. Is not. Because you're not getting clear signs. Yeah. So I don't

427
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ever think I'm striking out because I don't even go this. Oh, that's fair.

428
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That's fair. So you're going way farther than I am because I don't even think

429
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I'm striking out because I'm not even like, I barely even. You gotta shoot your

430
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shot, man. I know. You gotta shoot your shot.

431
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It's scary. Nobody likes to be rejected, but it

432
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is what it is. You know, I'm okay with, like you always said,

433
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I'm okay with someone telling me, oh, yeah, no, I'm not interested.

434
00:26:51,766 --> 00:26:54,950
Oh, dude, it kills me. Oh, I'm okay with it because I

435
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love that honesty. Oh, I love the honesty, but it still kills me.

436
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Oh. And I don't think about it. It hurts. I don't

437
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have. I don't have low self esteem.

438
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Oh, that's fair. Yeah. Yeah. That's where we're different. I don't have low self

439
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esteem. Sure, I, I did. I did have low self

440
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esteem for many, many, many, many, many years.

441
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But I don't know, I'm. I don't, I don't have. I don't

442
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have it as much. Okay. I still have it, but I

443
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don't have it as much. And so I'm okay

444
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with rejection. I'm okay with someone telling me,

445
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oh, yeah, you're, you're. No, you're not my type.

446
00:27:33,088 --> 00:27:37,454
Okay. You know, I, I, I'm okay with it too. It just takes

447
00:27:37,502 --> 00:27:41,838
me a bit to recover. Yeah. Because when I'm

448
00:27:42,014 --> 00:27:45,198
rejected, I go very inside myself. Yeah.

449
00:27:45,294 --> 00:27:48,650
I'm like. But you haven't gotten rejected in many years.

450
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You never know you're gonna get rejected.

451
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These things happen, you know? I mean, come on. It happens.

452
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Stop. It happens. You're Adam. Oh, I know who I am.

453
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Everybody loves. And the people who reject me know who I am.

454
00:28:03,934 --> 00:28:07,510
Everybody loves you. Get lost. There's people that

455
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they, they enjoy my company. That's good enough. That's all I'll ask for.

456
00:28:11,390 --> 00:28:14,758
I enjoy your company. Thank you. I enjoy your company.

457
00:28:14,894 --> 00:28:18,150
Look at that. You're. Rent you out. Rent me

458
00:28:18,190 --> 00:28:21,210
out. She wouldn't make a dime, sister.

459
00:28:21,870 --> 00:28:24,770
Wouldn't make a dime. No way.

460
00:28:25,470 --> 00:28:28,758
That was like that whole thing where, you know, we support sex

461
00:28:28,814 --> 00:28:32,164
workers. Yeah. And if, if I could, I would be

462
00:28:32,172 --> 00:28:35,956
a sex worker. But nobody, nobody's buying that one.

463
00:28:36,108 --> 00:28:38,800
No way. No way.

464
00:28:39,740 --> 00:28:43,540
Forget it. Wow. That's right. Hey, I see

465
00:28:43,580 --> 00:28:46,292
those, those gears that grind in your head.

466
00:28:46,396 --> 00:28:49,860
Anyways, we're going to go ahead and top this episode off.

467
00:28:49,900 --> 00:28:53,652
This was fun. This is fun. I feel like we learned a lot about nothing.

468
00:28:53,716 --> 00:28:57,600
If you have any tips for me on flirting. Anybody with women,

469
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,640
please send them our way. Or if you're a woman who

470
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,760
just wants to flirt with her. Yes. Feel free to hit her

471
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,240
up. Yeah. All right. Well,

472
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,824
anyways, thanks. Oh, thanks for joining

473
00:29:10,872 --> 00:29:14,648
us this week, and we will catch you guys next week.

474
00:29:14,784 --> 00:29:15,580
Bye.